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Well, what's the thing people say? Choose your hard. They're like, you can do a hard workout right now, or you can have a hard time in old age when your body's falling apart, or you can have a hard time buying organic food and eating clean now, or you can have a hard time with diabetes later. Like that. There is an element of that to work. And I know I don't want to talk as much as I'm talking right now, but I'm so passionate about this topic and I, I need to find a way to get it out there. It looks to me from my position like owning companies, not even owning the company. It's just being in the position of being responsible. Okay, I'm helping this person to find a house to buy. I'm their agent and then I hire assistance and I hire showing assistants and I hire admin to help me with the job. They don't like the responsibility of getting the job done. They want someone else to take it from them. Right. But when you're in the position that I'm in, you see, oh, there's a subconscious motive here of I don't want to be responsible for that. I want David to do it. Oh, they might be mad about this or I don't know the answer for that, so let me push it to someone else because they know they could ask the home inspector the exact same as I could ask the home inspector. What does it mean? Right. There's something about the trusses having dry rot. They don't know what that means. They always would go ask me. Or there's an issue with the title, or there was an issue with an easement. And then I'd get on the phone and I'd call the title company. I'd say, can you explain to me in normal human language what this means? Or the appraiser, they could do the same as me. They could have all done it. They didn't want to. They didn't want the responsibility. They didn't want the possible. Oh, what if I don't understand? What if I look dumb? What if they think less of me? All these questions would go through their head. But to my perspective, I saw you care more about your pride to a stranger, that you will never see the appraiser, that you don't know what a word meant, that you don't want to ask them. Then you care about the client or your boss not having to do it so your boss can find the next deal that the client would need. This was like a really tough pill that I had to swallow that I think a lot of other people haven't swallowed. That when you make the choice to not learn something new, not do something hard, you're choosing your comfort is what you're really doing. Over your financial future, over your work, your. What's the word I'm looking for here? Your value to other humans. So I recently went through a situation where I ruptured my bicep tendon in the Smoky Mountains, put in an arcade in a truck. It's why I got this thing on my arm right now. They had to reattach it. And it's funny because you and I were actually took one of those arcades off the truck and it was the same system of I was putting this one on. The other guy wasn't as strong as you when he dropped it. And I had to catch both sides and it just ripped right off my bone when I caught it. And I needed a doctor to put it on. It's a time sensitive thing. The longer you wait, the worse your recovery is going to be and the worse your range of motion and strength. And it's your attendant supposed to be attached to a bone. It's not supposed to be floating around in your arm. And it was very difficult to find a doctor that had a opening in their surgery. Now I went through a very long process. We won't talk about it here, but I got a new primary care doctor who had it in with a orthopedic surgeon that was incredibly good. He's like, this guy is so good, he will leave a meeting, go into a surgery that another doctor has botched, fix it, and then wash his hands and come right back in. In the meeting, 20 minutes later, he's that good. But he's like, I'm going to tell you, he's kind of an a hole. He's not a nice guy. It's like, well, I don't really care. Like I'm not trying to find a poker buddy here. I need someone to attach this thing on my arm. He's like, oh, well, then he does so many surgeries a day, he can throw you in his schedule. And I had this, like, epiphany that we in America tend to value how nice somebody is, how accommodating they are, how kind they are. These are all the values that we would say, you know, you should esteem to be. And they're not bad, but they almost come at the expense of your skill level. Because to me, thinking about going the rest of my life not using my left arm, which is, like, the fear that I'm dealing with as I'm calling 40 different doctors, and none of them have time on their schedule to reattach it. I don't really care how nice you are. I want to know, did you get after it in your residency? Did you get after it? Did you push yourself? Did you really learn what it is to be a good surgeon? Or did you show up every day in a W2 mindset, in a. Like a mindless drone just going through the process of what someone showed you to do and never trying to get better at your job? That doctor was more useful to society at large as a jerk than the nice person was. That was comfortable. And I've really just been wrestling Wyatt with this idea in my mind that it might be that the value system that we live in in America right now is not the healthiest. We are constantly promoting niceness. I would have so many gals that would answer the phone of the doctor's office that were so nice and SW and zero help. Zero. Well, can you. Can you help me with finding a way. Can we know if he can do surgery? Oh, I don't know. I'm not the surgery person. Do you know the phone number, who those people are? Oh, I guess I could give you that. Like, they just didn't care about solving the problem, but they were so nice and sweet. How many people do you come across in your day? Account executives, underwriters, different processors, different banks that have programs that are nice and useless, versus a lot of times the people that are the most helpful can be kind of gruff, can be kind of rough around the edges. Like, we've had this issue, like, with Christian, where he will get on the phone with an account executive and be like, you're gonna do it. This client needs to close this deal. Here's how you're gonna do it. Here's why you're gonna do it. Get it done. And they Will do it. Okay. Like 100%. Yeah. Now, Christian is a nice guy. He is not nice to that person in that moment. That person wouldn't walk away and say, christian's a nice guy, but he was valuable to the loan officer that needed a loan closed, to the client who needed the house. And part of being valuable was not being accommodating. Am I making sense with this?