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The Playbook
Hosted by Amanda Carroll · EN
Welcome to The Playbook — the no-BS podcast for successful women who are done wasting time on situationships, unavailable men, and “good on paper” guys who leave you bored out of your mind. If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe I’m too much, maybe there aren’t any good men left, maybe I should just settle…” — girl, stop lying to yourself. You’re not too much. He’s just not enough.
This season, we’re blowing up the old dating rules. No more waiting to be chosen. No more outsourcing your love life to matchmakers. No more pretending “fine” is good enough. High-value women don’t need a provider. We need a partner. And I’m giving you the exact playbook to attract one. Every week, I’ll drop savage truth bombs, scandalous stories, and the strategies that will get you into a committed, passionate, high-value relationship in 5 dates or less. Period. This is raw. This is real. This is where you stop auditioning and start doing the choosing.
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MAGA Men Don’t Make the Cut | The No Access Play
Jan 2700:27:42Tap to summarizeThere are moments when the world makes something very clear. This is one of them. In this episode of The High Value Woman Playbook, Amanda Carroll runs The No Access Play—a new standard for modern dating and relationships. This episode isn’t about debating politics or being “open-minded” at your own expense. It’s about access—who gets it, who doesn’t, and why removing access to your body, time, money, and emotional energy is one of the most powerful tools women have right now. Amanda breaks down why:• Who you date is political• Who you sleep with is political• Where you spend your money is political …and why high-value women no longer give access to men who don’t protect bodily autonomy, human rights, or equality. In this episode, you’ll learn:• How to spot unsafe men early—before emotional or sexual investment• Why silence, dismissal, and “both sides” thinking are disqualifiers• How women actually hold power through sex, money, and access• Why MAGA men don’t make the cut• How to vet men without arguing, debating, or revealing your views• What a truly healthy, egalitarian partner looks like.Amanda also shares her personal story of surviving an abusive marriage, religious indoctrination, and financial control—and how that experience shaped the framework she now teaches women to help them choose safe, aligned partners. Featured Resource Amanda introduces her new mini course, The 4 Keys to a Healthy Partner, designed to help you:• Identify safe men• Spot empathy and emotional maturity• Avoid abusive or controlling relationships• Choose better partners—on purpose 🎧 Podcast listeners get 50% offGET THE MINI COURSE HERE: USE COUPON CODE KEYSIf you’re done guessing…If you’re done wasting time on the wrong men…This episode will change how you date. Follow the show, subscribe, and leave a review to help this message reach more women. The goal isn’t to change men. It’s to choose better ones—on purpose. Let’s run the play.✨ FREE DOWNLOAD The 4 Questions to Ask a Man to Know If He’s High-Value ✨These are the exact questions my clients use to weed out liars, avoid time-wasters, and quickly identify emotionally available men — in the DMs, on FaceTime, or on the first date. Grab it. It’ll change everything.❤️ Ready to stop chasing chaos and start attracting calm, committed love?Book your free Dating Strategy Call with Amanda Carroll.👉 Follow Amanda on Instagram @theamandacarroll for daily high-value woman mindset and dating tips
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How to Create a Dating Profile That Attracts High-Value Men | The Standard of Excellence Play
Jan 1300:26:09Tap to summarizeThe biggest lie you’ve been told about dating is that wanting more is asking for too much. In reality, wanting more is exactly how you attract better. In this episode of The High Value Woman Playbook, Amanda Carroll walks you step-by-step through how to create a dating app profile that attracts high-value men—men who are emotionally available, intentional, and ready for a real partnership. This is the play Amanda is calling for 2026:Set the Standard of Excellence. Inside this episode, you’ll learn:Why wanting more in dating is not a flaw, but a signalHow your dating profile quietly communicates your standardThe three non-negotiable jobs of a dating profile that attracts high-value menWhat to remove from your profile if you’re attracting vague or low-effort menHow to protect your time and emotional energy before the first date ever happensThis episode is equal parts permission and strategy—designed to help you stop shrinking, stop settling, and start dating in a way that reflects who you truly are. 🎁 Free Training:Watch Amanda’s instant-watch mini course Magnetic Attraction, where she shows you exactly how to set up a dating profile that repels low-value men and attracts high-value partners naturally.💎 Ready for hands-on support?Applications are open for Love Accelerator, Amanda’s done-with-you dating program where she helps you choose and attract a high-value partner with clarity, confidence, and excellence.👉 Apply here if you’re done negotiating your standards and ready to date with clarity and confidence.✨ FREE DOWNLOAD The 4 Questions to Ask a Man to Know If He’s High-Value ✨These are the exact questions my clients use to weed out liars, avoid time-wasters, and quickly identify emotionally available men — in the DMs, on FaceTime, or on the first date. Grab it. It’ll change everything.❤️ Ready to stop chasing chaos and start attracting calm, committed love?Book your free Dating Strategy Call with Amanda Carroll.👉 Follow Amanda on Instagram @theamandacarroll for daily high-value woman mindset and dating tips
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Dating Apps Aren’t Ruining Your Love Life — Waiting Is | Enter The Arena Play
Dec 2300:29:19Tap to summarizeMost women think dating apps are the problem. They’re wrong. In this episode, Amanda Carroll explains why waiting — not dating apps — is what quietly destroys your chances of finding a high-value partner. If you’re telling yourself “I’ll start dating in the new year”, you’re about to miss the most powerful dating window of the entire year: cuffing season — the period between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day when people are more emotionally available, more reflective, and more open to real commitment. Amanda breaks down:Why women don’t fail at dating — they miss the timingThe psychology behind cuffing season and why it changes male behaviorThe exact “Enter the Arena” play high-value women run when opportunity opensHow to set up a dating profile that attracts commitment (and repels clowns)Why waiting for “perfect conditions” keeps women single longerThis episode is for high-value women who are done waiting to be chosen — and ready to start choosing. 🎯 Free Resources MentionedDating Profile Cheat SheetLive Training: Magnetic Attraction (Replay Available)✨ FREE DOWNLOAD The 4 Questions to Ask a Man to Know If He’s High-Value ✨These are the exact questions my clients use to weed out liars, avoid time-wasters, and quickly identify emotionally available men — in the DMs, on FaceTime, or on the first date. Grab it. It’ll change everything.❤️ Ready to stop chasing chaos and start attracting calm, committed love?Book your free Dating Strategy Call with Amanda Carroll.👉 Follow Amanda on Instagram @theamandacarroll for daily high-value woman mindset and dating tips
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Why Waiting Quietly Ruins Your Life | The Forward Motion Play
Dec 1600:20:00Tap to summarizeWaiting doesn’t look reckless.It looks responsible. Mature. Sensible. And that’s exactly why it’s so dangerous. In this episode of The High Value Woman Playbook, Amanda Carroll breaks down The Forward Motion Play—the quiet truth about how capable, successful women lose years of their lives without realizing it. This conversation is for the woman who:Has built a full life on paperHas done the inner workHas told herself she’s “being intentional”And feels a growing awareness that something important is being postponedAmanda explains why clarity doesn’t come from waiting, why healing doesn’t happen in stillness, and how high-value women create momentum without chaos, pressure, or impulsive decisions. You’ll learn:Why waiting feels wise—but quietly erodes your futureHow forward motion rebuilds confidence and self-trustWhat “1% more brave” actually looks like in dating, career, body, and wealthHow to move your life forward without blowing it upThis episode blends strategy, humor, and honest coaching to help you stop circling decisions and start choosing yourself—calmly, clearly, and with intention. 🎯 Resources mentioned in this episode:Download the Dating Profile Cheat SheetBook a Dating Strategy Call for clarity and next stepsStop waiting.Run the play.✨ FREE DOWNLOAD The 4 Questions to Ask a Man to Know If He’s High-Value ✨These are the exact questions my clients use to weed out liars, avoid time-wasters, and quickly identify emotionally available men — in the DMs, on FaceTime, or on the first date. Grab it. It’ll change everything.❤️ Ready to stop chasing chaos and start attracting calm, committed love?Book your free Dating Strategy Call with Amanda Carroll.👉 Follow Amanda on Instagram @theamandacarroll for daily high-value woman mindset and dating tips
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How Hannah Found Healthy Love After a Narcissistic Marriage: A 60-Day Transformation Story
Dec 900:33:48Tap to summarizeAfter six years alone and eight kids depending on her, Hannah wasn’t sure she would ever trust herself in love again.Leaving a narcissistic marriage had taken everything out of her — her confidence, her hope, and her belief in healthy men. In this powerful episode, Hannah shares her journey from survival mode to safe, emotionally healthy love… all within 60 days of learning a new way to date. Inside the episode, you’ll hear:💛 What it’s really like to rebuild after a narcissistic relationship💛 The fears that keep high-value women single longer than they want💛 The mindset shift that helped her finally trust herself again💛 How she stopped attracting love-bombers + emotionally unavailable men💛 The exact dating strategy she implemented that changed everything💛 The moment she knew her new partner was different💛 What healthy, emotionally available love ACTUALLY feels like Hannah’s story is proof that: ✨ You’re not broken✨ It’s not too late✨ And your next chapter can be the best one If you’re a single mom, a high-achieving woman, or someone healing from past relationships… this episode will show you what’s possible when you date with clarity, confidence, and self-worth.✨ FREE DOWNLOAD The 4 Questions to Ask a Man to Know If He’s High-Value ✨These are the exact questions my clients use to weed out liars, avoid time-wasters, and quickly identify emotionally available men — in the DMs, on FaceTime, or on the first date. Grab it. It’ll change everything.❤️ Ready to stop chasing chaos and start attracting calm, committed love?Book your free Dating Strategy Call with Amanda Carroll.👉 Follow Amanda on Instagram @theamandacarroll for daily high-value woman mindset and dating tips
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The Real Reason You’re Afraid to Date Again — And How to Fix It Today.
Dec 200:22:22Tap to summarizeIf the thought of dating again makes your stomach drop, this episode is exactly what you’ve been needing. Listen, you’re not broken.You’re not “too picky.”And you’re definitely not imagining it. There is a real, psychological reason why dating feels scary for you — and once you understand it, everything changes. In this episode, I’m walking you step-by-step through: 💛 The REAL reason you freeze, shut down, or pull away when a good man appears💛 Why your nervous system equates dating with danger (even when you consciously want love)💛 How past relationships trained you to expect chaos instead of safety💛 Why high-achieving women struggle the most with vulnerability💛 The four fears women shared with me TODAY that you’re probably silently carrying too💛 How to reset your “picker” so you STOP choosing emotionally unavailable men💛 How to date without fear, panic, or self-sabotage — starting today This episode is not about tips. It’s about freedom. I’m going to help you understand your patterns with compassion, break the connection between love and fear, and give you a clear plan for moving forward — so you finally feel safe letting love into your life again. ✨ FREE DOWNLOAD The 4 Questions to Ask a Man to Know If He’s High-Value ✨These are the exact questions my clients use to weed out liars, avoid time-wasters, and quickly identify emotionally available men — in the DMs, on FaceTime, or on the first date. Grab it. It’ll change everything.❤️ Ready to stop chasing chaos and start attracting calm, committed love?Book your free Dating Strategy Call with Amanda Carroll.👉 Follow Amanda on Instagram @theamandacarroll for daily high-value woman mindset and dating tips
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Why You Keep Choosing the Wrong Men (and How to Build Reciprocal Love That Lasts)
Nov 1200:28:41Tap to summarizeHigh-achieving and still feeling lost in love? In this episode, Amanda Carroll unpacks why smart, successful women keep choosing the wrong men—and how to break the cycle fast. You’ll learn how the “sex & status” blueprint conditions you to confuse adrenaline with chemistry, why your nervous system panics around healthy men, and the exact steps to rewire attraction toward reciprocal love—a partnership built on safety, respect, and mutual growth. In this episode, you’ll learn:The real reason you’re drawn to emotionally unavailable men (it’s not your fault)How “sex and status” trains your body to chase chaos over connectionWhat Reciprocal Love is—and how to recognize it on date oneThe 6 Roots of Real Love to spot in a healthy partnerA simple nervous-system strategy to make peace feel like passion✨ FREE DOWNLOAD The 4 Questions to Ask a Man to Know If He’s High-Value ✨These are the exact questions my clients use to weed out liars, avoid time-wasters, and quickly identify emotionally available men — in the DMs, on FaceTime, or on the first date. Grab it. It’ll change everything.❤️ Ready to stop chasing chaos and start attracting calm, committed love?Book your free Dating Strategy Call with Amanda Carroll.👉 Follow Amanda on Instagram @theamandacarroll for daily high-value woman mindset and dating tips
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Charlie Kirk Said Taylor Swift Should Submit—Here’s Why That Belief Breaks Relationships
Sep 1600:36:28Tap to summarizeI want to be clear: I am heartbroken that Charlie Kirk was murdered. My heart breaks for his wife, for his two young children, and for everyone affected by this tragedy.But I also want to be clear about something else: he should not be made a Christian martyr. Charlie Kirk built a platform that promoted racism, misogyny, and a relationship model that has harmed generations of women—telling us our highest calling is to stay home, have babies, and submit to our husbands. He even said Taylor Swift should “submit to her husband.” I said: Absolutely not. In this episode, I’m breaking down the real damage of patriarchal relationships—for women, for men, and for everyone. I know the cost because I paid it. I was the stay-at-home, Proverbs 31 wife. And it didn’t protect me. It broke me. Now I’m calling out the systems that keep women silent, broke, and stuck—and I’m giving you the tools to break free.SHOW NOTESFree Downloads:Get it Here: 10 Questions to Find an Emotionally Equal PartnerDownload your free guide: The High Value Woman’s Guide to DatingWant a high-value relationship without playing small? Let’s build your plan.📞 Book your free Dating Strategy Call with Amanda todayDM Amanda:Want the checklist sent straight to you? Message me on Instagram @therealamandacarroll with the word FILTER. Share This Episode:If you're done with toxic takes on love, share this with a woman who needs to hear the truth.✨ FREE DOWNLOAD The 4 Questions to Ask a Man to Know If He’s High-Value ✨These are the exact questions my clients use to weed out liars, avoid time-wasters, and quickly identify emotionally available men — in the DMs, on FaceTime, or on the first date. Grab it. It’ll change everything.❤️ Ready to stop chasing chaos and start attracting calm, committed love?Book your free Dating Strategy Call with Amanda Carroll.👉 Follow Amanda on Instagram @theamandacarroll for daily high-value woman mindset and dating tips
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#6 Learn Kaizen
Apr 26, 2022Tap to summarizeImagine a world where waking up everyday didn't feel like a daunting chore, rather an absolute joy! I can teach you how to feel that way. The secret to not getting overwhelmed by the uphill climb you are facing to change your life is to approach your metamorphosis by the way the Japanese culture approaches business. This podcast will teach you how to use "Kaizen" to get the life that you dream about. Mine started with a simple little wagon ride.The best strategy to help you silence fear in your life, is to actually have a strategy! Don't have one? I got you! Download my free BRAVE LIFE PLANNER. It includes my morning "Boot Up Your Bravery" routine, and the daily brave planner, PLUS a video that shows you how to use it so you too can #GetYourBraveOn. Get your FREE gift here YOU are my "why". My mission is to give you the strategies you need to silence fear and #GetYourBraveOn. Let's connect!Call me and tell me how God is using this podcast in your life at 530-4-AMANDALet's connect on socials! Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok Support the showGet your FREE GIFT! MY Free Brave Life System. A free morning boot up plan to experience God's presence every morning and my free brave life daily planner to help you stay on target and keep that BRAVE BABE Energy every day!Follow Amanda Carroll on Instagram Follow Amanda Carroll on Tik TokFollow Amanda Carroll on FacebookJoin the "Brave Babe" Private Facebook GroupFollow the Brave Podcast Network with more shows to help you live a strong and courageous life!How has God used this podcast in your life? Please share it with me! CALL MY HOTLINE! I will pickup! 530-4-AMANDA✨ FREE DOWNLOAD The 4 Questions to Ask a Man to Know If He’s High-Value ✨These are the exact questions my clients use to weed out liars, avoid time-wasters, and quickly identify emotionally available men — in the DMs, on FaceTime, or on the first date. Grab it. It’ll change everything.❤️ Ready to stop chasing chaos and start attracting calm, committed love?Book your free Dating Strategy Call with Amanda Carroll.👉 Follow Amanda on Instagram @theamandacarroll for daily high-value woman mindset and dating tips
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