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The Forties Formula
Hosted by Amanda Lim & Jasmin Dhillon · EN
Welcome to The Forties Formula — an award-winning podcast named Best Health & Wellness Podcast in Asia 2025, Podcast of Impact at The Makers & Shapers Awards 2026 and proudly featured by CNA as one of Singapore’s best podcasts for women.
We blend science, soul, and a little bit of sass to help you thrive in your forties and beyond.
Meet your hosts:
Jasmin Dhillon — health strategist at Eat with Jasmin, mum of three boys, and forever curious about what it really takes to feel good in this season of life.
Amanda Lim — metabolic health coach, director at LIFT Clinic, and mom to three littles, here to help you ditch the fluff and get real about kicking a*s in your forties.
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Podiatrist Reveals Why Menopause Is Wrecking Your Feet | The Forties Formula
2d ago00:56:29Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Forties Formula, Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda Lim are joined by podiatrist Paul Macaulay to explore one of the most overlooked aspects of women's health: foot health in midlife.From pregnancy and perimenopause to years of wearing the wrong shoes, our feet go through enormous changes that can affect everything from plantar fasciitis and bunions to knee pain, hip pain, back pain, balance, and long-term mobility.Paul explains why most women are wearing the wrong shoe size, how hormones change our tendons and ligaments, why "comfortable" shoes aren't always the healthiest choice, and the simple changes that can dramatically improve foot health for decades to come.Chapters: 00:00 | Why Women Ignore Foot Pain for Too Long00:57 | Why Your Feet Affect Your Whole Body03:12 | Why Women Keep Buying the Wrong Shoes05:26 | The Biggest Mistake People Make When Buying Running Shoes06:40 | Finding the Right Shoe for Your Foot Type08:21 | The Shoe Sizing Mistake Most Women Make10:29 | How Pregnancy Permanently Changes Your Feet12:27 | Why You May Need Different Shoes After Pregnancy14:45 | Have Fashion Choices Damaged Our Feet?16:18 | The Smarter Way to Wear Heels18:00 | How Perimenopause Changes Your Feet20:40 | The Most Common Foot Problems After 4022:03 | How Many Pairs of Shoes Do You Actually Need?24:26 | Barefoot Shoes: Helpful or Harmful?26:43 | The Best Exercises for Stronger Feet31:17 | Why Strong Calves Matter More Than You Think31:45 | Can Your Feet Cause Knee, Hip & Back Pain?33:51 | Do Orthotics Really Work?36:16 | Are There Any Stylish Heels That Are Actually Good?39:03 | The Shoe Brand Paul Macaulay Recommends42:42 | Do Reflexology & Foot Soaks Actually Help?45:13 | The Best Foot Care Routine for Healthy Feet48:41 | Do Toe Spacers Actually Work?50:16 | The Best Strength Exercises to Prevent Foot Pain54:04 | Paul's Forties Formula55:04 | Final ThoughtsAbout our guestPaul Macaulay is a podiatrist specialising in foot pain, biomechanics, running injuries and lower-limb rehabilitation. Through his clinic and educational content, he helps people understand how better footwear, stronger feet, and smarter movement can improve long-term mobility, performance and quality of life.About your hostsJasmin Dhillon is an Integrated Health Strategist and Health Coach helping women in their 40s navigate gut health, hormones and nutrition.https://www.instagram.com/eat.with.jasmin/Amanda Lim is a Metabolic Health Coach focused on helping women build strength, confidence and long-term health.https://www.instagram.com/coachamanda/Support the podcastIf you enjoy these conversations, subscribe and share this episode with someone dealing with foot pain, bunions, plantar fasciitis, or anyone who wants to stay active and mobile through midlife.You can also support the show by Buying Us a Coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/thefortiesformula
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When Your Husband Doesn't Understand Your Pain | The Forties Formula in Focus
5d ago00:09:05Tap to summarizehttps://youtu.be/qNEVAR_R4VY This episode is for every woman who has ever felt like motherhood changed her more than she expected. And for anyone trying to understand why so many mothers are struggling silently behind the scenes. Because maybe the problem isn’t that women are failing motherhood. Maybe the expectations were impossible to begin with. We talk about: • Why motherhood can feel emotionally overwhelming even when you “wanted this” • What matrescence actually means; and why more women are finally talking about it • The invisible identity shift that happens after having children • Why so many women feel isolated after birth • The pressure to “bounce back” and why it’s harming mothers
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Divorce Expert: Why Smart Women Stay With Narcissists | The Forties Formula
1w ago00:45:08Tap to summarizeWhat happens when you wake up one day and realise you've lost yourself inside your relationship?In this deeply honest conversation, Amanda Lim and Jasmin Dhillon sit down with registered psychotherapist & integrated sex & relationship therapist, Cheryl Kennedy McDonald to unpack the invisible process of identity loss in long-term relationships. From self-concept erosion and trauma bonds to gaslighting, narcissistic abuse and the emotional reality of divorce, this episode explores why so many women stay, how toxic relationship patterns develop, and what it truly takes to rebuild your sense of self.Cheryl explains why leaving isn't simply about willpower, how childhood experiences shape the relationships we accept, and why healing requires far more than just moving on. Whether you're navigating divorce, questioning your relationship, supporting a loved one, or simply wanting to understand the psychology behind these patterns, this conversation offers practical insights with compassion and clarity.Chapters00:00 – When you no longer recognise yourself01:03 – Meet psychotherapist Cheryl Kennedy McDonald02:38 – What is self-concept erosion?04:16 – Healthy change vs losing yourself06:38 – Healthy conflict vs toxic conflict06:50 – Why women stay in unhealthy relationships08:07 – Trauma bonds explained09:52 – What gaslighting actually looks like12:15 – How to break free from a toxic relationship14:01 – Understanding narcissistic personality disorder17:02 – Love bombing and the dopamine cycle19:44 – Co-parenting with a narcissist22:06 – Male vs female narcissists24:06 – Divorce, grief & rebuilding your identity28:10 – Learning to be comfortable alone30:42 – Healing after divorce & dating again34:23 – Can narcissists ever change?36:22 – Sponsor: Love Indus37:18 – Practical steps to rebuild your life after divorce39:07 – How relationship stress affects your body41:00 – Can a narcissist have a healthy relationship?43:22 – Cheryl's Forties Formula---About your hosts:Amanda Lim is a Metabolic Health Coach and Director at The Lift Clinic in Singapore, focused on helping women build strength and long-term metabolic health.Jasmin Dhillon is an Integrated Health Strategist helping women in their 40s manage health through lifestyle interventions across gut health, hormones and nutrition.Instagram: [https://www.instagram.com/thefortiesformula/](https://www.instagram.com/thefortiesformula/)Thank you to our sponsors:For Youth | Use code TF35 for up to 35% off storewide → (http://www.foryouth.co/go/the-forties-formula-system)Cozy Earth | Use code TFF for up to 31% off → (https://cozyearth.com)Love Indus | Use code TFF for 21% off → https://loveindus.com(https://loveindus.com)Subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts.Buy us a coffee: [https://buymeacoffee.com/thefortiesformula](https://buymeacoffee.com/thefortiesformula)
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How social media is shaping self-worth and identity | The Forties Formula in Focus
2w ago00:07:38Tap to summarizeIf you’re raising a daughter, working with young people, or simply trying to understand the pressures girls face today, this episode will shift how you see it all.This episode explores the significant impact of social dynamics and group dynamics on girls during adolescence. We discuss how peer relationships carry immense emotional weight and how social influence shapes teen behavior. Understanding these relationships is crucial for supporting healthy identity development in young women.We have covered:The subtle signs your daughter may be struggling (that are easy to miss)Why puberty is starting earlier and what it meansThe role of hormones in mood, sleep and behaviourHow social media is shaping self-worth and identityWhy friendships matter more than you realiseThe truth about body image in young girls todayHow parents can build connection before adolescence hitsWhat actually helps girls feel confident, seen and supported
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This is The Biggest Mistake Women Make With GLP-1 For Weight Loss - Are You Doing This?
2w ago00:59:50Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Forties Formula, Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda Lim are joined by obesity medicine physician Dr. Christle Gueverra to unpack one of the most polarising topics in women's health today: GLP-1 medications.Are drugs like Ozempic, Wegovy and Mounjaro simply "weight loss injections" or are they finally treating a biological problem that millions of women have been blamed for their entire lives?Drawing from both her medical expertise and her own personal experience using GLP-1 therapy, Dr. Christle explains why so many women in their 40s suddenly struggle with weight, appetite and metabolic health. Together, they explore what these medications actually do inside the brain and body, who they're appropriate for, the risks and side effects to understand, and why medication is only one part of the long-term solution.Most importantly, this conversation shifts the narrative away from shame and willpower, helping women understand that obesity is a chronic medical condition, not a personal failure.In this episode, we discuss:• Why GLP-1 medications have become one of the biggest breakthroughs in obesity treatment• Why weight gain in your 40s isn't simply about eating less and exercising more• How hormones, hunger signals and the brain influence appetite and body weight• Dr. Christle’s personal experience using GLP-1 medication as a physician• The difference between Ozempic, Wegovy, Mounjaro and other GLP-1 medications• Common side effects and how to minimise them safely• Why preserving muscle mass is critical while losing weight• Protein, resistance training and nutrition strategies that support healthy fat loss• Why obesity should be treated as a chronic disease rather than a character flaw• How to build sustainable habits that last beyond medicationChapters00:00 | Why Are So Many Women Turning to GLP-1 Medications?01:42 | Meet Dr. Christle Gueverra02:34 | Why Weight Isn't Just About Willpower05:18 | Dr. Christle's Personal GLP-1 Journey08:14 | How GLP-1 Medications Actually Work12:06 | Who Is (And Isn't) A Good Candidate?16:15 | Common Side Effects & What To Expect21:10 | Why Protein Matters More Than Ever24:48 | The Biggest Mistakes Women Make On GLP-1s29:30 | Strength Training While Losing Weight34:15 | Can You Stop Taking GLP-1 Medication?38:52 | Obesity, Shame & Changing The Conversation43:18 | Long-Term Success Beyond The Medication47:36 | Dr. Christle's Forties Formula49:12 | Final ThoughtsAbout our guest:Dr. Christle Gueverra is an obesity medicine physician dedicated to helping people improve their metabolic health through evidence-based medicine and sustainable lifestyle change. Drawing from both her clinical expertise and personal experience, she helps patients navigate obesity as a chronic disease, understand the role of GLP-1 medications, and build long-term strategies for healthier living, free from shame, stigma and misinformation.About your hosts:Jasmin Dhillon is an Integrated Health Strategist and Health Coach helping women in their 40s navigate gut health, hormones and nutrition.Amanda Lim is a Metabolic Health Coach focused on helping women build strength, confidence and long-term health.Support the podcast:If you enjoy these conversations, subscribe and share this episode with someone who's considering GLP-1 medication, struggling with midlife weight gain, or looking to better understand metabolic health.You can also support the show by Buying Us a Coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/thefortiesformula
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The Real Reason You Can't Be Yourself | The Forties Formula in Focus
3w ago00:06:37Tap to summarizeThis episode explores the challenges of maintaining a rigid self-image and how it impacts our emotional resilience. We discuss the importance of cultivating self awareness and recognizing that true self-worth comes from within. Ultimately, finding inner peace requires letting go of inflexible self-perceptions, encouraging personal growth and valuable life lessons. 💛
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Why PCOS Gets Worse During Perimenopause - Doctor Explains!
3w ago00:49:35Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Forties Formula, Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda Lim are joined by women's health physician Dr. Sital Khistriya to unpack one of the biggest changes in women's health in decades: the proposed renaming of PCOS to PMOS (Poly-Endocrine Metabolic Ovarian Syndrome).Why does this matter? Because experts now believe we've been treating PCOS as an ovarian condition when it's actually a lifelong metabolic disorder driven primarily by insulin resistance. This shift has huge implications for diagnosis, fertility, pregnancy, perimenopause, menopause, cardiovascular health, and how millions of women are treated around the world.Chapters00:00 | Have We Been Misunderstanding PCOS All Along?01:48 | Why Experts Want to Rename PCOS to PMOS03:01 | What PMOS Really Means (And Why Ovarian Cysts Aren't the Problem)04:25 | How PCOS Got Its Name04:33 | How PMOS Is Diagnosed05:51 | Can You Have PMOS Without Ovarian Cysts?07:04 | Can PMOS Develop Later in Life?08:22 | The Overlooked Symptoms Most Women Don't Know About09:41 | What Parents Should Watch for in Teenage Girls12:20 | Birth Control: Treatment or Band-Aid?16:03 | PMOS, Fertility & Trying to Conceive17:27 | Lifestyle Changes That Improve Fertility18:16 | The Best Diet for Insulin Resistance19:35 | Metformin, GLP-1s & Modern Treatment Options20:55 | What Happens If PMOS Goes Undiagnosed Until Your 40s?23:17 | Why PMOS Still Matters After You've Had Children25:06 | How PMOS Differs Across Ethnicities27:28 | The Hidden Signs of Insulin Resistance30:35 | Does PMOS End After Menopause?31:15 | Why Perimenopause Can Make PMOS Worse32:53 | Why Strength Training Improves Insulin Resistance34:58 | Changing Women's Mindset Around Muscle39:25 | Will the PMOS Name Change Improve Treatment?41:00 | Should It Have Been Named Something Else?42:54 | Hot or Hype? Keto, Metformin, Inositol & Ovulation Tests47:26 | Dr. Sital’s Forties Formula48:12 | Final ThoughtsAbout our guest:Dr. Sital Khistryia is a women's health physician with a special interest in hormones, metabolic health, perimenopause and preventive medicine. She helps women better understand the connection between insulin resistance, reproductive health and long-term wellbeing.About your hosts:Jasmin Dhillon is an Integrated Health Strategist and Health Coach helping women in their 40s navigate gut health, hormones and nutrition.https://www.instagram.com/eat.with.jasmin/Amanda Lim is a Metabolic Health Coach focused on helping women build strength, confidence and long-term health.https://www.instagram.com/coachamanda/Support the podcast:If you enjoy these conversations, subscribe and share this episode with someone living with PCOS, insulin resistance, fertility concerns, or navigating perimenopause.You can also support the show by Buying Us a Coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/thefortiesformula
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Diet Culture Is Racism, and Nobody's Talking About It | The Forties Formula in Focus
4w ago00:08:29Tap to summarizeThe discussion about diet culture and the weight loss industry highlights its pervasive influence as a multi-billion dollar business, often shaping our "social norms." We explore how this "diet trend" can contribute to harmful "eating disorders" and impact our relationship with "food culture." This conversation emphasizes the deep societal embedding of these ideas.Hosted by Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda LimConnect with Amanda & Jasmin: https://www.instagram.com/thefortiesformula/Jasmin Dhillon - https://www.instagram.com/eat.with.jasminAmanda Lim - https://www.instagram.com/coachamandalim
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Why Your Marriage Stops Working In Your 40s (And What Fixes It)
Jul 800:57:30Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Forties Formula, we explore why midlife can become a turning point for relationships. We unpack how changing priorities, emotional needs, resentment, intimacy, communication, motherhood, and self-worth all influence the decisions women make during this stage of life.In this episode, we discuss:• Why so many women begin questioning their relationships after 40• How perimenopause can influence emotions, identity and relationships• The hidden resentment that quietly builds over the years• Why communication, not compatibility, is often the real issue• Marriage, motherhood and the invisible mental load• Rebuilding intimacy and emotional connection• When therapy can genuinely help a relationship• Dating after 40 and whether "having standards" has gone too far• The biggest relationship red flags to watch for in midlife• Why choosing yourself doesn't always mean leaving your relationship---Chapters:00:00 | Why Women Suddenly Question Their Relationships After 4002:45 | What Changes in Your 40s? Identity, Priorities & Self-Worth05:03 | Why Many Women Stay Single Rather Than Settle08:05 | Do Women Become "Too Picky" or Simply More Self-Aware?10:03 | Relationship Patterns That Keep Repeating12:31 | Marriage, Children & The Pressure of Timelines14:26 | Divorce Rates, Expectations & Modern Relationships16:16 | Sex, Intimacy & Changing Needs in Midlife20:03 | Why Communication Is the Foundation of Every Relationship21:50 | When Individual or Couples Therapy Can Help25:01 | Healing Sexual Wounds & Reconnecting With Yourself30:02 | Why Self-Discovery Can Transform Your Relationship35:04 | Self-Love vs Selfishness: Knowing the Difference40:00 | Everyday Partnership, Respect & Sharing the Mental Load45:02 | Dating After 40: Looking Beyond First Impressions50:03 | Dating Apps in Your 40s — Hype or Helpful?51:23 | Fear of Loneliness & Settling for the Wrong Partner55:06 | Time Pressure, Midlife & Making Better Relationship Decisions58:30 | Final Thoughts: Building Relationships That Truly LastAbout your hosts:Jasmin Dhillon is an Integrated Health Strategist and Health Coach helping women in their 40s navigate gut health, hormones and nutrition.https://www.instagram.com/eat.with.jasmin/Amanda Lim is a Metabolic Health Coach focused on helping women build strength, confidence and long-term health.https://www.instagram.com/coachamanda/Support the podcast:If you enjoy these conversations, subscribe and share this episode with someone who may be questioning their relationship, navigating midlife changes, or looking for a healthier, happier future.You can also support the show by Buying Us a Coffee:https://buymeacoffee.com/thefortiesformulaThank you to our sponsors:Love IndusUse code TFF for 21% offhttps://loveindus.com
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This Parenting Mistake Could Cost You and What You Can Do To Have A Strong Relationship
Jul 500:08:39Tap to summarizesummary In this clip of The Forties Formula, Amanda and Jasmin explore the nuances of conscious parenting, emotional regulation, and repairing family relationships. They share personal stories, challenge stereotypes, and offer practical insights for mindful parenting and self-compassion. conscious parenting, emotional regulation, repair relationships, tiger mom, self-compassion, family dynamics, parenting tips Is gentle parenting just letting your kids do whatever they want? A parenting educator explains why conscious parenting still needs a hierarchy — and why apologising to your children when you get it wrong builds more trust than never getting it wrong at all. Parenting educator Cornelia Dahinten and self professed Tiger Mon Annabel Chew break down what conscious parenting actually means: not permissiveness, but a deliberate awareness of your own triggers, your rules, and your emotional responses. Jasmin shares a real example of losing her temper with her son and having to repair it the next day — and the conversation moves into rupture and repair, the idea that how you fix a conflict with your child matters more than avoiding conflict altogether. Watch the full episode for the complete conversation on Asian vs Western parenting stereotypes, tiger parenting, and raising confident kids: https://youtu.be/4Qf7Wj5cbZU Chapters 00:00 Cultural Collision: Asian vs. Western Parenting 00:57 Conscious Parenting: Balancing Authority and Understanding 04:38 The Concept of Repair in Parenting 08:39 Tiger Mom: Expectations vs. Reality Resources The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0013AX4A4 Rupture and Repair in Relationships - Article - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/201911/rupture-and-repair-in-relationships Amanda & Jasmin's Podcast - https://thefortiesformula.com conscious parenting, gentle parenting, parenting styles, how to apologize to your child, rupture and repair, parenting guilt, boundaries for kids, emotionally healthy parenting, daniel siegel parenting, calm parenting strategies, parenting mistakes, parenting advice, mum guilt, tiger parenting, authoritative parenting, parenting styles, respect in parenting, validating children's feelings
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