MAKE THE BROWN SUGAR POP-TART

Summary

Summary of "MAKE THE BROWN SUGAR POP-TART" Episode of The Carpool with Kelly and Lizz

In the November 12, 2024 episode of The Carpool with Kelly and Lizz, hosts Kelly Stumpe and Lizz St. John delve into a variety of personal anecdotes, holiday traditions, friendship dynamics, productivity tips, auto industry news, and heartfelt listener stories. This detailed summary captures the essence of their engaging and lighthearted conversation, enriched with notable quotes and timestamps for reference.

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Personal Updates and Postpartum Reflections

The episode opens with Kelly expressing a desire to shift their podcast's tone from recent complaints to a more positive outlook on motherhood. She candidly shares her struggle with a significant pimple, highlighting her journey through postpartum changes.

• Kelly (02:13): "I do want to just come on here and be like, no. Like, I love being a mom, and I love the newborn stage, and, like, I'm loving everything, so I want to be more positive."

This vulnerability sets the stage for a relatable discussion about the challenges and joys of motherhood.

Embracing Thanksgiving Traditions

Lizz reveals that Thanksgiving is her favorite holiday, appreciating the festive food and the absence of hosting duties.

• Lizz (05:30): "I just also don't host anything. I mean, I just show up to mom, so she asked me to bring like a salad at best."

Kelly echoes this sentiment, expressing her fondness for the holiday season's buildup.

• Kelly (10:24): "I think I love Christmas. Don't get me wrong. But I think I love the buildup of Christmas and the season of Christmas more than like maybe the day itself."

Crafting the Thankful Turkey

A significant portion of the episode focuses on Lizz's "thankful turkey" project, a Thanksgiving tradition where each family member shares something they're grateful for.

• Lizz (11:08): "I'm so determined to make this mother effing thankful turkey."

Kelly shares her own attempts to engage in the craft, highlighting the mental load and household distractions that often impede such projects.

• Kelly (13:14): "I think that it's definitely attainable. And I think that that doesn't look that hard to do, but I understand the mental load of it."

Navigating Friendships as Adults

Kelly and Lizz explore the complexities of forming friendships post-parenthood, likening it to navigating the dating scene anew.

• Kelly (18:40): "I feel like we're dating all over again. I'm like, how do we, like, seem cool?"

Lizz suggests leveraging their husband's sociable nature to facilitate new connections, emphasizing the challenges of balancing adult friendships with family dynamics.

• Liz (19:26): "Tyler could so, like, loosely. Barely know them or just, like, Tyler will just go up to a stranger and introduce himself."

Fast Lane Philosophy: Maximizing Morning Productivity

Kelly introduces her "fast lane philosophy," a strategy to achieve seven tasks by 11 a.m., dedicating one of these tasks to a meaningful goal beyond mundane chores.

• Kelly (11:08): "I'm giving this advice to myself, like, I have to decide what I want to get done that day. And that has to be my first priority."

This approach underscores the importance of prioritizing personal goals amidst the chaos of daily responsibilities.

Auto Industry News

Toyota Grand Highlander’s New Trim

Kelly and Lizz discuss Toyota's introduction of a new entry-level trim for the Grand Highlander, which boasts seating for eight and is priced $2,000 below the current model.

• Liz (33:09): "I think it's nice looking. I think it is spacious. I think they fixed a lot of things I didn't like with the Highlander."

However, both hosts express reservations about the vehicle's overall reception and interior design.

Digital Wallets in Cars

The conversation shifts to a Vera Mobility survey revealing that over half of American drivers are interested in their cars serving as digital wallets for seamless transactions.

• Liz (35:44): "It's a one, it's a done. It will taste better, no."

Kelly questions the practicality and current implementation of this technology.

• Kelly (36:19): "I just need to know a little. I just need to know, like, the..."

3D Printing for Auto Parts

Lizz brings up how Jay Leno utilizes 3D printing to create parts for vintage cars, sparking a discussion about the technology's applications and limitations.

• Liz (37:34): "Jay Leno has been using 3D printing to print parts for his, like, 1913 car."

Kelly admits her limited understanding of 3D printing, reflecting the hosts' shared need to stay informed about evolving automotive technologies.

Recipe Spotlight: Frisco Melt and Mississippi Roast

The hosts share their go-to recipes to inspire listeners looking to diversify their culinary repertoire.

• Kelly (40:12): "Oh, I'm going to bring it because you. I saved this one for. For this week."

Kelly introduces the Frisco Melt, a creative take on ground beef sandwiches.

• Liz (41:02): "It’s a very thin patty, cheese, thousand island sauce."

Lizz counters with her own Mississippi roast recipe, emphasizing flavorful ingredients like wildgrain sourdough and garlic aioli.

• Liz (41:52): "I'm making, like, a Mississippi roast."

Blake's Besties: Listener Stories of Loss

In the poignant "Blake's Besties" segment, Kelly and Lizz share heartfelt stories from listeners who have experienced the loss of twins or newborns, fostering a sense of community and support.

Sarah’s Story

Sarah recounts her painful experience of miscarrying identical twins and how a nurse's compassion provided solace during a difficult time.

• Sarah's Account (43:07): "The nurse came into the room to draw my blood and greatness by saying, hey, mom, hey, dad. And I know what's going on."

Kelly and Lizz commend the nurse's bedside manner, highlighting the importance of empathy in healthcare.

Lindsay’s Story

Lindsay shares her joy and subsequent heartbreak upon discovering her baby girl Emma Liana was stillborn, capturing the depth of parental love and loss.

• Lindsay's Account (46:46): "Emma was stillborn the next day, August 13, 2024. Giving birth to her was the hardest thing I've ever done."

The hosts express their condolences and appreciation for Lindsay's courage in sharing her story.

Inspirations and Life Philosophies

Martha Stewart Documentary

Kelly discusses a Martha Stewart documentary she's watching, reflecting on Stewart's journey from model to self-made billionaire and her influence on homemaking practices.

• Kelly (30:07): "I am really inspired by Martha Stewart right now."

The conversation explores the balance between perfectionism and practicality in maintaining a household.

Loving Your Neighbor

Lizz reminisces about their earlier discussions on neighborly love, drawing inspiration from fictional characters like Bree from Desperate Housewives.

• Liz (28:28): "I miss our talks about loving the neighbor."

Kelly and Lizz emphasize the value of community and kindness in everyday interactions.

Closing Thoughts and Final Recipes

As the episode concludes, Kelly and Lizz reiterate their favorite recipes and encourage listeners to experiment in the kitchen.

• Kelly (40:12): "I have another solution for ground beef, and that is a frisco melt."

• Liz (42:05): "I'm making, like, a Mississippi roast."

They invite listeners to share their own recipes and stories, fostering ongoing engagement and community support.

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The episode seamlessly blends personal narratives with practical advice and industry insights, offering listeners a comprehensive and heartfelt experience. Through honest conversations and shared experiences, Kelly and Lizz create a welcoming space for their audience to connect, learn, and find comfort.

Transcript

[Kelly]

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[Liz]

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[Kelly]

Welcome to the Carpool podcast with Kelly.

[Liz]

Like my sisters, they'll come over and next thing you know, Grayson's folding my laundry. She doesn't even know that she was meant to be folding my laundry. I'm excellent. I gave people to help me with stuff.

[Kelly]

Yeah. And Liz, when you don't have acne, which, you know, just like, recognize that because it's crazy how I can go film an ad to post on my Instagram story with no makeup on and I will not show my face right now. Your mom time off starts now. Welcome back to the Carpool podcast with Kelly and Liz.

[Liz]

I feel like this is a loaded question, but how are you?

[Kelly]

You know what? I feel like we have been a little bit complaining on the podcast lately. Just like, because our life is just like, kind of like. No, I do feel that way because it's just been kind of like life is. And like, kids are. Can be hard and like all this stuff and like, I just, like, want to like, hearing some of the stuff back. I don't take back anything that I have said, but I do want to just say, like, I don't want to just come on here and, like, complain all the time. Like, I want to come on here and be like, no. Like, I love being a mom, and I love the newborn stage, and, like, I'm loving everything, so I want to be more positive. With that being said, I could not be further in my ugly era than I am right now. And it's like, that's kind of something hard that I'm going through, but I'm trying to remain positive. But, like, the. The way that I have the most ginormous pimple on my face right now, and I don't know. I don't know what to do with it. And here's the thing. If you. This is a. Learn from my mistake. If you have a pimple right now, don't touch it. Put a pimple patch on it and let it be. Because if you touch it and if you pop it, you will make it 10 times worse. It will grow, it will turn red, and it will look worse, and you will feel no relief. So if that's you, don't touch it. Learn from my mistake.

[Liz]

So that's how you're doing. You took us on a roller coaster, so, yeah, we're not going to come on here and complain. We're setting the record straight, as you said. And did you try to wear silver earrings that didn't fix?

[Kelly]

No, I didn't. I didn't order any silver earrings. And, Kelly, I think that I just need. I need more than silver earrings. Silver is not going to cut it at this point. I need a spray tan.

[Liz]

You need a spray tan.

[Kelly]

You also need a facial.

[Liz]

Yeah, that'd be nice.

[Kelly]

And, like, some time for my red acne to go away.

[Liz]

I just think it's crazy that, you know, in a way, like, we're kind of doing this postpartum journey together, but also, In a way, 18 days is a big difference.

[Kelly]

It is so significant because, like, 18.

[Liz]

Days ago, I was unwell. Now I'm.

[Kelly]

Well, yeah. And I'm kind of unwell. And I need you to recognize. And sometimes I need you to recognize that a little bit more.

[Liz]

I'm reckon. No, I'm recognizing how. How unwell you are.

[Kelly]

How we're not in the same space. I just.

[Liz]

That's why I just said it, because, yeah, I. I think we're not in the same space. And you're gonna get through this.

[Kelly]

This too, shall Pass.

[Liz]

This too shall pass. And again, every journey is so different. Every day can be so different. Every baby can be so different.

[Kelly]

I think I'd be in a better spot if I didn't have this pimple on my chin right now. Like, let the record, let the record. Just show, like, how. Just like, speaking of recognizing the space that you're in, like, when you don't have acne, which, you know, just like recognize that because. Yeah, it's crazy how I can go film an ad to post on my Instagram story with no makeup on and I will not show my face right now. It's like when you have a sore throat, everyone.

[Liz]

Yeah, it's like when you have a sore throat and you're like, I wasn't appreciative enough on the days I didn't have a sore throat.

[Kelly]

You're like, I can't even remember what life is like without the sore throat.

[Liz]

I'll never take it for granted again.

[Kelly]

I know, I know, it's crazy. That's where I'm at. Okay. But I'm done. But I'm done talking about it. I can't promise that I might be done talking about it.

[Liz]

Well, I'm excited that we're in November. I'm excited that we've got my personal favorite holiday, Thanksgiving, coming up.

[Kelly]

Thanksgiving's your favorite holiday?

[Liz]

Yeah. You didn't know that? By a long shot.

[Kelly]

By a long shot.

[Liz]

Okay, here's what I like. Nothing is better than the buildup to Christmas. So, like, I do love December, but if I had to relive like Christmas Day or Thanksgiving Day, I probably relive Thanksgiving Day.

[Kelly]

Why is that?

[Liz]

I don't know. I just like. Here's what I like. I like the food. I love the food. I am so much less stressed on Thanksgiving. But I also don't host anything. I mean, I just show up to mom, so she asked me to bring like a salad at best.

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

So. And I. There's something I love about just like now that I'm an adult and I feel, first of all, I so recognize and feel bad for the adults who don't have the relationship with their parents that we have. Because I love going to my parents house and like, everyone does not have that.

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

And I love walking into my parents house on Thanksgiving. My dad has a fire started, Mom's in her little apron, just be bopping around behind schedule like, that is my piece. They're like my favorite five minutes of my year. Like the first five minutes, mom and dad's house.

[Kelly]

I Get that before.

[Liz]

Before George starts crying and Fred, you know, falls down the stairs or like whatever happens those first five minutes, though.

[Kelly]

You walk in, dad goes, happy, happy. Gonna get you a cocktail. He gives you like, dad, dad can't cook for his life. Like, never ask him to make you anything. He can make a cocktail, though.

[Liz]

He can make a cocktail.

[Kelly]

He kind of has found his. And I think this is important for any man. I. I think that any man should be able to like, perfect at least one cocktail for their. For their. Because.

[Liz]

Or coffee or a cup or how to do her coffee. Right.

[Kelly]

And. Or just do both. You know, it's like two things, you know, like day and night. There's just something about a cocktail being made for you. It's just like anything. Like when it's made for you, it hits. It hits different.

[Liz]

It tastes better, no.

[Kelly]

Than preparing it yourself.

[Liz]

Totally. And dad's current cocktail that he's been making because mom likes it. It's a blueberry lemon drop martini. And the word martini, you're like, I was always. And our parents never grew up drinking cockt. They were always just wine drinkers. And then like, wouldn't you say, Liz? Like in the last five years, like now they're on their cocktail train.

[Kelly]

Totally. They don't drink wine anymore.

[Liz]

Yeah, no, they don't like wine now. They only like cocktails. And so my dad's perfected this and I always thought martinis were like, so scary. And let's be clear, like, you shouldn't have three of them. Like, it's, it's. It's a one, it's a done.

[Kelly]

It may be a two if you're.

[Liz]

Two on a holiday.

[Kelly]

Two on a holiday.

[Liz]

But these blueberry lemon drop martinis are so delicious. And literally I was placing my instacart order the other day and have you ever done it where, like, you mean to get like two things? Like, I meant to get two lemons, but I was accidentally on the bag of lemons.

[Kelly]

Two bags of lemons.

[Liz]

I got two bags. Lemons. I'm like, oh, well, when life gives you lemons, like you make lemonade. But I didn't want lemonade. So I'm gonna make a lemon blueberry martini for me.

[Kelly]

Tyler, they're really good. Here's how you make them. Mom just told me because we had.

[Liz]

One at the farm the other day.

[Kelly]

Okay, so it is 2 ounces of lemon juice, 2 ounces of blueberry vodka, and a 3/4 ounce of simple syrup. Shake it up, you're done. Add some Fresh blueberries in for like garnishing. Shake it up. Really good though, so it gets nice and cold and like kind of ice crystally. It was just so easy to make. I had no idea. And so then I. Yeah, it's great. Um, but you know what else he likes to make is blood orange margaritas. Because blood oranges are seasonal to wintertime. So we are approaching blood orange margarita season. So I'm really excited for that.

[Liz]

So anyway, anyway, sorry. So. So Thanksgiving, like, I just love it and mom has it down to a science. Our food is great. I love. I also love Thanksgiving because I love the parade. I just love to watch something that I feel like is timely. And maybe that's just because no one's watching like the nightly news anymore or we're not all like gathered around. Like, you know, I feel like back when we were growing up, it's like there was a show that was on. Like you were sat, like, remember? I never forget when I was so SAT for like Cheetah Girls. You're sat. You're done, you're watching it.

[Kelly]

Whole family, like Glee's coming on. A whole family is going to watch it.

[Liz]

And then we kind of had that resurgence of like Game of Thrones a little bit.

[Kelly]

Game of Thrones a little bit. Ah. The first thing that I remember like sitting for was like two years ago was the Love is Blind live reunion. Like I went over to my sister in law's house and like we all sat down to try and watch it.

[Liz]

We just don't have enough of that anymore. And I think it's. I think it's tearing down.

[Kelly]

Yeah, there's like a. There's like a community based thing when you're like waiting for something to turn on and you have to watch it live.

[Liz]

So anyway, I don't even. And I feel like the Thanksgiving Day parade is like one of those few things like people are still turning on.

[Kelly]

I will also say with your liking, Thanksgiving, you're saying, like, the build up to Christmas is so good. I do think that I love Christmas. Don't get me wrong. But I think I love the buildup of Christmas and the season of Christmas more than like maybe the day itself.

[Liz]

Right. And don't get me wrong, Christmas smacks when you're the one getting gifts. But now I'm just. And you know, they always said giving is better than receiving and it totally is exceptional. I also like the. When you're the one giving, it's a little bit more stressful. Like, I have to make sure.

[Kelly]

Yeah, you've got equal amounts because, you know, for some you're not. Some people might just give their children two gifts, but you would never do that. Maybe it would make your life easier, Cal. Maybe you should try it anyway.

[Liz]

And one thing I'm really like, I'm going to. I'm going to. I feel like this is kind of like a fast lane philosophy I want to discuss on here because there are so many little things I want to do in my life. And sometimes when you're a mom, you never, of course, you're like, you never have time to do anything because there's always laundry to be folded, there's always floors to clean, there's always something to do. And all I wanna do is do something crazy like make the a homemade brown sugar pop tart. Like, I saw a reel of it.

[Kelly]

And I tell you, I have that reel saved and I have the ingredients bought for that.

[Liz]

Literally, I have the reel saved and I'm like, oh, my gosh, that'd be so fun. And I save it. And now I'm saving things and I'm looking back on my save to like, remember that I should just do that one day.

[Kelly]

Mm.

[Liz]

And again it's going back to them. When you, like, you know, go out to dinner with girlfriends or, like, catch up and like, what's new? It's like you have something to say. Like, I have nothing. It's hard to do a freaking podcast. I have nothing to say. All I probably. I got 10,000 steps in yesterday, just running around my house, cleaning it up, doing laundry. I did nothing yesterday. Another example of this, which I. So all that to say is like, you've got to just. And I'm giving this advice to myself, like, I have to decide what I want to get done that day. And that has to be my first priority. That's why I love doing my 7 by 11 trick where you accomplish seven things by 11am and one of those things should not be wiping the counter. So, like, what do you actually want to accomplish that day? And I used to do this thing a couple. I have kind of fallen out of the habit where I would pick one thing to be my focus for the day and nothing else could happen until that thing was done. And it could be something like, not nothing else, but nothing big could happen. It could be little things like, I'm cleaning this Breville today. This coffee pot is getting cleaned. I'm YouTubing it. I'm doing it right. And then when that past and you lay your head on your pillow, you're like, oh, yeah, I accomplished that today. So what I want to accomplish today is I. And we talked about busy toddler on the last podcast. She makes a stupid thankful turkey. And I am so determined to make this mother effing thankful turkey.

[Kelly]

What is the thankful turkey?

[Liz]

It just. I have to find freaking construction paper and scissors and glue and, you know, like, that is such. That in itself is the hardest task for me. And then I have to sit down and I have to make this Elizabeth. And I'm not a crafty girl, so that's a whole other layer of it.

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

Hold on.

[Kelly]

Thankful turkey.

[Liz]

And then every night, she asked the kids what they're thankful for, and they hang it up, and then they look. And then every year, every day, every day, the whole month of November, I'm. We're recording this on November 4th. Haven't started it. It's not too late.

[Kelly]

Yeah, it's not too late. And I think that it's definitely attainable. And I think that that doesn't look that hard to do, but I understand the. The mental load of it. Because you want to sit down to start your thankful turkey, and then you look up and it's like, oh, breakfast dishes are still out. I should go do that. Oh. Oh, laundry's done. I should go move it over. Oh, this is, like. It's just. And it's a never ending. It's a never ending cycle.

[Liz]

But that's why I am determined to get my thankful turkey done today.

[Kelly]

Okay.

[Liz]

Aside from this podcast, it is my number one priority.

[Kelly]

Wow.

[Liz]

Speaking of turkeys, let me just transition here, and then we can move on.

[Kelly]

Okay.

[Liz]

I don't know if you saw, but, like, I basically broke the Internet with my pumpkin hay bale.

[Kelly]

Okay.

[Liz]

I'm flipping it around, and I have somehow. Because, you know, I told you, my husband thrives on attention. He's gonna bank me a turkey. Two turkeys will be happening this week.

[Kelly]

In the stumpy household, which will happen.

[Liz]

First, probably the hay bale. Because you're.

[Kelly]

Yeah. You're very Kelly. You excel at delegating tasks.

[Liz]

I excel. I will. Like, if you are close to me and we're, like, hanging out. Like, sometimes you'll just look up and be like, wait, why? How did she pass? Okay, not. Not my friends, like, my sisters, they'll come over, and next thing you know, Grayson's folding my laundry, and she doesn't even know that she was meant to be folding my laundry.

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

I'm excellent. I gave people to help me with stuff.

[Kelly]

Yeah. And. And I know Enjoy it. Well, it's because you make it. You make it sound like it's a group thing because you did say that I am turning my hay bale and I am doing a turkey. And when we all know that you can't even do a construction paper turkey. So we all really know that Tyler's turning the turkey and Tyler spray painting a turkey.

[Liz]

Yeah.

[Kelly]

And you just have to get. You could really get the construction paper out while we're recording this podcast. Kelly. Like, it's just like kind of a passive thing you could do.

[Liz]

Yeah.

[Kelly]

Habit stacking.

[Liz]

But wait till my kids are of delegation age. Like in a real way.

[Kelly]

No, no. You're gonna be running a tight ship. Anyway.

[Liz]

Two turkeys to be had at the Stumpy house. And just to make it just. Just to round it out and give you a third turkey related item you have to buy, I'm gonna buy you one because I'm going to Costco this week. That's another big thing on my list. Costco sells this oven roasted turkey breast. It's huge. It's like this. It's like the size of my head.

[Kelly]

Okay.

[Liz]

And it's in the meat section. It's already cooked, and it's just like, good sliced. Like, you have to slice it yourself. Like, it's just a cooked turkey breast. Totally clean. Nothing. None of the things that people are complaining about right now. And it is delicious. And I would buy it and I would just slice off like three pieces for lunch. Like, just eat it straight. I made turkey noodle soup with it. I made turkey fig apple sandwiches with it.

[Kelly]

Yeah, sounds good.

[Liz]

I mean, no, this is all the things I made. This time I'm planning on making sliced turkey mashed potatoes. And like, I bought like a turkey gravy mix. Buy this turkey from Costco.

[Kelly]

Okay.

[Liz]

And make a construction paper turkey.

[Kelly]

Okay. I don't have. I don't have a. Gobble, gobble, gobble, gobble. Okay, well, we do have an episode to get to, so here's what we've got. We've got. I have something on my dump that I want to talk about. And also we have. I have a fast lane philosophy. And what else? We have digital news, Blake's besties. Oh, do we have a grade eight? No. Okay, Maybe next episode. Okay, well, I want to talk about something that actually, I think you will have a lot to say on this matter. And that's just like, when you become like an adult and you're married and you have like, even just an adult married, and then you have to, like, make friends, and you feel like you're kind of, like, dating all over again. I was on a walk in our new neighborhood, and I saw this guy who's probably in his 30s pushing a stroller. And, like, I was pushing my stroller, and, like, he looked like a guy that Maddie could be friends with. I just, like, said, hey, how you doing? And then, like, I walked past him. Like, we just did, like, our, like, the nod, because I was like, I'm not gonna go, like, up and, like, ask for this guy's number, because I think he'd be friends with my husband. Like, I don't know the etiquette. And I just, like. I ran back and told Maddie. I'm like, maddie, there's this guy that I think he'd be like, he'd look like you would be friends. Like, I think you guys would hit it off. We ran into these, like, other people in our neighborhood, and, like, we are following each other on Instagram now. And I'm like, maddie, what's the next move? Like, what do we do? And it's just like, you're. I feel like we're dating all over again. I'm like. I'm, like, giddy about these people that we meet, and I'm like, how do we, like, seem cool?

[Liz]

Yeah.

[Kelly]

Are they gonna like us?

[Liz]

It's so hard.

[Kelly]

I'm just like, what's the pickup line?

[Liz]

See, Tyler's really good at this kind of crap, you know? So he just kind of, like, handles that for me a lot of the time. Like, a lot of my friend, like, our friends, like, come from, like. Because Tyler. And Tyler could so, like, loosely. Barely know them or just, like. I mean, Tyler will just go up to a stranger and introduce himself, and it so lands when he does it. And I. So I don't, like, tell you just to go up there and, like, invite him to dinner because, like, I just don't know if it would land. But I think you just kind of have to shoot your shot and just say, hey. I think you probably should have been like, hey, we just moved in.

[Kelly]

No, I think it's weird. If I go up to a man, it was a girl. I think it's different.

[Liz]

It was a girl, you would have.

[Kelly]

Done it, and vice versa. Like, I don't think Matt. Well, I think that Maddie should go up to a guy. Like, I don't think he should go up to a girl and be like, hey, we just moved in. You know, I just think that.

[Liz]

No, you're.

[Kelly]

No, you're totally it's weird, but it's just. I literally feel like we're dating. Like, we're in the dating scene all over again. And I honestly hated the dating. Dating scene. So I'm not super excited about it.

[Liz]

But I think it's almost harder to make a couple friends than, like, just, you, like, meet a mom who you go on a play date with.

[Kelly]

Well, because then you have to, like both of them.

[Liz]

Do you.

[Kelly]

You think if you, like, really hit it off with a girl and the guy's a dud, I'm not gonna, like, Maddie has to, like, talk to him for three hours when we go to dinner?

[Liz]

No, I just think, like, then. Well, I think you also have friends who you get together with your kids, and then you have friends, like, who you get together with on a kid for a night. I don't think the two have to always be the same.

[Kelly]

It'd be nice if they were, though.

[Liz]

It would be nice if they were, but if it. Sometimes you also just. Oh, we have kids the same age.

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

But no, you're right. I'm not, like, totally. And here's what I don't know, because I'm not totally in my playdate era. I think probably because my kids are too young. Like, I would never, like, I would never drop George off at someone's house to play. Like, I would feel like I had to stay there.

[Kelly]

Yeah, that's. Yeah.

[Liz]

But I guess also if someone asked, hey, can George come over for a few hours? I would assume with George that they were wanting me to, like, leave him there.

[Kelly]

Yeah, I don't.

[Liz]

I mean, right.

[Kelly]

That seems easier than having all of the stumpies hang out, including you.

[Liz]

And, like, but if someone's like, hey, you want to bring Fred over? Like, then I'm staying. But if someone said, hey, for sure, do you want to bring. And like, do you have that conversation? Do you say, like, oh, do you want me to drop him? Like, did you want me to stay?

[Kelly]

Yeah, I don't know.

[Liz]

You know?

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

I'm not ready for all this. I'm not ready for all this big kid mom stuff. I'm really not.

[Kelly]

I know.

[Liz]

And it. I, you know, we always say, like, I think there's definitely be things that are easier about not having babies, but, like, a preteen, an attitude that can't be fixed with a ring pop. I don't know if I'm ready. Yeah, I don't know if I'm ready.

[Kelly]

Just, like, the places to be and the things to do. Like, I just love that On a Sunday, we wake up and it's like, what should we do today? We have no obligations, we have no sports to attend. We have nothing but, like, what we want to do. And it's like something that's really sweet about that, but there's. It has a challenges as well. But anyway, we're not talking about the challenges. I told you I didn't want to talk about challenges.

[Liz]

No. Well, something that I'm feeling really optimistic about is this will be. And I'm not trying to rub this in your face, but like, I'm done. Being pregnant and having babies and the fact that I'll never have to parent nine months pregnant again feels insane.

[Kelly]

It does feel like you're rubbing it in my face.

[Liz]

And the fact that I'll never have to like, deal with a 18 month old and a newborn again. It feels insane.

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

Because Fred is so hard. But it's Fred only so hard because I'm constantly trying to keep him away from Libby.

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

Like, what if when Libby's Fred's age, there's nothing? There's nothing looking down the pile, Then it's just Libby. And then all my other kids are so much older and more helpful. Like, I'm just. I'm excited because I can see the light. Even though it's very in the distance, I can see something about the light. And I'm very excited.

[Kelly]

Yeah, I'm very excited for you.

[Liz]

You can see your light too. You just have to, you know, you're just. I don't know.

[Kelly]

Yeah, I can't see the light, but I don't. I don't really want to go down that rabbit hole. So I want to move on.

[Liz]

Okay.

[Kelly]

Anyway, dating for friends. I don't have any. I don't have any advice. I don't have any solutions. It was just more of like an observation of just that. Like, I was like, oh my gosh, I feel like I need to ask for this man's number. But not for me, for my husband. And that was just kind of like a weird thing that I felt, you know, it was kind of like a weird moment in a weird juxtaposition. Today's episode is brought to you by Uncommon Goods. Spark something uncommon this holiday with just the right gift from Uncommon Goods. The busy holiday season is here, and Uncommon Goods makes it less stressful. With incredible handpicked gifts for everyone on your list. All in one spot. Gifts that spark joy, wonder and delight in that. It's exactly what I wanted. Feeling Uncommon Goods has something for everyone. Even that person who you think is impossible to shop for. And when you shop at Uncommon Goods, you're supporting artists and small independent businesses. And many of their handcrafted products are made in small batches. So you need to shop now before they all sell out. This holiday season, Uncommon Goods looks for products that are high quality, unique, and often handmade or made in the US they have the most meaningful out of the ordinary gifts anywhere. They even have gifts that you can personalize. So to get 15% off your next gift, go to UncommonGoods.com carpool that's UncommonGoods.com carpool for 15% off. Don't miss out on this limited time offer. Uncommon Goods. We're all out of the ordinary.

[Liz]

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[Kelly]

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[Kelly]

See [e-mail] Anyway, I have a fast lane philosophy too. Oh, unless you have something on your dump that you wanted to talk about.

[Liz]

I can pull it up, but I don't think so. Go with your fast.

[Kelly]

Okay, here's my fast lane philosophy where I share something that piqued your curiosity. And it's really just me sharing things that I've seen on Instagram. We're talking a lot about getting with Liz reels. Talk with Liz. We're. Yeah, I should pull my reels up. Brown butter pop tarts was definitely on there. I. We've been talking about a lot about like getting healthy and, you know, trying to avoid chemicals and additives and such in our food. And this is also the longest I've ever gone in my adult life without working out. And I'm giving myself grace and everything because, like this phase of life is challenging because your kids just wake up early and they need you all the time. But it was this really good, real, just made me like reflect and go, hmm. And it was like, you would die for your kids, but would you get healthy for them?

[Liz]

Tyler saw the same thing. So it's circulating, it's circulating the algorithm and it is moving. I love those reels that just stop you in your tracks.

[Kelly]

Yeah, it's just like, obviously like, I want to live a healthy life, of course. And I try to and I, you know, I eat relatively well and I did work out at a phase of my life, but it was just like such a good perspective change of like, you're working out and eating healthy. It's like you're Doing that for your kids.

[Liz]

Yeah.

[Kelly]

You know, like, being healthy for them. And I just liked it.

[Liz]

Mm, I like it too. Yeah, I need to work out today. See, this is why the turkey's never going to get done.

[Kelly]

Yeah. Do the turkey first.

[Liz]

It's so. I mean, there was a post in the carpool Facebook page, and it was this mom being like, hey, me, my husband, both are full time jobs. Like, I need tips to stay on top of the housework. Like, I'm just. I'm. It's falling apart. I'm like, like, yeah, it's all so much to balance.

[Kelly]

I know.

[Liz]

It is just all. I just think there's like a level of chaos acceptance that, like, even though I think that I've accepted, I still just haven't and maybe I just never will and normalize. Just never.

[Kelly]

Yeah. Well, I think that there's a level of like, okay, like, I need to accept that the dishes might be building up in the sink, but I also think there's a level that it's okay to not feel totally good about that all the time. Like, I think that's okay to just be like, I don't. I don't love that. Like, you can accept. You can accept your circumstance without accepting that, like, your life is always going to be just like that. You accept that you are okay with grime. I don't know what I'm saying.

[Liz]

I don't know either. I don't know. I just think I, like, need to figure out how to maybe just do the same task, but just, like, I just, just like, lessen the day because, like, on a Saturday, I'm really doing breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Like, I'm getting clean the kitchen three different times. Like, should I just, like, half ass, like, cleaning it up and not. And then like, doing like a deep after dinner.

[Kelly]

That's kind of what I'm doing.

[Liz]

Other stuff throughout the day. And I'm saying, like, you know, put the dishes literally in the sink. And like, I'm not like, well, I'm wiping my counters down three times a day. That's insane. What else could I. I could. I could have had a turkey made.

[Kelly]

I know. Yeah.

[Liz]

Here's my flatline philosophy. It's a religious one. Believing in Jesus and not doing what he commands is exactly what the devil does.

[Kelly]

Yeah, this is a good one. I think I sent you that one.

[Liz]

I think you did too, but it stuck with me.

[Kelly]

Whoa.

[Liz]

Love thy neighbor.

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

You know what I'm saying?

[Kelly]

That's a heavy one.

[Liz]

I miss our talks about loving the neighbor.

[Kelly]

I don't have time to love my neighbor. I don't have time to meet my neighbor.

[Liz]

I just think if you want to be neighborly, you should probably go knock on their door with homemade biscuits.

[Kelly]

With homemade brown butter pop tarts.

[Liz]

Homemade brown butter pop tarts.

[Kelly]

Brown sugar.

[Liz]

I've been watching Desperate Housewives, and there's this one housewife, Bree, and she's like this perfectly polished housewives. And like, she just loves to be a housewife. She's like that. Oh, we just simply have to have the Johnsons over for dinner. I'm gonna make a duck.

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

Like, that's her. And justice for Bri on the show. Well, I'm only on season two, but justice for Brie because she's just misunderstood because she's got her life together and she's doing a great job and she's loving her neighbor.

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

Like, she.

[Kelly]

Yeah, don't judge that. Like, be impressed. Like, let's be impressed by that.

[Liz]

I am impressed by that. And she takes, like, such a pride. And it's honestly. This sounds so stupid, but it's honestly kind of inspiring me because she takes such pride in her housework. Like, that. Like on the episodes, she's fixing a broken mug. Like a mug that was chipped. Like you much like, chipped things are in my cupboard. And she's not gonna fix it.

[Kelly]

Yeah. You know what? That kind of reminds me of something that I'm watching. I'm only halfway through, so, like, things could. I know things are gonna take a turn, but, like, I'm still inspired. And that's a Martha Stewart documentary on Netflix. Oh, you're right. I knew nothing about Martha Stewart.

[Liz]

I don't know anything about Martha Stewart.

[Kelly]

I don't know. I know who she is. I know that she went to jail. Like, I know she's like, into, like, home. Like, not homesteading, but like, taking care of your home. Homemaking. Yes. But, like, I don't know how she got her start or anything. First of all, she's the first female self made billionaire in America, which I had no idea. She. She started out as a model also didn't know that. And she is a perfectionist to a bit of a fault. She would, like, describe probably, but she also just inspires me to, like, take pride in your. Your home. And she's like. She said, if you're gonna put something away, put it away. Right. And I'm just like, wow. I do not put anything away. Right.

[Liz]

I don't put anything away. Right.

[Kelly]

Put something, like, ready to Go. The way that she said it, I was like, wow, I'm just, like, so inspired. So I'm really inspired by Martha Stewart right now.

[Liz]

Are we saying that Martha Stewart walks so Ballerini could run?

[Kelly]

I think Homemaker. Well, maybe.

[Liz]

Or are they just, like, totally two different. They're kind of two different camps. Yeah, they kind of nothing. They have everything in common, but nothing in common.

[Kelly]

I would say their intentions are a little bit different, maybe because ballerina is, like, more into, like, the animals and everything. And, like, Martha's more into, like, the.

[Liz]

The home making, the home, the garden. There's homemaking versus homesteading.

[Kelly]

Yeah, she's more into homemaking. Yeah. And then she just had this. Okay. I'm, like, so inspired by her. She started this.

[Liz]

I'm gonna watch this.

[Kelly]

Okay. She started out as a model. Then she got, then she was a stockbroker, and then she started a catering company. And, like, she was the. She would cater to, like, hot, like, celebrities and everything. And she, like, started the giant grazing table because she was inspired by art and by, like, these gian, like, harvest baskets and stuff. So then she would do, like, grazing tables. Like, that was the first time it was ever done. And she was all inspired through, like, art to do it. And I'm. And, and I'm just inspired by her, and I think she's cool, but again, I'm only halfway through.

[Liz]

Okay. She literally, like, made caramel apples, but instead of, like, she used, like, branches and twigs instead of, like, a popsicle stick.

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

This is what I'm talking about.

[Kelly]

It's a dinner party Aesthetic queen.

[Liz]

Why did she go today? Jail.

[Kelly]

Insider trading.

[Liz]

What does that mean? She, like, sold stocks.

[Kelly]

I haven't gotten to, like, the specifics of that part yet, so, like, I'll let you know.

[Liz]

Okay.

[Kelly]

I mean, she definitely is, like, a very flawed human being, don't get me wrong. But I do like, I do like her some. I, I, I'm. I, I like her. I like, I like what she's got. I like what she's built so far in the show.

[Liz]

Yeah. So she's like, girl boss. A little close to the sun.

[Kelly]

Yeah. Yeah. In an illegal way, so.

[Liz]

Well, are you ready for industry news where I spill the hot tea going on in the auto industry?

[Kelly]

I sure am.

[Liz]

Okay, first story is from automotive News, and it says the Toyota Grand Highlander adds a new entry level trim for 20, 25 starting at 42, 3. So basically, they're adding a new base Ellie trim with seating for eight, aka bench seat, and it's starting $2,000 below the current model year price.

[Kelly]

That's kind of interesting. I feel like I've never heard of them, like, adding a new trim.

[Liz]

Yeah, they're adding. Yeah. I thought it was kind of interesting, too. And I'm so curious about the Grand Highlander. It's so interesting to me. The car, the vehicle. There's just no other word I can use to describe it except for the word underwhelming. And that feels like a mean word to say because I don't hate the car. I do like it. I think it's nice looking. I think it is spacious. I think they fixed a lot of things I didn't like with the Highlander, but you know what I mean.

[Kelly]

I just know that we're not the only ones that feel that way, though, because at the auto show, that sentiment rang with a lot of people. Like, a lot of people said that without us prompting.

[Liz]

And that's where I think I kind of realized it. Because when you see it, when you see all these cars next to each other, and that's why, like, our auto show is even better than like the New York auto show or the Chicago auto show. Not to flex on them, but because they have like a Toyota booth and then, you know, a hundred yards away, there's the Hyundai booth. They're all within feet of each other, so you can literally see them all at the same time. And that's just kind of like how my brain likes to work. And just, I just think the interior is a little weak. So I'm kind of. I don't know, I'm anxious to see how that base is broken down. And, you know, Toyota is not like, incredible with the tech anyway. So, you know, what, what did they remove to get there?

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

Okay, this is a. Our next story comes from Auto Blog. Now hold on back to the Grand Highlander, though. Shout out, though, for having a hybrid available because, like, no one else, at least they're doing that.

[Kelly]

Yeah, okay.

[Liz]

But they are still on a stop sale. And that's just like the funny thing. People are always like, oh, what about the recalls on the Hyundai's? I'm like, well, you can't even buy at Toyota right now. So I don't. I mean, to me, to me, recalls are just, they're just, they're always going to be there and every manufacturer has them.

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

Next story from Auto Blog. Americans next must have car feature isn't what you'd expect.

[Kelly]

Oh, okay.

[Liz]

Imagine paying for parking tolls and even your coffee directly from your car. Without ever reaching into your phone or wallet. According to a news survey from Vera Mobility. This futuristic scenario is something that many Americans are already on board with. The Survey, which polled 2,000 U.S. drivers who own or lease vehicles 20, 19 or newer, found that 51% of the respondents find the idea of a car acting as a digital wallet appealing. Even more impressive, 54% said they would enable this feature if it were available in their vehicle.

[Kelly]

How do they say it works? Or do they not? Is it just.

[Liz]

I don't think we're there yet. I think now the tolls in the poll and parking, though, like, that'd be a no brainer to me. Like, you pull up no brainer coffee. I'm okay with it.

[Kelly]

I just need to know a little. I just need to know, like, the.

[Liz]

It's just so funny to me that, like, there's been this thing going viral because this girl made it real. How, like, your car's spying on you and everyone's like, what are your thoughts on this?

[Kelly]

And I'm like, you carry a phone around.

[Liz]

I'm like, it's literally so much less invasive than your phone.

[Kelly]

Mm.

[Liz]

Or your social. I mean, we are so beyond. Like, that's just crazy.

[Kelly]

Yeah. If you're not okay with that, then, like, don't. Don't have a smartphone. I mean, and that's crazy that we're even saying, like, I. We've just kind of all come to accept it. That's crazy.

[Liz]

I'm not saying that that's right. But I'm saying that. I'm saying I wouldn't worry about your car.

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

Because, like, what could your car possibly tell you that your phone can't. Can tell you everything.

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

Okay, our last story. This was interesting. How 3D printing technology is keeping old cars running. Now, what is 3D printing? I don't know.

[Kelly]

Yeah, I need to listen to.

[Liz]

I need to listen to, like, seriously, I don't know. I need to listen to a podcast on it because I feel like I've heard we're 3D printing body parts for 3D printing. Like, what is 3D printing?

[Kelly]

I have no idea. All I can think of is just like, a little machine that moves around, but it only prints that, like, cheap plasticky thing. So I don't understand how we're 3D printing things.

[Liz]

And is it just that it's a lot faster than, like, making a mold and then, like, pouring plastic in and like, making something that way?

[Kelly]

Because I think 3D printing, like, takes so long. At least that's what Grey's Anatomy will tell me when they're trying to print organs, but.

[Liz]

Yeah, but I'm just saying, is it just that it's faster or that is it doing things that we couldn't do before?

[Kelly]

You are just asking questions to someone who knows nothing about 3D printing. So I don't. I don't know.

[Liz]

Okay. Well, anyway, basically this isn't that good of a story, but Jay Leno has been using 3D printing to print parts for his, like, 1913 car. What I thought. Which I thought did kind of make sense because, like, it said it needed like an engine cylinder. Like, it needed the cylinder to, like.

[Kelly]

Make it, like, the shape.

[Liz]

So, like, they were able to 3D print the exact cylinder for like, this engine.

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

And I'm. Surely you can like, use other materials other than just the plastic?

[Kelly]

No, certainly. Yeah, no, obviously I'm sure I don't.

[Liz]

If anyone has a good podcast, send it my way, because it's something. And I guess, like, when. When 3D printing first came on the scene, like, did anyone else think we'd, like, have one in our house one day? I thought, like, we would like 3D print. Like, you know, maybe like a turkey. Like a thankful turkey.

[Kelly]

I don't know, Kelly. I. I honestly haven't thought that much about 3D printing.

[Liz]

And I just think we were all talking about it and now no one's talking about it.

[Kelly]

Now it's like AI is the new 3D printing. I also don't really know how that works either.

[Liz]

Are you worried about AI?

[Kelly]

Does it keep you up at night? No, it doesn't keep me up at night. I'm getting less worried about it. Yeah, I just think there's other things that are keeping me up at night and AI doesn't really fall under the. You know, so anyway, no, I'm not that. I'm not that worried about it right now. I think it's. I think it's. I think it's fine for right now.

[Liz]

Okay. Well, Liz, that's all I have for nu. So are you ready for ditch the drive thru or we give you an easy dinner recipe to mix it up to get you out of your dinner?

[Kelly]

Yes, I am. Are you bringing it or am I?

[Liz]

We can both bring it if you'd like.

[Kelly]

Well, I'm gonna bring it because you. I saved this one for. For this week.

[Liz]

Okay.

[Kelly]

Okay. Kelly has been asking me, like, what can I do with ground beef? Like, you feel like you've done everything with ground beef, and I've been thinking on it And I have another solution for ground beef, and that is a frisco melt. Oh, I'm not sure frisco melts. Here's what a frisco melt is. It's sourdough toast with ground beef. It's not like a patty. It's just, like, loose ground beef, I guess. I guess you can make it into a.

[Liz]

No, it's a very thin patty.

[Kelly]

Oh, it's a very thin, thin patty. Cheese. Thousand island sauce. That's it. Thousand islands.

[Liz]

They're not onions.

[Kelly]

Oh, I think you put onions on it. Yeah.

[Liz]

Like caramelized onions.

[Kelly]

Yeah, I think you could put onions on it. I don't. Maddie doesn't like onions, so I've kind of. I don't really eat onions as much as I used to, but, yes, onions would be really good on it. And that's just, like, another way to mix up your. Mix it up to get you out of your ground beef rut.

[Liz]

That sounds delicious.

[Kelly]

And I just made some fresh sourdough toast. I'm gonna make them this week.

[Liz]

I'm actually making something similar. I wanted to make, like, something, like, really, like, tasty for it. We're recording this on Monday. Election day is tomorrow. I wanted to make something really, like, tasty, just like. Because, you know, kind of like Thanksgiving Day parade. I think we'll all just be, like, watching. We'll all be a part of something together. So I have a roast, because all I have is roasts in my freezer. And I was like, what can I do with this roast? And I'm making, like, a. Like a real, like, roasted. I guess it's like, roast beef.

[Kelly]

I don't know.

[Liz]

I'm making, like, a Mississippi roast. And then I'm using my wild grain sourdough bread, provolone cheese, roasted red peppers, garlic aioli.

[Kelly]

Yeah, that sounds really good.

[Liz]

Blueberry lemon drop martini. Who am I?

[Kelly]

That sounds really nice.

[Liz]

And then I'm sad. And I'm sad. Yeah, and I'm sad.

[Kelly]

That sounds like a more elevated version of what I'm with my frisco melt. So maybe you should have said no.

[Liz]

They're different.

[Kelly]

Choose your own adventure.

[Liz]

Oh, that's our episode. Except for Blake's Besties.

[Kelly]

So, yeah, so we are going to do Blake's Besties now. So if you would like to turn the episode off. That's. We're just going to talk about Blake's Besties, but if you would like to listen, we have some stories we want to share.

[Liz]

Okay. This first, Blake's Besties comes from Sarah. Hey, Kelly and Liz, thank you so much for doing Blake's Besties the first year. You did. I had just found out I was miscarrying identical twins. It made me feel less alone to hear other stories of loss during that time time. For years I had prayed for twins and now I had lost them. I deeply feel that they were an answer to a prayer. And God is still writing our family's story. After hearing the news, the nurse came into the room to draw my blood and greatness by saying, hey, mom, hey, dad. And I know what's going on. You're still mom and dad. Then she shared her own story of how of losing twins herself and gave us so much hope. It was too early to tell the gender, but if they were boys, they would have been James and John. That's so cute. And for girls it would have been Gemma and Gianna. Because they were identical, we know they would have had the same gender.

[Kelly]

Makes sense.

[Liz]

Thanks for doing Blake's Besties. You are really helping women remember their babies and feel less alone in their loss. Sorry, I don't think I said that very well. But I guess she was saying like, they got their blood work that they were losing them and the nurse came and said, hey, mom, hey, dad.

[Kelly]

Yeah, she's like, she still acknowledged that they are mom and dad and that.

[Liz]

Is top tier nursing. And that's incredible. And shout out to that nurse because that's like, talk about a bedside manner. Like, that's excellent. Thank you for sharing, Sarah.

[Kelly]

I love hearing, like twin names that, like, go together. That's like such a fun thing to think about, like two names. Because it's not just like, what name do we like? Like, what name goes well with another name.

[Liz]

I literally thought about every time I was naming one of my kids. I always, I was like, what if they were a twin? They would have been.

[Kelly]

I know. I'm trying. I had a really good twin duo name. I'm trying to think about what it was. I don't know. It was Cleo and something I can't remember. But anyway, I like twin names. That was sweet. Okay, this one comes from Lindsay. It was always our dream to have a little girl. After a year and a half of trying to get pregnant again, we were so overjoyed to find out we were finally pregnant and going to be able to give our son his sibling he's been begging for. Then we found out it was a girl. We took our son TJ, 4 years old, to the next ultrasound to see what was inside Mommy's belly and to find out why mommy had been so sick as he had been saying we should do. When he saw the baby, he was speechless. Once it sunk in and clicked, he had the biggest smile and immediately started to hug and kiss my little belly. He had. He was so happy. We all were. He kept looking at her picture and realized she didn't have a bow on. He couldn't believe it. He insisted that we immediately buy her bows. We took him to Target to pick out all the bows. He also picked out the most beautiful footy sleeper that he said she should wear home from the hospital. It was covered in mustard, rose and ivory and plum colored flowers. It was precious. I felt pretty sick during the pregnancy, but not as sick as I had felt with my son. I was just so happy to finally have our baby coming. One thing I was I was able to eat my whole pregnancy was cherries. They settled my stomach and never made me feel nauseous. I never felt her kick, but I did feel her do some somersaults inside my belly a few times. My mom always said that that's what I did the entire time she was pregnant with me. Just constant flips. I guess. My baby girl was following my following in my footsteps quite literally. We had so much love for our little girl. We named her Emma. Emma Liana. Emma was the name we'd always loved. And Liana was the name of my husband's baby sister who died tragically as a toddler. Everyone was so excited to meet her. TJ gave Emma good morning and good night kisses every day. He said he couldn't forget Emma. Unfortunately, when we went for the anatomy scan at 20 weeks, we found my biggest fear had come true and Emma's heart had stopped. Emma was stillborn the next day, August 13, 2024. Giving birth to her was the hardest thing I've ever I've ever done. But I am so glad we were able to hold her and spend some time with her. We counted all of her fingers and toes. We still have so much love for her. She had mommy's logs, long legs and daddy's almond shaped eyes. And she looked just like her big brother. We can't wait to be re reunited with our baby girl Emma Liana. And then she attached a picture of. She attached a picture of TJ with ultrasound. He looks so happy. Oh my gosh.

[Liz]

I love the name Emiliana and I love a shorter like more common base, not basic but more common name with like a beautiful unique middle name. Like I think that just like that's normally just kind of like the opposite, you know?

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

Like, everyone does, like, you know, a kind of an extravagant first name and then, like, a short middle name. I think Emiliana is stunning.

[Kelly]

Yeah. Very pretty. I. My favorite part of this entire. Of this entire email was when TJ noticed that the ultrasound shoot didn't have a bow in her hair. And it was.

[Liz]

Well, TJ is right. And tj, he gets. He's a guy that gets it.

[Kelly]

Yeah.

[Liz]

She should have a bow.

[Kelly]

She should have a bow on. So. Because that is our Blake's Besties. And with that, that is. Oh, and if you want to write in for your own Blake's Besties, you can write into hello, the car momofficial.com and that is our episode. So thank you so much for listening to the carpool podcast, and we will talk to you next time.

[Liz]

See ya.

[Kelly]

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[Liz]

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