Podcast Title: The HoneyDew with Ryan Sickler
Episode: 340: Steph Tolev Pleads the Filth
Release Date: June 30, 2025
Introduction and Promotion
Ryan Sickler welcomes back his guest, Steph Tolev, highlighting her return to the podcast and expressing excitement about her latest projects.
"Ladies and gentlemen, please welcome Steph to. Welcome back to the Honeydew."
00:27
Steph Tolev takes the opportunity to promote her new Netflix special, "Filth Queen", produced by All Things Comedy, featuring a cameo by Bill Burr.
"I have a special called Filth Queen out on Netflix right now. Please watch it. Please tell your friends."
01:38
Personal Physical Changes and Response
Steph candidly discusses her concerns about her physical changes, specifically her labia appearing longer, which has led her to consider a labiaplasty procedure.
"I feel like it's getting so much longer. It's actually really upsetting me."
03:04
She shares a humorous yet honest account of showing her sister her condition, receiving an unflattering reaction, and subsequently researching surgical options.
"I showed my sister it because she's peeking out of what?"
03:25
Online Bullying and Its Impact
A significant portion of the conversation delves into the relentless online bullying Steph faces, particularly targeting her nose and overall appearance. She articulates the emotional toll it takes, despite her confidence and the support from her boyfriend.
"The Internet is so mad about my nose. Every morning I wake up and there's a comment about how big my nose is."
08:12
Steph expresses frustration with the negative comments overshadowing the positive feedback she receives from fans.
"I'm trying to figure out a way to just people just don't read them. Ignore the comments."
43:18
Confrontation with High School Bully
One of the most impactful stories Steph shares is her experience confronting a high school bully during a live comedy show. She recounts how she invited her former bully, Joe, to redeem her past trauma by seeking an apology live on stage.
"I picked up the phone and I'm holding it to the mic. I go, hello? And he goes, if this isn't..."
26:19
Despite her fears, Joe apologizes, giving Steph the closure she sought after 20 years. However, the aftermath was complicated by Joe's brother threatening legal action, forcing Steph to navigate the situation with her lawyer.
"He was telling all his friends. They were all sharing it around."
27:17
Experiences with Online Dating
Steph shares cautionary tales about the dangers of online dating, including catfishing and meeting individuals with malicious intentions. She narrates instances where dates led to unsettling encounters, emphasizing the importance of thorough vetting before meeting someone in person.
"She's like, you're safe here. We think you're insane to come over."
47:20
Her stories highlight the potential risks involved in online dating and the necessity of taking precautions to ensure personal safety.
Current Relationship and Happiness
Amidst the challenges, Steph opens up about her relationship with Jefferson, a fellow comedian. She describes it as the first time she's felt truly happy and deeply connected with someone, contrasting it with her past relationships fraught with distrust and betrayal.
"This is the first time I've ever felt I've been so impressed with his talent. He's so funny."
58:57
Steph expresses both joy and a sense of vulnerability as she navigates this fulfilling relationship, which stands in stark contrast to her previous experiences.
Final Thoughts and Promotion
As the episode wraps up, Steph reiterates her promotion for "Filth Queen", encouraging listeners to watch and support her work. She also discusses her social media presence and the ongoing battle with online harassment, reinforcing her resilience and commitment to her craft.
"Watch my special Filth Queen, produced by All Things Comedy. Please watch it."
59:56
Ryan Sickler concludes the episode by thanking Steph for her openness and sharing her experiences, highlighting the importance of addressing personal struggles through storytelling and comedy.
Notable Quotes with Timestamps
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Steph Tolev on Online Bullying:
"Every morning I wake up and there's a comment how I'm so ugly every single day."
10:34 -
Steph Tolev on Confronting Her Bully:
"This is the one time that whole situation doesn't feel good about it."
34:11 -
Steph Tolev on Online Dating Cautions:
"You need to meet somebody in person, in a very public area."
49:18 -
Steph Tolev on Finding Happiness:
"I feel so good about someone for the first time."
59:08
Conclusion
Episode 340 of "The HoneyDew with Ryan Sickler" features an emotionally charged and candid conversation with Steph Tolev, who bravely shares her battles with online bullying, personal insecurities, and the complexities of online dating. Amidst these challenges, Steph celebrates her newfound happiness in a meaningful relationship, offering listeners both laughter and heartfelt insights into overcoming life's lowlights.
Timestamps Reference
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- 00:27: Ryan Sickler introduces Steph Tolev.
- 01:38: Steph promotes her Netflix special.
- 03:04: Steph discusses her labia concerns.
- 08:12: Steph talks about online bullying focused on her nose.
- 26:19: Steph begins recounting her confrontation with Joe.
- 27:17: Aftermath of the confrontation and legal threats.
- 43:18: Steph discusses strategies to ignore hateful comments.
- 47:20: Steph narrates a dangerous online dating experience.
- 58:57: Steph describes her relationship with Jefferson.
- 59:56: Final promotion of her Netflix special.
