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The BPD Bunch
Hosted by The BPD Bunch · EN
SEASON 7 AIRING NOW! The BPD bunch is a talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️🩹
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When BPD Makes Toxic Relationships Feel Impossible To Leave (BPD & Intimacy)
1w ago00:39:35Tap to summarizeHave you ever felt like losing one person would destroy your entire life… even while the relationship itself was destroying you?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, André, Mo, and Justin talk openly about the intense, chaotic, and often painful relationship patterns that can happen with Borderline Personality Disorder. From abandonment panic and toxic relationship cycles to oversharing, emotional testing, and confusing drama for intimacy, the cast explores what closeness looked like when their BPD symptoms were at their worst.This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). Under the AMPD, difficulties with intimacy are considered part of impairments in interpersonal functioning, alongside empathy. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season.In this episode:* BPD and intimacy* Fear of abandonment* Toxic relationship dynamics* Push-pull relationships* Emotional dependency* Oversharing and testing people* BPD and friendships* Relationship obsession* Emotional reactivity in relationshipsIf you’ve ever confused emotional chaos with love, stayed in relationships that were hurting you, or felt terrified of someone pulling away, this episode is for you.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
Transcribe →The BPD Empathy Trap Nobody Talks About
2w ago00:31:01Tap to summarizeCan someone with BPD feel other people’s emotions so intensely that it actually starts getting in the way of empathy?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Georgette, André, Solène, and Katja continue their conversation about BPD and empathy by exploring the difference between emotionally feeling with someone and actually understanding what they need. They share their top tips, lessons and skills they use to navigate empathy more effectively.In case you're new here, this season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). Under the AMPD, difficulties with empathy are considered part of impairments in interpersonal functioning, alongside intimacy. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season.In this episode:* BPD and empathy* Cognitive vs affective empathy* Emotional mirroring* Rejection sensitivity* Social paranoia* Problem solving vs listening* Emotion regulation and empathy* “Feeling everything” with BPD* The empathy trap* Learning to ask what people needIf you’ve ever absorbed other people’s emotions, assumed you knew what someone needed, taken neutrality personally, or felt emotionally overwhelmed in relationships, this episode is for you.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
Transcribe →BPD and How "Everyone Hates Me" Becomes Unempathetic (BPD and Empathy)
3w ago00:34:48Tap to summarizeCan someone with BPD care about other people and still behave in profoundly unempathetic ways?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Georgette, André, Solène, and Katja explore the uncomfortable reality that Borderline Personality Disorder can sometimes make people so emotionally reactive, hypervigilant, and consumed by fear that they stop accurately understanding or trusting other people’s emotions, intentions, and experiences.This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). Under the AMPD, difficulties with empathy are considered part of impairments in interpersonal functioning, alongside intimacy. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season.In this episode:* BPD and empathy* Social paranoia in BPD* Misreading neutrality as rejection* Reassurance seeking* Fear of abandonment* Mind-reading and projection* Why emotional overwhelm can reduce empathyIf you’ve ever convinced yourself someone secretly hated you, struggled to trust reassurance, replayed social interactions for hours, or felt overwhelmed by other people’s emotions, this episode is for you.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. If you missed them check them out:Part 1Part 2⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
Transcribe →BPD and Self-Direction: Goals, Values, and Finding Yourself
4w ago00:30:41Tap to summarizeDo you struggle to know what you want, stick with a path, or trust your own choices?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Madhurima, Carys and Solène continue their discussion of BPD and self-direction through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), exploring how goals, values, identity, relationships, and recovery can all affect the way we build a life.Under the AMPD, difficulties with self-direction are considered part of impairments in self functioning, alongside identity. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season.This episode is for anyone with BPD who has ever wondered why it can feel so hard to know who you are, what you want, or where you’re going.We talk about:* BPD and self-direction* changing goals, values, and interests* favorite people and life decisions* identity, emptiness, and sense of self* perfectionism, recovery, and self-acceptance* learning how to follow through without getting trapped* finding direction while still allowing yourself to changeThis is part of our Season 7 series where we’re breaking BPD down in a more real, human way while also connecting it to newer ways of understanding personality.Follow Xannie and Solene's music journey @Nxi-Sol In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. Part 1Part 2⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
Transcribe →What BPD Actually Felt Like in My Brain (Meet Justin)
May 400:47:01Tap to summarizeWhat does BPD actually feel like from the inside?In this episode of The BPD Bunch Brunch, meet our new cast member, Justin, a musician navigating life with borderline personality disorder.In this episode, we talk about: • What it was like getting diagnosed with BPD, and why it felt both relieving and complicated • The reality that understanding yourself does not automatically make things easier • What BPD felt like for him internally, including how he describes “living off his amygdala” • His experience with therapy, and why finding the right therapist matters • The role of creativity and music, including why it is not always healing • How music can bring you back into past emotional states • Navigating rejection, identity, and self-worth in the music industry • Learning boundaries, self-compassion, and the power of saying noIf you’ve ever felt like finally having an answer didn’t change how hard things still feel, this conversation will probably resonate.👇 Justin's website + socials below.Website: https://www.justinyates.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinyatesmusicYT: @JustinYates UPLOAD SCHEDULE UPDATE: BPD Bunch brunch episodes will now standalone from the season, and will be uploaded the first Sunday (or Monday) of every month! 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
Transcribe →BPD and Self-Direction: Why I Keep Changing Jobs
Apr 2900:35:15Tap to summarizeWhat happens when BPD affects your goals, career choices, and sense of direction in life?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Madhurima, Carys, and Solène talk about self-direction through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders. Under the AMPD, difficulties with self-direction are considered part of impairments in self functioning, alongside identity. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season.We explore:• why people with BPD may struggle to stick with one job or career• constantly changing direction and starting over• tying your identity to work and what happens when that falls apart• being influenced by other people’s goals or expectations• the belief that if it’s “right,” it should feel easy• how self-direction connects to identity and recoveryIf you’ve ever asked yourself “what am I doing with my life?” and felt like the answer keeps changing, this episode is for you.This is part of our Season 7 series where we’re breaking BPD down through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Part 1Part 2⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
Transcribe →What BPD Identity Loss Actually Feels Like (and How We Rebuilt a Sense of Self)
Apr 2200:34:28Tap to summarizeHow do you actually build a sense of self with BPD?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, Solène, André, and Katja continue the conversation on identity, this time focusing on what’s helped us move toward a more stable sense of self. Still through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), we’re looking at identity as something you can actively shape over time.Under the AMPD, difficulties with identity are considered part of impairments in self functioning, alongside self-direction. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season.If you’ve ever felt empty, disconnected, or like you’re constantly reinventing yourself… this is the part where we talk about what starts to change that.We talk about:• how chronic emptiness and dissociation connect to identity• relying on relationships or external validation to define who you are• the difference between emptiness and boredom (and why that matters)• finding purpose, values, and small anchors that make you feel more “real”• learning who you are without labeling yourself as “broken”• building identity through creativity, feedback, and lived experience• integrating different parts of yourself instead of rejecting them• why identity takes time and doesn’t form all at onceThis is part of our Season 7 series where we’re breaking BPD down in a more real, human way while also connecting it to newer ways of understanding personality.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. If you missed them, check them out:Part 1Part 2⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
Transcribe →BPD Made Me Become Whoever You Wanted - BPD and Identity Issues
Apr 1500:30:08Tap to summarizeWhat does identity instability’s actually feel like in BPD?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, Solène, André, and Katja, start looking at identity through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD). It’s a way of understanding BPD that focuses more on patterns and functioning, not just labels. Under the AMPD, difficulties with identity are considered part of impairments in self functioning, alongside self-direction. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season.If you’ve ever had that “who even am I?” moment… yeah. This is that episode.We talk about: • what it’s like to feel like you don’t have a solid sense of self • why you might feel like you don’t know who you are • masking and becoming whoever you need to be to avoid rejection • losing yourself in relationships, jobs, or even your diagnosis • when BPD starts to feel like your whole identity • how identity struggles show up in everyday lifeThis is part of our Season 7 series where we’re breaking BPD down in a more real, human way while also connecting it to newer ways of understanding personality.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Part 1Part 2⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
Transcribe →I Could Handle BPD Alone… Until Relationships (ft. Megan A Tully)
Apr 1200:47:12Tap to summarizeWhat does BPD actually look like in real life, and what does recovery really take? In this episode of The BPD Bunch Brunch, Megan shares her lived experience with Borderline Personality Disorder, including identity struggles, painful relationships, self-deception, emotional chaos, and the communication skills that helped her heal. This is an honest conversation about BPD recovery, relationships, truth, and learning how to feel seen and heard.In this episode, we talk about: • What BPD actually felt like in everyday life • Why relationships can feel impossible with BPD • The role of self-deception in BPD • What it means to “stop lying to yourself” • A communication skill that helped improve relationships • Why healing from BPD takes longer than people expect • How pain can become something you use, not just survive👇 Megan's podcast + socials below.Podcast: https://istheremoreworld.com/TikTok: @meganatullyInstagram: @meganatullyUPLOAD SCHEDULE UPDATE: BPD Bunch brunch episodes will now standalone from the season, and will be uploaded the first Sunday of every month! 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
Transcribe →I Thought BPD Recovery Would Make Grief Hurt Less... I Was Wrong
Apr 800:04:04Tap to summarizeHey…This isn’t the video we planned for today.This past week, I lost my dog. And I needed a little more time than I expected to get back on my feet.I thought about just skipping this upload entirely, but there was something in this experience that felt important to share. Especially when it comes to what recovery from BPD actually looks like in real life.There’s this idea that recovery means things won’t hurt as much anymore. And I’ve found that it’s not exactly that simple. A lot of emotional contexts can and do change drastically in recovery, and it's possible to get to a point that feels emotionally stable most of the time.But one of the universal human truths is that if you care a lot about someone or some creature, losing them will be painful. No amount of recovery will erase the grief process. And there's nothing abnormal or disordered about you if you feel the pain of loss.So this video is a bit different from the usual, it’s just where I’m at right now and something I didn’t think we talk about enough.Thank you for being here, seriously. I’ll be back to our regular episodes next week.If you do want the more in-depth version of what’s been going on, I shared that over on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/i-had-to-put-my-155040984(this one is available to free members as well!)❤️ Xannie_____🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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