
Loading summary
DJ Envy
The holidays are in full swing at Home Depot. If you want to make the most of your time with your family, they have everything you need like the KitchenAid Artisan Serious Stand Mixer with 10 speeds and a 5 quart bowl that can whip up a 9, yes, 9 dozen cookie at once. That helps me out. You know I got 6 kids so I need more than 9 cookies but plenty for everyone, even the big guy. Get a gift. The whole family can gather around. Enjoy up to 40% off select furniture, decor and kitchen essentials at the Home Depot. Shop now@home depot.com you could sit there.
Just hilarious
And listen to ads or you could take a moment to have a Diet Coke break. First, grab a chilled Diet Coke because if you want it to be perfect, it needs to be crispy. Next, get a big cup of ice because everyone knows Diet Coke is best served swimming in ice. Then sip it slowly, feel that burn and enjoy your break for as long as possible. When you need a break, don't forget to grab an ice cold Diet Coke and take a Diet Coke break.
DJ Envy
What's it like to get the new iPhone 16 Pro with AT&T next up anytime? It's like when you first light up the grill and think of all the mouth watering possibilities. Learn how to get the new iPhone 16 Pro with Apple Intelligence on AT&T and the latest iPhone Everywhere with AT&Ts next up anytime ATT connecting changes everything. Apple Intelligence coming fall 2024 with Siri and device language to set us English. Some features and languages will be coming over the next year. $0 offer may be not available on future iPhones Next up Anytime feature may be discontinued at any time, subject to change additional fees. Terms and restrictions apply. Cat.com iPhone for details.
Charlamagne Tha God
The holidays are here. It's that time of year to think about yes, gifts, but not only gifts. It's the guests, the party planning and the true meaning of the season. Spending time with family and friends. We know it's a lot, but we're here to ease your mind and share some tips so we'll make it through together. With the season getting underway, now is the time to shop for early amazing holiday deals at Amazon Amazon Wide selection for all your holiday needs. A Pilates reformer would be nice. And here's a tip. Write a list and execute early. Find the best holiday gifts on Amazon. Shop great deals now on Amazon and visit Amazon.com black effect podcast for my favorite picks.
Angela Yee
The holidays are about spending time with your loved ones and creating magical memories that will last a lifetime. So whether it's family and friends you haven't seen in a while, or those who you see all the time share holiday magic this season with an ice cold Coca Cola. Copyright 2024, the Coca Cola Company.
DJ Envy
Morning, everybody. It's DJ Envy. Just hilarious. Charlamagne, the guy. We are the Breakfast Club. Now. Little Scrappy was online yesterday and he was talking about parenting a little bit. And this is what he said.
Little Scrappy
Who gonna teach them babies how to be silent, but they dad, they mama, the emotional person. Nah, you know what I'm saying? You is rare that you have a solid, complete mom all the way around. Sometime the daddy too. But you got to tap in, let the daddy do his thing. Man, them real good daddies watch the kids when they grow up. If they have a real good dad in their life or a good father figure in their life, watch a kid when he grow up, guaranteed they're gonna be doing something great in their life. They gonna be. They gonna have a balance, I'm telling you.
DJ Envy
So we're asking 800-585-1051, what are your thoughts? You know, a little scrappy said that, you know, moms are the ones that are emotional ones, and dads teach their kids how to be solid. What's your thoughts start with you, Jess.
Jess Hilarious
I mean, I guess it depends on the situation, you know, because you got some dads that ain't solid, you know, you got moms who are, and you got moms that, you know. Yeah, it has to do. And then there are dads that do both too, you know, you know, so it just depends. I think he more so speaking like from his situation, I guess, or what he's seen, but I agree with him. But it can also be the other way around as well, you know.
DJ Envy
Charlamagne.
Angela Yee
One of the biggest lies ever told is that women are emotional and men are rational. F outta here. Okay? Men are just as emotional, all right? If not more. And, you know, sometimes women can be rational, sometimes men can't. So, you know that whole dynamic about, you know, hey, you need the father in the life because the father's gonna teach the son to be solid and not be emotional. That's just not true. And you know what you gotta teach people how to do is deal with their emotions. Men need to learn how to deal with their emotions. Women need to learn how to deal with their emotions. That's how you teach your child how to deal with their emotions. Because it sounds like a lot of times men, we be telling especially our sons to be emotionless, and we don't Want that. We don't want to raise a generation of sociopaths because we've already done that. That's why so many of us are in therapy right now dealing with so many different traumas. So I don't like the. I've never liked the whole men are rational, women are emotional thing. Because this is not true. Men are emotional as hell.
DJ Envy
I don't disagree with you when you say, but what he's talking about as far as parenting are concerned. Cause men are definitely just as emotional. Most men are just as emotional as women. But I notice and I recognize when you parent your kids, women are usually more into the emotional side of a child than their father is. That's just what it is. I see it like, even with me growing up, when I had problems or there was anything that was affecting me, mostly I would go to my mom.
Jess Hilarious
Right.
DJ Envy
Because my dad was more of the tougher skin. What it seemed same thing in my relationship with my wife. If my kids are having a problem when it comes to something emotional, they talk to their mom first. Like, because mom is more understanding, she's more patient, she'll sit there throughout the whole thing. I see that with parenting, though.
Angela Yee
Yeah, but whose fault is that, though? Like, it shouldn't be like that. Like, your kids should be able to come to you about anything.
DJ Envy
I mean, they do. But mom is. And it's the truth. Mom is easy to talk to. Mom is more patient. Mom is.
Angela Yee
You need to work on yourself.
DJ Envy
Yeah, maybe a lot of people can't.
Jess Hilarious
Even recognize to do that.
DJ Envy
No, but maybe, but you know, but it's also, as a man, you're raised a certain way, right? So if your kid gets hurt, the first thing that usually thinks on a father's mind is, nah, pick it up, you'll be out, you'll be shake it off. Because you don't want your kid to be out there in the world and have the world attack him and him not be able to. Because the world is a very nasty and scary place.
Angela Yee
Right.
DJ Envy
And you don't want your kid to be attacked out there in the world. So you teach your kid to be tough out there so that he doesn't think about suicide, he doesn't think about hurting himself. He doesn't let the comments of other people in social media hurt him and affect him. So as a father, you make sure that. You try to make sure that your kid is strong enough to do that physically and emotionally.
Angela Yee
Yeah, but the comments hurt you.
DJ Envy
No, you don't hurt me.
Jess Hilarious
Oh my God, Shut up.
Angela Yee
What do you mean? Okay, well, not you. The comments hurt.
DJ Envy
Most parents, the comments do hurt.
Angela Yee
So how can you. Lying to your kids?
Jess Hilarious
I mean, all right, so for instance, my dad. All right, so going off of what he's saying and what you just said, so my dad. I wasn't. I was more emotional with my mom. My dad still, he was very tough with me about things. Like when I was. When I would. I would go fight and I would cry, I would lose a fight and I would cry, he'd be like, no, go back out there till you whip her ass. Like that type of stuff. That same thing he did with my brother, that's tough love, right? Now, my father, he didn't have his father. My grandmother. Well, my father kind of raised himself, but the only present parent was my grandmother. And my dad is solid. You feel me? So it's like, I get what he's saying for his situation, but it's different. My dad ain't had my dad, most solid nigga I know, and he ain't never had no father.
Angela Yee
And I don't want to raise my kids out of fear and not love. And that's something that I learned in therapy. I feel like I was raised by my pops. And it wasn't because he didn't love me. It was because he didn't want me to make a lot of the same mistakes that he made. And to Envy's Point, you know, he like, oh, the world is tough. And, you know, the world gonna be hard on you this and that, but you can still raise your kid with love and empathy and nurture them, and they still be solid. You don't have to have them fear you. You know what I mean? Or tell them, you gotta be tough and you gotta be hard in order to survive.
DJ Envy
I kinda disagree on some of that, right? So, for instance, I remember the first time my daughter Madison, who's 23, she cried over a boy, right? They got into a thing and she cried in front of him, and she spoke to her mom and she came and spoke to me, and I was like, you don't ever cry in front of no nigga.
Jess Hilarious
Fuck that. Yeah.
DJ Envy
Excuse my French. But the reason I said that is because I felt like you give somebody the power that's just me, the way I.
Angela Yee
But you've cried in front of your woman.
DJ Envy
We've been married for 30 years.
Angela Yee
It don't matter. You can't tell somebody not to express their emotions.
DJ Envy
But me and my wife are in a different relationship. A lot of times, men will use the Fact that you are crying and you are hurt against you. We've seen it a million times.
Angela Yee
Or maybe you just like that person.
DJ Envy
Me and my wife, we've been together 30 years. Like it's a lot different.
Angela Yee
Or maybe you just like a person.
Jess Hilarious
And at that point he had to cry. Showed he was about to leave.
Angela Yee
That is true. That is true. Listen, you was butt neck and running out the psych ward. You was in the club DJing with the freaking nurse gown on and your ass out because of what you was going through. But you gonna tell your daughter that she, she can't be, she can't have emotions.
DJ Envy
But that was my wife and this was somebody that was in the relationship.
Angela Yee
It's totally different. No, not really.
DJ Envy
Yes, it is totally different.
Angela Yee
I'll tell you why it's not different. It's not because humans are humans.
DJ Envy
Yeah, we are.
Angela Yee
And it don't matter what the relationship is. If you feel something for a person that's going to come out like, I think one of the worst things we do to people is tell them to suppress their emotions. I really do. Like, I do not. I don't let people. One of the first things your therapist is going to tell you is feel your feels.
DJ Envy
This world's a nasty place and I just want to protect my kids from all of it. But let's go to the phone lines. Hello? Who's this?
Little Scrappy
It's your boy Matt from Charleston, Man.
Angela Yee
843, what's happening?
Little Scrappy
Right, Chad. Chillin, man. So listen, I. I agree with Scrappy, but man, I disagree with him at the same time, right? Because I've been raised in a single parent household just by my mama. And my mama really ain't never displayed no emotion. You feel like saying. She just. And you know, so that right there was he just instilling me. So I just got a real grinder mentality. But I did learn what not to do from my old man being absent. You feel like saying. So it just kind of, you know, I. I agree and I agree and disagree with him.
DJ Envy
All right, thank you, brother.
Little Scrappy
Hello?
DJ Envy
Who's this?
Little Scrappy
This Devon from Detroit.
DJ Envy
Devon, what up? Don't talk to us. What's your thoughts?
Little Scrappy
Good morning. Good morning, Envy. Good morning. Charlamagne. Good morning, Jess.
Jess Hilarious
Good morning.
Angela Yee
Peace. Peace.
Little Scrappy
I feel like fatherhood is very important. I'm a single father myself and just the lessons that I have to teach my daughter on a daily about conflict resolution and not the panic, you know, she wouldn't have that because of that emotional side from her mom. It's just act. Once that emotion is up, they just act without reason. And I'm trying to get her out of that now she's 10.
Angela Yee
That's just not true. And I don't know why men act like we don't do the exact same thing depending on what is pushing us in that moment. No, we not. What he said we not. Men resort to violence way more than women do.
Little Scrappy
But we can't. We under much more scrutiny. It's a much more punishment for if we lose our control than if they do.
Angela Yee
It depends on how you lose your control. I'm just saying I don't like when we act like human beings don't have emotions because that's what it sounds like. Men are emotionless and women have all the emotion. That's just not true.
DJ Envy
No, I, that is not true at all. I don't think he was saying that. I think he was saying in parenting, I think usually women are more emotional when it comes to a relationship of parenting because they tend to their kids feelings more. They have more patience. And I think dads are a little different. I just don't have the patience when you say I really. I just don't have that patience.
Angela Yee
So when your daughter comes to you and she's crying over a boy and you say f that you don't cry over. No. Isn't that you showing emotion? Yes.
DJ Envy
You showed emotion?
Angela Yee
Yes. You're stupid.
DJ Envy
But I'm also trying to tell her how to protect her heart. Just like when my female friends come and talk about their man and they tell me the things that's going on, I tell them from a different angle. I tell them from an angle of I've been there or my friends have been there and I tell them what it is. It's not.
Angela Yee
Do you tell them how your friends was trash?
DJ Envy
Yes.
Angela Yee
And that they needed to do a lot of work on themselves? Absolutely. So nine times out of ten, it's not them, it's you. It was. Did you tell them that her it was them? Yeah, it's not her, it was you. Oh, okay.
DJ Envy
Now, now if they don't, they don't. Half the time they don't want to listen. But I tell them all my family, I'm like, yo, they trash. Like this is not the way to go. But most men are because you know, whatever. But that's over the whole stuff, huh?
Angela Yee
That's some whole stuff. I'll be honest with you. That's like you. That's like you suing you MG I'm be honest with you, that's what that feels like. You know what I mean? But you're right. I'm not mad at you.
DJ Envy
Well, that's another conversation for another day. But 800-585-1051. Let's discuss with Scrappy is what he said. Let's listen. It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning. We are the Breakfast Club. So we're taking your calls.
Jess Hilarious
800585 1051.
DJ Envy
Hello, who's this?
Caller
Hi, this is Ronnie.
DJ Envy
Hey, Mama. How you feeling this morning?
Caller
I'm feeling well, thank you. Can you hear me okay?
DJ Envy
We can hear you clearly. What's your thoughts, Mama?
Caller
Okay. I am a Covid widow. I spoke to you guys last year when my son called in about Chance the Rapper and smacking bombseys. I agree. I think it makes sense on the surface level. But when you go deeper, I can testify to the fact that it's not necessarily true. I was orphaned at 9, and I am now a Covid widow and a solo parent. And I think that connection, when you're raising children, I think connections to both parents are necessary. However, you have a large segment of this population, due to Covid and many other diseases, who are being raised as orphans or parents who are on their own with the deceased parent that's not there to lend the other hand. And I think what matters the most is that people are healthy, mentally well, mentally healed, whole, spiritually. I think that it's important to look for churches and community organizations. My church, Cornerstone Baptist Church, has been instrumental in our healing. My family has been a part of introducing four bills into New York state legislation. One of them is named after my late husband. If you search fairness for fallen frontline workers, we're also on NBC New York Hidden Pandemic. We're also cnn. Orphaned by Covid. My sons are empowered to talk about the emotional aspect of their journey and what it means to have lost their father at an early age. But they also have learned how to give that pain and passion, purpose by helping other people. And it's because of the positive aspect of both their father and their mother.
DJ Envy
Okay, well, thank you, Mama, and appreciate the work that you're putting in.
Jess Hilarious
Nice.
Caller
Thank you. And thank you, Jess, for I spoke to you. I was right in the middle during your Jess with the mess segment at the podcast festival.
DJ Envy
Oh, yeah.
Caller
When I asked you for dating advice about widows and you said I was beautiful, I was so honored. Thank you so much.
Jess Hilarious
You welcome. I remember. I remember. Yes.
Caller
And thank you. And thank you, Charlamagne, for Giving us tickets the first time last year.
Angela Yee
We'll be doing it again. We'll be doing it again next year in April. The Black Effect Podcast Festival.
Caller
So when did they go on sale? Because I need to do the meet and greet and this time all the kids are coming.
Angela Yee
I gotta talk to Dolly about that, but as soon as we find out, we'll let you know.
DJ Envy
Thank you, mama.
Angela Yee
And she's absolutely right. You need both man. Like you need the perfect balance of man and woman. I just don't like when we act like one is emotionalist and one isn't. I know too many emotional men.
DJ Envy
Hello, I'm emotional.
Jess Hilarious
I can't believe you are an emotional man.
DJ Envy
Good morning. What's your thoughts?
Jess Hilarious
Good morning.
Caller
Good morning. Okay, so my thoughts are women and men both bring an equal element to a relationship. Women bring the nurturing and men bring discipline. You can't. Women aren't really that good with discipline and men aren't that good with nurturing, which is why both elements are needed. I think we forget that women represent this. We are different. And there's nothing wrong with our differences. And we need each other. That's why, you know, so that's what I think. I just think that he has a point, but not in the sense that women are emotional. It's women.
DJ Envy
You're right. Emotional was the wrong word. Nurturing was the word he should have used.
Angela Yee
But men can be nurturing too.
Caller
Women are nurturing.
Angela Yee
Men can be nurturing too. Maybe not as naturally as women, but men can be too if they, you know, if they go out there and do the proper work on themselves. And I will say this. Discipline is very hard with kids. Especially if you was raised in the 1900s like we were. Cause you just be wanting to beat them.
Jess Hilarious
Yeah.
Angela Yee
You know what I'm saying? Cause that's how we beat. I know. I don't hit my daughters. I refuse. My oldest is 16. So when I didn't know no better, I spanked her when she was young. And it just felt stupid to do you know what I mean? But we grew up. You gotta go pick your own switch. I was getting beat with extension cords and made to go take a bath like anything.
DJ Envy
That's abuse, bro.
Angela Yee
Sure, of course it was. But we didn't know that when we.
Jess Hilarious
Was young and they didn't know that.
Angela Yee
They didn't know either.
Jess Hilarious
That's how they was raised.
Angela Yee
So it's like, now you be telling your kids, hey, I'm gonna take such and such a way, and they be like, so and all you can say is, oh, if you was raised in the 90s, she would have gut your ass. I tell my second child that all the time. If you was raised in the 90s, you know what happen to you?
DJ Envy
What she say? I will call the cops on you.
Angela Yee
She's like, what is the 90s?
Jess Hilarious
I show Ash the 90s all the time. I don't. That's different for y'all. I box that little boy up.
DJ Envy
Hello? Who's this? Hello. Good morning.
Caller
This is Erica.
DJ Envy
Good morning. What's your noise, Erica?
Caller
Okay, so I don't think it's that way either. I think it's. I think it could be a mix. I agree with y'all with that. Because it's like, I have four kids, and my kid's father was emotional part. I was more so just like, I care for my kids. Like, I do the basics. He was my kids are daddy's girl. Both my girls are daddy's girls. And his stepfather is one of my kids. And my son would rather go to him over me. Now that it got older, they want me more than they want him. But if I think it's a. It's like both. It depends on both parties.
DJ Envy
Okay, well, thank you, Mama. Hello? Who's this?
Little Scrappy
Hey, this is Chris.
DJ Envy
Chris, good morning.
Angela Yee
What you doing, New Jersey?
DJ Envy
Hey, what's up, brother?
Little Scrappy
Radio.
DJ Envy
Turn your partner down.
Little Scrappy
All right.
DJ Envy
What you thought, Chris?
Little Scrappy
There you go. Yeah, so I like what you're talking about, but at the same time, you're correct. 100. You know, we grow up as men trying to suppress our feelings and emotions and everything, but our children nowadays, like, you look at all the suicide rates and everything that's going on with the substance abuse and everything around the whole world, you know, suppressing our feelings is what. Is what got us in this situation. Us being more open and understanding is definitely what we need to do. We need to express our feelings and emotions, especially to women as well. Women, you know, they like a guy that can be open. You know, that's how you. That's how you have a longevity.
Angela Yee
That's right.
DJ Envy
Okay, well, thank you, Chris.
Little Scrappy
No problem.
DJ Envy
All right, well, what's the moral of the story, guys?
Angela Yee
I mean, the moral of the story is I think that we need to stop with these stupid stereotypes. We need to stop profiling, stop saying, you know, men aren't nurturing, and men don't know how to deal with emotions, and women do know how to deal with emotions. Here's the thing, my brothers. If you don't know how to Deal with emotions. Go learn how to deal with them. You know what I mean? Take your ass to therapy. I don't be out here telling brothers to invest in their mental wealth for no reason. These are the reasons that I pushed those conversations and I pushed those narratives. Go out there and learn how to deal with your emotions. So you can not only be more nurturing, you know, for yourself, you could be more nurturing to your spouse, you could be more nurturing to your kids. Like, I think. I think. I think if you got a problem, you know, dealing with your emotions, then you need to go fix that.
DJ Envy
That's right. And I think everything is perfect with balance in a relationship. Right? I think you need balance. And I'm seeing now you have a young little baby. And how are you and Chris gonna raise that little baby?
Jess Hilarious
Oh, my gosh. Balance. Balance, I guess. Cause he's not a disciplinarian at all. You know what I mean? I am.
Angela Yee
He's a hard worker, though. Both of y'all are. Very hard worker.
Jess Hilarious
Yeah. Very much. Yeah. So, I mean, we got this. But he's definitely the opposite. Like, you know, he.
DJ Envy
That's his baby girl.
Angela Yee
Y'all got a girl.
DJ Envy
She gonna get.
Angela Yee
Ain't no disciplining girls when you a guy. It's hard.
Jess Hilarious
Yeah, yeah. It's crazy.
DJ Envy
He gonna be a sucker for his baby.
Jess Hilarious
Real baby.
DJ Envy
Like we all are for our little baby girls. All right, now we got Jess with the mess coming up. What we talking about? Hold on. Let me see.
Angela Yee
Oh, my God.
Jess Hilarious
Serena. Will, right? Serena Williams explained why she looked how she looked the other day.
Angela Yee
All right.
Jess Hilarious
That's what she said.
DJ Envy
They said she was bleaching her skin. We'll talk about it when we come back. It's the breakfast clo. Gamora.
Angela Yee
The holidays are here. It's that time of year to think about, yes, gifts, but not only gifts. It's the guests, the party planning, and the true meaning of the season. Spending time with family and friends. We know it's a lot, but we're here to ease your mind and share some tips. So we'll make it through together. With the season getting underway, now is the time to shop early for amazing holiday deals at Amazon. Amazon has a wide selection for all your holiday needs. I don't care if you want to get your people's laptops, gaming screens, whatever it is they need. Amazon got it. And please remember, you can find the best holiday gifts on Amazon. Shop great deals now on Amazon and visit Amazon.com black effect podcast for my.
Just hilarious
Favorite picks you could sit there and listen to ads or you could take a moment to have a Diet Coke break. First, grab a chilled Diet Coke because if you want it to be perfect, it needs to be crispy. Next, get a big cup of ice cause everyone knows Diet Coke is best served swimming in ice. Then sip it slowly, feel that burn and enjoy your break for as long as possible. When you need a break, don't forget to grab an ice cold Diet Coke and take a Diet Coke break.
DJ Envy
The holidays are in full swing at Home Depot. If you want to make the most of your time with your family, they have everything you need. Like the KitchenAid artisan cereal stand mixer with 10 speeds and a 5 quart bowl that can whip up a 9, yes, 9 dozen cookie at once. That helps me out. You know I got 6 kids so I need more than 9 cookies but plenty for everyone, even the big guy. Get a gift. The whole family can gather around. Enjoy up to 40% off select furniture, decor and kitchen essentials at the Home Depot.
Charlamagne Tha God
Shop now@home depot.com taking control of your career is empowering. Just don't tell my boss I said that. Building a career just isn't about a job. It's about creating a path that impacts our community and future generations. Whether you're starting out or making big moves, State Farm is here to support you with resources to help protect what you're working hard to achieve. They've got your back every step of the way because like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. Find out more@statefarm.com the holidays are about.
Angela Yee
Spending time with your loved ones and creating magical memories that will last a lifetime. So whether it's family and friends you haven't seen in a while, or those who you see all the time, share holiday magic this season with an ice cold Coca Cola. Copyright 2024 the Coca Cola Company.
Podcast Summary: The Breakfast Club
Episode Title: Lil Scrappy On Parenting: 'Moms Are The Emotional Ones, Dads Teach Their Kids How To Be Solid'
Release Date: December 3, 2024
Host/Author: iHeartPodcasts
Description: The Breakfast Club is renowned as the world's most dangerous morning show, hosted by DJ Envy and Charlamagne Tha God, featuring dynamic conversations with influential guests.
The episode kicks off with DJ Envy and Charlamagne Tha God setting the stage for a deep dive into parenting dynamics, sparked by a comment from Lil Scrappy. While the episode initially includes typical promotional content and advertisements, the primary focus swiftly shifts to the main discussion.
Lil Scrappy, a prominent figure in the rap community, shares his views on the distinct roles of mothers and fathers in parenting:
Lil Scrappy (03:13): "Moms are the emotional ones, and dads teach their kids how to be solid. If they have a real good dad or a good father figure in their life, they're going to do something great."
He emphasizes the importance of fathers providing stability and discipline, suggesting that a balanced upbringing with both emotional support from mothers and solid guidance from fathers can lead to well-rounded individuals.
Jess Hilarious (03:24):
"I think it depends on the situation. Some dads aren't solid, and some moms are, and some dads do both."
Jess introduces the idea that parenting roles can vary significantly based on individual circumstances, acknowledging that while Lil Scrappy's perspective holds true for some, it's not a one-size-fits-all scenario.
Angela Yee (03:45):
"One of the biggest lies ever told is that women are emotional and men are rational. F outta here."
Angela challenges the stereotypical gender roles, advocating for emotional expression in men and rationality in women, and stressing the importance of teaching all children how to handle their emotions effectively.
The conversation deepens as the hosts explore the validity and implications of Lil Scrappy's statements.
DJ Envy (04:44):
"Moms are usually more into the emotional side of a child than their father is. When I had problems, mostly I would go to my mom."
DJ Envy reflects on his personal experience, highlighting the tendency for children to seek emotional support primarily from mothers, aligning with Lil Scrappy's assertion.
Angela Yee (05:07):
"But whose fault is that, though? It shouldn't be like that. Your kids should be able to come to you about anything."
Angela questions the societal norms that lead to this dynamic, emphasizing the importance of fathers being approachable and emotionally available to their children.
The hosts share personal anecdotes to illustrate the complexities of parenting roles:
Jess Hilarious (05:38):
"My dad was very tough with me. When I would lose a fight and cry, he'd tell me to go back out and win."
Jess recounts his upbringing, where his father embodied the "solid" role through strict discipline, contrasting with his mother's emotional support.
Angela Yee (07:05):
"I don't want to raise my kids out of fear and not love. You can raise your kid with love and empathy and they still be solid."
Angela emphasizes a balanced approach to parenting that combines love with strength, advocating against fear-based discipline.
The episode features multiple callers who add depth to the conversation:
Caller Matt from Charleston (09:10):
"I agree and disagree with Lil Scrappy because I was raised in a single-parent household by my mom who didn't display much emotion. It instilled a grinder mentality in me."
Matt shares his experience growing up without a present father, highlighting how it shaped his approach to life and parenting, both aligning with and diverging from Scrappy’s viewpoint.
Caller Devon from Detroit (09:50):
"As a single father, I teach my daughter conflict resolution and emotional control because her mom's emotional side sometimes leads her to act without reason."
Devon echoes the need for fathers to instill stability and emotional regulation in their children, aligning closely with Lil Scrappy's original statement.
Caller Ronnie (12:34):
"I believe both parents' emotional connections are necessary. My sons learned to channel their pain into helping others after losing their father to Covid."
Ronnie underscores the importance of having both emotional and solid influences in a child's life, especially in the face of adversity.
Caller Erica (17:43):
"I think it's a mix. Both men and women bring essential elements to parenting. Discipline and nurturing are not confined to one gender."
Erica advocates for a blended approach, recognizing that both fathers and mothers contribute uniquely to a child's upbringing.
Caller Chris from New Jersey (18:30):
"Men suppressing emotions leads to issues like substance abuse and high suicide rates. We need to express our feelings more openly."
Chris emphasizes the negative consequences of emotional suppression in men and the importance of emotional openness for healthier relationships and mental well-being.
Angela Yee (19:20):
"We need to stop with these stupid stereotypes. Men are just as emotional, and women can be nurturing too. If you don’t know how to deal with emotions, go learn."
Angela wraps up the discussion by rejecting rigid gender stereotypes, advocating for emotional intelligence and versatility in both parents regardless of gender.
DJ Envy (20:09):
"Everything is perfect with balance in a relationship. You need balance."
DJ reinforces the necessity of balance in parenting roles, highlighting that both emotional support and solid guidance are crucial for a child’s development.
The episode concludes with a brief segue into upcoming segments, but the core discussion leaves listeners with a nuanced understanding of parenting roles. The conversation underscores the importance of breaking down gender stereotypes, promoting emotional intelligence, and striving for a balanced approach in parenting to foster well-rounded, resilient children.
Notable Quotes:
This episode of The Breakfast Club provides a compelling exploration of modern parenting dynamics, challenging traditional gender roles and advocating for a more emotionally intelligent and balanced approach to raising children.