The Candace Cameron Bure Podcast

Sometimes We're Clueless!

Have you ever been in a conversation and realized somewhere along the way you completely checked out? Not because you wanted to, but because your wiring just took you somewhere else? That's what this episode is about. Jason VanRuler is back as co-host, and together he and Candace break down what happens when each of the five PATHS communication types disengage. Not through open conflict or blowups — the quieter drift that happens when a Peacemaker decides it is not worth it, when a Thinker goes silent and starts cycling inward, or when a Harbor abandons themselves by over-functioning for everyone else. Candace talks openly about parenting teenagers and what it took to remember she was the adult in the room, even when the room was loud. Jason shares what it looks like when couples call him months after an intensive counseling session, having slid back into the same patterns that brought them in the first time. Connection, he says, is not something you tend to reactively. It is something you build consistently, and every PATHS type has a particular way of falling off that path. There are four listener questions in this episode, and they are honest ones: about anger that feels like it comes out of nowhere, about walls built to protect and then impossible to take down, about keeping a marriage strong when your husband is gone for twelve-plus hours a day. Candace shares what 30 years of marriage actually looks like, including the truth that not every day is a great day, and why two willing people might be the only real secret there is. Subscribe to Candace's email list and get the free Healthy Connection Guide at candace.com, and get Jason's Communicate to Connect course at candace.com/together. Life is like a rollercoaster, but it's better when we go through it together. Connect with Candace and Jason Candace on Instagram @candacecbure Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Jason on IG: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ Jason on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/Jasonvrcounselor Website: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Sponsors For This Episode Crowdhealth - Go to JoinCrowdHealth.com and use code CANDACE GCU gcu.edu IFCJ ifcj.com PHD - Visit myphdweightloss.com and call #864-644-1900 and mention Candace. 316 Financial https://bank316.com/candace-cameron-bure Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Special Guest Andy Schoonover: What if your burden was actually your calling?

6d ago00:42:41Summary ready

Thousands of people go bankrupt every year from medical bills. Andy Schoonover decided to do something about it. Have you ever wondered if there's a way out of the health insurance maze? Candace sits down for a special interview with Andy Schoonover, founder of CrowdHealth, a community of people who fund each other's healthcare expenses directly. What started with a devastating loss and an $8,000 medical bill that insurance refused to pay became a mission to return humanity to an industry that has lost it. Andy and Candace dig into how the system actually works, why the buyer and the seller of healthcare both benefit when prices go up, and what happens when you just pay your doctor in cash. The numbers are crazy: a $5,000 scan for $200, a $80,000 Life Flight negotiated to $13,000, and members saving $77 million collectively by opting out of traditional insurance. Andy also shares about losing his daughter Grace, the two years that nearly broke his marriage, and how both of those experiences shaped what he cares about most. Listener questions round out the conversation: Amelia asks how to find your calling in a career, and both Candace and Andy weigh in with answers rooted in burden rather than happiness. Emma asks the question so many mothers carry: how do you hold a dream alongside the season of raising your kids? You can learn more about CrowdHealth at joincrowdhealth.com. For email updates and more from Candace, visit candace.com. Life is like a rollercoaster, but it's better when we go through it together! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Let’s Get Practical: Conflict, Needs, and the Communication Types

1w ago00:36:46Summary ready

Have you ever known something was broken in a relationship but had no idea how to say what you actually needed to fix it? That's where so many of us get stuck. This week, Candace and communication coach Jason VanRuler move from understanding the PATHS types to putting them to work, starting with a listener question about a family conflict that has been festering for twenty years. Jason reframes the whole thing: the problem is rarely that people won't talk. It's that they don't know what they need in order to move forward. The conversation moves through how each communication type engages with conflict, from the Peacemaker who needs reassurance that the relationship will survive the hard conversation, to the Advocate who can throw the whole relationship away for the win, to the Thinker who arrives with a trolley of evidence, to the Harbor who creates so much space for feelings that the conflict never actually gets resolved, to the Spark who surprises everyone when the intensity finally breaks. Jason also addresses what to do when the other person simply is not willing, and how to tell the difference between what we want and what we actually need. Two more listener questions round out the episode: a mom whose first-grade son keeps getting excluded, and a teenage girl named Blythe navigating anxiety. Jason's answer to both comes back to the same thing. Confidence rooted in identity. When we know who we are and what we stand for, rejection still hurts, but it doesn't define us. And for the teenage girl spinning in worry? Noting the anxiety and then redirecting that energy somewhere useful turns out to be far more effective than overthinking it. Download the free Healthy Connection Guide at candace.com, where you can also submit questions for future episodes. For Jason's "Communicate to Connect" video guide, go to candacecbure.com/together Life is like a rollercoaster, but it's better when we go through it together! Connect with Candace and Jason Candace on Instagram @candacecbure Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Jason on IG: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ Jason on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/Jasonvrcounselor Website: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Sponsors For This Episode PHD myphdweightloss.com and call #864-644-1900 and mention Candace. Crowdhealth Go to JoinCrowdHealth.com and use code CANDACE GCU gcu.edu 316 Financial https://bank316.com/candace-cameron-bure IFCJ ifcj.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Do You Make People Feel Safe?

2w ago00:44:16Summary ready

Have you ever been around someone who made you feel like your feelings actually mattered? Or tried for months to get through to someone you love, only to catch one brief moment where they let you in? That is exactly what this episode is about. Candace and Jason VanRuler are back to continue the PATHS series, and this week they go deep on the two communication types that might be the most misunderstood: Harbor and Spark. Jason opens up about being a Harbor himself — the feeler of the group, the one who makes space for everyone else's emotions and often forgets to need that space too. He shares the story of a therapist on a bus who had spent a career being a Harbor for others and had never once had one for herself. The loneliness in that is real, and so is the beauty of what a Harbor offers when it's healthy. They also talk about the wound that often shapes a Harbor: being a kid whose feelings just didn't get to matter. Then there's the Spark — the one who lights up a room, gets every conversation going, and sometimes vanishes the moment things get heavy. Candace and Jason talk about what it actually takes to reach a Spark in a real relationship, and Candace shares what her husband has taught her about patience, cigars on the patio, and the one-in-three conversations that open everything up. Two listener questions round out the episode: one about a three-year-old who worries too much, and one from a mom who feels like she's losing her twelve-year-old. Download the free Healthy Connection Guide and join the Together Community at candace.com. Sign up for email updates at candace.com. Life is like a rollercoaster, but it's better when we go through it together! Connect with Candace and Jason Candace on Instagram @candacecbure Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Jason on IG: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ Jason on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/Jasonvrcounselor Website: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Sponsors For This Episode IFCJ ifcj.com PHD myphdweightloss.com and call #864-644-1900 and mention Candace. 316 Financial https://bank316.com/candace-cameron-bure GCU gcu.edu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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How to Be Honest Without Losing the Relationship

3w ago00:43:37Summary ready

Have you ever told the truth and still felt like the message didn't land? Or held back because you weren't sure how to say it without it coming across wrong? Candace and licensed therapist Jason VanRuler are back this week continuing the conversation about the PATHS communication types — and this time they're going deep on two of them: the Advocate and the Thinker. The Advocate leads with what's fair, what's right, and what needs to be said. Proverbs 27:5 says, "Better is open rebuke than hidden love" — and that's the Advocate's whole posture. But Jason talks about what it looks like when the truth is delivered without the right packaging, and Candace opens up about her own Advocate score and a real conversation where she had to say out loud: the truth matters more to me than the fix right now. The Thinker, meanwhile, goes quiet before they go anywhere. Proverbs 18:13 is the anchor verse: "To answer before listening — that is folly and shame." Someone with a Thinker communication style is processing and fact-checking themselves, making sure what they say is worth saying. Candace shares what that looks like on set and why the people around her have learned to just let her think. There's also a listener question from Lucia about family members she can barely tolerate, a conversation about letting your kids watch you work through conflict, Jason's "boredom binder" of life skills, and an honest look at what it took for him and his wife to stop arguing in circles. Go to candace.com to sign up for email updates, get more of Jason's communication tips, and buy access to Jason's Communicate to Connect video series. Connect with Candace and Jason Candace on Instagram @candacecbure Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Jason on IG: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ Jason on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/Jasonvrcounselor Website: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Sponsors For This Episode PHD myphdweightloss.com and call #864-644-1900 and mention Candace. IFCJ ifcj.com NOCD Visit nocd.com to book a free call Toups & Co toupsandco.com/candace and use code CANDACE for 25% 316 Financial https://bank316.com/candace-cameron-bure Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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How Communication Changes Everything

4w ago00:38:49Summary ready

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling like the other person heard something completely different from what you said? That gap between what we want and what really happens is where so many of our hardest moments show up — in our marriages, with our kids, with the people we love most. This week, Candace sits down with licensed therapist, coach, and author Jason VanRuler to start a six-week series on the five communication types he outlines in his book "Discovering Your Communication Type." Right from the start, this one feels less like a lecture and more like finally getting words for something you've always sensed about yourself. Jason introduces the PATHS framework: Peacemaker, Advocate, Thinker, Harbor, and Spark — and the conversation digs into the first type: the Peacemaker. If you've ever found yourself working overtime to keep everyone okay, managing the energy in a room without anyone even knowing, this episode is going to feel very familiar. Jason shares how our communication types are often rooted in what we needed most as kids, and how the gift we give others is usually the gift we once longed for ourselves. A listener question from Bethany about her husband's phone use leads to one of the most practical moments in the episode — including a line from Jason that could genuinely shift a marriage: "If it matters to you, it matters to me." Sign up for email updates, grab the free Healthy Connection Guide with Jason's communication type assessment, and learn how to buy Jason's course "Communicate to Connect" at candace.com. Connect with Candace and Jason Candace on Instagram @candacecbure Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Jason on IG: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ Jason on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/Jasonvrcounselor Website: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Sponsors For This Episode NuEthix nuethix.com/candace IFCJ ifcj.com PHD myphdweightloss.com and call #864-644-1900 and mention Candace. 316 Financial https://bank316.com/candace-cameron-bure GCU gcu.edu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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What If Better Communication Could Change Everything? A New Series with Jason VanRuler

May 800:04:16Summary ready

Have you ever walked out of a hard conversation wondering, "How did that go so wrong?" Or maybe you're the one who always holds the peace together in a room, running on empty because no one else seems to notice. We have all been there. And starting next Tuesday, we're going to do something about it. Jason VanRuler is a licensed therapist, communication coach, and author who has spent years helping people understand not just how to talk to each other, but who they actually are in conversation. Are you a peacemaker, a challenger, or the safe person everyone calls first? That's the question at the center of this six-week series — and the answer might open up something real in your most important relationships. This is a preview of what's coming, and Candace can't wait to dig in with you. Go to candace.com to sign up for email updates so you'll always be first to know when new episodes drop. Life is like a rollercoaster , but it's better when we go through it together! Connect with Candace and Jason Candace on Instagram @candacecbure Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Jason on IG: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ Jason on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/Jasonvrcounselor Website: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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How Do you Want To Be Remembered?

May 500:37:09Summary ready

Have you ever watched someone approach the end of their life and thought, I want that? Not the dying part, but the confidence. The peace. The sense that they lived life well and they knew it. In this final episode of the season, Candace and Francis Chan get honest about what it takes to make it to the end — and what it costs to walk away. Francis opens with something he does not say lightly. He tells Candace he is proud of her. Not in a way that comes from someone distant, but from someone who has watched her life up close for decades and seen a woman who kept choosing the same thing over and over again. She kept choosing God. And he encourages her — with the warmth of someone who has buried friends and sat with people on their deathbeds — to keep going. The enemy is crafty. The people who fall away are not strangers. They are people who were there. And yet there is a reason Peter said, "Where else would we go?" They talk about heaven, about what the fullness of God actually feels like, and about a man named Alan who is dying as they record the episode. Francis asked if he could FaceTime Alan into a chapel of 1,000 students — and Alan said yes. Watch the episode to catch the whole conversation! Connect with Candace and Francis Candace on Instagram @candacecbure Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Francis on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/p/DWT8kswCPMj/ Francis on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@CrazyLoveMinistries Website: https://www.crazylove.org/ Sponsors For This Episode NuEthix https://nuethix.com/collections/candaces-favorites IFCJ ifcj.com PHD Call 864-644-1900 to book your consultation / https://myphdweightloss.com/ 316 Financial https://bank316.com/candace-cameron-bure GCU gcu.edu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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What Happens When God Shows Up?

Apr 2800:48:23Summary ready

Have you ever felt such overwhelming joy that it surprised you? This week, Candace and Francis Chan talk about what it really looks and feels like to give from overflow, not obligation, and why the difference between those two starting places changes everything. Francis brings personal stories from Uganda, Ethiopia, and a village in Burma. He talks about watching women who had lived in the worst conditions imaginable graduate in caps and gowns, jumping for joy, and what it did to him to be a small part of that. He is honest about the tension too: about the times he has served from insecurity rather than fullness, and about what it means to feel pain deeply while also knowing genuine joy. Listener Cammie asks a real question: what do you do when you want to pursue God but can't find the motivation? Francis and Candace answer with something honest and practical, and a little convicting. What else is here? Some thoughts on fasting from Candace….and yes, Francis wants a role in a Christmas movie! Connect with Candace and Francis Candace on Instagram @candacecbure Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Francis on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/p/DWT8kswCPMj/ Francis on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@CrazyLoveMinistries Website: https://www.crazylove.org/ Sponsors For This Episode Vanman anman.shop/bure and use code BURE for 15% off IFCJ ifcj.com Lovebird lovebirdfoods.com/bure and use code BURE for 25% off 316 Financial bank316.com/ccbGCU gcu.edu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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What Francis Learned About Mountain Biking!

Apr 2100:45:07Summary ready

There is a difference between knowing the gospel and being moved by it. In this conversation with Pastor Francis Chan, that difference becomes hard to miss. What starts as a moment of raw honesty as Francis watches Candace respond to the gospel with tears opens into something much bigger: what it actually means to stay inside the love of God, not just visit it. Francis shares the mountain biking story from his new book (written with his daughter Mercy) that says everything about where we fix our eyes and what happens when we don't. They talk about the distinction between conviction from the Holy Spirit and condemnation from the enemy, why those two things feel similar but lead in completely different directions, and what it looks like to keep coming back to the gospel like it's the first time you've heard it. A listener named Candice (with an i) asks about scripture for recurring struggles, and Francis answers with the kind of honesty that actually helps. And Candace shares a season of her own life when she wanted God at arm's length and knew exactly why. The awkward line breaks from what looks like a copy-paste from a PDF or narrow text box are all cleaned up! Connect with Candace and Francis Candace on Instagram @candacecbure Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Francis on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/p/DWT8kswCPMj/ Francis on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@CrazyLoveMinistries Website: https://www.crazylove.org/ Sponsors For This Episode Lovebird lovebirdfoods.com/bure and use code BURE for 25% off IFCJ ifcj.com 316 Financial bank316.com/ccb, Vanman vanman.shop/bure and use code BURE for 15% off NuEthix https://nuethix.com/collections/candaces-favorites Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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All episodes

Sometimes We're Clueless!

Special Guest Andy Schoonover: What if your burden was actually your calling?

Let’s Get Practical: Conflict, Needs, and the Communication Types

Do You Make People Feel Safe?

How to Be Honest Without Losing the Relationship

How Communication Changes Everything

What If Better Communication Could Change Everything? A New Series with Jason VanRuler

How Do you Want To Be Remembered?

What Happens When God Shows Up?

What Francis Learned About Mountain Biking!