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Now that I'm not enjoying, like, the extra time. Okay, yeah, I'm not enjoying that. We've been together a lot. And four, in case anyone needs a reminder, is a lot. Four is a lot of children.
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And, Liz, there's something from us. Growing up with five kids and mom did not buy unhealthy food very often. So, like, if there was a Rice Krispie and she bought Rice Krispie treats, you had one day to get the Rice Krispie treated. Your mom time off starts now.
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Welcome back to the carpool podcast with Kelly and Liz. Hey, Liz, you sound different in the new year.
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Do I sound different in the new year? Do I sound different because I'm in a new decade of my life? I'm 30 years old.
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The way that 30, flirty and thriving is just not what I thought it would be.
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Oh, this is not how it was portrayed in the films.
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Which is fine. Which is fine. But I would say, like, I would say the majority of women are not 30, flirty and thriving. We're like 30, tired and overstimulated.
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Yeah, no, for sure. I mean, like, it just rhyme quite as well.
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When do you think you were the most flirty and thriving?
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Oh, totally. When I was like. Well, I've gotta say when I was like, 24, because I was in a relationship with Maddie from, like, you know, we met when I was about to turn 25, so. But I really. I really feel like my 25, 26, 27 was like my 30, flirty, thriving time. Not that I was flirting, but I was just like, I was exuding that energy, you know, flirting with life.
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You know what I mean?
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Flirting with life.
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Truthfully, I think I had a little bit at like, 17. I don't think I've had it since, but I think. I think, like, I will be doing something like my early 40s like, I'm holding on to my early 40s. I'm holding 40s for that.
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Yeah. 40, I think, is going to be, you know. I know. I. I'm feeling really good about my 30s, actually. I'm really excited for them. Like my. At the end of my 30s.
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Yeah.
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Be. I think, I think 40 is the new 30. Flirty and thriving. I really do.
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Totally, totally.
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40. 40. I don't know. I'll have to think on that. I'll never come back to that. But anyways, 20, 25, it's our first episode back. I'm happy to be back. We're back to work.
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Yeah.
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Maternity leave is over. Yep. It's time to get back to work.
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And for anyone wondering, like, haven't you guys, like, kind of been working? It's. It's a yes and a no. I mean, mainly no, though. We have been staying afloat, but like, so much of being able to stay afloat is because, like, we've built a business, we've built an audience, but like, the audience needs to be nurtured. Again, totally.
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Like, are you. Biz is suffering? Are you crying? Yeah. So I feel like, need to be.
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Out, you know, it's. Yeah, you see us on stories, but like, we do. So, I mean, you know us, we're like, we're always grinding. Where do we. Doing so many back end things that have literally. They're dry as a bone.
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They're dry as a bone. They need to be nurtured, they need to be watered, they need to be loved.
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Yeah. So I'm really looking forward to 25, like, in a big way. It's just no one. We're not having babies, we're not getting married, we're not moving. Like, all the boxes are literally checked.
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All the boxes are checked. So I'm. I'm so ready for a boring year in my, in my life. I. I want an exciting year for the car, mom and the carpool. But, like, my personal life, I don't need anything dramatic to happen.
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Let's just talk a little bit. I mean, I know everyone's like, oh, we're tired of New Year's stuff, but just.
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What.
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While we're here. Because it's also never too late. Like, if you're like, oh, I already missed the New Year's hype. No, you didn't.
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No.
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First things first. You have a word of the year.
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Boring. That's not my word of the year.
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No, but I want. You mean slow. Slow.
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I want routine, I want order. I want to just sort of like, figure out who I am on a. On a. On a day to day with two kids. How about you?
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Mine's invest.
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Yeah.
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Invest in the business, invest in people. Invest in my health, my kids, my husband, my sister. Just invest.
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Wow.
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That is time, energy and money into people, into things. People, places and things.
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Yeah, I'm really excited about it and I think that's an excellent word for you.
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I also, like, I just like, you know, I'm such a goal person and like, Tyler sometimes gets so frustrated with me because especially like, when we ever. We talk about, like, financial goals, I'm like, well, what's the goal? Like, what's the number, though? Like, how, like, how much money should we save this month? Or like. And he's just like, I don't know. He's like, let's just like, try to, like, be mindful. I'm like, no, I need a number.
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Yeah, you need a tangible. You need an action item.
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I need an action item. He doesn't get that about me. And like, that's how I am with every aspect of my life. I need an action item. So I just saw this thing on reels. Hilarious idea. Make a bingo card for your year.
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Oh, cute.
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Yeah. Everyone's like, that wasn't on my bingo cards. Like, obviously, you know, we can't predict, like, all the things. But I'm not, I'm not saying, like, you know, what would be like. I'm not saying like, Taylor Swift pregnant with triplets on my bingo card, but I'm saying, like, things that are. Would be in Kelly Stumpy's life that I'd like to see on my bingo card. Do you want to make one with me?
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Sure.
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Okay.
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Like right now or.
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No, no, no, no.
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Okay. Okay. And we'll just see who gets bingo first.
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I just think that'd be fun.
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Okay. Yeah, I'm down. I like that. What are some of your tangible action items that you're trying to work on for the new year? Oh, well, how are we investing in the people, places and things?
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Well, some are secret projects, of course.
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Always, always a bigger project.
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But, you know, I'm looking to really, like, up the health game a little bit.
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Totally.
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And I just want to be like, this is the first time in my life, and I'm being so serious when I say this. This is the first time in my life that I'm looking at health from like a. I want to be healthy for my kids and I want to live a long life. Then I want to be skinny. Like, I want to Be strong. And like, I want to, like, feel like I can keep up with my kids. And I've just, like, really, I mean, my body just feels, every part of my body feels very weak.
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Yeah.
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Because it is, you know, my abs are on my sides. Like, my back always hurts because, like, I, I don't do anything. But I have been working out slightly more consistently, so I am proud of myself for that. But, like, now I just, there's another layer of my goal for it.
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I think we could all adopt that mindset a little bit and I think it would be a lot less of a toxic thing and like, taboo thing to talk about eating healthy, working out. And it's because it's to be a healthy person and not just a number on a scale.
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Yeah.
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And I, I, I'm with you totally.
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Like, I really, like, I'm so, like, like, it's fine. Like, I don't care about, like, honestly, my clothes fit pretty good right now because, like, you know, I've just finally, like, grown up and like, bought the size that I am, not the size that I was. So I'm feeling good. I just need to, I just want to feel strong, you know?
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Yeah.
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Like, I'm craving, like, that feeling and I'm just so excited to, like. And I think, like, this summer I was just so miserable and my kids wanted to do so many active things in the summer, and I was like, oh my gosh, I'm so miserable because I was so pregnant and I just, like, want to run around in the field with my kids.
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I know.
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You know, I really need to do, I need to get a good sports bra because I do not have like a, like a, you know, tie them down kind of sports bra.
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I'll just say, I know. And it's tough when you're breastfeeding to put on that, to put on that sports bra. It's such an ordeal. Something that I'm doing and this goes along with the sports bras because I'm with you is Maddie and I have both decided that we are going to run or walk one mile every day. I mean, I'm not gonna say I'm gonna do it every day in 2025. But here's the thing. We're both struggling. We, we were such workout for 45 minutes to an hour every single day kind of people. And since having kids and, and having a lot going on, it's been like, oh, well, if I don't have time for an hour long workout, I guess I won't do anything. And it's been kind of like this bad habit. And so I was like, look, I'm not gonna say I'm gonna be able to work out for 30 minutes, 45 minutes every single day. You can't tell me I can't find. It'll take me 10 minutes to run a mile. It'll take me 20 minutes to walk a mile. You can't tell me I can't find 10 to 20 minutes in my day somewhere to force that. And then if I work out longer, excellent. If not, the bare minimum in my world has been checked.
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So have you done it yet today?
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No, I still need to. And it's because I was going to do it at mom's house, but I don't have a bra that is. I can run in.
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Right. So that's so. So it's all coming back to needing a sports bra.
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It's. Well, I have. I have a sports bra. Yeah. Is. Get a sports bra.
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Get a good sports bra.
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I do have a sports bra. I just didn't have it on right. Because it's the breastfeeding of it all and. Yeah. But no, I still need to do it today.
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Okay. I'm excited about that.
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Clock's a ticking.
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I know. I'm excited about that for you. I agree. It's like, just. It's just do it quick and dirty. Be done.
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Be done. At least that's the bare minimum you have done.
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Be done. So that's a big one. Some more fun goals I have is I really want to bake more. I tell you, I got a food scale. Have I told the carpals I got a food scale recently? Because.
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Huge.
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I've spoken before.
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Huge development, Cal.
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Well, I spoke about this before because I'm a. I'm a good cook. I don't even. I. I'm a decent cook. I don't follow recipes a lot. Like, you know, I'm just kind of like, I understand how. I understand how food works. Baking is so unbelievably annoying because I'll be like, oh, well, I'm baking these cookies. But, like, I have an extra, like, half stick of butter. Like, I'll just put them in the cookies because then they'll taste better. Because, like, if I was making a pan sauce, I would just. The more butter, the better.
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Yeah.
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Baking's like, oh, no, now they're. Now. Now they're hockey pucks.
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And you're like, yeah.
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What?
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How did that happen? I know. Baking is a science, and a food scale is the best way to bake with, like, Your measure. Measuring cup doesn't cut it. A food skill is so life changing.
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So I bought a food scale and I. Then I made so because of this ambitious kitchen cookbook.
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Like, everyone ordered it.
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Everyone needs to buy it because the recipes are. They're just what they say they are. They're ambitious, but they're attainable because I've been making them. But, like, I made these iced lemon cookies, and let me be clear, it took me two hours.
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Whoa.
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But I accomplished it. And they were. I did my food scale. I measured it out. They were amazing.
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They sound amazing.
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I know. No one in my family liked them, so it's. Unfortunately, I had to eat them all.
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Yeah. That is.
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That's another part of the health journey. I just also feel like around this holiday season, like, my toxic trait is, like, if there's something in my house, the only way is to get rid of it as quickly as possible. And somehow, like, that is in my mind. It's like, I just have to finish these cookies. It's like, why, Kelly? So that's what I need. I need to rewire my brain to be like. Or you have two cookies every day for the next week and you're just a rock star instead of saying dying 10.
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I do, Kelly. You know what I think it is because I do the same thing. This could just be a thing that happens. But I think that there's something from us. Growing up with five kids, and mom did not buy unhealthy food very often. So, like, if there was a Rice Krispie, if she bought Rice Krispie treats, you had one day to get the Rice Krispie treat in or else someone else was gonna eat it. So, like, sweets never lasted in our. In our house because we all had to, like, snag it immediately because someone else was gonna eat it.
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No, totally. And so many of those things, so toxic, either come in a pack of, like, six or a pack of eight. So then it would be like, everyone would get one, somebody would get two or somebody. It's like everyone would get one, and then some of us would get three. But, like, there was never. It was not. No one comes in a pack of 10.
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No. No one's ever. Yeah. It's never fair.
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I'm pretty sure Fruit Roll Ups are like a pack of sex or like.
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No, they are. Yeah.
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And every once in a blue moon, Chris will just pick one up at the store.
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Yeah. Yeah. I would see, like, my friends or would have, you know, stuff like Twinkies in their. In their pantry all the time. And like, how do you regularly have Twinkies? Like, they would be gone before they came out of the grocery bag.
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And see, I don't know which one's better, which one's worse.
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No, that's, there's that. I don't know because I do think.
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There was a level of like, if there's a Twinkie, I'm going to eat it because like that's not something.
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But I'm craving it. But I have to have the Twinkie right now because it's here. Yeah. So we might have a toxic relationship with food and that's something we might need to explore. But it's fine. But it's. We're fine. So.
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So, yeah, baking, you know, just like typical, like be a better person. Like read more, pray more, totally give more love more. You know, just generic stuff like that. And then I've got some huge business goals but I can't share them yet. Yeah, but they're like iconic. Like they're iconic.
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Stay tuned.
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Aren't they iconic?
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Iconic, yeah.
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Well, anyways, what else do we have on today's episode?
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Here's what I want to talk about. On today's episode. I want to talk about my 30th birthday party.
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Oh yeah. That's probably why people are tuning in, guys.
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It let me back up. Was my 30th birthday. We had a murder mystery dinner party at my parents house. It was a blast. It was 1920s themed. Everyone dressed up to the nines. The, the Grayson played it all. God bless Grayson. She did such an incredible job. She sent out attire requirements and it was 1920s formal. Everyone delivered and it was my family and a couple of my girlfriends and their husbands and two of my aunts and uncles. Is that everyone? Yeah. So here's, here are some notes I have for it. First of all, it was so much fun. Would recommend. However, I think a murder mystery party will only be fun if you're with people you are very comfortable with and everyone gets full blown into character.
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Totally. Because there's nothing worse than a, like, there's nothing more frustrating when you're like trying to play a game with somebody and like they're not taking it seriously.
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Yeah.
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They're like, this is like, oh, it's a joke.
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It's like it's not a joke and a joke out of it. No. The people who are like the, the stars of the show were of course the theater. Theater kids. Chris, you know, Chris always had had to have a prop. She's a, she's a prop comic, apparently. She always had a pad of a problem in her hand. Our brother or our sister's boyfriend, Drew, he got very into it. He had the most incredible 20s Chicago accent I've ever heard.
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He was iconic.
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Straight. Straight out of the 20s. Maddie was funny. You were funny, Cal.
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Well, you know, you got it.
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You ad libbed a lot.
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I'm a performer.
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You're a performer.
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You know, I hate a script.
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It was so much fun. So what I recommend. Now, the other thing I would recommend is, and this is something that Grayson discovered as she was going through it, because she planned it all. So you buy a kit, right? And the kit has everyone's character. It. It has scripts. Like, that's how it works. But she was going through it, and she's like, okay, so there's different rounds, and each round, everyone says something that leads you to who. Who the murderer is. And she was like, well, this is gonna be really weird if we're all just, like, standing around and doing it. So she was like, well, if it's gonna be a dinner party, why don't we have each round coincide with a course of our meal? Flowed excellently.
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Could you.
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Could you imagine if we were all just, like, standing there looking at each other or like, some people had to go to the bathroom or, like, going to the bar? It just wouldn't have flowed. So I thought that having it coincide with the courses of the dinner was very helpful.
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Totally.
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No one guessed the murderer was our brother Craig. Craig was also hilarious during the entire thing.
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Yeah.
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So it was great. It was everything.
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Your outfit was iconic. We also got a photographer because at some point, if you're gonna do the dang thing, capture it.
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And that's the other thing. Capture it. We got more family photos than we've honestly gotten all year, which is one and I. Any big events like that, like, now mom wants to do a seven 60s, 70s.
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Yeah. Mom's like, we need more costume parties.
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Mom wants more costume parties. We're like, we're getting a photographer every single time.
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Yeah.
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So it was iconic. It was so much fun.
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Yeah. I had an absolute blast. I mean, I think that my biggest takeaway is I just cannot be, like, a yellow blonde. Like, that's just not my color.
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No. Yeah.
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Like, looked so, like, let's say, like, God knew what he was doing. Like, making me a brunette. Like, thank you, you. Because I'm not a golden blonde. And I really thought. I, like, really thought it was gonna look good on me. And it looked. And I'm like, look, it just. It It. It didn't work.
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The hairstyle doesn't help either. Certainly not that 1920s, like, Short Bob, But Mom.
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Amazing. So what's up with her?
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Well, that's. She's toxic, though. You can't. You can't look at Chris and assume that you're gonna have a similar outcome.
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Yeah, but it's been like, such. I mean, truthfully, it's been such a whirlwind of, like, the last couple of weeks. I did want to go back, if that's okay with you, Elizabeth, to Christmas for a second, because I want to just, like, check in, make sure everyone, like, made their Christmas notes. And I was gonna read some of my Christmas notes that I had for the year. So if you don't know our mom, she's a big note taker. And there's. There's something very helpful about, like, taking notes on, like, what worked, what didn't. It's like, whenever we have a party or a holiday, mom gets out her note pen the next day, calls everybody and says, what worked, what didn't. Like, we're also a family who's, like, I guess, going after perfection and can take criticism well.
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Yeah.
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And so now I have no problem critiquing myself. So this is not about, like. This is about the Christmas season specifically. And here's all I did. I just did a notes app in my phone because I have horrible handwriting. You know, like, we'll fight over mom's notes one day. Like, her handwritten notes. I'm like, my kids will go to my icloud. You know, it's just not good. Okay, here are my highs. I said, we went to a movie on the 23rd of December. We took George and Hattie to their first movie. It was a way to. We took Fred, too. We left Libby. It was a way to kick off the Christmas time. A movie on the 23rd. Hit.
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Love it.
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We'll do again. And then I just, like, wrote some other just, like, random things. I put some lows wrapping. I'm just not wrapping presents next year. It's a big low for me. My presence looked like crap. I hate doing it. I'm gonna hire it out.
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Okay. I think I like wrapping presents. I'm not good at it, but it brings me joy.
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And, you know, I'm just also, like, I could have sat there for an afternoon and did, like, six consultations, served people, paid for the rapping girl. Like, it's just like, that's what I need to do.
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Yeah.
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So that's what I'm working On. I need to be much more organized with my kids gifts. I was all over the place. You think you're doing yourself a favor by like buying all year? You're not. Or maybe you are, maybe you are. But I need to be taking inventory more often.
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Yeah.
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Of what I have, what I don't. Okay, here's what I said about Christmas Day. I'm not going to read all my notes. I just want to give you the highlights for Christmas Day. Ramen bowls were fun and easy. Prep the chuck roast on the 23rd, then have sassy ramen fixing. Could be a good new tradition. Don't forget to get a bottle of wine for you because I didn't have anything to drink on Christmas trash. But we made these. So it's just like that was like a fun, easy thing that we made because it was just my family at home. I had a chuck roast, we made ramen. I had a chili oil and like, you know, a soft boiled egg into mine. And the kids just ate ramen noodles and chuck roast.
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Yeah.
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Because they're not as fun as sounds.
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Delicious.
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So anyway, we had highs, we had lows. I'm excited for next year. I'm most mostly excited to not do it again for a year though.
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One of my big notes was like at mom's house, open presents for the kids nearly immediately because that's all they wanted back. And also whatever gift they're the end the grandparents, Christmas. Make sure it's either pre assembled or very easy to open and assemble. Slash you have batteries. Like James opened this roller coat, this Hot Wheels racetrack and it was just like so much to put together. And it's like, okay, well we're not gonna get this out right now.
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And so many pieces that probably won't come home with you.
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That's the other thing. So I don't know what those gifts should be, but just like, like I gave him some Spider man action figures he loves. Would have been a great gift to have gotten there.
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Yeah. You know, I'll definitely be more mindful about that.
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Yeah, me too. Okay, well, is that all we have to say about Christmas?
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We didn't do anything for New Year, which is fine. Not really a New Year's Eve.
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I saw a reel and it was like, if you are asking a parent of young children what they're doing, why? What they're doing for New Year's, it's like asking a British person what they're doing on the 4th of July.
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LOL.
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Like nothing. Absolutely nothing. It's just another day. Wouldn't consider doing anything. Nothing is happening.
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Well, let's just say, let's just call a spade a spade. I am not a fan of how New Year's and Christmas fell this year because my kids didn't go back to school till the 6th.
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Yeah.
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And I feel. So that's like the latest it could possibly be. I really do. Because like they just like, oh, we'll give them Thursday, Friday off too. But like if the, if the first would have been on a Sunday, we would have gone to school on the second.
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Yeah.
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So I don't know if everyone else was like that. I could not believe that their school wasn't open Thursday, Friday.
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Well, in my area, I'm driving. Kids are back to, kids are back to school on the 2nd. So yeah, I think that's how it should be. That's how I think for a lot.
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Of people it is now that I'm not enjoying like the extra time. Okay. Yeah, I'm not enjoying that. We've been together a lot.
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A lot. Yeah.
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And four, in case anyone needs a reminder, is a lot. Four is a lot of children.
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Yeah, for sure. For sure. And today's episode is brought to you by Zoc. Doc. Why is it that when we need a new doctor, our first instinct is to post in the group chat? Anyone know a good PCP or OB gyn? I'm totally guilty of doing it, but I always end up finding out the recommendation is not a network or the office is too far from home or whatever. So enter ZocDoc. ZocDoc is a free app and website where you can search and compare high quality in network doctors and click to instantly book an appointment. We're talking about booking in network appointments with more than a hundred thousand doctors across every specialty from mental health to dental health, primary care to urgent care, and more. You can filter for doctors who take your insurance, are located nearby and are good fit for any medical need you may have. So stop putting off doctor's appointments and go to Zocdoc.com carpool to find and instantly book a top rated doctor today. That's z o c-o c.com carpool zocdoc.com carpool so I have kind of a parenting hack that I recently learned from none other than Craig Sentrup, our father.
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Let's hear it.
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So we were, we were talking and I, he was telling me how him and mom always had weekly date nights. Every Thursday they would get a babysitter. They had the same girl. She knew every single Thursday she had a guaranteed job from 5:30 to 9. Whatever it was, it worked for mom and dad to work for the babysitter. We knew it was coming. However, dad recently told me that sometimes they wouldn't actually leave the house. They would walk out the front door as if they were going on their date night and then sneak in the basement so they could like get stuff done at home without us knowing that they were there and without us bothering them. And like we were still with the babysitter, it was still normal but like they literally snuck back in the house or maybe they just didn't feel like going out or the weather was crappy or whatever. They would just hang out in the basement. And the babysitter knew not to take us into the basement.
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I did not know that.
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First time I'm ever hearing about it.
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So are you considering.
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So here's what I like about it. Number one, I like about. I like the consistency. And I'm not ready to have a like a non family BabySitter because my 15, my kids age is apart or like it's very, very hard for anyone to deal with, let alone myself or let alone someone else, including myself. So I do like the idea though of having every Thursday night, every Friday night, whatever it is, having a date night scheduled that way. Maybe you go see a movie, maybe you go out to dinner, maybe you and your husband go to the gym together. Like maybe you're just staying home, maybe you're going for a drive, I don't know. But whatever it is, it like forces you to get out and do something. And I think it's probably very good and healthy for a relationship also. Then your babysitter always knows, it's like built into their schedule as well. So I really like the idea. And I mean I don't have a walkout basement, like not an option for me to sneak back in my house in that way. But I do think that's a very good hack.
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I think it's a good hack. I've never gotten on the weekly date night trend grind. I don't know. I do, I mean I think like a regular date nights are important. I don't like the pressure of a week every week though.
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And I, that's why I feel like, well then you don't go out to dinner. It doesn't have to be a whole thing. Sometimes you just go for a walk, you go to the gym, you go to, you know. Yeah, you sneak back in your basement. I know, I don't know.
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I have a lot of guilt around that too. I think it's also. And I'm not saying, like, well, I'm sure. Yeah. But I think it's different when, like. Because mom also didn't work. So it's like sometimes I'm like, I'm gone all day.
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Yeah.
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And then I. Then I'm leaving, you know, one night a week. Let alone, like, if we have something on like a Saturday. I don't know, I go back and forth. I mean, I get that. I think that advice is like, tale as old as time. But. And I do every other week.
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Every other week.
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I think every other week feels like a little bit more attainable for me and easier for me to stomach.
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Yeah. That's fair.
A
Also, like, what the heck? And Tyler are Tyler and I talking about from last week to this week?
B
Just like. Well, you know what? I don't know. I'm sure mom was. Had some guilt around it, you know, dad never did.
A
Mom went kicking. And mom always says that mom went kicking and screaming on date nights, but dad made her go and look at them now and look at them now.
B
So it's Mark alive.
A
No. So I get it. I. No, I know, I know.
B
So if it was up to her, they wouldn't have done it, but dad was like, no, we're gonna do it. It's important. And they have a beautiful relationship. I'm not saying it's exclusively because of weekly date nights, but I'm gonna say it probably didn't hurt.
A
I have a fast lane philosophy.
B
Okay.
A
That's like, kind of really deep. And actually, Tyler told me about it would have been a good thing to him to say for our next date night. I don't know how this was coming up. I think we were just talking about just like, the highs and the lows of life in general. And I'm going to totally butcher the story, like, because I don't. Also, he gets so much of his information from TikTok. Like, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know who he got it from or, you know, I have no idea. But here's basically, I believe it's called a parable. But it's like this guy went to this person who, like, could grant wishes and was like, I want a ring that will make me. I don't know why the person wanted.
B
You gotta watch out for Tyler's parables because he told me a parable one time, and then I was watching Bluey and I was like, wait, that was the same parable from Bluey. So you never know so this guy.
A
Gets a ring, and he goes, this is a. This is a. A magic ring because it will make you sad when you're happy, and it will make you happy when you're sad. Okay, say that again. It makes you sad when you're happy and happy when you're sad. And the ring just says one thing on it. Do you know what it says?
B
No.
A
This too shall pass. Good times will pass, bad times. And that's just the wave of life. Somebody bring that up on your weekly date night. Put on your bingo card.
B
It's kind of a good one and also a bad one. But this. This too shall pass.
A
We're a little rusty, Elizabeth. We're a little rusty. We're a little rusty on the mic.
B
Yeah, sorry. I'm really. I'm really sitting on that one.
A
Yeah, no, this too shall pass.
B
This too shall pass.
A
And I've just been thinking about that. And, you know, with the ages of kids, too, you could think about with your kids, like, on a really hard day. This will pass. On a really good day. Yeah, it's gonna get hard again. It's gonna get hard again. It's gonna get easy again. And I think it's just. It's. It's riding the wave way totally.
B
It's always a wave, but you'll always look back on it and. And mostly see the good times is what I'm learning.
A
Speaking of kids, I'm on a major. I'm, like, totally changing around my life a little bit because we. This. Well, I just think this is, like, a small, tangible tip that I'm gonna do. But we recently went to this. What would you describe it, Elizabeth? It's like, barn party.
B
Oh, yeah.
A
It was like, just a giant barn party. And these people, they're our parents, friends, and they just. But they're big family people, and they literally. I have never met the people who own this barn before, but they, like, texted all their friends, was like, bring your children and your grandchildren. And dad was like, okay, we'll all be there. And, like, I'll be there.
B
Like, that's.
A
We're a lot of people. But, like, the guy doesn't care. Like, he just. He wants people to gather together. Like, love to see it.
B
Like, it was beautiful.
A
It was.
B
It was amazing.
A
And they also just, like, had things for the kids to do. So, like, they had, like, a food truck there. It's like that. That's what you ate. They had pony rides. But, like, my. My kid's favorite part was, like, this, like, a little thing I don't even know if they know that they did. And they had a little tray, a little ottoman, and on the ottoman or like a table, I guess they had a tray with printer paper and clickable markers.
B
So they had this beautiful coffee table and then this giant tray, and it just had little printer paper. And then it had these beautiful, like what, like silver vases. Like three silver vases with clickable pens, I think, or clickable markers. And maybe they had crayons and colored pencils too. And it was just my kids didn't.
A
Leave the coloring station. And like, my kids love to color, and I don't think I've been introducing printer paper enough to them. You know, we've got the coloring books, but George drew the most incredible pictures. Freaking artist. Who knew so many talents, that kid. And I also just. The markers felt like such a treat for them because we're like such a good, grand household because I tried to buy them pipsqueak markers and they lost all the caps in the first week. And I said, never again. And I'm like, these clickable markers are freaking genius. So I placed a clickable marker haul. And I already found the tray. Just found it in my house. Got the printer paper, and I'm leaving it on my kitchen table until I'm tired of looking at. Or I'm just gonna clean it up. And it's like, if you want a color, go there.
B
And because the way it was set up, because it was on in this like, pretty tray and it had these silver vases, you walk in there and you don't see kids coloring station. Like, if you look at it, you're like, oh, that's a kids color station. But your eye doesn't like, go to like, clutter. It looked very well. It was very intentional and it just looked. It was very nicely done.
A
Totally, totally.
B
That was. That was such a good hack.
A
Yeah. So that's what I'm up to these days. That. Making soups.
B
I love it. I'm getting rid of stuff. I'm purging cow. I. I think we all. I really think we all are. Or that, you know, it would be.
A
Probably a prime time to hit the goodwill. And I mean, as. As a purchaser, people are just cleaning stuff out.
B
People are purging, myself included. I saw this Instagram and it said. She says she's. She's minimal. Ish. So she's like. And you know, the less stuff you have, the less you have to pick up. We all know the things. But she was like, I have some Rules in my house. And a lot of people think my rules are really strict but my kids don't, don't know that I have these rules. She goes, everyone in my house gets two bath towels. No one needs. Parents included. No one needs more than two bath towels. One's clean, one's dirty. And she's like, my kids don't know that they only have two bath towels obviously. But that is, that is a system I put in place into my house and it works for me. And then she says like everyone has X amount of T shirts and pants. And like then she goes a little bit further but I'm like why do I have so many bath towels? I'm swimming in bath towels. So I just like want to look at different areas of my house and cut back where I can and just not feel that guilt of like well I registered for it. So I'm going to keep, I'm going to keep my 18 champagne, champagne flutes because mom told me that I needed 12 and then I needed to get six more in case six of them broke. And I'm swimming in champagne flutes. Swimming in them and, and towels.
A
I will take some of those champagne flutes though because I just had that girls party and I didn't have enough champagne flutes. Well, but I, but I mean, but I'm eight years into marriage.
B
Yeah, right. And I just used them for, I.
A
Took them out of the box for, for said party. You really should like register like I think we should like, you should like get a like re register at like 5 years.
B
The way I would have done things so differently.
A
You know, now that I'm 30, 40 and thriving, like now I know what I want. I didn't know what I want.
B
I was freaking 12.
A
I've never lived outside my parents house before.
B
I know you want silver vases for clickable markers. Not all this glass. Not all these. Not red wine, white wine coupe glasses, margarita glasses, champagne glasses, beer glasses. I'm, I have so many glasses I don't know what to do with myself swimming in them.
A
Yeah, I'm actually doing pretty good on the, on the clutter front. And one thing that I'm doing a good job of is I am using items like and I'm being very mindful about using items. It's like, oh, what if we just like used those today?
B
Yeah.
A
You know and like how many times have you thought about care creates contentment.
B
Over this Christmas break, it's almost changed my life.
A
And the dopamine hit that. Reorganizing a drawer equals a target like, and it's better.
B
It's better.
A
And I'm addicted to that.
B
That. Because you know what? This is terrible. I love the dopamine of buying something. I'll order it online and then it will come here, and I'm like, oh, God, now I gotta open the box. Now I gotta figure out where to put it. Now I gotta. You know, do I. I don't like. I don't like getting things. I just like buying them. And I. Then I don't want. Then I don't want to go through the process of what I'm supposed to do with them now.
A
Okay, that's kind of crazy, but I see what you mean.
B
Well, okay, I bought. I bought one of those Snackle boxes, right? Because I want to have a snackle box. And now that it's arrived, I'm like, great, I gotta take it out. I gotta take all this plastic out.
A
I gotta break down this box.
B
I gotta wash it. Then I gotta cut all the fruit like it is. It's such a good idea. And I'm excited to have one. But like, no, another thing I have. And where am I gonna put this? When I have 85 bath towels and 150 glasses? Where do I put my snackle box?
A
Oh, it's a good question. Well, Liz, are you ready for ditch the drive thru? We share some easy dinner recipes to mix it up to get you out of your dinner rush.
B
Sure am.
A
Well, I did a Costco hall and I. Inspiration just struck. That's not true. I saw this on Instagram. But Costco has so many good prepared proteins. Okay. And that's the key to throwing dinner together. I just feel like a prepared protein because I can open a canned veggie, I can boil some pasta, I can throw a sauce on a prepared protein, and they're good prepared proteins. So one they had was these packs of grilled chicken, like, strips, chips. And I was like. I looked at the ingredients and I'm like, it's clean as a whistle. Like, there's nothing. It's water and chicken. There's. I mean, it's not these, like, what I thought. I mean, canned chicken kind of gives me. I'm gonna be honest, a little bit of an ick. This is.
B
It's got a texture to it.
A
It's got a texture to it. It's pink. And they keep telling me not to eat pink chicken. And then they put it in the can. What is that about?
B
Yeah.
A
Only time. Only time I use canned chicken is in buffalo chicken dip. There's nothing that says it's the only time. And. And it's better. It's better.
B
Shredded chicken is just so easy to make in the crock pot. Like, why not just do that?
A
Okay. Well, neither. No, but this is grilled chicken. It's got to do.
B
I got you. I got you. Okay, so you got your grilled chicken.
A
I got my grilled chicken packets. You could just. Ahead of time, you could buy it, whatever you want to do. Heated it up in the pan like. Like one does. So simple. We're having wraps, but here's the wrap that I had. Love a wrap. First of all, grilled chicken, low calorie. So much protein. Protein, like, and I got my little food scale out, and I weighed 25 grams of 80 grams, which is 25 grams of protein.
B
Okay.
A
Feels good. Like, that's. Like that's gonna keep me full and breastfeeding. I need my nutrients. So I did that on a tortilla, and then I did a slice of pepper jack cheese smacks. And then this girl on Instagram, she does this little genius thing. She takes Buffalo chick, or what's it called? Buffalo Wild Wings. Garlic parmesan sauce. Sauce. First of all, that's an incredible sauce. It kind of tastes like Caesar and garlic parmesan. And she thins it out with a little skim milk, and then she takes a little medicine syringe like. Like what you would give your kids, Tylenol. And she drizzles it like this over this wrap just for the vibes.
B
That's a vibe thing, because that's wildly unnecessary. But I do like the idea of thinning it out because that sauce is very thick.
A
It's very thick. I'm telling you. She thins it out, but then it's. Then. Then it's a drizzle. Yeah, I learned how to fold a wrap too. I folded the ends, rolled it, and we had wraps.
B
All right, I know George wanted link.
A
Well, there's no link.
B
No. Send me the. The Instagram.
A
Let me just look her up. I don't want to, like, I feel like I'm not trying to take credit for this. Well, and I'm gonna also be honest with no, she did this in a wrap, but she has good recipes. And, like, you know, I'm. I'm trying to, like, lose, like, a little bit of weight, obviously, because I just have a baby. And you do start to realize that, like, I'm a pretty healthy e. Think I. I'm definitely eating, like, more high calorie food sometimes. Like, next thing you know, you're like, why is olive oil. A thousand calories?
B
What's that about? That's a croc. I know. And almonds so high in calorie. You're like, I thought I was doing.
A
Something healthy, but the thing is, I will. I don't care about that because, like, I can maintain eating what I want, eating, like, that kind of stuff. But, like, I need to be whatever. I don't need to.
B
I'm a. What do they call it? I'm a volume eater.
A
Such a volumator. I can't find it. It's like Michaela Fitness, though. But I feel like they're all called Michaela Fitness.
B
Did you save the reel or did you just see it, Liz?
A
I saved the reel, but I don't. My WI fi is, like, being skagged. I'm trying, like, not to over. Over do the bandwidth.
B
Yeah.
A
Or Instagram's desk down, because I'm trying to go to my saves and it's just not there.
B
There.
A
Okay, let me go to my following and type in Michaela Fitness.
B
And then you have to figure out how to spell Michaela, which is. There's a lot of ways. There's.
A
Why are there so many ways? What's the right way?
B
I don't know.
A
It's Thomas Fit.
B
Michaela Thomas.
A
But it's M. A Kayla. Ma. Kayla.
B
Makayla. See, that was not. That was not on any of my options of the proper way to spell Michaela.
A
No, it's.
B
Either way, it's at for sure.
A
Am I.
B
And then is it. Is it C or is it K? It's K. It's K. It's probably K.
A
No, this is Maa.
B
Michaela.
A
Okay, Michaela. She's got good recipes. Good recipes. Okay.
B
Michaela, Thomas Fit.
A
I mean, she has 2 million followers. Like, she doesn't need me to tell her. She's got, like. She knows what she's got.
B
Yeah, okay.
A
But, yeah, go follow her. And I just like this little syringe hack she's doing. I'm telling you, it's cute.
B
Followed. Oh, that food looks incredible.
A
No, that's what I'm saying.
B
Garlic parm, chicken wrap. I'm done.
A
And that's. That's what I made, Elizabeth. I made it a little different, but that's what I made. I just made it lazier. You know, I couldn't even take her, like, quick, easy meal brown. But I said, let's turn it down or not. She did bacon. I'm not doing bacon.
B
I love it.
A
Yeah.
B
Okay, cool. Okay, well, is that all the things we have to talk about, I think so we're gonna hit you hard with the auto and auto content when we are like really, really hitting it hard. Back to work. Volkswagen buzzes are hitting the dealerships. So we're waiting for our local dealership to get one and then we're really, really excited about that one. Did we ever talk about the Armada that came out? I'm excited. I'm gonna drive one of those.
A
The new Armada has been released. You're much more excited than I, I don't know. I think you're not excited. You just want to drive something different.
B
I want. Okay. I love. No, I am excited. And here's why. Why I drive demo cars. I'm not in a position like Kelly, where I need to like buy a car because I only have two kids. I can drive a variety of cars. The only full size SUV that I would have the option to drive is a Nissan Armada. It's not the 24 is the. The last design is not very good. It was recently designed in 25. I'm hopeful. I'm excited to drive one. I want to try the full size thing because I'm not gonna lie, I'm feeling a little bit tight in my, my Pathfinder because I don't have the bench seat and I really don't like riding with my third row down all the time. But I don't really have the option so I just, I need a little bit more room.
A
I'm okay with the Nissan Armada. We sent nurse into the reveal. I think I find it a little over styled and it's just like I just. My gripes with my gripes with the armada. Sequoia QX80 is like, if you have to drive a car that big, it should be way more car seat friendly. That's all I'm gonna say. And it should be way more like second and third row for like. It just doesn't really. It's just like, it's all this like, it's so much wasted space. I'll say that to get 12 miles per gallon, probably 14. 14 miles per gallon.
B
Well, I'm hopefully gonna drive one. It's a demo Cal. I'm gonna go on the journey and I'm gonna report back. It's called creating content. No.
A
And you're.
B
And it's called investigative journalism. And it's almost as if it's my job.
A
You're such a Nissan girl too.
B
I love the Pathfinder. I'm such a Nissan girl.
A
Have we spoken about the drama that like Nissan and Honda are gonna cut, like, come together. I was asking.
B
Okay.
A
If you don't know, like, the headline that came out was like, Nissan and Honda, like, want to join forces. Literally collapse, but like, in a permanent way.
B
That's crazy. That's hu. It's huge.
A
They'll become the third largest automaker in the world if they do that.
B
Wow.
A
And I was asking and like, sounds like a really good move for Nissan. I don't think it hurts Honda. I actually like it all around. It would honestly be. I was talking to dad about it and Dad's like, yeah, it'd be huge.
B
Yeah, it's a good idea. Yeah.
A
There's so many, so many car brands. I'm exhausted with them. I mean, I mean there's just. There's a lot. But it's unclear if it would be like Lexus, Toyota thing or like, if it would be like, like a niece nutta.
B
Yeah. Nissan.
A
Han. It's not. What's their couple name?
B
What was the first one I said?
A
I don't know. It was better than the second one you said though. So we'll see. It's just like all rumblings right now. Nissanda.
B
Yeah. Yeah. I don't know what it means. I also think it could just be. It might not really change too much from the consumer perspective. You know, there's still Nissan dealerships, still Honda dealerships. We'll see.
A
Yeah.
B
But it's exciting. It's tea going on in the auto industry.
A
Yeah. So we'll have to report back more. What else happened over the break. Oh, like now you can like buy. Now some markets. You can buy officially by Han. Hyundai's on Amazon. It's a nothing burger as of right now. Like, it's like such a way to make a headline. But guys, it's just like, it's a nothing burger. It basically is a lead generator for new car dealerships.
B
Yeah.
A
When there's something to talk about, like when it arrives in two days with an Amazon bow on it, then I'll talk to you.
B
Yeah. This is just like, it's a headline.
A
It's do it from there. Go to the dealer's website. It's the same thing. You're not buying a car through Amazon. Amazon's a lead source. Like, like an Edmunds, a Cars.com and auto trader. Like, that's all that it is. No, I don't hate it. And I'm, I'm like, I like the idea of Amazon Auto.
B
Yeah.
A
There's something because I like innovation that excites yeah, but, you know, this too shall pass.
B
This truly, this too shall.
A
I feel like we're kind of all over the place. I feel like we're kind of hysterical. Depending on. I feel like it's.
B
I feel like it's what everyone has been needing.
A
I.
B
As consumer of podcasts, I've been straight up so frustrated with this break because it's like, someone put out something for me to listen to as a podcaster. It's been nice, but now I'm, like, really ready to get back. So I think it's just. It's to be expected.
A
We should consider not taking off the week that everybody takes off and then taking out the following week, because I think our podcast would have performed really well.
B
Well, that's a good point, because there's no. Put that. Put that down in your Christmas notes right now.
A
I'm going to do that.
B
Yeah. Take the week after Christmas all from podcast.
A
And is it.
B
I.
A
It's so hard because, like, and, like, when I was working with, like, some brands on my Instagram, they were like, oh, we don't want any ads to go live on the 23rd. People are checked out for Christmas, and I'm like, babe, my insights are through the roof right now.
B
I'm checked in. I am checked in. No one's working. No one's doing anything.
A
So I think that people are like, have an appetite for content. Okay, Christmas night notes. Record carpool episodes and don't take off, you lazy losers.
B
Yeah, okay. We will revisit that in a year.
A
We'll put it on our bingo card.
B
Put it on our bingo card. So, guys, thank you so much for listening to this chaotic episode of the Carpool Podcast. We will talk to you on Thursday.
A
Bye.
B
Thank you for listening to the Carpool Podcast with Kelly and Liz. Make sure you're subscribed so you never miss an episode. And if you enjoyed riding with us, tell everybody you know, there's room in.
A
The car for everyone.
Podcast Summary: The Carpool with Kelly and Lizz
Episode: **2025 WORDS OF THE YEAR: "SLOW" AND "INVEST"
Release Date: January 7, 2025
In the January 7, 2025 episode of "The Carpool with Kelly and Lizz," hosts Kelly Stumpe and Lizz St. John dive into their chosen "Words of the Year"—"Slow" and "Invest." As third-generation auto-industry experts and busy mothers, Kelly and Lizz use this platform to explore personal growth, family dynamics, and the latest in automotive news, all while maintaining their signature lighthearted and engaging conversation style.
Kelly introduces her word of the year, "Invest," emphasizing the various aspects she aims to invest in: her business, relationships, health, and family. She shares her desire to allocate time, energy, and resources more effectively:
Kelly [05:06]: "Invest in the business, invest in people. Invest in my health, my kids, my husband, my sister. Just invest."
Lizz selects "Slow" as her word, focusing on establishing routine and order in her day-to-day life with two children. She expresses a need to understand herself better amidst the chaos:
Lizz [04:52]: "I want routine, I want order. I want to just sort of like, figure out who I am on a day to day with two kids."
The sisters discuss the significance of these words in navigating their personal and professional lives, highlighting the balance between striving for growth and maintaining a steady pace.
Kelly delves into her health journey, revealing her commitment to becoming stronger and more energetic to keep up with her children:
Kelly [07:56]: "I really want to feel strong, you know? Like, I'm craving that feeling and I'm just so excited to..."
She shares practical steps she's taking, such as incorporating daily mile runs or walks, aligning with Lizz's similar goals:
Kelly [08:39]: "We're going to run or walk one mile every day... it's gotta take us 10 minutes to run a mile or 20 minutes to walk a mile."
Lizz echoes the importance of viewing health from a holistic perspective, not just focusing on weight but overall well-being:
Lizz [07:35]: "I think we could all adopt that mindset a little bit and it would be a lot less of a toxic thing to talk about eating healthy and working out."
Their conversation underscores the challenges of maintaining fitness routines amidst parenting responsibilities and offers relatable insights for listeners striving for similar goals.
Lizz recounts her memorable 30th birthday celebration, a 1920s-themed murder mystery dinner party hosted at her parents' house:
Lizz [14:22]: "We had a murder mystery dinner party at my parents' house. It was 1920s themed. Everyone dressed up to the nines."
She highlights the importance of organizing such events with close-knit, enthusiastic participants to ensure everyone immerses themselves in the theme:
Lizz [15:19]: "A murder mystery party will only be fun if you're with people you are very comfortable with and everyone gets fully into character."
Kelly adds personal anecdotes about participating and the humorous outcomes, reflecting on the joy and chaos that come with family gatherings:
Kelly [17:14]: "I had an absolute blast. I think that my biggest takeaway is I just cannot be, like, a yellow blonde. That's just not my color."
The sisters emphasize the value of creating lasting memories and capturing moments through photography, enhancing the familial bonds.
Kelly and Lizz share practical parenting tips inspired by their own experiences. Lizz discusses a weekly date night strategy inspired by their parents, emphasizing consistency for maintaining a healthy relationship:
Lizz [24:32]: "Having every Thursday night, every Friday night, whatever it is, having a date night scheduled forces you to get out and do something."
Kelly introduces an innovative coloring station setup inspired by a barn party, which keeps children entertained while maintaining an aesthetically pleasing environment:
Kelly [31:34]: "We had a little tray with printer paper and clicker markers. My kids didn't leave the coloring station."
They also touch on the importance of decluttering and organizing household items to reduce stress and create a more harmonious living space:
Kelly [35:00]: "I am using items like, 'Oh, what if we just used those today?'... Care creates contentment."
Their discussion offers listeners actionable strategies for managing household chaos and fostering a balanced family life.
As auto-industry aficionados, Kelly and Lizz transition into discussing the latest developments:
Lizz [42:14]: "We're waiting for our local dealership to get one and then we're really, really excited about that one."
Kelly [44:05]: "Nissan and Honda, like, want to join forces... they'll become the third largest automaker in the world if they do that."
Kelly [45:06]: "Hyundai's on Amazon. It's like a lead generator for new car dealerships."
Their analysis provides listeners with informed perspectives on significant industry shifts, reflecting their expertise and passion for automobiles.
In wrapping up the episode, Kelly and Lizz reflect on their journey and express enthusiasm for future content. They acknowledge the challenges of balancing personal lives with their podcasting endeavors but reaffirm their commitment to delivering engaging and informative episodes:
Kelly [46:55]: "Record carpool episodes and don't take off, you lazy losers."
They hint at more auto content in upcoming episodes, promising in-depth reviews and insights once they have hands-on experience with new models:
Lizz [42:14]: "Did we ever talk about the Armada that came out? I'm excited. I'm gonna drive one of those."
The sisters conclude with a heartfelt thanks to their listeners, encouraging subscriptions and word-of-mouth promotion to grow their community:
Kelly [47:38]: "If you enjoyed riding with us, tell everybody you know, there's room in the car for everyone."
Kelly on Investing:
"Invest in the business, invest in people. Invest in my health, my kids, my husband, my sister. Just invest."
[05:06]
Lizz on Finding Routine:
"I want routine, I want order. I want to just sort of like, figure out who I am on a day to day with two kids."
[04:52]
Lizz on Date Nights:
"Having every Thursday night, every Friday night, whatever it is, having a date night scheduled forces you to get out and do something."
[24:32]
Kelly on Health Goals:
"I really want to feel strong, you know? Like, I'm craving that feeling and I'm just so excited to..."
[07:56]
Closing Encouragement:
"If you enjoyed riding with us, tell everybody you know, there's room in the car for everyone."
[47:38]
This episode of "The Carpool with Kelly and Lizz" weaves together personal narratives, practical advice, and industry insights, offering a comprehensive look into the lives of two dynamic sisters balancing motherhood and professional passion. Whether discussing their resolutions for the year, sharing family milestones, or dissecting the latest auto news, Kelly and Lizz provide a relatable and informative experience for their listeners.