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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor podcast. I'm I am your host Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so you never miss another episode. And I am running a free workshop on March 25th called Identity Upgrade. And you'd should be there because after 20 years of studying and teaching self development, I've seen thousands of people try to change their life through habits and routines and actions. But nothing will stick long term if you don't change your identity because your behavior will always fall back to who you believe that you are. So in this workshop I will show you step by step how to upgrade your identity and get rid of fears and limiting beliefs so that you can finally change the course of your life. So if you're ready to become the next version of yourself, go to 2026upgrade.com and save your seat there. Today I'm going to be talking about the power that lies within you because you are way way more powerful than you think that you are. And the biggest thing that's holding you back is in your life, I promise you, is not intelligence, it's not talent and it's not your opportunities. It's the story about yourself that you started believing when you were right around 7 years old. And that story has been quietly running your entire life. Your decisions, your confidence, your relationships, and even the money that you make for decades. So you might think that you're making rational choices about your life, but in reality, you're just protecting an identity that your brain decided was safe years ago. And the crazy part about it is that you probably repeat that identity out loud and in your mind every single day, hundreds of times a day, without even realizing it. So today I'm going to show you how powerful you really are and how the words that you speak and the thoughts that you repeat are literally changing and shaping the, the reality that you live in. Okay, so let's go ahead and dive in. Your brain does basically three things constantly. Number one, it filters your reality. Number two, it interprets your reality. And then number three is it predicts reality. And neuroscience calls this predictive processing. So your brain isn't just like reacting to the world, it's actually guessing what the world will do next and then it's actually looking for proof. So what that means is that people don't actually see reality. You don't actually see what's going on in front of you. What you see is the evidence for what you already believe is going to happen. And so I'll give you an example. If someone believes the thought I'm bad with money, your brain will notice every financial mistake that you have. It will ignore all of the financial wins that you have had. It will avoid opportunities, and it will take smaller risks instead of bigger risks. And because of that, eventually the belief will become even more true and hardwired through the behavior and the results that you get in your life. Not because the belief was ever true in the first place, but because that belief was repeated so much that you took action that aligned with that belief. And then you got results that aligned with that belief as well. Which means you literally created the reality that you thought in your head. It is the definition of a self fulfilling prophecy. You are constantly creating your own reality. And I don't think really any human like fully understands how powerful they actually are. Like, I believe deep down in my core that humans are a million times more powerful than we actually believe that we are. And if we were to be able to use our power to the highest ability, we have to look at ourself and go, okay, well then I really need to change my thoughts, I really need to change my beliefs, and I must change the thing that I think about myself so that I can have my beliefs line up with the Actions that I need to take in order to create the life that I want. So therefore my results are different. We must change every step of that process. Here's a different way of thinking of all of this. Okay. Your brain treats your beliefs like commands. So when you say something like, I'm just, just not confident, your brain interprets that as truth. It interprets it as a rule that it must obey. Don't act confident in any sort of way, don't notice any way that you are confident, and only notice the ways that you have not been confident. And then it will protect that identity by avoiding situations that challenge the identity, creating anxiety when you step outside of that reality, like that identity that you have of yourself, pulling you back into the familiar version of yourself, it does everything that it can to prove your beliefs true. Because it's a command. Your brain prefers a predictable identity over a better life, even if that identity is painful. Why is that? Because predictability to the brain is safety. Your brain is a safety mechanism. That's it. And so I know you've heard me say this before if you've listened to this podcast for a while, but I really want you to get this burned into your brain. You are creating your own reality here. And so every thought that you have is actually shaping your, your nervous system, it's shaping your perception, it's changing your actions in eventually the life that you end up having. So if we zoom out even further and kind of look at this from like a 50,000 foot overview, it's kind of wild that humans can even observe their own thoughts in the first place, Isn't it? Like, I don't know, obviously I'm not in any other animals brains, but I don't know of any other species of animals that can actually observe their own thoughts like they're observing it and looking at it. And so for humans, we kind of have two layers. Like we have the thinking mind that exists inside of our brain. And then the second layer is this like awareness that's outside of the thinking mind, that is observing the mind. And that awareness and getting out of the thinking mind and getting into that awareness as often as you possibly can is where your real power lies. Like, that's where you're actually going to be able to change. Because you can see a thought that you have. You can observe the thought from an outsider's perspective. You can say, do I want to keep that thought or do I want to change that thought? And if you don't like it, you can change it. I don't know if animals can do that, but humans can do that, right? So that means that if I can observe my thoughts, it means that I'm not my thoughts. You are the thinker of your thoughts and you are the chooser of your thoughts. And we will be right back. Hey, showing up for yourself day in and day out and doing the hard things is what creates a better life. And Noon Hydration helps you stay moving with the real deal activated hydration built to support you through those moments that challenge you. Noon Hydration tablets deliver clean ingredients and optimize electrolytes that hydrate better than water alone, especially when you're sweating or on the go. The tablets dissolve quickly, taste great, and come in a single no mess tube that you can take anywhere. 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And it's why Shopify has the best converting checkout on the planet. It helps boost conversions, meaning less carts go abandoned and more sales for you. Shopify is the commerce platform behind millions of businesses around the world and 10% of all e commerce in the US from household names like Heinz and Mattel to brands just getting started. See less carts go abandoned and more sales with Shopify and their shop pay button. Sign up for your $1 per month trial@shopify.com dial. Go to shopify.com dial that shopify.com dial. And now back to the show. Your brain is like a tool that you use, you know, just like a car is a tool that you use to get from one place to another. If you have a Toyota, you know, and you drive that Toyota around, you're not the Toyota. You don't identify. You don't go, I am a Toyota. Why? Well, why are you a Toyota? Well, because I drive a Toyota around, right? No, it's just a tool. It gets you from point A to point B. You were the driver of that Toyota. Same way your brain is a tool. It thinks. That's what it does. So this is one of the most important things that you can do in this situation. The thing that you need to understand is that just because you think a thought does not even mean that that thought is yours. In fact, psychology proves that most of your thoughts are something that you learned from somebody else when you were younger. So I always say you can't control your first thought, but you can always control your second thought. So when your first thought pops up, you have to understand. Usually that's like your parents thought. That's your dad's thought. That's your aunt's thought. That's someone else's thought that you learned along the way. And so when that first thought pops up, you can look at it from an outsider's perspective and say, I don't know if, is that the thought that I want? And if it's not the thought that you want and it's not the thought that's going to help you create the life that you want in the future, then that is a thought that you can change. You can change it. Do you get that? Like, do you really get that to your deep core, you are not your thoughts. You are the thinker of your thoughts. And if you're the thinker of your thoughts and you use your brain like a tool, you can change your Thoughts. If a thought pops up into your head, you can't control your first thought, you can always control your second thought. It will take time. But if you really want to change your life, but if you really want to change that thought eventually, if you work at it and you work at it and you work at it, your second thought will eventually become your first thought through repetition. Now, when you look at words, words don't just communicate to other people, they also install identity in yourself and then they reinforce the identity through all of your thoughts. So I really want you to pay attention to what you say. Because if you say like every time you say, I'm terrible at this, oh, I'm, I'm just always so unlucky, or I'm, I'm bad with relationships, you're reinforcing that neural pathway. And your brain hears this repetition as truth, not accuracy, just repetition. Like that repetition. You could say a complete lie to yourself, which FYI, that's what most of us do all day long anyways, but you could say a complete lie to yourself over and over and over and over and over again and, and eventually your brain starts to believe it. Not because it's accurate, just because it's repeated. And that's where beliefs come from. Like, beliefs are not fundamentally true. They are just a thought that you have thought for so long that you think that they're true. But if you believe a thought and somebody else does not believe that thought, then that means that thought's not true. So if you're thinking something, you're trying to get yourself out of your own head, and you're like, but I think that this is true. And then you ask yourself, is there another person on this earth that wouldn't think that this is true? And if the answer is yes, then that belief cannot be objectively true in this reality. And so the brain's rule is pretty simple. Repeated thoughts become automatic thoughts. In cognitive behavioral therapy, they call it automatic thoughts. It's just thoughts that pop up in your head without you even having to think about them. So you've got to think about this. If that's the case, what are your most repeated thoughts? About yourself? About the world, about other people, about what's possible for you. Because those thoughts become who you are and they dictate what you get out of your life. And that becomes your destiny. And so when you look at this self fulfilling loop that we get stuck in with the brain, here's how it actually works, right? You have a thought, you have, and that thought or belief you know thoughts and beliefs, I'll put together those reinforce your identity, and that identity changes your behavior. And your behavior will get you some result. And those results will reinforce your beliefs about yourself. So let me give you a couple of examples, right? So if you think to yourself, I'm just not a really disciplined person, or discipline is hard or something like that, if that's the thought that you have, then the identity that will come from it is I'm not a disciplined person. And if you really think to yourself that you're not a disciplined person, then your behavior has to line up with that identity. So what will you do? You will procrastinate, you will avoid hard tasks, you will quit earlier than you know the typical person might. And so the result of that, you'll be inconsistent, you'll lack progress, you won't get as far as you want to in life, and then your brain will see that result and say, see, I told you. But the belief from the beginning created the behavior. And then the behavior once you go all the way through the cycle will then reinforce that identity. And that's how this vicious loop ends up getting stuck in our brain. If you think to yourself finishing things are hard, or I don't typically finish things, or I never follow through or whatever it might be, then your identity, if that's a thought or belief that you have, then your identity that comes created from that is, I'm, I'm someone who starts things but never follows through, right? And so if that's your identity, then your behavior, you might start things like projects, and you might be excited about it, but you know what, you might lose motivation pretty quickly. And then you jump to another new idea and you don't push through when things get hard because you know, you're just the type of person doesn't follow through. And so that result that you get because of your behaviors is you'll have a bunch of unfinished goals. You won't have a whole lot of momentum on your side because you keep giving up. And then your self trust will erode and your brain says, see, you never finish anything. But once again, the belief created the behavior. And then that behavior ended up turning into a result that lined up with what you originally believed. And that behavior reinforces your identity. And this happens, if not hundreds, thousands of times per day, right? You're just, it's constantly happening. You're constantly creating your reality with every single thought that you have. And so to really hammer this point home, like most people think that their beliefs in their own life is their Intelligence or their talent or their resources or their connections and the people they surround themselves with. But the real limit, like the real thing that's holding you back for being the absolute fucking best that you can be is your perceived identity, who you think you are. People don't rise to their potential. I promise you, you're not rising to your potential. People rise to the highest level that their identity allows them to. And that's why someone can make millions of dollars and then lose all of it. They can lose 50 pounds and then they gain all of that weight back. They can find love, the love of their life, the person they've been searching for their entire life, and burn it all down and sabotage it. Why? Because over time, like, you can take action outside of your identity for a little while, but if your identity doesn't change, your identity will always pull you back. Every single time. It might be three weeks later, it might be three months later, it might be nine months later, it might be a year later, but it will pull you back. So in order for us to completely change our life, we must take a really, really hard look at who we think we are and change anything that does not line up with who we need to be in order to create the life that we want in the future. You are constantly creating your own reality. And so let's teach you real quick how to write the script, right? Step one is you need to catch identity statements. Listen for something like I am or I am not. I am is the two most powerful words in the entire world. Okay? Step number two is to upgrade your identity slightly. Don't be delusional. That's not what I want you to do. Just progressive. So an example, like if you say something like, I'm terrible at business, don't say, oh, I'm a multi billionaire and I run a multi million dollar business. That's stupid. That's dumb. That's not gonna work. Your BS meter is always going to go off. Say something like, instead of I'm terrible at business progress, just a little bit of progress, right? I'm learning how to build a business, or I'm getting better at building businesses every day, or I'm working really hard at becoming a better business owner. See, the point is not to lie to yourself. Like some of the Law of Attraction or secret things is like what they tell you to do. The point is to start to change your identity by adding just a little bit of progress from where you currently are, right? So just to be clear on it, it's not to lie to Yourself, it's to say something that's actually believable, that lines up with where you're trying to go. Okay, and then step number three is to create identity repetition daily, multiple times a day. Your brain needs volume to rewrite neural patterns. Like, way more volume than you think. It takes work. But I promise you, this work, it is. It is hard to catch all of these little tiny thoughts that have just been sneaking through your entire life. It's hard. But it is so worth it. And it will change the entire course of your life completely. And so most people spend their entire life trying to change circumstances. But the people who create really, really extraordinary lives, they do something a lot deeper. They change the story they believe about themselves. Because the moment you change your story and you actually start to believe it, your brain starts looking for a different future. And it realizes you are way more powerful than you think. You are constantly creating every single future. Ten seconds ahead. Ten seconds ahead. Ten seconds ahead. But that power only activates and you really become like amazing and changing your life the moment you stop believing the old version of yourself. So that's all I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, you will absolutely love my free workshop that's coming out on March 25th. It is called Identity Upgrade. I'm going to be live with you and I'm teaching because after 20 years of studying and teaching self development, I've seen so many people try to change their life and see that nothing sticks because they don't change their identity first. And so in this workshop, I'm going to show you step by step how to upgrade your identity so you can change the entire course of your life. So if you're ready to become the next version of yourself, go to 2026upgrade.com and register for free once again, 2026upgrade.com and with that, I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission. Make somebody else's day. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.