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The Forties Formula
Hosted by Amanda Lim & Jasmin Dhillon · EN
Welcome to The Forties Formula — an award-winning podcast named Best Health & Wellness Podcast in Asia 2025, Podcast of Impact at The Makers & Shapers Awards 2026 and proudly featured by CNA as one of Singapore’s best podcasts for women.
We blend science, soul, and a little bit of sass to help you thrive in your forties and beyond.
Meet your hosts:
Jasmin Dhillon — health strategist at Eat with Jasmin, mum of three boys, and forever curious about what it really takes to feel good in this season of life.
Amanda Lim — metabolic health coach, director at LIFT Clinic, and mom to three littles, here to help you ditch the fluff and get real about kicking a*s in your forties.
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The 30 Year Mistake Behind Your PCOS Diagnosis and Why Menopause Won't Save You
Yesterday00:49:35Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Forties Formula, Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda Lim are joined by women's health physician Dr. Sital Khistriya to unpack one of the biggest changes in women's health in decades: the proposed renaming of PCOS to PMOS (Poly-Endocrine Metabolic Ovarian Syndrome).Why does this matter? Because experts now believe we've been treating PCOS as an ovarian condition when it's actually a lifelong metabolic disorder driven primarily by insulin resistance. This shift has huge implications for diagnosis, fertility, pregnancy, perimenopause, menopause, cardiovascular health, and how millions of women are treated around the world.Chapters00:00 | Have We Been Misunderstanding PCOS All Along?01:48 | Why Experts Want to Rename PCOS to PMOS03:01 | What PMOS Really Means (And Why Ovarian Cysts Aren't the Problem)04:25 | How PCOS Got Its Name04:33 | How PMOS Is Diagnosed05:51 | Can You Have PMOS Without Ovarian Cysts?07:04 | Can PMOS Develop Later in Life?08:22 | The Overlooked Symptoms Most Women Don't Know About09:41 | What Parents Should Watch for in Teenage Girls12:20 | Birth Control: Treatment or Band-Aid?16:03 | PMOS, Fertility & Trying to Conceive17:27 | Lifestyle Changes That Improve Fertility18:16 | The Best Diet for Insulin Resistance19:35 | Metformin, GLP-1s & Modern Treatment Options20:55 | What Happens If PMOS Goes Undiagnosed Until Your 40s?23:17 | Why PMOS Still Matters After You've Had Children25:06 | How PMOS Differs Across Ethnicities27:28 | The Hidden Signs of Insulin Resistance30:35 | Does PMOS End After Menopause?31:15 | Why Perimenopause Can Make PMOS Worse32:53 | Why Strength Training Improves Insulin Resistance34:58 | Changing Women's Mindset Around Muscle39:25 | Will the PMOS Name Change Improve Treatment?41:00 | Should It Have Been Named Something Else?42:54 | Hot or Hype? Keto, Metformin, Inositol & Ovulation Tests47:26 | Dr. Sheetal's Forties Formula48:12 | Final ThoughtsAbout our guest:Dr. Sital Khistryia is a women's health physician with a special interest in hormones, metabolic health, perimenopause and preventive medicine. She helps women better understand the connection between insulin resistance, reproductive health and long-term wellbeing.About your hosts:Jasmin Dhillon is an Integrated Health Strategist and Health Coach helping women in their 40s navigate gut health, hormones and nutrition.https://www.instagram.com/eat.with.jasmin/Amanda Lim is a Metabolic Health Coach focused on helping women build strength, confidence and long-term health.https://www.instagram.com/coachamanda/Support the podcast:If you enjoy these conversations, subscribe and share this episode with someone living with PCOS, insulin resistance, fertility concerns, or navigating perimenopause.You can also support the show by Buying Us a Coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/thefortiesformula
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Diet Culture Is Racism, and Nobody's Talking About It | The Forties Formula in Focus
4d ago00:08:29Tap to summarizeThe discussion about diet culture and the weight loss industry highlights its pervasive influence as a multi-billion dollar business, often shaping our "social norms." We explore how this "diet trend" can contribute to harmful "eating disorders" and impact our relationship with "food culture." This conversation emphasizes the deep societal embedding of these ideas.Hosted by Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda LimConnect with Amanda & Jasmin: https://www.instagram.com/thefortiesformula/Jasmin Dhillon - https://www.instagram.com/eat.with.jasminAmanda Lim - https://www.instagram.com/coachamandalim
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Why Your Marriage Stops Working In Your 40s (And What Fixes It)
1w ago00:57:30Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Forties Formula, we explore why midlife can become a turning point for relationships. We unpack how changing priorities, emotional needs, resentment, intimacy, communication, motherhood, and self-worth all influence the decisions women make during this stage of life.In this episode, we discuss:• Why so many women begin questioning their relationships after 40• How perimenopause can influence emotions, identity and relationships• The hidden resentment that quietly builds over the years• Why communication, not compatibility, is often the real issue• Marriage, motherhood and the invisible mental load• Rebuilding intimacy and emotional connection• When therapy can genuinely help a relationship• Dating after 40 and whether "having standards" has gone too far• The biggest relationship red flags to watch for in midlife• Why choosing yourself doesn't always mean leaving your relationship---Chapters:00:00 | Why Women Suddenly Question Their Relationships After 4002:45 | What Changes in Your 40s? Identity, Priorities & Self-Worth05:03 | Why Many Women Stay Single Rather Than Settle08:05 | Do Women Become "Too Picky" or Simply More Self-Aware?10:03 | Relationship Patterns That Keep Repeating12:31 | Marriage, Children & The Pressure of Timelines14:26 | Divorce Rates, Expectations & Modern Relationships16:16 | Sex, Intimacy & Changing Needs in Midlife20:03 | Why Communication Is the Foundation of Every Relationship21:50 | When Individual or Couples Therapy Can Help25:01 | Healing Sexual Wounds & Reconnecting With Yourself30:02 | Why Self-Discovery Can Transform Your Relationship35:04 | Self-Love vs Selfishness: Knowing the Difference40:00 | Everyday Partnership, Respect & Sharing the Mental Load45:02 | Dating After 40: Looking Beyond First Impressions50:03 | Dating Apps in Your 40s — Hype or Helpful?51:23 | Fear of Loneliness & Settling for the Wrong Partner55:06 | Time Pressure, Midlife & Making Better Relationship Decisions58:30 | Final Thoughts: Building Relationships That Truly LastAbout your hosts:Jasmin Dhillon is an Integrated Health Strategist and Health Coach helping women in their 40s navigate gut health, hormones and nutrition.https://www.instagram.com/eat.with.jasmin/Amanda Lim is a Metabolic Health Coach focused on helping women build strength, confidence and long-term health.https://www.instagram.com/coachamanda/Support the podcast:If you enjoy these conversations, subscribe and share this episode with someone who may be questioning their relationship, navigating midlife changes, or looking for a healthier, happier future.You can also support the show by Buying Us a Coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/thefortiesformulaThank you to our sponsors:Love IndusUse code TFF for 21% offhttps://loveindus.com
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This Parenting Mistake Could Cost You and What You Can Do To Have A Strong Relationship
2w ago00:08:39Tap to summarizesummary In this clip of The Forties Formula, Amanda and Jasmin explore the nuances of conscious parenting, emotional regulation, and repairing family relationships. They share personal stories, challenge stereotypes, and offer practical insights for mindful parenting and self-compassion. conscious parenting, emotional regulation, repair relationships, tiger mom, self-compassion, family dynamics, parenting tips Is gentle parenting just letting your kids do whatever they want? A parenting educator explains why conscious parenting still needs a hierarchy — and why apologising to your children when you get it wrong builds more trust than never getting it wrong at all. Parenting educator Cornelia Dahinten and self professed Tiger Mon Annabel Chew break down what conscious parenting actually means: not permissiveness, but a deliberate awareness of your own triggers, your rules, and your emotional responses. Jasmin shares a real example of losing her temper with her son and having to repair it the next day — and the conversation moves into rupture and repair, the idea that how you fix a conflict with your child matters more than avoiding conflict altogether. Watch the full episode for the complete conversation on Asian vs Western parenting stereotypes, tiger parenting, and raising confident kids: https://youtu.be/4Qf7Wj5cbZU Chapters 00:00 Cultural Collision: Asian vs. Western Parenting 00:57 Conscious Parenting: Balancing Authority and Understanding 04:38 The Concept of Repair in Parenting 08:39 Tiger Mom: Expectations vs. Reality Resources The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0013AX4A4 Rupture and Repair in Relationships - Article - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/201911/rupture-and-repair-in-relationships Amanda & Jasmin's Podcast - https://thefortiesformula.com conscious parenting, gentle parenting, parenting styles, how to apologize to your child, rupture and repair, parenting guilt, boundaries for kids, emotionally healthy parenting, daniel siegel parenting, calm parenting strategies, parenting mistakes, parenting advice, mum guilt, tiger parenting, authoritative parenting, parenting styles, respect in parenting, validating children's feelings
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Why You Snap at the People You Love — and How to Stop, With Anna Mathur
2w ago00:56:28Tap to summarizeHave you ever completely lost your temper… and then immediately wondered, "What's wrong with me?"If you're finding yourself more irritable, more reactive, or snapping at the people you love in your 40s, you're not alone… and it may have far less to do with your personality than you think.This week, we're joined by psychotherapist, bestselling author and host of The Therapy Edit podcast, Anna Mathur, to unpack why so many women experience anger, overwhelm and rage during midlife. Together, we explore the hidden emotional load women carry, how perimenopause changes our stress response, why guilt keeps us stuck, and the small shifts that can help us feel like ourselves again.From learning the difference between anger and rage, to spotting the warning signs before you explode, repairing relationships after you've snapped, and finally giving yourself permission to rest without guilt… this conversation is filled with compassionate, practical tools every woman needs.If you've ever thought, "I don't recognise myself anymore," this episode is for you.Chapters00:00 | Why are we snapping at the people we love?02:08 | Anna's breaking point after motherhood & the pandemic05:48 | The shame every woman feels after losing her temper06:54 | Anger vs. rage: why they're not the same thing09:10 | The "boiling pot" analogy every woman needs10:42 | Amanda's shocking anger management story14:22 | The warning signs you're about to snap16:50 | Good girl conditioning & why women can't rest19:20 | Why rest feels so uncomfortable (and even selfish)23:56 | How perimenopause changes your brain's stress response26:21 | "I can't even be sick." The invisible mental load of motherhood28:35 | Why you have to stop waiting for permission to take care of yourself32:03 | Sleep, cortisol & why everything feels harder when you're exhausted35:04 | Your phone isn't helping you rest37:20 | What to do after you've snapped at someone you love41:34 | The repair technique every parent should know43:43 | When the problem isn't really about the dishes46:37 | Why burnout happens—and why some women can't stop until they crash49:36 | Two simple practices to start changing this week52:06 | Stop asking "What's wrong with me?"54:05 | Anna's new book: How to Stop Snapping at the People You LoveAbout your hosts:Jasmin Dhillon is an Integrated Health Strategist and Health Coach helping women in their 40s navigate gut health, hormones and nutrition.https://www.instagram.com/eat.with.jasminAmanda Lim is a Metabolic Health Coach focused on helping women build strength, confidence and long-term health.https://www.instagram.com/coachamandaSupport the podcast:If you enjoy these conversations, subscribe and share with someone who needs to hear this. You can also support the show by Buying Us a Coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/thefortiesformulaThank you to our sponsors:Love Indus:Use code TFF for 21% offhttps://loveindus.com
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Why Women Stay Quiet (Even When They Disagree) | The Forties Formula in Focus
3w ago00:05:01Tap to summarizeWhy do so many women stay quiet… even when they don’t agree?In this 5-minute clip from The Forties Formula, we explore how early conditioning, cultural norms, and workplace dynamics shape the way we communicate — and why so many of us hold back, even when we have something important to say.Featuring global communication expert Heather Hansen, this conversation breaks down the hidden patterns behind confidence, voice, and visibility — especially for women navigating midlife and leadership.What you’ll learn:• How childhood conditioning shapes the way we use our voice • Why confidence isn’t always the issue — socialisation is • The real reason women hesitate to speak up at work • How cultural definitions of “respect” influence communication • Why psychological safety matters more than perfect communication • A framework for speaking with more confidence, clarity, and connectionTimestamps00:00 – How children perceive voices and social cues 00:15 – Gender differences in socialisation 00:43 – Confidence vs conditioning in the workplace 01:07 – Why women hesitate to apply for roles 01:33 – The “workaround” mindset 02:02 – Non-confrontational behaviour and real-life reflection 02:31 – Cultural definitions of respect 02:57 – Cultural clashes in global workplaces 03:23 – Conscious, confident, connected communication 03:52 – Why people mute themselves 04:20 – Creating psychologically safe environmentsListen to the full episodehttps://youtu.be/wv9wSqzdI_8?si=WIrFTSP0PIpdpBFXSearch The Forties Formula wherever you get your podcasts.ResourcesUnmuted: How to Show Up, Speak Up, and Inspire Action https://amzn.asia/d/0duLIMXYSupport the showhttps://buymeacoffee.com/thefortiesformulaFor $5 a month, you’ll get a dedicated episode where we answer your questions — from confidence and communication to health, energy, and everything in between.Keywordswomen speaking up, confidence in your 40s, communication skills, executive presence, women in leadership, midlife confidence, accent bias, global communication, personal development, podcast clip
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How to Rebuild Your Body After Kids — Even Years Later, Sports Medicine Doctor Explains!
3w ago00:54:42Tap to summarizeMost women are told they’re “cleared” at six weeks postpartum. But according to sports medicine physician Dr. Morgan Lee, that clearance has very little to do with true recovery.In this episode of The Forties Formula, Dr. Morgan explains why so many women continue to struggle with pelvic floor dysfunction, diastasis recti, back pain, weakness, injuries, and exercise setbacks years after having children—and why these symptoms are often dismissed as “just getting older.”Drawing on her experience working with elite athletes, Dr. Morgan shares why mothers should be treated like athletes during recovery, how pregnancy fundamentally changes the body, and what women can do, whether they gave birth six months ago or ten years ago—to rebuild strength, function, and confidence.If you've ever wondered whether it's too late to recover after pregnancy, this conversation is for you.---In This Episode• Why the six-week postpartum clearance is a lie• The truth about "bouncing back" after pregnancy• Why many women are exercising in bodies that never fully healed• Pelvic floor dysfunction and why it's not normal• The athlete approach to postpartum recovery• How pregnancy impacts strength, mobility, and performance• Diastasis recti, core recovery, and rebuilding function• Why it's never too late to improve postpartum symptoms• The role of movement, walking, and exercise after birth• How pregnancy preparation can improve postpartum outcomes---Chapters00:00 Why Most Women Never Fully Recover After Pregnancy01:21 Meet Dr. Morgan Lee: Treating Mothers Like Athletes02:02 The Problem With the Six-Week Postpartum Clearance04:24 Why Bounce-Back Culture Is Hurting Women07:00 What Real Postpartum Recovery Should Look Like10:41 Why Having Children Later Changes Recovery12:25 The Athlete Approach to Postpartum Healing13:56 Is It Too Late to Recover After Pregnancy?16:26 Pelvic Floor Problems, Leaking & Why It's Not Normal19:15 How Dr. Morgan Evaluates Postpartum Recovery21:21 Motherhood Is More Physical Than You Think23:53 How To Prepare During Pregnancy For Better Recovery28:17 Why Walking Beats Bed Rest After Birth31:10 Movement, Mental Health & Postpartum Recovery33:25 Belly Binding, Core Recovery & Common Myths35:39 Pregnancy Is More Athletic Than You Think37:38 How To Rebuild Strength After Childbirth42:36 Diastasis Recti: What Every Woman Should Know- Connect with Dr. Lara Morgan:Instagram: @sportdrmorganAbout your hosts: Jasmin Dhillon is an Integrated Health Strategist and Health Coach helping women in their 40s navigate gut health, hormones and nutrition. https://www.instagram.com/eat.with.jasmin/ Amanda Lim is a Metabolic Health Coach focused on helping women build strength, confidence and long-term health. https://www.instagram.com/coachamandalim/?hl=en Thank you to our sponsors: Love Indus: Use code TFF for 21% off https://loveindus.com Postpartum recovery, postpartum fitness, pelvic floor, diastasis recti, C-section recovery, women in their 40s, perimenopause fitness, bounce back myth, sports medicine, postpartum health, belly binding, core reconnection, motherhood fitness, postpartum exercise, women's health, forties formula podcast
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My Mom Got Cancer From HRT - Here's Why I Still Recommend It | The Forties Formula in Focus
4w ago00:05:46Tap to summarizeThe Power of Hormones, Lifestyle & Self Compassion in Women's Health in Their 40s This is a clip from The Forties Formula in Focus with hosts Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda Lim with @drolivialesslar . It focuses on navigating women's health in midlife, especially addressing hormonal changes during perimenopause, the influence of lifestyle, and the importance of self-compassion. Challenge outdated narratives and highlight practical strategies to thrive in your 40s and beyond. In this episode: - How hormone replacement therapy (HRT) has evolved and its neuroprotective benefits - Common misconceptions around HRT and breast cancer fears - The significance of early intervention during perimenopause within a therapeutic window - The impact of lifestyle factors like protein intake, movement, and grounding on health outcomes - The role of interoception, intuition, and validating women's pain and experience - Understanding mental and emotional resilience as a key pillar for thriving in midlife - The influence of social media, cultural conditioning, and intergenerational trauma on body image and health - The potential of wearable technology to support, not replace, bodily awareness Timestamps: 0:00 HRT and breast cancer risk explained 0:28 HRT today vs old hormone therapy differences 0:56 Why you need an informed HRT doctor 1:26 Estrogen benefits for brain, immunity and hormones 1:56 Perimenopause symptoms caused by low estrogen 2:22 Why midlife symptoms are all connected 2:52 HRT myths and breast cancer fears explained 3:14 Early perimenopause symptoms and misdiagnosis 3:43 Premature ovarian failure and hormone therapy decision 4:07 Best time to start HRT and why timing matters 4:27 ADHD, autism and hormones in perimenopause (2E women) 4:57 Hormone imbalance risks and long-term health impact Connect with Dr. Olivia Ly-Lesler: https://www.instagram.com/drolivialesslar/ Connect with Amanda & Jasmin: https://www.instagram.com/thefortiesformula/ Jasmin Dhillon - https://www.instagram.com/eat.with.jasmin Amanda Lim - https://www.instagram.com/coachamandalim This episode emphasizes that thriving in your 40s is about understanding one's body, embracing the full spectrum of hormonal health, and practicing kindness toward oneself. The conversation invites women to reframe aging as an opportunity for growth, resilience, and love.
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Emotionally Available Fatherhood: What Dads Need to Know | The Forties Formula
4w ago00:52:18Tap to summarizeIn today’s episode of The Forties Formula, Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda Lim sit down with counselor, walk-and-talk therapist, and self-described "Dad in Progress," Simon Parkin.Motherhood isn't just exhausting because of sleepless nights. It's exhausting because of the invisible load—the planning, organizing, remembering, and emotional labor that keeps families running behind the scenes. While many fathers are showing up more than ever before, many mothers still find themselves carrying responsibilities that often go unseen and unacknowledged.In this honest Father's Day conversation, Simon shares what emotionally available fatherhood really looks like, why communication often breaks down after children arrive, and how helping men become better partners and fathers can improve the wellbeing of the entire family.In this conversation, we explore:• The invisible load and why it creates resentment in relationships• Why many fathers genuinely don't see the mental load mothers carry• How communication changes after children and what couples can do about it• The impact of childhood experiences on parenting styles• Why men need safe spaces to talk about fatherhood and mental health• Simon's philosophy of being a "Dad in Progress"If you've ever felt alone inside motherhood, overwhelmed by the mental load, or frustrated that your partner doesn't seem to understand everything you're carrying, this episode is for you.Chapters:00:00 | The Invisible Load Mothers Carry01:48 | Meet Simon Parkin04:29 | Why Dads Feel Pressure To Get Fatherhood Right08:39 | Why Mothers Become Resentful12:18 | Dads Don't See The Mental Load16:14 | Communication After Kids23:43 | Walk-And-Talk Therapy27:24 | Parenting Across Cultures33:11 | The Haircut Story Every Parent Needs To Hear37:01 | Why Men Don't Open Up42:09 | The Hidden Struggles Of Fathers47:19 | Happy Spouses, Happy Houses49:09 | Simon's Fatherhood FormulaAbout your hosts:Jasmin Dhillon is an Integrated Health Strategist and Health Coach helping women in their 40s navigate gut health, hormones and nutrition.https://www.instagram.com/eat.with.jasmin/Amanda Lim is a Metabolic Health Coach focused on helping women build strength, confidence and long-term health.https://www.instagram.com/coachamandalim/?hl=enAbout the Guest:Simon Parkin is a counselor, walk-and-talk therapist, fatherhood advocate, and founder of Dad In Progress. Through his work, he helps men, fathers, and families build stronger relationships through communication, emotional awareness, and intentional parenting.Support the podcast:If you enjoy these conversations, subscribe and share with someone who needs to hear this. You can also support the show by "Buying Us a Coffee":https://buymeacoffee.com/thefortiesformulaThank you to our sponsors:Love Indus:Use code TFF for 21% offhttps://loveindus.com
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Top 5 Menopause Health Risks in Women | The Forties Formula In Focus
Jun 1400:07:06Tap to summarizeMenopause changes far more than your symptoms. In this episode, lifestyle medicine doctor Dr Sundus Hussain Morgan explains the silent health risks that arrive as oestrogen falls — to your heart, your bones, your brain and your metabolism — and how women in their forties can prevent and manage them.Dr Sundus walks through the six pillars of health — nutrition, movement, sleep, stress, social connection and reducing harmful substances — with practical guidance on eating for menopause: a whole-food, plant-based diet rich in calcium, vitamin D, fibre and phytoestrogens. She clears up the common myths around phytoestrogens and perimenopause weight gain, and explains why strength training becomes non-negotiable in this decade.CHAPTERS:00:00 Understanding Menopause and Its Risks01:57 The Six Pillars of Health07:01 Nutrition: Key Components for Women in Their 40s07:06 The Importance of Strength TrainingIf your health concerns have ever been dismissed by a doctor, here's what to do next 👉 https://thefortiesformula.com/scriptWant to start making changes today? Download our free ebook to begin building healthier lifestyle habits 👉 https://thefortiesformula.com/free-e-books⏱️ Get tested. Eat for your bones and heart. Train for strength. Small lifestyle changes in your forties decide how you age for the next forty years.🎙️ The Forties Formula — health, hormones and real talk for women in their 40s Hosted by Amanda Lim & JasminConnect with us Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefortiesformula/ Amanda: https://www.instagram.com/coachamandalim/ Jasmin: https://www.instagram.com/eat.with.jasmin/Our guest — Dr Sundus Hussain Morgan Profile: https://www.imc-healthcare.com/doctors/dr-sundus-hussain-morgan/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifestyledocsingapore/menopause, menopause symptoms, perimenopause, perimenopause weight gain, menopause and heart health, menopause bone health, menopause brain health, menopause metabolic health, lifestyle medicine, six pillars of health, how to lose weight in perimenopause, perimenopause diet, eating for menopause, menopause wellness, menopause support, menopause signs, stages of perimenopause, estrogen decline, women's health over 40, women in their forties, strength training menopause, phytoestrogens, calcium vitamin D bone health, menopause anxiety, Dr Sundus Hussain Morgan, lifestyle doctor Singapore, The Forties Formula
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