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The Real Reason Most People Never Start (It's Not Discipline)
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
I could have said, I'm a PhD student with three foster kids. I'll save the becoming a professional author till after I finish the PhD. But if you just wake up and do it for like even 30 minutes, as you said, most people, they haven't been trained to think very well about their future self because they don't think very successfully about their future self. Their future self just becomes a continuation of their past self. It is worth the climb. It will. It will rip you to shreds. The future self, it's worth stretching into. It really humbles you. No, dude, dude, dude. This is. This is incredible. I'm excited to have a conversation with you. Excited to just be with you, man. I mean, I just love your. Where you're at and what you. What you're doing, man. It's huge.
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Tommy Mello
It's gonna be fun digging into your story. I mean, I quote your books all the time. I know. Billy Klein's a big fan too. He's a good buddy of mine.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Billy is a dog, dude. He's one of our scalers. He's in Scaling Dot Com. He's. And he's doubled his business already since being a member in scaling.com. so he will get him to 10x. Don't you, don't you worry. He's a good guy. I like Billy a lot.
- [01:04]
Tommy Mello
Yeah, you got to get rid of the old methodology and make it simple and scalable. Right. And I always say who, not how. I mean, it's become like a. A metaphor slash verb at this company is like, I hate to say I like the top grade, but I do because I think it's okay to say I'm going to free this person up to go win and enjoy what they do and different seasons of business. I mean, right now we're. We're running about 25,000 clients a month. And I recently interviewed Mark Winters, who wrote Rocket Fuel with Gino Wickman. And we were just talking about the difference between visionaries and integrators. And, you know, I still gotta. I still feel like we're in the first inning. My vision is just. We have so much uncharted territory to drive leads. We got 70 technicians coming in next month and 90 coming in the following month. Train from scratch. So we're just starting to hit that, that hockey stick curve. But I gotta tell you, if you don't fall in love with the process and the journey, the destination is not what it's about. People think, man, once I get there, once I get the fame, once I get the money, it shouldn't change who you are. It should just pull out the best in you. Or for some people, the worst.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
For some people what?
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Tommy Mello
For some people, the worst. You know, money just, it tends to magnify your trait. But I'm gonna do two introductions because I want this to go on both podcasts, the Home the. The Mellow Millionaire and the Home Service Expert. So I'm gonna just basically read out the same thing. Actually, I'm just gonna do an intro of both and then I'll read out some of your accolades. Then we'll just jump into questions and we'll have a good, good conversation.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Let's do it.
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Tommy Mello
All right, here we go. Welcome back to the Mellow Millionaire. Today I've got a good friend of mine. He is a genius. I'm sure most of you have probably heard of Dr. Benjamin Hardy. Known him now for several years. He is just a monster when it comes to scaling hiring. Really just, he's a scientist. I mean, seven kids, just an amazing author, amazing businessman, and just an amazing human. I think you guys are going to really enjoy this episode. All right, welcome back to the Home Service Expert. Today I got a really special guest. His name's Dr. Benjamin Hardy. He's an expert in organizational psychology with a PhD from Clemson. Co founder of scaling.com. he's written a lot of books. Willpower doesn't work. Personality isn't permanent. Be your future self now who not how the gap and the gain 10x is easier than 2x and most recently the science of scaling. He's based in Orlando, married to Lauren with seven children. He's the number one writer on Medium.com for three straight years, read by over a hundred million people. He's just a best selling author. Just an amazing guy. I've known him for a long time. His core thesis is your future self is the greatest tool you have in transforming yourself into the present. Ben, it is amazing to have you on, dude.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Tommy, come on. This is. The honor is mine, man. I'm excited to hang out with you and talk to you. You're like one of the ultimate practitioners of these ideas, man. You are like the ultimate scaler.
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Tommy Mello
Yeah. You know what I've kind of learned over the last two decades is really, racehorses wear blinders. And it's so easy for an entrepreneur to get distracted and want to pivot and want to take stuff on. And the fact is you could go open up a restaurant and be successful if you put everything you had into it. But a lot of us think we could just Kind of dabble. And as long as we're part of it, it'll work. And we get distracted. And I, I'm telling you and I'm speaking about my past self and if you just get the focus right, you make it simple. I love your message. And like I said to you before we started, I quote your books all the time. And as I was reading the Science of Scaling, I'm like, yep, yep, exactly. And dream bigger. That was the purpose of my first or my second book. Elevate is your dream's got to be massive. Your dream's got to be big enough for everybody else's dream to come true. And so why don't you just start out and tell everybody a little bit about yourself, where you're at today and what you're looking forward to.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
It's awesome. And I can't wait to. Yeah, I talked about impossible goals and focus because focus is the hardest part. As you were saying with the, with the racehorse, innovation is saying no to a thousand things. As, as Steve Jobs said. Yeah. So I mean, you already gave overly generous introduction, but live in Orlando. We have a company called scaling.com. our whole obsession is 10x in companies in 3 years or less. And that's our. That's what I've been studying for the last 10, 15 years and about. There's a lot of psychology in it, obviously, as you were mentioning, future self using a different future to shape, in this case, your company. So a 10x goal, you know, if a company's at, in your case, hundreds of millions, revenue, you know, let's just say you're at. I mean, let's just go with any company. Let's just say you're at 10 million revenue. You know, rather than. One of the big things we've distinguished lately is growth and scale. That those are just completely different games. They're different models. And so growth would be if we're at 10 million, let's get to 15. Scale would be how do we get to 100 million or, or, or a few hundred million in the next two or three years. And those are just different games. And so that's what we help people to do is we help people scale. And we're just deep in it, man. As you said, we're deep in that process and that mastery and that learning curve of just of learning that on all sizes of companies and teaching people how to do it.
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Tommy Mello
Yeah. You know, we coach about 500 companies and the common question is, how do I get the leads? And I always say, what's your profitability. And most of them are under 10%. So what I find is the wrong conversations are happening because without profit, nothing happens. You literally are three months away from bankruptcy. And so I've always said scalability should be bottom line first, and then the revenue has to grow if you're going to grow the total amount of bottom line. But I find people dabbling and I always used to walk in rooms, Ben, and I'd brag, hold my chest up, and I'd say, what's your revenue? And I'd say, we grew 120% last year. We went from 50 million to 110 or whatever it was. And little did I know that profit was the name of the game. And I think there's a fine line about revenue versus profit, profits, what you get paid on when you go to sell the company. And hopefully most people are building to sell a business or they're going to die or pass it on. Those are the only three options. What is your take on that?
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
I agree. I think, you know, so John Doerr, who wrote, you know, he wrote the book Measure what Matters, he's the one who trained Steve Jobs. You know, he trained Larry Page and those guys. He's big on. A goal properly set is halfway reached. That's, that's like a quote from his. A goal properly set is halfway reach. And the reason for that is when you set the right target, it allows you to skip all the dead ends. Right. And so I think when, when you're talking about a company, revenue is fine. You know, I mean, I think it's important to actually think in terms of 10x either with revenue or valuation. Valuation might actually be the better target because that's going to force you to reshape the company. So, yeah, I think, I think starting from, you know, and it's classic Stephen Covey, begin with the end in mind, but starting with the knowledge we're going to sell this thing, let's think in terms of maximum valuation. That's, that's what led us to actually buying the domain, scaling.com and to building a lot of the IP that we had. We weren't just building a training company. We were thinking from the beginning, okay, if we were going to sell this company in three to five years for, you know, high nine or ten figures, what, what would the positioning of this company need to be? What would the, what would it need to look like? And so that, that ultimately led us to thinking in terms of, okay, we probably should own the category. What category? Oh, like, for what we're teaching scaling. And so, yeah, when you think in terms of exiting and you think in terms of valuation, it leads to a completely different stream of decisions, and it forces you to make the right decisions now. So I couldn't agree with you more.
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Tommy Mello
I want to dive into. Obviously, I know you weren't born with a silver spoon. Your childhood was. I would say there was some instability there, and you talked about how it shaped your obsession for transformation and identity. Can you take me back a little bit of your childhood and kind of some of the things that guided you to where you're at today?
- [09:49]
Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Yeah, brother. And I always want to hear your thoughts, too, because I think that you're, like, the ultimate practitioner. So anytime I answer a question, I might want to reverse back and hear your thoughts, even though I know your people hear your thoughts. Your. Your stuff is so good. Yeah. So I'm the oldest of three. We grew up in Salt Lake City, Utah, and pretty normal experience, you know, My parents got divorced when I was 11 years old. The. The obviously divorce can really rock a kid. It. It did rocked my younger brother so much, actually, that, like, he. It really messed him up. Um, so again, I'm the oldest of three. My younger brother, who's two years younger than me, he was. He was a lot more emotionally impacted by it. I mean, I was very emotionally impacted by it, but I think I. I just kind of withdrew myself and like, went into video games and friends and snowboarding and stuff like that. He just was so impacted by it. Like, he just went deep into drugs and things like that, dropped out of high school and stuff like that. My dad ended up becoming a drug addict. And so he. You know, the divorce just rocked him. He felt like a failure. He went into deep depression, got into pretty much every drug you could think of. And. And so for. For me, you know, I'm in high school, going through junior high. In high school, my dad becomes this extreme drug addict. And, you know, I'm barely going. I'm barely getting through high school, and I barely did graduate high school. I didn't have good grades or anything like that. But I mean, you know, I, you know, obviously blessed by the hand of God, without question, you know, protected. But one of the things that really helped me was that idea of future self. So if you've ever read Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl, obviously, again.
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Tommy Mello
Yeah, it's a great book.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Yeah, it's an. It's a very extreme story, man, of someone who has everything taken away from them. If you Think about the Jewish people. And he was very clear in that book that the only way to have meaning in the present is to be, is to actually have a goal worth striving for. You know, he says it's a peculiarity of man that he can only live by looking to the future. And he says that, you know, basically the only way that people in the concentration camps could. Could maintain sanity, let alone hope, was to actually have a goal for their life beyond the. Beyond the concentration camps. He didn't have the language we have today about future self and about, you know, how I think about our own future as an idea is what gives our life meaning. But that's pretty much what he said. And I was the same. For me, it was more along the lines of actually serving a mission for my church. Like, so, like, you know, often people do that at like, age 20 years old. And so for me, like, I have all this chaos going on in my world and pretty much nothing made sense. I mean, I could have easily just given up on my life, but I had that North Star or that future self which was, you know, get on that mission. And if I. I just felt like for some reason, if I got on that mission, I'd be able to figure it out after that. And so because I had that future self, it's really strange, but I was able to navigate the present. Like, and I think that this is true of companies. Like, if, If a company has this big vision, they can navigate a lot of chaos in the present and they can, you know, they can. They can turn it into fuel, they can reorganize it. And so for me, yeah, I was just able to get on that mission. And then that was a transformative experience. You know, a lot of community service, just serving, teaching people, helping people get closer to God. And also I read probably 100 books during that time and just filled stacks of journals. And it was during that time when I decided I wanted to go study psychology and become an author. So, yeah, I mean, there's, you know, there's. There's a lot of other things too. I mean, I didn't mention, know, the car crash that almost killed my mom that I was the driver of. But yeah, we had, I had a crazy, crazy life. I mean, we definitely. I definitely didn't have a silver spoon. We grew up very, you know, middle class, normal family, but just with a lot of trauma. And, you know, I'm glad that I'm not angry about it. You know, I've learned how to use the past as a tool rather than as a trap. So it's a lot of learning, a lot of humility.
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Tommy Mello
So you got back from your mission and you just decided psychology was what you wanted to study?
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Yeah, I wanted to go deep into psychology because one of the reasons was, is that that two year experience was so transformative for me. Like, again, I barely graduated high school. My brain was so chaotic. And that's often what happens with trauma, is that you just, you just get so shaky that it often creates adhd, to be honest with you. But like, you just, you have a hard time focusing, you have a hard, you have a, you have low confidence, you have low ability to like, learn hard things. Um, and so that was basically where I was at before I left on that mission. Like, I, I couldn't really focus in school. Um, I mean, I could focus on video games. You know, I could play a guitar hero for hours. I could, you know, I could snowboard. I was actually a really good snowboarder and skateboarder, but I couldn't do difficult things that were mental or even emotional. And so I was just very inhibited. And that's, that's often what happens to someone who's in a, in a traumatic, you know, state. So what happened was when I went on that mission, what blew me away was how fast I was able to click in and just start learning stuff. I mean, I was studying in the beginning more just like gospel stuff, right. But then I just started consuming books, just book after book. I mean, I became like a, just a, just a vacuum of learning and my brain could comprehend it. Like I could understand big, challenging, thick ideas and it would change how I viewed the world. It would change my mental models. I learned how to memorize really big things, you know, and learned how to become a leader. So I just went through such a transformation that I wanted to understand that more. And so that's why when I came home, I began to study psychology and just try to understand how to help other people with the same. That was ultimately what started that. I didn't know it was going to end up leading to, you know, entrepreneurship, you know, writing, writing business strategy books, and helping companies scale in 10x. I didn't know that that was what it was going to lead to, but that's like, that's the deep undercurrent that was the fuel in the beginning.
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Tommy Mello
And so what, what phase of your life did you bump into Dan Sullivan? And how did that relationship progress?
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Super fun stuff, man. So, so what happened was, so I went, I went home from that mission Went to undergrad, studied psychology, ended up getting married. And then originally I was going to go into. And so I got home from that mission in 2010, right? So 16 years ago. And so I finished the undergrad from start to finish in three years. Like again, I barely graduated high school, but flew through an undergrad and just because again, I learned so much on that mission. And I tried to go into counseling and clinical psychology programs and ended up getting rejected, had to do way more research and ultimately ended up getting into, you know, shifted over to organizational psychology and ended up getting into a PhD program at Clemson University. And so it was during the first year of my PhD, which is around 2014, 2015, and I was already studying my. All my research was on entrepreneurship and transformational leadership. But my aunt Jane, who, who runs a, like a health supplement company called Barlow Herbal, she. She joined Genius Network, right? Joe Polish's group. This was like 2014. And I was just a grad student. I had zero money, I was making no money. I had, I was interested in entrepreneurship, I was interested in writing, but I had no money and I was just a full time PhD student. My aunt Jane joins this group and she's around a bunch of really phenomenal people, you know, the Dan Sullivan's of the world. And I'd never heard of Dan, by the way, but even a lot of my favorite authors at the time were, you know, associated with Joe. And you and I both know Joe and I know that you're in the community and that's I think, maybe even how you and I met. But so my aunt was just telling me all about that and I kind of made a personal pledge to myself. Like a personal goal is that I would get into Genius Network before I finished my PhD program. I had no idea how to do it. I knew it at the time. It cost 25 grand to be a part of. To me, that was an incomprehensible amount of money to pay for a group. But I'm a big believer in investing in yourself and ten x ing that investment or a hundred x ing it. And so anyways, what happened was, is that the first year of my PhD program, I decided to commit to my goal of becoming a professional author. So I was doing my PhD, my wife and I got three, four foster kids and then I committed to becoming a professional author. And I'm actually writing a book right now called the Power Law Strategy. But it's all about choosing the one path that can get you to your goal. So I want to get a six figure Book contract fast because I wanted to provide for my kids. I didn't know that that was a top 1% of book deals. But you know, most. One of the things that Dan and I actually wrote about in 10x is easier than 2x's is that when you go for a 10x goal, most pathways can't get you there. You know, you can do 50 things and get to 2x, but if you want to go for 10x, you got to do like 1 or 2 very well. And so I ended up becoming one of the top bloggers in the world on medium.com grew my email list organically over about a year and a half to over a hundred thousand people. And I got the book deal for what became Willpower Doesn't Work. And so as soon as I got that book deal, it only took me a year and a half to do it. So by early 2017, I was in like the maybe third year of my PhD program. I get the money for my book deal and I invest that straight into Genius Network. I joined Genius Network, am blown away by it. And I then invest into the a hundred K group. And Joe let me in even though I was brand new, didn't have a great big business, but he, he let me join a hundred K. And so I just went straight into that. And I was not making that much money, to be honest with you. But I was just like all in on the learning. And so I was a top blogger. Hundreds, tons of views. My email list was growing by like 20,000 people a month. Pure, organic, no paid media, just pure. Just through my blog posts. And I was teaching people in Genius Network about my strategies. But one of the things that happened was, is for the few years before that when my aunt Jane was in Genius, she was giving me some Dan Sullivan stuff. And so I started to really study Dan's material and fell in love with it. I just thought in my opinion it was probably some of the best stuff I'd ever studied. And I had at that point. I'd read tons of stuff. I mean I'd read all the self development stuff. I was reading tons of stuff on entrepreneurship. And Dan's stuff just stuck out to me. It stuck out to me a lot. And so when I got into the 100k group, Dan was in that group, his wife was in that group. This was in 2017, 2018. And I was. And, and Willpower Doesn't Work came out in 2018. And Dan loved it, shared it with all the people in Strategic Coach. And then it was right around that time, in like early 2018, maybe mid 2018, during my first full year in that program, Dan was just in the group, you know, in the room, in the 100k room. And he just taught about who, not how. And he just was riffing. You know, Joe always gives Dan time to, to teach. And I was just in that room. And I had again studied Dan quite extensively at that point. I thought he was pretty much the best thinker that I had been around. And yeah, when he presented that idea, who, not how, he knew, he knew my work pretty well. I just, after he gave that little speech, I just went up to him and I just said, Dan, if you ever want that to be a, like a mainstream concept, if you ever want that to be a mainstream book, I'll co author it with you. And so he just said, boom, let's do it. And so it took a year and a half. It took. It took over a year to get the publisher. I was still finishing my PhD by the way, so I had to finish my PhD. My publisher didn't want it because Dan, even though Dan's kind of a legend in our world in New York, he wasn't known at all. Like, my publisher thought it was a big step back because I was already a published author. I had a pretty big name and Dan was not known. He was very niche. And so my, I was at the top business publisher in the world. And they said, you're an idiot if you go write this book with this guy. And so they said, no, we're not going to do who, not how. So I had to switch publishers and I went over to Hay House and then who, not how came out. And then it just was so successful. We decided to do two more books together.
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Tommy Mello
How do you co write a book? I mean, I know a lot of different authors. I was just telling you about Mark Winters and Geno Wickman. And I know there's different strategies. Do you guys sit in a room and write it together or do you just work through the Internet and kind of write your parts? And I mean, I'm sure you, you go to the main topic, kind of decide how you're going to parse it out. But how did you guys arrange that?
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
You know, Dan is actually really good at who, not how, like the idea of the book. And he figured I was the who, so he would just let me handle almost all of it. He just made himself available to me. And so basically I would just, you know, he actually, he writes little books and so he writes little books that he mostly uses for internal purposes with his clients. And so I just studied the heck out of all of his little books. But I used his little book of who not how as kind of the base. And then he just said, utilize me as much as you want. So I probably interviewed him 10 or 20 times for who, not how. I did it again for the other two books as well. And he really, honestly did not provide much critique. I mean, yeah, I mean, he pretty much just let me write the book I wanted to write. The hardest part, to be honest with you, was in the beginning I was trying to write the book that I thought he would like. But eventually I just had to realize, and I got some help from. From Tucker Max, who. Who edited the book and helped me through that, was, you're not writing the book for Dan. You're writing the book for people who should be in Strategic Coach. Right. So just write the book that. Write the book that. You know, we'll serve the audience. Don't worry about Dan at all. And so I just. I ultimately just wrote. Yeah, so it was probably pretty different, honestly, because Dan just let me do it, you know, that's who not how. He just let me do it. He just trusted the who. I was already the professional author. I had the taste, I knew the audience. He didn't know all that stuff. He didn't know how to write this level of book. And so, you know, he gave some thought and some wisdom, you know, and I could ask him questions. And ultimately he looked at the manuscript and made sure it was in alignment with what he said. But he Almost. With. With 10x is easier than 2x. He provided, like, literally almost zero critique.
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Tommy Mello
I love it. I love it. How in your opinion, there's different ways to grow your influence. I have a buddy of mine, he just sold for 100 million. It's doing really, really well. And I coached him along the way at the end, and I said, dude, I want you to start a podcast. Here are some of the things I missed and I messed up. I want you to really start posting all the things you do. People are going to fall in love with you. He's a helicopter pilot. I said, most of all, I want you to write a book. And, you know, I wrote the Home Service Millionaire, and he read it.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
He.
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Tommy Mello
He wrote the Home Service empire. It's kind of funny, but he's like, dude, everything's working. He's like, it's growing. I got this huge following now. He started a club called the one percent Club. When you think about how you built your. And by the way, it's changed. It's changed a lot. Like, it's not as easy to break out. Like, I started a podcast in 2017. I've been doing this almost 10 years. So, you know, Joe started his. Into what, 2010. I love marketing. So if you were to start today and really try to get a following and really pour your heart out to people, where do you think the best mediums are to do that?
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
It's really strange, but really depends on your objective. If it's solely just to teach an influence, that's gonna be a different pathway. That might, you know, podcast might be really good. To me, it really. The, the goal shapes the means, right? The goal shapes the path. Just like when Mia, when I wanted to become a professional author. Like, I really wanted to become a professional author at the highest level. And so. And I wanted to do it fast back during my PhD, like, I started again back during my first year of my PhD program. This was back in 2015, right. And so I couldn't get a hundred thousand email subscribers, which is what I really needed to get the six figure book deal I want. I couldn't get there organically through Twitter or Facebook or even Instagram or YouTube back then. Like again, if. And so my goal led me to medium.com. that platform doesn't really exist anymore, but that was the only platform I could find where I could write blogs that could go viral and that I could put call to actions at the bottom and lead them to a landing page where I could get emails. Like, I couldn't. I couldn't find any other pathway to do that. And so I think that the goal really does determine the path, you know, for us. Like, I ended up getting rid of my YouTube channel, not because I don't love it, but because our goal, we need to, for us at scaling.com, we need to reach a pretty highly sophisticated audience. And so for us, the medium is books. It still is. And so we're just writing really outlier books to grow our, our, our business. Right. And we want to write books that are like good to great level. Right? Is where that's what we're at least trying for and getting them into the hands of the right people. And those books end up converting people and blowing their minds and leading people to scaling.com and so it really depends on, on your goal, you know, like for me. Yeah. And so, but if, again, if it's solely just to go out and teach and stuff like that, podcasts are about as Good as they can. As good as you can get. To be honest with you. Like, I think that people love a host, they love a message, they love a theme. And so I think that podcasts are still very, very, very phenomenal. We may even eventually do one for scaling. But yeah, for me, for me, the goal always shapes the medium or the goal always shapes the path. And so that's how I would answer that question. I don't know, I don't know what your thoughts are on that or if you push back and go, you know, and further clarify. What's your opinion on that, Tommy?
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Tommy Mello
Well, I love the books. I think it's great if you could get the right book out and you understand, you know, there's this new thing that it's not necessarily publisher, it's kind of self published slash publisher, that gets you into the airports, that gets you in. The thing I don't like about getting published is I don't. I use my. I use books as a calling card. I like to give them out. I like to really. I've been studying, I've been studying a lot about Alex Hermosi and his launch, and he made a lot of money, but that's not the goal of my books, is to get the message out there. Social media is great, but I had a great talk with a guy I work a lot with. His name's Jim Leslie. And he goes, you've grown to this. You're like the 1% of the 1% in home service, home improvement. And my goal right now is to be the voice of blue collar work. And he said, you already are. He goes, but what you want to do is become that for everything else, like Fox News, cnn, like when they want to learn about home service, home improvement, the blue collar space. And who do you think about? Bob Vila? Maybe Tim the Tool Man Taylor? Maybe you could get there with Mike Rowe. But there's that spot that I just kind of want to take and I want to deliver things that change people's lives. And for me, it's not about money anymore because A1's still very healthy and growing. So it kind of, I go back and forth. A lot of people ask me, what do you think is bigger, the, the Tommy Mello audience or the A1 audience? And I go, you know, we build each other up. A1 built me. I'm building A1. It goes back and forth.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
They're both compounding assets. I mean, they're both, they're both synergistic and compounding assets. One of the things I like about what you're saying, Tommy, is that. Do you know the concept of the power law?
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Tommy Mello
Well, focusing on one thing, I guess, pretty much.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
But you can explain power law. Yeah. So a power law is, you know, the 8020 principle is just a elementary version of the power law. So the 8020 principle says that almost, you know, all results come from a really small amount of what you do. Right. And so the power, like in a VC like portfolio or like a, sorry, private equity, like portfolio. No, sorry, VC, there may be like 100 companies, but like one or two of them drives all the results, right? Yeah, like that's that. That one, by the way, that one's the power law. And so the idea of the power. One of the, One of the core components of a power law is, is that it. It becomes the thing that defines the category. Right. And some. One of the things that's really smart strategically. So, like, if you think about. If you think about physics, who do you think about?
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Tommy Mello
Einstein.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Boom. He's the power law of physics. Like, and so, like, he changed physics and he now defines that category. And so any other physicist either has to go through Einstein or argue against him. Right. And so this is why I like what you were just saying with like, Tim the Tool Man Taylor or whatever. So the thing that you want to think about is what category could you create that would actually pull you away from competition? Because the main aspect of strategy is not to beat competition, it's to escape competition. And often you do that by creating and owning a new category. In our case, it sounds weird, but scaling as much as. It's like one of the ultimate buzzwords. The way we teach and the way we do it, we're going to become the power law of scaling over time because no one's actually going deep enough to truly solve it. And we actually are, um, and we've. We're redefining. And so, like, the thing that I would have you think about is what's the thing that you'd become the power law over? What's the big enough game? And blue collar work might be it, man. Like, where it's like people begin to associate because. Because your business fits in that category.
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Tommy Mello
It's only one piece now there's a bigger mountain to climb.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
What's the bigger mountain to climb?
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Tommy Mello
Well, I'm just a. I'm garage doors today and. Garage doors.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Yeah, yeah. But garage doors fit in blue collar work, right? They fit. It fits in that bigger category.
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Tommy Mello
Yeah. So, I mean, look, there's. There's a Lot of other industries that have a way higher tam that I'm very, very familiar with. And I love the garage door industry. And this is like, like I said, keep, keep the blinders on. We're at 2%.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
You're the power law of that. You're the power law of that one of garage doors. Totally.
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Tommy Mello
And there's still so much room to grow. But I'm really like, I got a lot of pride in the group, the, the blue collar space. And you know, it used to be Shawn de Pondo. You'd walk in a. A wine mixer and there would be a doctor, a dentist, a lawyer, a P.E. guy. You, you name it. And guys used to put their heads down. Yeah, I'm a plumber. And you want to. With Nvidia now there's like a lot of pride. Like, look, we've done very, very well. It's a great industry. I think a lot of people are broken in our industry, though. Like a lot of my co workers, you know, they didn't come from necessarily great families. They weren't taught about compound interest. No one really taught them about money, health habits. And so it's a much bigger calling than just being the blue collar guy. You know what I mean?
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
How would you define it though? Because I'm wanting like, kind of like choosing a category. I actually, I wonder how you could define it. And then you become the one who owns that and you, you know, not, not, not, not, not, not in an egotistical way, but you become the one that defines and uses that opportunity to serve in that bigger game.
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Tommy Mello
Yeah, I mean, look, blue collar is working with your hands on a house or, or industrial. I mean, it's literally going out there. The men who built America, a lot of it was, you know, how to fix stuff, you know, how to build stuff. It's. It's not sitting behind a computer. It's not necessarily. It has a lot to do. Some of some marketing has to do with everything. But, you know, right now we're at a two and a half to one, meaning two and a half to two And a half of the people in our company are out there fixing stuff, repairing and installing. And that ratio with AI and some of the stuff we're building will be 4 to 1 and 8 to 1 next year. And that's probably the most important ratio to look at. So I think some of the operational things in the call center and the dispatch right now we're at a 40 to 1 ratio. We used to be at a 12 to 1. So. Meaning one dispatcher could dispatch 12 technicians. Now it's one in 40. That'll be one in 60 by the end of the year. So it's just a huge category and the world needs more blue collar people. We're going to build the world. I mean, yes, robots are coming, but they're going to be used at like fixing people's hearts and fixing people's teeth before they'll be going out fixing toilets and hot water heaters and garage doors. You know what I mean?
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
I love what you're saying, man. And I love the idea of the bigger game and, and rebuilding not only, not only making it more compelling, like where you bring more people in and actually say like this is a good game, like this is a game where you can have a future but helping them lift their heads and be successful in that game. I think, dude, that's, that's, it's, it's always fun. That's part of why I like thinking from scale. That's why growth and scale are two different games, right? So growth could be, you know, which is still good, right? How do I, how do I, how do I improve what I'm already doing? Whereas scale is this much bigger game that forces you to, to think about a different game and a bigger game.
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Tommy Mello
Well, you got to work outside of the boundaries. Like if I think we're at 400 million, if I'm going to get to 4 billion in revenue, very, very healthy. I think we're one of the most healthy bottom lines in the industry. People are like, wait a minute, how do you pay by far the most, spend the most in marketing, have the best net promoter score, have the most reviews and still make double what anybody makes to the bottom line. And that comes through a lot of efficiencies in economies of scale and just constant focus. But you know, to think about 4 billion, it forces you. We're living a box of more leads, more booked calls, more conversions, higher average tickets. But in order to 10x, you got to work outside of the boundaries, you got to look way beyond what you could see and reimagine the way you think about everything. And I love that.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Would you do. Well, what would you do? Just, just messing with you for a minute and just, just because you're so, you're obviously extremely visionary and strategic but you're obviously with everything you just said about profitability, you guys are extremely efficient in your operations and just, and so you're, you're, you're, you're phenomenal. So just asking you if you were to get your company or your business to 4 billion in three years. What would be the ways to do it? How could you know? And I asked that not to stress you out more, to just say like
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Tommy Mello
I know, I already.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
What, what, what, what, what possible ways could get you to 4 billion in three years?
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Tommy Mello
So number one, vertically integrate number. Like for example, every time you move into a house, what do you do? You work with a mortgage company. I'm happen to be meeting with three of the biggest mortgage companies, the biggest in the world, especially in North America. So before you close on that 30 year fixed or whatever you might be doing, let's go ahead and get everything fixed on the garage. I want to own the garage. So a lot of it's vertically integrate new construction. I got to open up the buy box. Number two, there's, there's some, you know, we don't do any box stores. We don't do Home Depot, we don't do Lowe's, we don't do Home warranties. We don't do Ace Hardware. We don't do any of these things. We don't do any insurance work. So if I was. What every adjuster does is they go on xactimate when you've got a storm damage or a fire and they fill out this stuff. If I was the default and worked a deal out with the insurance companies that I could actually make them more money over time. So it's really relationships is I'm going to walk us into the. We're the one company that I know of in home service that I can make all the decisions. We're not a franchise. There's no other decision makers, obviously my team and I, but we pay on time. We could, we could. What they're looking for is we don't hire felons. We're safe in people's homes. We always honor our word. We run the warranty calls. We could scale up as quick as you could handle as far as our machine to make technicians and installers and leaders. So I just need more channels. Xactimate distribution channels. Yeah. So like Home Depot, Lowe's, Costco, all the home.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Is there one channel? Is there one or two channels that could get you over a billion through one channel?
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Tommy Mello
Well, it really depends these things. Usually you fail forward a few times. Our relationship with Chamberlain is very promising. They're connected to 16 million units. I'm flying out there in June. But there's a lot of targets. It's who wants to play ball and understand because once you get one, you can get all of Them you just need the case study. And you know, I don't want to own the industry. I want to like, I want to make it. This is going to sound really egotistical, but within two years you're either going to have to sell to us or go out of business. I mean, and people are like, well, they'll always. We're never going to become a monopoly. But if you vertically integrate, how do you compete? And if you run 10 times more efficient, how do you compete if you're filled with AI? We're running 26 softwares now. I just counted yesterday and you would think, why not just run one? But each one is the best in class for every single thing we're doing. And half of those we built in house and only for our company. So yeah, I mean, look, you need the leads, you need to be able to get in homes. And Google's not the only way. Now they got the LLMs, you know, whether it's Grok or Claude or, you know, there's a million of them now. So we're, we're working on a lot of things, but I think it's the distribution channels and I think it's the network and the relationships. And for some reason, man, you know, Joe Polish has taught me a lot. I've learned a lot from a lot of good people is relationships come easy now because I'm not afraid to reach out. I got a little bit of clout now. A little bit, little bit enough to take a phone call and that's all I need.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
I get on a plane, clout.
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Tommy Mello
And you know, the main thing for me is that we treat clients right and we make them customers for life. And if you could do that properly, you know, the business will grow itself.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
That's beautiful stuff. That's beautiful stuff. Yeah. One of the things that, you know, to the idea of the power law, usually if you've got 50 distribution channels, right, a few of them, two, three are gonna be the ones that are gonna generate 80% or more of, of the leads. And so it's really about how do you, that's why I, I, I, I, sometimes we, well, one of the things we help people do is we help people set a floor, right? So it's like maybe the floor is for the strategic partnerships you're looking for. They have to produce sometimes to, to, to go and find the best opportunities. Maybe for you it's like $500 million, you know, in, in potential. If that becomes your floor, if that becomes your floor, then like you only look for the opportunities above that. And I know that that may sound limiting because there's so many great opportunities right below it, but it forces you to become the guy above that floor and, and at that level. And so as you said, you get the first one, you get them all.
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Tommy Mello
You know, I guess the real question I should be asking is, for example, I had the CEO of Angie at the house a couple weeks ago. Really, really cool guy. Is the first question is, if we did everything perfect and you were very satisfied, what is the total addressable market of the lead flow that you could. If you, if we just knocked it out of the park? Because you really don't know the opportunity until you get some of the data. The data actually will explain what's going to happen. So we talk about, for example, the storm chasing. I need to get that data and work. I gotta go to Utah, your hometown of Salt Lake, and meet with the company and really understand that opportunity. So some of this is a little bit investigative. You know, I don't know anybody who says if I got this one without understanding the volume. So what I think, what I'm kind of reading between the lines here is I really should probably go and understand Home Depot. I'm flying out to Atlanta next week to meet with Home Depot. So as at a next level,
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
we're
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Tommy Mello
going to reimagine everything Home Depot does. I got a meeting with Lowe's in over on the East Coast. I line that up. I got another relationship with Ace Hardware, but not all of them are going to work. And I already told my whole team, I'm ready to walk away. I'm not going to get us distracted, but if we go in, we're going to fall, we're gonna fail and we just gotta like nothing really happens over. I never got involved with anything and didn't hit like little stumps along the way. And it's tough to work with another company that you depend on. Like, I like to make my own luck. And now you're dependent on another source, but that gets a ton of volume and if we could run with it and keep them happy, that's a win win. I think we can really grow the valuations of some of these companies. It's hard to believe grow the valuation of Home Depot or Lowe's, but it's possible.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
That'd be awesome. That would make you extremely valuable to them.
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Tommy Mello
Oh yeah. Well, SRS is doing somewhere along the lines of 1.2 billion of EBITDA and they're a roof supplier with Home Depot. Home Depot bought them. So 1.2 million of EBITDA. So a company's worth, you know, tens of billions of dollars. You wrote seven books. Obviously, your last book is probably the. You created a company around it. But what were some of the biggest. What did you enjoy writing the most and why?
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
I think that my last two books have been my favorites. 10x is easier than 2x and then the Science of Scaling. I think that the Science of Scaling is a way more ambitious book. 10x is easier than 2x was awesome, though, because from my view, before that book, it was not a concrete concept. Like, the idea of 10x. You know, we've heard people say it. Yeah, yeah. And even Dan has said it for like, 20 years. But, like. And people like Astor Teller and stuff like that at Google, like, 10x thinking. But I. I honestly think that I was very unsatisfied with that when I. When I set out to write 10x is easier than 2x. Like, I thought Dan had a great kernel, which is like that in order to. He really only had a kernel, by the way. Like, Dan is really good at framing concepts, but he'. Not. He doesn't take them very deep. Right. He's just very good at framing. And so even, like, who not how. Right. He's so great at the. At the. Just like, the. The simple idea. But for me, 10x is easier than 2x. Like, I really wanted to, like, create a. Like a framework for it or a model or a way to actually, like, truly do it and to validate that the concept was accurate. And so that was just such a difficult book to write. And so, like, when I say fun, like, writing books is not really that fun. It's insanely hard. But that book, I just felt like it was a breakthrough. Like, I felt like that book represented a breakthrough in thinking and it was very challenging. And I think it's. I mean, it's one of the biggest books in China right now. I just spoke at the EO Global Conference, Entrepreneurs Organization Global conference in Dublin, and one of the people who was in the China chapter was like, you know, 10x is easier than 2x is one of the biggest books in all of China right now. I was like, I did not know that. I don't pay attention to that stuff. So, like, that. That was like, that book I was so proud of. And I. You know, one of the. One of the concepts of that book is mastery. And so I started that book with Michelangelo and, like, how he became Michelangelo, you know, and. And just the levels of mastery. And so for Me, I wanted that book to feel like a masterpiece. I don't know. I don't know if I got there. But like people, when people first read it, like, they just were like, this feels different. Science of Scaling. I, I think that Science of Scaling is, in my opinion, a much better book than 10x is easier than 2x. It's a, it's a grander book. Like, it's, it's a, it's. It's not a simple, you know, it's not a simple concept. It's a framework that, that I actually think can. That remodels how you think about scaling and makes it simpler. But it's just, it was a way more ambitious book and I do think it did provide, it does provide a framework that can allow someone to 10x a company in three years, even if they're doing 400 million revenue or if they're doing 4 billion or 4 million, you know, and we have companies that are doing 10 billion plus applying the idea to try to 10x. And so, you know, one of the fun parts about it, and it's, you know, it's hard, is just number one, there is fun in just playing with ideas and exploring ideas. But the hard part is like really validating those ideas and like making it useful. So those are the two books that I think I had the most fun writing.
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Tommy Mello
You know, I think a lot about the gap in the gain at times
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
because I've always people that book hits people hard.
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Tommy Mello
Well, it's because we all know people. We've got a lot of family members and friends and one of my famous. I didn't come up with this. I copied it along the way at some point in my life. But I tell during orientation every month, hang out with people you got a common future with instead of a common past. And I really believe it's the closest people to you that let you live in the gap or the gain. And it's the conversations we have of like, man, I wake up every day, I don't have any pain in my body. There's, I don't know a person alive that would want to change places. I mean, life is. I don't mean that to be egotistical or cocky. I just am so God's do it done so much in my life and he's working through me and so many. I don't even know exactly what's coming next. I just want to have an open mind and continue to pray. And I feel like he keeps anointing me with all these opportunities and the right people come at the right time every time. And yeah, I mean, it's amazing to think about, to really, really live in the game. And so many people live of what. What they're going to do and where they're going to go. And it's great to dream. It's great to have goals, but. But sometimes you just gotta say, man, life is good. And like I said before, is enjoy the journey.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Yeah, yeah. I'm a big believer that, you know, just from a psychology standpoint, I'm a big believer that we use our future to shape our present. But I think what's really important with the gap in the gain is that we use our present to shape the meaning of our past. And I think with the gap, I think a lot of people, what they do is because they're not at that future that they want to be at. And by the way, we'll never be there. You know, I think that the. The analogy. Yeah, the analogy that Dan gave, which is phenomenal, is just the idea of the horizon that, like, the horizon never. You never reach the horizon. You know what I mean? Because it's always in front of you. That's what the future is. It's a tool for. For navigating, shaping, directing, and organizing the present. Like. And so the gap is just that idea that you're. You're mad at yourself for not being at the horizon or you're mad at yourself for not being where you thought you should be. And I beat myself up all the time, man, 24 7. So, like, I'm in the gap, and I'm the one who, you know, wrote that book. Although Dan obviously wrote the original, but I wrote, like, the big version. Um, but what I love about the gain, and I think it's super important is, is that I think that people, especially ambitious people and entrepreneurs, they don't take the time to truly evaluate their past very much. And so, like, one of the things that even. I did it at that EO conference last. Last week was I had people look at where they were five years ago. We. We call it quantifying the past. So, like, Tommy, just. Just on you for a minute, if you went back To April of 2021, what's the biggest difference for you and your company right now if you went back to 2021? Literally?
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Tommy Mello
Yeah, well, I can tell you. I mean, that's right around the COVID I living at the apartment. I bought an apartment complex for the technicians, but I lived there for four years. You know, it was just. It was tough Man, I mean, we were probably $7 million of EBITDA. Now this year we'll do well north of 100.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
So. So you've over 10x in the last five years.
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Tommy Mello
Yeah. Profitable.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
How would you say? How would you say? Yeah, the EBITDA is beautiful. What would you say is the. If you could give like two or three things on how you're different from your past self, who you were back in 2021, if you went back to that apartment guy, what's the major differences in you currently versus that guy? Nothing against that guy, by the way. Love that guy. But what are the major differences?
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Tommy Mello
Well, number one, I've really entered into this role that I am a true visionary and I don't need to get involved. I started to trust more and accept failure. I believe this company now is run towards failure and everyone needs to make mistakes and they all learn differently that I'm not the choking point of decision making. Number two, you know, my cousin Rachel called me and she said, you know, we love you, you've written a couple books. She said, why don't you love yourself? And I said, she's got a doctorate in physiology, anatomy. And she said, go into the bathroom real quick. She's one of my best friends. She's like, take off your shirt, look at yourself. She's like, I know you're drinking, probably more than you should be. I could just see it in your pictures. And she goes, what do you feel now when you're looking at yourself? And tears came down my eyes. I could have got really defensive. And this was right about that time, 20, 21. And she said, you do so good at so many things and you got the world on you got the. You take the world on your back and pull it with you. She goes, what about you? And that changed everything. And so I started walking and reflecting more and being at one with myself. And I took getting in shape, not six pack shape, but just mental clarity shape. Sleeping was, became a priority, getting the right nutrients in. So those are a couple things. I think I'm a lot more patient than I probably was and I let go of things. I wouldn't say I'm a master of saying no yet, but I get better every day at it. So those are a few things.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
So one of the things I love about what you just did, one of the key aspects of being in the gain, but it's really just deep psychology is it's actually very, very useful. First off, you in the present get to define what your past means. And that's what you just did, you just defined the last five years in a little bit of ways. You went back to your former self. You thought about where you were at. You thought about what changed. We know you over 10x'd your EBITDA, and I'm sure your company is fundamentally different in a lot of ways than it was five years ago. But also, it's really important to actually disconnect your present self from your past self and say, here are the reasons why I'm different. Because a lot of people, they continue to define, define themselves by their past. Oh, this is just who I am. This is what I've been like. Whereas what you just did was the opposite. You just explained how you're different from your past self. And so rather than saying, my past is determining me, you're saying, here's how I determine my past. And so, yeah, I think that the gap in the gain is so critical and staying in that gain mentality. I also like the piece that you mentioned, which is just living in the gain, right? What I mean by that is everything's a gain, right? Like everything's a blessing. You know, I love what you said about running towards failure. Like you're, you're going to learn through that, right? That's part of being antifragile. Rather than saying, oh, this is going to blow us up. It's like, no, what are we going to gain from this? Like, this is going to happen for us, not to us, right? So if you can turn everything into a gain, every mishap, failure, mistake, or even every success, if you could turn a success into more success rather than turn success into failure, then anything you do and everything you do just becomes a blessing and turns into more blessings. It becomes that compounding asset. So, yeah, I don't know, is there any other aspects of the gap in the game that stuck out to you or doesn't have to be about the concept, but just why it helped you or is there.
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Tommy Mello
You know, all your books are absolutely phenomenal. But I'll tell you, instead of me looking at myself, the biggest concept is hang out with the right people that are living in the gain. So it's really about understanding. Because, man, they bleed off of you literally when they're living in the gain. You're just happier, you're better, you're around the right people, you're getting the right message. And if you believe in mastery, I don't go into anything. I won't play Candy Land with my niece and nephews and not try to master the Game. I'm not there to have fun. I'm there to win. Although pursuing the challenge of winning is fun. So for me, I. I don't really go into anything and be like, well, we're just having fun. I'm just gonna try. I'm like, I want to go find who's the best. That's why I had a ping pong coach. I mean, literally, I got beat at, you know, when you play bags cornhole. So I got a coach for cornhole because literally, I don't like to lose. And I believe in mastery of everything. Why play a game? To just contend and just be one of the players, like, whatever it is. And I'm not the best at a lot of things, but that doesn't mean I don't want to become the best. And to be the best, you got to get around the best. If you were to go golfing every day with three golfers that shoot under par, I promise you, you would figure out how to become a much better golfer very quick. Faster than going to a coach, faster than practicing every day, faster than hitting a thousand golf balls. And that's who you. You really gotta get around the right people, get around the right people, get the right people on the bus. And no longer am I searching for all the answers, because there's people that are so good at what they do is how do you find them and how do you persuade them to jump on and help their dream become part of your dream and vice versa.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
I couldn't agree more. I think that it's just such a, you know, I call it a wormhole. But like, did you ever see the movie Interstellar, like, where they.
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Tommy Mello
Like one of my favorite movies.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
I love the. Yeah. You know, the concept of the wormhole, which is just like, it's a concept where it drops you from one place to the other. And that's what, that's what being right around the right people does for you. It's just like, it's the ultimate leap. It just jumps you straight to where they're at if you just go deep on it. And. Yeah, that. I couldn't agree with you more on that.
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Tommy Mello
You know, a lot of people, I could imagine when they get involved with scaling, so many people are waiting for things to be perfect. They're like, we gotta make the system perfect. And they never get started. I find so many people that are so afraid to take a chance. And unlike baseball, when you hit a home run, it could be $400 million. And for example, we're entering the Spanish Market. And a lot of people in my team are like, well, we gotta have Spanish, csr, Spanish dispatchers, Spanish technicians. I'm like, what if we try it and we get two clients in the first six months? I'm like, let's just try it. Bring the guys. We'll have a translator. We have the people that speak Spanish. But I'm like, it's so hard to get started. And once you get started in the right things, they kind of you, you could go, well, that you test. One of the things that's way different about me now is I test things out. Rather than make it company wide, we'll test in a small market and then we'll scale up from there. And it's just like, perfect is the enemy of just getting started. And I think it's crazy how many people are like, we know we need to do that. Or they say, I know I. I know I need to start this workout regimen. I just want to wait till this wedding's over. And they say, well, now we got the graduation party. And. And they just delay, delay, delay. And then I meet them three years later. And I was like, so how'd that go? They're like, well, you know, life happens. I'm drinking through a fire hose. And they never get started. They've got all these great ambitions, but they never find a way to start. And I think getting started is half the battle, just jumping it. You don't even need to work out hard at the gym. Show up for five minutes, maybe next time you'll be there for 10. Maybe over the course of two years from now, you'll be there for an hour a day because you fell in love with it, but you just come up with a reason to not go. And that's. Just get your keys, make it to the gym. That's a success, you know?
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Yeah, I think it's big. I think that honestly, like, back to those genuine, simple fundamentals. Like, yeah, even. You know what, one of my favorite quotes from back in the day, those classic, you know, just these, these ideas that you're talking about is when you lose an hour in the morning, you spend the rest of your day trying to find it. So, like, for me, usually those key, critical, most important things, if you don't do it in the first, like two or three hours of your day, just forget it's not going to happen that day. Right? Because the. So, like, yeah, I mean, that's how I became a professional author while a PhD student, while having three foster kids was just. I would Wake up. And before I went to class, I would just write blog posts, right? So it's like I could have said, I'm a PhD student with three foster kids. I'll save the becoming a professional author till after I finish the PhD. But if you just wake up and do it for, like, even 30 minutes, as you said, could be working out, it could be writing in your journal, it could be working on that project. It could be. I mean, you don't have to do it in the morning, by the way. I'm just saying sometimes it's easier to just do it first thing in the morning before all the busyness wipes you out. To me, that's been. That's been a very classic concept and one that never stops paying me back.
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Tommy Mello
I want to pivot a little bit to the future cell framework. You know, I was in a meeting with one of my mentors, and he said, we're in a big conference table. A lot of my team's there. And he said, you know, Tommy, you realize you called me the last three weekends at 8pm on a Saturday? And I'm like, oh, I'm sorry, dude. And he's like, no, no, no. Do you realize that you talked about 10 books you've read in the last two months? And I go, yeah, I've been reading a lot. He goes, how many courses are you taking right now? How many mentors are you working with? Then I kind of talked about it. And he goes, now you still go to work, don't you? And I'm like, yeah, I'm usually there at least 40, 50 hours a week. He goes, so you're taking 20, 30 hours a week and growing yourself? And I was like, well, I try to. And he goes, my best advice for you, Tommy, is that if this guy right here, this guy right here, this gal right here on your team, they're not doing that, that you fire them immediately. Like, if you don't find out that they're raising their lid as fast as you're growing, as fast as you're committed, as fast as you want to learn, they're not going to be valuable to you. So that means they got to put in their 40, 50 hours and spend a lot of time growing themselves. Because the law of the lid, if you keep growing, they're going to be speed bumps for you. They're going to eventually cause you to pull into a wall. And I'm not kidding, Ben. After that, they're sending me podcasts, they're wanting to go on trips with me. They Want consultants that I'm placing books and they're actually getting back to me. I mean, I watched some people grow so fast that actually I'm like, wow. And that was a day that was pivotal in the shape because I thought if I keep growing, you know, I'm the founder, it's so important. But now when you bring everybody with you, not everybody's gonna get with you, not everybody's gonna have that ability to learn. But it's so important to build that framework of just helping grow everybody around you. And not only the company grows, but they're all healthy. I had a guy walk in last week. They're like, does everybody in your company have a six pack? It was funny. I was like, we're just healthy now. We all prep our meals. You know what I mean? It's just. And it's not just. It's like people are going to church again. People's. Their relationships are better, they've got bigger dreams. And it's just, it's fun to be around, is they're really. They're working on the methodology of Future Self. And I want to just talk a little bit about that, what that actually means in practice to you.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Yeah, and I'm actually super interested in how you got your team to do that. Do you mind actually just sharing how you and I'll go, we'll go deep on future Self and how critical it is. But what was it that you did to inspire your team to start studying more and just creating this culture of, you know, healthiness? I mean, what, what did you do? You know, obviously you transferred it to, oh, it's all got to be me, just 10xing myself and some, you know. But what did you tangibly do to like, get the team in the culture that way that you just described?
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Tommy Mello
Well, a couple things. This is kind of embarrassing, but I'll tell you. I walked in my COO's office and I took off my shirt and I said, I'm working just as much as you. What's your excuse? He's a competitive sob. And he looks at me and he goes, are you kidding me? I go, no, dude, look at my calendar compared to yours. There's no excuse. And man, within three months, he dropped 15% body fat. That was like a wake up call. He's like kind of F you type thing. And I also. One of the things I started doing was I used to go to these events by myself and I'd walk back inspired and I'd come back with ideas and more visions of the Company. And now when we go to these events, we go 30 deep. So the whole team feels the energy and the passion and the growth mindset. I was living in a little bit of a cave, bringing myself maybe one person. And now we all have ideas and we all kind of reconvene and talk about what we're going to do. And we've got a really strong org chart of who's responsible for what. And we just, we've got very data centric on the decisions we make. And I think it's easy to tell people what to do. It's different to show people lead by example. I think Jesus is a great example of, you could preach or, you know, I want people to walk around and say, I wonder what he believes in. I wonder what his thoughts are. I wonder. Like, I wanna lead by example. And I think that's the biggest thing is leading. And then one day I told everybody, listen, I'm not keeping track of your hours if you're a vp, C suite, whatever, director, I don't care. Work from home. You know what you're responsible for. You don't need to be behind a desk. I know you're scrolling Instagram. Anyway, just get the results. You could work from home, you could work from work, you could go work from another market. I don't care. And I'm telling you, I must add, a dozen people come up to me and say, when you change that policy, they made us want to work 10 times more because you gave us freedom, we get to spend more time with our kids and we're still hitting every objective you ever lay out.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Talk about transformational leader, man, I love what you're doing. I love that story, by the way. I don't think it's embarrassing at all. I love that sort of walking in, ripping off your shirt and just being like, dude, my schedule's packed, bro. You know, it makes me, it makes me think about myself. Especially when you start running a company and a business and stuff like that and you're just, you are eating, drinking out of the fire hose. It can be easy to give yourself the excuse that you don't have time. And, and the fact is, is you can figure that out. You can make the time to get ripped, get in shape, strip out, you know, raise your floor and strip out the nonsense.
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Tommy Mello
The, you know, well, there's 168 hours.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
You can get stuff done. You can get it done.
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Tommy Mello
What, 168 hours in a week? Let's just say you work 60. Let's say for you Ben, you work 70, let's say you sleep 50, you still got 50 hours left. So you, you sleep 50, you work 70, that's 120. Still got 40 hours left. Let's say you want to go on a date night with your wife every week. You want to spend at least an hour a week separately with your kids and have dinner with all of them. So that's about, we'll just call that 15 hours. So you still have 35 hours left. And I know there's drive time, there's other things, but you can make that actually very, very powerful. You know, that's why I got a driver. Because now that time of driving became useful, time for me to knock out a lot of other things. So you spend an hour with your kids, you have breakfast and dinner, you got a date night with your wife, you can watch your favorite show. Let's say that's an hour, you still got 10 hours left. Let's say you want some personal time. So I think when you really look at it as a math equation and you really understand how much time goes to non productive, the 8020 rule. And the 8020 rule could be broken down deeper into the 8020 of the 80 20.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Now you're getting closer to the power law, by the way.
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Tommy Mello
Yeah, well, I've studied some of that stuff. I just didn't realize it was called the power law. I mean I must have read about 8020 for the last 10 years. And it's probably in every five books I read. And it's still a good reminder of, I mean, it's such a great rule and it's always, almost always accurate.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
To me. It's the rule.
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Tommy Mello
It is the rule.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
So, so, so back to the idea of future stuff, just real quick. So what's wild about future self, man, by the way, I hope my camera doesn't die. It's like flashing and yelling at me. It's been on all day.
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Tommy Mello
It said battery low. Do you got a plug for it? We could pause it real quick.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
I mean, it's plugged in, it's just been on all day, literally all day. So I can always shift to just my, my, I can shift to my, my computer. Let me just do that. Let me just shift to my Mac. But camera perfect. A little different, but I'm just going to do that.
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Tommy Mello
Hey, you look good.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Anyways. Yeah, brother. So anyways, future self is such a, an insane idea. So the idea is, you know, here's what's, here's what's tough is, is that Most people, they haven't been trained to think very well about their future self. And this is one of the most crit that's come out of positive psychology. Most people, because they don't think very successfully about their future self, their future self just becomes a continuation of their past self. Some of the original research that looked at it, a guy named Daniel Gilbert from Harvard, what he wanted people to do was he first started by doing similar to what I did with you Tommy, where I said let's see who you were five years ago. He would actually go 10 years. He'd say, are you the same person you were 10 years ago? And a lot of people, just because they don't think in the gap in the gain and stuff like that, they're just like, yeah, I'm probably similar, you know, but then when they actually think about it like who I was 10 years ago, do you have the exact same taste in music? Do you have the same, you know, your personality is quite different. Your views of the world are different, certainly your situation's different, your skills are different, your network's different. Like you're not the same person. And so even after people really clarified that they're quite different from who they were in the past, what Daniel Gilbert would say is, well, what about your future self? Like you in 10 years from now, you know, who are they? And what people would consistently do is they would consistently think that their future self is for the most part the same person they are today. Maybe just a little different, right? Like maybe like same personality, same tastes, same interests and maybe just, maybe just a better net worth, right? Maybe that six pack abs, right? But like those are like cosmetic. They didn't, they, they. In other words, they, they didn't really, they. Because most people don't think that much about their future self. They think about where they want to be. They think like I want to be retired by this age or I want that amount of money. But they don't really get deep on like who's the person? Who are you and how are you, how is that person different than who you are today and what are they like? And, and so what's really interesting is that the research dug deep into it and what all the research says and this even goes back to Victor Frankel and stuff we were talking about like 30, 40, like an hour ago was the connection you have with your future self determines the quality of actions you take today. So it's not about the grit and the willpower. Like it's about like, do you, do you Have a future self that gives you the reason why like and what we do as people, you know, that was, by the way, the reason I was able to get on that mission is because I had a future self that was a missionary. Right. That's why Viktor Frankl said that when you have a why, that can the why that allows you to bear any how. What's really interesting is that your future. One of my favorite quotes, this is from a guy named Dr. Roy Baumeister. He said that the self talking about who we are, who you are, whoever's listening. The self is not a thing, it is a process. And it uses the future to organize the present. So basically what we do is we, we use our view of our future to organize ourselves in the present. You know, you use your, your future self to organize who you are. Tommy, you know, you, if it's 4 billion, you're going to use that future to organize who Tommy is, the skills he needs, the network he needs, the distribution he needs. We use our future to organize our present. Not only who we are and our skills and our abilities, but our networks, you know, our resources. We use the future as the tool for shaping who we are and what we do in the present. And the beautiful part is we can change that future. You know, if you're out of shape, you can think about your future self, healthy and fit, and then you can use that future to reorganize your present and to strip out the stuff that no longer fits with that future. It's just, it's just the most powerful tool. I mean the future is the most powerful tool that human beings have. Other, other species don't have it, man. Like plants and animals. Yeah, they don't have a future to ultimately shape and direct and guide the presidents. The most simple form is if you want to build a house, man, you got to have a blueprint. You know, and the fact that we can think of a house, create a blueprint for a house or a plan and then ultimately build it, like that's just high end intelligence. And you can apply that to just about anything. You could apply it to 10x in your company, to 4x, you know, getting to 4 billion or whatever. If you have a future, you can use it to organize the present. You know, you want to get to the moon, use that to organize a rocket ship. I mean, it's just incredible what human beings can do.
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Tommy Mello
Yeah. And you know, I'd even go to say a big fan of atomic habits. I just read it with an accountability group that I formed this year and the future self. So I got a whole file with me at 45, I'm 43 and I got a lot of things in there and I kind of split it up between six things. Friends and family, finance, faith, fitness, fun and future self. Future self is learning.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
That's cool.
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Tommy Mello
Changing so. And I said, what would I have
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
threw future self in there, bro?
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Tommy Mello
What's that?
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
I like that you threw future self in there.
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Tommy Mello
Yeah, well that's, that's one of the most important things. But none of these things exist without fitness, without a clear mind, without the ability to learn and get the sleep you need and actually not have pain. I think fitness, you can't praise God if you can't get out of your wheelchair. I mean, I guess you could, but I'm not going to pretend you can't praise God anywhere. But if you can't think clearly and you're taking all these meds, you're not clear minded. I think Steve Jobs said you're going to be taking your food as medicine or you're going to be taking medicine as food. And so I'm a really big fan of being as like, get yourself right doesn't mean you got a six pack. But I love this idea of using your future self to guide your decisions today and making sure it's alignment. I think the hard part is like I'm not a very. I know we got to probably end soon, but I'm not a very.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
You're good.
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Tommy Mello
Not a very creative thinker. I'm more like, show me everything, I'll tell you the changes. Like I could take something and make it great but I can't like draw or do art. I don't really not know. My left brain is probably not as strong as my right brain, the reasoning side. And so what I like to do is get around like the Dream 100. Those are the hundred people. But I'd make it a dream 5. And when it comes to parenting, I don't want to read a bunch of books on parenting. I mean there's a couple people I know that have the kids that are the most fun to be around. They're super obedient, they laugh all the time, they don't get on an iPad. I'm going to go to them and I'm going to ask them for help. So for me it's like getting around the right people. Like I said people, you have a common future instead of a common past. And success leaves clues. So if you can get around those people and they kind of Fit where you want to be and their outlook and their optimism and their smiling and, you know, I was really thinking about this a few weeks ago of, like, there's about four or five people I'm around, good buddies and some family that the next day, my abs. I could barely walk because I'm laughing so hard. I laugh so hard with this group of buddies and my cousins, and I'm just like, the serotonin and dopamine, and everything's going crazy. And it's not like drugs or alcohol. It's literally like, just having so much fun and just. Have you ever had your abs hurt because you laughed so hard? Like, I have that every time. And so my future is like, how do I be around them more? How do we do more golf trips? How am I? You know? But then I also, like, teach a man to fish versus give a man a fish. I want all them to be able to do this stuff and not feel like it's handouts. So a lot of the stuff evolves around, like, this is, like, when I'm the happiest. And obviously kids are in the future. So. But. But it takes a lot of, like, get into your own zone and. And just start to get in that flow of what it looks like and really understand where do you want to go. So if you want to go to Italy, how'd you fly there? What did you go see? What was the most important thing? What were the colors? What were some of the plants you were around? Like, actually visualize. Like, visualize.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Yeah, you got to get vivid. They call it vividness. Make your future self a vivid vision. Yeah. I mean, honestly, it's funny that they use that term, but, like, in the. In the. In the psychology research, they actually call it make your future self vivid. And it just means, like, you know, truly make it completely visualized. I mean, you need to, like, actually see it in radical detail, as you're saying. One of the things you also said that I thought was powerful is you said, you know, the dream 100, but then you. Then you went to the power line. You said The. The Dream 5. You know, obviously, having 100 is powerful, but having a higher tier 5 is more powerful than having a lower tier 100. And, you know, if you already understand the power law, you know that the top five are going to create almost all the results anyway. So you might. You know, that's just the idea of simplicity, right? We make things so complex. And, yeah, the more and more I understand the power law, it's just. It's just like those top five, if you just in pour into those top five, you're going to get 10x the value than if you're, you know, you're too split thin.
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Tommy Mello
I think a lot of us, it kind of talked about this earlier, but you know what's interesting is you said writing books, I deleted my YouTube channel. You know how many people are like, well, yeah, I want to do TikTok. Yeah, LinkedIn's important. Yeah. X. Gotta own that. Yeah. Instagram, Facebook, Very, very. And it's like, why?
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
That's no strategy. That's a lack of strategy.
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Tommy Mello
Well, you know, a lot of people walk up to me, Ben, and they're like, I want to do 100 million. Like you did. I always look up to you for that. And I go, why? And they're like, because you proved it's possible. Like, but why? What's going to happen? Like, what are you going to use the money for? Like, what are you going to go into 5013c be giving back? You want to become a teacher? Do you want to do stuff for family? Do you want to do stuff for mom and dad? Do you want to. They're like, you're setting up a retirement account for your kids. Like, why? Why do you want to do what I did, by the way? It's not a love of. It's not a story of love. It's a story of a lot of drama. The first 10 years and his sacrifices were unsurmountable, that I wouldn't want to make again. In fact, if I had to do it all over from today, being 43, I don't think I'd make the same choice. I did it when I was 22, so. But a lot of people are like, dude, I don't know. I'm like, because if you could, you should, right? And I'm like, yeah, just remember, can't take it with you. And, you know, I was obsessed. We didn't have any money when I was a kid. My mom worked three jobs. I mowed lawn, shovels snow. I got a job when I was 12, washing dishes. I decided at four years old, money's not going to limit me and my family. There's not going to be arguments if we could go on a vacation. There's not going to be arguments if we get to get a steak tonight because I lived through that. And that's a decision I made 39 years ago that I kept because I decided when I was 4. And then I don't think it's fair, but I know a Lot of people have a much harder youth than I had. I mean, I had love, I had passion, I had competitiveness. I didn't get a participation trophy for anything. We were winners in this family. That's what I was told. So. But, but I, I gotta ask everybody listening is why? Because if you want. Jim Carrey said, if you want all the. I wish everybody. Ben had all the fame, most popular, everyone knows you, largest influencer, people recognize you everywhere you go. And they had all the money and they realized that's not the answer. And by the way, the money is a great tool. But I'll tell you, it's weird. It's weird how people look at you differently. It's weird how people kind of. That you don't talk to in the last 20 years start showing up again. And I always compare it to, you know, if you're a pretty. If you're a beautiful woman, people are going to hit on you. You can't be mad because you're. And if you're successful, people might want to share in your success, but there's other leeches out there and vultures that you got to look out for.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Yeah, no, it's. Yeah. I mean, I think you're dead on that you need to have a why. And, and it shouldn't be someone else's why. You know, it's what's. What's. What's the reason for this. And that's part of having a strategy is choosing. Choosing the right goal and not needing it to be about competitiveness. It's not about beating someone else or doing it because someone else did it. It's about. In the end, honestly, we're all playing our own game. And so, you know, that's. That's back to the. Honestly, that's back to the idea of choosing your own category and just deciding what you want to do and having fun with it. So. No, I completely agree with everything you said. And. But it is powerful still to succeed. You know, there's something. There's something big about the stretch to succeed, and it is worth the climb. It will. It will rip you to shreds. You know, as you even mentioned. But it's. To me, it's worth, it's worth it. The future self. It's worth stretching into. It's. It really humbles you. And, you know, for myself, going for the, the scale that we're going for and what we're trying to accomplish, you'll see yourself do stuff you would have never done, and you'll see yourself outgrow your past self really quickly when you're really going for, for big goals. And I think it's, it's just, it's, it's a beautiful thing to do.
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Tommy Mello
Yeah, yeah. Dream bigger. I agree. I'm going to ask you a few closeout questions. I, I really enjoyed this though. I think about just more journaling time, more reflection time, more really purposeful decisions. It's just a wake up, a wake up call in a lot of factors. If I could just do a few things more and there's no time. There's no time. Bullshit. Like you don't have the time. If you're at all opening your phone on social media, if you're at all watching Netflix or Amazon prime, if you're at all watching the sports games, you have the time.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Totally.
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Tommy Mello
What's one piece of game changing, game changing advice you wish you knew in your 20s?
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
I think that, I mean as simple as it is, a lot of what we've already been talking about, but I think that I would have shot for the top faster. I think I, even my goals were a little linear. I think that, I think I could have certainly gotten to where I'm at now 10 years ago, like if I would have just. And again, I'm not in the gap about it in any way. I just understand that what you're going for, like human beings, we, we use the future to organize our present. And so I was using what I felt to be at the time, massive dreams. But what I realize now is, is I could have, I could have gone straight to certain relationships, to opportunities back then that, you know, that I understand now. I could have gone straight to them. Do you think, figured it out?
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Tommy Mello
Do you think that your network might be part of the reason that you are where you are today? I mean you said Joe Polish and Dan Sullivan. I mean you can't just start out with a network. You don't automatically get access. You kind of have to pay your dues a little bit. Is the network effect, you know, network is your net worth type thing. Does that mean anything to you? Or you just feel like, man, I was, I could have done this when I'm 18.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Network matters a lot. But like when I went into those rooms, one of the things that I think that people get wrong, like I, I, I knew that those rooms were really important but also I knew that what I brought to those rooms and the capability I already had, like, was what, was what created leverage in those rooms. Right? So like, you know, I, I was able to take my like Just, just being in the rooms alone can get you pretty dang far. But if you already have, but if you have really good capability and if you know how to serve other people, you can turn those rooms into something massive. Right. And so I, I had a lot of things that those rooms couldn't give me when I walked in. And then when I walked in, I, I brought those things to that room and it, and it just opened up, it opened up fast. It opened up fast doors. But yeah, you do, you do need to be into that proximity. You do need, you do need other people. You know, you, I think that other people can take you 10x further than you can take yourself, especially if you're very capable and ambitious and if you're happy to let other people get a lot of the success too.
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Tommy Mello
If you had to start over with $10 million, nothing else, no businesses, you got 10 million in your account. What are you doing with the money? You're going to go probably start scaling, started the same business. A lot of people said, you know, I'm living what I want, so probably get into that business that you're doing now.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
It's a really interesting question, Tommy. Yeah. So if this thing went away and if I just like, I'm just starting with blank and 10 million.
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Tommy Mello
Yep.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Such a great question. Yeah, I would from like a, from a financial standpoint, I mean I have seven kids and so like I, I'm big on at least having. I'd probably, as weird as it sounds, I'd take half of it, set it to my family and just invest it slow. Maybe even, maybe only 20% of it. Just 2 million, just, just because I, I love the peace of mind with my seven kids. And I'd probably take the other. It's just so that the two is just there liquid and just slow compound. And I'd take the other 80 and I'd, I'd, I'd create this and I'd, I'd just gun for what we're, what we're going for right now.
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Tommy Mello
What do you think adding money would do to the scaling of your business? Would you put it into ads? Would you put it into me if
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
I, if I had. Yeah. If I had 20 million right now that was just given to me to, you know, as an investor, like I brought in some investor. It would get us, it would get us to our goal two or three times as fast. Yeah, it would. Because the science of scaling, in my mind I think It'll take about 15 to 20 million for us to 10x and then our company would be worth billions. So, yeah, I think I would take it. Most of it would be advertising. Some of it would be. Most of it would be spreading. Some of the. Probably be. I'd probably say 80% would go into. Be spreading it the right way.
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Tommy Mello
What's your biggest professional dream at the moment? I think I know what it is because we're just talking about it. It's about getting to your goal with scaling.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Yeah, I mean, I would say. I would say that it's helping. It's helping. It's helping people transform, you know, and it's helping people realize that they're not limited by their past or even their present, but that they can change their future and then use their future to change their present, you know? And so, you know, I would love, I would love to see. To be honest with you, I'd love to partner at levels like, even with, like the President of the United states and help 10x economies. You know, I think our country needs it. I think that there's so many comp, you know, business people that don't understand the difference between growing a business and scaling it. And I would love to. I'd love the science of scaling to sell millions of copies and transform lives. Yeah, ultimately, I'd love to just help. Help people see what they can be and see what they can do and, and see that there's a. There's a different. There's a different way to do it.
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Tommy Mello
Give me a few of your favorite books. You've got seven amazing books. But. But if you had to just pick three. Just real quick.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
You're talking about different books. Like books that really I love and impact me.
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Tommy Mello
Yeah,
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
I really Love 0 to 1 by Peter Thiel.
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Tommy Mello
Just read it again.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Yeah. Zero. Yeah.
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Tommy Mello
You're talking about creating your own category.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Yeah, it's a big one. Yeah. He talks about Monopoly now. We're writing a book right now called the Power Law Strategy. And when we, you know, we may end up. I might end up co authoring it with. With Tony Robbins. He actually wanted to be a co author on the Science of scaling, but we weren't quite ready for that. We didn't feel right about. But yeah, I think that, I think that 0 to 1 is really good. I really like. Man, there's so many. I actually just read a book that really blew me away called Life Beyond Capitalism. It's. It's not what you think. It's. It's actually a book about the power of capitalism, but in a different way than you think about it, it's just, it's such a deep book. Such a deep book. You know, just said to some of my favorite classics. There's a little book called Peaks and Valleys by a guy named. Oh what's his name? He's a guy who wrote who Moved My Cheese. Oh yeah, Spencer Johnson. So he passed away but he wrote a book called Peaks and Valleys that's similar to who Moved My Cheese. It's like a little parable. It's like a two hour read to me. It's one of the best books I've ever read. I go back to the alchemist every once in a while and I go back to the War of Art. But yeah, I really like the 8020 individual by Richard Koch. But yeah, I would say that the top few zero to ones up there, antifragiles up there. Peaks and Valleys is in there. Man's search for meaning is in there. I mean those are some of the ones that I just think are just like deep classics, you know, like these are ones that you know, they're worth a hundred books. I'm always looking for the power law. I'm always looking for like what's the one book that's worth a thousand. And so I think that those, those ones are, those ones are biggies.
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Tommy Mello
My advice, and I don't know if you agree with this but read the same 20 books 10 times instead of reading 200 books one time.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Yeah, especially if you find the good ones that are really deep. I couldn't agree with you more, man.
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Tommy Mello
Going back, you read them at a different stage of your life and they hit completely different.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Yeah, no, I agree. I prefer mastery and so I keep going back through the same books over and over and over and over again. And it makes it more interesting when you go read some other book that you've never read before because then you, you read it deeper, you know like depth is so much better than, than breadth in my, I mean breadth is still important but depth takes you a lot further in my mind.
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Tommy Mello
Ben, what do someone wants to reach out to you? What's the best ways to do that?
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Yeah, I mean obviously you can go to scaling.com highly suggest reading the Science of Scaling. You know my email is ben scaling.com so if anyone wants to just reach out to me directly. Ben scaling.com and yeah, I mean that's, that's pretty much it. We give away the book the Science of Scaling for free. So you can definitely go and just listen to it for free if you want,
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Tommy Mello
you know, scaling.com did you spend a fortune on that, that domain?
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
It depends on how you define a fortune. But yeah, it was, it was, it was a good domain. I have future self.com as well. But we have, we have a lot of big, we've got a lot of great domains. But yeah, scaling.com is by far the best.
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Tommy Mello
I bought every garage door site like 10 years ago. Garage Door University, Garage door Academy. I think I have every single training garage door site. Last thing, I want you to close us out, whatever's on your mind. We, we talked about a lot but probably missed a lot. I had about a hundred other questions but we'll do a second round because I've got so many more questions. But we blew away an hour and a half. It feels like 10 minutes,
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
dude. Nothing, nothing else is on my mind. Except for a lot of what you said, Tommy. Just the, there was like two or three just sick deep signals. Like one is obviously that you know, time will go fast if you don't like really own it and get the important things done. Your story with ripping off your shirt is like a, is a really big signal. I think that that's a huge one. I think that shooting for the top as fast as you can, your goal shapes your path. You know, it shapes your learning curve. So like just go for the ten or a hundred x goal cause it's going to reorganize your present. The future is a tool to reorganize your present. Obviously the people you surround yourself with. I love the story of you laughing with those friends, belly laughing. I think that you know, so critical, you know, and then just to the idea of the massive idea of the power law that like, you know, there's really only a few things that are going to make all the difference and so you might as well strip out all the noise and just like really go deep on those few things. Um, you know those are, those are just some, some massive biggies that I think are really fun ideas that we went, that we took some depth on and, and I'll just say to you man, just who you are. You know, I really like spending time with you and I know you've got a great audience and people who like spending time with you as well. And I really like where you've evolved and I like what you're up to and I'm excited for maybe the creation of either a new category for you that you've really helped those blue collar people or, and, or you know, you think from 4 billion and maybe get into some big distribution channels and figure out the way to do that. I mean, those things excite me a lot, you know?
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Tommy Mello
Yeah. No, I'm excited.
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
Our big upset, our big obsession is. Our big obsession is 10x in 3 years. And so I just. I get jonesed out thinking, how. How do. How do we get this thing to 4 billion in 3 years? And what are the distribution channels that do it? And who are the super who's right? Who are the few people that can help you do it? To me, that's just like, we could geek out on that forever. So I'm going to be thinking about distribution channels.
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Tommy Mello
Yeah. No, I love it, dude. We'll connect. Let's connect over the weekend. Hey, thanks, everybody, for listening.