The Jordan Harbinger Show

Episode 1207: Hoping Her 1%er 'Old Man' Is a Flash in the Pan | Feedback Friday
Date: September 12, 2025
Host: Jordan Harbinger
Co-Host: Gabriel Mizrahi

Overview

In this lively Feedback Friday, Jordan and Gabriel tackle listener questions ranging from a family member's risky ties to outlaw biker culture, difficult stepfamily relationships, commune drama on a Canadian island, and the fallout from pandemic-era financial fraud. The episode is characterized by its candid, thoughtful advice, playful banter, and a blend of empathy and humor as the hosts unpack messy real-life dilemmas.

Key Segments and Insights

1. Intro, Banter, and Trip Recaps

(00:00–08:25)

• Jordan and Gabriel kick things off recounting recent travels in Portugal and Berlin, comparing the cultures, planning styles, and their own personal quirks.

• Notable moment: Lighthearted riffing on “Nazi youth haircuts,” German orderliness, and Gabriel’s calendar-invite love language.

  • Quote:

    "Acts of calendaring. Yeah, exactly." – Gabriel (06:25)

• Set the tone with their signature blend of comic honesty and cultural observations.

2. Letter 1: Sister Dating a 1% Outlaw Biker

(08:33–26:50)

Summary: A listener’s sister is dating “Jim,” a member of the outlaw biker club “The Dirty Ones.” The sister now drives to see Jim (51, lives with parents, no money, mooching), buys him essentials, and is attending biker events. Recent alarming incidents raise family concern about her safety and their business being targeted.

Key Discussion Points

• Biker Gang 101: Jordan explains “1% club” origins and real risks associated with such groups.

  • Quote:

    “Some outlaw motorcycle clubs adopted the 1% label, like ‘we’re the 1% that’s not law abiding citizens’... sometimes they're involved in criminal activities.” – Jordan (09:07)

• Comic Relief:
  Jordan and Gabriel lampoon Jim’s loser status and biker clichés, disarming tension.

  • Quote:

    “This guy’s not even good at crime. He’s just a total loser.” – Jordan (11:14)

• Expert Consultation: FBI Agent Scott Payne weighs in:

  • The Dirty Ones are “legit” in the outlaw sense, but risks are typically biker-on-biker, not outsiders.
  • Risk for sister? “Criminal activity goes with the territory,” so yes, some risk; especially of being unwittingly involved.
  • No major concern about the club targeting the listener’s family’s business, but warns of Jim’s likely financial manipulation.

• Practical Advice:

  • Watch for the “Property of” vest (signifying status as “old lady” in the club, with higher but different risks).
  • Consider intervention: gather family, avoid shaming, invite open conversation, but be direct about harmful patterns.
  • If necessary, set strong boundaries (up to not seeing her in person while involved with Jim), and discuss succession planning for the business.

• Possible Drug Use: Both hosts highlight concern about the sister not “acting like herself”—potential sign of substance abuse.

Notable Quotes

• Jordan (15:03):

  “Hanging out with criminals is generally never a good idea.”

• Gabriel (17:37):

  “Maybe the impact is even more innocent but still damaging... the landlord sees Jim pick her up on his bike… and says, ‘Yeah, no. I don’t want any part of this.’”

• Jordan (21:28):

  “If she really won’t engage… ‘I don’t feel safe around you right now. I can’t see you while you’re involved with this guy.’”

3. Letter 2: Estranged Stepdaughter After Difficult Childhood

(27:08–39:17)

Summary: A stepmother describes years of struggle with her 24-year-old stepdaughter—instability, dishonesty, possible substance abuse—culminating in the daughter leaving, ghosting the family, and then blaming them for donating her left-behind belongings. The stepmom feels bereft and wonders whether to keep reaching out or accept distance.

Key Discussion Points

• Cycle of Trauma: The daughter’s history: a sociopathic biological mother, turbulent custody, lack of accountability.
• Jordan and Gabriel emphasize how her trauma stacks the odds against her, but also clarify she’s the obstacle to repair now.
• Boundaries & Grief:
  • It's time to step back and let the daughter choose contact.
  • Drawing boundaries is necessary and healthy—there’s no obligation to tolerate mistreatment for years.
• Al-Anon/Nara-non Recommendation: For support and boundary-setting with addicted/lost family members.

Notable Quotes

• Jordan (32:40):

  “Your stepdaughter is... in a lot of pain... She probably has some legitimate reasons to be angry... but at 24 she needs to take responsibility.”

• Gabriel (35:21):

  "If she's not happy with the relationship... she can come to you and say, here’s what’s upsetting me. She needs to seek out support."

Emotional Insight

• Coping with “giving up” is really coping with grief and powerlessness, not apathy or neglect.

4. Letter 3: Canadian Island Commune Chaos / False Accusations

(40:40–53:02)

Summary: Family living on a small island in a semi-communal setting is suddenly ostracized after the landlady invents the story that the wife is trying to steal her partner. Gossip spreads, affecting even the children. Facing isolation, the husband wonders if it’s time to leave.

Key Discussion Points

• Jordan and Gabriel marvel at the micro-drama endemic to small alternative communities.
• They highlight the landlady’s pattern of conflict, likely instability, and repeated fallout with other residents.
• Communication Breakdown: Attempts at resolution (conversations, clearing the air) have failed; the landlady is avoidant and unreceptive, others are leaving.
• Advice:
  • Given the unhealthy environment and the damage (including to kids), it’s probably time to go.
  • Priority: family’s peace of mind over preserving an unworkable living arrangement.
• Humor Break: A running joke on the pronunciation of “canape” (Jordan says “canaps”), with Gabriel roasting him with glee.

Notable Quotes

• Gabriel (51:13):

  “If you really want to resolve this, you need to go to this guy and say... We have a problem. Your wife is accusing my wife... and it needs to stop.”

• Jordan (53:02):

  “You can’t put a price on freedom and happiness—and also not having to participate in heart-sharing circles.”

5. Letter 4: Ex-Wife’s COVID Fraud & Custody Nightmare

(59:44–73:02)

Summary: Listener’s ex-wife fraudulently obtained $300,000 in Covid relief via a shell company, using family SSNs. She used the money to fund a lavish lifestyle, move away with their son, and manipulate the courts—causing damage to their child and stress for the listener. Despite detailed, persistent reporting, the case has gone nowhere. Should he escalate, or give up and focus on his current, happier life?

Key Discussion Points

• Both hosts are incensed by the ex’s actions—fraud, bad parenting, and weaponizing the legal system.
• Frustration with Legal Outcomes: Government overwhelmed; many similar scammers have gone unpunished.
• Advice:
  • Possible escalation: to Office of Inspector General, State AG, the media—but recognize risks, including more stress and public mudslinging.
  • Consider the true desired outcome: a healthy, stable life for the son. If escalating invites more drama, it might not be worth it.
  • Creative (somewhat aggressive) legal tactics: Explain how a lawyer could put gentle pressure (not blackmail!), but caution strongly to check all tactics with an attorney.
  • Emotional component: Persisting in the legal battle may stave off having to grieve—letting go is grief work.

Notable Quotes

• Jordan (66:17):

  “To knowingly defraud the government... I just find it so despicable. It’s so disrespectful. It’s so patently disgusting, and then we all... We’re on the hook for that shit, man.”

• Gabriel (68:04):

  “The best outcome is that his son stays healthy and stable and he finds a way to put an end to this war with his ex.”

Notable Quotes & Moments

• On Berlin’s vibe:

  “Berlin, by the way, not really Germany.” – Jordan (03:39)

• On interventions:

  “You gotta deepen, reprogram her a little bit, from the sound of it.” – Jordan (21:12)

• On ‘canape’ debate:

  “Have you been going… tell me how many times you’ve said the word canobs?” – Gabriel (46:20)

• On parental grief:

  “Working so hard to save someone… is often a way to avoid our own grief.” – Gabriel (36:14)

Timestamps of Key Segments

• Intro, Travel Banter: 00:00–08:25
• Letter 1: Outlaw Biker Sister – Analysis: 08:33–26:50
• Letter 2: Estranged Stepdaughter: 27:08–39:17
• Letter 3: Commune Chaos: 40:40–53:02
• Letter 4: COVID Fraud Ex-Wife: 59:44–73:02

Episode Tone and Style

• Warm, humorous, and unguarded—alternating insight, realness, and playful teasing.
• Heavy topics are leavened by banter, pop-culture riffs, and running jokes.
• Advice is practical and emphatic, but never preachy.

Final Thoughts

Jordan and Gabriel balance earnest problem-solving with comedy, making heavy topics accessible. Listeners dealing with chaos—be it romantic, familial, professional, or neighborly—are reminded they’re not alone, and that sometimes, the best move is to draw boundaries, seek support, and let go.

Memorable Takeaway:
"You can’t put a price on freedom and happiness—and also not having to participate in heart-sharing circles." — Jordan (53:02)

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