Podcast Summary: The Nikki & Brie Show – Gabby Bernstein: Checking In, Not Out
Podcast Information:
- Title: The Nikki & Brie Show
- Host/Author: SiriusXM
- Episode Title: Gabby Bernstein: Checking In, Not Out
- Release Date: July 14, 2025
Introduction to Gabby Bernstein and Her Latest Work
In this enlightening episode, Nikki and Brie welcome Gabby Bernstein, a New York Times best-selling author, spiritual teacher, and a renowned voice in personal transformation and spirituality. Gabby introduces her 10th book, Self Help. This is Your Chance to Change Your Life, which has already impacted millions worldwide by empowering individuals to discover clarity, courage, and connection.
Notable Quote:
Gabby Bernstein [02:10]: "This book I wrote for the reader first... it's based on a therapy that I practiced in my own therapy for a decade and also became trained in."
Exploring Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS)
Gabby delves deep into Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy, explaining its profound impact on her personal growth and how it serves as the foundation for her book. She emphasizes the importance of befriending the parts of oneself that are traumatized, such as inner children, and unburdening these parts to foster healing.
Key Points:
- IFS Therapy focuses on the inner family of parts within an individual.
- These parts often develop as protection mechanisms in response to childhood trauma, both big and small.
- Healing involves connecting with these parts compassionately and accessing one's self-energy—a state of being that is clear, calm, connected, and creative.
Notable Quote:
Gabby Bernstein [06:06]: "When we start to heal those parts of ourselves, the reactivity and the patterns... start to change and we start to feel less reactive and much more safe inside."
The Power and Continuity of Self-Help
Nikki inquires whether self-help practices lead to permanent healing or if continual effort is required. Gabby responds affirmatively to both, highlighting that while self-help can create lasting change, ongoing work ensures that personal growth remains manageable and enjoyable.
Notable Quote:
Gabby Bernstein [07:12]: "We can absolutely heal those parts for good... But we are always shining the crystal."
Manifestation and Belief Systems
Gabby discusses the relationship between self-help and manifestation, asserting that belief systems play a crucial role in what individuals manifest in their lives. By healing and changing limiting beliefs, people can better align with their desires and attract positive outcomes.
Notable Quote:
Gabby Bernstein [10:49]: "Self help is actually the most important manifesting book I've ever written... we have to change and heal the belief systems."
Practical Exercise: The Check-In Process
To provide listeners with actionable insights, Gabby guides Nikki and Brie through a four-step check-in process designed to address the people-pleaser parts of themselves. This exercise aims to foster self-regulation, compassion, and connection with one's inner parts.
The Four Steps:
- Choose to Check In: Focus attention inward to acknowledge the part.
- Become Curious: Explore where this part resides in the body and what thoughts or feelings arise.
- Compassionately Connect: Ask the part what it needs and offer compassionate understanding.
- Check In Again: Assess the shift in feelings and presence of self-energy qualities like calmness and clarity.
Notable Quote:
Gabby Bernstein [26:55]: "Everything is happening around me, and I'm truly taken care of."
Integrating Self-Help with Parenting and Spirituality
Brie shares how self-help practices enhance her parenting, allowing her to be present and compassionate with her children. Gabby expands on this by linking self-help to spiritual growth, explaining that as individuals heal internally, they naturally become more spiritually connected and aligned with the universe.
Notable Quotes:
Gabby Bernstein [33:49]: "Self is spiritual energy. So the more self help you do, the more spiritually connected you are to the universe."
Brie [30:07]: "I love it. It's so good. I need to do that."
Gabby’s Spiritual Journey and Practices
Gabby recounts her lifelong spirituality, stemming from childhood experiences with meditation and spiritual teachings. She identifies as a medium, capable of sensing spiritual energies, which deepens her connection to the mystic aspects of life. This spirituality intertwines with her self-help philosophy, emphasizing the integration of spiritual and personal growth.
Notable Quote:
Gabby Bernstein [31:54]: "Self is spiritual energy... the more you self help, the more spiritually connected you are."
Closing Thoughts and Inspirational Affirmations
As the conversation concludes, Gabby offers an affirmation tailored to support the people-pleaser aspect within individuals:
Affirmation:
"Everything is happening around me, and I'm truly taken care of."
She encourages listeners to undertake a self-help challenge, fostering daily practices that promote self-regulation and spiritual alignment.
Notable Quote:
Gabby Bernstein [43:06]: "The wound is the place where the light enters you."
Conclusion
In this episode, Gabby Bernstein provides profound insights into self-help practices and IFS Therapy, offering practical tools for personal and spiritual transformation. Through compassionate self-interaction and conscious healing of internal parts, listeners are empowered to lead more balanced, fulfilling, and spiritually connected lives.
Join the Self-Help Challenge:
Listeners are invited to participate in Gabby's Trust the Universe Challenge available through her app, encouraging daily engagement with self-help practices to harness personal growth and spiritual alignment.