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Welcome to Woman of Influence. I'm Julie Solomon, and this is where high level women come to recalibrate their message, realign their leadership, and rise into the next era of impact. If you're ready to align your visibility with your true authority, if you're called to speak, speak to women at the level you now lead. If you're ready for your business to feel as elevated as the woman running it, this is your space. Because real influence isn't built in the algorithm, it's embodied in your identity. Let's get started.
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Hello, my friends, and welcome back to another episode. Today's episode is going to be a little bit more intimate. We are doing solo Q and A, not from a box of DMs, but from the questions that I have gotten asked over and over and over again inside my coaching containers, through conversations that I've had with women that listen to this podcast and that I just know you're already holding in your body. And so these are the things that I have been talking about behind the scenes with clients, even with close friends and honestly, myself. So let's drop in. So a question that I get time and time again, especially with clients when they first come into my world, is how did I know when it was time to evolve my message or pivot, how I was showing up? And for me, this came really from lived experience. There was a season in my business where everything looked like it was working, but inside, something just felt off. Not broken, but just off. And I didn't know it then, but I was experiencing a very, I think, quiet form of burnout. I was still talking to a version of myself that I had long since outgrown. And I see this now in so many of my clients, too. And it's why I actually, through my own process of shedding this, developed what I now call the Identity Evolution framework. And it is essentially a way to recalibrate your message and offers to match your current identity, not your past sel. But that framework wasn't born from strategy. It was born from the embodiment of doing this, from watching the same pattern over and over, not only myself, but other brilliant women that I would work with just staying too long in a season that no longer fit, still serving the person that they used to be because they hadn't fully claimed who they are now. And what I've realized is that you can be conscious in your business and still lack total awareness. Awareness comes from presence, from stillness, from being willing to notice the pattern without rushing to fix it. So how do you know when it's time to evolve, when your body knows before your brain does. And that happens every single time. When the patterns repeat themselves, when what used to feel energizing now feels heavy. You don't need to burn your business down. You need to come back into resonance with your highest self. Not your future, not your former, but who you are now. The next question that I want to talk about is what has been my biggest leadership lesson this year? I mean, honestly, I think that it is realizing that the biggest reasons why so many brilliant women feel stuck, exhausted, or confused in their business really has nothing to do with strategy and everything to do with identity. And my biggest leadership lesson this year has been this. It is now my sacred responsibility to lead from and call women into their highest self. Not their future self, not their past self, not their former self, but the woman they already are underneath the proving, performing, are polishing. And what I've learned, and really I've learned this, I should say, not just through leading clients inside the revenue accelerator, but really watching myself and watching how these clients recalibrate. There was a time when I was still showing up from the identity that I had already outgrown, and it looked like success. But the truth is, if your message is still built around the survival version of you, the one who had to earn it, educate through it, explain herself, just to feel credible, that version cannot carry your next level. It won't attract the women that you're actually meant to serve. So I now teach, and that has been the biggest lesson for me this year, is a full recalibration method for just this. But let me say this here because it's super important. When your content, your offers, and your voice are rooted into who you were, you will always feel behind. But when you realign everything to the woman you are now, that is when you become magnetic. And this is the shift that must happen as you grow and evolve, because you don't need another launch plan. You need your message, your offers, the women that you serve to mirror the power you've already stepped into. That's the leadership I'm here for. That's the leadership that my clients are here for, and that's the woman that I'm here to serve. The next question, and I love this question too, is, how do you stay connected to your partner while running a business? Now, I've talked a lot about this with a few close friends of mine about how marriage and business requirements the same thing, respect for identity. And one of the things that I think I've helped expand one friend in particular into is that healthy partnership isn't about merging into each other. It's about championing each other's individuality. My husband has his own business, his own world, and we go through seasons. Sometimes his work is front and center, sometimes mine is that obviously will dictate the dynamic of parenting. But we hold each other to the same question every day. And that really is are you living on purpose today? Are you honoring what God put you here to do? That's the foundation. And practically speaking, we stay connected through presence, through prayer, through respect and integrity, and through those micro moments of just checking in with each other, through choosing each other, even when I don't want to, even when life is loud. But I really think that it starts with that mutual respect and a shared vision that's bigger than either of us individually. And that's why your spiritual practice is your leadership. Your business in relation to your partner cannot be ships in the night. You have to care enough to have those moments of check in, of seeing one another, of holding space, because that's where the mutual respect truly lies.
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Next question. And I think I've gotten this one for years, but that is do you believe in balance? Absolutely not. At least not in the way that it's typically defined. I don't believe in balance, especially like work life balance, but I do believe in rhythms. And that's really why I think I have been able after being a mom of one for 12 years, but a mom of two, I don't experience mom guilt because I really have done the inner work that is required to dismantle the belief that I need to choose between motherhood and ambition and that I need to somehow be magically balanced. I've talked about this before on this podcast, but I do truly believe that being a present loving mother and being a visionary businesswoman are not in conflict. And I think that our society has this really messed up and construed idea around kind of glorifying mom guilt and mom shame. And it's kind of this way that moms can also relate to each other, which I also think can be very toxic. And I think the more that we can really root into, maybe why we're looking for companionship or relatability in that way instead of really rooting into. I may not be able to have it all at once, but I can have it all in different seasons if I follow the rhythms. That's going to get you closer to where you want to be. Some weeks I lead the home. Some weeks I lead the business every day. I'm always there for my children, but the rhythm is always mine as it needs to be, day in and day out. And the rhythm's always different. There are moments of the day that are going to require different rhythms based on the needs of my children, the needs of my partner, of my husband and my needs. And I can no longer outsource that rhythm to someone else's idea of balance that is wrapped up in this, you know, curated and glorified idea around guilt that's never made sense to me. I don't know how mom guilt is going to somehow make me a better mother. I haven't figured that out yet, so I just don't relate to that. But I do relate to the necessary rhythm and just letting yourself off the hook when it comes to to balance, because I don't think that it exists if you are really showing up fully as a Wife, as a mother and as a business leader. It just, you can't do all at once. It just is what it is. Next question. How has your relationship with your body evolved? Oh, I mean, I'm 41 years old, so like so much I, I used to treat my body like some kind of brand extension. Like she needed to look a certain way in order for me to be taken seriously or to feel seen. I've had so many issues with my body image over the years. I mean, I used to do just really toxic stuff in my 20s with food, with my relationship with food. I love sugar, I'll say a bit of a, I'm saying that loosely, but sugar addiction. And in my 20s, this is a food disorder. I would eat donuts or some kind of cookies or some kind of sweet thing that I shouldn't be eating, but instead of swallowing it, I would like spit it out. It was like my twisted way of letting me consume this thing. And man, it took a lot of work in my 30s around my self worth and my self image and why so much of my self worth and my self image was tied to my body. But I will say, having given birth to both of my children, one, being a home birthday really allowed a coming home for me with my body and really understanding even the tacticals of hormones and how that's playing a role in my body. Incorporating hormone replacement therapy when I turned 40, incorporating workouts that actually worked for me. I'm no longer do the high intensity trainings, they just don't work for me. I'm a pilates girl. And just honoring that because in the past, in my 20s and in my early 30s, I would force these really aggressive work workouts that just didn't work for me. And really listening to my body, being in tune with my body, listening to what my body wants to eat, reprogramming my thoughts and my beliefs around food and how that shaped a very toxic relationship that I had with my body, allowed me to change the relationship with my strength, levels of inflammation that I used to carry, nervous system regulation. But more than that, it changed how safe I feel inside of myself. Because that is what my highest self wants. My highest self is no longer afraid to be seen. My highest self is no longer ashamed of feeling good in her body, of honoring her body, of giving praise to her body. My body is the temple and I honor that now in a way that I just didn't know how to do in my 20s. And I think that I've let myself off the hook with that.
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But that has affected everything.
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It's affected my photo shoots, my podcasts, my visibility, my work. Compared to 10 years ago, like, are you kidding? I don't second guess as much. I don't perform approval. I don't care in that way because I care in the real way and I feel like me. And that's made all the difference.
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You know the moment right before launching something new when all the what ifs hit you at once. What if it doesn't sell? What if no one buys? What if this was a mistake? I have heard those same fears, not only in the businesses of so many women that I work with, but of course in my business too. And specifically for my clients and my listeners that are building physical product brands. Those doubts are very real. And that is why I always recommend starting with a platform that just makes everything feel easier and more possible. Shopify is the commerce platform behind millions of businesses around the world and 10% of all e commerce in the US from household names to brands just getting started, you don't get to that place unless what you do is really, really good. It gives you everything that you need to build your online store. From beautiful templates to built in AI tools for product descriptions and headlines. Even a marketing engine that helps you reach your dream buyers. So if you're asking yourself what if this actually works? This is your sign. Sign up for your $1 per month trial and start selling today@shopify.com influencer. That's shopify.com influencer. Go to shopify.com influencer and make your next move with Shopify. I know for so many of us that are growing and scaling our online brands and businesses, having an all in one marketing tool is the exact platform that we need to just to take the weight off. And that is why I love Brevo. Brevo is an all in one marketing and CRM tool that helps you simplify communication with your audience. So this is everything that you need from email to automations to sms, even a built in CRM all in one place. It is designed to help you connect better and to sell smarter without needing 15,000 different tools. I think we all like that. Their AI assistant Aura truly is a standout because it will suggest content, it optimizes your send times without you having to guess what that is. It even tracks performance so that you can pivot in real time. So it's kind of like having a strategist in your back pocket. Get started for free today or you can use code woman50 to save 50% on a starter and standard plans for the first three months of an annual subscription. Just head to brevo.com woman that's www.B-R-E-V-O.com woman. And take your marketing further with Brevo and Aura.
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So the next question, and this is a good one, is, what does your relationship with God look like right now? This is a beautiful question. Faith has always been my anchor, even when I didn't realize it. For context of my background, I was raised in a Christian home. I went to church, learned the language, and though my practice with that has evolved, my connection to God never left. Even in seasons of confusion or loss or reinvention, I never felt truly alone. I always knew that there was something far greater than me that was guiding me. And if I could just be still and listen and just ask God to show me and guide me and reveal to me the next steps, I would be okay. Because I always knew that there was something greater holding me. And I do give my upbringing all of the credit for that. I. I give the fact that I just learned to believe in that unwavering faith at a young age. And only recently have I realized that it's kind of my secret superpower. That clarity, that trust, that grounding in something eternal for me, not for everybody, but for me. And I've loved seeing faith become more visible again. I was just cracking up with a friend of mine. I was like, God is cool again. It's cool to praise God again. On social media, you see it more and more. Not in a performative way, but I think in a real, embodied way. I think people aren't afraid to use the word God anymore. And I think that matters because we're all searching for meaning. We're all searching for something bigger than ourselves. And I believe that the clarity that I can now offer to my clients and to the way that I lead and the resonance that I hold, it's all from that source. And the more that I own that and then I claim it for me, I don't have to force that onto anyone because it's not about anybody else.
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My relationship with God is a sacred one.
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But the more that I own that, for me, the better off that I am. Okay, next question. How do you protect your energy and relationships while staying soft and open? This is such a good question, because this has been one of my biggest edges. This has been spiritual sandpaper, if you will, for me for like, a decade, especially in relationships, because I have had pretty much not just seasons, but pretty much my whole life. I have Been somebody that has been codependent, over, gave people pleased, did what I needed to do, wore the mask that I needed to wear to make myself more palatable for people. And thank God, in my 30s I started to really work through that, through therapy, through self help support, through recovery programs. I mean, just really working through my stinking thinking and playing the soft landing, being the mirror, being the unlock. And what all of that work helped me see was that even when I went from one extreme to the other,
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that was still a mask, it was
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still kind of this mechanism and I was still trying to earn my place in a dynamic. And through my process of healing and learning and knowing better, so I do better. I've learned to hold my boundaries without hardening, and to lead without leaking, and to love deeply, but only when and where that reciprocity can flow both ways. And I'm no longer here to be the source for people who aren't sourcing themselves first. I think that that is the key, that you've got to be self sourced, you' got to be self led, you've got to be self trusted. You know, my personal belief is, is believing in something greater than yourself helps with that. But that discernment for me, it saved my energy, it's made my visibility cleaner, it's made my message clearer, and it's made my relationships and my dynamics and my marriage and my friendships and all of that more true. And that is something that I don't think that you can teach. I think that you have to go through the mess to figure that out. I think that you have to go through your own calibration of what you don't want when it comes to relationships and identity and what energy is to you and how you protect that and where your boundaries are to figure that out for yourself. But that has been the biggest learning for me is those different layers of how do I protect my energy and relationships while staying open, while loving with detachment, while not taking things so personally because man is that hard to do. And sometimes it's okay to be judgmental. That's another thing that I really learned about protecting my energy and relationships. I used to be really hard on myself for judging certain people, places and things and dynamics. And what I learned is that sometimes a judgment is really just your spirit and your soul allowing for discernment to come in. It's a more sharp observation that your soul is giving you in this moment so you can make a more discerned decision about this certain instance person, energy, dynamic that you're in. And when I. When I started to let myself off of the hook for those feelings that I would have and not be so hard on myself for saying, you know what? This doesn't smell right. This doesn't look right, this doesn't feel right. And really honoring that, that I was able to not only feel more clean and clear to myself, but to also feel more clean and clear to the people that mattered most in my life. And I was able to deepen those relationships far more than I was before when I kept kind of gaslighting myself out of what I was feeling to be true. All right, my friends, that was all of the questions. I hope that this conversation just met you in maybe an observed or quiet place inside. You know, the one that already knows, that already feels, that already desires more. I hope that it helped you realize that you are not alone in this journey of influence and impact and visibility. And if something landed, share it, tag me, DM me, let me know. And if you want a part two, if you want me to drop deeper into any of this more identity led work, we can absolutely keep that going. So until next time, if today's episode
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