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The Nikki & Brie Show
Celebrate Your Worth
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This week, Brie takes the mic solo for a deeply personal and heartfelt episode exploring the complicated journey of fitting in—something she’s experiencing right now in her house and continues to deal with herself as an adult. Brie opens up about her daughter Birdie’s recent struggles with belonging and social anxiety, noting how even though Birdie has friends, she doesn’t always feel connected. Brie shares the emotional challenge of watching her daughter navigate friendships, feel left out, and wrestle with big feelings she doesn’t always know how to process as well as her struggle as a parent to fix it or let Birdie find her own way through it. From fashion-forward days to hard moments of being the last one picked, Brie dives into how she and her family are supporting Birdie through these growing pains—especially affirmations that can help her inner dialogue and even changing up her weekly routine to prioritize her mental well-being. But the episode isn’t just about Birdie—Bri...
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Brie Bella
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Contact us before canceling entire account to continue build credits or credit stop and balance on required finance agreement to bill credits and if you pay UP devices early CT mobile.com Happy Monday everyone, and welcome back to the Nikki and Bri Show. And I have to say, I really love when I get to do a solo episode for all of you. That's right, Bree. Solos are. I'm really excited. You know, it's funny because I was in such rhythm with all of you and then I was kind of like, oh my gosh, I need Nikki back. But now when I get to do a solo episode for all of you, it's really exciting for me because I really get to speak to you guys. What's been on my heart, something I've been going through. Like when Nikki and I are together, I love it and it's our energy together and things going on in the world and our world's colliding. But when I get to do a solo episode, I really get to speak to you on just with me, just Bri what I've been dealing with. And you know, I knew I had to do the solo episode. So I was really the last couple days thinking to myself, what do I want to talk to everyone about? Like, what's been going on in my life? You know, because we're on this podcast twice a week. So I'm sure a lot of you think like, man, it must be hard for Them to do two episodes. Even though I tell Nikki, I'm like, wow, we really don't have a dull life. It feels like a lot goes on. But I wanted to dig deep and I really wanted to really think about, okay, where has it been emotionally tough in my life? What are some things that I've had to do research on and really learn and just kind of had to find the words to speak. And this thing kept popping up in my head, and it's with my daughter, Birdie. You know, we have been dealing with some just, like, school, school things. Birdie's seven. Going to be eight May 9th. How. How is she going to be eight? Time really flies when you have kids. But, you know, today's episode is going to be about belonging. And it's something that we've had to really talk to Birdie about and something that Birdie has been faced with the last couple months of not feeling like she belongs. And as a mom, it's really, really hard when you start to see your kid come home from school sad. And Brian and I, you know, we both just as parents, have talked and have tried to come up with so many different things of, you know, motivating her, making her happy. But I thought this episode would be really nice to dive in deep to what Brian and I have been doing with Bird. We've actually tested her, what her brain results were that actually all linked back to her social anxiety of acceptance and feeling like she doesn't belong. I mean, we saw it in her literally brain scans. It was crazy, you guys. And then to a little bit of a deep dive I had to do with myself and for Birdie, of finding the right words and what to do. But, you know, I'm going to take it from the beginning of how this all kind of has happened for us in the last three months. You know, Birdie. Birdie has friends. But what I realized is she doesn't have that solid unit yet, you know, and that could be seven. I feel like that's when we start to see, like, girl groups and where you belong and how you fit in. And Birdie is. Is just a very unique, special little one. As you all know, she's my little fashionista. She's very artsy, has a huge imagination. I mean, if you walked into a room right now, I mean, she literally every night makes sure her little babies all. You know, she has like four, like a couple, you know, two babies, two little, like, they're like American girl dolls. And she puts them to sleep, she gets them dressed for the day she makes sure they make their beds. Like, my daughter's imagination is just incredible. The story she comes up with, the way Birdie reads, I mean, this little one will blow through chapter books like her daddy, and then she will literally sit at her desk and draw and write these stories. I mean, it's absolutely incredible. But I realized she hasn't found someone yet who kind of can co. Exist in that world with her and join in on what to her, is fun. And I find it so fun. And so it kind of has made her feel like, you know, here, there she's trying to see, like, where do I fit in? And one week there'll be a group that allows Birdie in, and then the next week, Birdie will go to school so excited, thinking she's finally found her group. And then they're like, well, you can't be with us this week. And, you know, I. I hate to say mean girl stuff, even though it's like the first thing you want to say, but I think kids at that age are all trying to figure each other out. They're. They're trying to figure out who their best friend is and who, you know, is gonna be the flavor of the week and who's gonna be the one to make them laugh or build a fort perfectly. And. But it's funny because Brian and I, you know, when we pick up Birdie and we see her walk, and every time I see the shoulders down and her head swinging, I'm like, oh, no, it was a bad day at school. And there's times where you will walk up, walk out, skipping and smiling. And I'm like, it's been a good day. But, Brian, I've really been faced to work with her on that. And I feel like as a parent, you know, you start to see the signs of when your kid. Because kids don't tell us exactly what's going on at school. So I'll always be like, birdhouse goals. It was fine. It was fine. I wish it was better, but I feel like it's our duty as parents to look for the signs. So anytime I see Birdie, you know, heads down, shoulders are down, I know I. I really gotta dig deep. And we do. And whether I take her to the coffee shop or we go on, like, a fun little walk, I really know with Bird how I can really just figure out what happened, what she wanted from the day, what really upsetted her, and, like, if the situation was different, how would it look for her? But, you know, one thing Brian and I realized is Birdie is a lot like him. Where we feel, feel like Brian, depression runs through his family. So we're like, you know, Birdie is very sensitive. Her feelings can get hurt. And we feel like if we don't start to help her build the confidence and self acceptance, she can fall into that oppression like Brian. So he and I are working on it, but we've been dealing with these issues at school to the point my daughter is really begging us to homeschool her because Birdie. So they do pen on Wednesdays. And Birdie does not want to change in front of the other girls. She used to, but now she doesn't. And I asked her, I'm like, did something happen? Did someone comment on your body? Did someone make you feel insecure? And she's like, just don't want to do it anymore. So my daughter will put her PE outfit on, her leggings over her long sleeve shirt and then her dress. And I'm like, oh my gosh, this is like crazy. And she freaks out. Like when we leave for school on Wednesdays, I look at her and she's just like, I just don't want to do this and I just don't want to go to school today. And the way she talks and I'm like, you know, Bird, it's, you know, is it pe? Is it really physical education that is getting you today? But you know, we found out she always, when they do everything, she comes in last. You know, I don't think Birdie really gets picked. She told us they pick groups she's lost to get picked. So that weighs heavy on a child. So, you know, Brian, who's just the sweetest man to ever live, decided that, you know, I think I homeschool Birdie on Wednesdays and just bring these anxieties and stresses down because she's really causing a lot of anxiety. And it was weird because as a parent, I told Brian, I'm like, but are we, are we not teaching her that this is life? Like life at times is going to feel unfair. It's going to feel really hard. Like, Brian, I feel like we need a coach her. But Brian feels like she's seven. Like, take her out of a situation that is clearly causing damage to her brain, is clearly in actual scientific results is affecting her. He's like, until she feels ready and confident she can conquer. So he and I kind of met in the middle and we do. So Wednesdays we started to do this like homeschooling thing with her and Brian takes her hiking and they go Bike riding. And he motivates her and to, like, these are enjoyments. But we will get put in situations that we're going to, not necessarily like. Like we do right now, bike riding as a family, you know, And. And she's understanding that. And here comes, like, Mama, right? And I like to think I'm very understanding, very easygoing, but I. It's not like I'm tough, but I want to be a little tough because I want. When the kids leave the nest, I don't want to sit there and be up all night thinking they're not ready to face the world. So I am with Birdie, just honest. And. And I tell her, Mama, at 41, still deals with the feelings of not belonging, which I'll get into a little later, of what I ended up having to realize about myself in this whole situation with Birdie. But I was like, you know, I. I tell her, I'm like, bird, you're gonna meet girls who are gonna make you feel less than, who are gonna make you feel that your uniqueness is not unique. You're gonna meet girls and even boys who are gonna put down those special gifts you have. It is your duty to sit there and realize, no, I accept myself for the gifts I have. I know that my gifts have a special place in this world. And so I'm like, I try to be, like, motivational speaker to Bird and try to get a little tough. Like, you're not going to go through life, and everyone's going to be kind. We wish the world was like that. And we sit there and pray and hope that unity will be the one thing we can do in this world together. But right now, I can tell you it doesn't look too promising. And. And it is nice to have our bubbles of positivity. Birdie knows when she walks into this house, this house is filled with love, positivity, acceptance. And so this is her safe haven. This is her safe bubble. And as a mom, that is my duty to have a safe environment, a loving environment for my children, for my husband, for my animals. And I do that. But it's not going to be that when you walk out that door. So, you know, Brian and I, we've been. The one thing I love about my husband is we can really talk through things and work it out. And I tell you what's hard as a couple is when you do get faced with these challenges as parents, and not all people will see eye to eye. I have had countless conversations with friends and family where it's hard on them. Because their spouse might not see it like them, or they're not co parenting their, you know, partner or the child's mommy or daddy might not see it like them. And that's tough. And you really do have to sit down with whoever you're parenting with and really talk, talk, not yell, talk, and come up with a game plan of what you feel works best for your kids. Because what we do for Birdie does not work for Buddy. And Buddy, it's funny because, you know, he's around all this and like, he'll be like, oh my gosh, Burber. Well, do you want me to go talk to them? Like, he gets a real tough guy. And Buddy, you know, he hears the word homeschool and he's like, I love school. I never want to be homeschooled. So it's funny. It's like what we do with Birdie. Brian and I very much know, like, our parenting for Birdie is way different than Buddy. But Brian, I really have to sit down and put it together. And it's been, you know, in the last three months, very long conversations because, you know, I tell Brian too, I'm like, you still travel here and there for work and you go to Washington a lot. So like, to think of homeschooling, I'm like, I, I can't do it. I'm just gonna be honest. I'm like, it's not for me. So we, we definitely have come up with something we feel is going to work and it'll be interesting. What happens.
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He gave us the exact affirmations he wanted her to read because he, you know, she said that these affirmations will slowly train the brain to think differently. And, you know, I have them right here. And I'll tell you the ones, but I thought, wow. And he's like. And. And he has some for Buddy. And this is all going off her brain scans, by the way. This isn't. He sat with Birdie and had a therapy session. This is, like, for him. You know, I appreciate it because it's testing and he's looking, you know, deep into. Let me pull it up real quick. Deep into her scans. That's DNA and. And just the stressors. But I had. You know, I really love this. And so I wrote it down on. I went and got note cards, and we make her do it. Now. It's been raining a lot here, so she hasn't been. But we still have her say it in the mirror. And that's another thing they said important for a child to look in the mirror. But birdies are this. So belonging is big. And her affirmation is, I love myself and my family loves me. Her other one that they want her to say is, I like to sit quietly with myself in this spot and then kind of put what she wants at the end of that. And then we. In which we do every night. What's one thing you love about yourself? And he wants her to just say it to the sun. And then another one is, I will complete the something task. So I will complete, you know, my math quiz, or I will complete finishing the book, or I will complete helping my mom with laundry. You know, something fun. And. And he was like, if she can read these four. And Buddy had different ones, I have different ones. He's like, it will really do a lot for her brain. And you. Do you forget your brain just runs at all. It's like our heart keeps us going. Our brain. It's like, physically our heart keeps us going, right? Our brain mentally keeps us going. Both super important and why health is so important. And also affirmations. It's funny because I feel like we're in a world where it's easy to go to social media and get some of the Best motivational, I guess you can say one liners, speeches, quick little videos. I mean, my brother and I will send each other so many and it's really fun. And then there's also part of social media that can bring you down and then make you feel the other side of being positive, negative and getting into the comparing and all those like hard feelings. But affirmations really do something. So I suggest for anyone, if your kids are going through something, if you're going through something, write down a really solid affirmation that you feel just touches you, that really hits. And go outside. I love doing this. And my kids now be barefooted, look into that sun and read. Will change you and keep that going, you know. Also, you know, we do have Birdie on some drops and different style vitamins. And I feel like everyone now and it's weird, but I think we all do have a deficiency for vitamin D. And so. And the kids are doing a spray. But you know, if you feel like you're really lacking that, bring it back in that D12. And sprays are really easy with kids putting under their tongue. But I think that really helps with moods. But you know, this whole journey I've been dealing with Birdie, it really started to think of my own style, journey of belonging. And I feel like what's so interesting is my belongings different. Birdie's is fitting in with friends and having friends not making her feel like one week she can be a part of the group and then the next week she's not allowed to. Birdie, you know, one thing she can't get over is like her friends got to pick a table, 10 people to eat lunch. And Birdie stood there holding her lunch and they picked everyone, even boys and not her. And then she didn't know where to go. And then there was a table of all boys and there was one seat left there. So Birdie went and sat and ate there. And that really hurt Bird. And that's where, you know, I've realized with her how the journey started was that one situation. And then it's opened us up to like all of this, which is incredible, right? But for me, I started to think of belonging and I started to think, well, what about, you know, me too. Like I, I should look at that for myself. And I was like, you know, a part of us as adults is not being heard, not being seen. I feel like our belongings like, you know, when we're not understood. That's a big one, right? Like when I'm 41 and I, I'm speaking, whether it's in business or personal, whatever it may be, if I'm not understood the way I want to be understood, it's hard. And then if you get X'd out or, like, push to the side that affects you. And that's all part of belonging. And I started to realize with myself, like, I need to write affirmations and really dig in deep. Like, where. Where am I just kind of not doing the work on the parts where people can do that to me or the parts I don't feel seen or heard. And I guess it was kind of, you know, I've been in the situation with work where there's things that I thrive at, but then there's things I have passion for that I feel like, you know, just. I. I'm gonna say, feel like they go unnoticed. That to other people, they're like, whatever. And I realized that's actually difficult for me. And it. My special. I feel like, uniqueness, how I am with the environment, what I do with my animals, my gardens, even, like, the passions I have in entertainment, it all feels like, you know, when I'm in certain business meetings or if I'm talking to talent people, like, they're kind of like, yeah, like, look at me. Like, yeah, like, awesome. Like, want a thumbs up. But I kind of do want a thumbs up. And I think sometimes I giggle and I. I try to brush it off my shoulders, like, yeah, okay, you know, like, silly. But it's like, no, actually, I do want to be recognized for it. And I would like you to actually just say something nice about it and recognize it. And I think we're allowed to do that. Like, 41. I do have some uniqueness and special gems. And my uniqueness serves a purpose in this world. Every single one of us. Every single one of us. And that's the part about belonging, is that don't ever change who you are because you do belong. And your natural self, your authentic, authentic self, from the time you were born, you had something that will never go away. And don't let anybody let it go away for. Don't. I don't want you to ever sit there and think my quirkiness or just the parts that make me different and a little weird should change because it. No, there's a place for it in this world, and you gotta find that place. And I know that's really, you know, it's easier to say it. Then do it. But you will find a place if you feel like you haven't found it already. And I think the hardest thing on us and what can be so mentally challenging is when we feel like that unique part of us doesn't fit in anywhere. Instead, we can get bullied for it or made fun of or feel less than. And we shouldn't. We shouldn't at all. And I think that's like a big thing that needs to be talked about, is just more of, like, where we belong with our natural gifts and who we are, because there's a place for that. And, you know, I feel like when you showcase that one, it's easy to just be our natural selves. Then people start to recognize, and you almost force them to recognize who you are, and the right people will love you for it. And that's all you need. You only need if five people love you for that compared to 20 who might dismiss it. Good. I don't need 20 people to give my energy to just the five. That's great. And it even goes to like, when you're in your friend groups or co workers, I. You don't need to try. Don't try to fit in. Don't try to like. Because one person's funny and you try so hard because you want to be that person, but you're not that person. You might be the really great listener that everyone needs or the one person who might have that one comment every so often that has a lot of wisdom. They're like, damn. You know, once in a while, that person really makes me stop and think. You don't got to be the one to be the center of attention. I feel like I. I see that so much sometimes in groups. Like, people try to keep up with the one person. No, be the one person who. There's a reason why you're in that group because you give something of whatever you have to it. Because we all don't need to be the same. You know, that's the one thing about my best friend group I love. We have someone who's really hilarious. We have someone who's really smart. We have someone who's really caring. We have someone who, like, notices every little detail. I mean, the list goes on. We all bring it to our friends group. And I think why it's been so hardcore and, and just easy is because we all recognize and accept each other's one unique gift. And we all know we need it. We all need it. I need my one friend to make me laugh so hard. I need my other friend to constantly check in on me. I need my other friend to see an Instagram post and notice maybe my Hair changed a little bit. And she texts me about it. Like, they all bring something different to the table, and it's. I need all that. Like, if we all were funny and didn't have, you know, the other little things, then I don't know, it wouldn't feel so deep or girls group. And I just. You know, I think that's the important part, is how deep you can get with people when you're just authentically you. When you feel like you don't have to try or think about what you should say or do. How many times do we go into. I know I do this. I go into business meetings with a little anxiety because I feel like they all want me to be a certain way, and I need to make sure I give it to them. But that morning, I woke up super tired and not really feeling it, and I get anxiety, and I'm like, brie, don't have anxiety going into this. Just relax. Just be you. It does come out. And then I'll start to mess with myself in my head and be like, but who am I? What is me? What am I? What do I say in those things? Like, you know, I could really go in this dark hole of, like, I don't know who I am or what I say and am I funny? No, actually, I'm really not. I'm quiet. I like to. I just want to be quiet today. Whatever. I mean, I finally had to, like, coach myself of just, today, you're who you are today. Bri, just go in there. Being that it's okay. We're okay to have a bad day. We're okay to be a little tired or be off. It's fine. We're not perfect. We're imperfect. And, you know, there'll be another day where you might get Brie mode. Who knows, right? Which sometimes that can give me anxiety when I'm in different situations and people are like, oh, Brimo, we better see her. And it's like, no, actually, tonight I want to be relaxed, and I don't want to have a hangover tomorrow. So you're not getting brimoed tonight, you know, but that used to give me anxiety, and then I got over it. But let me tell you, that really did. And, you know, it's funny, because speaking of that, you know, I'm gonna go kind of to social. And this past weekend, our pastor was talking about social media and just how easily it is to compare your lives, right? Compare your looks, compare your body, compare your children, compare your lives, right? And he was just saying, you know, and he goes from a godly perspective. And I know that's not for everyone, but for me, I like that. And just of, you know, like, people will say this, that's not fair. Why do they get that? Why'd they get the job? Why they get the good kids, why they get the awesome car, whatever it may be. The list goes on and on and on. And I started to think when I was writing this out.
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You know, we obviously know we're grown adults. Like social media has two sides of it, a very great business tool side. And then there's that side where it's like hard because you know, you do, you can't help but get the negativity, whether it's the haters or the comparison or you see really sad, but then you'll see really happy. That can make you mental at times. But I started to think and I'm like, gosh, sometimes the comparison can really, really actually hurt the place of feeling like you belong because you can usually go on social media and realize where you don't belong and sometimes feel like you don't belong. It's like, you know, it can be hard to find, find where you do and then it's hard because if you do see where you do belong, you can't help but think to yourself, the grass is all. It's almost like the grass is greener on the other side. Even though everyone's like, well, not necessarily, but it's. Sometimes it can mess with you. And it made me think how important self acceptance is. And once you can find that, be confident, accept yourself, then hopefully the comparison stops. And then you really feel like you, you know, just belong, just belong in the world. Like, I'm not talking about like with the cool group or the elite or, you know, the high status folks or I don't know, even if you're at work with your bosses, you know, for me it just feels like you accept every part of you, every part internally. Well, mind, body and soul, right? And physically. And that has a place. And then I feel like everything kind of goes away. And I don't know, it's weird because I know I say this a lot. Like I'm in this era of my life where I've let go of so much and that has helped. But it shouldn't take Till you get to 40 to do that. It. It should be in your 20s, so then you could rock your 30s. And then, you know, and even in your 20s. Like, I look back and I just. I thought it was. It was. I was confident, but I wasn't. I was so insecure. Constantly looking in the mirror, like, pinpointing things out, constantly comparing, not thinking I was good enough for anything, thinking I was actually just lucky. And I look back and it makes me sad because I wish I thought differently in my 20s because it would have made things in my 30s easier. But no wonder people love their 40s. You're just like, you know, in some way midlife, and you let go. But I should have let go way earlier. And I know children help that because you get this natural instinct of protecting them. So your voice, you find your voice. But I wish I would have found all that before. And I wish I would have looked at that girl in her 20s and really just, I don't know, helped her. I wish I would have done research like this. I wish it didn't take my daughter to not feel like she doesn't belong at school, to then start doing deep research on myself and what are my gifts and what bugs me when people don't recognize my gifts and do I belong and where do I belong? You know what I mean? And I've definitely found my crew. I have. I have. Crazy, amazing. I'm going to use every weird, crazy word out there, but I have been so blessed with friends and family. I really have. So I'm lucky. But it takes doing the work. And I will say this, and I know we always say it, but journaling, journaling, finding just who you are. More it. For me, it helps writing it down. Five minutes a day. There's actually a five minute journal. And it does. It opens you up in such incredible. And I just think when you figure out who you are and you accept that, you're going to be unstoppable. You really are. I saw online, actually, it said, celebrate your worth. And I will tell you, that hit me. Celebrate your worth. I thought, wow, have I ever done that? Have I actually ever celebrated? Nikki and I were talking about the other day, how, you know, we're not great at celebrating, like, when we do big things. But I thought, you know what, Nikki? We gotta celebrate our worth. Like, we haven't done that. We're gonna go get a bottle. Opus One, which you don't have to go, like, all bougie. You know, celebrating can be different, but for me, how I like to celebrate, I'm like, we gotta pop a bottle and just be like, girl, this is who you are. Cheers. Girl, this is who I am. Cheers. Celebrate your worth. It doesn't always have to celebrate, you know, some big event or you got a bonus, whatever. No, actually celebrate who you are. We got to do that. And I suggest you do that. Get with your girlfriends, get with your husband, get with your parents, whoever it may be you like to celebrate with. Just go celebrate your worth. And everyone put their phones away and go around the table and tell each other, well, one, you should say who you're worth first and then let everyone else, like, say something about you. But let's, like, have happy hour about celebrating our worth, and all of us just rejoicing that we need to recognize it more. It needs to be talked about, more celebrated. And I think the minute we start to do that, then, dang, could you imagine how unstoppable? And then I say, celebrate your child's worth. You need. We need to sit down and tell our children more, too, and celebrate more of their. They are cute, unique gifts and who they are. And watch. They're gonna go from, like, this little seed, this little bud, and just blossom, and it's going to be incredible to see them bloom. But celebrate. We got to celebrate our children more and their unique gifts. I so suggest that. And, you know, I'll tell you, I love Birdie, my little artsy little thing. I love Buddy, my wild buddy boy who likes to get dirty and be a little rough. I love him. And I love my husband, who is easygoing and sweet and understands me fully and lets me live my life. Like I was telling someone the other day, like, I have been so blessed in marriage because I truly felt like I married my best friend. But I also married someone who literally accepts me for me. He loves my parts that I might think are imperfect. He loves them, but. But also, he's like, just, Bri, like, what are your dreams? Go for him. He never holds me back. He never makes me feel bad about him. And I just. I'm so grateful for that. And, you know, before I go into inspiration, affirmation, I just want to challenge all of you to really maybe reach out to friends this week and send them a text of something that they. Who they are or what they do that means a lot to you. Like, even if it's like, you text someone, go, you know, your laugh gives me energy. You have the greatest laugh I've ever heard. Or someone who's like, you know, every time you just Call me. And you, you're like, hey, thinking about you, that does something to me. It changes me. Like, you know, so I challenge you this week to just, like, maybe send some fun, cute text messages to, I don't know, friends, family, whoever you may think. And even if you want to, like, put over something that you feel they do or who they are, but I think that'd be really great. And then make sure to do it on you. Write down how badass you are and all your special gifts. When I'm on vacation, I don't like to be on anyone's schedule. And that includes my room service gym hours when I can do things. Instead, I like to cook food when I want to cook it. I like to enjoy living room space and bedrooms and take my showers when I want to take them. So when I'm planning a trip, those are some of the things I think about when I'm booking us a place to stay. 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Nikki Bella
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Brie Bella
Shopsacks.com and so I am going to go into inspiration affirmation. I saw this quote I was doing some research on some quotes I thought would be really good for today's episode, and this one, to me, really Hit. And it's by Brennan Brown. I said that, right? I think I did, yeah. Brennan Brown, which she. Her books. I've actually. I've read one of them. But I've always been impressed by her. And I loved this quote because. And this is her quote. Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic and perfect selves to the world. Our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self acceptance. Boom. Right? It's exactly what we talked about in today's episode is nothing, no feeling will ever outbeat the feeling of you accepting you for who you are. And we have to. That goes from speaking kindly to ourselves, looking in the mirror, and instead of being like, ew, if this was a little different. Or maybe that going sing the positive things, putting yourself over, say amazing things like, damn, girl, you look good. You know, like, start to be more kind. And. And when we do things to recognize it. Like, I will tell you what, you had to see the laundry up in this house the last couple days. I nailed it. I got it all done, and I did it in a very quick manner. And you know what I needed to tell myself? Like, girl, you could have sat and relaxed, but you just blew through that laundry and nobody recognized it or even probably noticed, which is fine. But I just noticed it for myself, you know, Like, I. There's the little things. It doesn't always have to be the big things. But, you know, I just want you this week to really just, you know, recognize your self worth, also just accept yourself and then really just start to recognize the people around you and what they bring to your life and just know you bring something to theirs. All right, everyone. Well, this was another Bri episode for you. You know, I love speaking to you on these solos. I like giving you a little inspiration and something that's been laying heavy on my heart or whatever I'm going through in life. And so, you know, you can catch this episode. This might be my first solo that goes up on YouTube. I think so. So you can also watch on YouTube and make sure to look for videos on the Nikki and BRI Show, IG page, Tik Tok, Facebook, and you can at 8:33 Garcia 2 especially going off this episode, and I'm gonna listen to the voicemails. But if some of you are having, you know, any type of issues with your kids, one, if you feel like your kids are getting bullied and you're confused what to do, call in. I'm not a doctor, but I can tell you, you know, that you're not alone in what you're feeling. And maybe if I can help a little bit on things I've recognized and things that Brian, I feel like have been working and maybe not working, I'd love to give you some insight of just my trial and error over here in my house and any of you who just fill with your kids that you know, like ah, should, should maybe I do this or I have a question about that, please call me. Or even if you have a question about belonging, acceptance, you don't feel it, you want to just tell me or you want to call the hotline and tell me, you know something incredible about yourself, please do that because I'm going to check the voicemails. I love hearing from you guys and also know that this show is on SiriusXM Stars 109. So you got that. And you can hear this podcast. Wherever you get your podcast, make sure to like and subscribe. We love that. And guess what? On Thursday, Brian is back on the podcast. So I'm really excited to have him on. Of course we're going to hear what books he's been reading lately and we're also going to just have a little fun because our wedding anniversary is coming up, so we're going to be able to talk marriage and some fun things. So make sure you tune in this Thursday to hear from Brian. Alright everyone, have a good week. Hey, it's me, Paige desorbo, and I'm so excited to share my new shoe collection at dsw filled with my favorite styles and trends for spring. Because if you know me, you know I'm kind of obsessed with shoes. And by kind kind of obsessed, I mean head over heels. You're going to love these shoes. So snag super cute styles like cute flats, fun heels and cool sneakers from the Paige to Sorbo collection right now at your DSW store or dsw. Com.