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Start your vacation@visitdenver.com Discover hey everyone, welcome back to another episode of the Nikki and Bri show. And yes, it is a solo episode by moi. I'm actually really excited for today's episode because it's really been sitting on me in the last 24 hours. So 24 hours ago let's pretend it's like a TV show and they're like 24 hours earlier so 24 hours ago I was getting my hair done, my girl Jamie, she's in Winners and I'll always go dry drive and see her and so wanted to get the grays a little fresh trim and we were chit chatting. No one was in the hair salon so it's always really fun when her and I can catch up without anyone being around and just totally open and honest. And we were chatting and she brought up to me like well you know like you and your soft girl era and I'm like in my what? And she's like soft girl era. She's like I Mean, it's a beautiful place that women have found themselves in the last couple years, getting out of that hustle era into their Soft Girl era. And I was like, jamie, I have never heard of Soft Girl Era. And she was like, brie, you're living yours. And I was like, oh, my gosh. And I'm sure a lot of you listening right now are like, brie, where have you been? And I have to say, I suck at trends. I never know, like, who's the latest artist or hippest actor. I don't. I feel like I don't know anything anymore. It's, like, crazy. So, yeah, 24 hours ago, I found out about Soft Girl Era. And I have to tell you, I was. I was blown by this. So I was like, jamie, you got to tell me everything. What is Soft Girl Era? So she started to go in on it, and I was like, okay, when I get home tonight, I am doing, like, a deep search into this, because this would be an amazing solo episode to do. So for any of you who are like me, and we live under rocks and in caves, we have no idea what's going on. This is what Soft Girl Era is. It is when you step into that era of emotional openness, gentle routines, saying no more often being in nature, Longer mornings, barefoot walks, crying without shame. No more people pleasing, living intentionally, seeing our worth, Seeing your worth. Loving deeply, caring for others, seeking happiness and peace, and choosing rest over grind. Hell, yeah. I was like, that is the era I'm living in, and I love that. It's called Soft Girl Era. So when I was talking to Jamie about this and I told her, I'm like, jamie, I'm shouting you out, and I'm gonna let everyone know our conversation. I feel like that's been my whole life, the last couple decades. I don't hold back, and I'm always just really real honest and open, especially here on the podcast. But I was asking her, well, what's interesting to me is Soft Girl Era, you know, a time where I feel like a lot of us, we are burnt out, we're exhausted. We feel like we're doing so much, but what are we doing? It's almost like you're confused. Like, there's times where I've had days and not so much anymore, but I used to where I was like, I did so much today, but I don't even know what I did. You're like, I didn't sit down. I felt busy all day. But you're almost like when someone asked you, like, hey, how's your day? You're, like, busy. And they're like, what'd you do? You're almost like, I don't know. What did I do? I swear I did a lot, but I felt like I was running on empty. Like, all those feelings. And it. I love the fact that now people. And it's. You know, there was a time hustling was, like, the thing where we all were like, if we're not doing too much, we're doing nothing at all. And. And there was a time for that. And it was almost inspiring to see all these women balancing, like, a bunch of different careers, hobbies, motherhood, doing it all. And you almost were like, I gotta be that woman. But. But I'm loving the era that we're all feeling now. The. Really the era we all know we need. And is that stillness, the. The rest healing ourselves? I mean, do not tease me with a long morning. That's what I love about summertime with my kids, is long mornings. And it's not even about having a bunch of coffee. I still just do my one cup. But it's that slow. We're in our PJs till 10am morning. But I was asking Jamie, I. I'm like, when did this become a trend? Like, I mean, I thought just stepping into my 40s kind of softened me up in a way. I mean, it made me stronger in the sense I stood up for myself more. But it definitely made me softer in the terms that you guys say, soft girl era of slowing down. So it was really interesting because we started to talk about it, and she's like, obviously, you're stepping into ending the hustle and enjoying life more at a slower pace. But she was like, but there's a difference between rest and doing nothing that will heal you and make you enjoy life more than that feeling of resting and almost doing nothing. To where you're like, wait, am I depressed? Am I bored? Am I like, have, you know, like, nothing going on in life? There is definitely two feelings. And I was like, well, how do you know, like, you're living your soft girl era, or you feel like you're giving up in a way. And so we talked about it, and she's like, I do feel like you have to dig deep. Like, you know, when you're not giving up, you know, when you've made the decision and you hold the power that you're like, I actually don't have to do that, and I'm gonna have boundaries. And I actually don't even have to tell You. I have boundaries. This is just how I'm gonna live my life. And if people aren't okay with it, then they're not. Compared to. I'm laying in bed all day feeling, you know, like I can't get out because I'm something heavy. Makes me feel like I need to stay in here. Or anxiety. I mean, just depression, those different things, and I'm there. So I had to, like, get that clarified, because for someone like me who's a thinker and can get deep, I want to know, like, soft girl era. There's a difference, right? Between, like, I guess what I do is I wake up and I can't wait to garden and pick flowers and, you know, run with my kids. And even though it's a slow morning, it's still there's life being lived. And so her and I, we were getting into it, and she was like, bri, listen. It celebrates femininity, self care, intentional living. And so that word, intentional, I was like, see, that's what I love is intentional living, to me is that part of us that feels like purpose in our life. And usually purpose comes with, like, you know, what brings you the most bliss. And when I think of it for myself, it's family, it's friends, it's laughter, it's obviously, you know, success. But, you know, how we measure success is different for everyone. And for me, it definitely, you know, is being with my family more. And maybe that's because I've lived decades where I was on a grind, traveling the world away from friends and family, missing everyone's wedding and special occasions. Christmas was, you know, I'd either make it or I wouldn't. I never knew. So I guess for me, success is like, I'm at a point in my life where I'm like, whoa. I make Christmases. I get a host Thanksgiving. I'm with my family more than I'm not. And so for me, that's success. But I was just like, wow, Jamie. I'm like, you know, I look at my life, I. And I'm like, I'm in my soft girl era, which feels like one of the greatest eras I've actually really lived. And I've done some really amazing things, but this one feels like the great one. Hey, everyone. If you've been listening to the show the past few weeks, you've all heard us talking about the Airbnb original experience we hosted at our speakeasy tasting room. Bonita. Bonita. And let me tell you, we had so much fun.