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Foreign. Welcome to this episode of the Everyday Millionaire Mindset Matters podcast, where I'm joined by my wife, Olympic mental performance coach Stephanie Hanlon. Francie. In these episodes, Stephanie and I have a conversation about the different aspects of what we refer to as mindset Matters because we believe that for those who are awake, we are living in and through the most impactful time in history. Your view of the world is the filter for how you will experience the evolution and changing dynamics of it. Our intention is to provide you with ideas, nutritious food for thought, and some tools that you can use to help you in being your greatest self and living your best life. Listen in, Enjoy. Hey there, and welcome to Mindset Matters, where we explore the thoughts that shape our lives and how to clear the ones that don't. Each week, we step into the practice of mind shui, Feng shui for the mind. It's not just about positive thinking. It's about purposeful thinking. And the mind shui wei helps you clear the mental clutter, uncover hidden beliefs, and realign with your truth so you can live with clarity, energy, and purpose in all areas of life. Stephanie, welcome.
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Hey, hon. That was a great intro.
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Well, I mean, I was trying to change it up a little bit and start to incorporate the whole thought process and, you know, the mind shui way, you know, the mind shui mindset, if you will.
B
Yeah, I love that. And, you know, we were chatting this morning and kind of breaking down what that could look like and how the. Maybe it's a program, maybe it's a retreat, maybe it's a, you know, it's a book. There's a whole bunch of different things, I think, just. But what I wanted to do today on the podcast was maybe to put you a little bit in the hot seat and ask you some questions about how mind shui came about, what your vision is for it, and really, what is the benefit for people when they start to really start to understand what it means to unclutter their mind?
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Well, I think there's a fundamental that, you know, goes back to how did it come about? It really came back to, you know, what is the work that we do? What is the body of work that we do and have done for so long? And as much as we have, you know, mindset matters, you know, when you start to really understand this space is that it's, you know, mindset's a term that gets used a lot. It gets thrown a lot around a lot. And I don't want to say overused, but I think whenever you have something like that that gets used to the extent that loses meaning. So then I said, well, what is it? The work that we do, you know, living your best life, being your greatest self, all language that we use, you know, think about what you're thinking about and to be present to your thought processes and have awareness. And so it isn't just as simple as saying, well, mindset. It certainly that's a big brush, it covers a lot of ground. And as I'm thinking through it, what came up for me in that thought process was what is it that we're doing? And we of course coined the phrase a couple of years ago called clarity equals velocity. And as I continued to think through that, I went, well, what exactly does that even mean? And we've unpacked clarity equals velocity several times. But how do you get that clarity and where you get the clarity at every level of clarity, it's about clearing clutter. It is really about, or not necessarily clearing clutter, but realigning some of the clutter that goes into our brain, giving it a compartment, having an awareness and understanding it. So that led to the thought. I went, it's kind of like feng shui for the mind, no, Feng shui being that ancient, many thousands of years old methodology of taking your space, your physical space that you live in, that you work in, and setting it up in a way that energy flows. And they certainly have a very, you know, proven philosophy, if you will, about where things should go, what you should do, what you shouldn't do, plants you shouldn't have, which way, your bed faces, all of those things that, you know, feng shui is all about. And I thought, well, you know, really that is what we're doing in our thought process. You know, it's really cleaning up the internal clutter to exist in an external world in a really powerful way. And I tripped over and was so excited about feng shui for the mind that it came out sideways of mine shui. And that stopped, that stuck. So it really was about, you know, what is my shui and what is about, you know, why do we want to have an awareness of our thoughts? Why do we want to think about what we're thinking about? Because ultimately we look and say what is feeding our kind of thought process? And then how do we clear the meaningless, the noise, if you will, that we see and are at the effect of it, whether that be social media or media in general, life in general, and you know, stepping back from it and going, how do we clear the clutter? It's like there could be this epiphany in your mind. We'll call that epiphany a window. But you don't even know the window's there because there's so much stuff in front of it. And then one day you kind of clear some clutter and boom, that epiphany, that window opens and you see the light, whatever that light might be for you. So that's kind of a high level, you know, look at what mind shui was really about is realigning your thought processes in a way that clears the clutter, but also has a space for those things that you want to hang on to. Like in those, you know, we often talk about the seven areas of life. So clearing the clutter, understanding those areas of life that we can focus on and so that we can see what's coming at us. And again, it's an internal kind of cleanup, if you will. So that the external is more. I don't want to say bearable. That's not the right word. But so the external is more understood. You're more present to it. Is that kind of helpful?
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Yeah, totally. And so when you talk about clutter, whether it's overthinking or jumbled thoughts, self talk, what do you specifically thinking that when, you know, we're helping somebody move through whatever that clutter is and using the mind shui processes that we're coming up with, where do you think a lot of that clutter comes from?
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Well, I mean, it's hard to say. I mean, when you look at where does clutter come from? It comes from information overload. It could be misinformation, disinformation, but more, you know, the work that we do and have really kind of seen the results of is understanding, for example, your hidden beliefs. Understanding or seeing, finding your hidden beliefs, knowing that we all have hidden beliefs somewhere. You know, there's the hidden beliefs, there's the understanding and aligning with your values. Really, when you look at the ultimate goal of all that we do is how do you live your most authentic self? How do you be your truest self? Because if you can align and get clear on who you are, I mean, what better way to live your life? And I want to say one thing is that's always a work in progress. It's like we use the phrase clarity equals velocity, and that to be the best version of yourself. But here's the fundamental around that every time you go to a next level of clarity, there's new clutter, there's new fog, there's new. Oh, gosh. Because you're into a space you've never been before. And that is ultimately what happens when we're becoming the best version of ourselves. We test ourselves and we go, wow, we did that. Or we train and we get something done. We have an outcome, but then we're into the next level. And the next level, guess what? There's more challenges, there's more fog and lack of clarity. So it's a journey of always. So this, the mind shui way is really a process so that understanding that being the best version of yourself is not an end. It is a way of being. It is a way of how life comes at you. I mean, you consider us. You know, this is what we do. This is the practice. We actually develop programs. We are in it, we're working with people. But we have our own life, we have our own challenges. We have the things that happen in business. We're at the effect of all the things that we don't have control over, which is a lot of things. And we often say that, you know, it's. You know, Marcus Aurelius is the most famous for that, which is, you know, the only thing we really have control over is how we see the world and our own emotional or mental view of that. And so other than that, what do we. Can we control? You know, we joke about it. I can get pissed off at politics, but at the end of the day, I have very limited control. I can vote. Okay, you know, what else can I really do? Not too much. So we're at the effect of it. So how do we deal with the things that we can't control? That really is a big part of the game. And so when we look at the mind shui way, it is a practice, it's a way of being that these things come at you. And yeah, they piss you off in the moment or they throw you off course, but they don't shut you down. They don't put you into this drama or this depression or the opposite of whatever that depression is, you know, so it doesn't create a bunch of chaos. We have a lot of chaos coming at us. I think that if many understood how much we have going on, for them it would land as chaos without question. But for us, it's not chaos. As a matter of fact, it's the way we are. And we can deal with it because of how we process things that are coming at us. So we don't go through extreme highs or extreme lows or we have shitty days and we have better days than others. But ultimately, we have an amazing life, and we have a lot going on, but it's in our ability to use the tools that we've learned or that we've developed and put them into practice.
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Oh, well said. Well, it's a couple things come up when I'm. When I hear you speak. One of the things is the word busy. I think busy is also kind of a barrier or a complication or a limited belief. And I think it's also an excuse. Somebody said to me once, you know, you just. What are you doing? You're just painting a busy picture. So even the words I was using, I was, you know, running from here to there and being complicated, not managing my calendar. And they just said, why? Why do you insist on painting a busy picture? And it really slowed me down. And I realized that what's going on in my head, to your point around mein shui, is, is that I was actually so busy that I wasn't present. I was either creating something into the future, which was creating a whole bunch of anxiety, or I was trying to clean stuff up from the past and make excuses or make amends or whatever, which was creating this, like, sadness. And I couldn't stay in the middle. And then what I realized is I needed to redefine the word busy. And when I did that, my. My mind actually softened. And now when people say, oh, I can never get ahold of you, you're so busy, I go, you know what? I'm not. I don't do busy. I'm complicated. I'm not busy. So even by shifting our languaging and shifting the words we use can give us more control of how we compartmentalize our thoughts. Oh, that was the other thing I wanted to ask you. Is it kind of like compartmentalizing when you think about organizing your thoughts or kind of creating that feng shui for the mind? Is it more? Is it kind of like compartmentalizing?
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Well, I think that's part of the practice. I think it's, you know, when we are feeling down and out and the whole world seems on top of us or whatever, you know, that side of the equation might look like. It's not. It's. It's a negative, as opposed to something positive going on. You know, we have to step back and go, okay, well, this doesn't represent all of my life. This represents one small component of my life, one factor or, you know, one area of my life. You know, whether it be financial or vocational, relational, whatever that might be. It's not my whole life. And so I want to go back to something that you said, is that I don't even think you're complicated. I think that your life is full. And, you know, for me, it's. Sometimes I can use the word busy, but ultimately I look at it and I go, no, I've got a lot of things and a lot of responsibilities and a lot of things I want to do and I commit to. If it's in my calendar, it's pretty locked down. And so, in other words, it's not that your life is complicated, it's full. Therefore, you know, you need to schedule. You need to put time in. And it's not as if you can take always a random call. I mean, I take very few cold calls. I mean, if you phone me, I'm going, okay, what's up? I better take the call. Or if our daughter phones me, you know, I'm going, okay. She just phoned to say hi, but we have a pattern. So she. And. But she. She. You know, in our case, Erin wouldn't randomly call me in the middle of the day. You know, she would text me. She'd go, have you got a minute? Can, you know, are. You know, can I slide in some time? Whatever. The point is, is that we have a full kind of life, and mostly our schedules are booked in advance. We plan our days. That's how we're efficient, we're effective, and so we get to do a lot of things because of that. And this is planning. So we live more on a schedule as opposed to being reactive to calls and cold calls and cold emails and all the rest of it.
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Yeah, that's a really good point. I think when I was reactive and trying to please people or be all things to all people or whatever, I was taking a lot of cold calls. And I think there was a shift that we had in our journey. And when I say I'm. I'm like, I am complicated. I don't think our life. My life is complicated. I think if people were looking to us or to me and go, okay, well, how did she go to Japan last week and now she's in Italy? Like, or how does she be an Olympian when she's not a figure skater? Like, there's all these connections, I think that people try to force into trying to understand somebody else's life. And I think that's also complicated when it comes to trying to process what's going on in your own life, but also trying to understand and be respectful of other people's lives. And have compassion and seek first to understand. Because people like me who don't have a normal life or people like us, you know, how is it that we can live out on the compound? And you know, I'm barely just learning how to garden, you know, so we learn as we go. At the same time, I guess I'm getting to my point is that the self judgment can also be something that creates that complic. That clutter in the mind is a self judgment. How am I being perceived? What if, what am I doing? Am I doing it right? Am I fitting in? You know, to me those kinds of things are show up in a lot of my clients work as they're just not doing enough.
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Well, I think there's a. There's a fundamental round, you know, when you think about the mind shui way, you know, there's a. I believe it was Peter Crone uses the terminology, you know, where he says one thing for sure. And I agree with this by the way, it was when he said it, it just landed so well for me, which was the one thing we're all prisoners to is the belief that there's something wrong with our life.
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Oh, saying oh, slow down, cowboy.
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Say that again. Well, we all live into this story that something's wrong with our life. It could be better, we could be wealthier, we could have more time. We could. It would be more happy, more joy. And of course, joy and happiness is. Our joy and happiness are inside jobs. That is part of mind shui. When you can't find joy and happiness in your life. That's because there's a lot of clutter and a lot of the clutter that we. When you're in that world is based on the fact that you're looking at life and going, my life is brutal. It sucks. There's something wrong with it. You know, you could. And listen, I've gone through that. I, you know, that's some of my own kind of demons that I have to battle is that I look at our life and it's fucking amazing. Yet I can always find something wrong with it that brings me down, right.
B
And that drives me crazy about you. That's one of the traits I just wish we could bust through somehow.
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Well, no, settle down. Okay, So I have bust through it. I'm aware of it. It's a good place to start. That's where I go back to appreciation and go back to gratitude and understanding, you know, for the mental kind of gymnastics that I have to go through. But that's because of my training that's because of the study. That's because of my own commitment that I bust through those things. So again, it doesn't, you know, it's a collapse that has to happen and I'm pretty much there. But I still see where it shows up, where I want to make what I have wrong as opposed to be grateful for what we have created in our lives and where we're at. And so this goes back to, you know, the mental clutter. Having the awareness of what you're thinking, having awareness that, you know, is this, you know, intellectual, Is it feeling? What is it that is, you know, messing with me and where I'm making something wrong or it needs to be more. And what I've got to is, you know, I'm there. I don't need more. I don't, I just don't. I want to be and continue. You know, we're in this phase of our life as well. Right. I just, you know, recently celebrated my 67th year on this planet and I'm going, wow, you know, what a great life we've created. And now we get to be in a different place of choice and choosing and I mean, what a better place to be. We get to do a podcast, we get to have these kinds of conversations and people get to enjoy them. Those are our loyal listener. And so at the end of the day, it's like that's what mind shui is about. It is a practice, it's a study, it's a way of being. And I just can't call it mindset is, is a kind of a catch all. It's a big continuum, but I want to.
B
And everybody's doing it. Everyone's talking now. Yeah, it's crazy.
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Everybody's got it. So the point of, you know, the mine shui way is a way of thinking. It's staying grounded in your truth. It's discovering who you really are, what you're capable of, regardless of what outside noise you have, you know who you are. And so you not only lead yourself, but you lead others. And you come from a place of clarity. And, you know, I really have embraced and understanding my own propensity to be clearer on being compassionate and being empathetic and knowing that in my previous time I wasn't a very empathetic person. Empathy was not a thing for me, really. Okay, that sounded a little. Sarcasm is the right word, so. No, there was a time, but I'm.
B
I remember that guy.
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Yeah, you know, that was the old guy. So the point of it is when we look at the world in general right now. Oh man. It sometimes feels like it's totally falling apart when you really look at it. And when I consider who I need to be for you and for our family and for our businesses, our team, our clients, I have to be grounded. I want to be the center of my universe and be really kind of powerful and that space that people can show up because I've got the wherewithal and the thick skin and the wide shoulders and the strength to be that individual that's there to support others and to not be going through so much of my own shit that I can't support others. If that makes any kind of sense.
B
Yeah, yeah. But the thing too is that because you're doing the work and because you're doing your own cluttering, clearing and looking at your own limiting beliefs and we're doing the best that we can in that regard. I think we do create a space for other people. Because as you're talking I'm thinking about, you know, when I am truly present or when I can get somebody to be completely present and clear. There's a lot of freedom in that. And the freedom, you know, I thinking where you're talking. I wasn't, I was listening, but I was thinking at the same time. But our mind can be such a prison. You know, we can get locked in there and into our, not just our limiting beliefs but just in the stories that we tell about ourselves, about others, about the government, about the politics, about everything. And we lose our, our in our intuitive sovereignty. We lose our, our true independence when we give our power away to all of the stories and all the negativity and the doom scrolling that's out there. I'm not saying that I don't do it. I mean, I've got a couple of conspiracy theories that people that I follow that I think are absolutely genius because of how they look at the world and they're looking at the world and they're finding, recognizing patterns. And I think that's what I really find when my mind is clear, I can see patterns. And people used to tease me all the time, it's like, oh my God, you're psychic, but you're always five years too early. Everything happens, but you're just five years too early. But the more I clear and I think the more we help people get clarity, there is a freedom to that and the freedom from limiting beliefs. The freedom of just knowing who I am and knowing who you are and choosing every day, choosing our marriage, choosing our lifestyle comes from A place where I'm not layering a bunch of bullshit on top of a bunch of bullshit on top of a bunch of old patterns of who I used to be. And I think one of the things we talked about too is that, you know, every time I see someone or every time we run into somebody, we're only that person in the moment in their memory, right? So as much as I've changed or grown or I always used to joke about, you know, I've been a redhead, a blonde, a brunette, I've been fat, I've been skinny, I've been, you know, I've had my nose broken. Like there's just so many different iterations. But when we meet somebody and we lock them into who we think we are, I think, or who we think they are, I think that's also a really limiting belief, is that it doesn't create the flow when it comes to communication. So when I think about, you know, clients and working through things and helping them get clear, the word I'm looking for usually at the end of every meeting is when I say, so how you doing? How you feeling? Where you at right now? I'm looking for the world. The word I feel lighter. Because when you lift some of the mind clutter, there is a lightness to that. And I don't just mean light as in weight, I just mean also light as in brightness too, right? So I think there's a light that happens when we help people clear the clutter of their mind or, or at least bring up something that, you know, that maybe they haven't had the courage or the empathy or the self compassion in the past to look at some of the wounds that they've had or the limiting beliefs that they've had. So all that being said, I think that there's a sovereignty and a freedom when it comes to taking the driver's sitting in the driver's seat of your life and starting to really move into the mind shui way, the clarity equals velocity way, and see what happens, right? Because then you're open to opportunities, things can show up.
A
Well, yeah, and I think there's a, you know, there's a couple metaphors that, you know, I learned over the years, which I think are kind of good, you know, when you think about mental clutter. So we, I think we've used this metaphor or analogy in the past. I guess it's analogy is that, you know, if you've got a garage and it's full of junk and you one day you just say, okay, I'm done. I gotta clean this garage up. And you start to go through the process of cleaning up your garage. A lot of what happens is that you pull everything out of the garage, throw it out onto the lawn and, you know, clean up the garage inside, sweep the floors, do all those things. And then you start to put things back in the garage, but you really only put it back what you want to put back, and you kind of edit. And then you also, you know, you maybe put new shelves in there so it's organized so you can find things. So, I mean, it's probably not the best analogy, but it really is. A lot of the clutter that we have has been hanging around and hanging around. All of a sudden you pull something off a shelf, you go, holy shit, I forgot we had this. We own seven of them. Oh, that would be our garage.
B
Oh, yeah, sorry. Show us my shoe closet.
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Thank you, Stephanie. But the point of it is, is that, you know, when we start to let go of things, we first have to become aware that they're there. And, you know, then we can say, I'm going to let that go. And those could be beliefs. And we talk a lot about hidden beliefs, but, you know, imagine that there is nobody out there that doesn't operate on top of at some level or at some point in their lives where they weren't enough, they weren't worthy, they were alone. Money. There was not enough money to go around. I mean, these are all hidden beliefs that many operate. So imagine if that even if you are trying to bust that hidden belief that I'm not enough is probably one of the biggest ones. I'm not worthy. Another one. We've talked about those many times on the show. But imagine that if those are either not there or at least you're aware of them, so that when something shows up, you go, oh, that's just an old story I'm telling myself that I'm believing that I'm not enough or that I'm not a worthy or. Or that I'm alone. So these are all kind of ways of being. Back to the original question, which is, what is mind shui? How does it come about? It really is a way to describe the work that we've done for a number of years. We've only broken it down into a way that we can walk people through a process, get everybody that's in that process into a conversation so that they can go on that journey of discovering and being their most authentic self. Because we know when you can just be your truest self. Be your most authentic self. Life gets really simple and in so many ways it's like, don't. It's like, you know, this seems such a. I know. Probably don't lie when you don't have to bullshit. You don't have to remember your lies. You don't have to remember your bullshit. You just tell the truth.
B
And. And the other thing too is when you're just being yourself, you can't it up.
A
You can't.
B
There isn't anybody else like you, so.
A
And guess what? And what here's the thing about. You're the best in the world at who you are. Yeah. If you can be true to who you are. The thing about all of that is people are going to. Some people are going to be very attracted to who you are. They're going to like that. They're going to like how you show up and all your craziness, wing nuttedness. I mean, think about some of the. I'm going to use the phrase artists, the creative people that we know. I literally have trouble being around them. It's not that I don't love them, care about them, but I just really struggle to be in that space because it's too out there for me. And so. But they have hundreds of friends. They got lots of people that love to hang around with them. You know, they're mostly artists and dancers and, you know, musicians. I'm not built that way. My point is, is that whoever you are, you know, what you may think is crazy or very pragmatic and engineer, brain and logistic and all the rest of it, like the intellect versus the feeling, heart, creative. There's. There's a fit for everybody.
B
And we need both right into the work that we did. You know, we need both. We need the intellect and we need the artist thing. We are all of that. And there's benefits and drawbacks. And I think part of what I love about our work and what we help people process through is that is to. To reclaim a lot of those unloved parts. You know, if there, there's. I had no idea you could paint. We go to Sedona and one of the exercises, we got these amazing coaches, JB and Peter, and we're doing all this kind of thing and one of these exercises, they pull out these paints or whatever. Were they oil paints?
A
No, they're watercolor. Watercolors.
B
Oh my gosh. And then I'm like, I'm terrified because I can't draw a straight line with a ruler. And you start painting, you look out the window. And you create this scene of art that was the view of outside of our room. And I'm like, dude, you say you're not creative, like what a limiting belief that was. And to put that painting together, we should show it. I mean, nobody's watching this on YouTube. But listen to our.
A
Okay, don't podcast.
B
I could describe it to you, but this blew my mind, is that you've always held yourself as non creative, not an artist. Yet you pulled this beautiful painting out and mine looks like a two year old did it, you know, but whatever.
A
Okay, well, that was fun. Yeah, no, I didn't really think about it either. So here's the thing about it. Let's go back to what it was. The reality of it is, is that when we can be comfortable being ourselves, that is a pretty great life to be living because then you're also attracting people into your life that align with who you're being. And so that's really the name of the game. Now. That's part of the name of the game. The other side of that is that how we create and how we create the life we want to live, how we make decisions are really then in alignment with our true self. And this is often what we hear and deal with and help people through is the fact that they're living an inauthentic life. They're in jobs or roles or relationships or friendships, you know, whatever, that are really not in alignment with who they are. They feel like this is not fulfilling, it's no fun, it's heavy, it's drama, it's whatever story they have around it and they want to often blame the other person or the situation or the situation. And you know, so the minute we can have people shift and work them through the process of taking ownership of the circumstances, of the relationship, of the job, of the career, of the whatever, and see where that got created and why and how. And then you can start to put in the correction. And having said that, that's often what gets in the way of people making those changes is because with change comes some chaos and because there's change. And so it feels very chaotic and very.
B
And you may lose some people. People may start to leave your life like they did with me. They left in droves.
A
Yeah, well, yeah, exactly. So people eventually go away because they don't fit with where you're going or who you're being. And that's okay, that's part of it. Because you then free up the space for other people to show up who are more in alignment with who you are and what it is that you've got on the go. This is the mine shui way. This is clearing the clutter of the mind so that energy flows, so creativity flows, so that you can actually see the window at the back of the room where the light is coming in and be able to go open that window. And that is the fundamental high level, kind of bare bones about mind shui, you know, feng shui for the mind and clearing the mental clutter.
B
When you, you know, as we kind of come full circle around this conversation and we think about, you know, some of the fears of letting go, of being your authentic self, you will have people leave your life. That, and it may be quite painful and there may have to be, you know, job changes or you have to maybe have to move or people will. Will come into your life in a way that will nudge you and challenge you to becoming the next highest version of yourself. My. My mom always said, people come into your life for a reason. A season or a lifetime. And to me, that freed me up, especially as a young adult when I was seeing people leave my life or I was changing or growing or I wanted to be a better version of myself. I wanted to be the best in the world at something. I wanted to marry a man like you. And I thank God I found you. But I had to become the person that could handle it and could attract those things. And what I did find out when I was doing that, there was people that were hanging on to me that needed me to be that old person in their memory so that they were affirmed in who they were being. And when my mom said that to me, and she said, you know, honey, it's okay to let go because people come into your life for a reason. And maybe this was the reason, some for a season and some for a lifetime. So you have to find the categories and allow and even opportunities come for a reason. A season in her lifetime. It's not just can't lock into the forever and ever amen happily ever after Disney bullshit, because that's not real. And that's, I believe, what keeps us small.
A
That is the main shui way. Think about what you're thinking about, be intentional, clear the mental clutter so that you know, you can understand and gain that the internal job of happiness, of joy and of clarity impacts the external world that we live in. Stephanie, thank you for the conversation. Thanks for the questions.
B
Hey, that was fun. I like being in this seat for once.
A
Okay, signing off.
B
That was fun.
A
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Podcast Summary: The Everyday Millionaire
Episode: Mindset Matters #194 - Clarity Equals Velocity: The Power of MindShui Thinking
Release Date: July 17, 2025
Host/Author: Patrick Francey
In this insightful episode of The Everyday Millionaire, host Patrick Francey is joined by his wife, Stephanie Hanlon, an Olympic mental performance coach. Together, they delve deep into the concept of "MindShui," a foundational element of their Mindset Matters series. The episode focuses on the transformative power of mental clarity and purposeful thinking as keys to achieving personal and financial success.
Notable Quote:
"MindShui is Feng Shui for the mind, not just about positive thinking but purposeful thinking."
— Patrick Francey [01:23]
Patrick introduces "MindShui" as a nuanced approach to mindset, emphasizing that while "mindset" is a commonly used term, it often loses its depth due to overuse. MindShui, on the other hand, involves a deliberate process of clearing mental clutter, uncovering hidden beliefs, and realigning thoughts to foster clarity, energy, and purpose.
Key Points:
Notable Quote:
"Clarity equals velocity... it's about clearing clutter and realigning your thought processes."
— Patrick Francey [04:15]
Stephanie and Patrick explore the origins of mental clutter, identifying information overload, misinformation, and hidden beliefs as primary contributors. They discuss how these factors create a fog that obscures clarity, making it difficult to recognize opportunities or achieve personal goals.
Key Points:
Notable Quote:
"The only thing we're prisoners to is the belief that there's something wrong with our life."
— Patrick Francey [15:41]
Using the metaphor of cleaning a cluttered garage, Patrick illustrates the process of MindShui. This involves identifying and discarding unnecessary thoughts and beliefs while organizing and reinforcing those that align with one's true self.
Key Points:
Notable Quote:
"When we start to let go of things, we first have to become aware that they're there."
— Patrick Francey [25:08]
A significant portion of the conversation centers on the importance of living authentically. Patrick and Stephanie discuss how being true to oneself not only simplifies life but also attracts like-minded individuals, fostering more meaningful relationships and opportunities.
Key Points:
Notable Quotes:
"When you can be comfortable being yourself, you're attracting people into your life that align with who you are."
— Patrick Francey [27:17]
"People are going to be very attracted to who you are. They're going to like that."
— Patrick Francey [27:22]
Patrick and Stephanie emphasize that achieving mental clarity is an ongoing journey rather than a one-time achievement. As individuals evolve, new challenges and mental clutter arise, necessitating continuous practice and adaptation of MindShui principles.
Key Points:
Notable Quote:
"Being the best version of yourself is not an end. It is a way of being."
— Patrick Francey [09:25]
Throughout the episode, Patrick and Stephanie share personal anecdotes and practical applications of MindShui. They discuss how redefining terms like "busy" to "complicated" can shift one's perception and reduce mental stress. Additionally, they highlight the importance of gratitude and appreciation in overcoming negative thought patterns.
Key Points:
Notable Quote:
"When you shift our language and shift the words we use, it can give us more control over how we compartmentalize our thoughts."
— Stephanie Hanlon [11:46]
As the conversation concludes, Patrick and Stephanie reiterate that MindShui is a comprehensive practice encompassing intentional thinking, clearing mental clutter, and embracing authenticity. By adopting the MindShui way, individuals can achieve greater clarity, purpose, and ultimately, the life they aspire to live.
Final Thoughts:
Notable Quote:
"Clear the mental clutter so that energy flows, so creativity flows, so that you can actually see the window at the back of the room where the light is coming in and be able to go open that window."
— Patrick Francey [32:48]
Closing Remarks: Patrick thanks Stephanie for the engaging conversation and emphasizes the importance of MindShui in achieving personal and professional success. He encourages listeners to rate, review, and share the podcast, inviting feedback and further engagement.
Notable Quote:
"MindShui is about thinking with intention and living with clarity to impact the external world positively."
— Patrick Francey [34:26]
This episode offers a profound exploration of the MindShui methodology, providing listeners with actionable insights to declutter their minds, embrace their authentic selves, and navigate the complexities of modern life with clarity and purpose.