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Woman of Influence
You've Already Outgrown the Version of You That Built This. Here's What's Actually Next.
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Foreign. Welcome to Woman of Influence. I'm Julie Solomon, and this is where high level women come to recalibrate their message, realign their leadership, and rise into.
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The next era of impact.
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If you're ready to align your visibility with your true authority, if you're called to speak to women at the level you now lead, if you're ready for your business to feel as elevated as the woman running it, this is your space. Because real influence isn't built in the algorithm, it's embodied in your identity. Let's get started. All right, friends, welcome back to what I am now calling the Bedroom Floor sessions of Woman of Influence podcast. I have spent the better part of this month doing podcast episodes on the floor of this bedroom. There is really no rhyme or reason as to why this is happening. I just felt like I needed to get out from behind my desk to root in and to tap in and to share these conversations with you. And I'm just a firm believer in shaking things up. And I know I've said this before on the podcast, but I believe in this idea of different place and different pace gives you a different perspective, even if that place is just a 30 inch move from a desk to a bedroom floor. And I think it's also a great reminder for me too that things don't have to always be quote, unquote perfect to have a great outcome. That was one of the intentions that I set for this new year, in this year of harvest that I am calling in that 80% good is better than 0% not started because I was striving for perfection. And as someone that has been running this podcast since 2017 and has released an episode every Wednesday since 2017, and to still have been able to do it not in some fancy studio, not with some built out studio in my home yet, but literally always behind a mic in some kind of room, coming to you every single week just really shows how powerful something can be when our intentions and our purpose is driven behind it. And even though I have big visions for building out just a really small but mighty podcast studio and in my house where we've been going through renovations for almost since last May, so almost nine months. And by the time that this podcast airs, we should be in the house, hopefully I've just been able to be adaptable during this process and I think that that is really one of the most important pieces to growth. And this podcast will air around the last week ish of January. And so if you're listening to this episode in January, I just want you to hear me clearly with this, you do not need to sprint into the new year. You do not need to prove January. You do not need to panic plan. You do not need to aggressively map out your entire year in a week like your life depends on it. You don't have to have the perfect setup or the perfect studio or the perfect launch or whatever thing that you're making up and telling yourself that you need in order to make something great. Because most women don't enter the new year with a strategy problem. Most women enter the new year with a nervous system dysregulation. They are already tired, already behind in their mind, quote, unquote, whatever. You're comparing being behind to already measuring yourself up against what you think is missing, already comparing, already consuming, already scrolling, already not doing the thing because it's not how you thought it should be. And then they wonder, wonder why they can't hear their own heart, they can't hear their own clarity, they can't hear God's wisdom coming through. And so today on the bedroom floor and perfectly coming to you, I want to talk about what I believe is really the most overlooked leadership skill for high level women in 2026. And it's not discipline, it's not consistency, it is not hustle, and it is definitely not having the most curated and perfect plan to what you're doing. It is literally the ability to pause without spiraling. It is the ability to be still without making stillness mean that you're failing or that something is wrong with you. Because the pause and the power of the pause is not passive. The pause, from my experience, is preparatory. It is preparing you for what is next. And if you don't learn how to intentionally slow down, to intentionally give yourself the time and the space and the clarity that is needed for that pause to come through, even if that means you're doing podcast episodes on the floor of your bedroom, your nervous system will eventually force it later. And that is not meant to be a threat to any of us. That is just reality. And from my experience, January has this sneaky way of making you forget everything that you did last year. Like, if you're anything like me, anything like my clients, it's like the calendar flips and suddenly your brain just goes straight to what's missing, what didn't happen, what still needs to be fixed, what isn't clear, what still isn't working. And I just, I want to name the thing. I want to name something that I see constantly with high achieving women. And that is the more that you Stay plugged in. The more you become a gap thinker. Now, if you've ever read that book, I can't remember who wrote it, but it's called like the Gap and the gain, or the Gain and the Gap. I'll put a link in the show notes for you guys. But essentially, I learned about this idea from this book. I read it many years ago. But when you're a gap thinker, what happens in those moments when you're measuring everything against what you think is missing the gap? Right? You cannot feel gratitude, you cannot feel contentment, you cannot feel momentum, because you're always just staring at the distance between you and the next milestone. And it's not to say that goals are bad. It's not to say that measuring how far we've come to where we want to be is bad. It's just that a lot of women are measuring their lives with a ruler that was never meant to measure their actual progress, their actual success. And that's the thing. Most women are not behind. They're just measuring with the wrong ruler. And you cannot build a powerful year from some distorted measuring stick. So if you have gone through January and those old patterns are starting to creep up, you're already feeling anxious, you're already feeling like you're behind. You're already feeling like you're not enough. You're already feeling all of the things I want you to just consider that maybe, maybe you don't need another plan for 2026. Maybe you just need a new ruler. You just need a new lens, a new way of looking at something. And I said something recently that I'm going to say again. I think I said it on a podcast a couple of weeks ago because it really matters. And that is most people miss contentment in their lives because they don't practice gratitude. And gratitude is not just this nice spiritual or mindset concept. Gratitude is not a journal prompt. Gratitude is a literal discipline and leadership. Because if you don't practice gratitude, you will automatically practice comparison, because something's got to come in to fill that space. So if it's not gratitude, whether you're conscious to it or not, you will automatically start practicing comparison. And if you don't practice gratitude, you're going to automatically start practicing dissatisfaction. And if you don't practice gratitude, you are going to walk into this year already being reasonful about what you already have, because you keep measuring it up against what you think that you should, should have right now, that you don't. And I just don't believe that it is great stewardship. And I've talked a lot about stewardship on this podcast. It is not great stewardship to complain about what God has already given you, about how far you've already come, about the work that you have already put in place. And I think that so many women get so hung up and so confused about this idea as it relates to their own happiness and contentment. They think that happiness is just out there somewhere. They think happiness comes with the next launch, or the next number, or the next level, or the next house, or the next team member, or the next podcast studio, or the next thing. But here's what I've learned. Happiness is wanting what you already have. Not because you're settling, not because you're shrinking, not because you're missing some kind of mark, but because you're actually present enough. You've paused to be present enough to experience your life as it is today.
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Especially for those of you who tune.
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So sometimes when I think about this, when I'm in one of those moments and one of those spins and I'm not feeling happy, I'm not feeling content, I'm not feeling the gratitude, I'm comparing myself. I'm just so focused on the gap. I have to remember that if I want to find that happiness, sometimes I have to look backwards. I have to look at what I've survived, I have to look at what I've built, I've had to look at what I've learned. I have to look at what God has carried me through. Because if you can't see the blessing that you're standing in, the next blessing is not going to feel enough either. And that's not because you're ungrateful, but it's because you have trained your nervous system to only feel safe when you are chasing something. And that is not leadership. Now, I do want to take this deeper, because one of the biggest patterns that I see in the women that I work with, and honestly, in myself at times, is this obsession with provision. We want the result, we want the outcome, we want the applause, we want the certainty, we want the visibility. But so many women don't know how to hold the actual process that gets you those things. And it's not their fault, because they don't know what they don't know. It becomes like this lack of awareness when you continue to focus only on the provision and you refuse to become the woman who can actually handle the process that it takes to actually get what you say it is that you want in life. And I'm not just talking about strategic process. I'm talking about spiritual process. I'm talking about that leadership process. I'm talking about identity process. I'm talking about the internal capacity that it actually takes to hold the very thing that you're asking God for. Because if you don't know how to hold the process, not only will the provision never come, it will completely and utterly overwhelm you. And some of you have already experienced this. You've actually gotten what you've wanted. But guess what? It came with a heaping amount of anxiety. It came with pressure or resentment or exhaustion or disconnection. And not because the blessing was wrong, but because your identity was not prepared to hold it. Oh, and that, my friends, is why the pause matters so much. Because the pause, that's where the identity process actually begins. That is where you learn how to nurture and mature yourself into the very thing that you say that you want now I'm going to share something now that I haven't actually shared publicly before. And I want to share it because it directly connects to why I'm entering this new year of 2026 so differently. This is why I'm calling it my year of harvest. In the past, like, I've had many different years. I've had words for years, freedom and power and love and acceptance and all of this. But this year of harvest for me is just. It's landing so potently and so differently. And one of the reasons why is that last year I got invited to go to on site. If you don't know what it is, you can look it up. But it was this beautiful experience that literally landed on my lap. I wasn't expecting it. It was not on my bingo card for 2025, but I got an invitation to go. And in thinking that it would be beautiful and supportive and all of those great things, but I had no idea that it was going to reorganize me so profoundly that I would actually be leaving that place four days later as a completely different and integrated person. It was like it fast tracked my identity process to elevate to that next level so quickly. And to be honest with you, I mean, this was back in October, so a little over two months ago. And I'm still processing pieces of it. But I will tell you, for me, one of the biggest moments is that I remembered this series of events between the ages of when I was about 4 to 7 years old. And it was a series of events that came from family loss, confusion, rupture, death, divorce. Just a disconnection of so many things that my foundation literally shattered. And what came out of me in one of the processes when I was at on site going through their beautiful process was just this really raw and primal question that my younger self was asking that was like, where are the adults in the room? Like, where is my foundation? Where is my safety? And that's when I realized something that just hit me like a freaking freight train. And that was when I was that age. My parents were still so very young. My parents had me when they were in their late teens, early 20s. And so they weren't even adults in the way that their nervous system needed them to be, in a way that my nervous system needed them to be. And then my grandparents, the actual adults in my life, were gone, especially one that was a very important fixture in.
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My life at that time.
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And so little me was just trying to make sense of a world that did not make sense trying to feel safe in a situation that wasn't safe, and trying to understand things that no one knew how to explain to her. And the reason I'm telling you all of this isn't to to trauma dump, but it's because I realized something so profound when I was going through this remembrance and a bit of this ifs work that I was doing it on site. And it's that there are always parts of us that keep working, that keep striving, that keep controlling. Because somewhere inside, all we're trying to do is just create that safety that we couldn't get within ourselves at some point in our lives. And the healing from that doesn't soften the experience, but it makes you so much clearer. And so a lot of things happened at on site, a lot of really profound things that I wasn't expecting. But one of the things was just the clarity started to come in ways that honestly is hard for me to articulate because I didn't have this perfect plan and I had to get myself out of this control seat that I had been in for so long. And the biggest thing that has shifted for me since then is what it actually means to steward my business and how important pausing is in that, not to own what it is that I say that I want, what it is that I say that I want to bring into this new year with some kind of clenched fist, but to truly steward it and just to stop acting like I have to be the one who figures everything out and to stop acting like I have to be the one with all the answers and to stop making my identity dependent on results and outcomes and numbers. And what I've noticed since making these changes, and again, like, these haven't been these huge 180 degree shifts. These have been just like these 2 degree shifts, but these 2 degree shifts and changes, especially after on site, it's that when you're doing this right and what I mean by this, when you're really doing the work of leadership and of stewarding your business right, and of showing up and of truly being of service, which is really what entrepreneurship is at the core of it, the work will always feel lighter. And it doesn't mean that you don't have seasons of hustle or seasons of grind or seasons of hardship, but it will start to feel lighter. The conversations with clients feel deeper. They feel richer, they feel cleaner. The conversations that you're not meant to have with clients just start to literally disappear. Little clients that you're not meant to serve anymore start like the universe just does this beautiful thing of like removing them out of your way. And even on the fullest of days, days that used to just leave me very depleted, I still feel tapped in, tuned in and replenished because I'm not pushing that boulder up the hill anymore. I'm listening, I'm pausing, I'm responding, and I'm focusing on the gains because I know that I'm being led. I'm not trying to lead myself anymore. And to me that really is what stewardship and really stewarding your 2026. Coming into this new year with this idea of stewardship so that you can harvest is just, it's trusting God with the outcome, why you stay so obedient to whatever your assignment is. And that's it. Like, that's the whole thing. That's what 2026 really is about. That's how you make harvest happen.
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This time of year. Let me tell you, it just always feels like a clean slate to me. And while you know, I don't run.
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A physical product based business, I know so many of you do.
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And if 2026 is the year you finally launch the brand or scale the shop that you've been dreaming about, Shopify.
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Is where I would start.
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I want to just share another truth with you that I've been sitting with. And, and this one's, this one's pretty honest. Someone asked me recently, they were like, what would people be surprised to know about you? And I, I gave guys, I gave the most boring answer. I was like, I'm a private person. And even though that's true, there are things about my life that are very private that aren't up for public consumption that you'll never see on an Instagram reel or even hear about here on this podcast. But what I wish I would have said is that I have learned that it is not my job through pausing through this Stewardship. I have learned that it is not my job to build an online business that is centered around sisterhood and community. And I want to be clear about what I mean by that, because do those things naturally happen in my containers? Abso freaking lutely. Because my clients are incredible women. And if I have clients that are seeking that sense of community, that sense of sisterhood, that sense of belonging, it will absolutely happen. But there were so many years that I used to try to force making that this core basis of my business, and I would try to force myself into that role, and everything would just feel so heavy. And for years, I made that mean that something was wrong with me, that I wasn't compassionate enough, or that I needed to try harder, or that I needed to be different, or that that's how everybody else builds online containers, and I just need to force through it. But the truth is, my stewardship and my design has always been clear. If I gave myself the pause in the space long enough to listen to it, and that is that. My job, at the end of the day, as a steward of my work, is to help women become women of influence. Period. That is it. My job is to help women speak what needs to be spoken with certainty, with confidence, with conviction. My job is to activate the voice that has been trapped under their perfectionism, their comparison, their overthinking, their performance, all of that mess. And then, yes, the way that I do that tactically is messaging and positioning and helping women build a business that can actually hold all of that power. But my lane of support is not being the source of everything that they need. It is not being everything for everyone. And the moment that I finally accepted that, the moment that I stopped gaslighting myself, the work got lighter, the impact got stronger, the business got cleaner, and women were actually able to find their own sense of community and sisterhood and belonging within the containers, because I wasn't trying to force something that wasn't my lane. And the moment that I stopped gaslighting myself, the moment my work became more powerful, and that is what I want for you this year. That is what I want for all of the women that I'm serving this year. And I've seen it so many times. I have so many different beautiful types of women that come through my rooms with all different types of. Of geniuses, right? I've got women that it is their genius to cultivate sisterhood and belonging in communities and containers. Then I have women that their genius is a little bit more tactical and strategic. And it's to help women create systems and processes that help them grow in scale. And then I have other women that, that their, their genius is organization and helping women reclaim their power by decluttering all the noise around them that isn't serving them and isn't getting them to where they're going. But my job, my goal for you this year is to help you truly activate what that is for you. And because I know that some of you are so exhausted, not because you're doing too much, but because you're trying to force an outcome or to try to be someone that you're just not. You're trying to say to your ideal audience that you can help them with all of these things, when maybe only one or two of those things are actually the genius that is going to supercharge you to the next place. And so this is really about giving yourself the permission to cut out the bullshit, to cut out the noise, to cut out the clutter, and to allow what your true voice is to finally crack open and come through. Each and every one of us is going to be designed differently. But I'm telling you, when I just, finally, just accepted that of like, oh, I'm not meant to be the systems person and the community builder person and the mindset person and the this, but, like, I am meant to be the identity recalibration and the voice activation through messaging and positioning person. That is my wheelhouse. And I want to talk about something delicate with this, because I think when you start evolving, when you start to really pause enough to feel whatever this is for you, when you start stepping into that deeper leadership and what you know to be true becomes so clear and so loud that you can't avoid it. You start actually seeing people differently. You start noticing motives and patterns and energy, and you start to realize that someone's greatest strength, even your own, can also be your greatest defect. And some people's greatest strength is being a hustler. And that's great. And hustling can build a lot. But there's a shadow side to hustling, and there's a shadow side to a lot of it. But I've wrestled with this question of, like, when I see something in someone's energy, is it my job to do anything about that? And, and how, and how does that connect to the work that I am putting out into the world? And that's really where I think the discernment comes in. That, again, you can only get when you're in the pause. Because discernment is not drama. Discernment is Truly leadership without control. And when you allow that discernment to come in, you get so clear on which lane you're in, who you're meant to be serving in this new identity elevation, that you're in, what you actually need in order to support you to that stage. And so, again, if you find yourself walking into this year already trying to control outcomes and control people and to control perception and try to do it all, you're going to feel exhausted before we even get to February. And I think that it's just so important, and I think it's something that. That we have to remember as we're coming into this year of harvest, that we cannot be attached to outcomes the way that we used to be. Had to let go of the attachment of, like, being everything to everyone. I had to let go of the attachment of feeling like something outside of me was going to save me from myself. I had to let go of the attachment that all it was going to take is just one next launch or one next number or one next thing for me to finally feel that happiness. But that's just not the case. I'm very clear that I want to be visible. And it's not for vanity and it's not for applause, but it's because I believe that God put me on this planet at this specific time to be a vessel through my voice. And I believe that God also put you here to be a vessel through your voice. And whatever way that that is for you. For me, my voice is my assignment. And I've had to be honest with myself about that because visibility supports the mission that I've been given. And so if you're unclear on why you want something, it will always come with resistance and chaos and wanting to control. But when you give yourself that power of the pause, when you give yourself the opportunity to steward what is yours, when you give yourself the permission to finally let your true, authentic voice speak, when your desire is clean, when your intention to what you do is aligned, when it's truly connected to the purpose that you're meant to have, not someone else's purpose, not someone else's genius, but yours, then your job is to honestly stop playing it safe and stop playing it cool and start leading from that place of conviction. Because I know that some of you, you are praying that 2026 is going to give you that bigger platform. It's going to give you that. That opportunity to share your voice, but you're still secretly judging the very thing that could give it to you, and that is your own sovereignty and your own stewardship. So let's not do that this year. I don't think it worked for us last year or the year before or the year before. So here's what I want you to take into the rest of the time that we have in January. This new year doesn't require you to sprint. It just requires you to see clearly. And that clarity is not going to come from noise or from trying to be everything to everyone, or from your next launch. It's going to come from space and pause and gratitude and gain thinking and stewardship. And it's going to come from just being willing to hold the process and all of the messy middle that comes with that before the provision comes. It comes from being honest about who you are and what your genius is and what it's not. So if you are feeling itchy already into January, if you're feeling impatient, if you're feeling like things should be happening cleaner or clearer or faster for you, just remember you're not behind. I promise you, you are being prepared. And your next level isn't waiting for more effort. It's waiting for your power to come through in the pause. So with that, I love you. I'm proud of you. I'm just realizing I'm looking now at the screen, like the amount of light that has been coming in during this episode. I think that we did tap into something really powerful. So if you're watching this, you've probably been seeing this huge, like, orb of light coming through. And I don't think that that was by accident. So I'm excited for what this year is going to reveal to you. I'm excited for this year of harvest. I am excited for this year of stewardship. I am excited for this year of obedience. And I'm excited to just honor the moments of pause that are giving to us so we can recalibrate our voice and our identity in a way that it is needed to actually hold what it is that's coming next. So with that, my friends, I will see you next week, same time, same place.
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