Transcript
Patrick (0:00)
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Podcast Host (0:04)
Welcome to this episode of the Everyday Millionaire Mindset Matters podcast, where I'm joined by my wife, Olympic mental performance coach Stephanie Hanlon.
Patrick (0:13)
Francie.
Podcast Host (0:14)
In these episodes, Stephanie and I have a conversation about the different aspects of what we refer to as Mindset Matters because we believe that for those who are awake, we are living in and through the most impactful time in history. Your view of the world is the filter for how you will experience the evolution and changing dynamics of it. Our intention is to provide you with ideas, nutritious food for thought, and some tools that you can use to help you in being your greatest self and living your best life. Listen in.
Patrick (0:47)
Enjoy. Stephanie, welcome.
Stephanie Hanlon (0:52)
Hey, hon.
Patrick (0:53)
Okay, so the topic is confidence, and there's a bit of a metaphor slash parable. No, more of a metaphor, I guess, to give it context. Now, I often when we talk about confidence, there's a quote that I use and I've used many times, which is confidence is rarely owned. It's almost always borrowed. And I want to unpack that a little bit. But let's just create an overarching context for confidence and how important it is and where does it come from and how do we have it, how do, where does it go, all of those
Stephanie Hanlon (1:27)
kinds of things and what is it
Patrick (1:28)
and what is it? So let's get into it. I'm going to lay out this metaphor to create a really strong context for listeners, and then we can kind of unpack it a little bit more. You ready?
Stephanie Hanlon (1:39)
Hit me.
Patrick (1:40)
Okay. So confidence is not a spotlight, it's a foundation. Now, most people treat confidence like weather. If things are going well, they feel strong. If life punches them in the mouth, confidence disappears. But that was never confidence. That was comfort. Real confidence is more like building a house. And if the house is built on sand, it looks fine on a sunny day. But the moment the wind picks up and you get some rain, the flaws get exposed rather quickly. The walls shake, they start to melt down, the windows rattle, and then panic starts to set in. But when the foundation is deep, if level and built on rock, the storm still hits, but the house holds. And that is how most people live their lives. They build their self belief on praise, performance, approval, or momentum. But when results dip, when criticism comes, when things get hard, they start questioning everything. Now, questioning everything is okay, but they question everything and they stall. Lasting confidence is built differently. It's built through preparation, through keeping promises to yourself, through doing hard things repeatedly, through evidence, through process, through learning that you can wobble without collapsing. So maybe the real question is how do I feel more confident? It isn't that question. Maybe the better question is what am I building my confidence on? Because if your confidence is built on outcomes, it will always be fragile. If it's built on foundation, it becomes durable. And that is where the work begins. Not with hype, not with affirmations, with architecture. So today the conversation is what is your confidence actually built on? Because a lot of people are not lacking potential, they are standing on a weak foundation that breaks confidence down. So what's your thoughts?
