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Everything Is Energy with Cathy Heller
How to Manifest the Heck Out of 2026 Through Fun, Flaws & Flow
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Kathy Heller
2026 is not asking you to set yet another goal. It's asking you, who are you finally willing to be. What we're doing here is the part that most people avoid the decision. The part where you stop pushing your real life to someday and realize that it's now. I just led an intention setting workshop all about raising your standards, about committing to what you're available for this year and what you're not available for. No more vague promises, no more dragging old patterns into a new calendar year. In this one hour workshop, I'm going to help you choose a clear, embodied intention for your year, understand why past intentions never stick, set standards that you're actually going to keep, get honest about what you're no longer available for, and learn how to follow through all year without forcing. This is not just motivation, it's actually recalibration. This is the kind of workshop where your energy cleans up, your boundaries solidify, and you stop negotiating with your true self. You don't need another sign. You don't need to keep waiting for something. You don't need to keep postponing the life that's calling you. It's time. It's time to step into the life that's always been yours. You can watch the full replay of this intention setting workshop@kathyheller.com replay this one hour will change 2026 for the better. Hey, it's Kathy Heller. Welcome back to the Kathy Heller Podcast. I hope you had a good weekend. I had half and half. I had part of the weekend that was beautiful. So fun. I was riding bikes with my daughter. I just enjoyed some friend time. And then I had a few hours this weekend where I just got really down and I was like, oh my God. It's amazing what happens when your thoughts just kind of take over. And the good news is that today's episode is going to make you smile. Because today's episode is fun. Like, actually fun. And I'll tell you why. Because all week inside this New Year's Challenge, I've been going live every day on Zoom. We've been talking about what are our big audacious goals for 2026? The big ones, the ones that you don't necessarily say out loud at brunch, but you're wishing for them deep inside, right? And here's what I've noticed when we actually say it out loud, what we want. There's this little part of us that sometimes tenses up because right away in our mind, we think of this goal as something that requires us to be perfect or in some way, we have to just, like, figure it all out. We start acting like there's this version of us that that needs to show up with perfection in order for us to achieve all these things that we want. But it's not true. The version of us who actually is able to have all these audacious goals is not necessarily the one that's more polished. It's not necessarily the one that's all the time getting it right. It's the version of us that's more herself. And she might be a little messy, and she just follows what feels good to her. She's having a really good time, and it's actually super powerful to think about that. So today we're talking about why the secret to success is not this perfect version of us. It's how much fun are you willing to let yourself have? Because when you're having fun, you wind up being in flow state. And that's when things move. And when things move in that way, life gets really generous. So this episode is a taste of what we've been doing inside this New Year's challenge. And if you want to join us, you can join us for the rest of it. I'm going live today, tomorrow, pretty much all this week, and I'm going to be sharing something this week that I've never shared before. I'm so excited to do this big reveal. You can sign up@kathyheller.com 2026So let's dive in today. Take a listen.
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Kathy Heller (Audience Interaction/Assistant)
We've talked about these big, audacious goals, and we've talked about the new year, and we've talked about what you're available for, what your standards are, what you are calling in, all of that. And one thing that I want to make sure, like, really make sure that we all understand is that the version of you who you're becoming, it's not the version of you who is flawless. Like, really, I want this to land. I want you to get this. You are evolving and you are shedding the things that no longer serve you right. Hopefully you're becoming more aware and you are starting to live more mindfully and intentionally. And you are going to take the action necessary to be in flow. And all of that's true. But who you are is beautiful in the sense that just part and parcel of your uniqueness is that part of the duality of who you came into the world to be is that you have some incredible strengths and those strengths in and of themselves, the shadow of those strengths are Sometimes those quirks and those flaws. And so, like, to give you an example, I was sitting with Deepak Chopra, and he was wearing all black and he was wearing red shoes. And I said, I feel like the last time I saw you wearing red shoes. And he said, oh, I always wear red shoes. And I said, why? He said, because I have a lot of passion, so I can focus that passion into writing and speaking and all of this. But if I am not really aware, that can sometimes turn to anger. And he was talking about different kinds of energies, and he was talking about it from the Vedic sense, and he was talking about how that is the duality. And so if he channels it correctly, that actually can be a positive that he's so passionate. And so what I want you to understand is yesterday we talked about how you can't steer from a parked car. And we talked also this week about what it means to just move audaciously. And part of what keeps you stuck is this unconscious and conscious. It's both. It's unconscious and conscious, this paralyzing mandate you put on yourself for perfection. And when you walk around with this constant weight on your shoulder that you have to somehow, some way, find your way to perfection or else forget it. You don't move. You literally get frozen, okay? You get frozen. When you think that that is the mandate, like, that is the. That is the arrival, but that's not the arrival. It's not going to happen. And it's not being asked of you. Right? It's not being asked of you. I think we talked about this a few classes ago. I don't remember which one, but I was talking about how even when you look biblically, I said, I just took my kids to see this movie about King David. And it's like these characters who are real people are flawed, right? And they're both beautiful, and they also have their own inner demons. And it's like, that's what makes people so amazing and courageous when they have inside of them this duality. And it's what makes people want to know you, okay? And so I'm going to tell you something you've probably heard me say before, but I want to go into a few of my. This is like some of my greatest hits right now, okay? This is part of what I do. I think that that really can unlock you. So you've heard me say this, but I'm going to say it again because we learned through repetition, which is that the thing that makes us lovable and the thing that makes people root for Us is our imperfections. And a friend of mine, her name is Deborah, she works in Hollywood. She's a screenwriter. And she said, I had this amazing insight when I was writing scripts and I was pitching scripts, and she wrote a few movies that were big and sold. And she said, if you make a character perfect, the audience hates the character. The audience won't root for the character. So she figured out through years of screenwriting that if you want the audience to root for the character, you have to make them flawed. Like, really hear what I just said. Imagine that you're watching the Devil Wears Prada, which. Oh, my God, the second one is coming out. I'm dying. I can't wait to see it. How is it that these women look so good? Like, it's as if no time is. It's almost like they aged the back backwards. Like, they went in the reverse. I'm like, that's so cool. Anyway, so imagine if in the first act, Anne Hathaway just shows you that she's just perfect. You just kind of get ick. But actually, that's not what happens. What happens is, in the first few scenes, there's always, like. She spills her coffee, she says the wrong thing. She walks into a wall, she, like, steps in a puddle. And you're like, I love this girl. I get her, right? Like, you root for the person you love, the woman who's imperfect. You love her because she's so lovable. And when you think about this 2.0 version of yourself, who you're stepping into this year, and you are, right? I have your word? This is the year we're not. We're done? Aren't we done? Are you done? We're done, right? We're done with the old stuff, so we're stepping into the 2.0 version of yourself. But that 2.0 version of you is still you, okay? That 2.0 version of you, she's still quirky, okay? That's what makes her awesome. So I want you to do me a favor. So close your eyes for a second, and I want you to envision you waking up as this 2.0 version of yourself. So just picture it, okay? So first of all, let's just really drop in as if we are doing that Mary Poppins sidewalk chalk. We're jumping into the picture, but it's the picture of the life that we so desire. All of it. The career, the job, the relationship, all of it. So I want you to picture that you're waking up as your. You, future 2.0 self. And when you wake up in the morning, first of all, where are you? You're waking up in your bed. Are you looking out at the ocean? This is like if you dare to dream the most unreasonable, the most. It's okay, it's all reasonable, it doesn't have to feel practical. You can have all of the audacious dreams. Where are you waking up? Is there a wood floor under your feet? Do you hear the ocean outside? Are you in the city? Are you looking over Central Park? Just take a moment and just go there. Thoughts turn to things. So you visualize yourself waking up. Okay, and how does it feel to be you? What do your shoulders feel like? What are you wearing? What kind of pajamas do you have on? What kind of linen sheets do you have? And you put your feet on the ground and you stretch and the morning light hits your face. And how does it feel in your heart to be you? Is there equanimity? Is there peace? Is there resonance? Are you connected to the essence of you? Is there full bodied, that state of being congruent with who you are? And then you walk in and you brush your teeth and you put your moisturizer on or whatever is your morning process. And how does it feel in your shoulders? How does it feel in your jaw? How does it feel in your mind to be beginning this day, looking out the window, feeling into your heart, Feel how open your heart is to receive? Feel how your hips are available to sway and play and you're being led and you go downstairs or wherever it is, you walk over to the kitchen and you take out your beautiful mug, whether you're going to have some tea or some coffee. And you just take a moment and you feel this moment and you drink it in and you're present and you've arrived at your own door and you have your morning and it's slow and it's like a sanctuary. It's like art. You're just enjoying this. Ah, drink it in. And you're excited about whatever's on your to do list today. Because you love what you're doing, because you love how you show up, because you show up authentically, because you show up without trying to impress, without trying to prove. You show up whole. You show up available for the magic, not rushing, and you're just dancing with the universe, dancing with God, dancing with your soul being led to the next synchronicity. And you go get dressed and you get ready for your day and there you are. And what are you doing for the day? Who are you with and how are you showing up? And how does it feel within you? And how much fun are you having? How much fun? Because the better it gets, the better it gets. And you're just in flow and just allow yourself to feel. And you're you. And you're not trying to be someone you're not. You're just. You just feel into this. And when you're ready, you can open your eyes. How does that feel? And can you feel this distinction? What I'm saying today? I love this. I'm in tears. Delicious, blissful, warm, delighted. So freaking good. Can you feel the edge fall away in this conversation today? Because what happens in the mind so often whenever you set a new goal, it's the new year, blah, blah, blah, you immediately you feel like you're bracing, your body starts to brace. Why? Because a part of you says, I now have put upon myself this sort of goal or this instruction to show up and be perfect. And it's not possible. And it's not even the task at hand, right? The real task is, can I be authentic? Can I find equanimity? Can I be whole with who I am? Can I accept myself for all the things and also have the responsibility to no longer self sabotage? So there are certain things I'm definitely done with, right? People pleasing. Guilt, shame, fear and doubt. That's not your personality flaw. That's not what we're talking about. Those are the things that are survival and trauma responses that are keeping you from being yourself. But your quirks, the things that make you messy, we're not trying to get rid of that. Right? When I had Bobby Brown on my podcast, every time I say that I'm like the makeup artist, not the rapper, people are like, we didn't think you had Bobby Brown the musician on your show. I'm like, okay, I'm just being clear. Anyway, when I had Bobby Brown on my show, she said that in the 80s when she was doing makeup, it was this like, you know, sort of like novel thing. She'd be sitting with models and she'd be doing their makeup and she, she just enhanced what made them naturally beautiful. And in the 80s, if you remember, the makeup was like bright blue. It was like colors. It was like feathered hair, it was like shoulder pads. It was all the people were like dressed up. People were like literally wearing character makeup. And. And Bobbi Brown was like, I don't want to put blue fluorescent eyeshadow on you. Right? And so she did something different. She started to make colors for lipstick that were the Shades of the actual lips that women had, right? She started to make colors that were just very neutral, and people were like, that's not interesting. Oh, no. It became very interesting. The point of it is. So she said to me, she goes, like, for you, she said, for instance, if I met you and I did your makeup, I would never cover your freckles. She's like, why would I do that? It's beautiful that you have those freckles. She goes, I would actually go on the other extreme. I would do something to accentuate your freckles. And she goes, I was doing that in the 80s, and people were shocked by that, right? And she goes, but I know that God's the best artist there is. And so if you have whatever it is that you have, I want to accentuate exactly the cheekbones you have, the eye shape you have. I don't want to change it. I want to accentuate it. Right? And so what makes you you is not up for debate. And that doesn't get shelved. And that's not something that you have to fix or overcome. In fact, it's what makes you lovable, and it's what has to come along for the ride. And it's really. The reason I said this is one of my favorite topics, is because it's. It's been the thing standing in your way, right? If you didn't have the need to be perfect, if you stop judging yourself, do you know how many things you would have already done? You would do all of it. You would do all of it. But just the feeling of how much we judge ourselves, it's so loud. That voice is so loud. As opposed to fully accepting and fully celebrating everything about ourselves and saying, but that's what makes me me. Right? Like, if I. I look at the list of what I said, my friends would say, she's all over the place. She's not disciplined. She's not organized. Part of what makes me magical as a creative person is that because in order to be creative, and this is part of what I wanted to tell you today, creativity, people will say, like, I'm not creative. Do you think that that's true? Do you think that there are people that are not creative? Because people tell me that all the time. Because to own a business, you need to be creative. You're a creator. You're creating a logo. You're creating a message, right? To be a parent, you have to be creative. You have to constantly think about how you're engaging your kids, how you're talking to your kids. You are a creator. And God put us in the world to create, to turn our thoughts into things, to have a vision, to have insight, to have imagination. What the heck does it mean when, like, not creative? I'll tell you what it means. You're a perfectionist. You don't let yourself be creative, because creativity is not a talent. It's a way of being. And it's actually about playing. It's knowing how to play. And when you play, you don't know where you're being led. When you play, you're just throwing spaghetti at the wall. And most adults have forgotten how to play, and so they don't create anything. And in 2026, if you want all those audacious goals, it requires you to be willing to play. And it's. I'm going to go further than that because I want to really heighten this point. In order to make brilliant things, you have to make mediocre things first. You have to. If you don't have the tolerance for your own mediocrity first, you can't get to the other side, which is mastery. So do you see how this all comes together when we're so hard on ourselves and we require such perfection? We cannot possibly make something brilliant because you cannot do that. You're not going to be Mozart on day one. You're not going to have the best podcast by episode three. You're not just. It's impossible. It's getting the reps in, and it's being willing to be led by something bigger than yourself to something you didn't even see coming. And that's where the magic is. It's like, where you are willing to be led. And God's the artist and you're the paintbrush, and all of a sudden you're like, boom, Right? It's sand. It's sand. It's glass. What just happened? I don't know. I made glass out of sand. Had that happen. I don't know. I tried something. Whoa. Really let that land. So, as I said, these are some of my greatest hits. But what I always say to my students. Students is be a blank student. What kind of student? A C student. Exactly. You don't want to be an A student. A students, they don't have the. The kind of life you're actually looking for. Like, really let this land. You know, Adam Grant, he's been on my show, I think, like, three times. We've had a few really good conversations. And he said, you know what the problem is with thinking? You have all the answers. You Miss the answer. Because he says, in the expert's mind, there is one answer, there's one conclusion. In the beginner's mind, we're open to all possibilities. So there's multiple answers, right? And we always have to be willing to not have it done right. Which is why we say, this is the iPhone 16. Now they have a 17 before it was a 14. Like, you think this is going to stop? They're like, no, we're in beta, we're iterating, it's a work in progress. We're going to keep making it better right in front of our faces. They're not saying, just wait until we have the iPhone 29. They're like, well, this is the best we have right now. We're going to make it better. That phone you have right now, you're going to need to throw it away. In two years, we're going to have a better one. But you can find that one because we're always a work in progress, we're always getting to evolve. It's always better, better, better. The better it gets, the better it gets. And so the people that you look up to, who are successful, who are having these audacious, incredible lives, we said yesterday you can't steer from a parked car. So that's why today the message is, in order for you to get out of park, you have to fully accept, be willing and celebrate the messy, flawed, quirky journey. Because that's actually where all the magic lives. So being messy and being quirky and that is so helpful because when we just did that exercise where you close your eyes and you see yourself in that morning, in that future 2.0 version of yourself, it's actually the opposite of you having to turn into some perfect person. It's you turning into the version of you who's done self betraying, who's done with guilt, who's done not, not accepting yourself. And now you really have momentum under you because you're not judging yourself constantly. And therefore you can't take action because if we're constantly judging, we'll never make something brilliant. Does that make sense? So I want you to take this to heart. Your job is to celebrate the quirk, celebrate the flaws really, truly, and wherever you've been holding out on that, this is the actual unlock. I said to Julia Cameron, she wrote a book called the Artist's Way. It's an incredible book. And I had her on the show, I think twice. And I said to her, the first time you created this amazing 12 week workbook called the artist's way. And I did it and it was amazing. I said, but do you really think that all people are artists? That everyone has this creativity and talent? And she said, have you ever been in a preschool? I said, yeah, I have three kids. She's like, have you ever seen a child in a preschool that's not creative? I said, you're right. She's like, every child in a preschool wants to play with the paint, play with the sand. And why do you think that you even ask that question when all children are like that? She said, it's because by the age of 7 or 9 or 12, somewhere along the way, that child starts to feel criticism, starts to feel judgment, and they decide to shut down and stop playing and stop allowing themselves to be messy because they want to make certain that they never are vulnerable to that kind of rebuke. So then what they say is, oh, I'm just not creative because I would rather take myself out completely than leave myself open to rejection. So it's the fear of being rejected and criticized that takes those children who show up in the world ready to create, and by the age of 7 or 9 or 12, it's done. And then they live their whole life reading self help books and looking for answers outside of themselves. And it's like, you are the creator. It lives in you. But the radio's off because there's such a perimeter you built around yourself to protect you that it's so unconscious, you just keep walking past it the whole time when all it really is is the permission to play, the permission to be messy, the permission to embrace and celebrate. And then you can move and all of a sudden you just get everything done. You just start to get it done. So I'm going to take you through today, a little journey all about, like I said, the F word. Fun. And you're going to see how this relates to everything that we've been talking about. So just stay with me and you'll get it. I feel like Michael J. Fox when he's like in the Enchanted under the Sea Dust, he's like, just stay with me. Watch me for the changes. Oh my God. How good was he in that movie, Back to the Future? Okay, so on your pen, with your pen and paper, I want you to write down what comes to mind when you think of one of the last times or, or a time where you were having the most fun. What were you doing? Just write it down. Just bring it to mind. Like, when is one of the times that you can remember a memory of you having so much fun. Just write it down. And then I just want you to sort of like, maybe you even want to, like, close your eyes and, like, remember, like, what did it actually feel like? What was the feeling that you experienced? What were you doing? Who were you with? What did your body feel like? What did your mind feel like? How do you describe it? So just take a second and tell me. Then maybe you want to put it in the chat. What were you doing? Where were you? Who were you with? Just a memory. When you were having so much fun. And how did it feel? So you were dancing in the garage with your kids. You were in the forest frolicking. You were. I love the frolicking. Riding a merry go round. You were in Amsterdam with friends. You were planning your wedding. You were at the retreat in Boca. That was fun. Skipping biking in the Dolomites. That sounds amazing. And how. How did it feel? How did your body feel? What are some words that you would use to describe how that felt? Did you feel free? Did you feel creative? Did you feel playful? Did you feel.
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Kathy Heller
What did you feel like?
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Kathy Heller (Audience Interaction/Assistant)
Free, Enlightening, playful, light, happy, overjoyed. Okay, so let's see if we can get into this a little bit. So fun. Okay, we talked about another F word over the last 10 days. We talked about flow. So how do you think that fun connects us to flow? How do you think that fun connects us to flow? Why do you think that those are connected? Because we're in the moment. Because we're uninhibited. Because there's ease, there's presence. We're in the zone. So I want you to think of it this way. That fun collapses time. When you're having fun, you just enter flow state. You just enter, and then what can happen from there? Ooh, it gets so juicy. It gets so good. Because what happens when you're having fun is that that feeling of fun, however you want to describe it, if you're saying like you're having fun and really are, it shuts down your inner critic and it also shuts down the cortisol loop.
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Kathy Heller
Isn't that good?
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Kathy Heller (Audience Interaction/Assistant)
Now, the other day, inside of our membership, a little bit different than this 14 day reset. But the other day we did a sort of one of these. Like, we were looking at our 2025 and then we were looking. My handwriting is atrocious. We were looking at 2026, and we were looking at these different categories like health, friendship, fun, finances. And we were looking at how much fun did we prioritize in 2025. And how much do we want to prioritize that in 2026? And so before we go any further, I'm just going to ask you, in 2025, how much of your week, out of 100%, how much of your week were you prioritizing having Fun? Was it 5% of the week? Was it 50%, 20%? Was it 0%? Let me ask you it this way. If you look back at the last year, out of seven days, how many days did you make sure that you were having fun?
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Kathy Heller
7 out of 7.
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Kathy Heller (Audience Interaction/Assistant)
6 out of 7. 4 out of 7? 0. 2. I'm seeing a whole bunch, a whole range here. Okay? So I actually had a guy named Mike Rucker who's so sweet. He's so, so sweet. I just have to add that because, yeah, he just really is.
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Kathy Heller
Anyway, he wrote a book all about.
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Kathy Heller (Audience Interaction/Assistant)
The habit of fun, and he's a professor at usc and he actually talked about how it is essential, right? It actually turns out to be essential. And there's a sweet spot, which is they say if you're having out of every 24 hours, the sweet spot, what they call the Goldilocks spot, is to have two and a half hours a day when you're having fun. Do you think that you have that? Yes or no? Just give me a simple yes or no. Two and a half hours a day of fun. Okay? So this is actually. If you boil down everything we're talking about and we just look at this, here's a really good way to help you manifest the crap out of 2026. If every single day, you make sure that what gets inserted into your calendar is two and a half hours of fun, you're going to have the year that you want. Why? Because you're going to be in flow, okay? And you're then going to allow yourself and we're going to build this today. I'm going to help you understand it. We're going to help you actually activate the part of you that can have the state of being, the manifestations, the dreams coming to fruition that you actually say that you want. And you know what's so interesting? Because I could just feel it when I looked at all your faces on the zoom call, when I said to you, you need to have two and a half hours of fun a day. Everyone's like, what is she? That? That's impossible. Isn't that so fun? Think about it. Think about how funny this is. Come on, stay with me. This is hilarious. Okay? This is very shocking. This is very sobering. This is very interesting, right? It's almost like you're upset. It's almost like it's frustrating. It's almost like I'm giving you homework. It's almost like that she wants me to do that. I'm not going to do that. Like, think about it, okay? This is how wired we are, okay? When I tell you that cortisol is more addictive than nicotine, that's the truth. You can look it up. Which means we're addicted to feeling like, okay? Which means when I say to you, you need to have two and a half hours a day of fun, you're like, is. What is she on? What is she smoking? Like, this is not going to happen. And I'm almost, like, upset because how on earth am I supposed to have two and a half hours a day of fun? What does that really mean? That means that what you're saying is, I've already decided that's not possible. That's not happening. I don't have two and a half hours a day to have fun, okay? I can't give you that. I refuse to give you two and a half hours of my day to have fun. No way. No way, no how. Do you see this? This is why we're not manifesting what we want. This is why we're not. Okay? Number one, we're so. We are so out of practice having fun that it actually blows your upper limit. When I tell you to do that, you're like, my circuits can't handle that. I don't have that much fun. So you asking me to have two and a half hours of fun, it's not something I'm used to. So it's almost feeling like I'm giving you this huge assignment and I'm saying you need to have fun every single day. And it's because we come up with all of these excuses, but really what we've done is we've made out. We've created a life for ourselves that we don't want to live inside of. And then you ask yourself, I don't understand why I'm just not fulfilled. It's so frustrating. What I need. I need to get clarity. You know what I mean? I need to get another certification. It's like, no, no, no, no. Let me just zoom out for a second. When I'm asked to have two and a half hours a day where I set aside time to enjoy myself, I can't fit that in now. Why is that? Why is that? It actually goes back to the research that Brene Brown has done. Because what did she come to find out? If anybody's read all of her stuff and there's a lot of it, she talks about shame, she talks about vulnerability, but she talks about joy. And why does she talk about joy? Because we feel the most vulnerable when we're in a state of joy. So isn't that interesting? Because everyone would say to you, of course I want to be happy, but do you? Do you really want to be happy or are you afraid of it? Are you actually up for it? Right? Do you really want what you say you want? I want to live this life where there's wind in my hair and I'm having the best sex and I'm traveling, I'm doing work that keeps me so fulfilled and so engaged and so alive. And I'm just so in it all the time. It's like, is that true? Do you actually want that? So the truth is you do, right? Your soul wants that. The part of you that's of the highest intelligence wants that. But this little program that's been running your personality that tells you to be safe says that joy is scary af don't you touch it with a 10 foot pole. You know what's better? What's familiar? It's not scary because it's familiar. And anything that's familiar feels less scary than even what's better for you, right? This is where it all comes together. I had somebody at one of my retreats raise her hand and she said to me, listen, listen. She's like, I hear all the things you're saying. I wasn't yet talking about this point. I was talking about all the other things. And she raised her hand. She's like, I hear everything you're saying, but I don't know, I mean, I do want to feel happy like 60% of the day, but how am I going to do that? And I said to her, hang on, why just 60%? Why not 100%? She's like, well, that's not a possibility. So then I said to her, hang on a minute. If we were talking about your physical health and you went to a doctor and you said, I want to feel physically well. 60% of the day. 40% is fine with me. Headaches, nausea, I'm good. 40% of the day I'm okay physically to feel like crap. Your doctor would look at you like you are literally insane. And your doctor would be like, that's, that's not our standard. Like we're not okay with that. We're just not okay with that. I have an expectation that I should feel physically healthy 100% of the time, 100% of the day. Do you. If you had a headache every day, 40% of the day, would you not be concerned? I'd be concerned. I'd be like, I need to get blue light glasses or go get an MRI or stop clenching my. I'm. I'm not okay with that. But for some reason, if you feel bad mentally, if you feel bad within yourself, 40% of the day, you're like, cool, okay, wow. I felt happy 60% of the day. That's amazing. 40% is fine. No problem. I'll just traverse the levels of hell inside my mind for 40% of the day. But that's amazing. That's a win. It's like, we get what we expect and we get whatever the standard is. And that's why we talked about early as we started this, we did a whole thing on camera. Capricorn. It's all about standards. It's all about really committing to your standard. Your standard for yourself is that you get to be having fun. And two and a half hours of your 24 hours, we're just going to decide that that's what we're doing. I know that feels like a stretch. I know I'm stretching you. I know I'm literally putting your feet in the fire by saying, I want you to commit to having fun two and a half hours a day. You're like, this woman is smoking crack. But, okay, let's just move on with it. If I type A1 in the chat, maybe she'll shut up, right? But then we're really going to look at. Why are we saying this? Okay, so let's talk about it. Your productivity. Because here's where I really get my Type A achievers. Okay? Your productivity, it doesn't come from pressure. It comes from presence. And so Daniel Pink, I've had him on my show a couple times. So Dan Pink has written a few books. One of the books he wrote talked about how these big corporations like Google and Microsoft and FedEx and Apple, they actually on purpose have their employees have off time while they're at work. So he gave all this research about how they come to work and they're not allowed to work, but they have to come to do what to play. And so they bake it into their schedule. And what happens is that more than 50% of the most successful things that they wind up selling and creating, where do they come from? They come from the days that their employees are not working on Fulfilling the other things that they've built. They come from the days where they're just making things up, and this person gets the same idea that has nothing to do with their job. And this person's working with this one, and they're doing team building, and they're just playing, and they're just like, ping ponging. And literally ping ponging or actually ping ponging ideas or whatever they're doing. Or they give them some kind of funny assignment that feels like it means nothing, and they go, wait a minute, we had a breakthrough. So what if what I'm saying is not so crazy? What if our productivity comes from the muscle, the practice of having fun, right? If you think about people like Einstein or Jim Henson or Picasso or Steve Jobs or any of these people who have created big things, they have a muscle to play. Because it's actually all about being in the lab and experimentation. And that's what makes scientists actually good at science, is like, let's try this, let's try that. That's what makes a chef really good at being a chef. What would happen if we added cinnamon to this? What would happen if we, you know, left the skin on the thing? Like, whatever it is, it's like it's all coming from playing with it.
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Kathy Heller
Okay?
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Kathy Heller (Audience Interaction/Assistant)
So fun is really actually important for your productivity. And you don't even know yet what's inside of you because you're so wired into this little Groundhog Day life where you pretty much every day. And they've tracked it. Most people, this is how they. This is, like, where they live. They feel the highs and the lows pretty much the same every single day. And they're using the same amount of their brain every single day. Okay? They just kind of hang out in this little loop. So they feel what they felt yesterday. They think what mostly they thought yesterday, which means that they have the same highs and the same lows, and it's just this repeat. So because you're so locked into that personality, which isn't even you, it's just a part of your personality you don't even know, right? Which is why we use these words like disruptor and things like that, because the people that come into the marketplace or into your life or into your family who actually bring everything to life, they're like, disrupting things, right? And that gets you out of the habit of what feels like it's just kind of stagnant and puts you into play, which actually starts to make you way more productive. So that is something that I want you to Think about now. Another thing is. So the first thing is that fun, right? It actually makes you more productive and magnetic. The second thing is that fun raises your signal. So you guys at this point know, and you know this about me, but you've probably read enough about it. We are all vibration. In fact, now they're saying, like, where medicine is moving, it's all going to be sound waves, right? And sound is doing amazing things because everything under a microscope is moving. It's all vibration. Atoms are what, 99% made of vibration and 1% particles, which means everything, our bodies, every single thing you can see, is made of atoms. Which means 99% of what you see is actually not physical. It's vibrational. Which means the way that we interact vibrationally is actually going to have a bigger impact than anything that is physical. Which is why when you hang out with a person more than where they went to college or what they're wearing or what car they drove, what you're most impressed by is what their energy, what matters is like, oh, the energy that's moving through that person, move through me. Because we are vibrational. So when you're having fun, you're manifesting. Okay, why are you manifesting? Because this quantum field that we're all in, it responds to your signal. And when you're having fun, your signal is that clean, coherent kind of signal because your nervous system is regulated, as we said, fun. What does it do? It stops. Your inner critic, your emotions are elevated. And so all of a sudden, this field, this whole field, including the other human beings in the field, right? But the field can read your signal. So your vive, it's not a side effect. It is the instruction manual. You're telling the universe. You're printing whatever it is that is in your vibration. So if you're walking around most of the day and you go, oh, that's true. I basically think what I thought yesterday, and I basically felt what I felt yesterday, and I basically have the same highs and lows, and I'm not really having fun. You're not going to manifest anything different from the space of not being in flow and not having fun and not having that high vibe. So it's essential. It's not just going to make you more productive. Where you're going to go, oh, my God, out of nowhere. I just had the download for this business. Oh, my God, out of nowhere. Because every billion dollars, by the way, ever made came from an idea, from an instinct, from an idea. It was an idea. Walt Disney World. It was an Idea. It's an idea, right? And where does that come from? Having fun when you're not preoccupied in fight or flight, and that takes you completely out of flow. When you're back in flow and you're literally just dancing in the moment. Oh, my God, I'm skiing. Oh, my God, I'm with my friends. Oh, my gosh, we're just laughing. You're like, five minutes, 10 minutes, an hour later, you're like, whoa. I just had this idea because the mind moves out of the cortisol fog, it gets off drugs, and then it can do what a human mind can do, which is be inspired. And all of a sudden it has a download and it's like, I'm going to write a song, I'm going to start a thing. I'm going to introduce this person to this person. Okay, so what happens when you're having fun is that fun removes resistance automatically. And resistance, it's not just fear, it's heaviness. We walk around, we don't realize how heavy our vibe is. Even for us, your own vibe is bringing you down, let alone how it reads in the quantum field and how it helps you or doesn't help you, it brings you down. So when you're having fun, it's the version of you that stops pushing, that stops gripping, that stops bracing, that stops forcing outcomes. And suddenly things just start to move. And the universe, whether we think so or not, it doesn't respond to seriousness. It responds to openness and allowing. And if you look in nature, there's no serious polar bears. There's no serious, like, you know, we have iguanas everywhere. They're not serious. They're just walking around, they're just hanging out. You know, if a deer, God forbid, hears a gunshot, it goes into fight or flight. And they've done these, like, experiments. And they see their pupils dilate, the blood rushes to their extremities, and it lasts like 15 minutes. And then hopefully they don't hear a gunshot anymore. And then they go back and to chill. They're just chill. So the point of it is that we're so serious that we can't manifest anything. Because essentially what we understand is that all the divine wants to do is pour light in 100%, and it's just looking for a willing vessel. That's it. So there's 100% electricity on. And when you're serious and when you're not having fun, it's like there's no filament in the light bulb, and it can't get in. That's the problem. So play puts you back in your creator identity. And you're a creator, you came to the world to create, so all of a sudden you're playing. And then you can be a creator because the light of the divine can find you and you can just use it like it's a paintbrush and you can play. So joy is sustainable and pressure is not. And most of the time the reason why you're upset is because unconsciously you're just under so much of your own pressure. As opposed to the mandate is joy. The mandate is curiosity. The mandate is play, and I'm here for it. People quit because their goals feel heavy. And it's not that you need more willpower, it's that you need more fun, you need more joy. If it was just, let's just have fun with this, you can just see it through. So fun creates momentum, play creates movement and confidence. It's the byproduct, it's not the prerequisite, right? Because it doesn't require confidence to play, it's just that you're available to explore. And then what happens is you become confident because you are designed brilliantly. And so when you just let yourself be and stop criticizing yourself, you can't help but make something brilliant. If you let yourself be messy as you play and as you sort of wander through with curiosity, you'll realize you wind up with an unbelievable amount of brilliant things. Which is why most creative people, once they start playing, they don't just design hotels, then they make music, then they make their own sneakers, then they have a TV show, then they're opening up a conference. It's like the amount of creative intelligence inside of you is something you not even. You haven't even scratched the surf, not even a dot. Because you're so hell bent on the pressure and the seriousness and the routine that takes you out of fun and flow and all that, that you haven't even flex the muscle of. Just like what comes out of you. When you just let go of that part of your personality and you move into this state of flow, it's just unbelievable. Like you, you can, you don't just do one thing brilliantly, you wind up becoming just a non stop fountain of ideas. A non stop fountain of. And then this is what gets so abundant, right? That's why in my book, abundance is not just piles of cash. It's the abundance of that point inside of you where you become just like these soap bubbles. It's like all these ideas, all of these things. And it's, it's coming because you found that sweet SP where you're having so much fun that the light can land within you. You become the light bulb and the light is looking for a place to shine through, and it's you. It just starts shining through you all the time.
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Kathy Heller
That was fun, and I hope it was inspiring. If you want to hear the rest of these conversations and if you want the replays to everything that I've been doing for the last 11 days and you want to be with me live this week, you can still join us@kathyheller.com 2026. But here's what I want you to remember.
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Kathy Heller (Audience Interaction/Assistant)
Here are the takeaways. Number one.
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Kathy Heller
What makes you you is not negotiable. It's not something to edit or mute or outgrow. It's the magic. Bring it with you.
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Kathy Heller (Audience Interaction/Assistant)
Number two.
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Kathy Heller
Creativity isn't a talent. It's a way of moving through the world. You are the creator, whether you figured it out or not. Number three. Brilliance doesn't come from waiting until you're ready. It comes from making mediocre things first. BSc student celebrate the drafts. That's where the good stuff sneaks in. Number four, God is the artist, you are the paintbrush. Your job isn't control, it's willingness. Number five, Your productivity doesn't come from pressure. It comes from presence, from play, from letting life meet you halfway. Number six, your vibe is not a side effect. It's the instruction manual. You're telling the universe what to build because of your signal. Number seven, all the divine wants to do is pour light through you fully. It just needs a willing vessel and play opens that for you. Number eight, the mandate is joy, curiosity and fun. And number nine, have fun every day. That's how you manifest the heck out of 2026. Thank you so much for listening. It really means the world to me and we have such good episodes coming up, so make sure that you follow along on Apple podcasts or Spotify or wherever you listen. And if you love this episode or anyone, please leave us a review and a rating. We got one recently that made my whole day.
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Kathy Heller (Audience Interaction/Assistant)
It says. Love your podcast.
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Hi Kathy, I've been a faithful listener of your podcast ever since I discovered you and oh so glad the universe brought me you.
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You're such a breath of fresh air.
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Kathy Heller
Have really been enjoying your weekly podcast and always am happy when the next one comes up. You have so much wisdom and know.
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Kathy Heller (Audience Interaction/Assistant)
Exactly what to say.
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Kathy Heller
I'm a fan. Just wanted to leave you a good.
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Kathy Heller (Audience Interaction/Assistant)
Review as you really deserve it.
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Kathy Heller
Keep on doing what you do best. Wish you a healthy and prosperous New Year.
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Kathy Heller (Audience Interaction/Assistant)
All the best.
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Kathy Heller
One happy listener. Natasha. Natasha thank you. That means more than you know. I love reading these. So if you leave me a review and you haven't yet, if you want to leave a review, you might just hear me read it on a future episode. And one last thing, just to remind you, I'm doing more live calls this week on Zoom. Today, tomorrow, Wednesday, we'll be doing the grand finale of this 14 day kickoff. If you want to join us, sign up@kathyheller.com 2026I'll talk to you soon.