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Welcome to the Carpool podcast with Kelly.
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I know I'm. I think the first step is a minute. I know I'm addicted to my phone. Like, sorry. I am. Okay. I'm woman enough to say it. I'm definitely addicted to my phone in some capacity.
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And Liz, you know, versus before, my hair was just kind of, like, existing on top of my head, and now it's like, oh, that girl, like, goes and gets her hair cut on a regular basis. She, like, takes care of herself. Your mom time off starts now.
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B
Welcome back to the carpool podcast with Kelly and Liz. Happy Friday. Are you guys so happy we're here with you on a Friday?
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This is so weird.
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So weird. But I think it'll be. I. I think it'll be a new normal for us. Yeah, I think that we're always looking for something stimulating on a Friday. I know. I am.
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Totally. Me too.
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You know, Thursdays, I'm. Thursdays, I have a lot of hust and bus Fridays. And then, like, if you can't listen to it Friday, you can listen to it over the weekend. Like, it's also giving you more time to do something like that.
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We're just Friday podcasters now.
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I know. The only super bummer is, like, the way that our recording schedule works. I think we'll have to stop our Dancing with the Star recaps.
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I think some people will really welcome that because, like, the Facebook group is, like, stop Dancing with the Stars recaps.
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Okay, well, first of all, that's rude, because also, like, if you like me and you talk to me, like, if you were to see me in person and ask me, I would talk to you about Dancing with the Stars recaps. Cause that's what I'm thinking about. So, like, at my core, that's who I am.
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Yeah. I almost want to do it just.
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To spite the people, to be honest with you.
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No, no, I get it. If you don't watch it and it is a long segment, I mean, we talk about it for, like, 20 minutes because we go through everyone.
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Like, I know. Because we can't help ourselves. But let's be clear. Every week someone goes home. So it will get shorter. You've. You've survived the worst of it. It will get shorter and shorter.
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Maybe if. If the recording schedule allows, maybe we'll do one, like, at the end. So if people who want. Who, like, are interested in our uneducated take on Dancing with the Stars wants to listen to it, then they can. But I would say some people will be very happy to hear that we're not doing it this week.
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I was just, I was just having a lot of fun being a part of something.
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Yeah, no, me too. Me too. Yeah. And it was nice to just like have something to talk about, like something new that I thought that we were all involved in.
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Yeah, like sometimes it's just like sometimes we get on this mic and it's like, no, I'm the most uninteresting boring person in the world. I can't believe I have to deliver a 40 minute episode.
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Uh huh.
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And that's hard. And luckily like we have our segments like help get us through. But you guys have to remember this is not, we're not just, we're not just throwing guests at the wall. Like we're really trying to bring you like a really leisurely listened to podcast. And that means talking about our lives a lot. And unfortunately sometimes we just don't have a lot going on.
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Majority.
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But that's not, but that's not today because we have a ton going on today.
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Yeah, we do.
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Starting with the fact that. Can you see my sweater? I just, I show this on my Instagram. That's a good fashion hack. If you like have like your just basic crew neck sweater, you know, like first of all, if you're looking for one like go buy the Quinn cashmere one. It's 50 bucks. It'll be like the best 50 you spend for yourself. I, I stand. Do you have a quin cashmere? $50 for cashmere? It's so good.
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I have a short, I have short, I have two short slave Quinn's cashmeres.
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I'm just got a classic navy quince cashmere sweater. Obsessed with it. I wear it all the time. You can do a navy on navy look. You can do it with like light wash jeans. You can do it over a skirt. Like so cute. And if you add like a white T shirt under it, I'm telling you, first of all, you get another point on the Merrick styling number. Score for seven. Because the perfect outfit had seven points. It keeps you a little warmer. It's also like you're hot, you're cold, you're taking it off, you're dripping around your shoulders and it just like breaks it up. It looks if you've never layered a white sweater underneath your crewneck sweater. No, sorry. A white T shirt underneath your crew neck sweater. I highly give it a go and someone was like, oh, if you needed to stick out more, wear it backwards. And I'm like genius.
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A
Wow. Wow. Yeah. And it Also is nice for these fall days that start off chilly and get hot because then, like, if you get high, you can just take the sweater off.
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B
Yeah.
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And then you put it around your shoulders. And you don't break your seven points.
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And you don't break your seven points. Totally. Totally. I'm really trying to wear clothes more.
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Yeah.
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You know?
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Yeah.
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Really? I mean, one, I just think I, I have clothes, I should wear them. I think that I make better decisions in jeans at the end of the day.
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Wow, that's profound.
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Yeah.
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If you have to make a big decision, like, it's worth your time to like put on a pair of jeans.
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I think it is. I think you just, it's, it's the reminder that you got dressed and you, you take yourself seriously. You certainly make better food decisions in jeans.
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You're just hyper aware of everything because you're not quite as comfy. And so then when you're hyper aware of your surroundings, you're hyper aware of all the possible outcomes of this decision that you're alert maker.
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You're alert. You're more alert in jeans.
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You're alert. You're maybe in a little bit of a flight or fight syndrome in jeans.
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No, but really, I'm just trying to wear more clothes. And yeah, I think like, I'm really like trying to like study like why like Instagram girl wears things and why I wear things and like how we have such a disconnect. Like it's a huge disconnect between like what the blogger's doing versus what I'm doing. So I'm really trying to study it. And I'm telling you, it's these little things like adding a white shirt under your sweater that all of a sudden you're a girl that gets it.
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Yeah, it's, it's the little things like that. Because every blogger is like, well, you just need like a white button up. And like I get like a button up and it's like a box on me and I'm like, I don't prescribe.
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To button downs as outfits. I think that's great that they piss me off when they like put on a button down. I'm not doing that.
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Yeah, and then everyone needs a oversized button down and you can just get thrift it from anywhere. And it's like, looks so cute on them. And I'm like, didn't, did. It ain't working.
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No, it's not working. But I will say like we touched on it earlier, but to just like double down on it. The seven point Outfit rule really has been super fun. And if you don't know how it works, this is something that Merrick Art was posting about and she says that the perfect outfit should have seven points. So like pieces are worth one. Unless it's like a really bold thing, then it would be worth two points. So like in my outfit today, I've got these cute earrings. 1. My white T shirt. 2. My brown sweater. 3. My jeans. 4. My shoes are like six Cheetah Samba's. I'm counting as six. And then if I had a bag for my EpiPens, I'd be at seven.
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So the EpiPens. Eight, nine. You're at a nine point.
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I'll take the earrings off then. So. But it's been fun because. Or I could like add a bracelet because sometimes I don't always like to count my bag as a part because I don't know, it's just like, what if they don't see me with my bag and then like I'm walking around like a six. Like that's crazy.
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A scarf.
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Or I could have a scarf. I could add a necklace. I have a lot. I could throw a ball cap on. I have possibilities. But it's been fun because I've been doing it now for a couple of weeks since I've heard about it. And the biggest thing is it's made me wear my jewelry more. Yeah. You know what I mean, it's like, you know what? Give me the, Give me the dang bracelet. Sure. Yeah, I'll add it on.
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Yeah, sure.
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I'll wear, I'll wear a little bit bigger of an earring. Like I'll just. Because I wouldn't. I don't know.
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No, it's such a good. That's what I need. Like, I can't pull up an Instagram reel to like remember what the fashion. The exact fashion girl. He said every time I need quick little things like that that I remember. Seven points to an outfit. Okay, let me try and. Let me try and figure it out on my own before I like run back to like my saved Instagram. Sometimes I can do it. Another girl. I can't. I need to find her Instagram. Another girl who I like to follow. She does like. I think I've talked about her before, but she'll say, here is an outfit recipe. Boots, small, small bottoms, big top. So you do an oversized top. Maybe you do a mini skirt and you do boots. And she says any combination of that. Sweater, button up. She's a button up kind of girl. Skirt, shorts, Skort. Cowboy boots, riding boots. Like what? Any boots? And she shows multiple examples, and they all work. And so sometimes I'll do that too. I'm like, I need a recipe. And then I just fill in the pieces. But I appreciate that type of content.
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Well, I like when fashion bloggers aren't always trying to get me to buy something new. Like, I don't like, like, new arrivals. It's like, what does a new arrival do for me if I still look like a frump? Here's another really good creator. Being Julia. Underscore. I'm obsessed with her. She's a teacher. So one thing about her, she's actually getting dressed for practical things.
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Yeah.
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And she does the same thing. She goes, here's a simple fall outfit formula. And she goes, it's a black top, jeans, black shoes, a jacket. And then she tells you, like, all the different ways to do said recipe.
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Oh, I see.
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Yeah, they're all different, but they're all working. Being Julia, she's a highly recommend. She. You follow her.
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I like it when they show me multiple examples of the thing.
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Totally. And, like, it's just so, like, regular, not, like, regular. And go, oh, you are following her.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Love. Yeah. Love, love, love. Well, okay, so anyway, let's. This is a good segue to one to our first segment of the Pot today, and that is Detail Shop, where we share a recent beauty swap. Okay, here is a tri eyed and true. And this is what every girl needs in her purse this fall. Everyone needs this.
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Okay. Adding to cart. Do I have it?
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Nope. You need something called Cordy Balm. Do you know what that is?
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No, I've never heard of this.
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Okay, so I get about four to five times a year, for whatever reason, I get insanely dry lips. Like, so dry. And I think it's because, like, I start, like, having the heat on in my car or like, whatever the cases are. Like, I'm, like, licking my lips too much, they dry out. And then it's like I can't even put, like, lipstick on. And don't be wrong. Like, I love a lineage, a summer Friday as much as the next girl, but at the end of the day, they're not gonna take me. They're not going. I get to a point of no return with my lips. And this thing called Cordy Bomb is Chapstick with hydrocortisone cream in it. And it will fix your chapped lips and overnight, if not less.
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How do you spell it?
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C O, R, T I Balm. Comes in a pack of Two on Amazon. I think Sharta fit for me to.
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A
Get is so not aesthetically pleasing. No, no, no, no, no, no. It is not a cute product. No, no, no, no, no.
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It's not a cute. It's. It's the opposite of what the lineage lip mask is. But I'm telling you, if you, like, if you actually have Chappelles or, like, George is. He has really chapped lips right now. He's been putting this on, too.
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Okay, Cordy Bomb. Cordy.
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Trust, trust, trust, trust your girl now.
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Treatment for severe chapped lips. That's a good one for the winter season.
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It's just good to keep in your arsenal now. Yeah, I would now. Some days now I don't have to use it all the time. And, like, don't get me wrong, then I will bring out, like, my Natrium lip balm, and, like, I'm just, like, a cute girl with an aesthetic lip balm, you know, with my coffee. Like, some days I am that girl. Some days I need Cordy. Okay, Keep Cordy in your back pocket now. If you have good lips now. But. So that's part one of my detail shop. Part two is I feel like, an easy way to just, like. I think, like, one of the biggest blessings about fall is, like, a fall lip can really elevate your look in, like, any way you want it to do. Like, you just can't always be doing, like, a dark mauve in July. Like, that would be crazy.
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No, for sure.
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Like, it's such a fall winter thing, and I think that's a blessing for us. So, like, a fall lip that I've been loving, I don't even. Doesn't even matter what color I have because they're all.
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I think.
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I'm sure they're all good, but Maybelline Superstay Vinyl. Ashley told me to get this. My friend Ashley's a makeup artist, so she knows what she's talking about. Drugstore, $9. So, so good.
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Okay. See, like, I look at this, and I think I know exactly how it's gonna feel on my lips. And I, like, is it.
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No, it's not that drying. It's. It's definitely, like, a stay, but it's not. It's not drying.
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See it? Like, it looks like it. I've tried a prod. Maybe I just, like, had a product that looked just like this, but I remember being, like, so crusty and drying. But it's not that.
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It's not that. Rest easy, okay? Rest easy. It's so good.
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Okay.
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I think I Use the color cheeky.
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Okay.
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No, I use Punchy, the medium Teddy Brown. They're really, really good. And what I like about them is they, like, they definitely dry down, but then it's so easy. Then you just add your little lineage lip over it. If you want to, like, get a little glossy gloss.
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Yeah, a little gloss.
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It will not, like, dry you out in a disgusting way.
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Okay. Okay. Well, maybe I should pick it up, because I see the store all the time.
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No, I think you should pick it up and, like, it's such. It's. It's low risk.
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Mm.
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It's low risk. I'm telling you, it'll pack a big punch. Because then, like, I almost want to count it as a point on my outfit thing because I've got a bold lip on today.
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Well, that's a good question for Merrick.
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That's a really good question for Merrick.
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Oh, Merrick said she would come on the podcast.
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Yeah.
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By the way, we need to stay.
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On her, though, before she forgets she said that.
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Yeah. You know what I mean? For sure. Okay. Something that.
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Do you have a detail shop?
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I do have a detail shop.
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Is it a lob?
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No, but a lob. Like, honestly, maybe just go do it. I. I do think that my lob should count as a point on my outfit because it looks intentional, you know, versus before, my hair was just kind of, like, existing on top of my head, and now it's like, oh, that girl, like, goes and gets her haircut on a regular basis. She, like, takes care of herself.
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Wow.
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No, my. My detail shop. I want to talk about fake nails for a second, because I feel like I'm really coming into my own on the fake nail trend now. I feel like I've tried a lot of the ones from Target, and, like, what are they, like, cool tips or something? No, I don't like those. I like the kiss, and I will not. They have links on them, so they'll do, like, real short. Short. Medium long. If you're getting long, like, that's crazy. Medium. I accidentally picked up a medium, and I'm like, these are too long. Now you can cut them down, but they're, like, really patterned. It's hard to, like, cut them down and make them look good. I buy real short to short, and I find that to be a really good length on me. I get kiss. They're like, five to, like, $7. I haven't found a kiss. One that I don't like. But I will say, like, if you want to dip your toe, I I think it's easier. It's easier to get like, the French or the nude ones because then, like, if a nail does happen to pop off, you can kind of like go about your day and like, no one really notices that they're looking at your hands. The problem with the really patterned or the colored ones is, like, if you do lose a nail, it's very obvious. So for Eric's party, I did pick up like, a colored one and I put them on the day before, which thank goodness I. Because I, like, got a chip in one and I. Whatever. I ended up ripping them all off like a few days later. So if you're going to go down the fake nail trend, if you want a fun pattern or color, cause maybe you have an event, put them on the day of slash the day before.
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Amen.
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If you just like, want to wear them throughout your day, get like a very neutral one to take them off. I think it's really easy. I just kind of like, you can either soak them in water. I'll just kind of like bite off the end and like, rip them off. I mean, maybe that's not like the right thing to do. But I've never had, like, nail damage from it. So, like, the glue's not that strong. They're not lasting me two weeks. Okay. They're lasting me five to seven days. 100 some cases, unfortunately, sometimes they fall off quicker. But then, like, you just glue it back on if you still have it and go about your day.
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Yeah. I'm so happy you brought up fake nails. So I also have been on my press on nail train. I do get mine from a girl who's local to me, which I will be gatekeeping for a number of reasons. One, I don't want her to get too busy. And two, literally, unless you live like within five minutes from me, which none of you do, it's like, not. She's not gonna do it, so it doesn't matter. But the press on nails have changed my life. And I think it's all about expectations with press on nails. Because, yeah, like, they're for an event and you're like, oh, I put them on for an event. It's like, yeah, they're $10. A manicure is 60. So, like, if you need to have nails for an event, this is the most cost effective way to do it. I'm not a girl who, like, needs to have nails on in my everyday life. Like, I don't have nails on right now. When we go speak, like what we're speaking At a conference this week. Like, I'm gonna put nails on for the conference.
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And I didn't have to find time. I didn't have to find time during my workday when I have childcare to go waste my time at a nail salon.
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It's such a waste of time. I mean, if I'm the nail. So I think it's all about just like understanding the expectation with them. And yeah, they're not gonna last two to three weeks, but it's like so much cheaper, so much more convenient. It's fine. That's not what's fine. It's fine.
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It takes me once you get good at it too. Like, it takes me like 10 minutes to put them on.
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I've literally put them on in the car.
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Like, I put them on in the car too. Yeah, see, I've definitely had some that randomly will last like seven days. And I'm like, wow, I gotta remember this set. And then I rebuy that set and doesn't last again. So I haven't really nailed that down.
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Tell me to do them at night and then go to bed. So, like, then you're not moving around as much. And like the glue stays. Has more time to cure.
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A
That's a good tip.
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That's a good tip. And then she. I file my nail. I file my nail and then I take a little file and file the fake nail. So like, it gets like ridgier. And then I put glue and then I press down.
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Okay.
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Yeah, no, they're press on nails. Like, I'm shaking in my boots if I'm the nail industry. Because I'm sorry. Like, I don't know why it takes too long. I don't know why it's not a good experience. And I think this is a. I.
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Don'T think this is a hot take.
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I think this is like a universal thing. It's like the last thing we want to do to spend. It's such a chore.
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No. Women have been like. I don't know if it was in the media or we've just been gaslit to believe that going to the nail salon is a relaxing spot. Like, oh, just go get your nails done. Like, do something for you. Like, relax. It is such a chore. I hate being there. I hate.
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I know same. I don't know. I of course, like, like the results. And I get how, like, that's just like the epitome of like sometimes as women, like, we're told, like doing like basic hygiene, basic needs is like self care.
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Yeah, totally.
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It's like taking a shower. It's like, just take the shower and clean the kitchen. It's like, then what? You would just do like normal things. It's like, no, go do something.
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Yeah.
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Like that would be self care.
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Speaking of self care, I have started to do doing something that is self care and that is hot yoga. Now I have been getting a lot of aches and pains. Like thank goodness Dr. Shartay fit is going to be my sister in law because I call her all the time for my ailments. And I just think it's boiled down to like not working out, not moving as much as I used to, and ultimately like, I just need to stretch. So there's a hot yoga place super close to my house. I used to like kind of like hot. Yo. Actually I used to. I've always hated yoga because how I used to like work out so much that I was like, wow, what a waste of my time to just like stretch when I could be like lifting or like running, like I'm so on was so unrelatable and had literally no responsibilities. But now I like really see hot yoga for what I think it is and that is like a deep stretch, a very hard workout and ultimately like a stretch. Like I'm not going to go do a regular yoga class if I'm gonna spend an hour stretching. Like, I'm gonna be sweating my butt off.
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How hot is it in the room?
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I don't know. It's hot though. It's like you're. I've never been so drenched in sweat and I haven't done hot yoga in so long that I forgot you need like a towel on your mat and a to to like dry yourself off with while you're in it. So I freaking raw dog it with just a single yoga mat. I am slipping and sliding everywhere. And then the, the teacher has the audacity to try and like adjust me when I'm like barely making it into this position and I am like holding on for dear life. I don't slip. Like, it was not a very good experience. But I told Maddie I was like, this day of the week, this time I'm doing hot yoga. You need to be home from work. I'm buying a pack and I'm doing it. So that's my new self care. So I got a new mat stacked from stacked, which I'm really excited to try. And I have a yoga towel now, so hopefully it goes better.
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Well, that's so exciting. Yeah, I could. I'm in the market for a new A hobby. I need a hobby that moves my body, that's for sure, if that's what you're asking me. Yeah, I haven't. Well, I was doing the metal and moves header together and then I have my allergic reaction and I haven't gotten back to it since, so I need.
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To get on that.
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Yeah, that was tough. So I guess I need to get.
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Okay. I wanted to do a base model luxury that's really been on my mind lately.
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A
Okay.
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B
Remember, base model luxury is just where we share a recent new discovery that's just elevating our lives. It's either like, free or cheap. Okay, this one's free. Less screen time. I have really been disgusted with my phone lately. Yeah, I don't know what it is. I just know I'm like, I know I'm. I think the first step is a minute I know I'm addicted to my phone. Like, sorry, I am. Okay. I'm woman enough to say it. I'm definitely addicted to my phone in some capacity. And I don't like what it's doing to my brain. I don't like being on it. I don't like that how much Tyler's on his phone either. But, like, one thing about me is, it's like, I'm also, like, noticing it more because I don't like it about myself. Like, yeah, and I'm not going to. I don't. I'm not gonna, like, approach him and be like, I think we should spend less time on our phones until I'm spending less time on my phone. So I'm gonna, like, do it first. And also, like, it's fine. Like, that's his journey. This is my journey. I don't like how much time spent on my phone. I don't like how high my screen time is. I don't like how dependent I feel on it. And I am putting the phone down in a major way.
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A
I agree. I wanted to say something about this exact topic. Number one. Like, if I. So I'm taking care of the kids, I have chores. If I pick up my phone, then, and I hate to admit this, then James comes and, like, asks me for something, it's immediately, like, what? Like, I'm not, like, I'm not meeting him with, with the kindness that he deserves. I'm. I'm irritable and I'm like, I have to clean the kitchen. Whereas, like, if I would have just never picked my phone up and I would have gotten James what he needed and then I were to go to clean the kitchen. And then he comes back and he's me, oh, what do you need, my love? Like, I'm just so happier and think I'm more productive and I'm happier and I'm not going down horrible rabbit holes that we all know exist on the Internet. And I'm not, like, I just. The Internet is just such a hateful place. Like, then I sometimes get filled with the same hatred. And, like, I just. I'm irritable. I don't like it. And like, the other day, like, I was. We were on the couch or I, like, James needed something and so we went into the other room and he grabbed my phone and handed it to me. And I'm like, my son thinks that I have to bring my phone with me everywhere I go.
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B
That's so crazy. Yeah. Yeah. So I don't exactly know, like, what it's gonna look like. I'm trying, like, not to put, like, any, like, hard and fast rules in place at the moment, but, like, my number one tip would be to. If you have an iPhone, I don't know if you can this on Android, but if you have an iPhone, you can add your screen time to your main screen. So, like, here's what mine looks like.
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A
Yeah.
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B
3 hours and 15 minutes and it's 11:45. Now, granted, I was up for like an hour with Libby trying to get a wreck to bed and scrolling my phone. I'll be honest. But, like, I gotta put it away. But I like seeing that every day. And it needs to go down. Like, I know what it's at now. It needs to be cut in half.
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A
Yeah.
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B
And I work on my phone and I still know I can cut it in half because that's not the problem. I also, I don't mind how, like, the work I do on my phone is fine. And it's even, like, going on Instagram and, like, checking in with my favorites. Like, that's. That's one thing. It's just like the endless scrolling.
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A
Yeah.
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B
That simply has to stop. And it's the doing it while I'm doing other things that I also don't like.
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A
Yes.
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B
You know what I mean?
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A
I noticed this this past weekend, actually. And, like, again, like, I'm just, like, really exposing myself in hopes that, like, maybe you feel maybe I'm not alone in this. But it was like I was like, making ground beef and I was, like, stirring the ground beef, which is a mindless thing, and I was, like, scrolling my phone while I was doing it. I'm like, why can't I Just be here and make ground beef. Like, I'm not even just sitting on the couch and like, even, like, rocking a baby. And scrolling is different. Like, I'm cooking and I feel like I have to scroll.
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B
Sure.
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A
That's crazy.
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B
No, it's crazy. And I used to be like, okay, I'm not gonna scroll. Like, I'll listen to a podcast and I'm gonna listen to an audiobook. And I'm actually challenging myself to not even do that because I think the problem is, like, I'm just, like, always looking for, like, it's almost like my attention span's broken. Like, I'm always looking for more. Not to say you can't ever, like, listen to a podcast while you're folding laundry or something, but it's like the constant. It's like, well, I'm not gonna scroll. Let me turn on a podcast. Or, like, let me do this. Or, like, I'm just gonna try to just be there a little bit more. And I've even, like, started to see videos on Tick Tock. Now people are, like, sitting in silence for one hour to fix my attention span and they record themselves with a timer sitting there for one hour. Because that's how, like, desperate everybody is to, like, I know, like, fix their self. So I think a lot of it for me is just gonna be, I'm just gonna, like, leave my phone more places.
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A
Yeah.
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B
You know, and you know, we're so obsessed with the, like, well, what if someone needs me? Well, like, if my kids and my husband are home, like, no one needs me that bad. Someone.
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A
If someone, like, needs me, like, 911 emergency. Like, call me, call Maddie. Like, hope, like, one of us will probably see it. Like, you can. Sure you'll get a hold of us eventually.
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B
No, sure, sure.
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A
But, like, I'll, like, leave my phone and then I'm like, oh, my gosh, it's been like an hour and a half since I checked my phone. Guess what? No notifications.
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B
Literally nothing. Nothing.
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A
No one needed me.
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B
No, honestly, too much of it. Too much. Too many people, myself included, have been using that as a crutch for too long. And I don't know. I'm not going to delete the apps off my phone because I can't because I, like, need them for work. And because. Because I also, I want to have a healthy relationship with it. Not no relationship with it, but it's really just, like, it's fine. I'm not. Yeah. I don't feel weird about, like, the scrolling in bed or like, I'M not even going to do like the hour before bed. Like, I'm sorry, I can't really buy into that right now because, like, that's sometimes the only time I really have to like do something. It's just like, I don't like that I'm doing it around my kids. I don't like that it's making me. I just, I need to do it less. Yeah, I'm really gonna cut my screen time in half. That's really my goal.
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A
Yeah, we're aligned. And I think it's a good, like, I think it's a very good check in. Like, can you do it? Like, are how addicted are you? Like, can you just put your mind to it?
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B
I don't know.
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A
I'm gonna find out, I guess.
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B
Totally. And I've been doing some. I have an Alexa in the kitchen and I've been turning music on. Cause like, music is enough.
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A
Yeah, just like a little music.
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B
If you need a little something, that's fine.
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A
Yeah, yeah.
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B
So it's my base amount of luxury.
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A
I don't really have one. So we'll just go with that because I agree with.
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B
I think we should all just do that this year.
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A
I agree with you. I just like have like a funny thing to talk about and maybe that there, maybe there's like other. It's like a military thing. So just let me be like a military wife for a second. Maybe other women can relate to me. Nothing is funnier to me than when like Maddie and I are like, this happened to us the other day. We asked for a military discount for something and someone was like, oh yeah, of course. Like, who served and what's. It's not funny that someone could look at me and assume that I was in the military. Because like, I realistically, I could be like, if, you know me, you know, never could. Like, if you're looking at me like, you can't say like, that girl could never be in the military. Like, please. What's hilarious that you could look at my husband and assume that this 65 mustached man who gets his haircut the way that he has since he was in the Marine Corps could conceivably not be in the military. It just like cracks me up every single time. It's like, really? Again, not like I could. You could look at me and be like, she could be in the military. Like, that's not far fetched. It is crazy that anyone would look at Maddie.
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B
They were wondering if you both work.
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A
It's like, oh, it had to have been that served.
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B
It's like, like, did you do it? Like, did you guys meet there?
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A
You guys meet in the military? Yeah. Yeah.
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B
No. Your husband is so stereotypical military.
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A
He looks like an arc. Like he just looks. He just looks like a Marine.
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B
Like, like they really should put him on a poster.
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A
Most stereotypical Marine I've ever seen.
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B
I kind. No, I totally agree.
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A
Yeah. Anyway, that's just like a funny. No, that is funny thing that happened.
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B
That is funny. I can't relate, but I hope other people can also.
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A
I had the craziest dream last night. I want to know if you have dreams like this.
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B
I hate hearing about other people's dreams for the record, but sure, go ahead.
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A
Do you ever have dreams that you're in high school?
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B
All the high school. No. No. College? Yes. Did you have the dream like you forgot to study?
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A
Forgot to study. Haven't been to class all semester, can't find my planner.
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B
I have. Yes, yes, I have those. But about college, I think we all have those.
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A
Oh my gosh.
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B
And I'm telling you we need to investigate that because we obviously are all having trauma from those days per chance. And why, like we're like the dreams are telling us something there. Yeah, we're all having trauma and we're not really investigating what. What that's all about. Why we feel that way.
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A
Yeah, sorry. I said to give them a chest. I. I woke up this morning, I'm literally like still shook from it that I like didn't go to class all semester and I didn't know when exams were and I lost my planner.
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B
Yeah, that's stressful.
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A
I know. Okay, Kyle, well, we have some advice questions if you want to dust off the old.
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B
If I want to advise.
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A
If you want to advise.
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B
I would literally love to advise. I've honestly miss advising. We've had to pause the consultations for October for just like all of our travel and like allergic reactions and things like that. But I've received like one of my favorite compliments is like someone ending up with the car that I told them they were going to get. And I'm telling you, it almost always happens. And like my sister in law is looking for a car right now and like I like just knew they were going to end up with an atlas. And I'm like, listen, you can like go, but like they're very much people who like wanted to test drive and look at everything. And of course I'm like, and I think you should, but it is the scenic route because I just know for a fact you're going to end up right back here and on this atlas and they didn't. And that just feels good.
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A
No, for sure.
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B
Just validating for sure. Not that like I didn't want them to do the journey but it was just like. Yeah, I know you've seen a thing or two.
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A
Okay, four kids advice for second car. Hello. We are expecting our fourth child next year and we will need to replace our second car. Our primary, primary vehicle is an Expedition max but our second backup car is a Lexus ES350.
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B
Okay.
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A
We've never actually needed to have all three in that one but have the appropriate car seats for emergency situations. Obviously no way to make it work with four kids so we need to think of a new one. Our driveway is pretty small so trying to stay as compact as possible. Not concerned about having truck space as we won't use it day to day. The deets new enough to have CarPlay accommodate 4 car seats under 40k. Kids are slash will be in Kids are slash will be an infant two, four and six, all petite. So still in convertible seats flow in Expedition. Have been considering a GV80 or an older Mercedes GLB.
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B
No, I don't like those options. Okay, so I don't like the GV80. That's way, that's much. I actually find that much too small and the third rows are only optional so they can also kind of be hard to find. And then you add on like the layer of wanting one under 40k so then you're in the pre owned market. I think there's a lot, I think there's better options than that. But since they gave two luxury cars it's kind of feeling like they might be interested in doing luxury like pre owned luxury which is a bit of a hard box to check in this scenario because four kids in luxury cars is just kind of tough. Like I think, I think if you, and I mean I feel like if this is only for let's say emergencies and like not. I mean it sounds like they're never going to be there. You just like you, you appreciate the peace of mind to be able to fit four kids in both cars. Depending on when your four year old turns five, I would maybe consider the Volvo XC90 as like a good option for you. Knowing though that you would have to put the four and the six year old in booster seats because the third row doesn't have tether anchors. But it's a compact car. It's similar to the GV80 and in terms of like you know booster safety versus harness safety. As long as you get a good fit with the seat belt and your child's mature enough to stay in the seat, it's not necessarily like all that much safer necessarily to keep them in the harness versus the booster. And I'm also thinking like, you know, this is, you're, you're already saying you might never use this and you're also saying like they're only going to be, your kids are just going to get older. So I'm also trying to be mindful about like what has good reliability, what has good safety, what's a good value that could also continue to grow with the family. So I think you'd like the Volvo XC90 and I would give you my seal of approval to do it provided you wait till the 4 year old turns 5 and then do the booster situation. If you wanted to go luxury and I think you could find pre owned ones, they're, they're reliable. So I said what I needed to say about that. I think if you're looking mass market, I think the Toyota Highlander would also be a good consideration. So not the grand, just the standard Highlander. It's small for sure, but it fits. It's got the third row just to get the captain's chairs. Get the third row. You know, I like the reliability and I like that you could go pre own and definitely get one for that 40k price point. I do think you'd run into the same situation though like with the tether anchor situate because I think the Toyota grand, the Toyota Highlander, the pre owned ones don't have a tether anchor on one of the outboard seats. But again your 6 year old is fine to go to a booster in this, in this situation I think. So those are two.
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A
You were able to fit your whole family in the Hyundai Santa Fe.
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B
That's a great. Yeah, I, Yes. I don't know about under 40 though for the new body style and the old buy style didn't have the third row. But I think that's a good option. I think that's a great option actually. So I think those are plenty of.
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A
Things to consider so that those are considerations. Okay, Those are considerations. So okay, just bring up the question.
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B
Though, like, and I mean to also give you like I, I don't want to say peace of mind because if you feel like you need to do that, like I want you to do that. But we don't have, I mean Tyler's truck couldn't fit the whole family if we needed to yeah, and I don't know, I would say it would be a really crazy situation where like the, the primary car that fits the kids isn't there and we need to emergency evacuate and take all the kids in this other. I. So I would also just say I really, I'd really think through the situations with what that would work. Like if it's a, if it's a frequent occurrence, if it's like no, like, you know, he's got to go pick up all the kids from daycare. I get it. But if you're approaching like apocalyptic reasons, I would, I would, I would try, try to put your mind at ease because it does sound like it'd be a very rare scenario. And like, and I think a lot of family, I mean, yeah, like I said, my family, we could not fit in Tyler's truck. So.
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A
Yeah, fair point.
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B
Just something to think about, you know.
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A
Okay, we have another car related one, if that's okay with you.
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B
Yeah, that's fine.
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A
I currently drive a 2014 Ford Explorer Limited. I'm expecting baby number two who'll ride in a Kiko Key Fit Max. My oldest will be forward facing in a Britax poplar at the time of baby's arrival. I regularly drive. My sister and niece will be rear facing and Brightex popular poplar to doctor's appointments. My question is, is it possible to fit these three seats in the second row of my Explorer or do I move my oldest to the third row when my niece is with me? Looking to avoid this because of the projectile risk as we typically need strollers and do grocery pickups while out. We eventually want to upgrade to an expedition, but I'm hoping to get a few more years out of the Explorer.
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B
What year is her explorer?
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A
14.
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B
Oh, I don't think it will work, but I can't say I've tried that combination in a 14 explorer. Yeah, I'm not super, if I'm being honest. I haven't had enough experience with that body style. The Ford Explorer changed, I think in 20 and things got a lot better for three across. So I would say if I, if my gut had to tell me, I would say I don't think it will work. Even with those slimmer seats. I mean the previous body saw bench just sucked.
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A
Yeah.
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B
That'S a short answer.
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A
Okay.
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B
I haven't tried it. I don't think so. And if you, if you are thinking about, if you like the idea of a Ford Explorer, let me tell you what, what year it changed because when it changed it got. Hold on.
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A
You can also, like, if you are.
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B
Struggling with it changed in 11 to 19 was the fifth generation. That was pretty rough. 20, 20 and above got slightly better for three across.
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A
If you're looking for super specific situations like this, like there are car seat checks all over the country so like you can try and install it or just take it to cpsd.
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B
Actually, I disagree with that. Oh, I actually disagree with that. Three across is completely different than doing a car seat check. And like you. So yeah, you, you can try to do it and then you can go to a tech and confirm the seats are in place. But if you really.
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A
That's what I mean.
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B
Yeah. To see if they're installed properly. And since. Yeah, but if you're like looking to do three across in your car and you have a specific situation, that's why we have the chat CPST service. And when I say that like Sam, who does our service is one of the only people in the country who has the knowledge to advise on those like, I mean that, like, I sought her out, stalked her because it is such a niche skill set to know, to be familiar enough with the cars, the car seats, the generations, the types of car seats and to do three across. And that's why when we do our chat, we, we guarantee a fit or we give you your money back. So, yeah, if you have the seats and you want to, want to try it out, try it out, I would recommend getting it looked at.
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A
Yeah.
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B
But if you're not sure if you're somebody else, like, I cannot recommend our chat CPS t service enough. It can save you thousands of dollars if you don't have to. Tens of thousands of dollars if you don't have to go get a new car. And if we can't fit, we give you your money back. It's giving win, win.
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A
It's giving win, win.
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B
And I don't even do them because I know when to pass the baton and I need to pass the baton to the right person. And that would be Sam. Yeah.
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A
Oh, okay. Well, those are our advice questions. If you want to write in to get your own advice, you can write into hello@the CarmomOfficial.com Today's episode is brought to you by Butcherbox. If you're serious about fueling your body with the best, look no further. Butcherbox is clean, high quality protein without the junk. Whether you're lifting weights or lifting laundry baskets, Butcherbox helps you stay on track. Butcherbox delivers over a hundred premium protein choices straight to your door and including 100 grass fed beef free range, organic chicken, pork raised, crate free and wild caught seafood. For nearly a decade, Butcherbox has led the industry with meat and seafood that's antibiotic free, hormone free and independently verified. Every product meets the same rigorous standards whether it's a filet mignon or chicken nuggets. So whether you're feeding a growing family or trying to eat clean without the stress, Butcherbox offers curated, fully customizable plans that fit right into your schedule. If you plan on hopping on November with us, I would highly recommend recommend getting your butcher box now so you can get that high quality 100 grass fed beef beef delivered straight to your door. As an exclusive offer, our listeners can get a free protein in every box for a year plus 20 off your first box when you go to butcherbox.com Carpool go to butcherbox.com CarPool to get this limited time offer and free shipping always. That's butcherbox.com carpool don't forget to use our link so they know we sent you. Today's episode is brought to you by Sundays for Dogs. I'm very excited. Sundays is sending me some dog food for my dogs and I'm very intrigued by this dog food. Now I have tried the non kibble version of dog food before and it was just like the refrigeration process, the freezing it, the making it. I just, I really didn't enjoy any aspect of that. But what's cool about Sundays for Dogs is that it it's is air dried dog food made from whole food and clean ingredients. So unlike the other fresh dog food, Sundays does not require refrigeration or preparation because of the air drying process. You just pour it and serve. That's it. So I'm really excited to get it and try it and see how the dogs like it because it's 100 all natural meat and superfoods with 0% synthetic nutrients or artificial ingredients. I love this idea. So make the switch to Sundays. Go right now to Sundays for dogs.com carpool and get 40 off your first first order or you can use code carpool at checkout. That's 40 off your first order at Sundays for dogs.com carpool sundaysfordogs.com carpool or use code carpool at checkout.
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B
Okay and now are you ready for dish the drive through where we give you an easy dinner recipe to mix it up to get you to interrupt.
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A
I sure am.
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B
It's still Crocktober. I'm behind. I'm behind. I did not make the last one because I had an Allergic reaction. I said, you're behind.
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A
You're catching up.
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B
I said I wasn't going to make it. My personality. And I hear I am talking about it a lot. I tell you guys, I met with my allergist.
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A
I don't think so.
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B
I met with my allergist, and she was wonderful. Dr. Vitali in St. Louis. Shout out in the best way possible. I think she just has really good bedside manners. Is that what they call it? Like, she just. And she knew what I needed to hear. And I think that's really important in a doctor, because in the best way possible. She just kind of taught me that, like, giving yourself an EpiPen is not that big of a deal, because I was thinking, like. Like, I was just having all these visions of, like, me suffocating and, like, trying to fumble for my EpiPen and, like, give it to myself with my four kids around me. Like, that's just the vision I had. And, like, of course that could happen. But she's like, you know, it's not, like, not a big deal. Like, she's like, you know, if you accidentally eat anchovies and you realize, like, take out your ibupen, just give it to yourself. Like, she. She kind of, like, drew the comparison to, like, it's the same thing as popping a Benadryl, but, like, this is just. Just gonna be way easier. And she's like, just epi, like, when in doubt. Epi, not when in doubt, but, like, if you're feeling like it, you should. And it just made the whole thing seem less daunting. And then I also got a prescription for. I forget what it's called. And my insurance didn't cover it, of course, but I ended up buying for it. It's a. It's like a nasal spray that I'll also be able to have with me.
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Okay, good.
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B
And then I had to wait a month to go back and do more blood work, because initially my blood work came back negative. But that's probably because, like, it wasn't that comprehensive an allergy test. I didn'. Have. I had Benadryl in my system kind of still, so it was a whole thing. So I am testing for that. She is a little worried I will develop a COD allergy, because I guess anchovies and cod are very similarly related. And I just said, but I just got into frying fish. Yeah, like, no, I fry fish, though. And I go to a lot of fish. I'm like, I'm Catholic. We don't have fish fries. Like, what does lent Mean for me.
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A
I genuinely don't know.
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B
I don't know what let means either. For me.
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A
A lot of pasta nights, I guess.
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B
A lot of spaghetti, no meat. But she says, like, obviously I was negative to cut on my test, so. But we're. So we're gonna test for it, but just things to think about.
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A
Things to think about.
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B
So anyway, so I turned out to.
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A
The drive through, so it's easy to do recipe to mix it up.
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B
So I'm behind. I didn't get to make last ones, but. Did you. You didn't make it either?
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A
No, I didn't. Honestly, like, I wanted to be brave and like, try a new flavor profile. And it was just like, no one in my family. I know no one's gonna eat this. Different flavor profile. Like, everyone's just so picky.
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B
Okay, well, this one I'm excited about. This is from butter with a side of bread Obsessed. Good blog name. Easy Crock Pot Ham and bean soup. You knew I'd get the ham and bean in here. Come on now.
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A
Snuck it in there.
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B
You knew I would do it. Now this one I thought was like a good. The recipe that, that we're linking, they're using dry beans and then they're like putting the beans in there all day to make it like a six to eight hour thing. I probably will do canned beans, but then I won't add them till the end because I wouldn't want them to get overcooked. But it's a ham bone or a ham hock in the crock pot. Now you're gonna have to source this. Okay, you're gonna have to source a ham hock. Where do you.
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A
Where does one get a ham hock?
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B
I think the most grocery store should have it. And I think you could like go up to the butcher at the grocery. Where can I get a ham hock? Okay, I know I'm stretching, you guys. I'm stretching you guys.
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A
No, this is a big stretch.
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B
Huge stretch. But you need that to get that depth of flavor. It's so, so, so, so important.
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A
Okay.
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B
And then everything else is pretty standard.
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Okay.
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It's like great northern beans, you know, one ham bone or with ham or two smoked ham hocks box. Okay, you can do it. You guys can do it.
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We can do it. Okay. And if, like you can get the recipe on the car mom's website and also if you're part of the email blast, then it was. We blasted it.
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We sent it out in the blast. And I'm very much looking forward to it.
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Okay, well let's move right along to Blake's Besties which is our segment in October where we honor the babies that we are followers and everyone lost too soon during pregnancy and Infant Loss awareness month. So we are going to read a few stories. Okay, I will start. Okay. Hi ladies. We have two daughters that we were able to conceive without issue tldr after four years of secondary infertility, we ended up having our sweet boy on our first embryo transfer of December 2021 and had six embryos stored away for our eventual fourth baby in May of 2023. We decided the time was right for us to complete our family. I again went to dozens appointments, took the score of meds and even skipped our annual road trip visit to the in laws so I could have the embryo transfer on June 12th. We were incredibly lucky and blessed that I became pregnant on our first embryo transfer again. Everyone was so excited for this last piece of the puzzle. Even the morning sickness that started a few weeks later on a road trip to Pensacola beach was welcomed as it meant everything was going along perfectly. On July 25, 2023, our 14th wedding anniversary, I had a second ultrasound to monitor some light bleeding I had experienced. When the tech started the exam, it didn't bother me that I didn't hear the heartbeat right away because the volume was always turned off at first. But after about 30 seconds she whispered I'm so sorry, I can't. I can't see or find a heartbeat. And I froze. I didn't react at all. It wasn't left the room that I was alone, that I cried when the doctor came in to confirm and talk about my options going forward. I had to push away my devastation and go into decision making mode. I was seven weeks pregnant. After that loss we ended up trying again and again and again and again. Four agains in total. We transferred five of the six remaining embryos. We had one left, one ended up h having an incompatible with life abnormality and none of them were successful. At the very end of it I asked them, I asked for them to let me know what sex was. The we lost it was a girl because it was so early. Sometimes I don't even know if I can say baby or her rather than it. The last conversation I had with my doctor said she felt like for his own reasons God had personally intervened in this because she literally threw everything she had trying to give us another baby. I had two unassisted pregnancies and the two first try transfer pregnancy was more than capable for his for reasons Only he knows it's not in the cards for us. She's spelling he as in God. If that wasn't clear, I can honestly say I agree with her. I can't explain why, but I feel it to be true. But I still think about those and what the final baby girl would have brought to life. Thank you for doing this. Every year I really. This one, like, really struck me just like when she was in the room alone.
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Yeah.
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To get that news. And I've. I guess I've just never really thought about it like, like that explicitly. Like, I just think when you find out this news, like you should be with your husband or your family or just like someone and just like to be in that very vulnerable state and just to like get that news by yourself. I just like, can't imagine how wrenching that must have been.
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Yeah, I agree. Okay, this comes from Lauren. Hi, Kelly and Liz. I'm a longtime listener, Volkswagen Atlas enthusiast and mom of three kids on earth and one in heaven. Each year I've listened to Blake's besties and thought, man, I should send in my story. This year I've missed some other remembrance opportunities, so I figured this was the ultimate way to share Bryn with you and your listeners. Sorry, I just. I had to make the text bigger. I've been part of the worst club, the baby loss Club, since 2020. In late 2019, I found that I was expecting my second daughter. My second daughter Brynn. At our 12 week scan, I could feel something was off. Moms always know. The ultrasound showed an increased NT measurement and I was advised to get an N I P T drawn. A week later, we were told Bryn has Down syndrome. As an educator, I knew that while this wasn't what I had planned or envisioned it would be okay. I spent the next 12 weeks repairing for a child with extraordinary needs, but one that is still so loved. At our 24 week scan, after feeling something was off, I was told Bryn had died. I was induced and delivered her 36 hours later on 12, 26, 20. 20.
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2, 26, 2020.
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What?
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It was 220.
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I'm sorry, you're right. 2, 26, 20, 20. Since then, I have become a now I lay me down to sleep photographer for families experiencing lost donated bracelets and memory to the Cooper project and partner with Adeline Rose foundation to tell to tell to sell T shirts to benefit the mission of continuous care for families who have experienced loss. We always say worst club best people and it couldn't be more true. While I wish none of us knew I the heartbreak we've all we've got an unbreakable bond remembering Bryn Blake and all the besties in heaven. With love, Bryn's mom. Yeah, I love his mom. Like my favorite title is like George's mom, Libby's mom. Like I just think that's a. I like that's. That's a good sign off.
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Yeah, I agree. Okay. This comes from Audra. I'm not sure if this is the right place too, but I felt inspired to tell you my story. My husband and I decided to trust the Lord with our story and made the right choice to stop using birth control very shortly after we got pregnant. I absolutely loved being pregnant. I needed my ice cold water and could eat strawberries like crazy. When it was time for my son Hewitt to be born, he came through a C section. Almost immediately after this perfect arrival, I started having major complications and they couldn't control the bleeding. Ultimately, in the decision to save my life, I needed to have a hiss. A hysterectomy. This is. This never. This is never the story my husband and I would have imagined. But the Lord was incredibly present through. Throughout it all. It's hard to put in the words the piece that comes from him. Now I've learned to hold space for the best thing that ever happened my son. I also have the experience. I. I also have the experience of losing the ability to have children through my body. We are praying for our future family and wondering if adoption is something the Lord has for us. Thank you for reading this. It's such a good reminder that you have no idea the life someone else is living. So like this one, so happy you chose this one is just like she didn't lose a, like a, a baby, but she lost the ability to have babies. And, and I think that that is something to be mourned and something to be talked about and something to be shared as she felt comfortable enough to share it with us. And so like I wanted to share with everyone that like, yeah, you have no, you have no idea what someone else is living. You have no idea. Like, like you make like you make plans like everyone says, oh, how many kids do you want? It's like, oh, I want five kids. Like, I want a big family. And then you know, you just, you never know. And just like her faith is like, just really inspiring. And so I wanted to share that story as well.
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I'm really happy you chose that one.
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So with that, that's going to be our episode. So hope you enjoy your weekend and we will talk to you next time.
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Love you guys.
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Thank you for listening to the Carpool Podcast with Kelly and Liz. Make sure you're subscribed so you never miss an episode. And if you enjoyed riding with us, tell everybody you know there's room in.
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The car for everyone.