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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so you never miss another episode. I put out episodes four times a week for almost 10 years now. So if you're ready to learn and grow and improve yourself, hit that subscribe button. Follow along and let's change your life. Today, we're going to be talking about why you feel so stuck in your Life and how to basically get everything that you want in your life and to understand that getting everything that you want in life is not about doing or achieving more. And so what I'm going to basically talk about today is hopefully waking you up a little bit to your programmings, some of your conditionings, and also to currently what you already have around you. And so one of the reasons why you feel so stuck in life is because I'm gonna go out and say that everything that you want is already here in front of you. And you might be like, no, no, no, but I don't have that successful business. I don't have that million dollars yet. I don't have this thing and that thing and this thing and that thing. I think that for most of us, what we already want is already right in front of us. We're just missing it. And most people never wake up to the amazing life that they already have that's all around them. And so let's not sugarcoat this. Most people are not living in their life. They're just surviving. They're performing for other people. They're coping, they're numbing, they're distracting themselves. They're drifting through days with just enough stimulation to keep the existential dread at bay. But if you stripped away all of the noise, all of the scrolling on Instagram and watching too much Netflix and being over distracted and everything, take away the jobs, take away the shows, the endless scrolling, most people would feel it. It's that quiet thought in the back of your head that's like, is this it? Is this really all that there is in life? And the real tragedy of all of this is that most people are surrounded by the thing that they already want, the thing that they're starving for. They just don't really know how to open themselves up to receiving it. And so I'll give you a quick little story that'll make sense. Okay. There's a plane that's. That crashes into the water. It hits the water, everybody who is on the plane just blacks out. They wake up and they're alive. They think, oh my God, am I dead? Am I in heaven? What's going on? They're awake up, they're alive and they're on a raft. And no one really remembers how they got there, but they're just drifting in the ocean. And they're drifting in the ocean for days and days and days. And after a few days, they're parched, they're dying of thirst, they're hungry, they're, you know, dying of Thirst. Because they're in the ocean. You can't drink salt water. And so eventually a rescue helicopter comes by, picks them all up and they're all rescued. And the rescuers are just like, do you have water? I'm just so thirsty. Like, yeah, here's some water. They give him water. And eventually the rescuers and the helicopter say, why didn't you just drink the water? And they're like, well, because we were in. We're in salt water. You can't drink saltwater. They're like, no, you weren't in salt water. You were just in a really big lake. They were in this massive lake and they couldn't see land and they don't know how they got there except for the plane crash. So they just assumed, hey, we must be in the ocean. They could have reached over for days and just cupped their hands and drank the water. But they didn't because they didn't know what they were floating in. They already had what they needed. They just didn't know it. Now, it's not a true story. It's a metaphor for how most people live their lives. This is how most people go through their entire life. They're dying of thirst in the middle of an ocean of joy and peace and happiness and love and everything they've ever wanted, but they don't know that it's there. And so what we need is a wake up call to really realize what is around us. And it's not really your fault that you don't realize what's around you. The ugly truth that we don't really want to talk about is that, you know, we've all pretty much been conditioned in the society that we live in unconsciously. It's not like some evil overlord is looking over us and making us do this. But we've basically been conditioned from society and from our parents and then our grandparents and just generations to believe that the good stuff, everything that we want is somewhere else outside of us, that we have to go achieve that love that you want. That's after you get everybody's approval. The peace that you want deep inside, well, that's after all of the achievement that you need. The joy that you want to feel, well, you got to earn that one happiness. You can only be happy after you're done building relaxation. Only after I make that first million dollars, then I can relax. In the society that we live in, we're trained to defer our aliveness. And we're taught that love and joy and fun and peace and happiness is Somewhere else down the road, it's not here and now in, you know, from the first time somebody said, hey, you know, good boy or good girl or you're such a good boy or such a good girl, our nervous system kind of started to pick up on the rules. Okay, I need to be a good boy, I need to be a good girl. I need to be useful, I need to be liked, I need to be loved, I need to be good, I need to work hard, I need to achieve, I need to, I need to earn my worth in some sort of way. And then maybe, maybe one day you can feel safe enough to relax and then live the life you've been wanting to live. So the results is just billions of people kind of waking or walking around in a trance, like spiritually malnourished, emotionally constipated, physically present in their body, but like psychologically not really there. And those, so there's think about what they want and the next thing, and the next thing they got to go to the next thing that will make us happy. And I lived my life for a long time like this, where even when like I was on vacation, I was like, there's gotta be something. I gotta work towards the next thing. I'm not where I want to be yet. I've gotta get somewhere else than here. And the hypnosis of all of this is really real. Like, let's call it what it is. This isn't just about being too busy. It's kind of like a mass hypnosis. So many people are just asleep and they're not aware that they have everything that they need around them. And that by going and achieving something or being somebody else or getting others approval will not give them the thing that they want. They have inside of them and around them the thing that they want. It's always been there. And like I said, most of my life I was in a state of trance. And sometimes I still find myself going back into a state of trance, chasing the next thing, the next achievement, the next dollar. But nothing gave me what I thought that it would. Nothing gave me what I was searching for. All of these boxes I wanted to check off in life. And I've checked off pretty much all of them and then realized one day, like, hold on, I didn't get the feeling I thought I was gonna get. If there was, if there was, and I'm not saying there is, but if there was some controlling evil overlord, right. If I was a conspiracy theorist, it's brilliant because if you're asleep, you're controllable. And then you'll buy what they sell and you'll work the jobs that drain you to keep up with the Joneses and get the next thing and protect belief systems that never belong to you in the first place. And so if we're like a hypnotized audience member on stage, then we're kind of just like clucking and doing what the hypnosis, the hypnotist says and swearing that all of it makes sense. But you're not a fool. I'm not a fool. We're not fools. We just find ourselves to be asleep sometimes. And there's a really big difference. And so it's time to wake up from the trance that we've kind of been conditioned into believing was our life. And this is why the change is so hard. And this is why you remain stuck, is because you're on this treadmill that never actually goes anywhere. And a lot of people are like, yes. Oh my gosh, this sounds great. I want to wake up. I want to just tell you this. Waking up sounds really amazing and romantic until you try it. Because then you have to start questioning things. Why do I need validation from other people to feel worthy? Do I even want the life that I've built? What if everything that I believed about life and love and joy was wrong? And that's not fun. It's actually really terrifying because you have to question the foundation of everything that you've built your life on. And this is where most people bail, because that shit gets scary. Because to wake up, you have to lose who you thought you were. You have to let entire layers of your identity just kind of fall away. Your ideas about success, love, family, spirituality, self worth, success, money, all of it. And let's be honest, most people are so identified with the transit they're in that we would rather defend our suffering than surrender our ego. Most people would rather be right than be free. What do I mean by that? We'd rather fight for our insecurities, our identities, our fears, our limiting beliefs. We'd rather fight for those things to keep that ego attached to who we are and we that identity. And we can say, this is who I am. We'd rather be right and try to prove that that thing is right than actually be free from it. Because defending the ego means that you get to stay the same. Getting free from our trance means that we have to put in work and that work requires us to change. And most people would rather be miserable and comfortable than free and uncertain about the future. But you can't wake up and get out of the trance and start to live a different life and stay comfortable at the same time. That's not how it works. And so here's the wild thing about it. Most of what you believe about yourself and the world and other people isn't even yours. And you can test it. If somebody challenges your worldview and you start to get mad or react emotionally in some sort of way, that's most likely a borrowed belief from someone else. If an idea about love or money or success or God makes you clench inside and kind of tense up, that's most likely not your voice. That's someone else's ideas that you just picked up along the way. And we have all done this in many ways. And so it's really hard to get and to fully understand, but it's really important to understand this. This is how deep the, you know, we'll call it kind of what it is and not in a bad way, but this is how deep the brainwashing goes. We internalize the beliefs of our parents in school, in religion, in media, in culture. And then we want to fight for those things, like, because we believe them so much, because we've been told to believe them, even if those are the very things that really keep you stuck. But that's not loyalty. That's hypnosis. And we will be right back.