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Julie Solomon
This is really the power of recognizing and healing the glass ceiling, so to speak, that can be holding you back right now. Because when you do, that's what opens the door to stepping into your full potential. And that's what actually allows you to start creating messaging and content that flows. Welcome to the Influencer podcast. I'm your host, Julie Solomon. If you found yourself here, it means you are ready to unleash the powerful visionary that lives inside you, turning you into an authentic leader who creates influence, impact, and change. Let's get started. Have you ever felt like there's something beneath the surface, an invisible weight that is just kind of keeping you from fully stepping into your power? Maybe it's a memory or some kind of story that you tell yourself, a womb that you've carried for years. Today, I am going to share a reflection of my own journey with trust, belonging, breaking through the glass ceiling of whatever's holding us back and how that relates to our business and our ability to be seen, to grow, to share, to raise our income. All of those things, because these realizations have not only shaped my growth, but they are absolutely directly tied to the challenges that so many of us face when we are stepping into our authority. And I know that so many of you have that authority piece on your brains and in your hearts. You come to me to talk about authority. You want help in growing your authority. You're looking for more ways to become visible so you can have more authority. So if you've ever struggled with feeling unseen, unsupported, or like you were just constantly over giving without receiving what you truly deserve, especially in your business and in your leadership, then this episode is for you. We're going to be exploring some of the things that are probably holding you back right now, how they're impacting your leadership, and most importantly, how to heal and move through them. We're going to talk about the stories that we carry, the subconscious beliefs that shape us, and the steps that we can take today to start rewriting those narratives. So if you're ready, then let's get started. So, to start, I want to share a couple of pivotal moments from my past that have shaped how I approach this idea and how those moments have at times also limited me, limited my business, limited my ability to scale without me even realizing it. So I'm going to take you back to a couple of instances. I remember there was a time in high school and I used to move constantly when I was younger. My mom was a single parent and I attended like seven schools in four years. So I was always one of the new girls. And that's already going to bring in a lot of feelings of, do I belong here? What's happening? And I remember when I started in my second high school, my sophomore year, there was a group of, like, older girls that were just horrible to me and my friends for no reason. That happens. We've all experienced something like that. But the thing was at that time is that I made it mean something about me, like I didn't know anybody there. It was humiliating. It was in the public, it was isolating. And I made that mean something about me. I made it mean that I couldn't trust certain people who wouldn't really give me the opportunity to get to know them. And I internalized this idea that I had to downplay and shield myself and not really be seen in order to survive socially. And so that meant building walls, staying maybe distant from others. Then there were, of course, other instances in my life, right? I remember in college, I was scapegoated for something that I didn't do. I was blamed by friends of mine for something. I felt abandoned. I felt betrayed by the very people that were my friends and that I trusted. And so, again, I made it mean something about me. And it was about realizing that even in the spaces where I belonging, I could be discarded. Now, when we're in those early stages of our life and those developmental years, we don't, a lot of times, have the tools. We don't have the tools to be aware. We don't have the tools to really see things in people and situations for what they are. And so it's so normal and natural to internalize those things. But the thing is, it's what sometimes we don't become aware of until we're much older, is how these moments shape how we navigate relationships, how we navigate friendships, how we navigate connections, how we navigate our business. And that was always, for a really long time, a part of me that kind of always kept my guard up. A part of me that would say, get close, but not too close. Protect yourself. You can't really fully trust the situation. You can't really fully trust people to get you. You can't really fully trust to reveal yourself to people and to not be judged. And so I learned to see this not as a flaw, but what was happening is that I was creating this coping mechanism, this protection that was, quote, unquote, keeping me safe for a long time. But here's what I've come to understand, and I've understood this in my own life. And I've understood this through incredible women that I have been able to coach in my programs and in my containers, because none of us are immune to any of this. And it is that these experiences, these didn't just impact my friendships at the time or my relationships at the time. They truly did impact how I showed up in my business and how I showed up in my ability to lead in my leadership. They created patterns of hyper independence where I felt like I had to do it all myself because I couldn't trust others to show up. For me, that need to control everything was less about competence and more about the fear. The fear of being let down again, the fear of being rejected, the fear of being misunderstood. And I'll give you another example that was kind of more recent. Several years ago, I had a coaching container with a group of women. And while many of them were aligned and they were achieving great results and they were high vibe and they were there for the right reasons, there were a couple women who just weren't happy. And that happens, right? We've all been there. But instead of focusing on the women that were thriving and doing my best to try to support the ones that weren't happy, I made that mean something about me. You see the cycle here. I told myself that I was someone that people didn't enjoy to be around, that people didn't enjoy to learn from, and it made me play smaller. I hesitated to fully step into my authority for a long time. I hesitated actually creating a mastermind. And I've talked about this on the podcast before. Like, people ask me, like, what is your biggest regret in business growth? And I always say, my biggest regret in business growth is that I didn't create these higher ticket coaching containers where I could really lead and serve women earlier. The reason why I didn't do that though, was because of this fear that people wouldn't sign up, that people wouldn't find the value in it, and that that would mean something about me.
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Unknown Speaker
If you are still listening to this podcast episode, it's probably because your social content isn't hitting the sales go that you know that you're capable of achieving. It just doesn't feel easy. You're likely frustrated because while sales are happening for you, they aren't growing at the level you know they could be. You see others in your niche skyrocketing and you're wondering why your sales aren't reflecting the brilliance that you bring to the table. And let's just be honest, not from a place of comparison, but from a place of clarity. You know you have more expertise than most people in your space. You know the transformation you provide is second to none. So why aren't more people buying your offers after consuming your content? 9 times out of 10 the problem isn't your pricing or your offer. It's a gap in your messaging. The way you communicate with your audience is the difference between ideal clients buying from you every single day and or your sales remaining static for months. The truth is, when you learn how to shift and refine your messaging, you'll have clients reaching out to work with you directly from the content you're already creating without needing constant sales calls, posting every day, or chasing after the next viral trend. This is exactly what I cover inside the Brand Accelerator, which you get lifetime access to, helping you turn your content into a magnet for your ideal clients so your sales can finally reflect the expertise and transformation you offer. Let's turn your messaging into a powerful sales and brand visibility tool.
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Julie Solomon
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Unknown Speaker
You can join me@juliesolomon.net TBA.
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Julie Solomon
And so this same fear also showed up in other ways of my business when I was growing. Like hiring help, avoiding delegation, even when I knew that it would help my business grow because I was so worried that others would not meet my standards or that they wouldn't follow through. I also hesitated for a very long time to share very vulnerable parts of my story in my content on my podcast when I had a blog, just fearing that I might be misunderstood or that I might be judged, which then held me back from really connecting to the ideal clients, connecting with those people that needed me, that were looking for me, that could actually get transformation from what it is that I could provide them. And it caused this disconnection with my audience on a deeper level. And so we can start to, when we really start to become aware, we can start to see and I'll just share from this my own story of what I'm sharing now. That these patterns weren't just wounded and past wounds. They were actually actively shaping how I ran my business. They were actively shaping how I created content. They were actively shaping how I was showing up or not showing up, should I say as a leader. And now that I've gotten to the other side of a lot of this, I'm going to be breaking some more of this down today. I've also noticed how these wounds show up in other women in the online space, especially high achievers like me and you. Maybe you find yourself over giving in relationships or maybe helping other people out, but feeling like the support Isn't mutual. Maybe you hesitate to step into quote unquote, bigger rooms because you fear rejection, because you fear not being good enough. Maybe like me, you used, or do use hyper independence as a shield, thinking, I don't need anybody. If I want this done right, I'm gonna have to do it myself. No one can help me when deep down that's exactly what you're craving. You're craving help, you're craving connection, you're craving support. These patterns are common, but that doesn't make them good because they're still deeply limiting. In fact, last week I was talking to one of my clients, Elizabeth, that recently had a breakthrough that ties into this. She realized that her day to day content was actually not reflecting A, her genius, B the specific transformation that she offers her ideal clients. And really like what it was that she offered, it was so like she was like, I just kind of did this self audit and I realized like, what I'm putting out there is not actually what I really do. It's like I'm watering it down to make it safer. So instead her messaging was safer, it was smaller, and it was shaped by very specific past experiences where her truth had been judged or misinterpreted. And so those situations caused Elizabeth to subconsciously dim her light, dim her content, dim her offers, which was then. It was like people were coming in, but she was like, it just doesn't feel aligned, it just doesn't feel right. And I don't want to sound ungrateful because I'm making sales and I have clients coming in and people are buying from me, but I know that there's something missing here. And so when she started to uncover this pattern, it was really a pivotal moment for her. Especially just last week on this call and we were talking about this, that by aligning her content with her true genius, which she knows what that is and with her offers, but most importantly with trusting her voice and trusting that the right people are going to find her. The more that she steps into that, she really just in herself started to see what was possible in this significant shift in how her audience would engage with her and the level of success that she could achieve. And this is really the power of recognizing and healing the glass ceiling, so to speak, that can be holding you back right now. Because when you do, that's what opens the door to stepping into your full potential. And that's what actually allows you to start creating messaging and content that flows. You can learn the strategies all day long and they are important. But if you don't first do this work of really getting honest with yourself about where you're playing small, where you're scared, where you're maybe letting fear drive the car, so to speak, then it's going to be harder for you to connect to that messaging and most importantly for your ideal clients to connect. Because these wounds, if you will, they. They create what I call a glass ceiling. In our business, it's not just about external success. It's about what is limiting us and really what are we placing on ourselves, whether we're conscious to it or not, that is limiting us. So for me, my glass ceiling that I had to shatter was tied to a belief that I had to prove my worth to belong. And I believe that if I wasn't constantly doing, constantly achieving, constantly giving, then I wouldn't be enough for people. And so this belief directly impacted my ability to scale my business and to show up fully in my messaging. I've been doing this for so long now that I can actually look back at my p. L statements all the way back to 2016, and I can see the years, which for me, it was around that 2018, 2019, 2020 mark that this shift started to change. And my income reflected. My income was a direct reflection of how willing I was to be seen and heard by other people. And then there's been times since then that like, I'm not perfect. It's not like I cracked the code and I. And I didn't have to ever go back there. There's layers to this, right? It's like an onion. There's been times since I didn't feel so confident, I didn't feel so worthy, I didn't feel so enough. And then would you know it, the revenue starts to go down. So it's fascinating when we start to realize the hesitation that we may have to take the bold steps in our messaging. The fear that we may have of being misunderstood, you know, the fear that we have of being judged or rejected and really how limited we will start to communicate or not communicate, I should say the transformation that we offer, it actually makes it harder. And it did for me back then. It made it harder for my ideal clients to actually find me and to truly connect with me in my work. There were times when I'd have a great income month and instead of fully celebrating that, right, I would be consumed by this fear that some other shoe was going to drop. I would be like, okay, I made the goal, I made the money. Now it's going to be taken away from me and this fear created a cycle where I unconsciously felt sabotaged myself, leading to lower revenue months the following month. And it was as though I just couldn't trust myself to sustain the success. I did not believe that I was ready or worthy of stepping into that next level, even though I wanted it so badly and I was working so dang hard for it. And this vicious cycle kept me small and it kept reinforcing that belief that my success was temporary. And the glass ceiling that I created couldn't be shattered because I kept holding myself back, truly too afraid of what real growth and sustainability might actually bring me, what safety may actually bring me, what financial security may actually bring me, what visibility may actually bring me. Because scaling a business, it requires us to trust that our message and really that who we are, what we bring to the table, will resonate so that we don't need to over prove our worth. When we allow ourselves to be truly seen and heard, we create this foundation of deeper connections with our audience that can't be shaken. And that in turn drives the growth. So breaking through the glass ceiling is about shifting from proving and scarce and fear to truly embodying and becoming who you're meant to be. And that's where leadership and authority come together to meet. And that's when the messaging can really start doing its work. Here's the thing. Breaking through that glass ceiling is not about doing more and it's not about hustling harder, even though sometimes it's actually easier to do that than do what you really need to do, which is heal the stories and the wounds that are keeping you stuck. It's about trusting that we are already worthy of being seen. We're worthy of being supported. We're worthy of celebrating those moments no matter how big or small you're making them without having to prove anything. And when I realized that my constant need to prove myself was tied to those earlier experiences of rejection and judgment, that's when everything began to shift for me. And I know many of you listening to this right now resonate with this. You may have struggled with the same patterns that I once did. You might even look successful on the outside, right? You've checked all the boxes, but you feel stuck on the inside. You could be tired of over giving in your content and your relationships and your business. Maybe you do want to be seen and recognized for your genius, but you're afraid of that rejection piece. And so right now, in this very moment, you hesitate to step into bigger opportunities. You hesitate to create that piece of content. You hesitate to fully share what is your truth. You hesitate to scale that offer to get it in front of the people that need it, because a part of you still questions if you're enough. And I've been there. And I also understand what it takes to break free from this cycle and truly step into your authority. And it happens to my clients as well. In their content, they find themselves playing it safe. And if they can't see it, then I see it. But they see it. They just don't want to admit it. It's like if you spot it, you got it right. Another way that this can can show up in your business right now is that you're most likely creating posts that feel very generic, they're overly polished. Instead of being bold, instead of deeply connecting to your true expertise, perhaps your offers lack clarity right now because you keep trying to appeal to everyone or to this idea or this type of group instead of leaning into the specific transformation that you provide. You're afraid that if you don't try to cast the net wide that you're going to lose something. And then when it comes to visibility, if you're having this issue, you're most likely probably holding back from sharing your story and stepping into your leadership role because you are so afraid of being judged, are being misinterpreted, which makes so much sense, but it's not real. And I understand how these behaviors can keep anyone stuck in the cycle of staying small, even when you know that you're capable of more. And so when I identified these patterns and took the steps to trust myself and took the steps to not only find my voice, but share my voice, that's when everything shifted. By aligning your messaging and your offers to your genius and just owning it. Like, if I have any of my Real Housewives fans out there, I used to love Lisa Rinna because she would always say, own it. Own it. And that's what the theme is for today. Like, own that message that you have to share. Own that brilliance that you have. Own that transformation that you can provide to someone, and own how that resonates powerfully with your ideal clients. This is how you open the door to bigger opportunities. This is how you open the door to greater success. This is how you open the door to get in front of those big players that you want to get in front of, to network at a higher level, to serve at a higher level. And I know that you're ready for it. If you weren't ready for it, you wouldn't be here. You wouldn't know who I was, you wouldn't be listening to my podcast. You wouldn't be following me. And these wounds, they don't just hold us back personally. They hold us back in our business. They keep us from fully owning and showing up in the ways that attract all that we're meant for in that bigger way. So really, the next stage of your journey is not just learning a new framework or a new strategy. It's about learning to let go of the need to prove or overcompensate. It's about stepping into that authority with confidence, knowing that you're already worthy of the opportunities that you're calling in because they're already there for you. So it was in that season of my life that I was able to reflect on these wounds, do the deeper healing work, asking myself those questions, really kind of starting to take an audit of how I was showing up online, how I was showing up in my coaching containers, getting help from people that I needed to get help from, aligning with coaches, mentors, whatever felt in alignment for me, I allowed myself to go there. And that's really how you start to blow that glass ceiling. And now I can confidently say that the work isn't just possible, but it's transformative. And again, it's not that it. It ever ends. There's always a next layer and a next level that we have to uncover. It is a journey, but it's one that, if you're courageous enough to step into, can literally change your life and in your business in a matter of days. And that's the one that I'm here to support my clients with. Because when we heal those parts of ourselves, when we stop over giving, when we step into the rooms that once felt intimidating and own it with confidence, when we call in those aligned relationships that feel reciprocal, when we trust ourselves to be seen and be supported and to be loved for exactly who we are, then that's when you're gonna be calling in those people that you're meant to serve. That's when they're gonna find you. The beauty of this work isn't just transforming our inner world. It's the ripple effects that happen in every area of our lives. And so if this resonates with you today, if you're feeling that pull to finally release, what's holding you back, to align all the strategy and the expertise that you have and the brilliance that you have with the true leadership and authority that you're wanting to call in, here's something very tangible that you can do today. I want you to take a moment to reflect on your current messaging, your current content. And I want you to ask yourself, is this fully aligned with the transformation that I'm here to create? If someone never heard of me today and plopped into this piece of content that I'm looking at, would they know clearly and fully what the transformation was and that who I am and what I bring to the table was fully aligned to support them in making that transformation? So that's the first piece. Second, I want you to ask yourself, am I showing up as the authority that I know that I am, or am I holding back a little bit? So I want you to write down one area where you are holding back once you kind of do that audit. And then I want you to commit to taking one bold step toward expressing your true genius this week. And if you really want to be accountable and really show the world that you're ready to own it, then you're going to share your reflection or that bold step on Instagram with me. Just tag me in that piece of content. I would love to cheer you on and I want to see what comes up for you and if you're ready to take this deeper. This is the work that I do in my high level coaching containers. And there's a few ways that we make that happen. One is my mastermind luminary. This is where we combined the transformational leadership work with the strategy so we create a space to step into our authority, to step into that next level of growth so we can actually lead those who are wanting us to lead them, while also also scaling the visibility and scaling the business. So that's one way if you're ready for a more tailored experience. That's the VIP sessions, my friends, because that's where we can dive in really fast and go deep. And those are designed to help you refine your messaging, to really structure that offer flow out to where every offer that you have, whether that's one or 10, they're speaking to each other, they're doing a lot of that visibility work for you and really making sure that your messaging and the way that you're speaking about yourself is really aligned with your authority and your genius to call in those that need you the most. And then of course we have the Brand accelerator, which is my online program that you can take yourself that's completely self paced, if that's your thing, to get the messaging frameworks to support you in stepping in to this next level of authority, because you don't have to do it all alone. And I would love to guide you through it. I'm here to guide you through it. That is my genius. That's what I do. That's how I show up and give back and create an impact and allow myself to be seen as a coach supporting so many women in doing this. So you can check out the links in the show notes if you're listening to this on the podcast to learn more. If you're listening to this on Instagram and you wanna learn more, just DME the word on Instagram support and we can chat about what may be the best avenue for you if you're ready to take that next step. But the most important piece to really take away from all of this is that the glass ceiling doesn't have to define us, but it can shape the way that we're currently showing up. So when we choose to start to crack that, we're going to give ourselves permission to belong, to trust, and to finally break through the ceiling that has kept us playing safe for too long. So I would love to hear what resonated most with you today. Feel free again to DM me on Instagram. Let me know what you're taking away from this conversation. You can check out the links in the show notes as well to learn more about how I work, how we can work together. And until next time, just remember, you are already worthy of being seen, being supported, being loved and leading exactly as you are. All right, my friends, I'll see you next week, same time, same place. Bye. As always, thank you so much for joining me today and every week here on the Influencer Podcast. If you're wanting to dive deeper into the topics and discussions that we have here, I would encourage you to head over to juliesolomon.net and sign up for my weekly newsletter. It is in our amazing newsletter community that we are able to really support you on a mission much larger scale. And I love to do a ton of amazing things that I send inside your inbox every single week. So just head over to juliesolomon.net you'll.
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Unknown Speaker
See a little spot there that you.
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Julie Solomon
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