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Welcome to the Joy Broadcast with me, Ali Mortimer. I was once upon a time an IT consultant, recoding systems in the retail industry to function better. And now I'm turned a life consultant and joy coach where I'd like to think I reprogram and recode hearts, minds, souls and lives to feel better. This podcast, the Joy Broadcast, is a way to bring joy to your life, whatever the weather, whatever you're doing. So you feel a pocket of, of positivity in every single day. If, like me, you've once upon a time found yourself wondering whether you will ever be happy again or if you're just staring at the kitchen sink wondering how you'll get through the next 10 minutes, this podcast is for you. Get you a glimmer of hope, a dose of happiness, or an infusion of joy right here, right now. Welcome to the Joy Broadcast. Welcome back and good morning. Well, it is morning for me. It's a beautiful autumnal morning here in North Yorkshire. The sun is shining and the sky is that really beautiful pale blue that you only really get on these autumn mornings. And the. The shadows are really long. And it's a really beautiful morning and I do love a change in season. It is that marker, isn't it, to slip into a new way of life? Well, it certainly is for me. It's moving out of my shorts and T shirts and bikinis that I've had so much fun wearing over this beautiful summer here in the UK and abroad, but also just to be able to slip into my cozy. I'm in a hoodie, I'm cozy, I've got my hot cup of tea. In fact, I'm all orange today. I do love an autumnal orange color. Now, I was meant to be coming on or this week's episode that was going to be released was due to be one with my gorgeous friend Tiff. She we worked together during the pandemic to bring health and happiness to the world. Really helping everybody understand that health and happiness was the first line of defense against a pandemic. And we've known each other for many years. We were at school together and we recorded an amazing podcast this week all about how to reset your health. Especially when we go back into the office and my microphone wasn't working and we can't record it for another week or so. So instead I thought, well, do you know what? Everything happens for a reason. So maybe we're meant to do something instead. And I want to talk about a personal experience that I went through this week. And when I look Back at it. Now, I look back over the last week, and it really has been rather than just a physical reset of my diet, my exercise routine, getting into much better sleep, all of which were completely out of whack and out of routine over the summer because we were having so much fun. But this has been a very much an energetic reset. It was almost like I gave myself this pivot, a very hard pivot. It was like coming into this real skid of, wow, what an amazing summer. Skidding all the way through the front door of our beautiful home and going, right. And now we change. And now we change straight into focus and discipline and getting into the healthy routine. And you're doing this, and you're doing this and you're eating this and you're not eating this and you're doing this. And it was very denial and discipline. And if you know me, that is not my natural state. And my energy took a massive downturn, and I felt in an incredible funk. I felt very, very frustrated. Nothing was going right. I broke my phone. Nothing was happening. You know, just those little things were not going right. And, you know, I could blame it on this full moon eclipse, and maybe that has part of it, because I am quite susceptible to the energies of universe now that I'm aware of them. But I was in this real funk, and I did not feel myself. And I had a conversation with my own coach, and she said, you know, are you feeling like you're not yourself? And I said, yes, that's absolutely right. I'm really not. I'm in a real grump, and that's really not my natural state. And she helped me see that. Well, that's what coaches do, don't they? They hold up mirrors to what you know, but maybe aren't seeing or choosing not to see that. Oh, it's got nothing to do with what I'm doing. It has everything to do with who I'm being, and I'm not being myself. So in that moment, I decided to put everything down, down tools. And the only work and the only routines were to do with myself and my energy and to realign my energy and to remember my joy. Because my true state is that feeling of joy. It's always been that ever since I've been a young girl. And anything that pulls me out of that, I feel grumpy and frustrated. And the first thing that I did was I actually sat down with my journal and I reminded myself, ali, what is joy? What is joy to me? And I've had this recipe for a really long time. When I started thinking about my joy coaching business, I was like, well, what is joy? What are the things I really want to talk about? Because what brings me joy when I speak about them? And how do I bring myself back into joy? What's my recipe? And so I really reset that and I wrote a blog post on it, and I want to share the highlights of it here so that you can listen if you're more of a listener than a reader. And I've always really felt into. And when I asked myself that question, what is the recipe? What is my recipe for joy? What would I put into my cake of life to bring it more joy? It was very simple, almost very similar to when I asked myself, what is success to me in this next phase of my life? As I left my corporate career and I wrote on that page, success to me equals loving who I am, loving what I do, and loving who I do it with. The ingredients for my joy came very, very simply out of me. It was the peace of my mind and the health of my body. To me, that's just foundational. If I don't have peace in my mind, if I don't have the health of my body, I find it very, very difficult to feel, you know, the feelings of joy and excitement add to that peace of mind and health of body. Lots and lots of love, a life of love. Creating this life that I love to live and wake up to every morning, just like I'm up here at 7 o' clock in the morning dying to record this podcast for you and then add into that this dream, this ability to dream and to dream big and to create that with magic. So that's my recipe for joy. And when I think about it, I was, as I was writing the blog post, I was like, oh, my goodness, this is just like baking a cake. So I was thinking about baking a cake because that also brings me joy. And I was like, well, what do you bring? Would you put in a cake mix? If I was to make a beautiful Victoria sponge, which is one of my favorites, I would always cream together the, you know the butter and the sugar, don't you? That's exactly what you do to start with. And to me, that was like, oh, that's exactly what peace of mind and health and body is. It's the foundation for our cake. You know, it's the butter and the sugar, they form the base that everything else, you add everything else to that. And that made so much sense to me. I was like, right, okay, I just have to have this piece of my mind and the health of my body. And one of the ways that I always go back to doing that, obviously, is meditation. The peace of mind always helped me. When my mum was dying, I lay on the ground under the tree in my parents garden and I just started to look at the leaves. And that was my first real experience of true meditation. Just living in the present moment, that's all meditation and mindfulness is, living in the present moment. Not worrying too much about the past, not thinking about what life would be like without my mum, but just really focusing on my breathing. And I just said to myself, just keep breathing, just breathe through this, everything's going to be okay. And it was from that moment and looking back after everything else that then went on after that, you know, the devastation that happened in my marriage, the coming to terms with the fact that my career as I knew it was over and I didn't know what I was going to do, was one of the reasons why I went on to train as a meditation tutorial, as a coach and take programs and take qualifications in mindfulness, because I wanted to understand the theory behind it so that I could teach it. Not only just teach it from a place of this is what I did, but this is why I know it works. So the piece of my mind was really just practicing something that has come very natural to me since, well, actually nearly a decade ago. I can't believe my mum died a year 10 years ago. So the piece of my body was like, oh, I need to spend time in stillness. I don't really call it meditation anymore because I just love to be in stillness. I love that stillness, quiet. No podcasts in my ears, just sitting in the garden, listening to the birds, sitting on my stump with a cup of coffee, just allowing my mind to wander because I have a very, very busy mind. There's always stuff going on in there, but it's just about that detachment to those thoughts and just saying, I know it will come back later. The health of my body. I realized what I was doing last week was putting far too much restriction in it. I'd gone back to discipline and denial. And I know that that is so not me. You know, in 2024, it suddenly dawned on me that that wasn't working. I can be an incredibly disciplined person, very focused, very disciplined. I can be consistent. But it does something to me in terms of a restriction or a limitation. When I've learned that, actually I love to just be free in the way I look after my body. And actually do, you know, What? Last week was an incredibly powerful lesson for me. By doing it that way, to say it' that does not work for me. Yes, I'm getting things done. Yes, I'm doing my half an hour of exercise every single day. Yes, I'm walking the dog every single day. Yes, I'm cutting out sugar and alcohol, et cetera, et cetera. All the things I know to do. Yes, I'm getting my seven to eight hours sleep. But I was feeling not healthy. Although I could see the signs were feeling a lot better in my physical body. It felt wrong and it was taking away all my joy. And so when I recognized that this wasn't the way, it was like, oh, my way is devotion. My way has always been, since I recognized discipline didn't work, was devotion. So it was like, oh, I just need to slip back into devotion. I'm in the wrong gear. That's what it felt like. I'm in the wrong gear. Discipline doesn't work for me. Let me shift. And that's why it's feeling clunky and hard and effort, like full of effort. Shift into devotion. So I shifted back into, oh, I'm just devoted to my health. Oh, that makes so much sense. So if I'm devoted to my health, what do I want to do this morning? Rip up the rule book. I'm devoted to my health. What am I going to eat today? I want to eat this, I want to do this, I want to sleep this. I'm just, I let go of all the rules and I just allowed my body to tell me what it needed to do. And that felt so, so good. And I'm launching my program unhd and it was feeling all clunky and wrong because I was doing it in a rigid way by the book. And it was like, oh, no, let it all go. Stop it and just come back to what you love about human design and the passion about human design. And along with peace of mind and health and body, I was just like, oh, I just need to look back at my chart. I have a defined mind and an open crown. So I'm going to have all of this inspiration. It was getting stuck in my head and I forgot how to use my filtering system. And that just made ah piece of my mind. I just do it my way, doing it my way. And this is my opinion, the health of my body. You know, the frustration that I was feeling was my alarm bell. You know, the frustration is my not self theme in my human design. I should have recognized that or maybe I resisted it. I did see it, but I resisted it because I was forcing discipline. But that frustration, to anyone who is a generator in human design, is that you're doing it wrong and you're dampening your joy, you're suppressing your joy. So let it be the alarm bell to say, actually, how can I reset and remember my joy and go back? And that's exactly what I did automatically. I've trained myself to do it already. And then it was really thinking about the love, you know, the love for my life. Bring back all of the things that I love rather than all of the things that I should do. Because in the cake, if we think about it, love is the eggs. Because the next thing we put into a beautiful cake, after creaming the sugar and the butter together, are they eggs, aren't they? You know, we have to be very careful when we drop in the eggs. I've always remembered my mum teaching me how to do that. You know, with a cup, you break them into a cup first, just in case you crack the egg and eggshell gets in it, then you can pick the eggshell out. If you tip the egg in with the eggshell, then you've got to go through that sticky batter. Did your mum teach you that? So I do that and I remember teaching my boys to do the same. So love is the eggs and the flour, you know, s. Because those together, the eggs and the flour, that creates the structure that holds everything together, but it also adds a real richness and a real depth of your flavour. That's what the eggs do, you know? And in life, love is what connects us, right? Love is what binds us together and what adds the richness and the depth of flavour. So I always go back to the love list. One of the first things I did when I was in, you know, the depths of clinical depression after my annus horribilis in 2016 was I wrote my love list. What are the things that I love? I am what if I am what I love and if I am what I love and if I love what I am, then all I need to do is think about what I love and do that, you know, love for my purpose. I went back to my success criteria, right? I said at the beginning, I wrote down, you know, success to me is loving what I do, loving who I do it with and loving myself as I do it, you know, and it would. This brings me back to love, my purpose, okay? Let me love the way in which I am working. Let me create that. Let me love the people I'm working with in Partnership with, let me love the people who I'm doing my life with and let me love myself because I hadn't been. I hadn't been honoring myself by forcing myself to do things that I didn't want to do in the way that I didn't want to do them. And so I used my human design again and I went back to my key point as a generator with a sacred authority. And it was like, oh, I need to light my sacral fire. The sacral in human design is all about life force, energy, its creativity, its connectivity, its passion, its sensuality. It's allowing yourself to be completely lit up by life because you're doing what you truly love. This is the love for life. It's aligning yourself and remembering, let me just do what I love. So even in a life where it's hard, and I go back to that 2016, 2017 period of time, my life was a mess. It was hard. You know, I've been diagnosed with clinical depression, ptsd. I had disordered eating, I had insomnia. You know, my marriage was in tatters, we'd separated, I didn't know who I was in terms of my career path. I'd left my big job, my mum had recently died. But I was able to find those pockets of light because I was doing things that I loved. Cuddling my boys, doing some meditation, writing my blog, going for walks with the dogs, running at the time because I could. It was just those little things. It was about putting those pockets of love. Richard D. Grant talks about pockets of happiness. And I think that's what that is. Pockets of joy, pockets of happiness, pockets of love. And that's what you're going to start to do, to rebuild that sacral fire that's going to light you up, to give you the energy to do more of what you want to do. Also in human design, we have something called a G center, and I love the G center. The G center is your love compass. It's the compass for your self love. It's basically your soul. It's your soul's heart, it's the heart of your soul. It's is your soul's identity, it's the truth of who you are that gives you that sense of self love. And when you follow that G center, because it is that spinning compass, you make those aligned choices that feel good to you because your soul feels satiated. That's the G center. So it was not only going back and fueling my fire with my sacral, but it was going back into and Putting my hand on my breastbone and going, just, what are we doing? Where are we going? Who are we? What do we want to be? Who do we want to be remembered for? And asking this question, I realized that, yes, I'm launching and I'm removing that word from my vocabulary. I'm bringing the conversations around human design to my front lines, but not because I want to be remembered for human design, but because I want to be remembered for joy. And human design is just one of the tools that I use in order to help people find the love for their life and the joy in their life. So if we then go back to my recipe and my cake for joy, what do we add in next? After the eggs and the flour, it's the raising agent. God, I just love this. I love this. And it. I love. I love this analogy so much. You know, the next thing are the dreams, the raising agent, the baking powder or the soda power. Soda power. What do I mean? I mean baking soda, don't I? And these, these ingredients are what makes the cakes rise. This is what makes them light and fluffy and airy and all just spongy. Because without them, the cake would just be a biscuit. It would be flat, right? So without this agent, I think, in your life, without the ability to dream, to vision, to see beyond where you are, that's when you can sometimes feel a little bit trapped. And I love dreaming. And I have so many conversations about people who just can't dream. Even with my husband, he says, I can't dream because I can't see the plan on how to make the dream a reality. And I was just like, James Darling, that is not a dream. If you can see the plan on how to make the dream, that's a goal. A dream is when you can see no way of how it can happen. A dream is for the fun. A dream is the imagination. A dream is, what if we could do this? What if we could go there? What if this, what if that? Wouldn't that be amazing? That's what lifts our spirits. It gives us this feeling of possibility, of excitement for what could possibly happen. You know, if I'm going to relate this back to human design again, this is about looking at your crown, your crown chakra, and opening up to the possibilities. Now, if you've got an open crown, like the majority, I think it's about 75 of people have an open or undefined crown. This is about getting out in the world. This is about going out and seeing what you would like. What do you desire, what do you want what inspires you? Get out there and have a look. It's your divine connection and inspiration. Whatever your faith is, it doesn't matter. But it's allowing yourself to think beyond where you are, give you something to reach for, to move for, to keep you expanding and growing. And do you know what? I heard Arthur Brooks talk about that the other day, the guru of happiness, and he says true happiness comes from progress. I was like, oh, interesting. I agree with that as well. And I think dreams for me is how I make progress. Keeps you moving. So once we've put it all in the oven and we've got it mixing, I think the last little piece that brought me back to joy this week was recognising that it's the magic. And the magic is the sprinkles. The magic is the sprinkles on the top of the cake that make it you. Because when I would ask everybody in my home, what flavours would they like this cake, I know Tom would say lemon, Willy would say chocolate. James would say that he would like a carrot cake. And I'll say I have a mix of all of them. And I think that's where the uniqueness comes in. That's all of our differences. And if I think about my human design profile lines, I think that's really where you can really find your true differentials with everybody. Not it's everything of your human design, but your profile lines. I'm a 3.6, so of course I'm going to have a bit of everyone, so I didn't realize that until I said that, but, you know the three sixes, I'm going to go and try everything, I'm going to try everything and then I'm going to tell you which one's the best. James has done his research, he's aligned 13 and he knows that carrot cake is his absolute favorite. You know Tom, he is a generator. He's always loved lemon cake ever since he was a tiny baby. Lemon cake, lemon cake. Every birthday cake, lemon cake. Willy often just says to me, make me what you want, but I know he loves a chocolate cake. So when I finished taking myself through the cake of my life of joy and aligning it to human design, I felt so much better. Because do you know what? Joy is a serious business. I take my joy seriously because I'm serious about living a life that I love. I'm serious about the work and helping other people. And do you know what, when I then look at it through the lens of human design, human design, has really just become the recipe book that showed me how to combine my ingredients in a way that works for me and my unique self. And human design for you is going to be that recipe book to show you how you combine your own unique flavors and ideas to make it for you. So I am going to finish on talking about human design because I love it so much. And the human design program that I'm launching in October, it's called unhd and I love this. It's a play of words. So there we go. I've added my love here. But unhd, see yourself in high definition through human design and what I know from knowing human design since 2021. Prior to that, I had added all the ingredients into my life. I had added in the peace of mind, the health of body, the love of my life, the dreams, the magic sprinkles. But it was knowing my human design in 2021 that accelerated and amplified my joy. It sped it up exponentially in the last four years and even more so in the last year because I took this year to be very, very intentionally serious about my human design and start to look at the. The finer details. You know, joy is the harmonizing of a peaceful mind and a healthy body because we can look at all of our chakras to help us do that. It's the harmonization of that peaceful mind with a healthy body. It's about loving your life. It's about loving your life, following your decisions that feel good for you. It's knowing how to make the right sparks fly in a romantic and professional relationship. Because do you know what? I've just done this for somebody. Last night. I did it. She wanted to know what was going on between her and her partner. There was some tension. And the wonderful thing about love, I think, is that when you fall in love for the first time, it's this feeling of I like me when I'm with you. And when you put two people's human design charts together, you can often see why when I've seen mine and James's, he completes me. All of my undefined centers are awareness centers all the way around. The outside of my human design chart are undefined or open. And James is flipped. He's the opposite. So when we put our charts on top of each other, we complete each other. And this was the same for my lovely client last night. Her partner completes her. Where she's defined, he is undefined and vice versa. And when we can find out where the sparks lie, where we look at the gates and channels between You. Where do you connect? Where do you connect? Now, just as we can work out how sparks can fly and we can use that, it also means that where we complete each other can also mean that we have absolute tension and friction because we are so wildly different. But by knowing that, that's when you can create the ease and smooth out that tension. What I've realized is that understanding my energy, I can influence myself, but I can also influence the energy in the room because I know how to respond to it. And this energy influencing of myself and awareness of how I can influence the energy of others has helped me with wealth creation, opportunity, attraction. It's been quite amazing since I've learned how to do this. UNHD really isn't just a program where I'm going to teach you how you can read your human design chart or how to read somebody else's chart. Yes, I'm going to teach you how to do all of that and understand human and design and you'll get all of that. But I'm also going to give you all of me so that you can see all of you and your path to what's next. You get the mindfulness that I learned and practice and embodied. You get to go to the depth of your holistic health with me from all of my qualifications through my health coaching. You get all of my life experience of how I've navigated the ups and downs in my career, the ups and downs in my health, in my marriage, and you get my business brain. I've built many businesses to six figures and I have a joint business with my husband as well. We run multiple businesses together. So I'm going to share with you all of that and how I've created this life that I truly love using many modalities. But in this program, human design is at the forefront. So I'm going to finish there. I hope you've loved this. Go and find out how you can create your own cake of joy, your own cake of a joyful life using those key factors. And if you wish to use human design, if you're ready to use human design to amplify that and speed up the creation of your cake, I'll drop the links in the show notes and I will look forward to speaking to you very, very soon. Lots of love. My mission is to spread love, joy, peace and abundance to as much of the world as I possibly can so that every person knows that they don't have to walk alone in their darkness. So if you've enjoyed today's podcast and this episode I would be so honored and happy if you would support my mission and share this with your network, your friends and your family. Please feel free to leave me an honest review on Apple or Spotify. And until next time, remember, the ripple of joy starts with you and within you.