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Kelly
We're so done with New Year.
Liz
New you this year it's more youe on Bumble.
Kate
More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Geminis because you.
Liz
Know you always like them.
Kate
More of you dating with intention because.
Kelly
You know what you want and you know what? We love that for you, someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumblebee.
Kate
You don't wake up dreaming of McDonald's fries.
Kelly
You wake up dreaming of McDonald's hash browns.
Kate
McDonald's breakfast comes first. Ba ba ba ba ba.
Kelly
Welcome to the carpool Podcast with Kelly.
Liz
People may think, like, I would, like, have some, like, sort of trauma from being told that I was, like, too curvy to be a model. I have no trauma from it because. Did you see my photo shoot?
Kate
Look at you now.
Liz
Where is she now?
Kelly
Where is she and Liz? I'm going to try to film a day in the life reel for the march. I say try because we all know how difficult those are to film.
Kate
They're so hard.
Kelly
Your mom. Time off starts now.
Liz
Welcome back to the Carpool Podcast with.
Kelly
Kelly and Liz and Kate.
Liz
Welcome back to our third co host. If she's not. If she's not physically joining, like, we're bringing her up, huh?
Kate
Also, when y'all are on the podcast and I'm listening, I am personally providing my own conversation that nobody else can hear in Yalls conversation and wishing that I was there.
Liz
Well, we're just so. We're so aligned, Kate, because I was dying laughing the other day when I was talking about cleaning out the fridge, and I'm like, don't tell me to make a frittata. And then, like, two days later, Kate's like, make a frittata with the things out of my fridge. That was crazy.
Kate
I felt personally attacked. Kelly, honestly, I texted you and said that was. That was aggressive, I think.
Liz
So this is what, your third time on the podcast? Like, I think you've joined more than our own mother.
Kelly
I think her and Chris might be tied. Kate and the Kate and Chris Show. Kate and Chris should do a show.
Kate
Honestly, if I'm gonna lose to someone, it should be Chris because she's something to aspire to.
Liz
She really is. She's like four kids. What? Like, it's hard. Like, that's what she would say.
Kate
I bought that jojoba oil from Trader Joe's. After that, we all did. Kate, how to age. I don't think it made me age like Chris, but I bought yeah, no.
Liz
We'Ve all bought the jojoba oil from Trader Joe's because Mom's like, the, it's like the Jennifer Lopez when she's like, I just rub olive oil on my skin. Like, that's what our mom says. And we're supposed to, but I can vouch like, that's all she's doing.
Kelly
Yeah, but, like, is it the Hoboil or is that, Is it she just blessed, you know?
Liz
Yeah, well, and you have to, you have to take things with context, you know?
Kelly
Totally.
Liz
So.
Kate
But you two have her as a mother, so that should feel, like, pretty big that. That's in your gene pool.
Liz
It does feel good to have those genes on our side. I, I, I, I won't. I won't lie about that. But so, but then it also feels like, so is it our fault if we don't. You know what I'm saying? Like, so, like, was it because I did eggs? Like, why. Why is my genes not. And our dad's side looks darling, too.
Kate
Yeah.
Liz
Like, we've got, We've got the potential. So the fact that I have fine lines and wrinkles already, more than my mother is like, wow, I need to, I need to reflect inward.
Kate
Can I just say, though, not to get us off topic too early, but looking at the brief thing that we have gotten to see from your branded photo shoot, you.
Liz
Oh, look, thank you.
Kate
I mean, both of you, if she was anyone were to say that you had just had children, I would not believe them. I mean, I, I deeply was. Like, these girls are beautiful. Like, you're beautiful.
Liz
You are so kind. Like, literally, why is my favorite compliment, like, you have four kids. Like, that's such, like, that's my favorite compliment is when someone's like, oh, my gosh, you have four kids. And I think we should just tell all moms that all the time. Like, I can't believe you have kids. Like, you look so amazing. Yeah, the photo shoot was such. It was really fun. And I would, I would have been a good model. And I don't know if we've ever, like, really talked about this on the podcast, but, like, I did try. How old was I, Liz? Like, 15 or 16? Yeah, like, a good age. I was scouted at the mall, let's just say that. And I did kind of, like, go down that rabbit hole for about nine months.
Kelly
I could probably find some photo. I could, I could resurface some photos.
Kate
We could use those.
Liz
I would have been a good model. Now, would it have the longevity that this career has?
Kelly
No, no, it wouldn't. And you were trying to be a model at the wrong time. Because the reason she stopped, like, mind you, this was what, 2009, 2010?
Liz
Yeah.
Kelly
So it's like, peak Victoria's Secret fashion show. They had the audacity to tell Kelly that she was too curvy. And when I tell you, like, Kelly looked like a finger. Like, she was so, so skinny. And that's why she stopped. Because they're like, yeah, you don't have it. You're too curvy.
Liz
Yeah, they were like, so. Yeah, that was weird. There was very, like. There was. Yeah, I was very peak and I was very thin. Like, could have used a curve, I think, but don't think I really. I was. I was honestly looking for an out because they were like, you know, and I was like, playing basketball. I was like a freshman in high school, and, you know, I was very thin. And they're like, you know, maybe after basketball practice, like, instead of eating ice cream, like, you should just eat some, like, Greek yogurt. And I was like, I don't think this is right for me.
Kate
Yeah.
Liz
To be honest with you, because, like, I just busted my butt on the basketball court and, you know, I think it's fine. You really didn't. People. People may think, like, I would, like, have some, like, sort of trauma from being told that I was, like, too curvy to be a model. I have no trauma from it because. Did you see my photo shoot?
Kate
Look at you now.
Liz
Where is she now?
Kate
Where is she now?
Liz
I can pay a lot of money for someone to take photos of me, so who's so jokes on you?
Kelly
Modeling industry jokes.
Liz
I didn't get paid, but, you know, regardless. Well, anyway, Kate, thank you for that compliment. That's very kind. I would love to see you get. You should do a photo shoot, too. A little wind machine.
Kelly
Yeah, a wind machine can go a long way.
Kate
I might just superimpose myself on you guys photo shoot with the jumper thingies on that you.
Liz
Well, it's kind of offensive that, like, you're a co host and, like, you receive no royalties from this podcast. You weren't even invited on the COVID photo shoot. Like, it's kind of crazy.
Kate
It was a little hurtful in the moment to see you guys together, but I'm okay.
Kelly
I'm sending. I'm finding the Etsy page, and I'm sending Kate a mechanic shirt.
Kate
Yes. And I'd like to be superimposed into the photo.
Kelly
Yes, of course, of course.
Liz
Fine. Totally fine. Like, the Third seal, like, exactly. Or the. Whatever. The fifth sister.
Kate
Yeah. Okay.
Kelly
However many there are.
Liz
Well, anyway, we wanted to have Kate on the podcast today because you're just, like, really, like, doing some big wig content. And we love a theme of a month. Like, it's just when people ask us, like, you know, do you plan your content? Do you do this? The answer is normally no. Yeah. But sometimes we do fall. It is nice as a content creator to have a theme.
Kate
Yes.
Liz
And you're taking the. The worst month of the year. I'm sorry, I'll say it. It's the month that no one wants to happen. March. And you're making something out of it. So tell us what you're doing.
Kate
Yes. So this is our fourth year of take them a meal March. And it really. I don't. I think we were probably just going for alliteration at the time, and it was like, we'll do it in March. But it is just a month where we try and dedicate more content to talking about different ways that you can love somebody through food. And so you do not have to take an entire meal. That's actually part of what we try and do, is show, like, if you hate cooking, let's talk about some things you could do besides cooking. Also, people eat three meals a day. So if you show up with a coffee and a muffin, you are providing a meal. And if you show up to a mom that has toddlers and you just bring some washed fruit, that is like, one of the most helpful things that you can do. And so just really trying to take this thing that for a lot of people is very overwhelming, like, how do I package it? What do I take? What if there's dietary restrictions? And hopefully just give them a starting place to feel like they can do it or do it in a way that is. Makes sense for them in whatever phase of life they're in.
Liz
It's such a good mindset shift to go from. And I think what you can apply this to, like, so many aspects of your life. Like, you don't have to do the most. Like, and don't let the most stop you from doing anything. Like, it's like, don't let perfection of the thing stop you from not making the effort at all.
Kate
Yeah.
Liz
And I. I think it was you who framed the question, you know, would you like to receive this? And if the answer is yes, then do it. Like, when I was. When I was postpartum with Libby, I had this girl. I don't even know her that well, or I Certainly didn't at the time. And she dropped off a fruit tray and a onesie for Libby. Like, didn't even make the fruit tray. Like bought the fruit tray, bought Libby an outfit. I think she threw a bottle of wine in there and dropped. Left it on my front porch and even come inside.
Kate
Yeah.
Liz
And like the fruit tray served me so well. It was honestly one of my favorite outfits for Libby. Like it's going in her special box because it was like, I didn't have anything special. I mean, I'm a mom of four. Like, I didn't have. I didn't buy Libby a new outfit. Are you kidding? And the wine was great.
Kate
Yeah, Yeah. I think sometimes we can make it feel like it has to be this really big deal when it doesn't have to be a big deal. Exactly what you're saying. And like the fact that that fruit tray met you in a moment and if she had stopped and been like, no, I can't just drop a fruit tray. I need a whole meal to bring with this, then, then she would have never done anything at all probably.
Liz
Totally.
Kate
So.
Liz
So I want to talk about. But let's kind of maybe do like, maybe like giving the tips or giving the, the steps to do like a crawl, walk, run, a good, better, best scenario. So like, let's start with the best. Like if you. Because some people do want to like, you know, nap time, kitchen this and like they want to bring the full fledged meal.
Kate
Yes.
Liz
Let's maybe give us like what, maybe give us like a tip or like, are we doing this? People who have babies, are we reaching out to anybody? Like, like, how do we do it? How do we do it best?
Kate
Well, I think first off, if you can swing it in your freezer, your freezer is like your best friend for being able to have a really good meal that you have already made. And so it doesn't like that whole piece of like, oh my gosh, I need to get the groceries to make this thing in the first place. Can be taken off your plate if you have something in your freezer. So that was my. My mom has always said, if you have something in your freezer, then you can kind of always say yes to the ask. Like you have it there to be able to say yes. And so that would be my first. I think the way that I am able to provide a home cooked meal often is, is because I've done the work at a prior date and then it's just that work is done and now all I have to do is kind of assemble this meal with other things.
Liz
So then when you hear so and so had a baby or so and so's, you know, mom's in the hospital or like whatever the case is, it's not. You don't have this block of oh my gosh, how do I get to the store? Like I have a slammed week. And you can just add a moment's notice. Do that. That's a. I. That's a great tip.
Kate
Yeah. And then, you know, especially when the kids were younger and we needed to do the meal at like 3, I needed to take the meal at like 3pm I just would take it cold and I would be like, all you have to do is reheat this. And I. Some people like that because they actually don't. Then they can decide if they want to eat dinner at 5 or 6:30. Like they're not waiting on you to show up with the meal. You're not stressing about 5 o'clock traffic. So sometimes that was actually, I think preferred that I would just bring it at some point in the afternoon. Half the time I would just drop it at the front door. You know, if it's like a close friend, maybe I'm going inside. But I think too, you do not have to necessarily provide a hot meal for someone. Most people reheating something is not a huge lift for them. And then as much as I can, I do everything in like foil and things that can be thrown away because I don't want them to have to have anything to return to me. And then my, my kind of rule of thumb has always been I would homemake the main dish and then the side would be like a bagged salad, a good one that kind of goes with the theme. So if I'm doing like cream of chicken enchiladas, I'm gonna get that Mexican salad in a bag.
Liz
Yeah.
Kate
And then oftentimes a store bought dessert or like a box of brownie mix, if I have the time to bake brownies. But I would do a good. We're near Whole Foods. So like the Whole Foods cookies are always so good. So like a good store bought dessert. And then I try if, if it's, you know, someone that I know has kids, I try and think for the kids a little bit. This is again like top tier. I'm, I'm kind of doing more. So that person, if I was doing creamy chicken enchiladas, I would probably really quickly microwave a few cheese quesadillas, wrap them in foil, and also provide some fruit and Just be like, here's quesadillas and fruit for your kids. You know, just trying to think a little bit or like a pack of Hawaiian roll scoops. Because half the time that's all one of my kids is eating anyway. So like one or two things of like, what could their child eat off of this? If. Yeah, you know, if it's a more like complex meal. And then I think, I think that would be like top tier is thinking for like the main meal and one or two sides. But then I think from there. One thing that I have noticed a lot is that there's so much emphasis on dinner. But especially I feel like, Kelly, you were even saying on the podcast recently when you were sick, you were just like, what can give me the most calories right now because I'm starving. And you could make like a batch of a really yummy soup that you kind of know her, his or her, the family's children won't like and be like, this is just for you for lunch, for the week. And just take just the soup and a loaf of store bought like good bread or something. And you're not, you're not heating it up. You're just taking soup in some sort of container. You know, I like the same as you. The, like plastic soup containers, you just like drop those off and you could be like, hey, here you have, here's two of them. You could eat them all week. You could put one in your freezer and only eat one over the next couple of days. And here's a loaf of bread, like just an easy lunch option. You could do that. And also take either homemade or store bought muffins for her kids and some fruit and be like, here's lunch for you and breakfast for your kids. I think we can forget how much is required of us in, in eating and we think like only dinner, only a casserole for dinner. But it's like you can, people got to eat all day. So.
Kelly
Yeah, well, I'll never forget that someone brought me or someone sent, just sent me a quiche during my first postpartum journey with James. And I was so thankful because like after not sleeping, the last thing that I wanted to do was prepare myself eggs. And it's like, yeah, I could make a toaster waffle, but I wanted the protein like, oh, perfect, a quiche. And like it can be like you said, any meal, like breakfast is actually like really taxing to prepare, especially a nutritious one. It's really easy to just default to, you know, the carb Heavy ones, especially when you're sick or postpartum and you need that protein. Love that.
Liz
Yeah. Like I did. I, I, I think it's also just, it's fun or it's helpful and fun to send the person in need, like something fun for them. Them sometimes. Like when I had a friend who had surgery, I like, totally nap time kitchen. This because I just like needed the permission to do an average job. Here's what I sent. Like, she had surgery. She had two young kids. I sent a Costco meatloaf. Didn't have, didn't have a bag salad, didn't have a vegetable on the side. There were, it was just meatloaf and mashed potatoes. I don't know. That's, that's what I had. And I sent her like two chocolate bars and a clean, simple, eats, like, protein thing, like single serve protein. Because I'm like, maybe she'll want to try this, like, fun protein flavor. Yeah. And like, you know, like, this is like a fun thing to try and descend.
Kate
Yeah.
Liz
And she texted me, she's like, that was so fun to like, try that different flavor of something.
Kate
Yeah, it's so true. It's, it's so funny. What will what someone outside, anything outside of the ordinary of your life could just feel like, wow, that was really great.
Liz
Like, like a, like a poppy or like an Ollie. Like sending like a. Hey, here's a fun beverage for you.
Kate
We. I'm actually gonna post it as a reel during Take them a Meal march. But recently there was like a family in the hospital that I was taking a meal to, which was like, kind of a new, like, okay, how do I provide food for someone in the hospital so they don't have an oven? I can't. Like, this needs to be a specific, but kind of similarly Kelly, I was like, okay, I'm gonna take, I took them some, like, homemade soup and a nice loaf of bread, like, you know, in containers and packed like some bowls and stuff. But I was like, okay, they're in the hospital. What? When I was in the hospital, did I like, really wish I had? And so I bought like a small hand lotion, a little chapstick, a chocolate bar, and I just filled this, like, little bag with a couple of, like, you might want this if you're in. They were like, having an extended stay, like their child was sick in the hospital. And I was like, what are things that you're just sitting there? And that was so much more fun than even, like, thinking about the food was just like, what are A few little things that it would be like.
Liz
A little comfort item.
Kate
Like, wow, like a new chapstick. Like, you know, like a good hand lotion.
Liz
Totally.
Kate
So again, I know that's not food, but I think that it can be really fun if you have like a gifting. Like, Liz, weren't you the one that was making cinnamon rolls? Weren't you doing like cinnamon rolls? You're like, not anymore.
Liz
Yeah.
Kelly
I mean, no, I made like sourdough cinnamon rolls, but I don't like those anymore.
Kate
Well, like, if you like, if you were like, I'm really good at making banana bread or I'm really good at making cinnamon rolls. Like, if you just had something and every time you made banana bread, you were like, I'm just always going to double it and put one in the freezer. Then you like always have a loaf of banana bread that you could like drop at someone's door with a coffee. Like, it's just I think getting in the habit of doing these like little things so well.
Liz
I also think to go off of. Elizabeth and I talked about this on our like we were sick recap because like that was a whole to do even like something like, like when I was had the flu, like, meal would have been great. But like if someone could have dropped off like a new coloring book for Hattie.
Kate
Yeah.
Liz
Or like a five dollar Lego kit for George. Like, oh my gosh, that would have been so like even just maybe adding like it doesn't have to be a lot of money. Like go to the dollar tree and just get maybe like a couple of kids activities. If you know they have kids at home who might, and they might need a break.
Kate
Yeah. Huge.
Liz
Yeah, that would have been huge.
Kate
Yeah.
Liz
On top of the food, I really. It's like a good way to add some mass to it.
Kate
Yes. I really think like, and you know, we talked about this this week on Nap Time Kitchen. But it's like at the end of the day you're just trying to tell someone, I see that what you're going through is hard or I see what you're going through is we're celebrating. Basically you're just saying, like, I see you and I want you to know that I see you and that I love you. Like, that's the end goal in it.
Liz
I feel like this could be a fun exercise and Chris the queen just did this for me. But I would want to know what Kate, maybe like what you would do. But like, let's say you have someone who needs, who needs a meal and you have time to swing by the grocery store. You don't have time to do anything. Like, you're just going by the grocery store. Like, what are you getting them? I want to tell you what my mom got for me.
Kate
Okay.
Liz
Which has served me so well. And if you just want to copy Chris, that's fine. But if you have another thing, I'd love to hear it, but I called my mom. We were sick, and I was like, can you come by? Like, can you bring something for lunch? Like, I just. I don't have the headspace. She brought deli turkey, Hawaiian rolls, fruit, easy. She also brought tortillas, rotisserie chicken, chihuahua cheese for quesadillas that night.
Kate
I love that.
Liz
And it was like, such, like. And those were things. Like, I so easily could have ordered those at the grocery store, but it was, like, taking the headspace away. And she brought me, like. Like. And, like, you know, with the. With the quesadillas, I added a red onion and barbecue sauce to mine. I had a barbecue chicken version.
Kate
Yeah.
Liz
You know, and then the kids just had quesadillas, and George just ate plain chicken because he doesn't do cheese. But it was, like, it was something for everyone. And then we had the Hawaiian rolls, which are such a. Like, that's. That's such a meal.
Kate
Hawaiian rolls are the best of the best.
Liz
But I'm just wondering if it's like, if you have, like, you know, if. If you don't have something in your freezer, you don't have time. What's, like, that easy? Let me swing by the store and grab this and drop it off.
Kate
Yes. Well, kind of similar to Liz, like, if they have a quiche option, like, quiche is one of my.
Liz
Like, a prepared quiche.
Kate
Prepared quiche. And we have, like, a bakery close by that does good quiche. So, like, I would go grab one of those, but if I could do, like, a quiche and some sort of salad and fruit and maybe, like, a muffin scone situation, like, some sort of, like, breakfast. But I would kind of be, like, just eat this for dinner. Like, breakfast for dinner. Quiche.
Liz
Totally.
Kate
That would be a big one that I would do. And then I'm trying to think, see, we have whole foods, so I'm, like, trying to put myself in the whole foods is like, just has such a good prepared food section that it. Yeah, well, a lot of people just.
Liz
Give us the whole foods one. Because a lot of people have whole foods. I don't, but other people do.
Kate
I mean, they have, like, grab and Bake chicken Alfredo. Like a chicken. I would do like that and a bag Caesar salad and a good loaf of bread and like send, send that to somebody. And they do. So they have a lot of things like that or like a really good take and bake pizza.
Liz
So I think it's like maybe knowing, like familiarizing yourself with what does your grocery store have. Maybe like buy it once for your family, try it out so you know it's good.
Kate
Yep.
Liz
But yeah, like if they're always going to have those items, like grab it, make it, see if it's good and then just have that be your go to. It's kind of like the lazy genius. Like decide once.
Kate
Yeah.
Liz
Kind of vibe. Like decide ones. And that's, that's just what you do for people.
Kate
And I mean like at Trader Joe's, I know they have all those like great frozen, like you could just do like the orange chicken and a bag of their steamed jasmine rice and like a yummy dessert and that they still have to prepare it. But again, like you're saying like their orange chicken could not be easier with a bag of their fried rice. You know, like that would just be.
Liz
Like a, that's the same as heating up, like whatever you would have brought in foil.
Kate
Yes.
Kelly
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Liz
Let's move to how you reach out and what you say. Because I also think people get in the bad habit of like, let me know if you need anything. Would love to drop off dinner. And that's like the worst, worst text to receive because then that puts all of it on the person. So what it give us the template. What's the text template? If it's like, if you know or you feel like or you want to participate in this, take them a meal march. What's the text?
Kate
Yes, I think the more specific the better. So if you can say I am going to drop by this afternoon with a few things like I don't know you this afternoon. I wouldn't say with dinner that quickly. Like, I would be like, I'm gonna drop by tomorrow afternoon with dinner. Like give them a little, you know, that's quick, I guess, is what I'm trying to say. But I would be like, hey, I am, I would like to bring you dinner this week. What day is best? So you're saying, I'm going to bring you dinner. Just tell me what day to bring it. And I would say like, I just want to drop it by. So they're not thinking, like, they're not.
Liz
Thinking what day am I available? Because it's like really, gymnastics would be like, Tuesday would be the best because we have gymnastics. But like, I'm not going to be there. So are you just dropping it or. Yeah, I agree. Say, I just want to drop it. Yeah.
Kate
Or just say like, what, yeah, what day this week? Or I mean, a friend, I would be like headed your way with a coffee, just going to drop it by. And sometimes she'll be like, please come in, you know, because maybe she's like dying inside and would like a friend. Yeah, but I just think the more specific you can be and just put in their court, like having to make a decision on like if they're available at that time is the best thing that you can do. You can always ask, you know, we had, I think we had this mind blowing conversation about a meal train and y'all were like, what is a meal train? And we had a discussion about that.
Liz
Yeah.
Kate
So we, you know, that is more common here. But I was texting with a friend who has like a Actually a five week old baby, so her meal train's probably on its, like, ending part. And I just was like, hey, I'm making a soup this weekend that I think you would love. Can I bring it to you Monday for dinner? And she said, that would be great. So it's like a week away. It's, you know, today is Tuesday. So I was like, I'm making a soup this weekend. I think you would love it. Can I drop it off for your family on Monday? And so all she had to say was yes or no. So I think as much as you can make it like 20 questions, like, the answer is either yes or no, the better. Or again, it doesn't have to be a meal. I think you could, like, if you're meeting someone at the park, just say like, hey, I, I know you've been going through a lot with your dad being sick. I'm gonna bring snacks and lunch to the park tomorrow for the kids. So she's not thinking for like packing sandwiches, packing a snack, packing those things for the kids. You're like, I have lunch covered for the park tomorrow. I love it.
Liz
I think it's such. I, I'm, I'm so inspired. And I saw this reel. I feel like it went pretty viral, so maybe you guys saw it too. But this woman was talking about the village, and she's like. And she was, it was kind of convicting because she was like, everyone wants the village, but no one wants to be the village. So, like, let's start by, why don't you be the village? Like it, like, and it's kind of just, you know, you know, not, not that, not that you support from a. Not that you should pour from an empty cup, but like, can you drop somebody off a coffee? And then in return, then hopefully they'll drop you off a coffee. And it's just kind of this, like this, you know, this snowballing effect. But it starts with, you know, the village has to start somewhere.
Kate
Yeah. Okay, Kelly, quick story. Because it actually kind of started. You spawned a little bit of it. But I. You posted about the ambitious kitchen cookbook and you were like, the cookbook is on sale. So I clicked your link and bought two of them and I gave to one of my neighbors and I was like, I just think you would like this cookbook. And just going off of this, like, take them a meal. She made something out of the cookbook and dropped off like a single serving. And it just said like, page 105. And then.
Liz
That's so cute.
Kate
We've been making, like, so honestly for about two, maybe three months now. I'll make something from the cookbook and put, like, one serving of it and write the page number and, like, give it back stuff. And then she.
Liz
This is. It's like a book club. It's like a book. It's a cookbook club.
Kate
But it's like. I know, but what she gives me is normally one serving, and what I give her is, like, one serving, but that's like, one day of a lunch. That is something delicious because it's from the ambitious kitchen cookbook.
Liz
Like, such a good cookbook.
Kate
I'll be like, oh, my gosh. I am eating roasted chicken with sweet potatoes and goat cheese and onion. And it's like, what her family had for dinner. But she. She just pulled, like, one little portion for me. And then I'm so cute. I made the cinnamon rolls, and I put some cinnamon rolls in it for her. So it's just been this, like, really sweet little thing, and we're, like, each getting to try all these fun things. But it hasn't been this, like, I need to feed her whole family or, like, what can I take for everyone? It's been, like, one. One cookie, one piece of frittata. But we have done it, like, 20 times now, and I love that fun. So that's just another.
Liz
We should do that. That's. I. I agree. It's. It's the single serving. It's fun. I'm so obsessed. It's so funny. Tyler has kind of taken. So we, like, moved to, like, a. A new area, and it's a very small community, but since we don't live in, like, a traditional neighborhood anymore, we have not really met our neighbors. And I was like, tell her, like, we need. It's good to. It's good to know your neighbors. Like, it's good to know your neighbors. So tell her, like, I agree. I'm going to start taking the kids around. So Tyler has been taking the kids around to give eggs. Or we just, you know, we did end up butchering our four pigs. I know everyone's, like, really traumatized by that, but we did it. And so now we have all of this pork. So then yesterday, Tyler took the kids all around, and they dropped off, like, some eggs and a thing of bratwurst and was like, hi, here you go. Like, they're uncooked. It's nothing. But it's just like, oh, like, here's some fresh pork. Like, it just was grown up the road for your new neighbors. And it was so good for the kids too, to just. And I think like, if you need like a scapegoat, if you, if you want to do this, but you feel like weird about going around and like offering your neighbor's fresh baked cookies, make your kids do it. And now it's like, oh, I'm trying to teach the kids.
Kate
Yes.
Liz
Do you know what I'm saying?
Kate
Oh yeah.
Liz
Oh yeah. If we think it's good for the kids. But now you're like. Because I get how it'd be weird for like an adult woman to go up and knock on the doors, but if you bring your darling kids with you to meet your neighbors.
Kate
Yeah.
Liz
Well, now you're a great parent and you're doing take them a meal march. So tell her. Yeah, tell her. Really enjoyed it.
Kate
I love that.
Liz
Good job.
Kate
He's such a happy guy. He's like a great neighbor to have.
Liz
Well, and it would have been that as a child would have been my worst nightmare. Like just, I would. I hate that kind of stuff. Which is. Which I'm a very outgoing person, but I hate that kind of stuff. But Tyler's. I've always envied that about Tyler because he's so the guy who can just like, like he would be, he'd be a great door to door salesman, honestly. Because like he has no.
Kelly
He sees such opportunity in knocking on someone's door, but other people see such dread and rejection and fear and he's just like, you never know what's gonna be behind this door.
Kate
Yeah.
Liz
Yeah. So I actually, I actually really like that he's teaching the kids that and it was, yeah. Fun for them. So other thing I kind of had an idea for and this is like, so take them a meal. You know, it's, it's March, which is dinner auction season. Which do are you. Do you like do dinner auctions or is this like just exist in like my little bubble of the world?
Kate
I'm. I'm hearing you talk about it when, when I'm listening to the podcast and I am like, golly, I have. I am not participating in this. And I'm kind of sad because I think I would enjoy it.
Liz
Does your kids schools not have a dinner auction? What is that? I mean this is crazy.
Kate
Yeah. No dinner auction.
Liz
Well one, everyone knows because I talked, I talked about it every year. But my sister in law at her kids school's dinner auction, she has like one of the hottest ticket items on the oral auction. And it's one meal a week for the entire month of April.
Kate
That's insane. That's a kind thing to do.
Liz
Oh, it's. It is. It's an act of service for sure. And it goes, I think the year I paid for it, the year I did it, her first year, and she's like, bid it up. Because I have a lot invested in the food. And I was like, for sure. I think I paid $700 for it.
Kate
Worth it. Yeah, I was gonna say that, actually. It's kind of a steal to me.
Liz
Worth it. And it is a home cooked meal. Every Monday she meets you at the school. So it's like super easy. But I just think if you live in a world where there's dinner options and you are. And you have that skill set, even if it's not a full meal, even you could donate like, you know, a fresh, like a fresh baked dessert every Saturday for the month of April and drop it off at your house. Like, so, I mean, it's. We have that dinner auction at the end of March and I really want, I really want it again.
Kate
I think that's awesome. That's. That's a big act of service from her.
Liz
Totally. So anyway, anything else about Take them a meal march? Where can people, like, if they want to, if they want to get in on it? Like, how do they participate? Do we. Do you send them a gold star if they do it? Like, how do we know if people do it?
Kate
I know it's kind of an awkward thing to participate in just because, like, most people aren't like, look at me, I'm taking someone a meal. Like, it feels kind of like. But I would love it if people do it and tag me in it. And then we, you know, it's going to be on Nap Time Kitchen a lot this month. We created the Take them a meal manual last year, which has like a ton of crowdsourced recipes. And each recipe has a snippet from the person who sent it in. And they either say, like, why they love making it and what they serve with it or why they loved receiving it and like, what was served with it. So it's like if you're kind of like, oh, I need some inspiration, or if I want to make this, how do you. Or someone will be like, this is how I package it. So it's great because it's one document with links to tons of recipes. But the, but the little snippet is from an actual person, like a Nap Time Kitchen follower that tells you, like, why they think it's a great meal to take to someone. And we, I Think we categorize and I can't remember, like vegetarian, like things like that. So if you need a certain category, you could take it.
Liz
And I think, you know, it's also okay to try it and then say, oh, next time I'm going to do this and like to get better and to refine it. Yeah, I think is also. And like, let me be like, I am fine to be your guinea pig. Like if someone wants to try, oh, it got a little freezer burnt. I don't care. What do I care? I know I'm air frying chicken nuggets tonight. This is a step up. So I think it's okay to try something, refine something, be a Chris, take notes. So on the recipe, like, you know, wish I would have doubled this even more. Like didn't make a big enough serving but was a great meal to take fresh or whatever. Like refine your craft.
Kate
Yes.
Liz
I don't think we're doing enough of that in the homemaking aspect of our lives. No matter what that looks like for you. Take your notes.
Kate
Yes, I agree.
Kelly
And I, I want to just shout out like one other opportunity that I feel like we've talked a lot about. If you just like drop something off at someone's house or you go in and talk to them, you also can. There's so many services that you can send. Like if your friend lives in another state, you can send Dorothy Lane market. You can send from there. I've been sending my friends crumble cookies. Like a four pack of the variety of crumble cookies because they're popping up all over the place. So lately when my friend's been having kids or whatever, they're going through something. I check to see if there's a crumble nearby. And it's like 20 bucks. But it like is something for them to look forward to, something for them to open and. Delicious.
Kate
Yes. I love that.
Liz
That's an excellent point. And I almost. This could be kind of a hot take, but I almost like that more than like a doordash gift card. I don't like a doordash gift card. It's like that's. It doesn't. Don't get me wrong. I mean like, sure, it's a gift card is nice, but it doesn't really give you back the headspace. Yeah, like I would. Even when I had Libby, someone from out of state sent me a Panera gift card. And that was like more helpful because it was like, okay, we're having Panera, decision made and I can get like breakfast Lunch or dinner there, Whatever I need. So I would. I would challenge people to go this up further. They're like, send it to their house or send them a gift card to a specific place. I just. I don't know. The doordash gift card doesn't do much for me. I feel that's just my good note. That's my hot we.
Kate
I love Spoonful of Comfort. And the whole reason I failed was because when I had Alberta, my friends actually sent it to me. Like, that's how I learned about it. And to have it like food show up at my door versus what you're saying, like, the decision of, like, what to do, like, what do we get? Like, what are we ordering? I was like, oh, no, the food is here. Like, it was so nice. Just so nice.
Liz
Yeah. And it's like, okay, that was like $50, like in my thing. $65. So now, which is fine, but now I have to look at my credit card. Like, it's just. It's all too. It's not. It's just. It's all too much. It's all too much. Okay. L. That was. That was a good additional note. Well, I feel very inspired. I am going to participate in a big way. I have a crazy goal to do a weekly effort for march. I'm not doing a meal every time. Elizabeth, we have a mu. A very close mutual friend who just had a baby who mom went to yesterday. We need to get our butts over there.
Kelly
So, yeah, I'm busy in My friend who just had a baby. Next week I'm going to try to film a day in the life real. For. For. For the march. I say try because we all know how difficult those are to film.
Kate
They're so hard.
Kelly
But I'm gonna try and do it for. Take the memo March and tag. Tag.
Liz
Okay, I will. Fine. I'll do the same. Are we doing. Are we talking about the same friend or.
Kate
No?
Kelly
No.
Liz
We have so many friends.
Kelly
I just have so many friends.
Liz
Oh, okay.
Kate
And don't worry if you don't film the whole day, it's okay.
Kelly
Well, it won't be the whole day. It will be a short, a short and a short.
Liz
But you guys, I'm telling you. And me and Kate always have these, like, offline conversations and so do Elizabeth and I. Like it does anything as content. It's just people want to see you doing that. Like, it could literally be a picture of a five second video of like taking this meal to a friend. Like, people have such an appetite for nothing. On reels anymore.
Kelly
It's totally.
Liz
I do, I do. I want to see the most mundane stuff ever. Like, for example, we have this cow that's about to calf and it's like this, this journey is only living in stories. And I'm like, this journey would be good for the feed too. But it's like I run a car account, but.
Kelly
So where does the cow content live?
Kate
It is.
Liz
It's hard, I think you just poke. But it's also. No one's. Well, whatever. This is more like offline business anyway.
Kelly
This. Let's. Let's. Let's get back on track because this is a car account. Let us not forget. And Kate got a new car.
Liz
We're kind of getting like the car I'm exclusive because. Have you even talked about it?
Kate
I haven't talked about it. Well, and it's. Yes, we got. So basically we have a Honda Odyssey, which we love, like, have loved it. It's been great. And we still have that. But Nate had a Subaru Outback which was. It was great, but it just like, it couldn't fit our whole family. Namely, like, it just. We could not all physically fit in the car. And we really wanted to have two cars that our family could fit in. So we really hemmed and hawed about getting like a, A suburban type car. But we were like, well, we have the minivan. So it didn't feel like we have to have like. Because yes, if we're. When we go to replace the minivan, I think we will have to be at your full size suv. So suburban Expedition, Max, like something in that realm. But we weren't replacing that car. We were replacing the Subaru. And so we went with. So funny because Kelly and I talked about it and Kelly was like, I don't know if that's the car I would pick, but I really liked it.
Liz
People aren't going to be surprised. People aren't going to be surprised when. When you tell them the car. So it wouldn't be the car I'd pick for four people, but I get it.
Kate
Yes. We got a Toyota Sequoia and I love it. So it's like the new body style we. But go ahead.
Liz
I. I do think even just hearing you reiterate it, like, I don't like the Sequoia because I think the Sequoia is trying to moonlight as a full size suv and I don't think it functions like a full size SUV slash minivan. But since you have that, I can see, I can. I can see how it's working for you guys because you're not trying to make it that.
Kate
Yes. Pros. I like. It's beautiful. I love driving it. It's so funny because now we both just like Nate and I don't have, like, a specific car. It's not like, this is my car. This is Nate's car. We just, like, switch off cars.
Liz
That's just. You guys are those. That's crazy. Kate.
Kate
We. It. It is kind of like a funny, I think because when it. I don't know why. It's just kind of like how we function that everybody can fit in either car. And so you're just like jumping in one car or the other. But we're so often going in, like, opposite directions for one child or another. So, like, Nate will just happen to be in this car and whatever other cars in the driveway is the car that I take. So it doesn't. We don't really have. But I think both of us, like. I don't hate the minivan, granted, I choose the Sequoia. The squares in the driveway. That's the one I'm going to pick. Don't get me wrong. But I'm not like, I drove the Minivan for it's 6 since it's a 2018. So I've driven it forever. Like, it. You know, I still love the car, but I do. Like, the Sequoia is great. It's. It's a great car. But the trunk space is poo poo.
Liz
Yeah. The trunk space is.
Kate
Yes.
Liz
And let's give the context. Your kids. How many are still in car seats? Just two.
Kate
Nelly's in a highback booster and Alberta's in a car seat.
Liz
Yeah. So in the older two are just.
Kate
The old two jumping back there. Yeah. They're just.
Liz
So how do you have it set up? Do you have the kids?
Kate
The older two are in the third row. So that. Yeah, if they're not with me, I can like. You know how the seats, like, put. You can push them forward some, like, push them forward like six inches and we can just fold them down. It does have the electric fold down, which to me is like one of the worst car features.
Liz
Totally.
Kate
I'm like. Like, I think you said it in either that car or a different car. Like, give me a pull tab. That just puts the seat down.
Liz
Well, who has the time?
Kate
It is. It is annoying. Yeah. The only. The other feature that just bothers us. It is safer. And I'm sure this is happening in more cars, but the unbuckle beeping for Every seat in the car is so loud. It's like if one of the kids unbuckles when we're like, 30 seconds from home, the car is like, beep, beep, beep, beep. And it won't stop. And I'm like, ugh, Buckle back up. Like, it's just. It's. It's. It's safety overdrive for sure.
Liz
For sure.
Kate
On the car seat, on the buckling. Like, if I pull out and I, like, haven't buckled in the first 10 seconds, the car's like, you better buckle right now. You better buckle right now. Oh.
Kelly
Like, some cars won't start, some cars won't move. If you have.
Kate
I'm feeling a little bit better about it then. But it is. It's aggressive, so. But we do. Like, we have taken it on road trips, but we have to have a car topper.
Kelly
Yeah.
Kate
And really, we were kind of getting to the place with the minivan where we were starting to use a car topper anyways just because we just got a lot of ish.
Liz
You got. You got a lot of ish. So I'm glad that it's working out. And I. I am encouraged to see a mom of four have a good success with the sequoia. I really.
Kate
I do not think we would feel the same if it was the only Vietnamese.
Liz
Like, no, you for sure would not.
Kate
You have got to go to the next size. We also kind of, like you've said before, Kelly, were starting to think for John. Robert is only nine. He's about to be 10 this summer. But it was like, okay, in like five years, he's going to start driving. So we were in the thought process a little bit of like, this would be a great. Very great. I mean, he'd be. I feel like he'd love it, obviously, but, like, if. If this would be a contender for him.
Liz
Totally, totally.
Kate
You know, if we were to. I don't know if I'm gonna be willing to give it up, but.
Kelly
Give him the minivan.
Kate
I know. Give him the minivan. Tr. All the kids would be in it.
Kelly
Yeah.
Kate
He'd be the popular one with the car, so. Yeah.
Liz
Well, this was a good episode. I think it had everything the Carbo podcast should. Kate. It was like it was just one giant ditch the drive through or hot take. Take him drive through.
Kate
Yeah. True. Chick fil A, man.
Liz
What's your chick fil A order? I'm dropping. I'm dropping lunch off.
Kate
Yeah, truly.
Liz
I wouldn't. I wouldn't hate that text.
Kate
True.
Liz
I wouldn't put that text at all. Okay, well, everyone head on over to naptime kitchen to participate and take them a meal march or take them a thing march even.
Kate
And do. If you do it, tag me. I really do like to see it tag.
Liz
Kate, would you? And tag the people. Would. We like to see it, too. And Liz will be watching for your reel.
Kelly
Yeah, I will be proud.
Liz
I'm.
Kelly
I'm committed.
Liz
So can't wait.
Kelly
I'm gonna.
Liz
Can't wait. Well, Kate, thank you so much for joining. You want to take. You want to say that, Liz.
Kelly
So. Okay. Thank you so much for joining.
Liz
Sorry.
Kate
You're so welcome.
Kelly
Liz, we can't wait to have you back again.
Kate
I. You know, I'm here. I'm just. I'm just waiting in the wings. Next time one of you gets sick, Kate's sliding in.
Kelly
She. She's sliding in. I love it. Well, thank you so much for listening to the carpool podcast, and we'll definitely talk to you next time.
Kate
Bye, guys.
Kelly
Thank you for listening to the carpool podcast with Kelly and Liz. Make sure you're subscribed so you never miss an episode. And if you enjoyed riding with us, tell everybody you know, there's room in.
Liz
The car for everyone.
The Carpool with Kelly and Lizz – Episode: NAPTIME KITCHEN'S TAKE THEM A MEAL MARCH
Release Date: March 11, 2025
Hosts: Kelly Stumpe and Lizz St. John
Guests: Kate (Third Co-host)
The episode kicks off with Kelly and Liz sharing humorous takes on the New Year’s resolutions trend, particularly poking fun at the “New You” movement and modern dating apps.
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Lizz delves into her past experiences in the modeling industry, addressing body image issues and overcoming industry biases.
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The conversation highlights the challenges they faced as models deemed “too curvy” and how they have embraced their bodies over time.
The primary focus of the episode is introduced when Kelly and Liz bring in Kate to discuss their initiative, "Take Them a Meal March."
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Kate shares actionable strategies for providing meals to those in need without overwhelming either party.
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Liz and Kate share heartfelt stories of how simple meal gestures have significantly impacted their friends and family during challenging times.
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These anecdotes emphasize the importance of thoughtful, uncomplicated support and how it fosters community and care.
The hosts encourage listeners to join the "Take Them a Meal March," offering resources like a meal manual with crowd-sourced recipes and inspiring listeners to share their efforts on social media.
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Liz shares creative ways to connect with new neighbors through food, using her children as facilitators to make the interactions more comfortable and authentic.
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This approach not only offers practical support but also fosters lasting relationships within the community.
Towards the end of the episode, Kelly and Liz touch upon their experiences with family cars, highlighting the practicality and challenges of managing multiple vehicles for a growing family.
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The episode wraps up with the hosts reiterating the importance of community support through simple acts like sharing a meal and encouraging listeners to participate and share their experiences.
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Conclusion
This episode of "The Carpool with Kelly and Lizz" masterfully blends personal anecdotes with actionable advice, centering around the heartfelt initiative of "Take Them a Meal March." Kelly, Liz, and Kate provide listeners with practical tips to support their communities, emphasizing that even the smallest gestures can make a significant impact. Their candid conversations about personal struggles, community building, and family life create an engaging and relatable listening experience.
Join the Conversation: Participate in "Take Them a Meal March" by visiting naptimekitchen.com and tag @kate_carol on social media to share your meal contributions and inspire others.