Marriage Crime 101: Do NOT Watch OUR Show Without Me

Summary

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Episode Overview

Title: Marriage Crime 101: Do NOT Watch OUR Show Without Me
Podcast: The Dale Jr. Download
Hosts: Dale Earnhardt Jr. & Amy Earnhardt
Date: November 5, 2025
Main Theme:
Dale and Amy bring their trademark playful banter to their final weekly episode of “Bless Y’alls Heart,” delving into the everyday trials of marriage, parenting, Halloween festivities, racing realizations, and, most notably, the “marriage crime” of watching a show without your partner. With warmth and humor, they take listener questions and share honest insights about relationships, routines, and their evolving family dynamics.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Parenting Highlights and Small Victories

[02:57]

• Isla, their daughter, overcame her shyness and was the first student out of the car at school drop-off.
  • Dale: “Open that damn door and get out. Be the first one and watch everyone else. They're going to follow you.”
  • Amy notes the pride and growth in their daughter’s confidence.
• Reflect on watching your own kid growing up and gaining independence.

2. Halloween Adventures & The Dad Tax

[05:41]

• Dale dressed as the Big Bad Wolf; Amy describes the fun, including Dale howling at the moon.
• The girls’ costumes were a neighborhood hit—Isla enjoyed the attention so much she refused to wear a jacket, despite the freezing weather.
• “Dad tax” becomes a running joke as Dale admits sneaking candy from the kids’ buckets:
  • Amy: “You just gotta say dad tax every time you do it, because he was getting swatted away, which is a total thing.” [12:36]
  • Dale: “I believe…if you're telling me that I can make an excuse for grabbing candy…and call it dad tax…and it's good.” [12:52]
• Discussion on kids being impervious to cold and how adults become “house cats.”

3. Adjusting to Life Post-NASCAR

[17:33]

• Dale notes this is the first year since 1996 he hasn't run a NASCAR race.
  • Amy: “Oh wow. Yeah. How’s it feel?”
  • Dale: “Feels all right.”
• Talks about wanting to race more, the tension in making those decisions as a couple—and dispelling the myth that Amy “forbids” him from racing.
  • “No one’s saying that…It’s like the right thing to do…Ask, ‘Hey, I want to go run this race.’”

4. The Sting of Racing Defeats & Dealing with Disappointment

[19:47]

• Amy shares how emotionally difficult it was to see team members Connor and Justin’s disappointment after not clinching the Xfinity Series championship in Phoenix.
• Dale reflects on the difference between young racers’ “pack mentality” and how friendship and competition evolve:
  • Dale: “When you're fifth, fourteen, sixteen…a lot of things are motivated by friendship…I want my buddies…” [23:18]
  • On maturing, Amy notes it’s cool seeing young drivers commiserate and support each other off the track.

5. Parenting Fails and Wins

[25:06]

• Amy and Dale nearly show their young kids “Friday the 13th” as payback for bad behavior, but wisely chicken out before traumatizing them:
  • Amy: “We’re bad parents…We just wanted to get back at them.” [28:37]
• Small parenting breakthroughs—Dale gets Nicole to eat her pizza by showing enthusiasm, breaking a standoff at the dinner table.

6. The “Marriage Crime” Segment: Watching Shows Without Your Partner

[33:26]

• Listener confesses to watching ahead on a joint show, despite a mutual promise not to.
• Dale’s reaction:
  • “If you go forward and watch the show, you're breaking the vibe…What more than likely will happen…[the other person] not going to get back on board.” [34:02]
  • On Amy watching ahead: “It grinds my gears…it's like an agreement, and when the agreement gets busted, it's just not fun.” [36:00]
  • Amy offers perspective—handshake deals on TV shows should be honored, but you can always catch up and rewatch.
• Amy: “Handshake deals are meant to be kept. So even if it’s over a TV show.” [36:05]
• Fun, semi-serious comparison to infidelity—a recurring “marriage crime” bit.

7. Marriage Olympics: Competing Over Who’s More Tired

[37:05]

• Listener asks how to stop competing about who is more exhausted.
• Amy jokes: “Overindulge in how tired he is and make him feel guilty…If Dale kept telling me how tired he was, I’d be like, ‘Oh my God, does the baby need to sleep?’” [37:51]
• Dale’s advice to men: “Never tell the woman you’re tired. Never tell them how much fun you had.” [38:42]
• Honest reflection on “mental load” and appreciating the different roles each spouse plays.

8. Fixin’s Segment: Relationship & Lifestyle Q&A

[31:39 / 46:02 onward]

a) Male Equivalent to Flowers?

• Both agree: Beer, beef jerky, and snacks. [46:10]

b) Marathons & Exercise

• Amy: “No, I’m not running in anything unless I’m running away from something.” [47:01]
• Dale prefers biking, working out to fit into jeans.

c) Is It OK For a Woman to Slide into DMs?

• Both say emphatically “Yes”—go for it in today’s dating climate.
  • Dale: “If a woman walked up to any of us and said, 'Hey man, I think you’re cute,'…first time a woman’s ever said that to me!” [50:38]
• Discussion on how men respond to flirting—need things to be obvious.

d) How Many Pillows on the Bed?

• Disagreement: Amy wants a decorated bed, Dale just wants the minimum.
  • Dale: “I want the bare minimum…I don’t like the blanket…takes up the whole room. I like a thin top comforter.” [55:01]
  • Amy: “Pulling back the crisp sheets…everything perfectly laid out…makes me feel good.” [57:39]
• Humorously detail their differences in sleep set-up and routines.

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Notable Quotes & Moments

“Open that damn door and get out. Be the first one and watch everyone else…They’re going to follow you.”
— Dale Jr. ([04:17])

“Handshake deals are meant to be kept. So even if it’s over a TV show.”
— Amy ([36:05])

“If a woman walked up to any of us and said, ‘Hey man, I think you’re cute,’…First time a woman’s ever said that to me!…Where should we go?”
— Dale Jr. ([50:38])

“Never tell the woman you’re tired. Never tell them how much fun you had…don’t ever tell them it was great.”
— Dale Jr. ([38:42])

“We’re bad parents. We just wanted to get back at them.”
— Amy ([28:37])

“This is the very first year since 1996 that I didn’t run a NASCAR race.”
— Dale Jr. ([17:33])

“We’re just old and lazy. We just like to sit and lounge…we’re house cats.”
— Amy ([10:06])

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Timestamps for Important Segments

| Timestamp | Topic Summary | |-------------|---------------------------------------------------------------------| | 02:57 | Isla’s confidence at school drop-off | | 05:41 | Halloween costumes, trick-or-treating, and “dad tax” | | 17:33 | Dale reflects on first year not racing in NASCAR | | 19:47 | Team’s Phoenix loss & processing disappointment | | 25:06 | Attempted “parenting revenge” with scary movies | | 31:39 | “Fixin’s” segment begins | | 33:26 | Marriage crime: watching a show without your partner | | 37:05 | Stopping the “who’s more tired” competition in marriage | | 46:02 | Listener questions: flowers for men, running, DMs, bed pillows, etc.|

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Tone and Style

• Conversational, teasing but affectionate.
• Amy and Dale often rib each other, using humor to address everyday challenges.
• Down-to-earth, with honest admissions about both parenting and relationship misfires, creating a relatable, lighthearted listen.

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Summary for New Listeners

This lively episode of “The Dale Jr. Download” finds Dale and Amy at their candid, comedic best. They recount family exploits, debate the seriousness of “marriage crimes,” and field listener questions on everything from marital exhaustion to the etiquette of DMing for a date. Whether discussing Halloween “dad tax” or how many pillows constitute sanity in a marriage, their down-home warmth and honesty make the podcast accessible and engaging—even for those new to their world.

Transcript

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[Amy]

Oh, yeah. This is the way it's going to be, girl. We're going to hang out, open a bunch of jars. You got big strong hands. Are you suffering from high crack?

[Dale Jr.]

I'm working.

[Amy]

Working that mouth all. Hey, guys. Dale and I are in the Dirty Mo Media studio for our very last weekly episode of Bless yous Heart. It's been a fun year. Oh, my gosh. Dale's already on one this morning.

[Dale Jr.]

I'm fine. I'm happy to be here.

[Amy]

Happy to be here.

[Dale Jr.]

You look amazing.

[Amy]

Thank you. Showered today for you.

[Dale Jr.]

Don't say that.

[Amy]

We're gonna have a great show. We're gonna talk about a lot of random things that Dale wants to talk about today.

[Dale Jr.]

There's a couple things.

[Amy]

Let's get started.

[Dale Jr.]

Let's get started. We got the High Rock vodka drink of the week. It is the apple cider martini.

[Amy]

This one looks.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah. But you're excited. Yours is rimmed with some.

[Amy]

I got cinnamon sugar martini glass.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah.

[Amy]

So good.

[Dale Jr.]

I mean, it is what it is. Two ounces of apple cider, one ounce of vodka, half an ounce of triple sec, half ounce of fresh lemon juice.

[Amy]

I might just drink this whole thing.

[Dale Jr.]

1 tablespoon pure maple syrup or simple syrup, a pinch of ground cinnamon, cinnamon stick or apple slices. That tastes amazing. Sounds amazing. Perfect for the holiday season. We're getting ready to get fired up and dive right in.

[Amy]

Feel free to double that recipe.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah.

[Amy]

Makes a small drink.

[Dale Jr.]

So first thing, I guess, is Isla was first this morning. I put that in the notes. I got to tell you, before you. Before we move on, visit highrock vod.com to find a bottle near you. And please drink responsibly. You got to be 21 years or older.

[Amy]

That's right.

[Dale Jr.]

Isla was first today.

[Amy]

So Isla was first today. First in line at school.

[Dale Jr.]

Do we. Would we agree that Isla's on the. In the shy, timid side? Not. Not like, when I talk to her about, like, going to try out for soccer with her friends. I don't do soccer.

[Amy]

Yeah, she's a little nervous about trying new things.

[Dale Jr.]

All right, so we get to. We get in line, and. And today we were pretty early seventh in line. So we're the first nine cars. You can get out immediately if you're one of the first nine cars. So it's nine cars. Everybody gets out. Then the next nine move up, and they get out, and next nine moves up, and that's how the car line works. We're seventh. So we're gonna be one of the first kids out of the car. Isla looks at the clock every day, and she goes. For whatever reason, it's like, at this specific time, that's when all the doors open, the kids get out. So she looks at the clock and she goes, okay, it's this time. And we have a few minutes left before all the doors will open, the kids will get out. And so we're sitting there, and I think we're gonna wait for the time to happen on the clock and her to go, okay. And then she's. She starts looking for other car, other kids to get out, and. And I was like, isla, why don't you be first? She's like, what? No, no. Is anybody else opening their door yet? I was like, come on, I'll be first. They'll follow you.

[Amy]

Yeah, somebody has to be first.

[Dale Jr.]

I was like, open that damn door and get out. Be the first one and watch everyone else. They're going to follow you. And she did.

[Amy]

She did.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah.

[Amy]

You said, open that damn door.

[Dale Jr.]

When maybe I might have said damn over the door. Be the first one, and they'll all follow you. I promise. And she did it.

[Amy]

Yeah. I bet she was really proud of herself.

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[Amy]

Yeah, you're right. She's not one to, like, stick herself out there, you know, and try something.

[Dale Jr.]

First she got out of the truck, grabbed the handle on her book bag. It's got wheels. She wheels her bag and took off running Toward this building. And I don't know what it is about that visual. It happens every day. It is absolutely nothing unique. It's a kid getting out of a car and going into class. But I don't know what it is about it. Being your own kid and just watching her just run to school. Remember how hard.

[Amy]

What about being independent? Yeah, that's what it is. Such a relief leaving you. Doing her own thing.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, it's a relief. Like, it's so. It's so nice.

[Amy]

Yeah, yeah, it's cool.

[Dale Jr.]

But she was a. She's like. I thought for sure she was gonna go, no, no, no, no, no. I'm gonna wait for someone else to open their door. And when the other kids do it, I'll do it. Yeah, but she just. Just grabbed the handle. Push the door open and more confident.

[Amy]

I love that.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, I thought you would love that. So that's how I start the show, with a positive highlight.

[Amy]

Positive highlight. So we only can go down from here, is what you're saying.

[Dale Jr.]

Start high and go higher.

[Amy]

We're gonna start high and go higher. Holy smokes. What are we gonna do today? Well, shall we talk about Halloween?

[Dale Jr.]

We can.

[Amy]

So Dale did end up being the big bad wolf. He was more the big bad wolf versus, like, what was the one that you wanted to be with? The letter jacket, which you did not pull out? The teen wol. Yeah. So I found a mask at the Halloween store, and it actually worked with his mouth. So every time he made a big roar, opened his mouth really big, it actually opens up. So we have some videos of him howling at the moon, which I didn't share.

[Dale Jr.]

Why didn't you?

[Sponsor/Ad Voice]

I don't know.

[Amy]

I just kind of got mad.

[Dale Jr.]

How was that for you to share with the social media?

[Amy]

Well, there's still time, I guess.

[Dale Jr.]

We're walking down the street, trick or treating, and then I would just sporadically just go. I thought it was hilarious.

[Amy]

It was funny now.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, they were gonna want to see it now.

[Amy]

Well, I'll put it out there. We'll see. But it was fun. The girls had a great time. Everybody enjoyed our costumes, Even all the other little kids.

[Dale Jr.]

I would howl at the moon and then just take off running in a random direction.

[Amy]

You did do that, too. Really? Wait, come back. Gotta come back.

[Dale Jr.]

Only thing I was missing was a furry back of. Back of the hands. Fur.

[Amy]

Yeah. I couldn't.

[Dale Jr.]

I wanted to have that because that really pulls it off.

[Amy]

They have that. It just wasn't gonna come in time. Yeah, but the girls had fun we all dressed up and the other little kids enjoyed our outfits. We had plenty of kids coming up to us asking us to sing the Saja Boy songs or the K Pop songs.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, they did. Soon as we walked out of the house. Hilarious. I don't know nothing about these Cake Cake Pop Demon hunters or whatever they're called. Yeah, I've known. I don't want to know. I don't care to watch it. I've. I'm not going to watch that. And some cartoons with the kids. I'll watch them, but I'm not watching none of that. But we walk out of the house and we're in a neighborhood just like you'd see in the movies. Sidewalk, perfect houses, side by side by side. And as we're coming out, other kids in the neighborhood are starting their. Their journey through the, you know, the trick or treating experience. We walk out of the house, right up the driveway to the sidewalk. And as soon as we get to the sidewalk, the. This group of three kids run up and say, sing. Sing our favorite song. Like, they were talking to our kids. They recognized immediately who they were. And we're like, we want y' all to sing our. You know, they started interacting with them. It was hilarious.

[Amy]

It was awesome.

[Dale Jr.]

Yes, it was awesome.

[Amy]

I honestly wish that we had done a little practice so we had at least like a five second bit. You know what I mean?

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, most times. Most times, I guess Amy is like, when you're walking around this neighborhood, nobody. The, the fan, the. The parents might like interact. Like, you're this. And I'm this cool.

[Amy]

You're king trade.

[Dale Jr.]

Here we go, running our kids around. But the kids don't. The kids like don't interact with nobody but their own group.

[Amy]

They're focused on getting candy, they're focused on running and all that.

[Dale Jr.]

They saw their, they saw the costumes and they were like, oh, neat. And they started talking to them and it was different. It was just different this year.

[Amy]

I know. I. It was freezing outside.

[Dale Jr.]

It was cold.

[Amy]

Cold enough to like have a coat on. And Isla's little arms were bare. She refused to put a jacket on. And the sole purpose or the reason was because she was getting so much attention for her outfit and so much like accolade for having such a cool costume that she was like, no, I can't put that on. Everyone needs to see my outfit. So I was like, okay.

[Dale Jr.]

Oh yeah, she really feeling herself, but her arms, no sleeves, nothing. And not complaining. Not one complaint about cold. Not one. I was, yeah, I was surprised.

[Amy]

Yeah. They did get a lot of candy, though.

[Dale Jr.]

Kids jump in swimming pools that are, like, 75 degrees and don't give a. Like, I ain't getting in the swimming pool now.

[Amy]

I know our kids won't. Our kids will complain because you keep it at 88 degrees. Our kids will not get in a cold pool. Most children will.

[Dale Jr.]

No, but, like, there'll be days when the pool's not hot enough, and I'm like, yeah, it's too cold, guys. 82 degrees. They're like, what? I'm swimming.

[Amy]

Supposed to be cold.

[Dale Jr.]

And they drive it. They dive in there, and they go. And I'm like, oh, but. But, like, so there. You know, it's. Kids will do that. Kids will run around in a. In the neighborhood cold and not care.

[Amy]

Yeah.

[Dale Jr.]

They'll be.

[Amy]

They can put it out of mind.

[Dale Jr.]

When did we get too sensitive? Get too sensitive?

[Amy]

When we stopped being so active, Spoiled. If we were getting in a pool and playing Marco Polo or whatever we used to play, we wouldn't care so much because you're moving around.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, you did. You didn't care. You made. You fought through it.

[Amy]

Yeah.

[Dale Jr.]

To play.

[Amy]

Yeah. We're just old and lazy. We just like to sit and lounge.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, True.

[Amy]

We're house cats.

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[Dale Jr.]

So the. The dad tax.

[Amy]

Yeah, dad tax. So the kids got tons of candy, and first thing they do is they like those old pumpkins. I got purple ones so they match their outfits. And they pour the candy out in the living room when they get home at Tamlin TJ's house. So they're all kind of, like, seeing what they got organizing. Isla has a crap ton of candy.

[Dale Jr.]

She took more than two. She took more than one. We told her.

[Amy]

Breaking the rules.

[Dale Jr.]

We told her more. Don't take more than one. She didn't listen.

[Amy]

No, she did not listen.

[Dale Jr.]

She'd go up there and grab as much as she could.

[Amy]

So rude. And so Nicole, too, because hers got heavy enough, she decided to quit, like, halfway through, and she went back in the house with Madeline. So she's sitting out. She's happy as a lark with half the amount of candy that Isla had, but she is fully planning on eating every piece of it. And so I had learned this about her just two days before I told you we had that play date, and she ate every single piece of candy. So Dale's sitting at the bar where he had ordered pizza. He's eaten food, and I'm like, hold Nicole's bucket. I've let her have one piece. She can't have this whole thing. Well, I turn around and she's got the whole bucket on the floor again. And I walk over, I'm like, hey, she's got the whole bucket. He's like, yeah, I gave it to her. I'm like, she's going to eat the whole thing. And so I take the bucket from her. I said, listen, you can have one more piece. That's it tonight. And then we'll have to put it away. And so she picks a full size candy bar. It was the only one I think she had, but it was a full size chocolate bar. And Dale's like, you're going to let her have that? She's going to eat that. I'm like, it was like, let her have the whole damn.

[Dale Jr.]

She takes the thing out of the wrapper and her little tiny hand. She's got this gigantic like shack sized.

[Amy]

Chocolate bar and she's over going, eating gigantic bites. I got, I got told not to.

[Dale Jr.]

Give her the whole bucket. Yeah, but she was going to eat it all. I'm like, wait a minute. She's getting like six servings of a chocolate bar here comparable to her size.

[Amy]

He's, he's not listening. She would have eaten that chocolate bar plus everything else in the bucket and.

[Dale Jr.]

Then gotten a tummy ache and learned a good lesson.

[Amy]

No, she wouldn't. She would have gotten psycho crazy and you would have learned a lesson. Not as bad as it would have. There was all kinds of stuff in there that she probably shouldn't need, shouldn't eat.

[Dale Jr.]

But anyway, now we get back to the house. You don't really know this, but I took all of their candy and poured it into one single box.

[Amy]

Well, I asked him yesterday, he said, do you think we should throw the candy?

[Dale Jr.]

I want to throw it away because if not, I'm eating it all and I don't want to eat it.

[Amy]

All right, so I didn't know that you were having an issue because that was days ago that we.

[Dale Jr.]

I've been going out there and eating it a little bit here and there and I want to get rid of.

[Amy]

It, but it's not his candy. He was trying to take it out of their buckets as they were trickortreating. And so I'm like, yeah, you just got to say dad tax every time you do it. Because he was getting swatted away, which is a total thing. Have you ever heard about that? Anybody else?

[Dale Jr.]

I believe. I mean, if you're telling me that I can make an excuse for grabbing candy out of my kids calorie Bucket and call it dad Tax. And it's good.

[Amy]

Yeah. I learned that from Billy and Kayla when we went Halloween trick or treating with them in Dallas. They. Billy would just take what he wanted out of the buckets and be like, sorry, that's dad Tax.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah.

[Amy]

And I think that it applies to other things. You just say it and don't. Don't give it any emotion.

[Dale Jr.]

I like the Whoppers and the Nerds.

[Amy]

Yeah. And the Reese's Cups.

[Dale Jr.]

I can just do the Whoppers and Nerds.

[Amy]

Really?

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah. Reese's Cups are great. They are. But they're a little bit of work.

[Amy]

Okay.

[Dale Jr.]

Yep.

[Amy]

Why?

[Dale Jr.]

How so they come in those little wrappers.

[Amy]

There's too many steps.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah. There's too many steps. There's one extra step. So I just. They have now, you know, they're little mini cups.

[Amy]

Yeah.

[Dale Jr.]

They have those in a pack. In a wrapper. Like a bag. Not the old traditional tinfoil.

[Amy]

Yeah.

[Dale Jr.]

Now they have them in a package.

[Amy]

Yeah.

[Dale Jr.]

Single serve. Single. One thing. I tear that open and I'm going to. Surely. It's just the cup. The churlish. Just a Reese cup now. Nope. Still has that little thing on it.

[Amy]

Yeah, whatever.

[Dale Jr.]

That paper thing.

[Amy]

How they make them.

[Dale Jr.]

I mean, what are we doing here? It's just too many steps and too.

[Amy]

It's too much trash about this before.

[Dale Jr.]

Well, that's why I pass on them. I love Reese cups. Love Reese pieces.

[Amy]

Reese's.

[Dale Jr.]

I call them Reese.

[Amy]

Why do we have. I like misrepresent.

[Dale Jr.]

Like saying Reese. It's easier to say Reese than. And Reese's.

[Amy]

It's like somebody's name. It's Reese's.

[Dale Jr.]

If I say Reese's, it's got like an extra letter in it. I don't really want.

[Amy]

You are adding an extra sound with the re.

[Dale Jr.]

C. Reese is easier to say than recess. I'm just. This is just me. I get to choose.

[Amy]

It's annoying.

[Dale Jr.]

I know. I'm sorry. I change words if I don't like them.

[Amy]

You just decide.

[Dale Jr.]

Like the word sing signal.

[Amy]

You said it right the last time I heard you say it.

[Dale Jr.]

Sometimes I'll slip up and get it right.

[Amy]

Oh, that should be on. I forgot I was doing a thing.

[Dale Jr.]

That should be on my tombstone. Sometimes I'll slip up and get it right.

[Amy]

Noted. I'll put that in my notes.

[Dale Jr.]

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[Dale Jr.]

This is the very first year since 1996 that I didn't run a NASCAR race.

[Amy]

Oh, wow. Yeah. How's it feel?

[Dale Jr.]

Feels all right.

[Amy]

You feel all right?

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah.

[Amy]

You did run some races this year?

[Dale Jr.]

I did. I ran some late mile races. I'm done racing this year, though. I'm not gonna go run that South Carolina 400 that I usually run. So you'll have. You've got me for the rest of the year.

[Amy]

Sweet. I thought maybe you were gonna spring it on me. I was getting my. Myself mentally prepared.

[Dale Jr.]

There was a race at Hickory called the Fall Brawl that I wanted to go run, but I just never got the guts to ask if you felt all right about that.

[Amy]

Do you? I mean, you don't ask anyway.

[Dale Jr.]

I know, I know.

[Amy]

You're gonna make everybody think that I really have this, like, superpower over telling you yes or no whether you're gonna race or not.

[Dale Jr.]

No one's saying that.

[Amy]

Well, that's been a thing. I've gotten comments like that I like.

[Dale Jr.]

But I. I feel like that I've. I feel like that in the relationship. It's like the right thing to do. So. Hey, I want to go run this race. We got that is the. That would have been the one only off weekend of the. I mean, we've got something else going on every weekend.

[Amy]

I know between Christmas and we do, but why it's running in that race and now we're going to come back and go to the race. So we're going to be there anyway.

[Dale Jr.]

I want to see why it race.

[Amy]

I do too. But we're going to be there anyway, is my point.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah. Well, yeah, I'm not. It feels kind of weird to not be racing or not have raced in nascar, but I think, yeah, I feel pretty good about it. I feel I didn't bother me. It didn't bother me. I didn't know if it would, but it's just a very.

[Amy]

New feeling.

[Dale Jr.]

New feeling, I guess.

[Amy]

Well, that's okay. New feelings are good.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah. We went to Phoenix. I talked you into going.

[Amy]

Yes.

[Dale Jr.]

We weren't went there to try to win the Xfinity Series championship and we. We didn't. And we had packed our bags to stay through Tuesday or Wednesday morning. I had my tux, you had a gown. We were gonna go to the spa.

[Amy]

We were gonna go hiking.

[Dale Jr.]

Hiking. We had all this stuff planned and I took you all the way up there. So you could see us fail.

[Amy]

Listen, I went because I, my heart did break. But honestly it wasn't because you guys didn't make it to the championship. I know it's always very disappointing when you, when you're planning to do that. My mind did not. My mind. We had three guys out of four in the chase for that championship. My mind was wrapped around the fact that we were going to win. I didn't like you plan for anything else. You have more realistic or pessimistic, as you've said, vantage point on things like that. I was like, oh, there ain't no chance we're going to go home. We're going to stay through the whole thing. And so when we didn't, it was like quite a bit of a shock. But I, I got super sad just watching how sad the guys were. Like all three of them were so sad. Justin is very emotional. I know him better than the other two so I mean I expected him to be, you know, teary eyed and all that and I walked up and gave him a hug. But watching Connor cry like that truly broke my heart.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah.

[Amy]

And I, we were walking towards him and I knew you were going to go talk to him and give him a hug and I didn't follow you because I almost figured I was just going to start ugly crying right there with him. I can't help it. So that just broke my heart. I hated that for him. He had such a good season.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, I was, I hated that I, that you went. I hated that I took you all the way out there to experience all that go down the way it did. But you know, it was, it was awesome that you went and awesome that we got to go have a day even though we didn't get to stay and do all the fun things we wanted to do this week.

[Amy]

Yeah, I know. It was fine. That's part of it. You know what I found to be very interesting too about Connor. So he and Jesse Love, I didn't know were that close. They are very good friends and they had already planned to stay in a house together starting what, Sunday through the rest of the week. No matter what the circumstances were, like likelihood one of them was going to win, you know, and one of them was going to be disappointed. They were going to just hang out together anyway. And I don't know if that's like massive maturity or immaturity or not like.

[Dale Jr.]

Thinking probably or lack of planning. Yeah, yeah.

[Amy]

I don't know. Like they, they figured it out and they seem. Surely they're fine.

[Dale Jr.]

I Called Carson or I called Connor Sunday morning and just check in and take some emotional inventory.

[Amy]

Yeah, right.

[Dale Jr.]

And he was like, I get to hang. He's like, I'm not. I said, are you in the same house as, as Jesse right now? I mean, are you literally sulking and sorry, feeling sorry for yourself while he's on the other side of the house, like, granted, on top of the world?

[Amy]

Yeah.

[Dale Jr.]

He's like, no, we don't, we don't get into that house till tonight. So I've got a couple more hours of being by myself, lonesome and sad.

[Amy]

Feeling sorry for myself.

[Dale Jr.]

But yeah, I, I don't understand. I don't pretend to understand the, the friendship. And I mean, I get the friendship. I get having buddies that you race with and they grew up racing with each other. Brent Cruz. I mean, Connor knows a ton of these guys. He tutored them on, on the go kart tracks and stuff. So, you know. But yeah, I think tough lessons, you know, you don't.

[Amy]

Yeah, I can't imagine you doing that.

[Dale Jr.]

Well, he's 18. He's 19.

[Amy]

I guess even at 19, like you guys, you don't, you're friends with your competitors, but like around the racetrack, you were not really that you're not friends.

[Dale Jr.]

I think you are when you're, when you're, when you're fifth, you know, when you're 14, 15, 16, all the way up until them early 20s. Everything's as a, as a, as a boy or a teenager, as a young man. A lot of things are motivated by friendship. And I want to do this, I want to do this, but I want my buddies or I want to be with my pals or I want to be where they are doing what they're doing. I'm doing. I want everything. I want everything I want to do. I want that buddy.

[Amy]

Pack mentality.

[Dale Jr.]

Pack mentality. Yeah. And so I kind of, I guess thinking back, you know, I was always like, I might have a roommate. I need to have a roommate. I have a buddy. I want, you know, when I'm sitting here at the house at 8 o' clock at night, nothing to do. Having a roommate is better, you know? And so you just always thought that you needed. And my dad would go, why you got a freaking roommate? What the hell? I'm like, college is fun. We play video games and we hang out.

[Amy]

All the things he didn't understand.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, we don't, we just laugh and don't do. And he's like, why you want that? And, and so I kind of get It. You know, you always kind of wanted to be around your buddies if you could, and, you know, but that'll change over time, I think.

[Amy]

I just thought it was cool. I mean, surely they're having a good time.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, I'm sure they are. I mean, it stings for. I mean, you walked. I walked through the shop yesterday and walked through the. I was here Monday and. And walking through the shop today, and guys are still a bit in shock about it. Yeah, yeah. You know, but there. We've all run. All the guys that are in there have done it for years. They know the deal. We'll buck up and keep going. Keep going.

[Amy]

Go to the next one. All right, let's.

[Dale Jr.]

Wait, wait, wait.

[Amy]

What?

[Dale Jr.]

We got one more thing that we need to tell y'.

[Amy]

All.

[Dale Jr.]

It's hilarious.

[Amy]

We or you?

[Dale Jr.]

Us.

[Amy]

I don't. What the hell happened?

[Dale Jr.]

The very first note.

[Amy]

It's funny because we're bad parents.

[Dale Jr.]

We're bad parents. So we were at home the other day. I'm telling you what. Our girls were pissing us off.

[Amy]

We've talked about it. They've been on one.

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I don't know why.

[Amy]

At the moon, something.

[Dale Jr.]

They're pissing us off.

[Amy]

But it's Thursday. We're gonna leave and go out of town. I think it was Thursday. We're gonna leave and go out of town on Saturday morning. So it was Friday night. I'm like, let's just take them out to eat. Let's not mess up the kitchen and all that. So, like, let's take him out, and then you get out of the house.

[Dale Jr.]

We took them to this. This Mexican restaurant that we love. It's right close by the house.

[Amy]

Yep. It's where we had our first date.

[Dale Jr.]

And they were.

[Amy]

Cute little place. It's an old church.

[Dale Jr.]

Complete ass.

[Amy]

They were such. Both of them. Even Isla, she's, like, slinking down in her seat, almost falling underneath the booth.

[Dale Jr.]

She's sliding down. See? And you're. And they're. They're like, I'm done. They haven't eaten a bite. I'm done. I don't want to. And they're. And. And what they're going to do is they're going to get home, and in 30 minutes, they're going to get home again. I'm thirsty and I'm hungry.

[Amy]

That's exactly how Nicole says, I'm thirsty and I'm hungry and I'm hungry. Okay, you probably should have eaten your dinner.

[Dale Jr.]

But they're acting like complete jerks at this. At this thing. Me And Amy are trying to have a good meal, and she's got a little margarita, and I'm having a little diet cola, and we're having. We're. This could be an awesome time. But they're making it so miserable.

[Amy]

Yeah. The steam is starting to come out of Dale's ears. He should have had a margarita, too.

[Dale Jr.]

We get home, and we all sitting in the living room, and they're not really paying attention. We got the TV on, and Amy asked me. She goes, what's your favorite old scary movie? And I was like, well, I don't know. I think about that one, I guess. Friday the 13th. I was. I remember when Friday 13th came out, that was a big deal. Everybody was. Everybody was talking about.

[Amy]

We talked about Hellraiser, too, with Pinhead.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, Hellraiser, Friday 13th. Freddy Krueger, all. We went through all of them, and I was like, maybe you ought to.

[Amy]

Fire up Friday 13th on Amazon Prime. And there's a couple of. Right there for us. We started playing one of them, and all of a sudden, I got chickens.

[Dale Jr.]

She did.

[Amy]

I don't know. This backfire.

[Dale Jr.]

I was like, these two deserve to have the scared out of them. I want them laying in the bed tonight with her eyes wide open, worried about Jason and Crystal Lake coming out.

[Amy]

From under the bed.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah. And then we thought better of it.

[Amy]

And we're like, yeah, that's probably gone too far.

[Dale Jr.]

Terrible parenting.

[Amy]

Yeah.

[Dale Jr.]

Well, man, we came so close.

[Amy]

The intro was scary enough that we scared out of our dumbass, started the.

[Dale Jr.]

Movie, and there's this girl running through the woods, and I'm like, we're doing this, all right? Any minute now, the kids are going to look at the TV and freak out something. You know, Jason's gonna get him. And.

[Amy]

Well, as soon as this started, like, all the color in the thing is red. It's, like, really tonal red, like blood. And Nicole's eyes get really big, but not like she's scared. Like, she's, like, been revived. I'm like, oh, God. Maybe we were gonna awaken the actual demon inside of this kid. Did you see her face?

[Dale Jr.]

No.

[Amy]

Oh, I did. I was like, oh, gosh.

[Dale Jr.]

I saw them look at the screen and go, this is weird. You know, they had that look, like, I don't know about this, you know? But it got their attention because the font and everything's kind of gruely and spooky.

[Amy]

Yeah.

[Dale Jr.]

And then. Then the scene started playing, and I'm like, all right, man. We're kind of about. About to get to the point of no return. I had to vote by these kids or we're gonna bail.

[Amy]

Yeah.

[Dale Jr.]

And Amy bailed. I'm thankful she did. It had been terrible parenting. Why would you subject your kids, you know, your five and your seven year.

[Amy]

Old, and then they didn't say anything. They ran off and went upstairs to play. And Dale and I looked at each other and we're like, that's what we thinking, like terrible people.

[Dale Jr.]

We were so mad at them. We just wanted to get back at them.

[Amy]

Yeah. See, sometimes we need what would have been.

[Dale Jr.]

What would have been something we could have done that would have been in the. In. In the. In the. You know, within reason.

[Amy]

I don't know what my parents used to do when we acted like that. I'm sure we acted like that. There's just no way we didn't. Right.

[Dale Jr.]

We had a breakthrough yesterday. I was Nicole Isla wanted a corn dog. Nicole wanted a pizza. The pizza comes out. Nicole all of a sudden wants a corn dog. She won't stop saying corn dog. And I walk over there. I'm like, you say corn dog one more time, you're sitting on time. You're sitting on the steps. That's time out. She goes.

[Amy]

I don't want to eat this pizza.

[Dale Jr.]

And so she puts this look on her face like, I'm not going to say corn dog.

[Amy]

But I really wanted.

[Dale Jr.]

But I'm not gonna eat this. I'm not eating. And I grabbed one of the pieces of pizza and I eat. I was like, hey, look at me. She looks up and I went, I ate it. I was like, this is good pizza. And I know you like it. And she's. She grabs this plate and slides over and starts eating it. She's like, it is good.

[Amy]

He told her. He's like, you're not getting up from this table until you finish it.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah. I think me taking the bite of it and saying.

[Amy]

Getting right in her inner space.

[Dale Jr.]

I was like, this is good pizza. And I know you like it. I've seen you eat it. And she's like, he's not wrong.

[Amy]

And she ate it and finished with a smile.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, like, seconds later, I gave him that. Me.

[Amy]

I did. I was like, God dang. I was about to lose my.

[Dale Jr.]

Yep.

[Amy]

And he fixed it. So good job. Parenting win.

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[Amy]

Okay, now it's time for some fixins. Fixings. Fixins, Fixings.

[Dale Jr.]

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[Amy]

That's right. Some people use butter. We use Hellman's. And it browns beautifully.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, give it a shot.

[Caller/Listener]

All right, first fixin question is. So my husband and I finally picked a show to watch together. It took us forever to agree on one, so we made it our little thing. We watched the first two episodes together. One night we went to bed and we literally said out loud, no one's watching another one without each other. We even shook on it. Well, here is where I might have messed up. He had to Work late two nights ago, and I could not sleep. So I told myself I would just rewatch the last 10 minutes of episode two to refresh my memory. And then I accidentally watched the entire third episode. Then episode four autoplayed, and I thought it'd be rude to stop in the middle. I tried to rewind and watch again with him pretending I had not seen it. But he caught it. But he caught on because I was way too prepared for one of the jump scares. He paused the TV and looked at me and like, I betrayed our vows. He says this is basically cheating in TV terms and that I broke our trust. I think he's being dramatic. I told him that if he really cared, he would have watched it faster. So who is right here? Is it normal? Is it normal slip up? Or did I commit a marriage crime? And what is the fair punishment?

[Amy]

Sounds like they're newlyweds. I would say. I would say that I would do something like this so I would hopefully get some reprieve or some grace. Dale and I used to watch lots of shows together, and now we really. We don't. I am. I plow through a show, and he won't even have a clue that I even watched it. I don't know. If you shake on something and you make a deal, I feel like you have to honor the deal, but at the same time, you could catch up and then re. You know, go on together. Dale's just looking at me like, yeah, nope, don't care.

[Dale Jr.]

No, I don't know. I. I think the way I feel about this is basically all right, in this. I've. Me and Amy say, me and Amy start watching a show, either one of us are going to maybe find ourselves in that position where we have the chance to watch the next episode. We want to. We're in this. We like it. We want to watch the next show. But the person. The other person's not there. You got to understand you. If you go forward and watch the show, you're breaking the vibe. You're breaking the pair. And now what more than likely will happen is that you'll watch the rest of it by yourself and the other person's not going. You're probably more likely not going to get that person to get back on board to where you rejoin and finish the series. So, like, any time that. It just depends.

[Amy]

I mean, like, if it's a serious show, it's harder to jump back into, but you can catch up. And you could rewatch it, too.

[Dale Jr.]

It grinds my gears. Like, if Amy's seen an episode of. If we're in a series. Like, we watch bless your heart or I mean, sorry. We watch Southern Charm. We'll sit down, and we'll start looking through our library, and I'll be like, oh, cool. New episode. And she'll be like, I've seen it. And I'm like, when did you watch it?

[Amy]

When you were playing video games? I probably watched it.

[Dale Jr.]

Like, I would have got up for my video games.

[Amy]

No, you wouldn't have.

[Dale Jr.]

I can't believe this.

[Amy]

TJ Said we had to advance, and.

[Dale Jr.]

So now I can't watch it. I can't now. I can't watch it because I don't want to make her re. Watch it. And so now I've got to find a time. Another time. Maybe tomorrow. Whatever. To find, to catch up. And now we got to figure out what else we're gonna watch.

[Amy]

Oh, my gosh. You worry about too much. First of all, you can rewatch episodes of Southern Charm over and over and over again. They're always entertaining. It's not like a serious show, so.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, I know, but I.

[Amy]

If it's a serious show, it's totally different.

[Dale Jr.]

I know, but it's like an agreement, and when the agreement gets busted, it's just not fun.

[Amy]

Yeah. Handshake deals are meant to be kept. So even if it's over a TV show.

[Dale Jr.]

If it's a ser. If it's a. If it's a show, like a season, and she. And we watch two episodes together, and then she watches the third, and I don't. I'm usually off. I'm. I'm usually getting off the train.

[Amy]

Is it cause you're annoyed with me or cause you're. It's not fun in the show.

[Dale Jr.]

It was something we did together, and you chose to move. You chose to do without me. So it's kind of like. It's like my feelings are hurt a little bit.

[Amy]

Okay.

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[Dale Jr.]

It's like, wait a minute. I thought that was something you only like to do with me, but you did it without me. Like, everything in the world I do is better with you in it.

[Amy]

Okay.

[Dale Jr.]

So I can't imagine, like, I'll do this. Amy's not here. I'll still do it.

[Amy]

I don't know if this stuff's real or if you just tell yourself that just to validate your feelings.

[Dale Jr.]

I don't either.

[Amy]

I don't either. All right, what's our next one?

[Caller/Listener]

All right, this is my last one for the fixing segment. This one says, hey, Dale. Hey, Amy, I need Yalls advice because my husband and I are stuck in what feels like the never ending married people Olympics. And the only event we compete in daily is who is more tired. I will say how exhausted I am from working school, drop off errands, laundry, and keeping the kids alive. Then he fires back with how tired he is from his job, his commute, mowing the lawn and taking out the trash like he is auditioning for husband survivor. We start listing tasks like we're building legal cases. Is it. It is like neither of us can be tired. We have to be the most tired. And the worst part is we are both basically zombies trying to one up each other while half asleep. So my question is, how do we stop keeping score?

[Amy]

Just stop. One of you's got to stop. Just. Honestly, what I would do is just over and overindulge in how tired he is and make him feel guilty about how much he's complaining about it. Like, if Dale kept telling me how tired he was, I'd be like, oh, my God, does the baby need to sleep? Do you need a little nappy nap? Do we need to like, do you need a pillow? Like, I like to make that sounds like Amy, like light of the situation when he's complaining. If it's just like a silly thing he's complaining about or if I know that he's competing with me, then I'm damn sure gonna like throw it back in his face a little bit.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah.

[Amy]

And then it just becomes a joke. So that's a thing you have to always come back to, like trying to figure out how to bring it back to light and laughing with each other about stuff. Because everybody's going to be tired. If you're parents and you've got jobs, everybody's going to be tired. But you got to make it funny.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah.

[Amy]

And break the cycle.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah. I think that the guy, if he's listening or any guys out there, never tell the woman you're tired. Never tell them you're tired. Never tell them how much fun you had. Never tell them. Yeah, if you go out on a trip, man, it's good. Don't ever tell them it was great. Don't ever tell them you had a blast. Don't ever tell them. You know, don't, don't. If you come back from work and you're tired, don't tell them you're tired.

[Amy]

Did you get this in a handbook? I don't understand this rationale.

[Dale Jr.]

Well, I think so. Some of it's common. Some of this is like some of.

[Amy]

Like, you start really searching for the right words.

[Caller/Listener]

It's back there.

[Dale Jr.]

No, like, so we. I go. I go. I went on a trip. I got a buddy with me. His wife's texting him. Hope you're having fun and can't wait till you get home. You get. I'm tagging out immediately. You got these. You got these kids, you know, just on and on and on.

[Amy]

Oh, that sucks.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah. And I'm like, I don't do that. He doesn't do that. Amy doesn't do that.

[Amy]

I want you to have fun. Don't go away if you're not gonna have fun.

[Dale Jr.]

But on the very tail end of the trip, there have been times, like, on the day I'm coming back, you're like, I've had it.

[Amy]

Yeah.

[Dale Jr.]

I'm at the end of my rope.

[Amy]

And I just want to let you. It's like a preemptive. It's for re. Entry into your actual life. Like, they just want to let you know this is the tone.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, but I don't. I think when you go. If you're a guy and you go on a trip and you come back and you're like, damn, man, I had a blast. That's like telling your buddy about your fantasy football team. He don't give a. About your fancy football team and how good they are. Right. He's got his own team.

[Amy]

Is that true?

[Dale Jr.]

He's got his own damn problems. He's got. You know, he's got. He's got his own. He's got. He doesn't have the tight end. He don't have a good quarterback he don't want to hear about. Right. And so he's trying to salvage his season. That's the way the wife is when you're coming off your. Your guy trip. She's like, I don't want to hear about this. I'm glad you had a good time, but I don't need to know about it. I had a tough time. You know, I had this and this and this going on. I had to run these kids all around.

[Amy]

And so, yeah, Nicole colored her face purple yesterday.

[Dale Jr.]

And so that's like. That's the. You know, don't come home and go on and on about how great it was. You had a good time. Say you had a good time. Great trip. Thanks. Thanks. You know, thanks for taking care of the kids while it's gone.

[Amy]

Whatever I can say that's valid, especially if the mood at home is. It's gone haywire since you left.

[Dale Jr.]

The tired part Is. Don't. Don't tell them you're tired. Because, like, we get up in the morning, you get up, you make two break. You make two lunches, you feed two. You make two breakfasts, you feed two kids, you make two lunches, you pack their lunches, you pack their backpacks. You make sure they got their schoolwork. You make sure they're studying for their spelling test. You do like 15 tasks before I made it downstairs.

[Amy]

Yeah.

[Dale Jr.]

And I come downstairs and I feed the dog. I don't walk out going, fed the dog. Yeah, I do good.

[Sponsor/Ad Voice]

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[Dale Jr.]

You know, I just walk out, I come down, feed a dog. I hug on the girls. I, you know, maybe clean, pull some dishes out of the dishwasher. Whatever I can see that might could be done. And. And then I go on down the road.

[Amy]

Yeah. So, like, everybody has their role when you're married. Like, you have to know that you're like, as a woman, you're going to have more load with k kids in certain aspects. There are certain areas where Dale is going to have more load with the kids. He's the one that they want to play with. He's the one that needs to entertain them. He's the one that has, like, show them how to ride their bike. There's certain things that, like, moms do and certain things dads do. Men and women, too, if you don't have kids. Like, everybody has their role. So appreciate your role and quit complaining about it.

[Dale Jr.]

I think that I'm not saying this either one.

[Amy]

Like, I don't think. I don't think being tired is unallowed. I just feel like if you're trying to one up your. Your spouse, that's not healthy. Also, your kids are watching that. Quit it. Just quit it.

[Dale Jr.]

Well, I feel like that, like, y' all moms, like, I don't. You know, in the end of this whole thing, if the hits the fan, we're all gonna look at you. They're not gonna all look at me. They're gonna go, what do we do? What do we do now? You know, and you've gotta have the plan. And so, like, you're always doing those mental gymnastics in your mind all day long. Over. Do they have this. Has this been taken care of? Is this been. Have they signed up for this? Have I signed. Have I taken care of this? Is, you know, are they the. Is there. You know, we have plans for where they, you know, gymnastics and dance and cheerleading and Da, da, da, da.

[Amy]

I know. Yeah. Spring break. I don't gotta worry about Months in advance.

[Dale Jr.]

I don't have to worry about any of that. And so like you, you're always. Your mind's always got to be working and on. On a project. And I get to sit back and just watch it all get done.

[Amy]

It always comes back to this. Video games.

[Dale Jr.]

I think the tired isn't a physical thing. It's more in a minute.

[Amy]

No, it's mental load. Sure.

[Dale Jr.]

And it. And it's. And I don't come in, I don't come home and go, I'm so tired because I really haven't done. Done all the mental gymnastics that you've done. And I can say that with confidence. I don't give a what any guy says. I didn't call me what they want to call me about. You know how I feel about this. But that's just the truth. I watched you get pregnant, carry kids, have kids, feed them, go through that first year of childhood. All of the things that that encompasses for a woman. I'll never, I'll never walk in the house unless I know that you'll 100% agree and say, man, I'm tired, wore out. I just want you to know I'm just tired.

[Amy]

Yeah, I hear you. Well, I appreciate all of that awareness.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, well, it took me a while to learn that.

[Amy]

Yeah.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah.

[Amy]

Well, that's part of life. All right. Well, hopefully that helps. Quit competing with your spouse unless it's an actual competition, right?

[Dale Jr.]

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[Amy]

Hi, guys. Dale and I are in the Dirty Mo Media studio for our very last weekly show of Bless youh Heart. And we're excited for your questions this week. What do you have?

[Caller/Listener]

All right, our first question is a good one from Andy. What is the male equivalent to flowers?

[Amy]

What is the male equivalent to flowers?

[Dale Jr.]

Beer, I would say beer.

[Amy]

Yeah.

[Caller/Listener]

Alcohol.

[Amy]

Yeah. Especially like your favorite, like ice cold.

[Dale Jr.]

Bag of jerky boys. Beef jerky.

[Amy]

Beer, Pickles and jerky.

[Dale Jr.]

I think snacks. Yeah, yeah.

[Caller/Listener]

Some chocolate, maybe.

[Dale Jr.]

Snack basket.

[Caller/Listener]

Let's see if the chat could fire up. It's fire up some options too. Our next one is from Riley. The New York City Marathon was this weekend and there was a lot of signs on social media that were pretty funny as well. This one's one. Would you ever run in a marathon? And what do you. What are your opinions on them?

[Amy]

Overall, I love that there are people that like to train for things like that. I am personally not one of those things. I work out for vanity and for health, just to be healthy and feel good, mostly for vanity. And so, no, I'm not running in anything unless I'm running away from something.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, yeah.

[Caller/Listener]

You don't realize how long a marathon is until they like, they're there for like four hours straight running. That's a long.

[Amy]

I ain't running a 5K. No, I walk.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah.

[Amy]

If I go do a charity rate, like a walk for. For something local, I'm walking. I'm not running.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, yeah, I did. I. I did a couple of those when I was young. We had something, the March of Dimes.

[Amy]

Sure.

[Dale Jr.]

Remember that? Charity. Yeah, yeah. We just do that for our church. And there was a big, like a 5K. I guess so. I remember doing those when I was a little. Little.

[Amy]

Did you run?

[Dale Jr.]

We ran some walk mostly, but yeah.

[Amy]

It'S like three miles.

[Dale Jr.]

You get sponsors and stuff? Yeah, I ride a bike. I like riding.

[Caller/Listener]

Ride a bike?

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah.

[Amy]

Riding a bike I could do, but like, if you do, I'm the same way.

[Dale Jr.]

I ride. I. I try to. I try to stay in my jeans. And when they get tight, I get sad. I start working out and I lose and I don't eat. I, like starve myself until I feel pretty good about my jeans fitting. And then.

[Amy]

And then he goes back to snacking cycle.

[Dale Jr.]

It's like a three year cycle of feeling sad and feeling better about it.

[Amy]

People are gonna think that you're just, like, moping around for a little short period of time.

[Dale Jr.]

I am.

[Amy]

Oh, my gosh. Well, no. To answer your question politely, no, thank you. Okay.

[Sponsor/Ad Voice]

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[Caller/Listener]

We got a couple advice questions coming up next. Marlena, I hope I said that right. Is it okay for a girl to DM a guy and tell him he's cute in the chance of getting a date? For context, I'm in my late 20s.

[Amy]

Yeah, sure.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah.

[Amy]

I am of the mindset, especially if you're gonna be dming, like, we're in modern. We're in a modern stage of trying to date someone. Yeah, absolutely. I wouldn't have in my day not said, I think you're cute. I mean, you got to put yourself out there if you want to. I think it's have any return.

[Dale Jr.]

You know, I think it's so crazy that how normalized dating apps and websites have become.

[Amy]

Yeah.

[Dale Jr.]

Like when, you know, 20, 25 years ago, you were a weirdo if you were on a website trying to get a date.

[Amy]

True.

[Dale Jr.]

Oh, man, you were. You were a freaking creep. And so. But now it's like, that's how everyone, like, connects and meets people and goes out on blind dates or whatever is through websites and apps on their phone. And it's like, so regular and completely normal.

[Amy]

Yeah. And if someone were to come up to you in person and say, give you a compliment like that, would you be, like, taken aback?

[Caller/Listener]

I think so.

[Amy]

You're like, how do I respond?

[Caller/Listener]

I think that now has a higher success rate, though, because who's coming up to you?

[Amy]

It should. And it should. And then, you know, that genuine response is important. I don't know. There is, like a buffer when you're doing it on the Internet. Like, there's a space where you get to stop and think about how you want to respond, whereas you're doing that in person. You don't have that.

[Dale Jr.]

I would say that for a guy to walk up to a woman and say that she's attractive, it's. It's got to be well delivered and smart.

[Amy]

I think the environment is very important. Right.

[Dale Jr.]

Not yet, but a woman walking up to a man and saying that he's attractive or she finds him attractive, that. That's like a. Most often gonna be an automatic success. Because women never do that. Right. They rarely. Rarely do. Right. So if a woman walked up to any of us and said, hey, man.

[Amy]

I think you're cute, man.

[Dale Jr.]

You're cute. You'd be like. First time I ever heard that. First time a woman's ever said that to me. You're. What do you need? Where. Where should we go? Wow. Like. Like. No, like. Like.

[Amy]

Yeah, you're gonna be.

[Sponsor/Ad Voice]

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[Amy]

Where should we go?

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, you're gonna be like, all right, what's this first date gonna be like?

[Amy]

Or whatever, you know, you tell me what we're doing.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah.

[Amy]

And I'm there.

[Dale Jr.]

She's in charge. She's already. She's automatically got the floor. I just. And I don't know that women. I don't know how women feel about that. Like, do they. Is it comfortable for a woman to walk up to a man and say that? Or do you. Or is it, like, is it sort of tradition gets in the way? And it's like, man, it's the guy's place. And if a guy.

[Amy]

You know, I don't know. I feel like if a woman's going to do that, especially in person, it has to be. She is. Her socks are off. Like, she has been blown away. You know what I mean? And maybe she noticed you and you're in a space where you didn't even see.

[Dale Jr.]

How does a woman, I don't know, let a guy know that she's interested?

[Amy]

Listen, I don't know. I don't. I told you plenty of times, like, girls don't chase boys. And I just say that because I want you to flirt with me.

[Dale Jr.]

Right? But I mean, if you are interested, how do you let a boy know? Because, like, we're. It's got to be pretty. It can't be subtle because we're.

[Amy]

I don't know, just making eye contact and smiling and engaging in, like, a very.

[Dale Jr.]

We don't. We're like.

[Amy]

Isn't that a good enough opener?

[Dale Jr.]

No, we don't. We don't register. Like, we see it and it's.

[Amy]

You.

[Dale Jr.]

It's different. We're like, what is that? Is that me? Certainly. I mean, I'm not. I don't want to assume that she's attracted to me. That would be. That'd be really, you know, pretty obnoxious. So.

[Amy]

So there's no, like, hey, she looked at me in a unique way. She might be attracted to me. So I'm gonna get a little closer to her. I'm gonna offer to hold the door open. There's no. Like, you just. Don't. You just avoid.

[Dale Jr.]

It needs to be a bigger. She needs to make a bolder Move for us to go. For us to recognize it, even for it to register.

[Amy]

Okay, well then, so back to the question. Yes, absolutely. You should do it and do that bold thing.

[Dale Jr.]

Do it. I think so.

[Amy]

Yeah. But save the pictures maybe for the second date.

[Dale Jr.]

I don't know. Maybe that's where.

[Amy]

That's where it gets a little wishy washy for me with the Internet is all the let's grade each other today pictures. You know what I mean?

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah.

[Amy]

What's that? Let's grade each other. Like send me a picture.

[Dale Jr.]

Oh.

[Amy]

Because obviously if you're doing it on social media, you can see their profile.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah.

[Caller/Listener]

You're getting judged straight off your looks.

[Amy]

Yeah.

[Caller/Listener]

Automatically. But I guess you would do that in real life too.

[Amy]

You would. Yeah. You're so like an automatic. Like I'm physically attracted.

[Sponsor/Ad Voice]

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[Amy]

To this person.

[Sponsor/Ad Voice]

Yeah.

[Caller/Listener]

That's good advice.

[Amy]

So that's okay. I feel like that's safe.

[Caller/Listener]

Dming is perfectly fine nowadays.

[Amy]

Yes.

[Caller/Listener]

The next question is probably the next step. If it works out with this DM from Cleo. Me and my boyfriend just moved in together and we are arguing about this. What's the correct number of pillows on the bed?

[Amy]

Dale and I don't agree. He only wants the pillows he's going to sleep on. And I as an interior designer, like, wanted to decorate and make our bed look nice. He also doesn't even like the bed made up. So I don't know. Maybe I'll never agree on that. I obviously lost that battle. So what? Because he would just like take him and like kick him off onto the floor and then all the pretty nice things are laid off for the dog to lay on or whatever.

[Dale Jr.]

There is a pillow in our bedroom floor next to my side of the bed that's been there for four days.

[Amy]

Yeah. So we have. We go through this battle sometimes of. And they're king size pillows you can sleep on, but we have too many and some of them are more firm than others and some of them are just super squishy. So like, I don't know which ones he wants.

[Dale Jr.]

And I have these so that. Yeah, we have this blanket. And I'll climb the last. I don't know, the last two weeks I've slept on top of the comforter.

[Amy]

Yeah. So I like sleeping under the feather blanket. Like as a feather blanket. Yes. The bedding.

[Dale Jr.]

The bedding.

[Amy]

And Dale will only sleep under this Lola blanket. Everybody knows what these things are now. These big, fuzzy, heavy.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, it's comfortable.

[Amy]

But he'll lay on top of the COVID Underneath the Lola blanket. So, like, I can't pull the covers because his 200 pound ass is like laying on it.

[Dale Jr.]

185.

[Amy]

So much weight. Can't pull it. Well, with the blanket it's 200. He's mad now.

[Sponsor/Ad Voice]

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[Amy]

He's too heavy for me to pull my covers, so. Yeah, we never really have agreed on that.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, good luck now. I think the, the, the, the. I'm real weird about the weight of the blanket. And so I, if I'm sleeping on my back and my feet are up, I don't like the blanket to be heavy on my toes. And I don't like the sheets so tucked into the bed that it's like my toes are like smashed up in there.

[Amy]

You don't want to feel like you're in a womb.

[Dale Jr.]

No. And so I get in like you go into the hotel, and the first thing I do when I get in bed in the hotel is get down in the bed and lay on the mattress and kick my feet and pull the sheet out from under the mattress to get my feet like, free.

[Amy]

Yeah.

[Dale Jr.]

I was like, oh, geez. Yeah. So they can do what they need.

[Amy]

He does that at home too.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah. And on the bed. I want the, I want the bare minimum. I don't, I want to be warm, a cuddle and all that bull. But I don't need, I don't need more blanket than I need. I want, if I, if I need a sheet, good blanket, nothing else. I don't like sheet. Blanket comforter, you know, and the comforter, I don't like it thick and fluffy and taking up all the room. It's like it takes up the whole room.

[Amy]

It does not.

[Dale Jr.]

So I like, I like a thin top comforter and a sheet, and I'm.

[Amy]

Not gonna go to that. So you're gonna have your blanket. I'm gonna have my blanket.

[Dale Jr.]

I hate making the bed. So I'll either leave the bed unmade or never get in the bed and just sleep on top of the comforter in the, with the, with the blanket. I don't like making, I don't like making a bed. So if I don't have to make it, I won't either make the bed. But now I'm married to you, so the bed has to get made and so I won't unmake the bed.

[Amy]

You don't make the bed.

[Dale Jr.]

I know.

[Amy]

You just get mad because I make it up.

[Dale Jr.]

No, I just don't like a made bed.

[Amy]

I don't understand that. If you Went into a hotel room, the bed wasn't made.

[Dale Jr.]

You'd be like, that's gross because somebody else slept in it. But it's my. It's my bed. I slept in. So it is. When I walk, it's like, all right, here's. Here's what it is. It's like I find you more attractive wearing a silly. A $10t shirt with no makeup. That's your most attractive state. Right.

[Amy]

Okay.

[Dale Jr.]

You would not agree with that. You like to get makeup and getting a nice clothes and all that. But I find you most attractive in the most stripped down, simple state. And so when I walk into the bedroom, the unmade bed looks way more comfortable to jump into than the made bed.

[Amy]

Oh. So I totally disagree. I find a pleasure in, like, pulling back the crisp sheets and like, crawling in and everything. Like perfectly laid out and even. It makes me feel good.

[Dale Jr.]

Is restricted. I know I'm gonna pull the sheets back, but they're gonna still be tucked under and my feet are gonna be smashed all down in the bottom, and I have to just completely destroy the bed to get comfortable.

[Amy]

Yeah. That's not something if I've put three person has to worry about.

[Dale Jr.]

And I don't need other pillow. I need a pillow for my head and another pillow to throw my leg over or to kind of like cuddle with. I don't need a third pillow. You want three pillows?

[Amy]

You asked me for the third pillar. Yes.

[Dale Jr.]

Why?

[Amy]

Because you wanted to be able to sit up and look at your iPad. And the other two weren't. Weren't cutting it.

[Dale Jr.]

Oh, my bad. That's my fault.

[Amy]

So it just sits in the cubby just in case, I guess.

[Dale Jr.]

I don't know. I don't. I don't. I. We have a. In our camper, you know, this tiny little. Our little. What was that? A full bed, Full mattress.

[Amy]

Tiny. Yeah.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah. And I mean, you know, you got pillows everywhere in the comforter. All this big, fluffy.

[Amy]

Sounds amazing.

[Dale Jr.]

Taking up the room. Sounds like a cloud complete you.

[Amy]

He's very particular. Clearly.

[Sponsor/Ad Voice]

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[Amy]

I would say it just.

[Dale Jr.]

Yeah, we got into this one.

[Amy]

Let it ride.

[Caller/Listener]

The chat goes anywhere from two to.

[Dale Jr.]

Four pillows that go back to the original two to four.

[Amy]

Fine. Just the pillows you sleep on.

[Dale Jr.]

We go into Isla's room. Drives me crazy. Isla sleeps on her bed one way.

[Amy]

She's got lots of knickknacks and lots of little things sitting everywhere.

[Dale Jr.]

There's 51 stuffed animals to get out of the way before she can climb into bed. And then you. Her pillow. Her bed gets made with the pillows on one end and she sleeps her with her head on the other. So every night we got to move the pillows. Yeah. We got to recreate her bed for her to sleep in it. Oh, my God.

[Amy]

It's a lot.

[Caller/Listener]

Well, we can go on this for hours, it seems like, but we're out of time, so that's all I got.

[Dale Jr.]

Nicole's awesome. Hops in her bed, jumps under the COVID Not bad. That's awesome. Actually love this. You're perfect.

[Amy]

Okay. The one thing she does. All right, thank you guys for your questions. We had a lot of fun this year. Thank you for tuning in. Don't forget. Excuse me. Don't forget to hit the subscribe button if you haven't already. And also, don't forget to check out all of the [e-mail] Our Mick and Mo merch contest is over on November 10th, so you still have time to order your T shirts. I ordered one of each and they're super cute. I almost wore one today, but I didn't want to sway anybody's vote. So get online and check those out.

[Dale Jr.]

I wanted to say that this ain't the last show of the year. We'll probably do some stuff throughout the off season in December, we'll. We'll come back in here and keep everybody up to date on everything that's going on and what. How the holidays are going. Hope everybody has a great Thanksgiving and then know this is a great time of year for a lot of families and people and we hope you enjoy it. Check out Dirty Mode Media, Twitter, Facebook, Tick Tock, and Instagram.