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The Lies We Believe—and How to Break Free
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The Lies We Believe—and How to Break Free
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Can you give any advice on where you could meet someone to date in your mid-30s?
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Not reality TV.
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Life is like a roller coaster, but it's better when we go through it together. Welcome to the Candace Cameron Bury Podcast. This podcast is not about me. I have made it for you. We share conversations about life's challenges, our our celebrations and everything in between. And this season, we're talking about living an honest life. My co host Madison Pruitt Trout is with me for 12 honest and vulnerable conversations. If you are watching on YouTube, click to subscribe. Then make sure you tap the bell to get notified. Come join us.
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A
Hi.
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B
Hi.
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A
Welcome back.
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B
Good to be back.
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A
It's always so fun. I felt like I was so interested in our conversation last weekend because I just really had no idea about the Bachelor. And just getting to hear how that all went down for you, how you even got to be on the show was it just makes me know who you are that much more and where your heart is at. And knowing that you are such a strong woman of faith and your life's goal is to share that truth and honesty and in love is just so encouraging. So I'm just excited about all of these conversations we're going to have today. We're going to talk about about lies. The lies from the enemy. But before we get into that conversation, I'm going to start off with a listener question. We're going to change it up. I always finish with one, but we're going to start we forgot about it last time. No, we did. I really liked this question, and I think it's very fitting for you. This is. Oh, we don't have a name. She says. Can you give any advice on where you could meet someone to date in your mid-30s?
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Not reality TV. I'm just kidding. You know, teach their own. If that's. If that's where the Lord is leading you. You know, I first, I just want to say when I read in 1st Corinthians 7, I see that the single life is not a life that is less than. You are not on the sidelines. You are less whole and waiting to find your person to make you complete. It talks about in scripture that you actually have this beautiful opportunity to have undivided devotion to Jesus. And so taking this season to get fully healthy and heal and holy and. And just taking this time to run your race, like, don't sit on the sidelines. I think a lie I believed when I was single is, you know, that I have to wait for my person before I can fully run my race and do what I, you know, feel like God's called me to do. But this isn't inactive. It's active. You're in the game. You're playing in the game, and God's got, you know, something beautiful he wants to do in this season. I think practically just keep putting yourself out there. You know, my husband and I met each other through mutual friends. Like, we got set up on a blind date. So you just never know. Like, keep surrounding yourself with amazing godly people and have them be a part of this journey with you. Hey, I would love to get married one day. So if you know of anybody, if you know of any opportunities, like, you know, put me out there. My friends apply me for the Bachelor. That wasn't how I met my husband, but those are some good friends, you know? No, I'm just kidding. But that. However, you can put yourself in an environment to set yourself up for success. I think so often we're, like, waiting for, you know, friends or the person we want to marry one day, like Amazon packages. We're like, we wanted to just drop on our door and just find us in the most crazy way. But it's like, you got to put yourself in those environments to find what you're looking for.
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I agree. I mean, listen, I've been out of the dating scene for 30 years and didn't do much 30 years ago either.
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B
That's. That's beautiful, though.
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However, I do have kids that have been in the dating Scene and it's changed so much since I was young. And I think my advice, from what I've seen and experienced is that what, what I believe is lost today is human connection because of our phones, because of social media, because of dating apps. And I'm not saying that those aren't good tools. I know lots of people that have met on dating apps or even you on a dating show, like, I mean, other people. But it's, but it's really like you said. And a person's not gonna drop on your front door like an Amazon package. And so you do have to put yourself out there and not hide behind your phone or the screen and, or be afraid to have a real conversation with someone, to talk to them on the phone and not just text them. And for the person who wrote this question, I'm not saying that's you. I don't know, there aren't many details, but I just find that, that people. And I've seen it in men, I hate to say it, but I have, I have found that there are more guys that I feel like they're scared to talk to women. And then the women are just kind of waiting there going, hello, you want to come, whatever. Ask me to dance or ask for my number to go grab coffee or whatever. And people are, are just scared. So my advice would be the same as yours into be willing to put yourself out there, talk to people in person. And even if maybe your conversation starts over a text, switch it quickly to a phone call or in person so you can get to know someone that way. And, and, yeah, and, and be in the places to find the type of people that you want to date. So if you're looking for a godly man at the bar, yeah, you, you, you might find him there, but might not be the best place. So that's the other important key. Find other social groups that are, have people that are like minded.
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Yeah, that's so good. And become the person you're looking for. So being that person that if you're looking for someone that loves Jesus, knows the Bible, is led by their convictions, has godly community is plugged into a local church, whatever that may be. Be that person. Yeah.
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I would also add this because I don't know about you and your husband, but long distance dating, don't be opposed to it.
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Yeah, no, we did long distance.
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Okay. Yeah, my husband and I did also. And also finding. Even with my kids, they've done long distance dating. And don't. Just don't be scared of it because if it really is meant to be. One of you can move eventually, and all of that is okay. But don't be afraid of that effort. I actually think it kind of makes it more exciting.
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Right? It's the phone calls. It's like you're not distracted with in person. It's just like, hey, I'm really getting to know you.
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Yeah, it's really awesome. And then when you do make a trip to go spend time together, you get the butterflies on the airplane or if it's a long drive in the car, whatever, and the excitement's there, so.
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Okay, good.
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We hope this helps.
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B
I love that.
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So last week, we just talked really briefly about living an honest life but feeling stuck in some way. And so I want to just dive into that before we get into lies that the enemy tells us. Can you tell us times a time in your life when you've felt stuck?
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B
Yeah. It reminds me of when my husband and I first moved into our home. So we got married and in Dallas, Texas, and then immediately went on our honeymoon, came back, moved straight to Waco, Texas, into our first home. Neither of us had ever owned a home before. And, you know, they don't teach it in school these days, and they should, because we did not know what in the world we were doing. It was one problem after another, all the house stuff, and it felt like we just couldn't catch a break. There was, like, mold issues, water things, overflowing, problems with our water filtration system systems, bugs everywhere, mice. I mean, it just seemed like there was one problem after another, but there was one problem that outweighed them all because it was leading us to feel sick. Like, we had these sick symptoms every time we were home, and we couldn't figure out what it was. We had all of these specialists over to check all the different things, and everyone would always leave saying, oh, everything looks fine. We don't know what's going on. And so when we would describe to people what we were feeling, they're like, welcome to marriage. Welcome to marriage.
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Wow. What an answer, guys.
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No, there's something going on.
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What were you feeling?
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So we were having, like, nauseous feel. We were nauseous. We had headaches. We had, like, brain fog. Every time we were home, we couldn't think clearly. There were just, like, all of these different symptoms, but when we would leave the house, we would feel fine. So we knew it was something in our home. Like, we could figure that out, but we just could not figure out what it was that was leading to all of the Problems. And so after having lots of different people over, we. I remember my husband finally was call the plumber. And I'm like, what's a clogged toilet gonna fix here? Like, what's, what's my boy gonna do here at our house with a, you know, I just like didn't understand but we called a plumber and I guess they also do these like gas detector things. So he had like a gas detector. He pulls out this beeper thing and he's going through our house and you know, it starts off sounding normal. Well, he gets into our living room and it starts going crazy. My husband's at work. I'm on the phone, have him on speaker the whole time. And I'm like, hey, what's going on? What does that mean? He's like, well, you have a gas leak in your house. And I remember freaking out like, well, what, why and where did it come from and how is this happening and can you fix it? And he was like, well, good thing, you know, you didn't light a candle. I'm like, I light a candle every single day. He's like, well, it could have literally blown up your whole entire house. But there was something going on with our fireplace. I guess there was like a thing we, we didn't turn and we didn't know we needed to turn it. And so all this gas was just like pouring into our house. And I asked him like, how did we miss this? How did we not catch this? And he said that it was methane gas, so it was odorless and you couldn't see it. And I remember when he, when he left, he fixed it, he turned it off, he left. And I started looking up on Google. Never look up on Google.
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I know it's the worst. It's the best, but it's the worst.
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It's like you're going to die and it's telling you all of these different symptoms that you're going to have. Just long term memory loss. You're never going to be the same. And I'm like, well, great. And so, you know, now we, we can laugh about it, but I remember walking away from that experience and really what led to kind of the start of me writing this book was the Holy Spirit spoke something to me through that experience and that was we were living with something that was slowly killing us and we weren't doing anything about it. And finally we did something about it and thank God we're okay now. But I think about that in terms of our Christian life and our day to day Life. Like, how many of us are living with things that are just slowly killing us, keeping us from the life that Jesus died to give us? How many times do we overlook those little sins? Do we walk around with constant shame? Do we believe those lies that keep us stuck and small? And for me, that was something I really sat with the Lord with, of, am I living with things and just putting things under the rug, like they don't matter, but they're robbing me from the life that you want me to live, that you gave me. And so that has kind of been my journey. And what I really want, those who, you know, read the book to discover those sick symptoms, like, what are the things that are keeping you sick? But then let's get to the root of it and. And let's live fully free the way we were meant to be. So that's kind of my little gas leak moment story, which is a very metaphorical way of like. I've had many moments, though, of feeling bound and feeling stuck. What's that been like for you? Have you had any moments in your life where maybe you were feeling all of these symptoms but you couldn't figure out what the root was? Or maybe you knew what the root was, but you didn't know how to put an end to it and get unstuck?
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Yeah, I think I've had both of both of those. I think that sometimes earlier in my life there is that nagging feeling and you just know that something's just not right, but you can't quite put your finger on it. You know that you want your life to change, but you don't know where to start. You don't even know what to look for and what move to start making. And then when you do have a family, if you have a husband, have a kids, it's like, again, I just know that something isn't right in my life and I want to move it over on a different track. But how do I start? And how do I get my family on that track? I think I've been laughed at so many times by my family of like, oh, it's another one of mom's crazy ideas. And not even that it's crazy, but it's like, why are you trying to fix something that isn't broken? Like, this isn't broken. And yet you just know, like, but it isn't where it could be. It isn't what it should be. It's not. I'm. We're not living life to the fullest. And by that I'm not saying. I'm not talking about massages and trips to Disneyland. I'm saying there's. There. God has more for us. And sometimes it's scary to take that step when you're in a family. So I've definitely felt seasons of that in my life where I'm not able to pinpoint it. And then I have certainly felt seasons. And I'll say it has been in marriage. And I've talked a lot about this, but Val and I, next year will be 30 years married. And it's definitely been a roller coaster, lots of highs, and there's been some really low lows. And I know that during some of those low times, I wouldn't even say it's low. You're just kind of like sitting in the shallow of the valley where you're like, this isn't the best, but that's just life. We'll just kind of go through it and again, you just feel stuck. And yet for us, there wasn't. We didn't have either the confidence or just the straight up, Like, courage to be honest enough with each other to say the really hard things, because I know they're gonna hurt your feelings, and I know you're gonna hurt my feelings by hearing it, by saying it. And so those have been stuck moments in my life. And then sometimes you gotta reach the pit to get pulled out of it and kind of hit the bottom of that.
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Yeah.
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So I know that. That we can feel stuck. We want to get unstuck. But what are some of the lies that the enemy uses to keep us in that stuck place?
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Yeah. Yeah, we are so we know we have a very real God and we have a very real enemy. And that enemy wants to steal our intimacy with Jesus. That enemy wants to see us live a distracted, disappointed, discouraged, beat down life, Stuck life. And, you know, I think there's a lot of cultural lies that we face in the world we're living in today, and temptations and pressures, as well as a lot of internal personality lies that we often feel and face, whether that's the way we were raised or something that's happened to us or something that we've done or just what we feel and how we're wired. And so I know for me personally, you know, just to get vulnerable and real, a lie that I've often believed is that I'm not good enough. And I have to strive and perform and prove myself to. To be good enough. I mean, even just this last week, I confessed to my husband and I just said, man, I Feel like a failure right now. I feel like a failure in my career. Some of the goals that I've set, I haven't. I haven't reached them. I didn't meet it. And just looking at the outcome of those things, like, I feel like a failure.
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And yet there's so many people that would look at you from the outside and go, like, are you kidding me? If your life is a failure, what. What is that? A reflection of mine.
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But it's so crazy how the Enemy, it might look different for all of us, but it leaves the same feelings on the inside. That lie may mask itself totally different to someone else or may in a different package, but it still leaves the same feelings on the inside. You know, I mean, those are the same things I've had my family members or my husband or my friends confess to me too, you know, And. And what's crazy is when I then feel like a failure in kind of my workspace life, then it carries into even my home life. And then I'm like, well, I don't have enough energy or time to be there for my spouse and my daughter the way that I want to be. And so now I feel like I'm failing as a mom. I feel like I'm feeling as a wife. And so that's one of the internal, personal lies that the Enemy comes at me with, especially in this last season. For me, I think cultural. One of the biggest lies that we all face, that I've faced many times throughout my life, is that we can get good outside of God. And you see that all the way back in the Garden of Eden. You see that in one of the original lies and temptations that the Enemy comes at Eve with. And it's still the same play that he runs today. That we can find good outside of God, that we can be our own God. We can make our own life happen the way we want it to. And that's masked itself different for me in different seasons of life. Like in high school and in middle school, I was trying to find that in. In boys and sports and awards and how well I did in the sport that I was playing or the guys that were chasing me in college, you know, I wanted the guy I was dating to propose to me, because that's what everyone was getting proposed to. And I wanted this certain, you know, view and. And. And status and relationship status. And then I would say today it's. It's moments of probably, you know, having, like, comfort idols, of turning to my husband to be what only God can be. For me or turning to my daughter to be what only God can be for me or my career or whatever it may be. And so it's masked itself in different seasons. But if you go all the way back to the very beginning in Genesis chapter three, the fall, you see that the same three lies that the enemy tempted Eve with and that Eve fell for are the same three lies that he tempts us with today. And the first one is, did God really say. Did God really say that? And he's always going to come at us, trying to get us to, to doubt God in some way, shape or form or doubt the, the validity of scripture and the word of God that we can, you know, figure out truth outside of the truth. The second is, is he downplay sin? Oh, you won't die. If you eat this fruit, you won't die. It's not really that big of a deal. So then we just don't take sin serious. Whether that's, you know, quote unquote small sins or the bigger sins. And then the last one is, is he speaks to the advantage of sin. If you eat this fruit, you'll be like God. You won't even need God. You'll be wise like God. You can have what you need apart from God. And I think these are the same, you know, plays that Satan runs today. And again, they can take different forms. Yeah, but these are the same three temptations and lies that he comes after us with. And so the enemy I talk about in my book, you know, the enemy is cunning, but he's not creative. He runs the same play again and again and again. And I've just seen that to be true in my own life. Is there anything for you that you that that speaks to of like? Yes. I've seen that same play run again and again throughout my life, masking itself in different ways.
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Right?
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Does that make sense?
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No. And what you're saying is so crazy. I talk about that in my book because it's so true that the enemy comes after us. Oftentimes the lies have a little bit of truth in them. It's like, you're not good enough. I'm like, actually, you're right. I'm not. Apart from Christ. I'm not good enough. I don't have what it takes. And only by God's spirit and power do I have anything good to give or do. And I think that's where I have to remind myself often is the enemy wants to twist things and, you know, twist God's truth to make it a bad thing. But it's like, there's actually so much freedom in being like, I actually don't have what it takes. Apart, I am a failure. I'm a hot mess. Apart from Christ. But with Christ, Philippians 4. Three, I can do all things through Christ.
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Yeah.
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Like, there's nothing I can't do with the spirit of God on the inside of me. If that's the same spirit that rose Jesus Christ from the dead. And that's what's living on the inside of me. That's who's inside of me, you know, and it's that mind, mind shift. I think that that is really important for us.
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Yeah, it is. And I love you. You played basketball, right?
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In high school, in college. A lot of people think I played in college. I didn't play in college. I think that the bachelor did a little bit. It made it seem like I played in college. Okay, I didn't play in college. My dad was a college basketball coach and at Auburn and so been around basketball my, my whole life and love it. But I didn't play in college. Just, just high school.
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Okay, got it. Well, we're a big sports family too. My husband played hockey in the NHL for, for 12 years. And then our kids are, you know, have played hockey and tennis and all that kind of stuff. But I love sports analogies. They're really my favorite ones. So I, I heard you talk about an analogy of within sports, how similar it is that Satan has the same playbook of lies. Will you share that with us?
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Yes. So I. And yes, I think there's so much crossover in sports and the Bible. I will be reading something in the Bible and I'm like, oh, man, that really plays out for things that I experience, you know, in, in basketball and in competition. But I had. We. So we were really good basketball team. My dad was a really good coach and my senior Year. So we had won, I think, from my sophomore year, or no, maybe it was even my freshman year all the way to my senior year. We had won a championship game every single year. And this was my senior year. And so of course, you want to, like, go. You want to win. You want to end on a bang. And we were really good, but we. There was a team that was better than us, and we knew our only chance to potentially beat this team, or at least give it a really good close shot, was to run a very interesting play, which was to hold the ball the whole game. And so we tried our best to hold the ball the whole game, just.
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Keep the ball and keep the ball possession the whole game. So they didn't even have a chance. Okay.
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Which is a very interesting take on basketball because obviously there's a lot of back and forth, a lot of, like, scoring, defense, offense. And my dad knew this team is. I mean, they're way taller than us. They're more athletic than us. Like, if they have a lot of offenses, we gonna lose. Like, it's right.
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We don't have the defense. The whole game is gonna play defense.
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We're just so. We wanted to have the ball the whole time, and we knew that was our only shot. And so we just kept running the same play again and again and again and again. Well, eventually they caught on to what we were doing, and it didn't last. We were sitting pretty good, though, going into halftime. It was three to two. We were up three to two. We were up at halftime. And I remember coming out of halftime, I mean, they obviously had a really good pep talk. They caught on to our. Our game and what we were trying to do. And, you know, it ended up. They end up blowing us out of the water. And it wasn't that close of a game at the end, but I just thought about that in terms of. We were trying to run the same play again and again and again to keep them from scoring, to keep them from winning. And in the same way, the enemy does the same thing to us. Like, he runs the same play again and again and again. He comes at us when we're weak. He comes at us when we're tired. He comes at us when we're lonely, when we're alone, when we're isolated.
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Yeah.
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And he knows those. Those moments to trigger us, to get us. To get us to fall for his lies and his schemes to. As well as he knows the exact lies that we're susceptible to fall for. And so for me, I know every single time you know, when I am feeling super tired, hungry, I've been going really, really hard. I am in a very vulnerable place. Like even releasing a book, it's a very vulnerable place to be in. And I know those moments. And so I've started trying to like, get ahead and be proactive instead of reactive. But I've. I've started learning that he runs the same plays and he's not creative. And so learning that he runs same play actually really helps our ability to know how to respond when. When they come. And so that's something that's been really helpful for me and just identifying those things.
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So how do you identify it though? Are you're praying, I'm sure, and asking God to show you to identify the. The lies that the enemy's speaking. But can you tell me other practical ways so that you can become aware of them? And I think that's what when I talked about earlier, about knowing that you, you feel stuck, that the enemy is whispering a lie, but you can't quite put your finger on it. You don't even realize that it's him.
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B
Yeah, yeah. It's so interesting. You're. Oftentimes our soul will feel a little off. Something will feel a little off, but we can't quite put our finger on it. You know, I think about Jesus being tempted and he was tempted in the wilderness, and he's having this moment of kind of going through the exact same through thing that Eve went through. But he didn't fall for the enemy's lies. And every single time as he was tempted with a lie, he always responded with truth. And I think so often we have these moments where we're believing a lie or we're feeling maybe the symptom of believing a lie. Even if we can't identify I'm believing a lie, we're feeling stuck in some way, we're feeling bound in some way. We're feeling, whether it's depressed, anxious, we're comparing ourselves, we feel less than we're feeling rejected. Whatever the feeling may be, if you really get down to it, it's always traced back to having some type of belief system and so. And believing some type of lie, coming into agreement with some type of lie. And you look at how Jesus responded every single time the enemy tempted him with a lie. He didn't try to engage in this moment. He didn't even try to like, muster up the like, okay, I gotta like, have what It's. I mean, he's Jesus. He could have, he could have just snapped his finger And Satan would have been gone, but he gave us a blueprint of how we overcome the enemy's lies. And it's. We respond with the truth. And so the moment we believe the lie, we empower the liar. But the moment we believe the truth, we defeat the lie. And so when those lies come, when those feelings come, it's what you're saying. You take it captive, but then you have to replace it with something better. And I think so often in the church, we even do this whole like, resist, resist, resist, don't, don't, don't take captive, run. But there's also gotta be a pursuit of something greater, a replacement of something greater. And so not just a removal of a negative thought, but a replacement. Replacement of a true thought, of a holy thought. And Philippians 4 talks about that. To think on things that are lovely and pure and admirable and praiseworthy and true. And so the way we continually overcome those. Those lies is we have to renew our mind daily. It talks about that in Romans 12. Renew your mind daily with the truth. And sometimes that looks like. Not just a reserved moment in your quiet time, but like all throughout the day, you're gonna get hit. It's like you have a moment, maybe starting your day in the truth, and then as soon as you walk out those doors, the lying to you, and you're like, oh, man. Now I'm faced with the reality of. Of the world and. And the enemy that is against me and wants to see me fail. And so it's taking those thoughts captive, speaking the truth. And sometimes when you don't have what it takes to remember the truth or cling to the truth, it's turning to a friend and saying, hey, I'm believing a lie right now. I'm confessing that to you. Will you remind me of what's true? And will you pray for me?
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A
That's so good.
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B
There's so much power in that. I mean, have you had a moment that you've. You've done that with a friend where you're like, I'm really feeling beat down right now and discouraged, and I'm stuck, and I don't know why.
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A
You know, I. I have one friend. It's amazing. She has a gift of discernment, and I love that.
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B
That's beautiful.
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A
We love that. Choose. Choose your friends based on their spiritual gifts.
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B
Truly, that's true.
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A
Just have them in your pocket for when you need them. But I do. I'll oftentimes go to her because when I'm not quite knowing what it is. She really does have this gift of discernment. And whether she finds it for me or not, or hears from the Lord or not, we pray together. And I always feel like each time we do that together there has been a revelation of some kind of understanding. And so I love that you pointed that out to reach out to so much freedom.
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I mean, James 5:16 tells us that when we confess our sins to one another and pray for each other, we will be healed. So there's so much freedom and healing. It can feel embarrassing and hard. Sometimes I think to be like, I'm feeling like a failure right now, that's really hard to say. That's like, for me, sometimes that's like pulling teeth. I like to always feel strong. I like to always feel together. I like to be that person for other people to go to. I don't like to be the person that's just like really honest and vulnerable about my feelings. But I learned that true strength is like being able to, to be humble and to humble yourself and say, I don't have it all together. I'm struggling right now. Yeah, we weren't made to go through life alone. Like, will you pray for me and help me in this area? There's so much freedom there.
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A
Yeah, that's so good. Well, we are gonna take a listener question. It's that time. This one is from Heather. She says, I'm. Oh, okay. Sorry. No, I'm reading these. So sometimes our listener questions have to do with questions that were written in previous seasons. So sometimes they're gonna correlate to our discussion and sometimes they're gonna have nothing to do with what we're talking about today.
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B
Love it.
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A
So it's kind of fun. So Heather has written, she says, I'm 49 and I'm training for my very first fitness bikini competition when I turned 50. I'm so excited for you, Heather. Just reading that. I can't even tell you how excited I am because I. I very much like this world. She continues and wrote, I lost my mom last year. She always knew how much I loved fitness and encouraged me to go for this. Your messages have helped me see my body through God's eyes, not the world's. How do you stay focused on him during something as intense and appearance based as competing? I really want to keep my heart aligned with his through it all. Oh, such a sweet, sweet question too. Heather, thank you for listening to the podcast. And that was probably our season with Lisa Whittle. And as a 49 year old woman who has Been in this year, this season of my life, really upping my fitness game because I want to enter my 50s with, with a bang. I just, I'm really excited for you. I'm excited for your competition. I. I'm glad that you wrote this because even the, the heart behind your question and the fact that you want to keep it, keep it all about him, that you want to glorify God through the competition is exactly in the right place. And it doesn't matter. You're an athlete. So it's not whether, whether it's a fitness competition, whether you're a soccer player or basketball player or whatever, you are going to compete to the best of your ability. You're going to put in the effort and the training. And because it is, yes, it's showing off your body, I don't see that as any different than competing for another sport where you are. You're doing it to the best of your ability and greatness in that. And I think that giving that all to God and keeping your perspective, focus on him, really is in not only how you're viewing your body internally, but it's about your commitment, it's about your effort, it's about the way you treat other people that you're going to interact with during the whole process, whether that's other people at the gym you're training when you enter that competition. Because you're going to be the reflection of Christ to people wherever you are. So in all things, do them to the glory of God. It doesn't matter what that is. So I'm excited for you. Go you. Will you please send pictures through Instagram?
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B
We want to see.
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A
Let me know how you did and how the competition went. And I would just keep praying through it. And if you consistently pray every day that God, I want this to glorify you. I want to do this for you. Maybe there's honor in it for your mom. Those are all beautiful, wonderful things. And just pray that He. He does keep your heart aligned and be the reflection of Christ that other people are going to see.
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B
So good. I love that so much. And Hebrews 12 talks about throwing off sin and weights and running the race that God has marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus. And I love this because she kind of answered her own question, like, I just want to keep my eyes on Jesus. How do I do it? Just keep your eyes on Jesus. Just fix your eyes on the prize. And, you know, as someone who's been in environments where it's really easy to get caught up in the wrong thing for validation and approval and you know, to feel good enough. Like I had to remind myself even on the Bachelor and remind the girls around me, hey, your worth is not in this, Rose. And I would just say, you know, to our friend is your worth is not in this prize or winning this, this competition. You are fearfully and wonderfully made and you are God's daughter and God's child. And like you're alluding to, like, you can be a light. And so go and be a light and make it all about Jesus. However he wants to use you, whatever he wants to do through you, keeping your eyes on Jesus and remembering he is the ultimate prize.
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A
Yes. Amen. Oh, well, that was great. We'll be back guys next week. But before we go, don't forget to grab your free copy of the Dare to Be True guide. It goes with Maddie's book Dare to Be True and you can find it@candace.com and if you've got a question that you want me to answer in the Future, go to Candace.com it has as the got Questions button at the top. And don't forget that there is a private podcast chat that you can join. It's called the Together Community and those details are also@candice.com together until next time. Be grateful all day, every day. Candy Rock Entertainment all rights reserved.
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