
Most ecommerce sellers panic during Black Friday because they copy whatever the big brands are doing, but that usually crushes margins instead of driving real profit. In this episode, Toni and I break down the exact playbook we’re running this year inc...
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Sarah Chrisp
Welcome back to the podcast, the show where I cover all the latest strategies and current events related to e commerce and online business. In this episode, Tony and I share everything we've learned about running Black Friday sales that actually make money. Instead of killing your margins, we break down the exact strategies we're using this year in our own e commerce stores to build hype without discounting the brand. But before we begin, I want to let you know that tickets for Seller Summit 2026 are now on sale over@sellersummit.com and if you sell physical products online, this is the event that you should be at. Unlike most e commerce conferences that are filled with high level fluff and inspirational stories, Seller Summit is all about tactical, step by step strategies you can actually use in your business right away. Every speaker I invite is in the trenches. People who are running their own e commerce stores, managing inventory, dealing with suppliers and scaling real businesses. No corporate execs and no consultants. Also, I hate large events, so. So I intentionally keep it small and intimate. We cap attendance at around 200 people so you can actually have real conversations and connect with everyone in the room. We've sold out every single year for the past nine years and I expect this year to be no different. It's happening April 21st to 23rd in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. And if you're doing over 250k or $1 million in revenue, we also offer a private mastermind for high level sellers. Right now, tickets are the cheapest they're ever gonna be. So if you want in, go over to sellersummit.com and grab your ticket.
Tony
Foreign.
Sarah Chrisp
Welcome back to the My Wife Quitter Job podcast.
Kim
Can't believe it's the end of the year and Black Friday Cyber Monday is right around the corner.
Tony
Yeah.
Kim
So we're going to talk about what we're doing about it, I guess.
Tony
Yeah. So what's interesting is we're in mid November right now and I have already seen stores pushing it. Have you like.
Kim
Oh yeah, actually there's a early this year, like beginning of November. Yeah, early. Yeah, yeah. I, I think Black Friday is, is no longer a thing, to be honest with you. Back in the day I used to wake up early, go to my favorite store at like 5am and then rush through and try to grab as many things as I could.
Tony
Right. So when you and I were probably like teenagers, early 20s, like that was the thing. Right. You got up at 4 in the morning, you went to the mall or the, you know, the Best Buy Plaza, whatever it was Circuit City, Circuit City back then. Right. You waited in line because they had the big screen TV or I remember one year like we were trying to get a router. Right. Because it was.
Kim
This is like for a router.
Tony
Because it's like the 90s, right. Like, you know, because it was like they were. That stuff was expensive, but on Black Friday you could get it for like $19 or whatever. Um, and then do you remember the progression of when stores started opening on Thanksgiving night?
Kim
Yes.
Tony
So, like, I think Kohl's was one of the Walmart and Kohl's like started opening at like 4pm on Thanksgiving and people threw a fit. Right. Because it was just like you didn't care about people's families. And the, the alternate argument was there's a lot of people who don't live by their family, so they were very happy to come in and work and have something to do. Right. As opposed to being forced to take a day off. So that felt like a creep. But now I feel like, I mean, you said. I feel like I walked into Sam's Club November 1st and it was like all Christmas. Right. Like just nothing but Christmas decorations.
Kim
I'm just trying to think like the last, as long as I can remember. Now you can walk into a store on Black Friday and it's not that bad, period.
Tony
No.
Kim
And I think part of the reason for that is like Amazon has introduced Prime Days like multiple times. Everyone's just kind of desensitized the whole thing now.
Tony
So let's just back up a little bit about these prime days because I noticed this year for the prime days that happened, I think in October, Target had their Target days, Walmart had Walmart Day. So it looked like all of the major retailers were competing against Amazon this year, which I feel like that's also crept in. Right. Like, I think last year Walmart went head to head. I don't know if Target did as much. Um, but this year it felt like all of the big retailers were going head to head on Prime Day, which happens in October.
Kim
Right.
Tony
And to me, I don't know, I'm also, I'm the person that shops on December 23rd and 24th, unfortunately. But I can't imagine like Christmas shopping in the middle of October.
Kim
Yeah, I mean, I hate shopping to begin with.
Tony
Me too.
Kim
But yeah, I mean, it used to be fun for me when they were actual deals, but yes. Well, we can talk about, we're going to talk about it from an E commerce perspective, I guess.
Tony
Yeah.
Kim
But overall, like the holidays, for as long as I Can remember. And this has been happening for, like, the last decade. It just keeps getting worse and worse and worse.
Tony
Yeah.
Kim
I feel. Yeah.
Tony
So I feel like you and I are in an interesting spot because Bumblebee and then one of the clients I have, we don't really sell giftable. Yours is a little more.
Kim
Mine are totally giftable now, actually. We started a whole.
Tony
Well, because you did your whole Christmas line. But before that, like, Black Friday for us has never been, like, a huge. It's always nice. It's a bump. Right. But it's never been this, like, massive driver of sales because people don't give other people curriculum, you know, as a gift.
Kim
Well, in Asian cultures, you do.
Tony
Yes, yes, yes, yes. Math. We need to come out with a Calculus for Asians.
Kim
Merry Christmas.
Tony
SAT, SAT prep college essay 101. But before you had the Christmas line, you were in a similar boat where it wasn't like people were flocking to Bumblebee at Christmas time. But you actually. I think you did something smart where you created something to sort of. I don't want to say drive false. You know, shopping, but, like, you gave people a reason to come to the store over the holidays when typically, maybe that's not where they would shop. Yeah.
Kim
I mean, thanks to Hallmark, there's a million holidays. And we got them all covered now because we do print. Yeah.
Tony
Which is. I mean, that's a pretty big change for you guys.
Sarah Chrisp
It's actually not.
Kim
Because, I mean, with the printer, you can print anything, right?
Tony
Well, yeah, but, like, it's a pretty big change in what you offer, right?
Kim
Oh, in the offerings. Yes. Yes. Our SKU count blew up.
Tony
Yes.
Kim
As a result of that.
Sarah Chrisp
But not.
Kim
Not from an inventory perspective, though.
Tony
Right. Right.
Kim
Yeah.
Tony
So. So how long has it been? I can't remember when you did that. Two or three years ago. So do you see a much a different Black Friday now that you have these giftable Christmas items?
Kim
Okay, so I think Thanksgiving has always been our biggest thing. Not the actual Black Friday.
Tony
Yeah.
Kim
Because everyone comes to us and they buy, like, napkins and towels and everything.
Tony
Yes.
Kim
So our Black Friday actually happens leading up to Thanksgiving.
Tony
Yeah.
Kim
Yeah.
Tony
Which I think is something to think about, depending on what your brand sells. Is that your Black Friday might not be the day after Thanksgiving. Right. It might be leading up to or around. You know, So I think, first of all, you got to get out of that whole, like, Black Friday is the day after Thanksgiving, because, honestly, no one cares about that anymore. People are. Black Friday sales have already started.
Kim
Yeah. And I Think the idea was you don't want to be like one of the inbox emails on Black Friday. So everyone just started staggering everything to the point now where it's not really Black Friday.
Tony
Now in July, we're getting the Black Friday email. But the other thing about Bumblebee, which I've always been very impressed with, is that, you know, you guys do not discount steeply.
Kim
We don't. And I think we've done the math. Or at least I've done the math. I don't know if I've done it on the podcast yet. But whenever you discount, how much you lose is dramatically more than you think, right. That you're missing out on. And in general, like, if you're going to do like a 15 or 20% discount, you better make sure that you can actually double your sales as a result of that discount, just to break even. Yeah, we're not going to do public math on the, on the pod.
Tony
Okay, we're not doing the math. Okay.
Kim
We know we can. We can if you want, but.
Tony
Well, the other thing that I think is interesting, and I was just having a conversation with our ads person about this, is that ads are more expensive over Black Friday because there's, you know, a lot more competition. And so if you think about this, if you think about how you acquire your customer and maybe let's just say you get 60% of your customers from ads, which would probably be pretty normal for a lot of e commerce brands. So you're paying to get the customer, right? You're paying for the ad. You have a discount. So let's say you're discounting at 25%, so you're losing money on the sale. You're paying to get that person. Like, the actual cost of that is pretty significant. Where you might think like, oh, look at us, we're up, you know, 50k over this black Friday period. But then when you look at your ad spend in the discount amount, you could be actually down, you know, when it comes to just pure profit.
Kim
I mean, here's what I've just come to know from just going to various e commerce conferences and talking to people who just run Facebook ads for a living. A good return on ad spend is like 2x for cold customers, right? Yeah, one and a half to 2x. Well, if you tack on a 25 discount, those top of those type of funnel ads probably are not going to be profitable. So you got to make it up on the back end. Actually, even at like a 2x return ad spend, chances are you're probably breaking even.
Tony
Yeah.
Kim
Right. And so already you need to make up for it on the back end. Well, depending on how much your product.
Tony
Is obviously the other thing that I've noticed, and this is just from my own personal experience looking at from like when I had an e commerce store and then from other people that I've worked with, is that a lot of times those customers that you do acquire on Black Friday through the ads are not sticky because they're either buying a gift for somebody. They, you know, they're buying because they saw the ad and it's a promotion but they're not like your standard customer. So you can't also afford to spend extra money to get them because the chances of them coming back and making another purchase are probably lower than someone who finds you like throughout the year. And I know your store, you know, you obviously not everyone gets married multiple times. So you know, you have some, you have some general issues with and a lot of people do. Right. They sell like one time products. Like I was, I think about Mike who used to sell treadmills. I'm sure people aren't buying two treadmills. Right? Like you're buying one treadmill.
Kim
I mean if they need more places to hang their clothes.
Tony
Yes, yes. If they need more closet space, they get two. But there are, there are products that like you probably don't buy again. But for companies that do have like repeat customers, I feel like those Black Friday customers that are acquired through ads actually aren't the best people to come back and buy again. It's really hard to, you have to work to nurture those people to get them back. We see that a lot because people are buying stuff as gifts and so you know, if they buy a true giftable to give to someone else, chances are they're not going to come back and buy homeschool curriculum. They probably don't even homeschool, you know.
Kim
So what do you guys do? Do you turn off ads over the holidays?
Tony
We don't because I think the owner would murder us.
Kim
But no, I mean I'm sorry, not, not turn off. But do you dial down like the top of funnel stuff?
Tony
We're dialing down this year for the first time because of some.
Kim
Really? Yeah, traditionally we just up the retargeting and we kind of dial down the. Yeah, the cold. The cold ads and then it's just all email and sms. Yeah for us. Same for you guys in general.
Tony
I'm not sure exactly the percentage versus like cold to retargeting but I know this year we're trying to do a better job with that. However, we just launched a whole set of games and we launched them last month and they actually did. Really? Really. In fact, we sold out of a game, which we. I don't think we've ever really sold out of a product during a launch. Like, that's pretty crazy.
Kim
And so what type of game is this?
Tony
It's. You will not. You will not be able to relate to this at all.
Kim
Okay.
Tony
It's actually a really cool product. I don't know who on the team came up with this, but it's like, I think there are, in E commerce, you get these products where you're like, this is a winner, right? Like, this is gonna crush. And so this was one of these. And the creatives on this were fantastic. So it's a magnetic, like, bookshelf, right? So it's a picture of a bookshelf that's magnet, so it can stick anywhere. And then it has each book of the Bible and they're color coded by, like, where they would come in the Bible. Like, as far as, like, the Bible is different labels for the books. I know you don't know any of this. And so kids can basically. Well, I would say most people probably don't know this. It's not you. So basically, you know, like, Old Testament, New Testament. But then within the Old Testament, there are different, like, categories. And so kids can basically put the books of the Bible in order on this bookshelf, and it helps them learn basically, the books of the Bible, the order, you know, kind of gives, like, an overview, but it's really fun, right? And all of our creatives, they did stop motion photography for these. So it basically shows the little books, like, climbing into the bookshelf. And so it's like the creatives were like, it's like one of those things where the product is great, the creatives hit the copies good, and it doesn't exist, right? Like, this product is not out in the market, right? So people went like, the first day I saw the numbers, and I was like, we are running out of this. Like, we are. And I was like, if we can keep this until the end of the gate, the launch sale, it'll be a miracle. So we. We kept it to the end of the launch sale, but we're out. We're basically out right now, which means we don't have it for Black Friday, which stinks because I feel like this could have carried, like, the whole company. And then after the game sale ended, we actually increased the price from the retail price like to see. So it was, it was regularly $20. It launched at 14. We put it to 25. Sales didn't really decrease like so I was like, oh, maybe we can keep this at 25 when it comes back in stock because it's a little more expensive to make. Magnets aren't cheap to make. I don't know if you know this, but they're like a little bit more expensive than just the standard like paper type stuff. But yeah, so we, but we have some other pretty fun games that we've released in the past year. And so I think that that will actually help get people to. Because the games are interesting and fun and the creatives this year and the photography really make it look, I don't want to say better than they are because they are fun but like it. It really tells the story a lot better because I think with games, right. Like that's kind of tough.
Kim
It is tough because you got to educate them what the game is.
Tony
Right? Yeah. And so I think just everything was in a really good spot. The listings were good, the creatives were great, the products are fun. And typically we don't. Like what? Like no one wants math for Christmas. So now we actually have products that people would buy and put in their kids stocking or under the tree and stuff like that.
Kim
So I'm just curious, how much AI do you guys use to create these things or is it just still all old school?
Tony
I don't know who listens to this podcast. We do not use any AI. I have been pushing for AI actually for the last several months. I think after talking to Ritu, our friend Ritu at seller summit and then once again at ECF and seeing what she was creating. And then also all the stuff that Dana Michelle is doing, I. So on my list of things to do is actually create some. Like I'm not sure if we could have done the stop motion's really fun. I'm not sure how great that would have done with AI because there's so many. Like there's 66 pieces right. Of the magnets. But I do think there's a lot of things we could do with AI that we're not doing right now that would one free up like creative designer time. And you know, I do think that this is. This comes down to probably some hesitation on the team's part about like one the quality which I understand that because there was a time when, you know, you'd try to make a dog and it had five paws and Two tails and all that stuff. But also like it's changed so much in the past couple of years. And then I also feel like there's the, like, I don't want it to take my job kind of feeling.
Kim
Well, it would augment your job. So I actually used VO3 for the first time yesterday to do some B roll for one of my YouTube videos and it got it right on the first try.
Tony
Yeah.
Kim
Which I was shocked at. Yeah, I think it's at VO 3.1 at the time of this recording.
Tony
Yeah. So my son is actually super into creating AI cartoons that basically are like funny and. Or they're either making fun of one of his siblings. Like he makes a cartoon about something that they had happened to them in their childhood or he makes them based on something else that I can't talk about. But anyway, I told him, he said he sends them to me like all day long. And I was like, do you not have a job anymore? Like, what are you doing with all your free time? But I told him last night I was like, make a TikTok account and put these videos on there. And so he did because they're actually clever. And anyway, so we'll see where it goes. But it's all cartooned, you know, it's not real people or anything like that. But I feel like we. That's like something that I will push for huge in 2026 because I feel like watching Dana Michelle, I know we've talked about this before, watching her give that lesson on how to create this. I feel like Dana Michelle knows how to do this in part because she worked for the movie studios. Right. And she is a video editor and so she understands all the components you need to make it look great. And so I feel like that's the same thing with design. Like I need a designer to tell me to give me the idea to make. Make it look better. A designer is always going to create something in AI, probably better than I can, because they understand the language. Right. And I'm not a designer. So for me, I don't see this as a threat at all. I see this as a way to create so much more assets, Right. And not, you know, not have to do stop motion photography for everything and things like that.
Kim
100% agree. 100% agree.
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Kim
So one thing that we're doing this year, so we always do a 12 days of Christmas sale. This is. We should be doing this in prior years. But I've actually gone back now since I have Bumblebot. Did I tell you I created Bumblebot? Yeah.
Tony
Yes.
Kim
For my store. It's basically an AI that knows all the sales and everything. So I went through and I looked to see which of those. So each day for the 12 days of Christmas sale, we heavily discount one item.
Tony
Yeah.
Kim
Every day for 12 days. So I went back and I looked at the sales of some of those items and some of them didn't do that well. Some of them did. Fantastic. And so what we're doing now is we're taking the ones maybe that didn't do so well and these are all items that we kind of want to liquidate. Anyway. We're thinking about creating 12 Days of Christmas bundles with those to boost up the average order value.
Tony
Yeah.
Kim
And for the ones that do well, we're actually raising the prices on those and then discounting them. I mean, we raised them a while back already.
Tony
Yeah, but, yeah.
Kim
But, yeah. So we should be able to make more money off of that 12 Days of Christmas sale by just looking at what happened the prior year.
Tony
Yeah. So I love bundling. I think that's a really great way to improve your average order value. But also the one thing that I've found with bundling for us is that we have. Most of our margins are insane. Right. 80, 90%, they're really great. But then we have these kind of products like, like the bookshelf. Right. The Bible bookshelf, where the margin is not as great. Right. Because you. We can't sell this thing for $40. Right. I mean, maybe we can at this point, but like, you know, we know our customers are price sensitive. So what we found is if we bundle a, you know, item that has a worse margin with something that like we have this. Actually it's a really cool Bible timeline and it basically goes through the whole Bible and it's like, also you can kind of understand, like, chronologically, like, what you're reading. And it's super popular. It's one of the most popular products on our site. But the margin on that thing is like 98%. It's like, insane. Right. So you can bundle them together and give a small discount, right. Like for bundling, but then you sort of even out the margin on the. The, like the bookshelf product. So we've been doing that with some of the games because, like, board games are actually really expensive to create. I actually don't understand how, like, Target and Walmart can sell board games at like seven and eight dollars during Black Friday. Because our cost of goods on a board game is like $9. Right. I mean, obviously Monopoly, it's all.
Kim
It's all volume. Jesse was on this podcast and you talked about the price breaks. I mean, once you started creating, I think at Target's levels, it's like, dirt cheap.
Tony
Well, yeah, yeah. But it still shocks me that, like, the board itself, the, you know, the whole thing, the shipping, the. The space, it takes up all that stuff. Which is why we like to create card games, because they're very affordable. They're like 40 cents, 50 cents, you know, kind of thing. But so, yeah, so we've bundled to sort of offset the costs on higher, you know, products, which people really like because they still are getting a deal. Right. And. But then it's helping us sort of balance out our costs with that. So I like the bundling. I think it's great. We. We continue. We keep doing it more and more because it keeps working. And people. What we found is when we start promoting those bundles, people are like, really interested in them.
Kim
I didn't even know you guys sold board games.
Tony
We just start, like, this is very new there.
Kim
Okay. Yeah.
Tony
I'm actually the voice in the back going, we can't do board games. They're too expensive. We can't do. You know, what's expensive about board games is the little pieces that you use to, like, go around the board. Those things are, like, really expensive. Which, you know, it's funny. Like, it's really expensive, but it's like $2, right? Like, it's not. It's expensive when you think about selling it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. The other thing, when you were Talking about the 12 days, is one thing that I've learned about these customers that I'm dealing with is that they love that, like, flash deal, right? So where you discount, you know, let's just say, you know, The Bible timeline, we'll say that that's like $9. We sell it for five. Right? So it's like almost 50% off, right? Crazy, crazy deal. Even if they don't want the timeline, they click over. Like, the engagement rates on those emails in SMS is like so much higher than other ones because. And they don't necessarily, like, one time I actually went and like looked at how many people actually bought that exact product versus, you know, a bunch of other products. Most of the time they buy a bunch of other products. They actually don't even buy that one product. But they're so like, you know, oh my goodness, what in the world? $5, you know, $5 is like our, our email point. If we can say $5 in an email, people click. We know that. And so for us, having that one item discounted is actually really profitable because people might buy that, which is fine, but they also buy a bunch of other stuff because we get them on the page and then, you know, they convert.
Kim
Here's a tactic you might like. I actually stole it from Mr. Beast.
Tony
Okay.
Kim
So what he did was he sent out an item for a discount and in the email itself he had five different images. And he said if you click on the right image, in this case, I think it was a cup of coffee, only one of the icons holds the discount. So what ends up happening is everyone clicks on all of them. Right. And you have them go to different pages, but then your click through rate for that email and the engagement goes through the roof, which improves your deliverability for the rest of the year.
Tony
Yes.
Kim
Yeah.
Tony
Oh, I'm trying to think of a way to do that without angering.
Kim
Well, no people, I mean, they eventually get the discount.
Tony
Yeah, yeah. Right, yeah, we just have, we have an audience with like a little bit of a. Less sense of a sense of humor.
Kim
Okay.
Tony
But I, I think that's a fantastic idea. Like, I do that a lot with, so I do it differently where it's like, hey, are you having a great, you know, Thanksgiving season? And it's like a thumbs up or a thumbs down. They both take you to the exact same page.
Kim
Oh, right, right.
Tony
Yeah. But like people click, right? Like they, they think they're voting right on the thing. But I love the idea of like the discount takes you because that would definitely get people to click and they.
Kim
Eventually get the discount. And then the follow up email is how many tries did it take you on the last one? And then they give out something else after that.
Tony
That's genius. So I like that One.
Kim
Yeah, I did try it once and the click through rate on that email went through the roof.
Sarah Chrisp
I don't.
Kim
It's not something you can use all the time, obviously.
Tony
No, you got to pull that, pull that out.
Kim
But if you pull it out in Black Friday, you know, right before you're going to send 12 straight emails.
Tony
Yeah, you know, that's a good one. We do the. Another way to not discount. We do discount at Black Friday. So I don't want anyone to go. You're. You do. I mean, we do. But one of the things that I really like is the free gift with purchase. So we, we do this in two different ways. So every month we actually have a free gift. And what we've moved to this year is basically these gifts are exclusive to that month. We. You cannot buy them. You only can get them if you make a purchase. And they're pretty fun, right? Like right now, our free gift with purchase is a New Year's Eve countdown pack. And it basically is balloons and confetti and little pieces of paper and you write things on the piece of paper and put them in the balloons and then every hour up until midnight you pop a balloon and confetti and whatever you've written the card, you know, whatever. So that's one of our most popular ones that we've done. But they, you know, we've done things like lunchbox notes for your kids, right? Little love notes that you can put in your kid's room or in their lunch or you know, in their backpack or whatever. Last month we had, it was like a gratitude jar kit. So it was basically, I don't know if you've ever seen the gratitude jar where like people, they just take like a old pickle jar or something and they put things that they're thankful for or grateful for people, things like that. And then they like read them out at Thanksgiving. So we had like a fun kit where you could like decorate the jar and it was, you know.
Kim
So you guys ship out an old pickle jar?
Tony
No, we don't. You have to provide your own jar. But it had everything. So they're all like the goal is, the goal for these free plus purchase items is that they cost less than 20 cents to make and that they're flat pack, right? So that if you put them in a box, you're not having to like have this, you know, thing that's going to change the shipping size of the box or the shipping side shipping box size. So anyway, these have been really popular and what we found is at first we were just. We started this to liquidate stuff. Right. Like, we can't sell stickers. Let's give everybody a pack of stickers with the purchase. But then we really pushed towards, like, let's create special items that will really move the needle for people. So, you know, we have some really fun ones coming next year. Like, one of the ones next year that I think we're launching over spring break is like a car bingo. So basically, if you're traveling for spring break, there's like all the things that you X off and try to get bingo. And it comes with like 20 sheets of bingo cards. So like, you know, it's enough for a road trip. But these have been like, we have people. One lady was doing local pickup. She literally made like 10 orders to get like 10 of the gratitude packs.
Kim
10 separate orders where she paid for shipping each time?
Tony
Well, no, because she picked. She was local pickup. Oh. But she wanted him to like, give them to all her family members. So she went through. Which, you know, I mean, that's not exactly how we want it to work, but we. That tells us that, like, hey, we're on the right track with, you know, the products and getting people excited.
Kim
So do you do it with no threshold whatsoever or.
Tony
We do it. It's any purchase. Not digital, just physical products, obviously, because we do have digital products. But then during certain months of the year, specifically like Black Friday, and then we have a big back to school sale in the summer, we offer a hundred dollar or more. You get a tote bag. And it's a. It's a. Our custom tote bag. People love them. And so that. What it does is since stuff's on sale, it boosts their order value. Right. Because what would be a $75 order is now like a $50 order. So this is getting people the incentive to get to that hundred dollar threshold.
Kim
So I'm just curious, during Black Friday, do you do that in addition to the free with purchase?
Tony
Yeah. So you get both.
Kim
So you get two items. Okay.
Tony
Yeah.
Kim
Nice.
Tony
I mean, you got to spend 100 bucks to get the tote bag.
Kim
Oh, no, no.
Sarah Chrisp
I know.
Kim
But for the free with purchase, like, we have some stuff in our store that's like two bucks.
Tony
Yeah.
Kim
Like, so it wouldn't matter like how much they spend to get that free item.
Tony
Yeah, yeah. I mean, they have to pay shipping too, obviously.
Kim
Sure. Yeah.
Tony
So. But we know that the tote bag, we had a diff. We. We're doing a custom tote bag now every year too. To Just add to the value of it. We have people ask if they can buy it all the time. We don't sell it. We've kind of gone back and forth on whether we should next year. The tote bag's really fun this year. I felt like it was a little boring, but people still really like the tote bag. People do anything for free bag. And the bags are. Bags are pretty inexpensive to create. Like if that's something you're thinking about, like, tote bags are kind of the way to go for the height.
Kim
Do you guys have those separately made? Then just for this. You don't sell them normally, right?
Tony
No. Or yeah, just for this. She also uses them at convention for people who buy over a hundred dollars, which is really nice at convention because you can put everything in the bag, walk around with it as opposed to like the cheap plastic bags that, you know, you normally get. So that's why. And then. So that's a really good one that we, you know, it started with us just trying to get rid of the extra things. Right. Kind of like with you with the one day sales. But then it's now moved into like a full strategy of, you know, how do we create these like exclusive items that people can only get that month and just to get people to shop more frequently. Right. Like.
Kim
Right.
Tony
Get people back to the store and, and spending money.
Kim
Yeah. I'm trying to think. So you guys aren't heavy. What's the biggest discount that you guys give?
Tony
It's very heavy.
Kim
Oh, it is heavy.
Tony
Yeah, Very heavy. It's the early bird discounts. Close to 40%.
Kim
Wow. Okay. Our biggest discount is only 15.
Tony
I know. We are never.
Kim
Yeah, yeah. Actually on that day, like a whole bunch of people buy because they're like, hey, this is the only time this, the discount's ever gonna happen.
Tony
Yeah. And that's probably a whole other conversation about discounting. I don't love that. But I also know that it, like we do have margin to do that and it does move the needle. Like, you know, we do double the sales. Right. So we hit that. So yeah. But yeah, I would, I would love to have less of a discount in general. Like, but that's not my call.
Kim
I think for your products it works.
Tony
Yeah.
Kim
For. But there's people out there where their margins might be like 50%.
Tony
Right. That does not work.
Kim
And if you give like a 20% discount off of that, like that basically kills your, kills your profits.
Tony
Yeah, we can, we can go to about 35% off and still be at an 80% margin on most products. So that's right.
Kim
Because it's just paper. Right?
Tony
It's paper. Yeah. So anyway, I would like to maybe have a slightly different strategy, but at the end of the day, you know.
Kim
I mean, it's working.
Tony
It's working. Yeah.
Kim
Yeah. And it's growing the sales.
Tony
Yeah.
Kim
You know what's funny is I always think about it, maybe in the wrong way, but I think about it as you're doing a lot more work for less money. Mainly because we. We run the sewing machines and everything. And I'm just thinking to myself, yeah, this because I actually hate every season. I hate Black Friday.
Tony
Yeah, me too.
Kim
I hate the holiday season because that means I gotta go in.
Tony
Yep.
Kim
Everyone's on deck. And then, like, it's just a madhouse for, like, two weeks straight, and then we get to relax afterwards.
Tony
Yeah. You know, it's kind of funny that you say that, because, of course, when I was in E commerce, I really liked Black Friday because it was like, this is a trip. Like, the sales on Black Friday pay for my entire family to go to a tropical island. But the one thing, like, this year, I have a doctor's appointment on Black Friday, which was. I was. That's not a big deal, right? So I was like, no problem. And then in my mind, I was. It's, like, on this part of town that I really like, and it's. It's, like, kind of close to my house, but I don't go there a ton. And so I was like, oh, I could go to my doctor's appointment. Then we could, like, go get, like, brunch or blah, blah, blah. Like, I've got this whole, like, idea in my head. And then I was like, I can't go anywhere on Black Friday. Like, I gotta get right back home to my computer and make sure that nothing's broken and that, you know, the emails are go. You know, like, I was like, oh, why did I think that I could do anything fun on Black Friday? So now I'm like, oh, I hate Black Friday.
Kim
Let me ask you this. Do you guys text every day?
Tony
We don't text every day because our people are, like, very personal. Privacy.
Kim
Yeah.
Tony
So we text. Let me see. I just did this yesterday. I think we send four texts over, like, nine days, which is a lot.
Kim
That's what we started doing. But like, last year, I remember for the first time, I was like, yeah, what the heck? Let's just try texting every day. Let's see what happens.
Tony
Yeah.
Kim
People started getting a little Annoyed.
Tony
Yeah, I think if I had giftables 100, I would text every day. Like, I would. I would probably be much more aggressive, but because I know that people, if they're shopping on Black Friday, they're just stocking up to get a deal, Right. It's not because they're gonna give. Except for, like, the games, the few things that we have. They're not going to give someone a PE workbook, you know?
Kim
Right.
Tony
Hey, kid, looks like you put on a few pounds from Thanksgiving.
Kim
Here's a math work.
Tony
PE curriculum.
Kim
Maybe only text the Asians. Like the math workbooks or whatever.
Tony
Can you segment for that in Postscript? Oh, just all the California area. Northern California. That's how I know.
Kim
So are you guys doing anything different this year? You know what's funny is, like, I listen to a lot of e commerce podcasts and everyone always does, like a big BFCM thing leading up to it, but yeah, really, it hasn't changed that much, at least from what I can notice. What about you?
Tony
We are doing some different things this year. Okay. So the first thing we did last year, but we're continuing on it this year. And I got this idea from Laurie at Passionate Penny Pincher, where I think she's the one that I saw doing it years ago, where it was like, you send an email out and you're like, there's 22 codes of this. There's six codes of this. Oh, yeah. It's basically the Mr. Beast strategy, just in a different way. Let's be honest. I go adjust those codes all day long.
Kim
No, no, I know, exactly. You don't want people to come in.
Tony
Yeah, right. Yeah. So we're doing that. That worked very, very well. The other thing that I started doing, I think it sometime this year, I tried it and I was like, oh, adding this to Black Friday is sending an email out at like 7pm and basically saying, free shipping till midnight. Right. So it doesn't kill you with the shipping, but people go bananas. Like, I think the last time I did that in an email, the email made like $30,000. Really?
Kim
Okay, so just free shipping for that one.
Tony
Just free shipping. But like, literally five hours of free shipping. So it's not like you have. Because I feel like the other problem with this time of year is that if. And we send emails in the morning. So I'm not saying not to do that, but you send an email at 6am it's competing with every other email that got sent around that time. And so people are like, they see your email they go to the store, they look, they don't do anything, then they see the other email and then they see another company and they see another company and then by the end of the day they forget. And so maybe they come back and buy later because they get an abandoned card or a browser abandonment. But like, the urgency of like this deal only happens for five hours is actually been super effective for people. Even on days where we don't have like great open rates because certain days are just not as good for us, it still converts really, really well.
Kim
So I'm curious about the codes because this is something that I, I think I've. I made it in a lesson for profitable online store, but I don't do it myself. Do you let people enter in a coupon code that doesn't work?
Tony
No, no, because yeah, if it's sold out.
Kim
Yeah, yeah, that's what I meant. So, so let's say you're down to the cheapest one now.
Tony
Yep. You want people to 5%.
Kim
Yeah. You actually want people to enter in three coupon codes incorrectly. You know what I'm talking about?
Tony
I mean, I guess I do. Yeah.
Kim
Okay. And it's been fine.
Tony
We, we get like, okay, so we have a huge email list close to 300k. When I don't send that email to everybody. Actually that email I send to a very specific segment of people. So let's just say I send it to 50,000 people. We probably get three people emailing customer service complaining, which seems like that's worth it. I don't know.
Kim
The only reason why I ask is like people can't spell. Like I track every time a coupon code doesn't go through, like it literally emails me.
Tony
Oh, interesting. Okay.
Kim
And so like, if I get like a whole flood of emails, like people can't spell, like the easiest coupon codes, and then they get frustrated sometimes and they leave.
Tony
So one of the things that I did too, because I go back and forth about the coupon code thing a lot because part of me wants to have like the coupon code that's like Z7 6 7XP, whatever.
Kim
Yeah.
Tony
Because that feels like it's. Because whenever I say this is exclusive to you, people feel like that is exclusive to them because it's like this jumble of letters and numbers. But also no one, like, especially on mobile, it's harder to copy and paste and all that stuff.
Kim
Exactly.
Tony
So I always make sure the coupon is. You know how in Shopify. Well, in Shopify you can link that. They can click on that and it automatically applies the coupon, correct?
Kim
Yes, yes.
Tony
Yeah. So that kind of helps with the. So when they get to the cart, the coupon's already been applied. If they click on. So I try to make every link in the email, that link. However, when you do the five coupons in an email. Right. You can't do that. So I try to make the coupons as absolutely basic as possible. It doesn't. It's not foolproof. Right. But, like, if it's additional 5% off, the code is ADD5. If it's an additional 10%, it's ADD10. Like the number 10. If it's free shipping, it's free. Literally, the code is free. Right. Like, I try to, like, eliminate. Because I know people don't. People cannot spell. They cannot type at all.
Kim
One time our coupon code was like, mother 25, right?
Tony
Yeah. People M u T H E R.
Kim
Yeah, mother MTHR mothers 25. I was like, yeah. Oh, my God.
Tony
Yeah. Yeah.
Kim
Anyway, that's why I was curious about that strategy.
Tony
Yeah. So the other thing that we're doing this year, that's brand new. We are totally. I have, like, this is going to flop, but you have to try it. Right. We're live selling this year.
Kim
Oh, who's doing that?
Tony
Oh, the owner's doing it. Yeah. Okay. So she's great on camera. So it's not. It's. That's. That's not going to be an issue. There was. It's not. It's not playing out exactly how I want it. So how I wanted it to happen is she live sells. There's 10 items. Those items have better pricing, like, basically during the live sale and throughout the rest of the day.
Kim
Okay, walk me through this. Are you guys using Comments sold or no?
Tony
We're literally like, just sending people to a landing page with those 10 products on it.
Kim
Oh, I see.
Tony
Yeah. Because I don't want to try to integrate Comments sold. I mean, that would definitely be the easiest way to do it. But also, I don't know if her customers know how to do that. So there's one link. The Link has the 10 products on it. So it's not the main sale page, it's a secondary page, which also. I'll explain that fiasco in a minute. Um, so she's going to do this the Friday before Black Friday. So it's like the 21st. So basically, we're hyping it up in social. We're hyping it up in email. Um, you know, click here. She's going to go live. She's going to have the 10 products. They're all products that you can give as a gift, basically. So we're not really promoting anything that's like. And also get your, you know, a handwriting book for your child with their terrible penmanship. What I wanted was this special code that basically was only good that day. However, we want to run ads to this because it will actually probably do really well with ads. And so if the code's only good for that day, then that's not. We can't do that. Right. Because it can't be time sensitive. So we can't really have a code, which is the part that I think is annoying. However, I do understand the component of running the ads to it because we've had a lot of success when she goes live for anything running ad set, especially to get people to opt in and things like that. So I understand, like the pros and cons of doing it each way. However, I would like to do it at some point with a code because I do think that would be really effective and also a really great way to track like. Exactly. People who came from the live.
Kim
Okay, walk me through this. You go on this page with her face on it, going live. And then there's 10 products.
Tony
Yes.
Kim
Is she going to be out? Can anyone just buy the product at any time at that big discount and just leave? Or do you have to wait for her to say the code first?
Tony
Nope, because there's no code now. It's just at the Black Friday discount.
Kim
Right.
Tony
So she'll go live. She has 10 products. She'll talk through each product. The goal is to get the live to about 45 minutes. Talk about why you should buy it, talk about how giftable it is. You know, they're all sitting there. It's. It's all branded. You know, it's in the warehouse, which I actually think is a huge selling point. Right. Because people will be shipping, you know, all the products are behind her, like on warehouse shelves and things like that. One of the big things, if you're going to do this, this might impact your customers. We cannot have any boxes that say China on them. Like, you know how those products come.
Kim
Yeah.
Tony
So it's a part of the warehouse. It doesn't have the shipping boxes in it because people get really bent out of shape if they see China on the boxes. However, I'm like, do you not think everything comes from China? I don't know, but that's neither here nor there.
Kim
I kind of like this idea and I'M wondering if I can get my. I guess I could.
Tony
I want to try it because I know it works. We have friends that are very successful at this. Right. Like, yeah. Um, I, I think of like, even, like we obviously talk about Paul and Tiffany a lot and they've made their whole livelihood on life selling. But think about like Kelly Snyder, right, who has a digital course and product but, but sells accessories, right. She goes live multiple times a year and her, she calls them trunk shows and she sells jewelry pieces and accessories and things like that. And it does really, really well. And she's also, once again, great on camera. So I think, you know, having Kim, the owner, which I think is another big thing, right. You're the owner of the company. You're telling people what to buy. That's impactful, right. You're talking about why the products are great. You're talking about your value prop. So what are you doing? You're helping your social media, right? It's going to be live on Facebook and I think on YouTube. Right. So you're helping Facebook, the Facebook algorithm, which is where we run all our ads. Right. So then we're going to run ads to it. It's going to improve that. You're going to get people commenting, interacting. We have people that will be on Facebook, like monitoring, responding to comments, you know, answering questions. And then, you know, that video can live throughout Black Friday. Right. It'll live for the next week, all with these giftable products. Right. So the exact thing that we think people are probably going to be wanting to buy from us. So I'm excited about it. I would like to at some point try it again with a coupon code to like, special discount off those products so we can really track who came from the live. But the problem is, you know, that's not as evergreen.
Kim
I think the coupon code is going to be problematic unless the link, I can say, like, I can see her just spouting out the coupon code and then people using it.
Tony
Yeah.
Kim
But again, like the same issues. There's. There's friction.
Tony
Yeah. So, so, and then the, the, the other strategy. So we're not doing the coupon code. So that's out for right now. So the strategy is, you know, talking about it on social media, letting people know she's going live. We've talked about like throwing in like a free gift if you buy that day. So basically just having them throw something in the box, like.
Kim
Right.
Tony
Like mystery. Right. Not, not.
Kim
And then you could probably like pack. How fun would it be? Like you can just pack it on the fly.
Tony
Oh, that's a really good idea.
Kim
That make into like a two hour live or three hour live.
Tony
Yeah, I like that idea. I'll have to add that to our list.
Kim
So if I were to do this, I would have to do this though.
Tony
You would have to do it, yeah. So then the other thing is, so, you know, promotes on social, promotes on email. It's also a way to like talk about stuff on social and email. That's different, right? We're not just like discount buy. It's like, hey, you want to talk to Kim about what to buy for Christmas? Like, here you go.
Kim
Well, plus you can actually give a demo of the product.
Tony
And like, yes, especially since it's a lot of games and stuff. Like, the demos are good. And then basically what we'll do is look at email stats from the emails that talk about her going live and then basically send like a. Watch the replay. You know, basically retarget people who clicked on any of the. On that page, right? So if they went to that live sale page, you know, retarget them in email. So I think there's like a big strategy around this and I'm excited about it because it, it, to me, it's like different than what 99% of people do, right? There's obviously, there's obviously clothing boutiques that go live all week, right? Like, I mean, I think, I think Tiffany and Paul are giving away $50,000 on Black Friday. Like, it's like some insane thing, right? All I know is in my feed is Tiffany holding up wads of cash all the time right now. I was like, I don't know what promotion they're running, but they know what they're doing. But for like, in our space, in curriculum and homeschool products, like, nobody's doing this, right? So it's completely disruptive. And knowing that Kim is good on camera, like, that risk is kind of removed. She went live the other day to like test it, basically talking about some new products. But. So, like, she didn't sell anything but just kind of tested the setup, tested the camera, all that thing. So I don't know, I'm excited about that. I think that's going to be. I think if nothing else, I think it's a good practice, right, to do it and see how people react.
Kim
And, you know, what's your, what's your tech setup gonna be? Is it just gonna be like, for the chat?
Tony
It's just gonna be Facebook chat.
Kim
Oh, Facebook chat.
Tony
Yeah, yeah.
Kim
Okay. So that's the only place you're broadcasting live.
Tony
I think we've also broadcast to YouTube.
Kim
That's a separate chat then, right?
Tony
Yes, yes, but we have people to monitor that.
Kim
Oh, I see. Oh, so you're not going to let them see the chat on this? On the page? It's going to be wherever they're.
Tony
Yeah, it'll be wherever they're watching.
Kim
Yeah, I see, I see.
Tony
It'll also probably be embedded in the.
Kim
Page when, like both chats, YouTube and Facebook.
Tony
No, the video will probably be embedded on that sale page.
Kim
Right.
Tony
But, you know, I would say the chat, like I said this was a very janky setup for the first time because we haven't done this before and also didn't want to invest too much resources in it if it completely flops.
Kim
It's not going to flop. It'll do fine.
Tony
Yeah, I don't think so, but you know what I mean. It's like this is the beta.
Kim
Yeah. Oh, these are things I wanted. I guess if Jen and I went on together, we could play off each other. But I'm pretty sure she's not going to be on board for this.
Tony
I think she would maybe do it with you.
Kim
Maybe.
Tony
I think that's fun.
Kim
Yeah. Well, fun for. For me. She doesn't like doing these things.
Tony
No, I. I know that about her. But I, I think any. I think anytime the owner or the head of a company, whatever, it's. If it's a figurehead or like the brand face, I think anytime they can come on and talk to the customer is really impactful for people.
Kim
No, I agree 100%.
Tony
Yeah. It's like, I fly Delta a lot now. And that one of their videos, it starts with the president of Delta, right? Now, obviously he didn't find. Found Delta, Right. Because Delta's been around for 100 years. But just the fact that he, like, starts the video off, like, for some reason, like, I immediately, I. Do you ever watch the safety video?
Kim
I don't, I don't, I don't.
Tony
I'm like, I know how to work the life vest. I know blow, pull activated light with water. I know how to get the slide out, whatever. But, like, he starts talking and I was like, oh, it's the president of Delta. I wonder what he's gonna say, right? It immediately, like, changed my perspective. And I actually watched like 90% of that video because I was. Because they start the video off talking about they've been. Now they're. They're the oldest airline. Right. So there's a good story. You know, he's, he's, he's looks like your typical CEO of a big company, right. So he's not super relatable but like at the same time you're like, that's interesting. Right? So I feel like it's just a disruption and, and you got to do something during this time to get people's attention. All right, I know we got to wrap it up.
Kim
I'm going to bring, I know I'm going to bring this up tonight.
Tony
Okay.
Kim
Good luck happens.
Tony
We're cheering for you.
Kim
But I like that idea out of actually that's, it's one of the newer things that I, that I've heard this year, like going live. So cool see if I'll see. I'll let you know how it goes.
Sarah Chrisp
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Episode 616: The Black Friday Playbook We’re Using This Year
Date: November 24, 2025
Host: Steve Chou
Guests: Sarah Chrisp, Tony, Kim
This episode dives deep into practical, data-driven Black Friday and holiday sales strategies tailored for ecommerce sellers. Sarah, Tony, and Kim break down what’s actually working in their own stores—emphasizing profit-raising tactics over margin-killing discount wars. The trio discuss how changing consumer habits, early promotions, bundling, gamified emails, and live selling are shaping modern, sustainable holiday sales plays for independent ecommerce brands.
On Holiday Promotions Starting Early
“I feel like I walked into Sam’s Club November 1st and it was like all Christmas. Right. Like just nothing but Christmas decorations.”
— Tony (03:16)
On Discount Math
“If you’re going to do like a 15 or 20% discount, you better make sure...
you can actually double your sales as a result of that discount just to break even.”
— Kim (07:33)
On Flash Discount Psychology
“If we can say $5 in an email, people click. We know that.”
— Tony (23:10)
On Gamified Emails
“What he did was he sent out an item for a discount and in the email itself he had five different images. And he said, if you click on the right image… only one of the icons holds the discount. So what ends up happening is everyone clicks on all of them.…your click-through rate... goes through the roof.”
— Kim (24:18)
On Leveraging Free Gifts
“These gifts are exclusive to that month. You cannot buy them. You only can get them if you make a purchase.”
— Tony (26:00)
On Live Selling’s Potential
“Having [the owner]… telling people what to buy… that’s impactful. You’re talking about why the products are great… you’re helping your social media… it’s completely disruptive.”
— Tony (43:36)
On SMS and Annoyance
“Last year… I was like, yeah, what the heck, let's just try texting every day. Let's see what happens. People started getting a little annoyed.”
— Kim (34:18)
For actionable tips, checklists, and the free ecommerce mini-course mentioned, visit mywifequitterjob.com!