In this episode, guest host Becca Spahr sits down with social health entrepreneur and coach Jessie Lewis, founder of Friend On Call, to explore the science and strategy behind meaningful human connection. With a background in biology and a deep understanding of behavioral patterns, Jessie brings a refreshing, practical lens to something many adults struggle with: friendship.

Together, they unpack what it really means to be self-aware about your social health: recognizing your patterns, understanding your mindset, and taking ownership of the choices you make in your relationships. Jessie challenges listeners to move out of passive thinking (“Why don’t I have better friendships?”) and into intentional action (“What kind of social life do I want to create?”).

This conversation also normalizes something we don’t talk about enough: not every friendship is meant to be deep, lifelong, or “best friend” level - and that’s okay! Learning to be present, appreciate different types of connections, and release unrealistic expectations can completely change how we experience relationships.

Most importantly, Jessie offers a powerful reminder: you have to be willing to put yourself out there. When you believe you matter, and when you know your worth, you show up differently. And that courage? It’s often the missing piece in building the kind of friendships you actually want.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, disconnected, or unsure how to build meaningful relationships as an adult, this episode will give you both the mindset shift and the motivation to start.

Today's Guest

Jessie Lewis is a social health entrepreneur and coach focused on the science and strategy of human connection. With a background in biology and a deep interest in behavioral patterns, she created Friend On Call, where she delivers personalized, science-informed pep talks that help adults regulate stress, clarify decisions, and restore emotional momentum using principles from biology and behavioral science.

https://www.friendoncall.org/

https://www.instagram.com/friendoncallorg/

About Becca

Becca Spahr, MA, CLC, is a social wellness coach and speaker who believes connection is a skill anyone can master (yes, even people who think people are too people-y). After moving 26 times as a military kid and later as a U.S. Marine, she knows firsthand that likability, authenticity, and intention can create belonging anywhere. Becca continues to serve, partnering with veteran-serving organizations to equip veterans and their families to find friendship, expand networks, and reclaim belonging after service.

Links for Becca

Website: ⁠https://www.beccaspahr.com/⁠

LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/beccaspahr/⁠

Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/beccaspahr/⁠

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/beccaspahr⁠

YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@BeccaSpahr

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