Transcript
Jessica Walter (0:00)
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Kyle Lampe (0:08)
Hello, and welcome to the Date My podcast. I'm your host, Jessica Walter, and this is season one, episode one of my very first, very own podcast. I'm so excited we did it, you guys. We're here. If you're brand new to hearing my, you know, very calming, very soothing voice on a podcast. Welcome, welcome. I'm glad you're here. We have so many fun things to get into. I'm very excited to tell you guys sort of what you can expect from the season and the show. But first things first, I do want to. I want to address who I think are a majority of the people tuning in right now, who I'm very grateful for. And that. That is my. Those are my loves, those are my friends who know me from the last podcast I was on. And I want to, you know, take this moment to address you guys, because I seemingly disappeared off that last podcast and I made so many great connections. And when I was off of that podcast so suddenly you guys were so supportive and so kind in reaching out to me. And, you know, I miss you guys. And with those connections I made, I think at the very least, you deserve what I can give you as an explanation for why I was suddenly gone. If you have no idea what I'm talking about, feel free to fast forward the next couple minutes and then I will get into what the show is all about and why I'm so excited for it. First thing I'll say is, no, I was not at all expecting to leave. That wasn't the plan, if I'm going to be honest. I thought I'd be at that last job forever. I was, like, ready to be a lifer. Maybe not in the role I was in, but I'll say within the company I was in. I invested everything I had professionally in in that last job and a lot personally. I was investing in a future that I thought we were all on the same page about. So what? You know, to make a long story short, for now, or as short as I can make it, basically what happened is I said how I felt about the way some things were being handled. And the response I got to that was, in my opinion, not good. The response says I got. It wasn't. Honestly, I was taken aback. I was heartbroken at, you know, at those responses. So I sort of found myself in a position where I felt like I had no other option than to choose to leave. And what I'll say, what I'll say. And this goes for any relationship, right? A professional relationship, a personal relationship, romantic family. I Think sometimes we. Sometimes we invest all of ourselves into a relationship and we give it our all. And at the end of the day, maybe we don't get in return what we feel we deserve. And what we feel we deserve can be as small as. You don't have my back. And it can be confusing for people who are like me and frustrating because it's like, all these times I've made you feel safe and I've had your back, and I, in these moments where I should feel the same, I don't. And it's tough. And that, like I said, in many relationships, that happens. And I think just overall, in general, you can invest a lot in a relationship, and at the end of the day, it's just not enough. And sometimes that's just the answer. Like, it's just not enough. So sometimes we have to, you know, make the decision. We can choose to stay on a path in life, in this relationship with this person, with these people who maybe it's not going the way we hope, but we're like, you know what? Let's see where it takes us. And that's okay. And that's your choice, because that's your life. Other people may choose to take a step back and say, nothing here is going to change no matter how hard I try, or, nothing here is going to veer this way or get on this path or whatever, no matter how hard I try, it's not going to. And nothing's going to feel better for me or change for me unless I change it myself. A lot of times that deciding to make that change yourself in certain relationships means leaving. And that sucks. It sucks in the moment. It sucks. Especially in a relationship. You've put so much, so much of yourself into so much love and care and time and effort and all of it. But that's life. And I'm a firm believer that if you're making decisions based on goodness and purpose and future and the betterment of yourself and others and the world, and you could say all of the good things, if you're making decisions based, based on that, you can only be rewarded in the end. And you may be rewarded immediately or further down the road. So that's all I'm gonna say on that for now. What I will end that with is, I am so grateful for everything I experienced, for all the opportunities in my last job, for all of the beautiful moments, the loving moments. That doesn't go away. That's not all, nothing because of how it ended. And I'm so grateful for that. And I Worked hard to be in a lot of those positions. And I won't take that away from myself because I am a hard worker and I will always be a hard worker. That is very important to me. But I'm very grateful for all of that. So moving on. If you are, like I said, if you had no idea what I just talked about, I hope you were able to fast forward through because now we are talking about the date my podcast. Why on earth am I doing a dating podcast, you guys? Well, I will tell you, this is an idea I've had for a while now, but I started vocalizing it a few years ago, a couple years ago. And it has evolved since. My life has evolved. Full disclosure, I'll tell you right now, okay, this is actually the last thing I'll say about my last job. The episode you're about to see. And, and here we actually recorded before I left, my previous job. And of course I had no plans of leaving. I did not know that was happening. So we recorded it, I think exactly three weeks before I left. So there was like a whole trajectory for this show, the Date my podcast that I had to give up, really. But that's okay. Cause look, we're here. We do what we gotta do. One foot in front of the other and we don't roll over and give up. You guys, we fit, figure it out. And here we are. We did it. So why, why am I doing a dating podcast? I love dating. I love everything about people meeting and meet cutes and the human connection. And like I've always, I've always loved and crushes. Like I've always loved that. Ever since I was young, ever since I was allowed to start dating, which I want to say 14, but I was going on movie dates when I was like 12 and stuff. But because of that, because I love love so much, I always found myself in long term relationships. So I didn't really get to experience a ton of dating growing up because from the time I was like 14 up until last year when I was engaged, I last year I broke off my engagement to my boyfriend of seven years. So up until last year I was long term relationship to long term relationships. So there was very little dating in my life. And because of that I would insert myself into my friends and my family, their dating lives and I would, whether or not it was matchmaking them or hooking up two friends or ghost texting for them, it evolved all the way to sliding in the Facebook chat and writing messages for them or telling them what to write on instagram DM all the way to recently where I help all of my friends on their dating apps. I just love everything about dating. But what I've noticed is the past few years, and I don't know if it's because of the dating, the rise of the dating apps and the social media and that's causing more anxiety. I think there's a lot of positives and negatives to both, but I've noticed that dating is seemingly more stressful nowadays for a lot of my friends and family. Anxiety inducing. And I hate that because dating should be fun. Of course, there's little stressors about it and, you know, little negatives, but overall, connecting with people's fun. Having these moments you'll never get again. These first moments that you might be on a first date. This might be the moment you are meeting your life partner. This might be the moment you're meeting, at the very least, a really fun date or a memorable date or a story. Like, how many stories do we all have of dates and first dates? I could go on and on. I just love the concept of dating. I love it all. And I with the show, I not only want to bring the fun back to dating, but I also want to do what I love doing and that is helping people I love in my life find their perfect match. So with that being said, the date my podcast each season will be broken up into 10 episodes where I bring one dater on for all 10 episodes and I try and find them their perfect match. I find potential matches through a million different ways, whether or not it's through the dating apps or in person or a friend of a friend. And anyone who I think would be a great match for the dater, I bring them in. We have first dates in the studio, which you guys will see. They're so fun. I sort of pry and ask. I'll be asking them questions and I'm basically just hopefully going to find some really fun connections. So with all that being said, I rambled. Thanks for your patience. We're going to get into the show, you guys, and I am going to introduce season one Dater. Okay. I don't know why I'm so nervous for this or maybe I'm excited. I don't know. Maybe it's both. Okay, Season one Dater. This is someone who is quite literally one of my most favorite people on this planet. There was a lot of time and care and conversation that went into having this person as the season one dater, because this person was definitely not the plan. When I was thinking about the show and designing the show. This would have been the last person who I ever casted as the season one dater. But again, as my life evolved and as lives around me evolved and I was helping this person date, I was helping this person set up their app and I was helping them matchmaking them. And the more we discussed it, the more I realized not only was he very excited to come on the show, but also, in my opinion, needs my help desperately. So, yeah, I'm very excited for this season one dater. And without further ado, season one of the Date my podcast is going to be date my ex fiance, Kyle Lampe. Hello, Kyle.