Monica Lewinsky Pt 3: How to Take Your Story, Your Power & Your Life Back Today, It’s Not Too Late!

Summary

The Jamie Kern Lima Show
Episode: Monica Lewinsky Pt 3 – How to Take Your Story, Your Power & Your Life Back Today, It’s Not Too Late!
Date: March 24, 2026

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Episode Overview

In this uplifting and deeply personal episode, Jamie Kern Lima welcomes Monica Lewinsky for the third part of their conversation series. They dive into themes of self-forgiveness, reclaiming your narrative, moving through shame, and embracing your power at every life stage. Monica provides honest insights into her own journey—public and private—while offering guiding wisdom on healing, acceptance, and building a meaningful life after difficulty.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Gifts of Self-Forgiveness and Acceptance

• Monica opens with an emphasis on the transformative power of forgiving oneself and embracing who you are:

  “Self forgiveness and self acceptance are the two greatest gifts you can give yourself.”
  (Monica Lewinsky, 00:05 / 04:45)

• Both Jamie and Monica discuss how acceptance is an ongoing process, especially as Monica reflects on turning 50 and feeling at peace with her journey and contributions to the world.
• Monica notes how her own “reclaiming” is an evolving process, both personally and professionally:

  “I feel like I’m a woman stepping into my own finally in a way of being able to contribute meaningfully to the world and be expressive creatively in different ways and really using more of my voice.”
  (Monica Lewinsky, 03:49)

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2. Reclaiming Your Power and Shifting the Narrative

• Jamie highlights how Monica’s experiences empower others to move through shame and create new stories for themselves, even when faced with hardship:

  “All of the resilience built and all of the things that you’ve gone through… that belief you’re gonna instill into other people, what’s possible for them, even if they’ve gone through something hard or have dealt with shame.”
  (Jamie Kern Lima, 06:10)

• Monica insists that reclaiming is already happening inside everyone:

  “I believe everybody already is. I think we are already all in the process at all times of myriad reclaimings.”
  (Monica Lewinsky, 26:45)

• Discusses reclaiming as a broad, flexible concept that includes forgiving, healing, creative expression, and rewriting the narrative after loss or pain.

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3. Relationships, Aging, and Personal Desires

• Monica candidly discusses her views on dating, choosing not to use dating apps, and being open to whatever comes:

  “It’s… I date, I go on dates… I’m very open to what the universe has in store. I don’t know, and we’ll see what happens.”
  (Monica Lewinsky, 07:40)

• On the subject of having children, Monica reflects on her journey with fertility and shifting desires with age:

  “I don’t. Some days. Some days I do, and some days I don’t. I have no idea how women like you… do what you do… It takes all of my energy to just show up and be me.”
  (Monica Lewinsky, 11:39)

• Both Monica and Jamie discuss the pressures and expectations around achieving certain milestones by certain ages, and making peace with wherever you are in your journey.

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4. Retreats, Books, and Public Work

• Monica shares behind-the-scenes thoughts about her “Reclaiming” podcast, how the idea was originally intended as a book, and her dream of sharing wisdom without pressure to promote:

  “Here’s my dream way of doing it would be writing something, self publishing… and I do no interviews. Because… you want to sort of put it all on the page… and then you have to go and give more and more and more and more and that’s the part that doesn’t appeal to me.”
  (Monica Lewinsky, 18:20)

• Jamie fantasizes about “Reclaiming” live events and the immense impact such collective healing work could have.

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5. The Power of Storytelling, Forgiveness, and Inspiration

• Jamie asks about the role of forgiveness in reclaiming:

  “Part of what really interested me and excited me about the concept was that it encompasses all of these other things that we focus on… value, loss, grief, healing, forgiveness, resilience, creativity.”
  (Monica Lewinsky, 27:24)

• She gives credit to the stories of women who inspire her—publicly and privately—emphasizing how she is “trying to see it everywhere” (Monica Lewinsky, 29:15).
• Laughter and joy are revealed as Monica’s most aspirational hopes for the future:

  “The answer that comes up is laughter… There is a power in laughter, that it's connecting. It's a high vibration… it would change the moment.”
  (Monica Lewinsky, 29:33 & 30:18)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “I’m just not giving up. The woman I’ll be a few years from now is counting on me. And the world shifted.”
  (Quote by Nakia Homer, cited by Jamie Kern Lima, 03:17)
• Jamie on Monica’s evolution:

  “It’s like still in this weird way, in its infancy where the seeds are all there and they’re sprouting now. And like, I see the forest coming.”
  (Jamie Kern Lima, 06:26)

• Monica on vulnerability and aging:

  “I’m very afraid of the vulnerability of old age. Very, very afraid of it… maybe because I don’t have kids.”
  (Monica Lewinsky, 08:27)

• Monica on the energy it takes just to show up as herself:

  “It takes all of my energy to just show up and be me… So I don’t know how you all do it.”
  (Monica Lewinsky, 11:41)

• Monica on boundaries and burnout:

  “Maybe I need to do more work on boundaries… so you don’t end up at the end of the day feeling, I don’t want to talk to a soul.”
  (Monica Lewinsky, 15:03)

• Monica on laughter as healing:

  “I don’t fucking wanna laugh. I’m not in the mood to laugh… She’d push me and then I would laugh, and it would change the moment.”
  (Monica Lewinsky, 30:18)

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• 00:05 – Monica opens with self-forgiveness and self-acceptance
• 03:17 – Jamie’s opening quote: “I’m just not giving up…”
• 03:49 – Monica on stepping into her power at 50 and beyond
• 07:08 – Would Monica run for office? (“No, never.”)
• 08:24 – Conversation about aging, vulnerability, and life without children
• 10:18 – Monica’s reflections on wanting a serious relationship and evolving desires
• 11:35 – Monica on the question of motherhood and gratitude for miracles in her life
• 14:21 – Monica candidly describes emotional exhaustion and boundaries
• 17:04 – How “Reclaiming” started as a book concept
• 18:20 – Monica’s dream of publishing without promotion
• 25:06 – Jamie on how Monica’s public journey empowers others dealing with shame
• 26:45 – Monica on “myriad reclaimings” as an ongoing universal experience
• 27:24 – Monica ties in forgiveness, resilience, and creativity to reclaiming
• 29:33 – Laughter and joy as hopes for the future
• 30:18 – Monica’s candid thoughts on the healing power of laughter

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The Episode’s Tone

• Candid, open-hearted, and hopeful.
• Both Monica and Jamie embrace vulnerability, humor, and deep reflection.
• Encouragement is woven throughout, empowering the listener to accept themselves, embrace their story, and find new sources of joy and meaning—no matter their past or their age.

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Takeaways for Listeners

• Everyone is capable of reclaiming their story, power, and future—even after deep pain, public scrutiny, or shame.
• Self-forgiveness and acceptance are not one-time acts but ongoing gifts we give ourselves.
• Our narratives can evolve at any stage in life as we learn, grow, and open to new possibilities.
• It’s never too late to seek joy, laughter, love, or to set new intentions for your life.
• Sharing your story, or simply hearing another’s, can be a catalyst for healing—for yourself and others.

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Final Words from Jamie Kern Lima:

“You right now, exactly as you are, are enough and fully worthy. You’re worthy of your greatest hopes, your wildest dreams and all the unconditional love in the world… You belong here. You are worthy, you are loved. You are love.”
(33:06)

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Recommended Actions for Listeners:

• Subscribe and share the episode with anyone who needs a reminder of their worth.
• Check out Monica’s podcast “Reclaiming” and Jamie’s resources for more inspiration.
• Remember and repeat: “Self-forgiveness and self-acceptance are the two greatest gifts you can give yourself.”

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For more resources and to connect, visit: JamieKernLima.com/Show

Transcript

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Coming up in this incredible Part 3 conversation with Monica Lewinsky.

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Self forgiveness and self acceptance are the two greatest gifts you can give yourself.

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She said, I'm just not giving up. The woman I'll be a few years from now is counting on me. And the world shifted.

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I'm a woman stepping into my own, finally being able to contribute meaningfully to the world and be expressive creatively in different ways and really using more of my voice.

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The things we've taken on our own shame. For most of us privately, you've lived out publicly. Do you believe every person listening right now? They have the ability to reclaim their own narrative. What does dating look like now in your life? Would you ever run for office? Monica Lewinsky is the host of the wildly successful podcast called Reclaiming. So make sure you check that out right away. It's so good. She's also a producer, social and anti bullying activist, global public speaker, and a contributing editor to Vanity Fair. Her focus is on storytelling that moves the conversation forward around shame, reclaiming identities, and just justice for women.

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She's also the executive producer of the Twisted Tale of Amanda Knox, out now on Hulu.

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Monica's TED Talk on the Price of shame has been viewed by over 22 million people. Monica holds a master's degree from the London School of Economics.

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She's also smart, incredibly witty, maybe the best curator of Instagram content that will

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make you literally laugh out loud daily. And whether today you're listening for yourself or because someone that you love shares this episode with you, I want to welcome you to the Jamie Kern Lima Show Podcast family.

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And if you're here right now, can

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you do me a favor? If you like the show and you love the guests that I bring you, can you please hit the subscribe or follow button on the app that you're listening or watching on? It truly means the world to me. Thank you.

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And also, I want to remind you

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this episode is not just for you and me. Please share this with every single person in that you know, because what you're about to hear will change your life and theirs. Welcome to the Jamie Kern Lima Show. Oprah, how have you defied the odds? Her show is unlike any I've ever done.

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A revelation. When you listen, it feels like a hug. But your brain and your spirit and your heart is like, wow.

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Melinda French Gates.

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When I look into Jamie's eyes, I feel like I am on some other cosmic level with her. I could see the light around her. She's infused with light.

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Imagine overcoming self doubt, learning to believe in yourself. And trust yourself and know you are enough. Welcome to the Jamie Kern Lima show.

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Jamie Kern Lima is her name. Everybody needs Jamie Kern Lima in their life.

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Jamie Kern Lima.

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Jamie, you're so inspiring.

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Jamie Kern Lima. When I opened my book Worthy, I opened it with this quote that I want to read to you because it reminds me of you. It's by Nakia Homer, and it says this. This is the quote she said, I'm just not giving up. The woman I'll be a few years from now is counting on me. And the world shifted. Who's the woman you are now? And also, who are you becoming?

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Oh, my gosh. I think I'm. I feel like I'm a woman stepping into my own finally in a way of being able to contribute meaningfully to the world and be expressive creatively in different ways and really using more of my voice, you know, I mean, that's so much of having a podcast is literally having my voice, you know, I mean, we joke on the team where it's like, okay, well, if it's not the clearest of reclaiming stories to an audience, I'm like, well, we can always fall back on. I'm reclaiming, you know, so the whole show is me reclaiming and who I'm becoming. I hope you know, my turning 50, going from 49 to 50, I was so worried going into that year because of 39 going into 40. I was like, oh, oh, it's gonna be awful. What haven't I done yet again? You know? And instead, it was this amazing year of acceptance. And so I just feel acceptance and self forgiveness and self acceptance are the two greatest gifts you can give yourself. They are the most valuable resources that we have. And I just, you know, I hope I'm just continue to move into ways that I am useful to the world and that I get to just enjoy more and more.

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You mentioned Amy Griffin, and I think of Amy. I think of Victoria Jackson.

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I mean, Victoria.

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I think of Gloria Stack Steinem. I think of so many incredible, iconic women who all love you dearly. And I think about as another woman, watching you launch your show, watching, reading your essays, reading things you're putting out in the world, watching you share your story. I feel in so many ways excited for the collective consciousness to shift with what's happening, to catch up. And also just the power that's in you from all of the resilience built and all of the things that you've gone through have made it through, and that belief you're gonna instill and do already into other people, what's possible for them, even if they've gone through something hard or, you know, or have dealt with shame or have dealt with all the different things. And so I, I feel very much, even though this has been a multi decade journey for you already, I feel it's like still in this weird way, in its infancy where the seeds are all there and they're sprouting now. And like, I see the forest coming. You know what I'm saying? And that's what I get.

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So I hope you're right.

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Oh, I'm right. I'm right. Because I know that I am. And I'm. I'm like, that's what I get so excited about. Because all of that, that's to come. And so, and so when you think about the future, I've got to ask this.

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Okay.

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Would you ever run for office? No, never.

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No.

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Why?

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I just, I think I can be more effective.

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You probably know too much about politics to like, be like, oh, I can be more effective outside of it. Right.

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I mean, it's not a playground I am interested in playing in.

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Yeah. What does dating look like now in your life?

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I, you know, it's. I'm not on the apps, so I haven't been brave enough to do that.

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Yeah.

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But I like, I date, I go on dates. I'm. I dated some incredible men. I've, you know, it's. I'm very open to, you know, to what the universe has in store. I don't know. And we'll see what happens.

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Yeah.

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And that's.

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Do you want. You mentioned some of the things that you wanted in that year. That was so difficult. It was a decade. But at 39, right now, at 51 years young. 51. You know, it's wild. I was reading there's so many medical advancements and they're saying if we right now, if we live another 10 years, that we'll live well past 100.

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I don't want to be here, Patrick.

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You don't?

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Oh, I do. I do.

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I'm for it. I interested in that. I mean, I, I just, I think I very afraid of the vulnerability of old age. Very, very afraid of it. I get anxious when I see, you know, little old people with their grocery bags and their. I get so anxious because I'm like, you're so vulnerable. You know, what do you do when you have to have a stranger come in the house and the electrician or the plumber? You'. Vulnerable. You know, maybe because I don't have kids, you know, I'm very involved auntie, but I just. I'm like. I don't want to. I don't want to be around for that.

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If you're vulnerable, like, at a certain age.

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Yeah, I know.

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Then maybe you won't be alone at that age in terms of.

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In your house, you know, but it just. Yeah. So I.

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Cause 51 is a baby in so many ways.

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You know, look, there. There are another. You know, as we're saying, about stories, which so great about people sharing their stories is you do. You get to see the possibility that you didn't think was there. And so I see a lot of stories of women for whom their perfect partner for them in that timeframe didn't show up until later. So, like, if that happens, it happens. If it doesn't, I'm still gonna be okay.

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You know, I just had such a great conversation where Hoda came. Hoda Kapi came on my show, and we were talking about her having her two girls in her 50s, how she's 60 now, how she is more fired up about love than ever and wants more kids, all of that. And so when I think about some of the things that you mentioned at 39, wanting. So at 51 right now, do you want a serious relationship?

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I. I'm not sure.

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Yeah, I. I'm really.

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I'm really open to. I. I just. I think there are a lot of personal things that I have, you know, worked on for a long time. And. And the shifts there feel, you know, like millimeters at a time. And I just. I don't know. You know, And I feel. I think. I feel really grateful that I'm okay with that. Sometimes I feel I want that more than others. Other times, you know, But I. I've just sort of. I. I think moving past having kids.

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Yeah.

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The idea of having kids, at least naturally, that really changed what I was looking for, you know, it changed what I felt was I really needed in my life. And so.

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Yeah, you mentioned that you froze your eggs and you have embryos, and that opens up everything for you. Our ovaries age, but our uterus doesn't. The same way. Do you think you will have kids?

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Probably not. Probably not.

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Do you want them?

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I don't. Some days.

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Yeah.

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Some days I do, and some days I don't. I don't know. I have no idea how women like you and some of our other friends, you know, Victoria and Amy, I don't know how you all do what you do, everything you do. And you're also mothers and your spouses I have no clue. It takes all of my energy to just show up and be me. Just me looking after myself. So I don't know how you all do it. And I just. You know, I have had. I've had some extraordinary, unbelievable miracles in my life and I am very grateful for them. And if I don't get any more, I'm good. If I get more, amazing. And that's really sort of where I feel, where I'm at.

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Here's what did it for me, Monica. I remember when I was like, oh, I'm so focused on my career, all the things and in my journey we'd had. Paula and I had so many miscarriages. And I always.

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Oh, I didn't know that.

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Yeah. And I always kind of, you know. And I was still working a million hours a week at it and kind of going on this journey. And I'll never forget this moment. I had lunch with a friend who I didn't know that well in New York City. She was an editor for a magazine. And we were meeting. I thought we were there to talk about it. Cosmetics. And somehow it was like, on this other tangent. And she's like, you do know when you have a taste your kid, you're gonna have. And I think I just had another miscarriage. And she said, you'll meet your favorite person in the entire world. She's like, that's your favorite person. She goes, you understand the longer you wait, you're just waiting to meet your favorite person you'll ever meet in your entire life. And I remember the way she said it, I was like, huh? And she goes, you think you love your partner? That's nothing. You think you love your dog? That's nothing like you think. You know, she's like. Even said you think you might love your mom. She's like, it's not. It's your favorite person. And I remember that was kind of this moment that stuck with me. And it's really wild. But, you know, because, you know, I'm 47 right now, and I want more. I want more. When you shared at 39 that you just wanted that so badly. And now I think about how much you've shared about the work and the healing and all the stuff and the reclaiming of everything of you in the world. Has that want lessened? Or what would be the reason now where you wouldn't want that as badly?

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I think, because, you know, I think I'm more tired.

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Are you?

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Yeah. Yeah. You know, it's some. I think there's. It's it has been. I've worked hard. Not that other people haven't. Yeah, I've worked really hard this last decade and it's been, I mean, I've worked hard this lifetime.

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Yes.

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But I've, I've worked hard and I continue to work hard. And still, I'm still trying to find my place. You know, even with the podcast, it's sort of like, okay, is this gonna work?

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Yeah.

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You know, and so there's, I think in that way of I have not had a normal life. And so it's, there are days that I still want it and days where I just think I could not like I can't even talk to anybody else, you know, let alone be giving to someone else. So I just like, I'm too. And maybe some of, maybe I don't. Maybe I need to do more work on boundaries. You know, maybe it's around figuring out where, where you're making sure you're not giving too much, you know, to other things and other people and that there's a balance there so that you don't end up at the end of the day feeling, I don't want to talk to a soul.

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Yeah. Even if you feel that way, it's like, that's okay too, you know?

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Yeah.

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And that's even feeling that energy and be like, oh, that's how I feel. There's so many people that aren't even there yet to be able to acknowledge, even feel how they feel and then respect it. You know, with everything you're doing now with your show again, everyone needs. We're going to link reclaiming. We're linking Reclaiming in the show notes. Everyone needs to go follow, subscribe, listen. It's so good. It's so good. Which I knew, I knew it would be before it came out. And it's so good while it's exploded. And I know, I was telling Monica, I don't think I've ever seen a show launch and have so many reviews so fast. And that's always an indicator of how many people are listening. And so just congratulations on that.

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Thank you.

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And clearly people love you. And also I feel like we're all on this journey of reclaiming. I hope and selfishly, as your friend that you also write a book called Reclaiming. I hope all the things.

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Well, that's how the idea started.

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Really?

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Yeah. I had thought of, I mean it was, you know, inspired when Michelle Obama, you know, with her becoming book. And then it was like everybody. Right. It was sort of a one word title with the ing. And so I kind of thought about reclaiming and I have a note in my. My notes app on my phone that it was around that. Of, okay, well, I could have a chapter on this and then something would come to me of a chapter on that. And. But it actually felt, when it came time to kind of look at some other things, it felt more exciting to do something that was looking at more stories than just myself. And so, you know, who knows? There's a lot of. I've had a lot of, lot of experience, gained a lot of wisdom from that experience, and I hope to share it in many different ways.

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I'm seeing a reclaiming tour. No, no, seriously. Reclaiming weekends. You know, how many women, I mean, men too, but like, how many people would show up to a reclaiming weekend? And just like, you never know.

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You never know.

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When you do write your next book, there's so much on you as the author.

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I know. Here's my dream way of doing it would be writing something, self publishing, being able to afford whatever advertising and marketing I want. And I do no interviews.

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Right, right.

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Because that's the part. That's the part that is, you know, you want to sort of put it all on the page. You want to give it all to this thing of like, I'm birthing this thing. And then you have to go and give more and more and more and more and more and it can. That's the part that doesn't appeal to me.

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You say that. So my husband, Paulo, right. Our story, you know, he started at cosmetics with me. Like, we both were in our living room, so poor for so many years, like, teetering on bankruptcy, everyone telling us, no, his journey. He would write the most incredible book. But he. Exactly what you just said. He's like, I don't wanna do a single press interview. I don't wanna do any. And a lot of people don't know that. It's like, okay, it's one thing to have a really great book, but then also it's kinda all on the author to go out, do all the interviews, promote it, do all the things. All of a sudden there's so many just brilliant stories in books that no one's ever heard of because the author's like, no, no, I'm not a marketer, I'm not a. And there's so much pressure on that. There are over 5 million podcasts out there for your show to come out of the gate and do what it's doing.

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Holy moly.

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That is proof to me you don't need to go out there and do a bunch of interviews, you don't need to go, you know, for your book is that you really have had this and I can't begin to understand or imagine. I can only in my small way, in my small experiences and connect, but I can't begin to imagine the enormity of everything that you've shouldered. But what I'm so grateful for about your essay in Vanity Fair, the contributions you make there, about your TED talk, about your Forbes 30 under 30 about everything with reclaiming, about the very few interviews that you've chosen to do, which I'm sorry, blessed and grateful for that. And I think people are just connecting with you on such a profound level

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because we need to pause for a super brief break.

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And while we do, take a moment

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to share this episode with every single person that you know who this could inspire.

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Because this conversation can truly be the

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words and inspiration they need to hear today to keep going, to remember that

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they matter, and to feel less alone

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I think people are just connecting with you on such a profound level because every one of us, every, every person listening right now. And I love how you opened your TED Talk asking the audience, you said raise your hand if there is, you know, nothing that you've done at 22 that you're embarrassed about or ashamed of. And literally nobody raised their hand. Yeah, nobody raised their hand. And the experiences we've all had in different ways, the decisions we've all made for better or worse, the things we've taken on our own, shame for most of us privately, you've lived out publicly in your journey to reclaiming your own narrative and your journey and all the shifts in your belief about your own identity and how that impacts everyone else, but also by you sharing all this, I think even in conversations like this and all the conversations on your show, I think it's giving people the courage to also consider their own shifts about their own identity and about reclaiming their own story. Because you can. I mean, do you believe every person listening right now can, Whether it's through a healing journey, whether it's through listening to your show, listening to conversations like this, they can start to make sure shifts and that they have the ability to reclaim their own narrative.

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I believe everybody already is. I think we are already all in the process at all times of myriad reclaimings. And so that's part of why I want the definition for the show to be so elastic of reclaiming. Because the more we recognize how we've done it, the easier it is to continue to do it, and the easier it is to kind of climb the hill of the really big R. Reclaimings.

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Yeah.

[B]

You know, so it's.

[A]

Do you feel like forgiveness is important in the reclaiming journey?

[B]

Part of what really interested me and excited me about the concept was that it encompasses all of these other things that we focus on, of, you know, value and loss and grief and healing and forgiveness and resilience and creativity. You know, I often talk about Taylor Swift being like someone. I mean, who doesn't want Taylor Swift on their podcast, But I mean, it's her. Taylor's versions is a reclaiming.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

You know, and so. And there's. And so I think that when we. When we recognize all the pieces that go into it and we see that we have all those abilities, you know, it just is. It's empowering, and we can.

[A]

I love that you've been using so many different examples of reclaiming. Like, we can reclaim how we show up for other women. We can reclaim how we champion other women. Which women inspire you most in your life?

[B]

I get inspiration from people and women in so many different ways, like public people or people who. I'll just meet someone and hear a little story. And I think, God, that's inspiring. You know, and I take all those things with me in different ways. And so I don't. You know, it's like I find something inspiring and probably everybody who's in my world, you know, you're inspiring to me. Victoria Jackson, unbelievably inspiring. Amy Griffin, you know, I mean, they're just. There's so many women, Maria Shriver, that, you know, sort of. I think it's. I try to see it everywhere.

[A]

Yeah, yeah.

[B]

You know, so it's. I try to see aspects of people that I think, okay, that's different than I do something I can learn from that, and that is meaningful to me.

[A]

What inspires you most right now in terms of your hopes for the future?

[B]

The answer that comes up is laughter.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

No idea why, but I'm just gonna just go with it.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

You know, I think that there is a power in laughter, that it's connecting. It's a high vibration. Maybe not as high as gratitude, but it shifts your. I've had my same friend who said that thing meditating on the pyramid in my dark decade. She would often send me these blooper videos and, you know, and I would get so annoyed. Cause I was just in this heavy, dark place of, like, I don't fucking wanna laugh.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

You know, I'm not in the mood to laugh. I don't, you know, da, da, da. Like, oh, this is annoying. And she'd push me and push me, and then I, you know, I would watch just to, you know, get her to stop asking me if I watched it, and I would laugh, and it would change the moment, you know, and so that's where. Yeah, that's kind of.

[A]

I feel like, as adults, like, so many of us have forgotten to have fun. Yeah. And I feel like that's so funny that you say that, because it's literally one of my prayers and one of my goals is to have more fun and to laugh more.

[B]

Yeah, me too. You, too. More joy.

[A]

More joy and more laughter.

[B]

So we'll do it together.

[A]

Yeah. Well, I'm telling you right now. I know. I keep saying this over and over. If you need to laugh more, you need to be on Monica's Instagram. And it is so good. But I love that you said that. That's one of my goals. It's why I've been saying no to almost everything. Like, I've said no to almost every single podcast interview. Not because I don't want to do it, but I'm like, I need to just create space in my life for things that I don't have right now, which is, like, really just time with friends. Like, laughter, like, connection. I feel like I don't have enough fun. And, you know, I feel like for a decade, all I did was work, maybe longer. And I was so focused and so stressed out and so, like, unsure of, are we gonna make it? And then when we got bigger and bigger, I was like, oh, I gotta strike while the iron's hot. And all I did was just work And I remember coming out of it being like, I don't even know how to have fun. I don't know how to have fun. And so that. So you saying that that is one of the things that inspires you about the future that you're most looking forward to is so powerful. I'm honored that you're here. I'm honored that you're sharing parts of your story, your new show, everything about your new show, about the things that you're. Yeah, I'm honored that you're my friend and I'm grateful.

[B]

Great chat.

[A]

Thank you for being here.

[B]

Thank you.

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