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Jason Alexander
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Tammy
Welcome to We Talk Back podcast, a production of iHeartRadio and the Black Effect Network.
AJ Holiday
We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who talk back.
Tammy
Oh, I forgot the intro already. Hold on, hold on, y'all. Wait a minute. We got a new intro. Welcome to We Talk Back, where we encourage you to hustle hard, laugh louder, and always keep it cute. So grab your coffee cocktail and crown. Cause it's about to go down. How y'all like that?
AJ Holiday
Oh, that's not good.
Tammy
Y'all like that one?
AJ Holiday
I like it. Y'all see what I'm talking about? Crown Royal. She's talking about your crown for your head. But if you drink that, grab that. Too big.
Tammy
Yes. Everybody don't got no crown. But you know the ones that do.
AJ Holiday
Happy New Year.
Tammy
Happy New Year.
AJ Holiday
Happy new year, AJ. What you do?
Tammy
Girl, I did stay up until 12, okay, so I could catch the new year, and I might have fell asleep. Like, 12:22.
AJ Holiday
You was in bed sleep?
Tammy
Hell, yeah. Listen, after I sent you that carpet cleaning video, bitch, I was out of there.
AJ Holiday
You know I love a good dirty rug ass video. Like, nothing makes me happier than watch a dirty rug get clean. I don't know why.
Tammy
Girl, I should be having you in a chokehold, don't it?
AJ Holiday
Yes.
Tammy
It's like, why that video was so long. I watched the whole thing.
AJ Holiday
How did it get that dirty? Like, that's what I want to know. Like, do they just. I. There's no way. That was in no one's house. They're putting it in mud and just letting it sit there for days or something.
Tammy
Or they pulling out a hoarder's house.
AJ Holiday
No, even. Even a hoarder house ain't got that.
Tammy
I. I did see one video where they post some out of, like, a big ass pile of trash. They pulled a rug from a big ass pile of trash and then clean it. And I do Think people be sending them rugs to clean also.
AJ Holiday
I love that shit. Thank you for sending me that. But you know what I like you know how to get me off, girl. What did I do for the new year? All right, so me, my mom and my sister, we watched church. We watched the brook online and we brought that into 12 o'clock and then we ate grapes under the table.
Tammy
What's that ritual?
AJ Holiday
So that was going viral, tick tock. About eating 12 grapes under the 12 table at 12 o'clock so you could like manifest your husband or whatever you wanted. And we just ate one and then thought of what we wanted for each with each. Great. 12 different things. And Tanya bought them big ass grapes. I'm talking about God damn new grace was biggest. But I like, I was full as hell trying to eat the grapes. After that we went outside and we popped a little bit of fireworks and we bought a, I bought a big ass box. And then we only popped like eight of them and came in the house. We was like, okay, that was cute. Let's.
Tammy
Girl, I was dead with a snoring. Next he put he that went to sleep like 9:00.
AJ Holiday
Oh, he, he slept the new year in. Yes, I didn't drink. Listen, that's how I know I'm getting more mature. Cuz I used to like notice how.
Tammy
The didn't want to say old. Y'all ahead, go ahead friend. Getting more mature.
AJ Holiday
Mature because I didn't drink. Not one single liquor. Well, I had been sick so I could not drink anyway. But I, a part of me wanted me like a little cocktail champagne or something. But instead I just had my grapes and went to bed. Church, I, I like, I will participate in the church service and typically I'll go to one, but go to church, then the club. That's been my life, you know. But now I just saw church online, ate some grapes and popped some fireworks and went to bed like a real auntie.
Tammy
You know, every January 1st, I do feel new. You don't feel new? Like I just feel like, oh, I got a new start. Like I, I got a new 12 months to do some shit. Like I really be feeling like that every January 1st.
AJ Holiday
You know what? I, I, no, I feel new, but I don't feel as new as spring. For whatever reason, around March, that's when I start feeling my newness.
Tammy
Well, that's about Easter. You know, something about the, the, the.
AJ Holiday
Flowers blooming, all the dead things going on, like the earth makes me feel new for whatever reason. So my new year really don't start. That's when I start working out. It's March. It's not January 1st for me.
Tammy
Don't wait till March.
AJ Holiday
The back of my arm says, start now.
Tammy
And I feel motivated, too. Like, so I know for sure I don't do enough protein in my diet. So now, like, listen, y'all, for this whole month, all I'm eating is, like, protein and potato, like, salmon and potato, shrimp and potato. Or maybe I might add a green, like, asparagus or something like that, or Brussels sprouts. But I noticed, like, when I keep, like, a very simple diet, I'd be losing the most weight. Yeah, that's how I'm about to eat the same every day for this month. See what happened?
AJ Holiday
Amen. Let's go. Let's go.
Tammy
Go get y'all some potatoes while they on sale.
AJ Holiday
I. I had the neurovirus, and I haven't gotten on the scale, but I do feel a bit slimmer from not eating for, like, three days. Almost three days. Like, the first day, I didn't eat anything, and then the second day, I just had some ramen noodle broth. No noodles, just the broth off of it. And then the next day, I had the same thing with rice. And then I had, like, applesauce packets, and that was it. And I feel great now. I feel like my second chin. Yeah. So.
Tammy
Well, that should kick your diet off in the new year, right, y'all? This the last year we died in. Okay. We changing our lives.
AJ Holiday
Yeah. We're not even dieting. We changing. It's a lifestyle change.
Tammy
Living it. Living in what? Living it.
AJ Holiday
Dying. We about to up living in.
Tammy
Let's get into sins, man.
AJ Holiday
Amen.
Tammy
So Mariah Carey has a new man.
AJ Holiday
Okay, girl that been smiling so big that is happy for 2025.
Tammy
Anderson Pacquiao. Mariah Carey. Well, we assume, right? People are assuming. Cuz they saw them out to dinner twice now and holding hands. This last time, paparazzi caught them.
AJ Holiday
And that. Showing all his teeth like Nelly with Ashanti.
Tammy
Just trying to get that Christmas check up out of her.
AJ Holiday
He look happy. He looks so happy. I hope they stay together forever.
Tammy
No, I think she a lot, man. I think probably a whole lot.
AJ Holiday
It's just enough for him.
Tammy
Some men like that, like. Some men like extra women. I like Mariah Carey.
AJ Holiday
Me too. So I'm hopeful for them. Did you see what Dre had to say about Mimi and Anderson?
Tammy
She basically said that people be having selective outrage because there's a 17 year gap. Mariah Carey is 55. Anderson Pack is 38. Still grown ass man.
AJ Holiday
How you gonna compare them old ass people to you and that young man? Like it's not the same. I mean the age g the same, but the maturity level is not and that is the difference.
Tammy
And maybe she's not mature because. How do you not know that? Like now, like why now these people about to be on your ass all over again. Because you just cannot compare the two. We already know that men mature way later than women already, right Here you are damn near 40 yourself. And this little boy just now being able to buy alcohol, right? You trying to compare the two grown ass people who've been married before with children and all that, having a whole life? No, it's not the same.
AJ Holiday
It's not. It's not.
Tammy
Sorry, but it's not the same.
AJ Holiday
It's not.
Tammy
You tried it.
AJ Holiday
You definitely tried it. You can come back in 20 years and and say that. But right now you just can't if.
Tammy
Y'All still together in 20. Because he might be a whole nother person by the time he gets to be 38, right? And you gonna be real old by the time. Well, not. Well, yeah. Hell yeah. So her tweet was that's. That's that 17 year gap smile. Go Mimi. With y'all selective asses. That's what her tweet was.
AJ Holiday
She really think that's the saying. That's crazy.
Tammy
17 year gaps now, girl, it is a double standard. Get over it. They exist. Double standards exist.
AJ Holiday
What Roblox books? Like, I don't know. Let me stop. I don't even know what that is. Oh, did you see? Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt are finally divorced. After eight year divorce. It took them eight years.
Tammy
And I guess they were separated for eight years, right?
AJ Holiday
Yep.
Tammy
Shame. Yes.
AJ Holiday
One of the daughters change her name to Jolie. Her last name. The daughter changed her name from Pitt to Jolie.
Tammy
Damn. So what you did Brad Pitt looking weird nowadays too. Remember how fine he was?
AJ Holiday
You know, he older white man.
Tammy
She's so pretty. Angelina Jolie.
AJ Holiday
Yeah, she still look good. But you know, it don't always age the same.
Tammy
Yeah, we, you know, white people age pretty quick anyway. But I still think women still be looking younger than the men. Like no hair at 25. Yeah, he look weird though. He look like he morphing into some other.
AJ Holiday
Yeah, well, I'm happy that they finally got that complete because damn, eight years is a long time to be splitting up with somebody.
Tammy
Black people really don't get divorced. Like they may they might be black. Maybe it's finalized because they're ready to marry other people. Because that's what my mom and daddy then.
AJ Holiday
Y.
Tammy
My mama. My mama finally filed for divorce from my daddy, like, a month before she married my stepdaddy.
AJ Holiday
That's what my daddy did. My mom and my dad was still married, like, 20 years after they had been apart.
Tammy
Hell, yeah. My dad use it as an excuse to not marry nobody else. I'm already married.
AJ Holiday
I'm still married.
Tammy
Shame. So the Internet is going crazy because Eve, with her family, Mr. Maximilian, she has a son with him for. For Christmas. There's a photo out there now, they posted their family photo, and it's his family. Right. Because Eve is a black woman. So they're at a table in some big mansion, probably out the country somewhere, and Eve is at one side of the table. Her husband is at the other side of the table, which I think traditionally, like, that's how she supposed to be now. She was sitting on the bean bag. I don't know about that part, how y'all run out of chairs in a mansion, but whatever.
AJ Holiday
Then why she getting the bean bag?
Tammy
Or maybe it's for posture. I don't know. But that's the only part what? That I noticed. That was, like, weird. She's married.
AJ Holiday
That was weird to me.
Tammy
What is wrong with y'all?
AJ Holiday
What? What's wrong with it?
Tammy
Just. It.
AJ Holiday
All right, it didn't look weird, per.
Tammy
Se, but get out.
AJ Holiday
It did look a bit uncomfortable because it was just, you know, that one. It was one black face in that white room, and it just looked uncomfortable. But that's her family, essentially. So. I mean, it is, because.
Tammy
Have you ever seen any other family of Eve's? Does she have siblings? Where's her mama? Where's her daddy? Like this we. When she got with this man, this is when we started seeing family.
AJ Holiday
So maybe this is her family.
Tammy
Yes. You know, and people from New York, they just be. Is she from New York or Philly? Philly. The New England people from New England. They be real estranged from their families a lot of times. Like, they be having living parents that they don't with. Like, they did talk to them. Yes. I know a few bitches from New York that do not speak to their parents and haven't spoken to their parents in years.
AJ Holiday
Damn. I don't.
Tammy
I don't think they see family like we do in the South.
AJ Holiday
I don't know, New York. Y'all shout out to us and let us know. Is that a thing up there? New England. Because Eve, if you need help, blink. We need. We love you, girl.
Tammy
We love. You were terrible. Like, people are so mean.
AJ Holiday
People are so mean. You know, like they were saying hateful things. But she looked very wealthy, you know, she looks wealthy, so. And I hope she's happy, you know, but would she be happier? This is my question. I mean, I mean, first of all, who gives a right? This is her life to live. And if she's happy, she's happy. But would she be happy if she had that same thing going on, but with a completely black table? Would it change the level of happiness? Or does that even matter?
Tammy
I don't know. I mean, it's preference, you know, for me, that's what I like to see. Like, you know, I'm not like one of those people who think success is living in a neighborhood full of white people. For me, Like, I aspire to live in an affluent black neighborhood.
AJ Holiday
Right.
Tammy
Okay. But that may not be her thing. And I, and I do feel like we might be getting a little bit more away from like race, I hope anyway in 2025. Like, I'm not saying don't see race and don't see color. I'm not saying that. But love is love, is it not? That's our family.
AJ Holiday
I'm about to start dating outside my race.
Tammy
You better divest out the black community.
AJ Holiday
I'm not gonna divest, but I'm just going to not floor. Yeah, I'm going to not turn down white men so much.
Tammy
I mean, be looking happy. I've only seen one like crazy ass like this girl who would post like her relationship with her white baby daddy and he was putting her and her baby out of an apartment when the got real bad. But you didn't put up an old ass white man.
AJ Holiday
If I started dating a white guy, do that mean I gotta stop flat ironing my leave out and blending it together with the.
Tammy
You could be yourself for real. For real with others. I think that's what black men probably like too. Like they don't have to show up a certain way. Right. To appease this particular community.
AJ Holiday
Like, I don't know, something about a nappy weave with on a black girl with a white guy is go together like that.
Tammy
Social media trend is funny as it's the thing. It really got sisters like that though. Those, those are a certain type of like. I think white men are just now starting to get fly girls. Right? But we know the aesthetic of the black women that normally date white men and they act different. You know what I'm saying, like, they already act. They're already different.
AJ Holiday
They from the majority in a way that.
Tammy
Yeah, they were born that way.
AJ Holiday
Y'all still my sisters and I love y'all.
Tammy
You got any predictions for 2025?
AJ Holiday
Ah, yes, I do, as a matter of fact. I predict a stimulus check. I predict the stimulus check.
Tammy
No, they do have one fourteen hundred dollars that's supposed to be coming out for people who didn't take advantage of it before. But it's like, damn, you gotta create your own stimulus this year.
AJ Holiday
Okay. And then I also predict. Damn, I thought you might get it. I got one. Oh, I'm pretty sure I got a stemy. I want stimmies for us all every year.
Tammy
We should get a stemy every January.
AJ Holiday
Yeah. And then I predict that I'm gonna get a man this year because I ate the grapes. And you better work.
Tammy
Y'all stay trying to manifest people. Like, what I always try to focus on is like, mental clarity. Because with that comes all the other things. Be trying to do witchcraft just to get a man all the time. Y'all skipping the money. Y'all skipping mental health. Like, get all that.
AJ Holiday
We want that too, but.
Tammy
But the main focus is on this opposite sex.
AJ Holiday
No, that ain't the main focus. That's just what I predict for this year.
Tammy
I predict because you ain't the great. Shut up.
AJ Holiday
Laying up with your every night talking about your clarity. Anything ever your clarity.
Tammy
I still be trying to work on my mental clarity every day.
AJ Holiday
Don't talk to me. Cause I want a in my bed too.
Tammy
Oh, yeah. My bad.
AJ Holiday
Was my man.
Tammy
Was my man.
AJ Holiday
Was sleep by 9 o'clock, he was.
Tammy
Leaping that girl, you girl. Do you.
AJ Holiday
Yeah.
Tammy
I just want what they don't got, boy, until you get.
AJ Holiday
What's your prediction?
Tammy
So, okay, now, I said this since August, right? Baltimore Ravens are going to the Super Bowl. I don't give a fuck what y'all talk about. I feel like they are. I feel real strongly about it. Lamar Jackson has been doing a phenomenal job. They moved up from plus 1000 on the little betting websites to plus 700 now. Okay, so they are moving up. I feel like now they may I. I can't make the prediction that they'll win, but I believe that they are going to the super bowl and they will play against Kansas City. So that's one of my predictions.
AJ Holiday
Okay, I don't know nothing about that.
Tammy
Let me see.
AJ Holiday
I predicted I'm gonna go to the super bowl party and I bought this cute little jersey and it got sequins on it.
Tammy
You already got it. Yeah.
AJ Holiday
And I hope one of the teams match the colors.
Tammy
I think this year is going to start a golden age for us. Like it's going to be a lot more technology like rapid, rapidly being like put out there. You know they already got this technology, right. But they just introduce it to us in little spurts and act like.
AJ Holiday
Yeah, what about that quantum. Quantum calculator. Not calculator, quantum.
Tammy
Oh, that Google has.
AJ Holiday
Yeah, yeah.
Tammy
I mean that, that is already here. Like these things already existed. I don't believe nothing new. It's our ancestors from the future left all this for us. And now the people who are in power and who have control of the things, they just be giving us little bits and pieces every other year. Because you think they've been, didn't have like they've been had cell phones, you know what I'm saying? But we got cell phones about 20 years ago now. Yeah, something like that.
AJ Holiday
Quantum computing. Yeah, that's what it is.
Tammy
Yeah.
AJ Holiday
Imagine like the iPhone 40, you're gonna.
Tammy
Be able to see the future.
AJ Holiday
Not even just see the future, go to it. The airlines, I remember we used to fly on planes. No, we just use our cell phone.
Tammy
And quantum jump, basically. I also, you know one thing I feel real hopeful about the future. Like I feel like these next few years like America in particular going to be the most successful. We're going to see a lot of good things. But I still feel like there are going to be some hiccups, right?
AJ Holiday
Oh absolutely.
Tammy
So I feel like there's always some wicked ass man in a laboratory somewhere trying to figure out how to keep the human body alive forever and they gonna up. So you might see some zombies this year. Some more zombies. I already seen some zombies in real life. Some more zombies. Who.
AJ Holiday
Some of these drugs that these people is using got them looking like zombies already.
Tammy
Hell yeah. What, what was that about Joe Button running around naked? Was he, Was he.
AJ Holiday
I guess I was wondering like. Yeah, somebody said that. Well he got in some trouble for like running down the street ass naked. Maybe he lost a bit or maybe.
Tammy
He was on drugs and they got arrested. The only times I ever seen like a human being running around naked. They definitely was on drugs or drunk. I, I sneak before I have too but like in a secluded, secluded place where you don't have to worry about random police pulling up.
AJ Holiday
Right, Same.
Tammy
Yeah, we definitely not ran and not even high or drunk. Just betting each other to do it.
AJ Holiday
Yeah, I was, yeah, I was drunk though. It was actually New Year's in England and I ran down the street naked man. Good times. He might have just been having fun.
Tammy
Just dick slanging all out there. I had Joe Button. Anyway, after this break. You know, every year we talk about like setting goals and New Year's resolutions. Like that's usually our first episode. Right, but how do you actually execute on those goals? Like, for me, visualization is one of the. The main tools I use for manifestations I want to talk about as a woman.
AJ Holiday
So she is. God damn, we're gonna get into it, period.
Tammy
We'll be back.
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Jason Alexander
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Peter Tilden
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Jason Alexander
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Jason Alexander
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Jason Alexander
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Tammy
That's the opening.
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Tammy
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Tammy
All right, listen, I. I did try to organize this conversation a little bit so I'm not all over the place. And Tammy. What? Another thing I want to do. I want to do guided meditation. Can we do that? Because that's one of my goals for this year. I want to do.
AJ Holiday
Okay, first you got to tell me what it is.
Tammy
Oh, excuse me. Yeah, I think I'm allergic to my cat at this point. I don't know, but I feel like something be going on with my damn nasal cavity. You know, visualization is just like basically imagining yourself already doing the thing that you want to do, Right. So you gotta put yourself in that frequency with your subconscious mind.
AJ Holiday
Mm.
Tammy
You set it and forget it, essentially.
AJ Holiday
Forget it.
Tammy
Yeah. Like when you harping on something like wanting it to happen so bad, you kind of. It might get further away from you. You know what I'm saying? So sometimes when you just set the thing. This is what I want to do. It's like planting a seed, right? So if you plant a seed, you're not about to dig it up every day to see if the growing or not.
AJ Holiday
Right.
Tammy
You set it and forget it. And every day you water it. Right? So this is what, to me, what visual visualization is about.
AJ Holiday
Okay.
Tammy
Okay. So I wanted to start by. Talk about the Bible. Talk about God. My favorite thing with religion, when people don't realize. I don't want to say religion because I don't want to confuse religion with spirituality. Right? So for me, I am is one of the most important just statements, period. Right. Because anything who adds to I am is what you become. So people got to be real. I just messaged one of my homegirls the other day because she has. She has like some. Some form of cancer. Right. I'm sorry, but when people be like, my cancer, like taking ownership of these things, you're never going to be able to release them. It's not. Your cancer doesn't belong to you. Fuck that shit.
AJ Holiday
Right?
Tammy
Right. So, you know, in 2025, we just manifesting, like, real good health.
AJ Holiday
Amen.
Tammy
Good things.
AJ Holiday
When I was in there praising God into the new year, I was dancing and I was like, look at me dancing. I couldn't dance just a couple months ago. And I'm in here dancing. Broke a sweat.
Tammy
So anything y'all add to, I am going this year. We. We're not adding anything negative to. I am so. I am successful. I am confident. I am powerful. I am strong. I am getting better and better every day. All I need is within me right now. Everything else is on the way. I woke up motivated. I am unstoppable. I am an unstoppable force of nature. Doesn't that feel good?
AJ Holiday
Yeah.
Tammy
That ain't the guided meditation, though. They ain't the part.
AJ Holiday
No, I was doing it. I had my eyes closed.
Tammy
And my favorite part about. So people do different things with visualization. So you could do your vision board. I do a vision board every year, or I at least update the original one. I did.
AJ Holiday
Okay.
Tammy
I subscribe to Canva. You don't have to do Canva. You can get old magazines, cut up some pictures, put some shit together in a book. Like, that's like the oldest, I think, more popular thing or two people use for visualization. Like, they map out what they want using the images. So you can do that or you could draw it, or you can just go on a computer if you got office or with the thing, paint, take clip pictures from different places or use. You can use Pinterest, I guess, to do a vision board, too. But I like the mental imagery. I like to close my eyes and already see myself where I want to be. Like the. The. The. Where I missed the mark the last time, like, doing this. When we did the first live show last year, I was so nervous. I was so nervous because I didn't. I wasn't prepared, I feel like. Right. And then I didn't see myself there already doing the thing. And I feel like that. Yeah, I feel like that's a very important. When you got something real important to do, you need to already see yourself doing it. You need to already see what you're going to say. You need to already see all the things. So it's almost like I already did this.
AJ Holiday
You didn't appear nervous to me, girl.
Tammy
What. And maybe. And maybe that might be something that may never go away. You know what I'm saying? You may always be nervous. Maybe we need to ask somebody who performs a lot, like, are y'all always nervous?
AJ Holiday
Yeah, I think I was nervous, but I Wasn't. I was so excited. I couldn't wait to get up on that stage. I can't wait to do it again.
Tammy
I can't wait to do it where we have more creative control over the whole thing. Like when we do our own. That's what I can't wait to do. And that's coming 2025.
AJ Holiday
Also.
Tammy
It's not a prediction, it's a fact.
AJ Holiday
Amen.
Tammy
Okay, so look out for a live show. Show soon. And I'm. I'm already visualizing. Visualizing myself doing the thing.
AJ Holiday
I sent you a location too, this week. Did you see it? I'll send it to you again.
Tammy
All right. No, I did. I think I did. It was. I think I did in Charlotte. Yeah, that's our first stop, y'all. So mental imagery, the process of creating vivid mental images using the imagination. Visualization can be used in many ways, including relaxation. Using a guided imagery to keep. To help the body relax. For example, closing your eyes and imagine imagining being in a relaxed place. So what's a happy place for you?
AJ Holiday
The bank.
Tammy
Okay. Okay. Close your eyes and visualize yourself in a bank.
AJ Holiday
I'm joking. Like, that's a happy place for me, especially if I'm getting withdrawn. But our depositing either one is good.
Tammy
I like deposits. I don't like having to take money out because, I mean, I'm about to go spend it somewhere I like me. That means I'm about to go circulate it somewhere. Excuse me.
AJ Holiday
Listen. I like having money to circulate, but I think a happy space for me. Home, home, candle light, lit, everything's clean. I got a nice little joint, a good book and a fine man next to me. It's good. A glass of water with a big penis.
Tammy
That's your happy space?
AJ Holiday
Yeah. It's some good food. What else I need?
Tammy
I definitely like a clean environment.
AJ Holiday
Yes. Nothing like a clean space. Did y'all clean up your house? Listen, black people, I don't know if this a white tradition, but black people, we do not let the new year catch us with no dirty clothes, with no dishes in the sink, no trash in the trash can. That house is going to be clean for the new year. Look, what you feel about the black eyed peas and collard greens and stuff like that.
Tammy
So I didn't get any of those things because I'm not eating that. No. I probably could have gotten some greens, but I hate black eyed peas. Never ever like them. Yeah. And I feel like they probably only taste a little good when you got the neck Bones and all that. And I don't eat that. Yeah, your mama cooks them. Yeah, I know my mama cooking her black eyed peas and collard greens. I don't know if everybody else does that outside the South. Does anybody like up?
AJ Holiday
Yeah, let us know. Do y'all do that? Is it a tradition to me?
Tammy
Because, like, your greens is for your money and for your wisdom, right? So, yeah, it's like a whole ritual for New Year's.
AJ Holiday
I typically don't eat that, but I'mma eat something today because 2024 turned me every which way but loose.
Tammy
Shame.
AJ Holiday
Oh, goodness. I had a stomach virus. Right before the new year.
Tammy
You had a lot of other people, like, what is happening?
AJ Holiday
Did.
Tammy
Are those drones, like, dropping diseases in the air? Like, what the is happening?
AJ Holiday
That thing been going around, it's like a good 24 hours, and then the next day you kind of weak. But that. Whoo. That thing with my ass bad. I was supposed to go to LA for the new year, baby. Didn't go nowhere. Right at home. But I'm right where God want me to be. That's absolutely like.
Tammy
And I see that. That's how you got to look at things. You know what I'm saying? We be wanting to do so much. If your body telling you to lay down, lay down, lay the down.
AJ Holiday
I ain't had no choice.
Tammy
I'm making some T shirts that say I love to lay down. That is my favorite thing to do.
AJ Holiday
That's your happy space.
Tammy
Yes. In my bed, fresh sheets, kicking my feet. Yes. So here are some visual. I can't even talk. Here are some visualization techniques. Okay.
AJ Holiday
I need you to say, I am a good talker.
Tammy
I am a good talker. Okay. I am a good public speaker.
AJ Holiday
Amen.
Tammy
Okay.
AJ Holiday
Amen.
Tammy
And don't say I'm. I am.
AJ Holiday
Say, I am a good reader.
Tammy
I am a good reader. I am. All right, so color breathing. It says, visualize a color while breathing in and out. Now this is, I guess, how you get into, like, that space, right? Visualize a color while breathing in and out. Different colors can represent different emotions or sensations. For example, blue can promote calm and relaxation. So before you close your eyes, just think blue. Like, think a blue dot or a blue ball.
AJ Holiday
Blue face.
Tammy
A blue. It could be a blue face, a blue balloon, a blue sky, blue skies. Only using all five senses. Use your sight, smell, touch, taste, and hearing to help you visualize your goals. So if you're a chef, I don't know, can you smell what the rock is cooking? Touching something Tasting it like you have to in your mind, but still feel and smell and taste the things. I already mentioned doing a vision board. So create a board to help you visualize your goals. Sketching the goals. Sketch out your goals. And then the last one is mental rehearsal. Practice mental rehearsal to help you visualize your goals. So again, that's just you already doing the thing. So whatever your goals are, like, what's one of your goals for this year?
AJ Holiday
Well, my goal for today, after we finish recording, is to go get me a new car. So while you were doing that, I was, like, smelling the leather, smelling the new car smell, imagining myself driving it. So that's what I'm doing right now. That's a today manifestation.
Tammy
Touching the wheel.
AJ Holiday
Touching the leather on the wheel, on the road.
Tammy
Touching the hood of the car.
AJ Holiday
Yeah, yeah.
Tammy
All right, so here's a brief overview of the concept of manifestation. Because we talk about these things, but do we really know what it means to manifest? So manifestation is the process of turning your thoughts, desires and intentions into reality by aligning your mindset, emotions and actions with what you want to achieve. Rooted in the idea that thoughts and energy can influence outcomes, it often involves techniques like visualization, affirmations, and goal setting. So all these things have to go together. So writing the goals down with no actions behind them is not gonna work. You're gonna be right back here next January 1st. Manifestation operates on the belief that focusing on positive outcomes and taking inspired action attracts opportunities, resources, and circumstances that help you bring those goals to life. It's about creating a clear vision of what you want and working consciously and subconsciously to make it happen. See, I work on, when I say clarity, it's like meeting. Letting my subconscious mind meet the conscious mind. And you remember that article that came out that said people don't have, like, that inner dialogue? Like, I talk. I have conference calls with myself all the time. But some of them, them not intrusive, but some of them conversations can be, like, out of whack sometime. Like, you be. You kind of talk yourself out of things sometimes, so programming your subconscious mind.
AJ Holiday
But sometimes you gotta talk yourself out of things because don't throw that baby.
Tammy
No, I'm not talking about intrusive thoughts. I'm talking about, like, positive things. Like you. You want to do something, but you let your subconscious mind psych you out of it.
AJ Holiday
Oh, yeah, right.
Tammy
So it's about reprogramming your subconscious mind. It's the thing that is not at the front of your mind. Right.
AJ Holiday
And not allowing other people's thoughts about your goals and ideas to deter you, you know.
Tammy
So visual visualization is a powerful tool for manifestation because it bridges the gap between your desires and reality. By training your mind to focus on what you want, it involves mentally creating detailed, vivid images of your goals as if you've already achieved them. This process engages the subconscious mind, which influences your thoughts, beliefs, and actions. When you visualize consistently, your brain interprets these mental images as real experiences, strengthening neural pathways that enhance confidence and motivation. Visualization also helps align your emotions with your goals, generating a sense of excitement and belief that makes these goals feel attainable. By reinforcing a clear vision of success, visualization can inspire you to recognize and seize opportunities that bring you closer to your desired outcomes.
AJ Holiday
Okay, that's excellent. Let's do the guided meditation. I'm ready for that part.
Tammy
You ready?
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Tammy
All right, y'all, let's get into the guided meditation so we can manifest all the great things for 2025. Okay. All right. So first, I want you to find a quiet place. A quiet, comfortable space where you won't be disturbed. You can sit down or you can lie down in a relaxed position. Are you there? Okay. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths, inhaling through your nose and. And exhaling through your mouth. Allow your body to relax with each exhale. I want you to now clarify your goals. Think of one specific goal or feeling you want to manifest. It could be a personal achievement, a relationship, financial success, or a sense of peace and happiness. I want you to clearly state your goal in your mind in a positive and present tense form as if it's already happened. For example, I am thriving in my dream career, or I feel joyful and at peace. I want you to create a mental scene. Imagine a vivid scene where your goal has already been achieved. Picture yourself living in this reality. Are you there yet? I want you to engage all your senses.
AJ Holiday
Come on, we gotta finish. Sound good? You sound good, though. All right. I feel like. All right, slow down, though. Slow down. All right.
Tammy
All right. Sight. We're engaging. Sight first. Okay. What do you see around you? What colors, objects, or people are present? What sounds do you hear? Is there music, laughter, or nature in the background? Are there any scents in this environment? Perhaps flowers, fresh air or a favorite meal? What do you feel physically? The warmth of the sun, the texture of your clothing, or a handshake, if applicable. Imagine a taste like celebrating with a special meal or drink. I want you to embrace these emotions. Focus on how achieving this goal makes you feel. Are you joyful, proud, grateful, or excited? I want you to now amplify those emotions, allowing them to fold your entire body, smile, or even laugh. If it feels natural, Immerse yourself fully in the experience. I want you to anchor this vision. Repeat an affirmation tied to your goal, such as, I am deserving and capable of achieving this. This is my reality. Now visualize this scene again briefly and mentally. Lock it in as though you're storing it in your heart or mind for safekeeping. Now I want you to release and trust it. Take a final deep breath and slowly open your eyes. I want you to trust that the energy you've created is already working to attract your desired outcome. Let go of any attachment to how or when it will happen, and carry the positive feelings with you throughout your day. Yes.
AJ Holiday
That was good.
Tammy
What you saw. You saw some stuff.
AJ Holiday
I don't. I don't want to tell everybody what I saw, okay? But I did it while you were talking. I did everything that you were saying. That was so good. What a way to start the year, guys. I hope y'all participated. If y'all didn't rewind it and give us another stream.
Tammy
Look, I can't be skipping words and messing up while trying to read while somebody meditating. Line.
AJ Holiday
No, that was good.
Tammy
They bring on rewind and fast forward and rewind and press play.
AJ Holiday
My advice to y'all, if y'all need a little bit more time, pause. Pause it so you can give yourself a second to visualize those things.
Tammy
You can't stop the meditation to pause the. The recording, though.
AJ Holiday
Why not?
Tammy
So, yeah, it would be a lot slower. Right. But this is just. That was just like a guide on how to get into that meditative state.
AJ Holiday
Okay?
Tammy
Right. So you can start visualizing all those things that you wrote down, and you can see yourself there. You gotta imagine yourself in a quantum realm. Okay, I did it. We quantum jump in all. 20, 25.
AJ Holiday
Yes.
Tammy
Period.
AJ Holiday
Hey. What a way to start to kick the Euro.
Tammy
They say. They say that the. The. The you you want to be already exists in a different universe. You just got to meet yourself there. So that's the point. I'm jumping is I'm about to meet me. That I want to be where I want to be.
AJ Holiday
Right already. What I want to be. I'm about to meet that one. Amen.
Tammy
Period.
AJ Holiday
Period.
Tammy
I am who I say I'm is. Period.
AJ Holiday
All right, let's close out. That was good. I gotta go to the dealership.
Tammy
Period. Y'all, if you enjoyed this episode because we ain't changing the outro. If you enjoyed this episode, y'all tune in every Thursday on the Black Effect I Heart radio app or wherever the you get your podcast at. It is Happy New Year. It is day two of the new year, okay?
AJ Holiday
And we made it.
Tammy
Yes, we made it. We living, we breathing, we healthy, and we getting all the things we want this year. Y'all with it or no?
AJ Holiday
Y'all gonna be with it. Y'all gonna watch.
Tammy
Period. That part, okay. Are you scrollers, Instagram scrollers, watching other people live life? You trying to live and all show co host AJ Holiday kick a tan. Bam.
AJ Holiday
Y'all is tan Bam. Guess what? I love y'all. I love y'all so much. I'm glad y'all back with us another year. We appreciate y'all. We gonna be coming to you live real soon. So we get to meet some of y'all that's been dms talking to us and everybody that follows us. We love to see y'all this year, so we're so excited for that. Can I. I'mma say it. What? Oh, no. Follow AJ on Instagram. AJ Holiday. Nope. Follow me Official tam Bam on Instagram.
Tammy
Remember, speak now and never hold. I don't know.
AJ Holiday
Never hold back from going after what you want.
Tammy
Period.
AJ Holiday
Period. Let's go get it, y'all. 2025.
Tammy
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Podcast Summary: We Talk Back: As A Woman Thinketh, So Is She
Podcast Information:
The episode titled "We Talk Back: As A Woman Thinketh, So Is She" from The Breakfast Club features hosts Tammy and AJ Holiday from the We Talk Back podcast, a production of iHeartRadio and the Black Effect Network. The discussion revolves around New Year reflections, personal growth, relationships, societal standards, and the power of visualization and manifestation.
Tammy and AJ Holiday kick off the episode by sharing their New Year's experiences and resolutions. Tammy emphasizes the importance of feeling "new" every January as a starting point for personal growth.
AJ reflects on their New Year's celebrations, mentioning attending church online, eating grapes as part of a viral TikTok ritual, and setting off fireworks.
They discuss their approaches to resolutions, with AJ focusing on lifestyle changes rather than temporary diets.
The conversation shifts to celebrity relationships, specifically Mariah Carey's new relationship with Anderson .Paak, highlighting societal perceptions of age gaps.
They delve into the double standards surrounding significant age differences in relationships, defending Mariah's choice and questioning societal judgments.
Tammy and AJ discuss high-profile divorces, notably Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, exploring cultural differences in how Black and white communities perceive divorce.
They share personal anecdotes about their parents' marriages, emphasizing different cultural attitudes towards separation and remarriage.
The hosts touch on interracial relationships and societal expectations, debating the authenticity and challenges faced by Black women dating outside their race.
AJ Holiday (14:37): "I'm about to start dating outside my race."
Tammy (16:07): "You try to be yourself for real with others. Black men probably like that too. They don't have to show up a certain way."
They discuss the dynamics of interracial dating, societal pressures, and the importance of authenticity.
Tammy and AJ share their predictions for the year 2025, ranging from economic forecasts to technological advancements.
Tammy (16:21): "Baltimore Ravens are going to the Super Bowl."
AJ Holiday (19:34): "Quantum computing is here. Imagine the iPhone 40."
They express optimism about America's future, forecasting advancements in technology and personal success, while also humorously predicting unexpected events like "zombies."
The core of the episode focuses on the power of visualization and manifestation as tools for achieving personal goals. Tammy introduces various techniques to effectively visualize and manifest desired outcomes.
Mental Imagery: Engaging all five senses to create vivid mental pictures of goals.
Affirmations: Positive statements to reinforce self-belief and intentions.
Vision Boards: Creating visual representations of goals using images and words.
Guided Meditation: A structured approach to meditation focusing on visualization.
Notable Quotes:
In the latter part of the episode, Tammy leads a guided meditation to help listeners manifest their goals for 2025. The session includes steps like finding a quiet space, deep breathing, clarifying goals, and engaging all senses to create a vivid mental scene of success.
Listeners are encouraged to amplify positive emotions and anchor their visualizations with affirmations, reinforcing their commitment to achieving their goals.
Tammy and AJ wrap up the episode by reinforcing the importance of manifestation and visualization, sharing their excitement for future live shows and encouraging listeners to stay engaged.
They promote upcoming live events and urge listeners to follow them on social media for more content and updates.
Throughout the episode, there are intermittent advertisements and promotions for other podcasts, products, and services, notably:
"Really No Really" Podcast: Hosted by Jason Alexander and Peter Tilden, promoting registration for prizes and guest spots ([00:01 - 00:24], [24:01 onwards]).
Amazon Prime Promotions: Charlamagne tha God endorses Amazon Prime features, emphasizing its multifaceted benefits ([23:59 - 42:24], [50:52 onwards]).
"We Talk Back: As A Woman Thinketh, So Is She" is a dynamic episode that blends personal anecdotes, societal commentary, and practical self-improvement techniques. Tammy and AJ Holiday offer listeners valuable insights into setting and achieving goals through visualization and manifestation, all while navigating discussions on relationships, cultural norms, and future predictions. The episode serves as both an inspirational guide and an entertaining conversation, encouraging women to harness the power of their thoughts to shape their realities.
Notable Quotes:
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This comprehensive summary encapsulates the essence of the episode, providing a clear and engaging overview for those who haven't listened. It highlights key discussions, insights, and memorable moments, ensuring readers grasp the full scope of Tammy and AJ Holiday's conversation on personal empowerment and societal issues.