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Jane Marie
I need verbal confirmation from you that you understand this is being recorded for potential use in the Dream podcast.
Tara Newell
I am aware that this is being recorded.
Jane Marie
I'm Jane Marie and this is the Dream. Last year I interviewed a remarkable woman.
Tara Newell
My name is Tara Newell. I am best known for being the survivor of Dirty John Meehan. I fought against him and took his life in self defense. I now have started my own podcast, worked with survivors and I also started started a little side baking business recently too because you know, you just can never do enough things.
Jane Marie
Well, you need money. I mean everyone has five jobs. Wait, what's this baking business?
Tara Newell
So I started to do like cakes and I'm not the greatest at it quite yet, but I'm working and my cake pops are cool. They look great, like they're sellable. But my cakes like the piping. I'm still working on the piping a little bit.
Jane Marie
I met Tara at a party about a year ago and we were chatting it up and just talking about how we're both into podcasting.
Tara Newell
Yeah, so I was a part of the Dirty John podcast. I was, well, part of it. I was the survivor who took him down in self defense.
Jane Marie
For those who aren't super into true crime, Dirty John was a wildly successful podcast about Tara's stepdad and how he conned her mom and attacked her. So successful it became a TV show starring Eric Bana and Connie Britton.
Tara Newell
And then Roberta, our friend was like, I have a friend that worked on the Podcast, or didn't work on the podcast, but has a connection to the podcast. And I was like, wait, what? And then she said, you need to meet her and we'll discuss in person.
Jane Marie
So at that party in person, our mutual friend let me know who Tara was. And after I gave my condolences, I somehow awkwardly managed to congratulate Tara. And she was like, for what? And I said, for the success of the podcast and the TV show and the spinoff and the merch and probably what's going to be a movie or something someday, and the whole Legend of the Dirty John thing and just how you see it everywhere and the billboards and all that stuff. And that's when she told me I had nothing to do with that. I wasn't even aware there was going to be a podcast, and I wasn't part of the TV production, really. And that's when I basically started foaming at the mouth. So the story is that little. Everywhere. Our company was pitched producing that podcast, the Dirty John podcast, six months or so before it became a thing. Six months and I bet. Yeah.
Tara Newell
Oh, my goodness.
Jane Marie
And we read over the materials and came back with an analysis of the story and said that the story's actually about you and your mom and not about this guy. Like, that you were the more interesting characters to us and that the story of. Forgive me if I say anything that offends you in this.
Tara Newell
Okay, no worries.
Jane Marie
But I have read through all the materials and stuff and listened to the show, but we really thought it was a story about the women and kind of some generational trauma that happened in your family and those sorts of things. And eventually we ended up, like, walking away from the negotiations and someone else made it, which is fine, but. So I wanted to talk to you about how that show got made and how it became so popular and what your role is in that. Is that okay?
Tara Newell
Yeah, of course.
Jane Marie
So talk to me about how it started.
Tara Newell
So it started with I was attacked, and then little news outlets covered it, but they didn't mention my name at all. And we had lawyers on everything. And so, like, if anything came out with my name, like, we were notified, but nothing did. And so it was.
Jane Marie
So you were. You were remaining anonymous in this story?
Tara Newell
Yes, because, okay, the stories that were out there were like, knife welding, man stabs a girl, he dies. Or not even he dies, because I don't even think he was, like, officially dead yet. And just, like, these crazy stories and little. Little stories. But I just didn't like local Southern
Jane Marie
California newspapers or Blogs or whatever.
Tara Newell
Yeah, yeah, like the Orange County Register, like another local news. And so it was weird to see that. And I just didn't know if I wanted my story to be out there because it's a lot of trauma. It's family trauma, in a sense. And then we were approached by the LA Times. I believe it was Hannah Fry who wrote an article about it. But it got back to Christopher Gothard, and he is a news reporter for the LA Times, or not a news reporter. He's a journalist for the LA Times and he reports on these bigger stories and then kind of turns them into series in a sense. And it's kind of crazy that you say six months, because I swear that we were approached probably like, six months, huh? And so he had already.
Jane Marie
To me, it had already been decided or what? Yeah, go ahead.
Tara Newell
Yeah, it just was decided that, like, as soon as we said, yes, we'll share and talk, that it was already being pitched for a podcast and we were being told that it was a series of articles.
Jane Marie
Well, when you let me know that, I was like, oh, God, I. But, yeah, say more about that. So it was supposed to be written articles.
Tara Newell
Yeah. No. Christopher Goffard actually did a series of articles about this case where this, like, about the PTA or something. And this. I'm like, butchering the story. But this was just like, a given example of, like, what was to be done with ours. And I checked it out a little bit. I looked at, okay, like, this is what it is. It's a series of articles. This is what they're going to do. We were all told by people too, that the LA Times is going bankrupt, that the LA Times isn't doing good. There is even, like, weird talk about, would this article even come out? And stuff. And because print is dying and so
Jane Marie
really minimizing what impact it might have on your life. Yeah.
Tara Newell
And I mean, Christopher Goffard, he told me that people would probably reach out to me like the Walking Dead. So that's what I was really hoping. Where is the Walking Dead to reach out to me? But I wasn't expecting.
Jane Marie
What do you mean?
Tara Newell
This media. Like, he told me that people would probably reach out to me, like, maybe the Walking Dead would even reach out to me and basically, like, thank me or, like, want to have me on the show or something.
Jane Marie
I need to provide a little more context here. Tara is an actress doing mostly background work or being an extra that gets a little camera time. She is from Southern California, after all.
Tara Newell
Okay. So when I defended myself against my Stepdad. I killed him as if he were a zombie. Like, I literally stabbed him in the eye and that, like, because I watched so much walking. And so that was. He told me that, like, some people from the Walking Dead might reach out to me. And, I mean, a few actors did, but they were. They weren't the main characters. It would have been really nice if Norman Reedus reached out to me, but that would have been great.
Jane Marie
But part of his selling point. I just snort left. Part of the selling point for, like, participating in the interview process was, hey, maybe you'll get.
Tara Newell
He didn't say this part. This was, like, a few days before the podcast even came out.
Jane Marie
Oh, my God. So that's the part that just shocked me that you didn't know that you were participating in a podcast.
Tara Newell
No.
Jane Marie
So let's back up a little and tell me the mechanics of that. Like, how did that. Like, how did you get on tape?
Tara Newell
So I remember meeting him first at Houston's, the restaurant where John and my mom met for their first date. I don't know why, but I really just wanted to meet everyone at Houston's. I really like Houston's.
Jane Marie
I do, too. I'm a huge fan. If they want to sponsor this podcast, come on. Houston's.
Tara Newell
I love that. Yeah. No, there's like a Houston's right by me. And we went there, and that was where they had their first dates. And it was just like a aesthetic. I feel like I have all my important meetings there.
Jane Marie
I like this.
Tara Newell
Yes. And then it was funny, too, because Houston's. It's loud. It's a restaurant. There's stuff going on, and we sit down to record. I'm hyper vigilant because it's not too far along from my trauma. I also flew into California because I was living in Austin at the time, because I had to go to Austin just to get away and try to heal a little bit. And that was even when we were approached. He called my mom, asked my mom, and I believe it's funny to me because I swear they use the same exact, like, phone call that they do in the TV show, the scripted TV show at the end where it's like, Christopher Goffard. And it's funny because he gets a cameo, but was really fighting for a cameo. And they gave me a background role, which I've done background many, many times. And so that, to me was just like, wait, what? When the series came out, like, he gets. And I like him as a person, but I think now, talking out loud, this is really Kind of shady. And.
Jane Marie
Well, that's what struck me when we talked about it a year ago is I thought, wait a minute, these aren't the rules of journalism.
Tara Newell
Yes.
Jane Marie
You know, so, okay, so he approaches you and your. Or the newspaper approaches you and your mother, and then you have meetings with Gofford and what happens next?
Tara Newell
So at the restaurant, he decides to pull out a recorder. And it's either a recorder, like his phone, because I. I want to just say it's a recorder, because I want to say, like old school journalism. You always pull out that recorder.
Jane Marie
But the mini, mini cassette thing.
Tara Newell
Yeah. Yes. It may have just been his phone. My memory is kind of blurry on that because I was also in such a hyper vigilant state. And especially being in the restaurant, hearing things go off at the restaurant, and then talking about the worst day of my life. So we're talking about it, and he tells me that he just wants to record this so that he just, like, has everything for, you know, keepsakes, basically, and for record.
Jane Marie
Right. Which is typical of a print journalist to record something in audio. Like, that's normal, right? Yeah.
Tara Newell
And, you know, I've seen it with many, many TV shows. That's like a common thing. So I'm not thinking anything wrong with this. And then as time goes on, there's many, many phone calls with Christopher. He even goes with me to Indio because I had a ticket, actually, because after the incident, I went out to Stagecoach and I had John's handicap pass. And I don't know why, but in my head I thought, oh, I could use it because now I'm kind of considered handicap. And I try things, but I try to use it, and I get a ticket for using it. And so I have to go to Indio to take care of that. And Chris is in the car with me on the way to Indio, and he's just in the car with me talking and recording at the same time. So it's funny to me, too, because of how we even do podcasts now, of how that podcast was even made.
Jane Marie
Right.
Tara Newell
It was all recorded, like, on the phone or on handhelds, and it wasn't like a zoom recorder, I don't think.
Jane Marie
Right.
Tara Newell
And now, like, we have the road mics, or you have, like, the sure mic, and it's just different. And I even like going back to podcasting, starting out on Blue Yetis, too. Like, those are a thing of the past, too.
Jane Marie
Yeah, I know, but I mean, like, it was. You would never assume. And it makes you wonder if it's like, oh, this was the. The whole setup was we're just gonna pretend we're not recording for.
Tara Newell
Yes.
Jane Marie
But it's not noticeable that it's for a podcast.
Tara Newell
Not at all. Like, we found out maybe a week or two beforehand that it was going to be turned into a podcast. And he was telling my mom and I this and I just remember thinking, oh, like a church sermon. Okay. Like how they put these sermons out onto Apple.
Jane Marie
Yep.
Tara Newell
Because that's what it was. I was just thinking, oh, it goes out onto Apple and then it goes out to, I guess some people. And I'm thinking maybe a thousand.
Jane Marie
Right. And you're like, it's a companion to the printed story that you've agreed to participate in.
Tara Newell
Yes. And I don't know if you read the printed version and then you listened to the audio, but it was basically the same exact thing too.
Jane Marie
Including the flim flam artist, which is like, I'll never forget that phrase.
Tara Newell
What is that phrase?
Jane Marie
When Christopher said that John was a flim flam artist, like, I turned the radio off immediately. I was just like, this is so like, it felt like an old timey radio play from the 1930s, you know, like, and he was a flim flam artist. Like that kind of, I don't know, like the microphones dropped down from the ceiling. You know what I mean? I don't know, it just felt very, very old timey. But.
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Jane Marie
Okay, so you do this recording that seems surreptitious in a lot of ways. And then how did you. When did the article get published? And then when did you find out that it was going to be a podcast? Can we just go through that timeline?
Tara Newell
Yeah, so I need to Google when it came out.
Jane Marie
Sure. The story. Dan's looking it up. October 1, 2017. Part one of the article came out. Okay.
Tara Newell
Oh, my gosh. Okay. Yes. That was when the first part came out.
Jane Marie
How did you get alerted that there would be an audio version of this?
Tara Newell
So Christopher did tell us that, you know, podcasts would come out, and then he. I believe he sent it to us the day that it came out. Or someone else sent it to us because everyone that we knew was also listening to it and then sending it to us. Oh, did you listen to your podcast yet? You know, and just kind of. It was weird, too, because I just remember listening to it and getting ready and just processing everything. And then my mom didn't want to listen to it because she was very upset that her marriages were being mentioned so many times.
Jane Marie
Sure. I mean, did she have any awareness about it being put out that way?
Tara Newell
So she has said on multiple interviews that she didn't want that in there. That's the only thing she told Christopher Goffer that she didn't want in there was her marriages. And then that was the first thing that he kind of started with.
Jane Marie
Cool.
Tara Newell
Yeah. And then how he ended it too. I'm not a fan of that style too, because it literally has her looking at a photo of John being like, don't we look so happy? And instead of accepting, explaining that your body is still craving that attention, that oxytocin, that affection, you know, your body is still addicted to that love. And so when you're processing this and she hates him for what he did to me, but however, when you're looking at a picture of the two of you guys on a trip, yeah, there is gonna be emotions that come up. And I think that how that ended. And I know, I know my mom just didn't choose to go look at a photo of John. You know, it was probably like him being like. And this is assuming and, you know, making assumptions, but this is what I think happened. I'm sure, like how every producer journalist always does it. Hey, can you show me a photo of you guys? Oh, can you tell me about this ship? Can you tell me about this? Right? Oh, don't we look so happy together. Doesn't that make sense?
Jane Marie
It makes sense for an audio production where you hear Tara's voice and her mom's voice and they are aware that their raw feelings will be broadcast to the world, but it doesn't really make sense for a print piece for the newspaper. In other words, all throughout the process, my feeling me, Jane Marie, I feel like it was unfair to capture these moments on tape for broadcast without that being made very, very clear. Finding out there was a months long process of vetting podcast production companies, including mine. Months of producing a multi episode show using you and your family's voices, and somehow you're the last to know. I personally found that abhorrent. Remember, we were approached to help create the podcast many months before it came out and right around the time Tara began being interviewed. I just want you to know that your instincts are correct, that this is not how.
Tara Newell
Yeah, thank you.
Jane Marie
I don't even know how to say it. Like, I'm so mad.
Tara Newell
Yeah, well, like, as you're telling me some of this stuff. Yeah, I knew, but I didn't know it was six months, you know, so I'm really processing this also in real time with you right now. Like, the math ain't mathing.
Jane Marie
Let me look at the email history. Dan, do you have Hernan. It was when Hernan was still there. Do you have access to those old emails? I just want to make sure. And it took a while to get produced and put out, so I'm like,
Tara Newell
June, We. What?
Jane Marie
Yeah, that.
Tara Newell
It was literally when I think we got approached, because. Wow. Because I literally don't think I even met up with Christopher Gawford in person yet. I.
Jane Marie
That's. It's.
Tara Newell
This is when my trauma was so freaking fresh, so horrible. That makes me pissed, too, because, like, I'm in the business of protecting survivors now and kind of, you know, helping them own their stories where they don't get bamboozled like this. And I'm like, was I just so naive?
Jane Marie
What were you doing in June of 2017? What were you. Were you in the middle trying to heal?
Tara Newell
I was living in Austin, Texas, doing EMDR therapy, and I was just trying to just move past my trauma. And then I was going to church, like, three days a week and getting just really spiritual. And so when he approached me, too, I was also, like, deep in that healing journey, but also let me lean on God and a higher power for answers. And I just. Like, I was told my. In my brain or whatever. Like, I was just, like, told that I feel that this would help other women.
Jane Marie
And it has. So let's not let go of that. You know, that is a positive outcome. I'm sure that it has. I mean, we all know that it has. This is such a huge cultural moment that affected so many people. So you were right about that. Dan and I are mouthing at each other through the door. We're mouthing motherfuckers back and forth.
Tara Newell
We're both like, these last time, fucking motherfuckers. What?
Jane Marie
This would have ruined my career if I'd said yes. This would ruin. I mean, in my own heart, this would have ruined my career. This is, like, so wrong. Yeah.
Tara Newell
And then later, like, Hernan sells Wondery to Amazon for how much? Oh, my God. So we got a heads up, like, a couple weeks before about the podcast. And then it was funny, too, because I saw that they were planning a live show.
Jane Marie
What?
Tara Newell
They planned a live show after the podcast came out and to have you
Jane Marie
on stage or something.
Tara Newell
No, not me. Oh, Christopher Gothard.
Jane Marie
Oh, my.
Tara Newell
And then, like, a few other people. But then I was like, oh, oh, I want to be involved in this live show.
Jane Marie
Yeah.
Tara Newell
And then my mom wanted to be involved, and then Tanya wanted to be involved, too, and then they had us be a part of it, and then they did Donate a percent of the proceeds to domestic violence to help women of domestic violence. But it was funny that I had to kind of ask.
Jane Marie
Sure. And that was a for profit project.
Tara Newell
Yes, yes, yes. It's funny because just doing the stuff that I do now. Yeah, that would be something you would 100 get paid for. Yeah, yeah. Because they're making ticket profits, right?
Jane Marie
Yeah.
Tara Newell
Yes. Yeah.
Jane Marie
And concessions and probably. Did they have. Did you guys have merch?
Tara Newell
Not merch. Yeah.
Jane Marie
Okay, wait. Yet. Wait, what do you mean? There. There's. There became merch.
Tara Newell
There became merch for Bravo.
Jane Marie
Oh, my God. Okay, so moving forward. So. Okay, so we've got. I'm sorry, Tara, that I'm laughing so much about this, but it's like this is extremely out of the ordinary. It just doesn't. This doesn't. This isn't how things are supposed to work. So I just keep getting flabbergasted. So, live show podcast comes out. Do you realize that there is this other company also helping the LA Times put this podcast out? Like, the Wondery was involved or did you sign a release to, like, allow them to. Did you give away your life rights for the story?
Tara Newell
No, I didn't sign anything.
Jane Marie
What?
Tara Newell
No, they didn't have us sign anything. Not even, like a verbal consent. I know you're recording this?
Jane Marie
Yeah.
Tara Newell
Nothing, Nothing. But how they got us later.
Jane Marie
Tell me.
Tara Newell
So at this premiere to this live show, I got to meet Richard Suckle and then someone else from Atlas Entertainment, and Christopher Goffard was talking to them. He's like, tara, can I introduce you? And then, so they worked on Suicide Squad and Wonder Woman, and I'm a huge DC fan, especially I love Harley Quinn. And so I was just like, fangirling a little bit because I'm like, oh, my gosh, you make, like, my favorite movies. And then we just chit. Chatted a little bit, and they were just like, talking about Wonder Woman with me and, like, how Margot Robbie this and that. And I was just like, this is so rad. I love Margot Rob.
Jane Marie
Yeah. Yeah.
Tara Newell
You know, and so we were just talking, and then probably like a couple weeks after or a week after something like that, then the ball starts rolling about. Talk about doing a scripted series or something along that lines. And then we start to do meetings with Richard Suckle and then Christopher Crawford. We did a meeting at Hotcakes one day, and then we were talking. Yes, it's a restaurant in Newport, like, literally across the street from where I got.
Jane Marie
But they didn't invite you to, like, the studio lot or anything?
Tara Newell
No, no, all mine have been done at nice restaurants.
Jane Marie
Okay.
Tara Newell
Like the Ivy. I. Yeah. I remember going out in Las Vegas with Richard to this one French restaurant at the Wyn, and it was like a Michelin star restaurant. And then it will. And then there was like, we went to this other Fig and Olive.
Jane Marie
Oh, I love that place.
Tara Newell
Right. So I was like, okay, I like. One thing about me is I like to go to restaurants. Like, that is a way to win my affection and love. Yeah.
Jane Marie
The way to win Tara's affection is through her stomach. But this isn't about that. Like, these are. I don't know. Anyways. Okay. Just knowing what happened, I just feel very protective of you. But Dan just texted me a merch, a wine glass that's branded Dirty John. Jesus Christ. Okay, so you're having these meetings. You still haven't signed anything. The podcast is out. It's becoming incredibly popular, obviously. And you're talking to Hollywood execs about optioning the podcast and your life story for a television show now. So your life story's already been taken for a podcast. Right. That's very, very, very popular. But you're not paid and you haven't signed away your life rights, and now you're in meetings with Hollywood execs.
Tara Newell
Yes. And I'm not really understanding the layout too, because in my experience working in production, you usually get, like, an agent. You do, like, put together your project or a sizzle reel or something. Can you talk about your experience?
Jane Marie
Can I pause you just real quick? What is your experience in Hollywood up until that point?
Tara Newell
To that point, I worked in background, and then I had a lot of friends in the industry, and so I would go just, like, help them on projects. Some, like, indie projects here and there. And then my ex's stepmom worked in background casting, and so she would put me out on background a lot and just be like, okay, I need a person. Tara, can you do it? Okay, great. And so I would be used a lot and. But I would be one of the special people that knew everybody on set, essentially. Well, not everybody, but knew a good amount of people on set. And so I would get, like, the special treatments. They'd be like, tara, do you want to be used or do you want to just sit here?
Jane Marie
You want to just sit at craft services?
Tara Newell
Yeah. And I'm like, I wanted to take a nap. Can you do this without me? Tara, do you want to be a featured actress today? Okay. And so, like, when the show came around too, and I'm like, A background on that. I was also promised, but they told me they couldn't put this in contracts. But I say put everything in contracts because it's just necessary. Necessary. They. They told me that I could have. Because I asked for this, because I knew that if I got this, I would actually get paid more and I would also be a part of the union.
Jane Marie
Yes.
Tara Newell
So I asked them if I could have one line in the TV show. Yeah. They said, I don't think that wouldn't be a problem, but we just can't put that in the contract.
Jane Marie
I mean. Okay, let's back up again. So you're having these meetings with the execs. I mean, again, you haven't signed a damn thing.
Tara Newell
Yes. So they're. They're not money at this point.
Jane Marie
Oh, they are talking about money. Okay.
Tara Newell
Yes. But they offered some, like, 20 grand for, like, me, my mom, and my sister. I basically gave. I told them that that is a you.
Jane Marie
Yeah, it is.
Tara Newell
That is. That is fuck you. Many in scripted television. And I told. I basically went to some of my friends, I asked around. They said that they could get me an agent. And I told them. I told the execs that basically, what if I just got an agent and started shopping this around on my own?
Jane Marie
Sure.
Tara Newell
They said, well, it's already sold to Bravo for two seasons.
Jane Marie
What?
Tara Newell
Yes. It's already green lit.
Jane Marie
What?
Tara Newell
Yes.
Jane Marie
I'm sorry. Dan's yelling from the other room. Hey, what? What's that?
Tara Newell
It's already green lit. So basically, we could do this with or without you. And I go and I go and I talk to a few people, and it's kind of like a hard dilemma because, I mean, I could fight with them, but how can I fight with a project that's already greenlit? Yeah. I could sell my project, and there's a chance that my project sits on the shelf.
Jane Marie
Tell me about how you felt when you heard that it had already been sold in greenlit and you were kind of out of the game.
Tara Newell
I felt like I was pushed into a hard place.
Jane Marie
Mm.
Tara Newell
It was kind of coercive control a little bit.
Jane Marie
Yeah. Yeah. And in what ways did they make you participate?
Tara Newell
So I ended up signing a contract, but I got. I probably negotiated three times. Like, negotiated differently. And I also.
Jane Marie
Because it was already done. Because it was already done.
Tara Newell
Yeah, yeah, yeah. And me, my mom, and my sister are three individual people, so all our deals should be individual. So that's what I told them. And so they. They listened to that. And it's actually kind of Crazy because I talked to so many survivors, and so many survivors were not even involved in their stories. Mm. So at the. Like, I hate to be this way, but I'm like, at least I get that.
Jane Marie
What was your involvement?
Tara Newell
So I was a. Basically a consult and I was paid for a. And okay, Richard did help me with my contract a little bit. He did.
Jane Marie
Is he the main producer or the director?
Tara Newell
He's the one of the executive producers
Jane Marie
from Bravo or from where from?
Tara Newell
He worked for Atlas Entertainment, which was the people that, like, made it, and then it went out to Bravo for like a time period and then ended up on Netflix International first and then to Netflix US after the one year deal ended with Bravo.
Jane Marie
Okay, so he's the EP from the production company that.
Tara Newell
Yeah.
Jane Marie
Oh, my. The amount of money that I'm imagining right now that ran around this with the three different giant companies, but is, like, astronomical. I'm sure people got very wealthy off of this project.
Tara Newell
100%. People will send their kids to college.
Jane Marie
Sure.
Tara Newell
Yeah.
Jane Marie
How did. And so you said. So he helped you do what?
Tara Newell
He helped me kind of. Kind of carve things out of my contract. He told me. He was like, I honestly don't like this. I don't like that. And, you know, like, I would ask for this and I would ask for that, and he helped me actually carve out that. They own my story rights for a year.
Jane Marie
Okay.
Tara Newell
And so that was helpful. And I tell every survivor to do this if they get into agreement. Like, it's only up to a year, nothing else. I mean, six months is, like, what I prefer, but a year, I understand.
Jane Marie
You know, I don't know. I feel.
Tara Newell
You don't know?
Jane Marie
I just feel so. Like you got so ripped off over and over and over again. Like, I know that it should be shorter than that, but you had already been screwed.
Tara Newell
Yeah, yeah. But, like, I got to meet with the director. I kept on bugging them, when can I come into set? When can I come into set? Because I'm also used to being background on set and just kind of going wherever I want. Well, and then we get. They cast Connie Britton as my mom, and then so we got to meet her. And then it's funny because my sister Nicole, her best friend, is actually Connie Britton's makeup artist.
Jane Marie
Okay.
Tara Newell
So she got booked to work on this film as well.
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Tara Newell
So I ended up in this project, ended up getting 100 grand total for
Jane Marie
the podcast and the TV show and everything else.
Tara Newell
Yes. Even though I didn't really know the podcast was like lopped in there. Yeah, but because it was with. Because we ended up signing our contracts through the LA Times to produce this. So the LA Times kind of like
Jane Marie
they're the ones that paid you?
Tara Newell
Yes, technically.
Jane Marie
What? Okay, this is all. Sorry. Okay. So was that just for you or for you and your mom and your sister?
Tara Newell
The 100 grand or was was like through the production company. I think production paid us but like it was like oh, the LA Times production.
Jane Marie
I feel like at every turn they're being like, oh, you know, don't expect too much because this is really kind of like a budget, like a low budget project or a newspaper that's going out of print or whatever. Like, is paying. Like, they're trying to talk down. Talk you down by using different excuses. Like, yeah, you can expect a failing newspaper to pay you, you know, like that kind of thing, but there was millions and millions and millions of dollars exchanged, you know.
Tara Newell
Yeah.
Jane Marie
So, okay, was that a hundred thousand split between the three of you or that was just you?
Tara Newell
That was just me. Good.
Jane Marie
Okay. I'm glad you got something.
Tara Newell
Yes, but you know, in California it doesn't last that long.
Jane Marie
No, no, that's like a. You have a nice one bedroom apartment for a year.
Tara Newell
Yes, well, I have a two bedroom, but like, I have a friend that stays with me here and there. And then I got a deal in Covid. So I got. My apartment's probably like a thousand dollars cheaper than it would be online.
Jane Marie
We should not even be talking about that. You know what I mean? Like, you should be so wealthy that we're talking about your house in Malibu. You know what I like? So the show comes out. Both the podcast and the television show come out and they're huge hits. How did you feel about that?
Tara Newell
Well, it was crazy too, because I had a friend working on Will and Grace and he was even telling me that a part of the storyline was like, Dirty John storyline and how, like, my story's so huge and stuff. And it seemed like NBC Universal was also just like using that one. Then I even the other day had a friend tell me that they're working on set and that in the script it's. They're talking about Dirty John. And so it's just like it got made into a coin term. And it's funny because people will argue with me sometimes and be like, that was a term before that, Tara. And I'm like, no, it technically wasn't, but okay, believe whatever you want to believe. But I mean, there's. There was called like Dirty. Dirty Harry.
Jane Marie
Yeah, yeah, there was Dirty Harry. No.
Tara Newell
Yeah, yeah. It wasn't like a coin term. And so it just is weird. And then because I am in the entertainment industry and on a different aspect, I am excited about all this at first because, yeah, you know, you make scripts to get made into movies. And that is really hard. That is so hard knowing that your
Jane Marie
story is getting huge. Knowing that there's maybe some upshot to like, this terrible thing that happened to you, but that might have felt like, you know, some sort of payback or, you know, currency at the time. I can totally understand that.
Tara Newell
Yeah.
Jane Marie
But I don't know.
Tara Newell
This story pisses me off. I Take it, actually. Access to view all the episodes before they came out. But it was like. But I was only allowed to watch Dirty John, not even, like the rest of the other shows out there that other people are allowed to view early, Which, I mean, I guess. I guess you didn't get screeners.
Jane Marie
You weren't. You weren't, like, in the screener pool?
Tara Newell
I was, but just for my show.
Jane Marie
Oh, okay. Huh.
Tara Newell
It was like the NBC screeners, and then it only allowed me to see Dirty John.
Jane Marie
Oh, my God.
Tara Newell
I was like, oh, this looks cool. Oh, you can't see that? I'm happy that we're kind of talking about the story, about, like, the podcasting side of things, and I'm working on something to put my story to a close, because I. I mean, it was cathartic for a couple years talking about my story, but then now it comes to the point where it just continuously triggers me, and I live in it, and, you know, I. It makes me sad that I had to take someone's life. It doesn't make me sad, necessarily that they're dead.
Jane Marie
Yeah.
Tara Newell
Because so many people that were his victims have reached out to me and told me that they're not living in fear anymore.
Jane Marie
Oh.
Tara Newell
And that, like. I mean, I'm like, I don't want to ever have to kill someone.
Jane Marie
Sure.
Tara Newell
But if they're living not in fear anymore, then that makes me at least happy because I took away some of their pain for them, and I'll take that pain and I'll carry it. And it's just like, I just. You know, there's. There's still work to do. Like, I feel a good amount. I feel a lot. However, there's still moments like, you know, you saw me fresh out of a breakup and, like, just, like, got reactive during that breakup. Like, I just. You know, I got reactive with him, even. And, like, my trauma, it amplifies things, and, like, I'm more inclined to tell someone to go fuck off opposed to, like, go to my homeostasis.
Jane Marie
Right, right. I mean, yeah. I can't imagine something harder than what you went through. Not only did you have to do that, but it was someone your mom loved. You know? Like, it's just. It's so hard, and I'm really sorry.
Tara Newell
Thanks.
Jane Marie
So sorry. Thanks.
Tara Newell
Well, my time's coming.
Jane Marie
It is. It is. It is. Anyway, I'm. What do you make of it now? Like, that whole experience of being kind of cut out of your own story?
Tara Newell
So I'm. You know, I am. It just sucks to say this, because I am fortunate to have some involvement with, was kind of like either get in or get out kind of vibe. But they did listen to me about how I wanted my attack and that.
Jane Marie
How you wanted it represented, you mean?
Tara Newell
Yes. And how it went down. That was something that they actually wanted a lot of accuracy in.
Jane Marie
And did you feel like it wasn't correct in the way it was portrayed in the podcast?
Tara Newell
Well, to be honest, I don't really remember that part of the podcast. I blacked out. But in this show, it just. They wanted everything done how it went down, except for maybe, like, one or two parts because of filming.
Jane Marie
Sure.
Tara Newell
Like, it looked better for filming, but they made me very aware of that. But that was the director and the executive producer. Mm. And they kept in touch with me. I even talked to Damian Caro, who was the stunt coordinator for it, and we even talked about how the stunt coordinator would go. The stunt would go down and stuff.
Jane Marie
Yeah.
Tara Newell
And to be honest, that was so important to me to have that say. And because they did that, like, I was pleased to a certain extent. You know what I mean?
Jane Marie
Yeah. Yeah. That you had any hand in it at all.
Tara Newell
Yeah. So I just, like, was thankful that that's how they, like, actually. I actually consulted, and I remember getting on the floor in the deli of this deli in Burbank and just showing them how I actually defended myself. And they were like, no, no, we don't want you to re. Traumatize yourself. But I was like, no, it's so important to me that I actually show you everything. And then I talked to so many survivors, like, so being listened to felt good. Yes. And that was really, like, the first time I really felt listened to with even everything. I mean, I'm telling my story. This is the one time where I was like, there was. They wanted to. You could tell. They wanted to make me comfortable. I feel like I have to be positive otherwise, like, I turn into a victim.
Jane Marie
Right. No, I hear that.
Tara Newell
And, you know, it's just like, there's so many people that do have opinions about me. And even listening to this podcast, everyone's going to form an opinion one way or another. They're. They're going to be like, this is up. This is messed up. Or, she sounds a little naive. I don't like the tone of her voice. It hurts my ears. Like, people are just always going to have opinions, you know, but, you know,
Jane Marie
people didn't know this part of the story, so I was shocked when you told me, and I don't Think people understand that this is how it can work, you know, that this sort of thing is possible. I think that you also are, like, desensitized in a way, because this sort of thing has happened over and over and over again for the last seven years or whatever. Yeah, but I think that the general public doesn't understand that this. That you can just have your life stories put out there and a bunch of people make money off it, but not you, you know?
Tara Newell
Yeah. Well, I just think of, like, how many adaptations of O.J. simpson, this and that, Nicole Brown has come out. And even, like, Kim Goldman, the Goldman family, they've had to fight for justice in, like, different ways. And, you know, even though they won a case, they haven't seen that money.
Jane Marie
Right, exactly. I know maybe it seems futile, but just to reiterate what I felt when we first got the pitch or the request, you're the central character. It's not him. That's what I don't understand. I just have never understood that.
Tara Newell
Thank you. Well, there's so many things that get made, and the difference that I see in my story, opposed to. To other stories that are out there, is that I ended up killing the guy. And, like, I come out of it with, like, a few stab wounds, but completely unscathed. Like, that's a story that's kind of really just unheard of.
Jane Marie
Totally unheard of. And also, you just said that you had a couple stab wounds and you were completely unscathed. Take that one to your therapist. Okay. Let them know that you just described yourself as unscathed with the stab wounds.
Tara Newell
Like, I have one in my forearm, and then the one in my chest was, like, barely anything. And then, like, I was in the hospital for, like, a day or two.
Jane Marie
And, yeah, I'm just trying to get.
Tara Newell
I'm probably trying to downplay it.
Jane Marie
When reached for comment, Christopher Goffard sent us to the LA Times spokesperson, who said, when Christopher Goffard met with Tara Newell to record an interview for the podcast, he was using professional equipment, specifically a handheld TASCAM recorder and possibly a small boom mic. The podcast was produced as editorial content for the Los Angeles Times, which means an appearance release was not needed. Well, since this show is my editorial content, I'm gonna pick this apart a little bit. Those handheld recorders are the same ones a reporter would use if they were doing a print piece. And the. Maybe using a boom mic is a very weird thing to say. A boom mic is huge, or at least really obvious. Tara didn't see anything like that. And the Los Angeles Times. Yes. It's a newspaper so they do editorial stuff, but they partnered with Wondery on this show. Wondery is a for profit entertainment company who sold ads on that show and then sold derivatives of that show iterations of it in terms of, you know, the huge franchise that it's become. Also, if Tara came away from that interview not understanding that her voice would be used in the podcast and not having been told a podcast was even in the works, that is absolutely a failure on the part of the reporter. And the Los Angeles Times. Is it illegal? Maybe not. I don't know. Is it industry standard to ask people for their permission to use their voice in a commercial podcast?
Tara Newell
Yes.
Jane Marie
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Podcast: The Dream
Host: Jane Marie (Little Everywhere)
Guest: Tara Newell
Date: March 27, 2026
Episode Description: The Dream returns as a reimagined weekly interview podcast, focusing on the "American Dream" and the obstacles—especially individuals and systems—that make achieving it harder. In this episode, host Jane Marie revisits and unpacks the making of the acclaimed "Dirty John" podcast with survivor Tara Newell, exploring issues of consent, profit, and narration of true crime stories, as well as Tara’s personal and professional journey since the events.
The episode dives deeply into the real story behind the infamous "Dirty John" podcast and subsequent TV franchise, centering on Tara Newell—the woman whose real-life ordeal is at the heart of the phenomenon. The discussion focuses on issues of agency, consent, compensation, and the exploitation of survivors in true crime media, as well as Tara’s post-"Dirty John" life and advocacy.
The conversation balances candid humor (even in the face of exploitation and trauma), righteous indignation at media practices, and hard-earned wisdom. Both Jane and Tara are unfiltered—alternating between laughter, exasperation, and moments of empathy as they confront abuses of power in true crime storytelling and Hollywood.
For more information on Tara's nonprofit: terras safe haven.org