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Algorithm, it's embodied in your identity. Let's get started. Hello my friends and welcome back to another episode of Woman of Influence. What a crazy past couple of weeks it has been in my world. I live in Nashville, Tennessee, as some of you probably know. And we just got hit with the largest ice storm to ever hit this city. I mean it has been a lot between just the destruction, honestly that it has done to this city. It's going to take a while for us to get back to whatever is normal. The amount of trees that have just been snapped apart, honestly, it's like what I would imagine a war zone to look like. It looks worse than tornado damage. It has just been so destructive here. The amount of homes the have been without power that are still without power. Upon this recording, we went seven days without power. I still have friends that are now going on day 10, 11, 12 without power. It is a lot. And so on top of that, when life lives, you know, I've got two kids, they can't go back to school because the school that we go to also had a massive pipe burst and a water leak and it messed up the whole H vac system. And so we're now going on two weeks of being out of school. And it's just been a lot, it's been a lot on the city. It's been a lot emotionally, it's been a lot. Just physically trying to maneuver the way of life and the way of living in the midst of all of this, in the middle of all of this too. I am about to have my in person retreat unscripted here in Nashville. Thank God that the location that we're having the retreat didn't get hit. It was a part of town that didn't seem see the severity of the damage that that ice storm left us. And so location is great. Everyone's able to safely come into town. We have the kickoff of the retreat this evening. Upon recording, it's our VIP dinner and I cannot wait to be in community with these women. It's been a long time coming. I haven't done an in person experience in over two years, and to be honest with you, I'm kind of nervous. Like, this is. It's stretching me. It's stretching my courage, it's stretching my self perm mission to be seen. I think that it's so easy for us, you know, just to sit behind these screens and to kind of look at our own reflections in the screen or maybe our virtual teams and just kind of live our life that way. But I knew, because it did make me nervous that I needed to do it and that it was time to be in real life, in community, with some incredible women. So we have 14amazing women that are coming together this week in Nashville. And so with all of the sadness and darkness and grief that has been surrounding this city for the last week and a half, to be able to have this retreat here and to really have something else to focus on is truly a gift and I'm really looking forward to it. And I'm just so grateful that I'm given the opportunity to do so. And so now we're here. And so with all of that, I also realized that it had been a couple weeks since I recorded a podcast and I wanted to drop in. I've had this topic that I want to talk about today, really on the docket for a while, and I had just a little bit of time today before I have to start getting ready for the retreat to record this. So I literally have my daughter in the room, she has her air pods on, her earplugs, earphones on, whatever they're called. And my son's out with my husband. And so I'm going to just hopefully take the next 20ish minutes for some quiet to drop in to this theme that I've been wanting to share with you all for a while because it's something that has come up a few times inside my revenue accelerator program, which is my high level coaching experience for female entrepreneurs that are really ready to uplevel the identity that is required to lead at their new level. And then of course, with that comes the messaging and the positioning that is also required to up level. And so one of those up levels, one of those topics that we've been talking about is breaking up with free advice and really the core identity shift that it takes in order to do that. And so when I think about this, when I think about the free advice, the freebies, the free offers, even podcasts like this, right, the identity shift that must happen to reframe this idea of when the quote unquote Free advice is actually useful and valuable to your community and really to the growth and evolution of your own business and leadership versus when it's not. And so we have to make this identity shift, going from being consumed to being invested in. And that is the core inflection point that I found my clients in, that they were coming to me saying, julie, I'm being consumed. But I don't see that translate at the level that it should be at being invested in. And of course, typically nine times out of 10, they think it's a messaging problem or a content problem or a visibility problem. And I'm like, okay, that's cute, but it's not. It's your identity shift challenge. It's where you and your identity and where you think your value is. You have to go from I'm valuable if I'm being consumed and if I'm giving free value versus I'm actually valuable if I'm being invested in. And so today we're going to have this conversation to really help you, as the listener or viewer of this conversation, elevate your own perspective of free advice and hopefully showing you that it is more than possible to go from this generous over giver, this invisible authority, to being a clear, paid and trusted leader. And I was even thinking about this during the ice storm that we just had and I saw that all of these tree trimming and tree cutting companies were coming in from multiple states. I saw license plates from Georgia, license plates from Texas, of course, here in Tennessee. I mean, they're everywhere. And it made me think of like, obviously this is a natural disaster and so these people are coming to be of service and we need all the helping hands that we can have in the city. Right now it's tens of thousands of trees that need to be cleared and removed. But none of us would expect any of these tree companies to just waltz into town and generously over give their services for free. We would expect them to come because they care and because this is a service that they can provide. But also knowing that we need what you have and we need it right now, and because of that, we value what you're bringing to the table and we will happily invest in that. And I think a lot of times it's really easy when we think about that reframe of like, yeah, that makes sense, they're coming to give a service. But a lot of times we don't think about that in terms of our own free advice. And so I want to talk about this. And it might sting a little and that is okay. But this idea that free advice might honestly be the very thing keeping you underpaid. And I get it, you love serving, you love generosity, you love being helpful. But somewhere along the way, if you're anything like some of my clients, free stopped being a strategy and it truly became your identity. And when people only know you for what you give away, they never learn what it costs to actually work with you. And that is huge.
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So I want to talk about why free is really more of a relationship and not a strategy. And I hope that you will start to kind of see it this way. When it comes to free content, what free content does is yes, it can create value, but what it does most of the time is it creates conditioning. Free content is a relationship. It's not a strategy, it's not a marketing tactic. Meaning when there is free content available, free advice available, what comes with that Is this condition of expectation. It's this condition of power dynamics. It's this condition of emotional contracts that can evolve. Free advice, if you're not careful with how you use it, is like being the friend that everyone trauma dumps on, but then they never ask how you're doing. And there was a season, at least for me, where I was deeply visible, but I was also deeply generous. And I was deeply loved because of that generosity. But I noticed that the more that I gave and the more that I gave and the more that I gave because I was treating freebies as a strategy and not a relationship, I started to get really quietly frustrated that all of the free, amazing, valuable content that I was creating wasn't translating into the volume of clients that the effort should have given. And it also wasn't translating into the right clients. I can't tell you how many years I spent filling up my email list with tens of thousands, hundreds of thousands of people who loved my free content but never planned on ever buying from me. In fact, I remember one time I had a woman that was showing up to all of my free content, right? My webinar trainings, my freebies, my lives, listening to my podcast episodes, downloading all of the free, valuable content that I shared. And I finally asked her one day, because this went on for a couple of years. I was like, why is it that you show up for everything for free and you get so much value from it? I know that you do because you're always writing to me, telling me how transformative it is. You've even cried to me before, but yet you won't invest in my services when I know that you could use them. And she gave me the most honest and direct and stingy, yet most amazing piece of feedback that I could have ever given. She said to me, well, Julie, why do I need to invest in you if you give me everything that I need for free? And that hit me like a ton of bricks, because that made me realize in that moment, I did not have a visibility problem. I had an expectation problem. I had the expectation that I was going to provide all of this amazing free value and that someone was just going to raise their hand and say, okay, I'm ready to work with you now. Does that happen? Sure. But it happens again when we focus on free content and free advice, being a relationship builder and not a strategy. And that is why, too, I think that the engagement that we get from free content is a bit of a dopamine trap, if you will. Engagement can feel like validation, but it's not always transformation. Engagement gives us the likes, the shares, the DM saying, oh my gosh, this helped me so much. Oh my gosh, you're so inspiring. Oh my gosh, this is so valuable. And if we're being really honest, what happens to our identity inside us is that we get that dopamine high. We get that feeling of being needed, of being liked, of being wanted, of being admired, of being seen as generous and wise. But then if we're not careful and if we're not using freebies as a relationship builder, and if we're trying to use them as some kind of strategic transaction, what comes after that high? What's the sugar crash, my friends? Because even though we may feel needed and admired and generous and wise in a short term, when we look at the cold hard facts, the numbers don't convert. And so we start over, giving even more, thinking that that's going to fix it. And then it doesn't. So then we start making that mean something about us. We start second guessing our own value. And that's why applause can feel like success. But applause is not the same as payment. And being clapped for is not the same as being chosen. So applause can feel like success until that rent is due, my friend. And when that rent is due, we can't pay it with applause.
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And so, something that I've been sharing with my clients that I want to give you a taste of today is that when we think about the free content, the free content, what it does for us is it creates that awareness and that's important. But it's the paid capacity, the paid work, the paid service that creates those identity shifts. Just like when the tree trimmers came and we paid them to clear out all of the trees on our yard, it created a shift in our yard and in our way of being and living that we needed at that moment. And so when you think about the free content, and I want to really help you reframe this correctly here, Free advice and free content, it can inform and it can inspire. But your free content will never rewire someone's identity. It will never rewire someone's buying behavior. It will never rewire their belief system in the value that you provide, even if they find it valuable. And this is why inside the work that I do in the Revenue accelerator, I walk every single one of my clients through the identity elevation framework, which is the three levels that our identities and that really our buyer's identities must elevate to in order for them to make a buying decision. You've got the former self, working self and highest self. And if we are not speaking to that highest self buyer in front of us, we are going to keep speaking to non buyers who are not going to buy our things, but they will download our freebies. So that's why that messaging principle is so important. And I have to walk my clients through that, not only for their own identity, but making sure that we're positioning our offers and speaking to only those highest self buyers. And really at the end of the day, a lot of free content out there because of just the way that people message and the way that people position, they're always speaking most of the time to non buyers, are most of the time to these former versions of their buyers, which aren't the versions of the people that are actually buying today. And a lot of times the free content that I see out in the world, it speaks to who your buyer used to be, not where she wants to go or who she's becoming. That's what the paid work speaks to. And that's really a moment that came for me when I realized when that woman said to me, julie, why do I need to invest in you? You get me everything that I need for free. That is when I really realized that information education, my how to content, me teaching someone something that wasn't the block and the more that I just tried to over educate or over teach or over inform to try to fix that block just made the block more blocking for me. So it wasn't that my ideal client needed more information from me. I needed to embody the value of what I brought to the table. And I also needed to embody and speak to the buyer who saw the value in that. And that's when I realized that truly owning the value of what the paid offer brought to the table and not putting so much emphasis on the freebie and the purpose of investing and the value of investing not only shifted the strategy of my free content and how I create free content. Because my free content now it's not how to content. I don't educate, I don't inform. I mirror, which is the mirror messaging that I teach women. I do mirror messaging and I speak to the highest identity of my most ideal buyer. And I make sure that they know three things. They know that I can lead them, they know that I am like them enough for them to trust that. And I make sure always that they realize that there is a path to follow. That's it. That's the only thing that free content should be doing. It should be telling your highest level ideal client those three things. Are you like me? Can you lead me? And is there a path that I can follow. So when it comes to the free content, it's going to help your ideal client recognize the problem, but it shouldn't solve the problem and it shouldn't over educate. The investment in the paid container is what makes you become the woman who solves that with them and for them. And also the investment of the client into you as the service provider, as the coach is what makes the client become the woman who solves it. And that is the most beautiful part, your client raising your hand and saying, no, I don't want a freebie. I want to invest in myself so that I can lead myself so that I can solve these problems. That's the identity shift. That's the relationship, that's the keys to the kingdom. And so when it comes to free advice and free content, you don't have to stop being generous. You just have to stop pretending that free is enough to get your ideal client to make a buying decision. Now to make this switch, you can have a clean breakup, right? You don't have to ghost, you don't have to withhold things, you don't have to become cold in the way that you show up and your positioning and your messaging. But the free advice needs to start to be repositioned as a direction. It's kind of like the free advice is a Google map, but you are a private driver. So do they want the Google map to try to get them there or do they want to be driven there? Free advice is what gives you the direction, but paid guidance gives you the precision. And that is what your ideal clients are looking for. And that's why when it comes to the investment, the payment into you and into your offers and services, it's not transactional, it's declarative. It's your ideal client saying I'm serious. It's your ideal client choosing speed over having to navigate their own Google Map themselves. It's your ideal client choosing that identity alignment. And furthermore, with most of our ideal clients out there, they're not broke and they're not confused. They've just been over consumed with so much free content, they don't know which way to go, they don't know which path to follow. And that's your job to show them. That's why the payment, the investment, isn't just a tool, it's a vote for who you're ready to become. And really, at the end of the day, when I think about breaking up with free content and breaking up with free advice, this isn't about making more money. It's about becoming more congruent. And what shifts for you when you do that, how your clients start to show up differently, the conversations go deeper, the content feels cleaner, the sales feel calmer. The free content that you do decide to create, it actually moves the needle for you. And this is where your identity starts to elevate. Because you go from being some free content performer to the authority in your field, from being the sweet over giving helper to the collaborator of your ideal client, from being visible and everywhere to actually being chosen. And the moment that you stop trying to be everything for everyone, guess what happens? The right people finally choose you. And that is a beautiful day, my friends. So if this stirred something in you, if this made you start to think about maybe how you're creating free content, if you felt the quiet resentment of over giving, over sharing, just know this isn't greed, this is really your integrity temp check. Now again, you don't need to stop giving free content. It's not what you do, it's how you do it. You don't need to give less. You just need to let free be what it is, which is a beginning, not the destination, not the end result. And furthermore, if I could leave you with anything, it is this. You don't monetize by giving more away. You monetize by being so clear about where the transformation actually begins and ends. And that is one of the kindest and clearest things that you can do for your ideal clients and one of the kindest and clearest things that you can do for your business. So if any of this really hit you, and maybe you're thinking, okay, this is something that I need support with, these are the types of work, the types of things that we do inside the revenue accelerator. It is not just a messaging program. It is not just a content program. This is about elevating your entire business ethos. And most importantly, this is about elevating who you need to be in order to actually reach the goals and the milestones and the levels of transformation that you are aiming for. Because it is not just about messaging, it is not just about positioning and it is not just about content. It is about who you have to be as a leader and who you have to show up for so that you actually attract that quality leader that wants to learn from you. And so if you're ever interested in learning about how we could work together, there's two ways to do that. There's an application link in the show notes that you can fill out and we will get back to you pretty immediately to talk about those options. Also, there is a live class that I am doing. I think by the time this episode airs it is today, February 11th at 11am Central. We're also going to put a link in there. If you haven't signed up for that free class, you can where you're going to learn more about my identity Elevation framework, more about my strategy, the way that I think about online business, online marketing, where that comes from, why that's important in this stage, and most importantly, who you need to be in order to be seen as more so. With that, my friends, thank you so much for being here. 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Episode: "Why Free Advice Is Keeping You Underpaid"
Date: February 11, 2026
Host: Julie Solomon
In this heartfelt and incisive solo episode, Julie Solomon explores a critical issue facing established women leaders, coaches, and entrepreneurs: the trap of giving away too much free advice and how it can quietly keep even the most brilliant women underpaid, underrecognized, and out of alignment with the next level of their business. Julie shares personal stories, client insights, and practical frameworks to help listeners reframe their approach to free content, break up with the identity of “over-giver,” and step into the role of a paid, recognized authority.
"It looks worse than tornado damage. It has just been so destructive here… It’s been a lot emotionally, it’s been a lot just physically trying to maneuver..." (01:00)
“I’m kind of nervous… It’s stretching my courage, it’s stretching my self-permission to be seen.” (03:40)
“They think it’s a messaging problem or a content problem or a visibility problem… [But] it’s your identity shift challenge.” (06:50)
“Free content does create value, but what it does most is creates conditioning... Free advice, if you’re not careful, is like being the friend everyone trauma dumps on but never asks how you’re doing.” (10:56)
“She said to me, ‘Julie, why do I need to invest in you if you give me everything that I need for free?’ And that hit me like a ton of bricks.” (13:00)
“Applause can feel like success until that rent is due, my friend. And when that rent is due, we can’t pay it with applause.” (14:50)
“Free advice and free content—it can inform and it can inspire. But your free content will never rewire someone’s identity. It’ll never rewire their buying behavior.” (18:25)
“My free content now... I don’t educate, I don’t inform. I mirror—which is the mirror messaging that I teach women.” (21:35)
Free content should only answer three questions for the highest-level ideal client:
Analogy: Free advice is the Google map, but paid guidance is the private driver.
“Free advice is what gives you the direction, but paid guidance gives you the precision.” (24:45)
“This isn’t about making more money. It’s about becoming more congruent.” (25:40)
“The moment you stop trying to be everything for everyone, guess what happens? The right people finally choose you. And that is a beautiful day, my friends.” (26:20)
On the Double-Edged Sword of Free
“When people only know you for what you give away, they never learn what it costs to actually work with you. And that is huge.” (07:58)
On the Dopamine Trap of Engagement
“Engagement gives us the likes, the shares, the DM saying, ‘Oh my gosh, this helped me so much’... But applause is not the same as payment. And being clapped for is not the same as being chosen.” (14:30)
On Setting Boundaries with Free Advice
“You don’t have to stop being generous. You just have to stop pretending that free is enough to get your ideal client to make a buying decision.” (24:00)
On Reframing the Purpose of Free Content
“Let free be what it is, which is a beginning, not the destination, not the end result.” (27:10)
On Leadership & Transformation
“You don’t monetize by giving more away. You monetize by being so clear about where the transformation actually begins and ends. And that is the kindest and clearest thing you can do for your ideal clients and for your business.” (27:32)
This episode is highly recommended for women who feel they are “known for their generosity but not for the value of their work” and are ready to realign their presence, elevate their positioning, and scale their legacy—on their own terms.