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Welcome to the Joy Broadcast with me, Ali Mortimer. I was once upon a time an IT consultant, recoding systems in the retail industry to function better. And now I'm turned a life consultant and joy coach, where I'd like to think I reprogram and recode hearts, minds, souls and lives to feel better. This podcast, the Joy Broadcast, is a way to bring joy to your life, whatever the weather, whatever you're doing. So you feel a pocket or of positivity in every single day. If, like me, you've once upon a time found yourself wondering whether you will ever be happy again or if you're just staring at the kitchen sink wondering how you'll get through the next 10 minutes, this podcast is for you. Get you a glimmer of hope, a dose of happiness, or an infusion of joy right here, right now. Welcome to the Joy Broadcast. Welcome back to the Joy Broadcast. And I have a wonderful guest with me today. And I can just feel my whole body relaxing because when I first met my guest today, that's exactly what my body did. I had this full body response to her energy. You can feel her presence before you even know she's there. We met for the first time in 2024 when I was just coming out of my kind of. I call it my gap year, my transition year, and we sat down next to each other at a wonderful lunch and I felt two things. I felt her magic, and I felt so grounded at the same time. She was this wonderful mix of truth and love, but also divinity and excitement. And she is the master of quantum physics. She's the master of so many things. But what I really want to talk to her about today is a topic that we both love to talk about, and that is love. Please, big A big welcome to the wonderful Dimple. Thank you so much for being here with me this morning.
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B
Just crying at that. Oh, Ali. I'm just like. I'm emotional already at that. Thank you. Thank you. That it? That intro just means the world to me because I'm all about frequency. I'm all about energy. And, you know, if you felt that from me, then my work here is done, honestly.
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A
Well, let's bring that work to my audience. Which is why I so wonder. Oh, you are sniffling away. I'm sorry, I didn't. It was just spoken from the heart. I was like, how do I want to introduce. I mean that you as. It's so hard to introduce you in words. It is more presence and energy. And I've learned so much from you, and I Came to one of your wonderful events shortly after we met. And in the abundant new event. And you taught me so much about frequency. And just so much about quantum physics. And you got me hooked on such an incredible, powerful area of spirituality. That I hadn't really touched on before.
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B
So thank you, thank you, thank you. You were an incredible sponsor for that event. And you shared your story. It was beautiful. It was beautiful. And yeah. You know, the magic of all things quantum. Is really based on the foundation of love. It so is love, joy. Those are the frequencies that ultimate frequencies. I mean, joy above love even. Right? The ultimate. And this is the thing that at Christmas time in particular, we get blindsided with all the stuff. The stress of the stuff. Everything has to be ready for a certain day. And we all do it. I'm guilty of it also. Although in these latter years I do less of it. I don't worry so much. Because I've realized the magic is. It doesn't matter if I'm sils in my pajamas on Christmas Day. When I'm serving up dinner. The magic is which inevitably, everybody else is showered and I'm still in my pajamas. Because I am the control freak when it comes to the cooking. And I like to make sure it's done. Because I actually really love doing it for everyone. And so I allocate them stations and they have helpers jobs.
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A
Yeah, they're your elves. To your mother. To your mother. Christmas. They are your elves.
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B
Exactly. And I sit at the Christmas table proudly in my Christmas pyjamas. Knowing that I didn't, you know, make the opportunity to get in that shower. But I was more than happy. Because I would not leave the supervision of the dinner to anybody for 10 minutes while I shower.
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A
While you shower. I wanted to start with something today. Because I know that both of us have been through our relationship ups and downs. We've been. We've got big families, loving families. There's always going to be tension. And before I asked you to come on. I knew I wanted to speak to you about love. Because one of the biggest things that I took away from my. My time with you, especially in Abundant New, was the. The Hawkins Scale. And the fact that when we stay in the frequency of love and above. That is where we manifest our future in the most beautiful way. And I know that I've got in my hands one of our favorite books. A Return to Love. Which I give to so many people. And there was a quote in here in a passage I thought that could kick start our conversation. And I'm going to quote from the book. It's page 61, if anyone's got the book. It says something amazing happens when we surrender and just love. We melt into another world, a realm of power already within us. The world changes when we change. The world softens when we soften. The world loves us when we choose to love the world. And I've highlighted that passage because I feel that so many people at Christmas find that families, relationships, tension, if people are going through separation or divorce, people close to me are going through things like that. It's how can they bring that love back into the spaces and the days that they're going to be celebrating? Because Christmas is a time for love, no matter what we're eating or what we're wearing, Right? How do we bring the love? Dimple? Bring the love.
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B
It's a fantastic question, and I personally have had experience of this very recently. How can I come back to love at a time when most would crumble, at a time when it would be okay and respectable to crumble and not feel love and feel anger and resentment and aggression, quite frankly. And what I realized was that I was in this particular situation, a fork in the road. I could go down the whole anger, frustration, and for a while I did. And the only person that suffered was me, because it was in complete misalignment with who I was. And everybody else, I would say, actually, not the only person. Everybody suffered. And I moved further away from my outcome, which was amicability, which was, you know, connection, which is love. I moved further away from love, doing things that the textbook said I was required to do in this situation. And so then I thought to myself, I didn't think actually. I went into a meditation and I asked for an answer. And the answer was, go back to love. So what did that look like? For me, it looked like doing loving things. For me, it looked like acting and behaving and speaking in loving ways. That meant that I was at risk of being taken advantage of, at risk of being walked all over all those things and that I could handle all of those things. I could hold my boundaries and say, no, thank you, right? While still being loving. Because this is the thing you mentioned, the Hawkins Scale, and you mentioned that, you know, love and above it does not mean that you stay positive the whole time. What it means is whatever life throws at you, you choose how you respond to it. And that loving love and above being loving can mean articulating your boundaries and actually holding them in a loving way. Now, the way we do this is. Is Paramount. It's not about Big Finger. I'm going to hold my boundary and, you know, you will obey my boundary. That's not the frequency. The frequency of a boundary is very much, this is who I am, this is what I stand for, and this is what I am willing to accept. So the boundary is all about yourself, not about what you're inflicting on somebody else. Because you can't inflict anything on anybody else, quite frankly. They get to choose. Now, if they get to overstep that boundary, then you get to hold the consequences. And for me, that was removing my energy. That was just me simply saying, the loving thing to do is remove my energy. So if that is at Christmas Day, and if that is, if there is a situation happening at Christmas Day and your boundaries are being crossed, you get to choose in a loving way. Not in a confrontational, not in a making a point way, but in a beautiful, loving way that honors yourself and everybody else.
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A
You know, it's loving yourself, isn't it? It's loving yourself enough to be able to say, I love myself, to remove myself from this situation.
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B
Yeah.
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A
Yeah, I love that something you just said there as well, I wanted to pick back up on. We can't inflict a feeling on anybody else, and I believe that that to be the case, too. We cannot inflict a feeling on somebody else unless they're already feeling it already. Unless there's already a chink of it already. Like I often have people say to me, and I'm sure you do as well, dimple saying, oh, but he or she made me feel guilty. No, no, the guilt was in you already. They may have said something, but that just amplified a spark of something that was in you already. If you had no guilt, you wouldn't feel it.
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B
Yeah, if you had no shame, you wouldn't feel it.
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A
If you had no shame, you wouldn't feel it.
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B
It's a beautiful catch, that, Ali, because also, I believe that if guilt or shame is being triggered by somebody else's actions, you want to thank them for showing you.
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A
Is holding a mirror up.
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B
Right. For showing you. Yeah.
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A
Thank you for showing me the guilt. Thank you for showing me the shame.
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B
That's where my work needs to go. Oh, this is a surprise. Why am I feeling this in response to this? Oh, interesting.
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A
Thank you.
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Let me see what the root cause of this is. Because it's not really the thing we're talking about right now. It never is. You know, and this really is the work Ellie, we talk about. Oh, yeah, you can do Meditation all day, you can journal all day, you can do all that. But actually the truth is, are you living the principles? Are you actually embodying the principles? And I can tell you I work on this every day because I get caught out every day.
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A
Oh, me too. I've just had a blazing row with my husband over literally nothing. Nothing.
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B
Right.
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A
Oh, dear. It's. How do we let that go with love? Right. Because I love him, because I love myself, because I want us to have a loving home. So what?
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Yes.
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Can we kiss and make up?
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And the thing is, as well, I have this saying, you know, am I choosing love over being right?
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Yes.
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And that's such a tough one.
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Oh, yeah. Because we all want to be self righteous. Right.
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B
And when we're angry or frustrated or especially if I'm hungry or tired, like, don't even have a conversation with me, quite frankly, like, I have to dismiss myself. Yeah.
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I'm taking myself out because I'm hungry and tired. Otherwise this is going to like, we're going to have an explosion right now.
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Yeah. And it's taken me 52 years to figure that one out. Like, I have to take care of me. Like the physical as well as the emotional as well as the, you know, especially what. The biggest highlight of this for me has been the menopause. Because it has completely been the, like, it stopped me in my tracks and made me reevaluate how I look after my body. It's made me prioritize how I look after my body. It's made me have boundaries. You know, things like my sleep is sacred to the point where, you know, my husband would like to watch TV in bed until all hours. And I'm like, no, that blue screen. I need to be in bed at 9 and I need to be sleeping by 10 because if I'm not, my body is just like. Because of the disrupted and dysregulated sleep patterns in the mentors.
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Yeah, agreed. And it's such a hormone disruptor dimple. I'm going to ask you a question. Boundaries. You know, we, we can often talk about setting boundaries. I would love to know, how do you set your boundaries? What is your process for saying, you know, this is what I'm a yes for. This is what I'm a no for. How do you do that? How would you guide somebody through doing that?
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First of all, the way I know that I need a boundary is because I effort.
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A
That's always. Yeah. But I get it wrong. Yeah.
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When I get it wrong, I go, wait, why am I Thinking, feeling angry at this person. Wait, why do I feel bitter towards this person? Wait, why am I feeling resentment towards this person? Oh, they did something I didn't want, didn't like being done to me. Oh, did I explicitly express my boundary around that? Oh, I didn't even know I had a boundary that I could express around that. So that's the first piece, like actually figuring out what you want. And sometimes you figure it out by.
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By a feeling. Yeah. And a feeling that you don't like in your body. It's like.
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Oh, yeah, the contrast.
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Yeah.
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Contrast, yeah. Agreed. So I am a sacral authority in human design.
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Me too.
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Actually.
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We've got very similar human designs, haven't we? Really? Yes, yes.
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Yeah, we have. And. And I have learned to really be quiet and listen to my. So my yes or my no?
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Am I this? Am I for that or not or not? Yes.
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Yeah. Right. And so I've got really good at doing that, and I've got really good at honoring them. There's one thing to be aware of, and there's another thing to actually honor them. Like, so I have. I. I do spend time thinking about what my boundaries are in all my relationships, and then I usually forget to say what they are to the other person. I eff up. And then I go, oh, this is my boundary. So then the way I express it is very much. If there's been a situation where I've effed up, the first thing I do is I say, I am so sorry for causing this havoc. My part in causing this havoc. The reason this has happened is because I'm feeling resentment towards you because I. I didn't express a boundary. So moving forward, I want to make this really clear, that this is what I need in this situation, and this is what I need from you. Are you able to deliver this for me? And if they say yes, brilliant. If they say no, then we work on what works. And sometimes we can't get to a amicable. Sometimes we have to. I mean, I've done this just recently with my youngest daughter, you know, and. And she does it with me. She. She models it beautifully, you know, and so, because she also is my operations manager, so we have to have clear boundaries between what's work and what's mom and daughter stuff. Right? And then usually what happens, Ali, I'll be honest with you. I forget to uphold my boundary. They cross the line again. And then I go, shit, that was a moment when I could have said no. And I didn't listen to my no because I was trying to. People, please. So, honestly, this whole boundary thing is not as easy as you think. It takes a few goes at it for you to realize and a few goals for you to firstly feel what happens when you don't express it, then feels what happens when you don't uphold it and then feel what happens when you uphold it and the outcome of it. So this is very much my 3, 6 line.
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A
Yeah, the circular trial and error, trial and error until we get it right. Even if it takes us a lifetime. Right. And I suppose in all relationships and all marriages, all partnerships or families, that's always what we're doing. Because I think, you know, like you, I'm a line 3, 6. Everything is changing and evolving all the time. You know, me, you, our partners, our children, the environment, the circumstances, everything is changing. So it's this incredibly adaptive response and the flexibility to keep changing. And, you know, our boundaries change, don't they as well? I'm a yes for this, but I might be a no for it tomorrow. And it's okay for me to change my mind as long as I'm clear about it. One thing you said that I think will be an interesting point to pick up for our listeners is around the apology piece. I was actually just going to ask you, how do you have those conversations with your loved ones when we mess it up? And the first thing you said was you make the apology. And I think that really tags back into something you said earlier. It's like, can we choose to let our hearts and love lead rather than our ego and this desire to be right? Can we pull back and soften and see it, see the situation through the lens of love and say, my bad, I'm really sorry I wasn't clear. And I might have said that yesterday that I was okay, but today I'm not and I'm really sorry. How can we find the solution? Because ultimately that's what it is, isn't it? How can we find a solution that works for you and a solution that works for me?
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And how can we honor our differences even if there is no solution that works for both? How can we, you know, gracefully respect each other's differences and not make either of us wrong or right?
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Yes, that is a huge one, isn't it? And I think in families and in relationships, we can impose our desires, our dreams, our likes, our dislikes, our boundaries on others. Whereas actually, we've got to learn how to coexist when we're also incredibly unique and love each other for that as well.
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B
Yeah, yeah. And Actually, what I've come to learn is that some of my boundaries have evolved through the role modeling of my children. My girls are my biggest teachers and expanders. They really are. I don't see our relationship as hierarchical, that I'm the mother and they're the children. I don't see. I never have. It's always been a mutual relationship. Like, even when they were little, we used to have something called timeout corner. So when. When the girls were emotionally dysregulated, I would ask them to go and sit in the timeout corner.
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Have a moment.
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Just have a minute. Have a minute. You're not being told off or anything. Just have a minute. And there came a point where they would actually recognize when I was dysregulated and would ask me to go and sit in the 10.
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My kids do that to me all the time. They're like, mum, take a chill pill. I'm like, actually, you're so right. Thank you. I'll take that. I'll take a chill pill. I'm gonna go and take myself upstairs to bed and I'll take a chill pill. I'll come back down in half an hour. And maybe that's what we all need to do.
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Right? And just to like. Because when you're in it and you're dysregulated, your nervous system, you can't actually. You're in fight threes or flea. You cannot see it.
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No.
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So how beautiful that we've role modeled for our children, not only to see in us, but to be able to provide us with a really healthy solution in that moment. Right. And for us as parents to allow our egos to be like, shut the fuck up. This person takes care of you, is actually looking after you. How mature is this of them to see this in you? Right. You know, like, I had a conversation with one of my daughters the other day and we'd had an argument over something. The context is irrelevant, but the point is both of us were having this argument when we were both tired and hungry.
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Oh, no recipe for disaster escalating, right? Yes.
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And then the next morning, I just put my hands on my heart and I just was like, I don't want to feel bad over this with my daughter. What matters to me more than anything else is loving my child. That's what matters to me. I don't care about the situation, whether I was right or wrong, it doesn't matter. So I sent her, they're both away at the moment, so I sent her a voice note and I just Said, I'm really sorry that I reacted that way. Whatever the circumstances is. I am just so sorry that you got so hurt by my reaction. So I wasn't apologizing for the thing. I was apologizing for the way I made her feel and how I responded to the thing.
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Yeah. And that's different, isn't it? Yeah, it's an olive branch in a most beautiful way.
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And so she immediately messaged back and said, I am so sorry for the way I reacted, mom, and the way I made you feel. The most important thing to me is us having a good relationship. So how can I make this better right now? That, to me, is where. How love heals. How love heals conflict.
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It comes right back to love, doesn't it? When you. When you offer the olive branch of love, you're gonna be met with love again. You know this. And that creates the peace. And I think when we think about Christmas in particular, yes, we have all of the joy. And another one of the words that we hear a lot around at Christmas is peace. How do we bring the peace back? I. There was something else I wanted to bring up in our conversation as well. And I know we had this lovely conversation when we were satisfied, most recently in London, and we talked a lot about forgiveness. And I have another passage I want to read as well, because I think that you can speak to this also. Forgiveness is the key to inner peace because it's the mental technique by which our thoughts are transformed from fear to love. Because one of the things that we have to learn, and I have learned, and I know you have, is that forgiveness is not necessarily to condone an act of our own or of another, but to bring that level of inner peace. How can we help our listeners really understand that forgiveness is a loving act when they really, really don't want to?
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Yeah, it's this one I have. Oh, my God, have I embodied it. So I was raised in a family where domestic violence was the norm. Quite aggressive domestic violence. And the person who basically caused it was my dad. And my dad was being influenced by his mum. And now me and my dad have the most incredible relationship. And it's all because I had to forgive him in order to set me free. Free. It was nothing to do with dad. It was the most loving thing I could do for myself, because as long as I held anger and resentment in my body for what he did, he had rental in my body. He had the power in my body. And I wasn't prepared for him to have that anymore. Now I was Then at choice, do I have a relationship with him or do I completely discount connect? And everybody has that choice and there's no right or wrong. And over time, what I've come to realize that works for me is that I want to have a loving relationship with my dad because he didn't know any better. His mum didn't know any better. She was a child when she had him. She was trying to control everything. My mom was like the most beautiful woman on the planet and radiant and joy beyond joy, like she couldn't. That's just who she was. And my grandmother felt very threatened by that because she couldn't access that. She had no way to that. And Mum had it naturally. And so that was her way of controlling Mum. And so only through accessing forgiveness in me, nothing to do with that, could I then understand the truth of the situation because it gave me other information. Because when you're in anger and hate and resentment, you can't see beyond what's in front of your nose.
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A
Forgiveness is a loving act, isn't it? It's what I'm hearing you say, you know, it's a loving. It's an act of self love. And I think. And something else I've heard you just say then as well. You brought compassion for the inflictor. You know, you bought compassion for your dad. And if we look at the word compassion, it has the word in it, passion being love. You brought love to him. You responded with love. And I think if we again apply this to Christmas, when things can get heated and when people are hungry or tired or overindulged or frustrated or whatever the feeling is, if we can remind them to bring some of those key elements that you've been talking about, you know, bring in the love, bring in the peace. By using acts of forgiveness, by having loving conversations, I think that people are going to feel equipped to handle that. One of my favorite questions, and you might have heard this too as well, because I think it might be a Joe Dispenza question. But he often asks, or he often. Or I hear him in my head saying, you know, when there is, you know, it feels like World War 3 is raging, whether that be between me and one other person or in, you know, in the household, is ask, what would love do? If love was a Persona, what would they do? And come into the room and say, to heal the situation, I'd love our listeners to just take that away. What would love do? What would forgiveness do? Love would forgive.
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What does love say? You know, like I often ask Myself this. What would love do? I often ask myself that because, I mean, I have a tattoo that says I am love. Right.
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Of course you do. Of course you do.
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I. I got it on my 50th year because I just felt like it's who I am. So if it's who I am, then whenever I'm in conflict, I need to ask love. What would love do right now? And honestly, it's such a powerful question, Ali. Because when you stop to ask it. And you have to stop and just give yourself a moment of silence. And it's like this magical answer just drops in. And sometimes it's as simple as nothing.
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Yeah. Just not going to reply. Exactly. Why stoke a fire? Just.
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Just breathe.
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Just breathe. Just take a moment. Oh, yeah, yeah.
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Because actually, the fire has nothing to do with you.
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No, it has nothing to do.
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None of your business how they react or respond.
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Can we talk about another kind of fire? Can we talk about the fire of passion? I want to go right back to. I want to go right back to your brilliance in terms of manifestation and quantum physics. If we have listeners who are feeling lonely, perhaps this Christmas, you know, they're on their own. And they might be feeling that they're without a family or they want to call in the love.
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The song is in my head now. There is a song, isn't it, about Christmas and being lonely? Lonely?
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Is it Elvis?
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Are you lonely?
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I can't. I can't sing Deadpool, but I know. Well, we'll have to play on the soundtrack. But everybody's now got it in their head. I bet they're singing it. We'll have to play it. But I want to talk about the fire of Christmas. How can people call in the love? I do, you know, I don't like that expression. I don't want to even use call in because calling in means that you're in lack already. If we want to manifest the most beautiful, loving relationship, how would you go about doing it with your understanding of quantum physics? Talk me through the process. For anyone who sat there thinking, oh, 2026 is the year for. For me to find true love. What. What would you do? Well, how would you guide them?
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So this is the. This is a brilliant question, and I thank you for asking it. Because I just love this conversation. I just love it. So this is all to do with lack and abundance, right? And how we occupy our mind. And our thoughts will determine what we receive. So if you're constantly thinking, oh, I really wish I had somebody. Oh, I'm really lonely. I'm really. Wouldn't it be lovely if I had somebody. These are all thoughts of lack of. Because you're hoping and missing and wishing and dreaming and all that.
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Of something I don't have.
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Of something you don't have. Exactly. And therefore you're a match for. Don't have lack. So the lack. The universe will constantly. And it also feels like the dream person is over there. They're not with you. They're over there. You're waiting for them. They're coming, you know?
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Yeah.
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It'll be this year. I'm waiting and preparing.
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I'm still here.
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I'm still here. So what you're a match for is waiting. It's literally, like, I think about it, like if, say, the manifestations in the consulting room, and you're literally sat in the waiting room.
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Yeah.
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Just waiting for your consult, hoping you'll get a consultation.
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Oh, like, when's the doctor coming?
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Coming. Yeah. As opposed to the way I manifest. And I manifest people, like, so freaking fast. It's ridiculous.
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I know you do.
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Just like, it's. I love that. It still blows my mind. Right. Because I'm always surprised in the unexpected. Right. And the way I do it is I get really clear firstly on what I want. Like, really clear. Like, down to. Like, it doesn't have to be detail of visuals per se, but it. Whatever the detail that's coming through for me. So it could be their credentials or, you know, where they live, or it could even be a feeling. It could be anything that's coming through. Right. Sometimes it is visuals, sometimes it is names, even. You can play with this. And then I will tap into.
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A
Maybe people should just write their Christmas lift dimple.
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Yeah. In my partner.
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This is who they are.
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This is who they are.
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And. Right. This is how they make me feel. Yeah.
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This is how they make that, like, present tense. Right. Because then the next thing I do is I go into my heart and I play the pretend game like they're already here. Like. Like I'm really, like, having fun all by myself. Like, having the best time. Right. All by myself. And you can do this with the partner you already have, by the way.
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Yes.
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If there is conflict in your marriage, you can actually do this and dream the part. How. You know that version of your man.
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Yes.
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A woman. Right. And so. And I have done this several times with my husband. And so basically, you go into living life as if that was true. Like, it is. And then I go into. Well, who do I have to be?
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Yeah.
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Like, how do I Have to show up. If I want somebody who's patient and loving, then the only kind of energetic match for that is that I have to be patient and loving. Right. So it's almost like you have to be, like, be the person you want to attract, in a way.
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Yes, of course.
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Loving, magnet, kind magnets. Right. And then this is the hardest bit, and this is the bit that probably I struggle with the most. You let go. You stop freaking thinking about it. You stop obsessing about it. You stop giving it thought. You just go have fun and you be in the frequency of joy.
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Be in the frequency of joy. Do you know the bit about the letting go? I think you're so right, people. So they fixate, don't they? They fixate on a timeline. Why has it not happened yet? Why is it not happening? Why is it not here? Why is it taking so long?
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All lack, all luck.
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Absolutely.
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Because the lack of time. That is when we can disassociate from this relationship with time. And you realize that time is completely irrelevant to any manifestation.
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Yes.
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Any manifesto I asked for. I called in somebody yesterday and they arrived today.
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A
We'll have to take that one offline.
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B
That's crazy.
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A
And that's why you sat in your bra and knickers. I don't want to know, Dimple.
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You know, it's so funny. Just context for that. Yeah. So we were just chatting, Ali and I, before the podcast, and I'm showering and changing and everything. I just thought, I'm just gonna sit my brow knickers in a shirt. It's like, why not Feeling whatever makes you joyful. Liberated. Yeah, exactly. I've put this lovely moisturizer on, and I realized that it has glitter in it. So my skin is all beautifully glittery. Yeah, I love that. So I was like, I'm not covering it up.
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I'm gonna glisten, just glisten away on the joy broadcast. Do you know, I think the one of the. I'm going to tell you this because I think it's so relevant for what you've just shared there. The reason why I called this podcast the Joy Broadcast was because I very much believe in what you've just said. You are a match for the energy with which you broadcast. So if you are broadcasting love, joy, abundance, gratitude, peace, then you will receive the same frequency that you are emitting.
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Yeah.
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So every time.
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And some, I always say, and more.
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And some. We want the overflow. So, yeah, when you're coming into the. Listen to the joy broadcast, I want people to go away with that overflow feeling of joy so that they can attract more back, so that they can magnetize more back. And I think that that is so prevalent for what you've just been saying there. The letting Go piece, the. The example that I use. And I'd love to know your example, but I often say to people when it comes to the letting go, it's almost like you have just placed your order with Amazon.
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Yeah.
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And you trust in Amazon to have it delivered because you just do. You're not watching the tracking emails or anything. You're doing that. It's like putting the washing in. In the washing machine. You don't go and stand by the three hour cycle to watch for when it's finished.
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You.
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You walk away, don't you? That's to me, if you can feel into that frequency of letting go. That's the frequency of letting go that you're talking about, aren't you? It's just like I've put in my order. Even if I come in and I just replace my order. Oh, by the way. And I'd also like this as well. Oh, and maybe this. That's okay. I'm just adding to my order today and I'm trusting in the universe to blow my mind. Right. Is that.
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B
Yeah, it's the same example I use. Amazon is exactly the same. Yeah. Because you know, we don't second guess Amazon. We don't check in on it. We don't. We know it'll come. We just know. And that's the same thing. And you get on with your day.
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Get on with your life.
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Get on with your life. And for me, my primary focus right now is joy. How can I bring more joy and love in my life? How can I just.
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You hang out with me.
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Yeah, exactly. Exactly. Right, Exactly. We had such a lovely day. We went for lunch and one walked along the high street and oh, it was lovely. We just put in our orders. I put all my orders in that day. Like we had sign after sign after sign.
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It's the energy of it's done. I think if people can feel into it's done. Isn't it my. Another way that I love to do that dimple. And I'm pretty much sure you're the same. Especially when we're talking about imagination is. And, and I think I've talked about it before in the podcast, but I can't remember if I have. Recently it came to me from one of the books that I've read by Phil Staltz. It's called the tools. And it was called Jeopardy. And it's the tool that fast forwards you right to the end of your life. You're like on your deathbed. And it reminded me very much of my mum. When my mum was dying and my dad, my sister and I were there and we were telling the stories of her life, of what she'd done and where she'd been and how much we loved her and all of these wonderful things. And that was like. It was such a. Almost like a light bulb moment for me. Of. Oh, when I'm 93, these are the stories that I want them to be telling. This is the family I want to have around me. This is the relationship that I want. So I almost can take myself. So it's almost an embellishment of what you've just been saying there, of just not. Not just imagining if it's in the present, but actually I'm now looking back at it as if it was a memory that not only I'm remembering, but people are telling me that I did. And that can be a really fun way of just anchoring into that trust. Right. Of I've trust it's done. I'm trusting. It's done.
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So good. Yeah. And. And. And that's a phrase I use a lot. It's done. Like. And I'll use it with people who are planning something. Like I used it for one of my other dear friends. He's planning a huge event and you know, he was on a live and he was getting like. You could tell his frequency was like, I'm a bit frightened. This is a massive deal. Like, it's a big investment. Will I fill the seats? And I just put in the. In the comments. It's done, it's done, it's done. And his whole frequency shifted.
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And there we go. Frequency. It's a frequency shift.
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It's a frequency shift. And I reminded him that him being in the present as if it's already done is what's going to fill those seats.
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Yeah.
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Because it's this. The reason it's done works is because it puts you in the frequency of gratitude. It's done. Thank you. And you can only be. The frequency of gratitude can only occur if you've received it already. So you're in the frequency of having received it, which means not lack you've already done it. We're not already done it.
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Yeah.
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We're not lack. We've already done it.
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We're in that abundant state. Go right back to what you said at the beginning. We manifest From a state of abundance of it.
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Abundance. That's why my event was called Abundant.
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You love and above.
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Love and above. Because it was all about being abundant in all the ways. Love, money, life, success. Because ultimately you. You just have to stay in the frequency of abundance. That's it.
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That's it. It is that simple. It can be so over complicated, can't it?
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Yeah.
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If I was to summarize for our wonderful listeners what we've been talking about today, it is that setting boundaries and forgiveness are acts of self love. And if you can stay in that element of and that frequency of love and ask that question, what would love do? I think you're on. On the path to having a really beautiful, loving Christmas. And if you're in a space of loneliness or desiring to have more love in your life, be love. Like your tattoo says, be love. Yes, I am love. Yes, I am love.
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B
Yeah. And I was, I was just about to add to that, Ali, is that sometimes we. We feel lonely because we want companionship. And what I've come to realize is that if you're feeling that you're lacking companionship, where are you not being your own companion.
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A
Yes, Dimple, that's another whole podcast. Where are you?
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B
Like, I remember feeling in my marriage so much neglect. And I was blaming him for the neglect. And actually the truth is I was neglecting myself, so I was a match for neglect. It was right. He was neglecting, but actually that's because I was neglecting me.
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A
Which goes right back to our boundaries of self love. Right. Go back to love or we return to love.
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B
Yeah. And also, you know, letting go of the should. We should do this and we should do that. I should have pants on while this podcast is being recorded. You know, like it's little things like that I put my pants on, I was like, nah, I don't feel like it.
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A
I wouldn't be free.
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And it sounds silly, but these are little things that if we. The compound effect of those things over time means that you end up neglecting yourself because you don't do what feels good for you, you know, and so what everybody else thinks, because actually they're probably not judging you, you're judging yourself. They probably don't care.
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They probably don't care. And they have stopped thinking about you. Dimple, I have loved this conversation today. I know that so many people are going to have taken so much from it. I hope that they have that love resounding in there, not only in their ears, but in their hearts, and that they can Bring so much love. That's my wish for us all. Because I know that when you align with love, you amplify your joy, and that's really what we want people to do. And to add even more to that, the more joy you feel, the more you become a super attractor. Because joy is one of the highest frequencies on the quantum scale, right? So if you're just asking yourself, I'm in joy, I'm in love. I'm cultivating that peace. I'm feeling abundance. Whatever it is that you desire, it's done, isn't it?
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It's done. It's just done. On Christmas Day, if somebody's pissing you off, all I want you to think about is, does this really fucking matter?
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A
Does this really matter?
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B
Can I just. Or can I just pull another cracker? Like, does it matter in the whole scheme of things?
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A
Yeah, does it matter? No.
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B
No, it doesn't. What would love say?
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A
What would love say? How would love make it light?
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Yeah, go have another drink or pull a Christmas cracker or put a party out on. Like, just let it go.
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A
Let it go. Thank you. Thank you so much for being here. I love you so much. Thank you, Dimple.
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B
You too. Thank you, Ellie.
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My mission is to spread love, joy, peace, and abundance to as much of the world as I possibly can so that every person knows that they don't have to walk alone in their darkness. So if you've enjoyed today's podcast and this episode, I would be so honored and happy if you would support my mission and share this with your network, your friends, and your family. Family, please feel free to leave me an honest review on Apple or Spotify. And until next time, remember, the ripple of joy starts with you.