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The Kids or Childfree Podcast
Hosted by Keltie Maguire · EN
Should I have kids?
If you're on the fence about whether or not to have kids, this is your podcast. Each week, host and Clarity Coach, Keltie Maguire, will interview a wide-ranging host of different voices — from best-selling authors to outdoor adventurers to health experts — about their personal Kids or Childfree decision and the topics that run alongside this choice.
From new and long-time moms to the currently ambivalent to those who are childfree by choice, you'll get to hear the answers to all the questions you can't seem to get straight answers on. What's it really like being a parent? What happens to childfree people when they get old? Do people who don't have kids regret it? Can you ever really be ready to have a child? And perhaps most importantly: How can I make my own Kids or Childfree decision?
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111. Caroline of @elsewherewithcare on Becoming Confidently Childfree
5d ago01:25:02Tap to summarizeIn this episode, Keltie speaks with highschool counselor and content creator, Caroline, about her deeply personal journey deciding to remain childfree. You'll hear about: How Caroline went from dreaming of 3 kids, to thinking she'd have only one, to being fulfilled with none. What it's like to navigate infertility treatments when you're still on the fence. Navigating the societal pressures around this choice, including when all your friends are becoming moms. How Caroline broke the news to her family and friends that she and her husband had decided to stop trying. What helped solidify her decision, and why she's decided to start sharing publicly about her childfree choice. (2:25) Meet Caroline & her Kids or Childfree decision (15:01) Trying for a kid, fertility struggles (25:40) Deciding to stay childfree (38:47) Navigating friendship groups (55:30) Embracing a childfree life (1:04:28) Childfree vs. Childless (1:16:06) Posting childfree content as an influencer About Caroline: Caroline is a high school counselor in the New York City public school system with 14 years of experience and a master's degree in counseling. As the creator behind @elsewherewithcare on Instagram, she shares content about life in New York City, travel, personal style, and her journey as a childfree woman. Through her personal experiences and professional insight, Caroline explores the complexities of choosing a childfree life and encourages others to live & find fulfillment on their own terms. By talking about the things many people are thinking but hesitant to say out loud, she helps normalize difficult conversations and fosters a sense of connection for those navigating similar experiences. Her content creates space for honest, nuanced reflection among childfree individuals and the parents and loved ones in their lives. As mentioned in the episode: Find Caroline on Instagram at instagram.com/elsewherewithcare. Join our August Confidently Childfree Group Intensive that starts on August 4th. MORE HELP FOR YOUR KIDS OR CHILDFREE DECISION: Start Here: sign up for an upcoming WORKSHOP 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/workshop Join a GROUP PROGRAM 🔗 Kids or Childfree Group Program ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-program 🔗Confidently Childfree Group Intensive ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-group-intensive Access an ON DEMAND class 🔗 Peruse the entire On Demand Collection ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/ondemand Join one of our monthly SUPPORT SERIES sessions 🔗 Kids or Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-support-series 🔗Confidently Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-support-series Work with me in 1-on-1 COACHING 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/coaching FREE resources ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/free-resources CONNECT ONLINE 💻 Website ▸ http://kidsorchildfree.com 📸 Instagram ▸ http://instagram.com/kidsorchildfree ⏰ Tiktok ▸ https://tiktok.com/@kidsorchildfree 📽️ YouTube ▸ https://www.youtube.com/@KidsorChildfree 👉 Brought to you by Keltie Maguire, Clarity Coach ▸ http://keltiemaguire.com Love what you're hearing? 💕 Subscribe | Like | Comment | Share with a friend
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110. Caroline Lee on Birth, Death, Psychedelics, and the Kids or Childfree Choice
2w ago01:08:53Tap to summarizeIn this conversation, Keltie is joined by Caroline Lee, a death doula and somatic therapist who supports women and couples with the Kids or Childfree choice. You'll hear them discuss: Caroline's personal journey to motherhood, and the career pivot that took her from photographer, to death doula and therapist. How fear, grief, shame, and mortality influence decisions around parenthood. How to work through grief and shame when confronting the Kids or Childfree choice. The role of psychedelics like psilocybin and ibogaine in exploring the decision of whether to have kids. The significance of making conscious, intentional decisions about parenthood. ...and so much more. (1:48) Meet Caroline & her Kids or Childfree decision; (10:27) The work of a death doula; (16:52) Coping with grief and shame in the Kids or Childfree decision; (30:57) Mortality + the Kids or Childfree decision; (45:51) Using psychedelics for decision-making About Caroline: Caroline Lee is a death doula, somatic therapist, writer, and mother of 2. She is the creator of To Babe or Not to Babe, a six-week group for people deciding whether to become parents, remain childfree, or have another child. Her work explores death, desire, grief, the body, and the threshold moments where a life starts asking to be lived more truthfully. Her kids are Moses and Octavia, 2.5 years and 5 months old, and she had them at 37 and 39 years old. She and her partner live in the Bay of San Francisco. As mentioned in the episode: Find Caroline and her 6-week group program, To Babe or Not to Babe, online at www.tobabeornottobabe.com. Find her on social media at @howcarolinecarolines MORE HELP FOR YOUR KIDS OR CHILDFREE DECISION: Start Here: sign up for an upcoming WORKSHOP 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/workshop Join a GROUP PROGRAM 🔗 Kids or Childfree Group Program ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-program 🔗Confidently Childfree Group Intensive ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-group-intensive Access an ON DEMAND class 🔗 Peruse the entire On Demand Collection ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/ondemand Join one of our monthly SUPPORT SERIES sessions 🔗 Kids or Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-support-series 🔗Confidently Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-support-series Work with me in 1-on-1 COACHING 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/coaching FREE resources ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/free-resources CONNECT ONLINE 💻 Website ▸ http://kidsorchildfree.com 📸 Instagram ▸ http://instagram.com/kidsorchildfree ⏰ Tiktok ▸ https://tiktok.com/@kidsorchildfree 📽️ YouTube ▸ https://www.youtube.com/@KidsorChildfree 👉 Brought to you by Keltie Maguire, Clarity Coach ▸ http://keltiemaguire.com Love what you're hearing? 💕 Subscribe | Like | Comment | Share with a friend
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109. Tina Martinez on Living a Simple Childfree Life
3w ago01:01:39Tap to summarizeKeltie is joined by guest, Tina Martinez, for a conversation about Tina's journey to embracing her childfree choice — and why a simple and peaceful life without kids is more than enough. The two of them chat about: How Tina and her husband ultimately landed on the childfree decision, after trying to have kids. The often-overlooked perks of a romantic partnership without children. How Tina navigates her fears about ageing and companionship. The importance of community and support networks for childfree women – and how Tina is building these for herself, and other childfree women. The biggest myths and stereotypes about childfree women. (2:08) Meet Tina and her Kids or Childfree decision (16:40) Being a childfree couple (29:21) An (extra)ordinary life without kids (39:05) Myths about childfree women (47:24) Being childfree in your 50s About Tina Tina Martinez is a Food Producer at Good Housekeeping magazine with over 15 years of experience across recipe development, food styling, and culinary content production. Currently working in a test kitchen, she wears many hats—developing, writing, and testing recipes, styling food for photo shoots, and producing video content for social media. She began her career in restaurant kitchens before moving into teaching culinary classes, eventually transitioning into food styling for editorial, digital, and television platforms. Originally from New Jersey, Tina has spent the past 25 years living everywhere from Queens and Brooklyn to California and Washington, DC, before settling in Westchester with her husband. Outside the kitchen, she's passionate about fitness and staying active—you can find her running, weightlifting, hiking local trails, or exploring neighborhood breweries. As mentioned in the episode Find Tina on Instagram at instagram.com/the_saltgypsy Find her on TikTok at tiktok.com/@the.salt.gypsy Her website is www.tinadegraff.com MORE HELP FOR YOUR KIDS OR CHILDFREE DECISION: Start Here: sign up for an upcoming WORKSHOP 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/workshop Join a GROUP PROGRAM 🔗 Kids or Childfree Group Program ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-program 🔗Confidently Childfree Group Intensive ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-group-intensive Access an ON DEMAND class 🔗 Peruse the entire On Demand Collection ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/ondemand Join one of our monthly SUPPORT SERIES sessions 🔗 Kids or Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-support-series 🔗Confidently Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-support-series Work with me in 1-on-1 COACHING 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/coaching FREE resources ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/free-resources CONNECT ONLINE 💻 Website ▸ http://kidsorchildfree.com 📸 Instagram ▸ http://instagram.com/kidsorchildfree ⏰ Tiktok ▸ https://tiktok.com/@kidsorchildfree 📽️ YouTube ▸ https://www.youtube.com/@KidsorChildfree 👉 Brought to you by Keltie Maguire, Clarity Coach ▸ http://keltiemaguire.com Love what you're hearing? 💕 Subscribe | Like | Comment | Share with a friend
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108. Emmalee Bierly & Jennifer Chaiken of ShrinkChicks on Friendships Between Moms and Non-Moms
4w ago00:53:38Tap to summarizeKeltie is joined by therapists and hosts of the ShrinkChicks Podcast, Emmalee Bierly and Jennifer Chaiken, to discuss friendships between moms and women without kids — including their own. Hear them explore: How Jennifer supported Emmalee through postpartum depression and fertility struggles — and why it was actually a good thing Jennifer isn't a mom as well. Your biggest friendship dilemmas with friends who are moms. Why open communication and honesty are the key to navigating different life choices. How to bridge the divide that can occur when one of you has kids and the other doesn't. (2:13) Meet Emmalee and Jennifer, their friendship, & their Kids or Childfree choices (16:01) How Emmalee's motherhood journey impacted their friendship (32:14) Advice on feeling left out in friend groups comprised mostly of moms (39:12) Misconceptions about moms or childfree people About The ShrinkChicks Emmalee Bierly & Jennifer Chaiken are both Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists, co-owners of the private therapy practice, The Therapy Group, and co-hosts of the ShrinkChicks Podcast! They believe in being down to earth, authentic, and transparent, which are values they bring both to their practice as well as their podcast! Their mission is to make therapy more relatable and accessible, working to break down that clinical wall. As mentioned in the episode Tune in to hear Keltie on the ShrinkChicks Podcast Find Emmalee and Jennifer on Instagram at:@shrinkchicks @thetherapygrp Their website is thetherapygroup.com Join our upcoming Grow or No Workshhop happening on June 24th. MORE HELP FOR YOUR KIDS OR CHILDFREE DECISION: Start Here: sign up for an upcoming WORKSHOP 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/workshop Join a GROUP PROGRAM 🔗 Kids or Childfree Group Program ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-program 🔗Confidently Childfree Group Intensive ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-group-intensive Access an ON DEMAND class 🔗 Peruse the entire On Demand Collection ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/ondemand Join one of our monthly SUPPORT SERIES sessions 🔗 Kids or Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-support-series 🔗Confidently Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-support-series Work with me in 1-on-1 COACHING 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/coaching FREE resources ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/free-resources CONNECT ONLINE 💻 Website ▸ http://kidsorchildfree.com 📸 Instagram ▸ http://instagram.com/kidsorchildfree ⏰ Tiktok ▸ https://tiktok.com/@kidsorchildfree 📽️ YouTube ▸ https://www.youtube.com/@KidsorChildfree 👉 Brought to you by Keltie Maguire, Clarity Coach ▸ http://keltiemaguire.com Love what you're hearing? 💕 Subscribe | Like | Comment | Share with a friend
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107. Dr. Margo Lowy on Maternal Ambivalence and the Emotional Complexity of Motherhood
Jun 1000:58:40Tap to summarizeJoin Keltie as she speaks with pyschotherapist and researcher, Dr. Margo Lowy, about the concept of maternal ambivalence and the mixed emotions that accompany the experience of motherhood. They discuss: Why saying yes to motherhood means embracing the "both, and" What maternal ambivalence and being on the fence about kids have in common, and what we can learn from the former Why letting go and surrender are essential to the motherhood path The myth of the perfect decision (and perfect mother) ...and lots more. (2:17) Meet Margo and her work on motherhood ambivalence; (11:40) Duality of the Kids or Childfree decision & Margo's motherhood experience; (23:17) Mothering as an experience of continually letting go; (43:07) The freedom of no "right" decision About Dr. Lowy Dr. Margo Lowy is a psychotherapist and researcher whose work explores the emotional complexity of motherhood. She's the author of Maternal Ambivalence: The Loving Moments & Bitter Truths of Motherhood and a contributor to Psychology Today. As mentioned in the episode Find Dr. Lowy online at drmargolowy.com Her Instagram is @drmargolowy She's on Facebook at facebook.com/drmargolowy Read her book, Maternal Ambivalence: The Loving Moments & Bitter Truths of Motherhood Read the Pyschology Today piece by Dr. Margo Lowy Watch the French film, A Happy Event Get our free Kids or Childfree Book Guide MORE HELP FOR YOUR KIDS OR CHILDFREE DECISION: Start Here: sign up for an upcoming WORKSHOP 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/workshop Join a GROUP PROGRAM 🔗 Kids or Childfree Group Program ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-program 🔗Confidently Childfree Group Intensive ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-group-intensive Access an ON DEMAND class 🔗 Peruse the entire On Demand Collection ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/ondemand Join one of our monthly SUPPORT SERIES sessions 🔗 Kids or Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-support-series 🔗Confidently Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-support-series Work with me in 1-on-1 COACHING 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/coaching FREE resources ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/free-resources CONNECT ONLINE 💻 Website ▸ http://kidsorchildfree.com 📸 Instagram ▸ http://instagram.com/kidsorchildfree ⏰ Tiktok ▸ https://tiktok.com/@kidsorchildfree 📽️ YouTube ▸ https://www.youtube.com/@KidsorChildfree 👉 Brought to you by Keltie Maguire, Clarity Coach ▸ http://keltiemaguire.com Love what you're hearing? 💕 Subscribe | Like | Comment | Share with a friend
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106. Tyece Wilkins-Amadi on Cultivating Creativity in Motherhood
Jun 301:01:57Tap to summarizeIn our first guest conversation of Season 8, Tyece Wilkins-Amadi gives us a unique view into her inner landscape as a mom to toddler twins — plus how her experience intertwines with themes of identity, ambition, and creativity. Hear us discuss: How Tyece shifted from absolutely not wanting kids to becoming a mom to twins (1:16) The early days of caring for two newborns — and how she managed the juggle (16:30) The lessons she learned from making the wrong childcare decision (27:41) How Tyece makes space for her writing — and why motherhood and creativity go hand in hand (31:27) The unique challenges and joys of raising twins (49:10) About Tyece Tyece Wilkins-Amadi is a mother of toddler twins, a wife to a Dodgers-loving Californian and a writer exploring motherhood, ambition, and the quiet negotiations of a creative life. Her work sits at the intersection of care and becoming, where questions of identity, meaning, and worth are continually rewritten. Drawing from her background in workplace culture and well-being, she writes essays that linger in the liminal spaces between striving and rest, clarity and confusion, and the life we planned versus the one we're living. Her writing is an ongoing attempt to name what often goes unsaid, and to imagine more spacious, human ways of living, working, and creating. As mentioned in the episode Last call for our On Demand Fan sale! Get our full collection of On Demand classes for $269. Save your seat for an upcoming Kids or Childfree Workshop. Find Tyece on Substack, at Ampersand Motherhood: substack.com/@ampersandmotherhood Her Instagram handle is @tyunscripted Read the piece that inspired this podcast conversation: Tyece's tending "Toward a Truer Life" essay: ampersandmotherhood.substack.com/p/tending-toward-a-truer-life Read Cheryl Strayed's The Ghost Ship That Didn't Carry Us MORE HELP FOR YOUR KIDS OR CHILDFREE DECISION: Start Here: sign up for an upcoming WORKSHOP 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/workshop Join a GROUP PROGRAM 🔗 Kids or Childfree Group Program ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-program 🔗Confidently Childfree Group Intensive ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-group-intensive Access an ON DEMAND class 🔗 Peruse the entire On Demand Collection ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/ondemand Join one of our monthly SUPPORT SERIES sessions 🔗 Kids or Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-support-series 🔗Confidently Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-support-series Work with me in 1-on-1 COACHING 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/coaching FREE resources ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/free-resources CONNECT ONLINE 💻 Website ▸ http://kidsorchildfree.com 📸 Instagram ▸ http://instagram.com/kidsorchildfree ⏰ Tiktok ▸ https://tiktok.com/@kidsorchildfree 📽️ YouTube ▸ https://www.youtube.com/@KidsorChildfree 👉 Brought to you by Keltie Maguire, Clarity Coach ▸ http://keltiemaguire.com Love what you're hearing? 💕 Subscribe | Like | Comment | Share with a friend
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105. Keltie Maguire on Coaching Insights On Demand
May 3000:19:41Tap to summarizeWe're kicking off a brand-new season of the podcast with some of the topic takeaways from our series of On Demand classes — plus, details on a big sale! We'll explore: How the stories you're telling yourself about this decision are holding you back How cultural and societal expectations around the Kids or Childfree choice shape our desires and decisions How to navigate this decision when you and your partner are on a different page Why the key to considering life's hardships and this choice, is asking ourselves what makes life worth living The importance of exploring our personal relationship with regret when we're worried about regret As mentioned in the episode: Check out this week's On Demand Fan sale! Get our full collection of On Demand classes for $269. Here's the reel with Shan Boodram, congratulating Vanessa & Xander on their childfree choice. The On Demand classes mentioned in the episode include: Find Calm in the Storm (4:04) Other People (6:40) A Difference of Opinion (9:54) An Uncertain Future (12:31) Exploring the Fear of Regret (14:22) MORE HELP FOR YOUR KIDS OR CHILDFREE DECISION: Start Here: sign up for an upcoming WORKSHOP 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/workshop Join a GROUP PROGRAM 🔗 Kids or Childfree Group Program ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-program 🔗Confidently Childfree Group Intensive ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-group-intensive Access an ON DEMAND class 🔗 Peruse the entire On Demand Collection ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/ondemand Join one of our monthly SUPPORT SERIES sessions 🔗 Kids or Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-support-series 🔗Confidently Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-support-series Work with me in 1-on-1 COACHING 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/coaching FREE resources ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/free-resources CONNECT ONLINE 💻 Website ▸ http://kidsorchildfree.com 📸 Instagram ▸ http://instagram.com/kidsorchildfree ⏰ Tiktok ▸ https://tiktok.com/@kidsorchildfree 📽️ YouTube ▸ https://www.youtube.com/@KidsorChildfree 👉 Brought to you by Keltie Maguire, Clarity Coach ▸ http://keltiemaguire.com Love what you're hearing? 💕 Subscribe | Like | Comment | Share with a friend
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104. Keltie Maguire on Key Coaching Takeaways During Season 7
Apr 2900:32:55Tap to summarizeIn this episode, Keltie Maguire discusses some of the key themes and insights that have come up in her private and group coaching sessions during Season 7 of The Kids or Childfree Podcast, as well as episodes from Season 7 that address these topics. We'll explore: Why it's important to make sure you're trying to solve the right problem when making this choice. (4:50) That it's good to want to be prepared - but why you should stop striving for perfection. (15:03) The importance of cultivating self-trust. (19:54) How to be conscious about what you're consuming, and asking yourself what you're hoping to hear. (24:58) As mentioned in the episode: Ep. 95 with Dr. Jay Zigmont, CFP on Childfree Trust & Estate Planning Ep. 94 with Amrita Vijay on When Platonic Life Partners Have a Child Ep. 99 with Helena de Groot on Finding Peace Amid the Discomfort of Doubt Ep. 90 with Heather and Doug Boneparth on How to Money Together in Parenthood Ep. 98 with Jordy Snyder on Overcoming Your Fears to Become a Mom Ep. 100 - We Celebrate 100 Episodes Hearing From You Ep. 91. with Marcia Drut-Davis on Being Unapologetically Childfree Ep. 102: Katie Snooks on Her View from the Fence __ MORE HELP FOR YOUR KIDS OR CHILDFREE DECISION: Start Here: sign up for an upcoming WORKSHOP 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/workshop Join a GROUP PROGRAM 🔗 Kids or Childfree Group Program ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-program 🔗Confidently Childfree Group Intensive ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-group-intensive Access an ON DEMAND class 🔗 Peruse the entire On Demand Collection ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/ondemand Join one of our monthly SUPPORT SERIES sessions 🔗 Kids or Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-support-series 🔗Confidently Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-support-series Work with me in 1-on-1 COACHING 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/coaching FREE resources ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/free-resources CONNECT ONLINE 💻 Website ▸ http://kidsorchildfree.com 📸 Instagram ▸ http://instagram.com/kidsorchildfree ⏰ Tiktok ▸ https://tiktok.com/@kidsorchildfree 📽️ YouTube ▸ https://www.youtube.com/@KidsorChildfree 👉 Brought to you by Keltie Maguire, Clarity Coach ▸ http://keltiemaguire.com Love what you're hearing? 💕 Subscribe | Like | Comment | Share with a friend
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103. Tonya Kelly on the Complexities of Being a Childfree Stepmom
Apr 2201:07:58Tap to summarizeIn this episode, Keltie speaks with therapist, Tonya Kelly, about what happens when you're childfree by choice...but your partner is a parent. Hear them discuss: How societal norms and family expectations clouded Tonya's Kids or Childfree choice. Tonya's journey to making her childfree decision, after years of being on the fence. How she navigated tough conversations with her mom about her decision not to have kids, especially as an only child. - The things that helped Tonya to cultivate greater confidence in her childfree choice. The challenges — and perks — of being married to someone who is a parent. How unusual and challenging it can be to be a step-mom who is childfree — and why it often feels like you don't fully fit in anywhere. (0:48) Meet Tonya and her Kids or Childfree decision (12:27) Advice for fence-sitters about outside pressure (18:07) Marriage, divorce, considering egg freezing, and re-marrying someone with a 16-year-old (34:22) Being a childfree step-mother (47:28) Tips for finding confidence in being childfree (56:34) Tonya's experience in the Confidently Childfree Group Intensive About Tonya: Tonya Kelly has a background in social work and is an owner of a private practice clinic in Ontario, Canada. She specializes in trauma treatment for first responders. She also works with individuals and couples to help them explore old patterns, heal from painful experiences and reconnect with their sense of self. She is deeply committed to her own healing journey and is passionate about cultivating a life that is rooted in inner peace, joy, and purpose. She spent over a decade on the fence about whether or not to have kids, shaped by her own childhood experiences, relationship changes and learning to trust her inner knowing. Mentioned in the episode: Find Tonya online at www.coretherapycentre.com And on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/core.therapy.and.assessment/ Read Cheryl Strayed's The Ghost Ship That Didn't Carry Us. Hear these past The Kids or Childfree episodes that discuss egg freezing: Episode 53 with Sophia Seymour Episode 75 with Ruthie Ackerman Episode 72 with Dr. Amanda Adeleye __ MORE HELP FOR YOUR KIDS OR CHILDFREE DECISION Start Here: sign up for an upcoming WORKSHOP 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/workshop Join a GROUP PROGRAM 🔗 Kids or Childfree Group Program ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-program 🔗Confidently Childfree Group Intensive ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-group-intensive Access an ON DEMAND class 🔗 Peruse the entire On Demand Collection ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/ondemand Join one of our monthly SUPPORT SERIES sessions 🔗 Kids or Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-support-series 🔗Confidently Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-support-series Work with me in 1-on-1 COACHING 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/coaching FREE resources ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/free-resources
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102. Katie Snooks on Her View from the Fence
Apr 1501:04:10Tap to summarizeIn this heartfelt conversation, content creator Katie Snooks shares her journey of navigating the the decision of whether or not to have kids, from the perspective of someone still on the fence. Hear her and Keltie discuss: Katie's decision to share her decision journey publicly, and why it's been equal parts helpful and harmful. The most difficult parts of being on the fence — and the fears keeping Katie stuck. Why Katie's "action plan" didn't work the way she and her husband thought it would. Ways to prevent other's opinions and external pressures from getting in the way. ...and so much more (0:45) Meet Katie & her Kids or Childfree indecision (17:50) Coaching Katie through grief & acceptance about not wanting kids (21:11) Making the decision with her husband (30:54) Sharing online about being a fence-sitter (40:00) Navigating fear and regret in this decision About Katie: Katie Snooks is a London-based content creator and writer known for her honest, relatable conversations around dating, relationships, and the complexities of modern life. On her social media she shares London date night recommendations in a series called #dateswithkate and has also documented her struggle with acne on YouTube. Mentioned in the episode: Find Katie on YouTube: www.youtube.com/snooksy And on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katesnooks/ Pre-order Katie's new book, The Ghost of Exes Past, using the links below: https://amzlink.to/az00HvAPqTIFO https://www.amazon.co.uk/Ghost-Exes-Past-paranormal-romance-ebook/dp/B0G5FGQ6BJ __ MORE HELP FOR YOUR KIDS OR CHILDFREE DECISION Start Here: sign up for an upcoming WORKSHOP 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/workshop Join a GROUP PROGRAM 🔗 Kids or Childfree Group Program ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-program 🔗Confidently Childfree Group Intensive ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-group-intensive Access an ON DEMAND class 🔗 Peruse the entire On Demand Collection ▸ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/ondemand Join one of our monthly SUPPORT SERIES sessions 🔗 Kids or Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-support-series 🔗Confidently Childfree Support Series ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-support-series Work with me in 1-on-1 COACHING 🔗 https://kidsorchildfree.com/coaching FREE resources ▸ https://kidsorchildfree.com/free-resources
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