Podcast Title: The Moth

Episode: Richard Kind: I Don’t

Release Date: March 18, 2013

Host: The Moth

Introduction

In this episode of The Moth, actor Richard Kind shares a heartfelt and humorous personal story about his journey to proposing to his wife, Dana Stanley. Through a blend of vulnerability and comedic mishaps, Kind recounts how an ambitious proposal plan, compounded by unexpected challenges, ultimately led to a deeper understanding and lasting relationship.

Setting the Scene (02:29)

Richard Kind begins by setting the stage in his life during his time on the beloved television series Spin City. He introduces his girlfriend, Dana Stanley, highlighting their contrasting personalities—he's gregarious and enjoys social gatherings, while Dana prefers quieter, more intimate settings.

“I close them up. She does not. And she was a little upset. What do we have to go out for?”
— Richard Kind (03:10)

The Proposal Plan (04:15)

Driven by his fondness for the number eight—declaring it his favorite on August 8, 1988—Kind meticulously plans a proposal. He invests in a beautiful sapphire and diamond engagement ring, symbolizing his commitment and love.

“I declared that eight was my favorite number.”
— Richard Kind (02:29)

Kind arranges a romantic evening at 18 West 88th Street, believing the numerical significance will add a special touch to his proposal. However, as the evening unfolds, Dana's reluctance toward the social event causes tension.

The Cat Incident (06:45)

Amidst preparations for the proposal, Kind faces an unexpected hurdle involving his cat, Vladimir ("Vladdy"). Dana's deep love for animals leads them to involve Vladdy in the proposal plans, hoping to feature him on television.

“My cat is the perfect cat. Are you interested? And they go, sure.”
— Richard Kind (05:30)

However, Vladdy’s unpredictable behavior on set results in chaos. When the day of the proposal arrives, Vladdy escapes during the live broadcast, causing Kind to scramble on national television while he gets scratched, leading to an embarrassing situation.

“I pull out the box. I show her the ring. Will you be my wife? She doesn't say yes. She doesn't say no.”
— Richard Kind (03:50)

Dana’s Reaction (09:20)

Dana, known for disliking the spotlight and confrontations, becomes upset by the public display of their private moment. Her frustrations culminate in a heated exchange where she physically expresses her anger by kicking Kind as he stands compromised on set.

“She's furious. Way to go, girl. Thank you.”
— Richard Kind (10:05)

Despite the public embarrassment and physical altercation, the underlying affection between them remains intact, setting the stage for reconciliation.

Resolution and Marriage (12:40)

In the aftermath of the chaotic proposal, Kind and Dana navigate the emotional fallout. Dana had planned to accept the proposal publicly but instead chose to leave, leading Kind to reflect on their relationship dynamics.

Eventually, during a wrap party for Spin City, Kind reaffirms his commitment. The two reconcile, leading to their marriage and the growth of their family over the years.

“We invited the whole cast over to our house. Before the party, we announced that we were indeed going to get married.”
— Richard Kind (13:30)

Kind concludes by sharing the joy of their life together, emphasizing the importance of perseverance and understanding in relationships.

Conclusion

Richard Kind’s story is a testament to the unpredictable nature of love and the resilience required to overcome obstacles. Through laughter and tears, he conveys the message that even imperfect moments can lead to beautiful outcomes when approached with honesty and dedication.

“Thank you very much.”
— Richard Kind (13:57)

Notable Quotes with Timestamps

• Richard Kind (02:29):
  "The only thing you have to know about me before I start my story is that on August 8, 1988, I declared that eight was my favorite number."

• Richard Kind (03:10):
  "I close them up. She does not. And she was a little upset. What do we have to go out for?"

• Richard Kind (05:30):
  "My cat is the perfect cat. Are you interested? And they go, sure."

• Richard Kind (03:50):
  "I pull out the box. I show her the ring. Will you be my wife? She doesn't say yes. She doesn't say no."

• Richard Kind (10:05):
  "She's furious. Way to go, girl. Thank you."

• Richard Kind (13:30):
  "We invited the whole cast over to our house. Before the party, we announced that we were indeed going to get married."

• Richard Kind (13:57):
  "Thank you very much."

Richard Kind's engaging narrative on The Moth offers listeners a glimpse into the complexities of love, commitment, and the humorous unpredictabilities that life often presents. His story resonates with anyone who has navigated the challenges of making a heartfelt gesture and the importance of persistence in building meaningful relationships.