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The Notion of You
Hosted by Systems & Self Trust |Tashi J| Natural Alignment · EN
The Notion of You is a podcast about rebuilding self-trust, emotional regulation, and intuitive living after identity loss, pressure, or burnout. Host Tashi Jones explores nervous system awareness, journaling, personal growth, and grounded structure to help women reconnect with their inner knowing and live with clarity in work, motherhood, and everyday life.
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Episode 27: Becoming the Woman You Trust
4w ago00:15:38Tap to summarizeBecoming the Woman You Trust: Systems & Rituals That Support Her Episode Snapshot: If you’ve been trying to “be consistent” but keep falling off, you’re not broken, your nervous system is asking for safety, not more pressure. In this episode, we’ll build a simple set of systems + rituals that help you return to yourself and become the woman you trust, one small comeback at a time. What You’ll Learn Why self-trust is a felt experience (not just a mindset) The 3-layer framework: regulation, ritual, and systems How to build 2–3 “anchors” you can return to on hard days A simple Notion setup: your Self‑Trust Anchors page How natural tools (like oils + breath) can support regulation through association Key Moments 0:00 — Opening grounding + honoring who you’re becoming 2:00 — Why we “know what to do” but don’t feel safe enough to do it 4:49 — The 3 layers of self‑trust support (overview) 10:47 — Systems + Notion: build your Self‑Trust Anchors page 13:12 — Integration + closing: choose your anchor this week The Lesson Regulation: self-trust starts in your body Ritual: anchors beat willpower (2–3 returns you can repeat) Systems: structure protects your energy (reduces friction + decision fatigue) Audit: notice the pattern → choose a ritual → build a system that supports the right choice Create your “Self‑Trust Anchors” page in Notion as your home base Quote Worth Remembering "You are already becoming the woman you trust." This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework. A four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → **Read the full framework here.** Listen to These Episodes Next Ep. 26: When You Fall Off Your Practices (Again) Ep. 24: Self‑Trust in Transitions: Morning, After Work, and Bedtime Links & Resources From Burnout to Alignment — your support system for the journey back to yourself Scattered to Steady workbook — a free resource for creating calm in the chaos Choose one anchor for this week, one breath, one ritual, one tiny return, and practice it as a promise to yourself.
Transcribe →Episode 26: When You Fall Off Your Practices (Again)
Jun 1000:22:27Tap to summarizeStarting over doesn’t need to feel like shame; it can feel like coming home. Episode Snapshot: Falling off self-care practices without shame is possible, and it starts with a gentle return rather than self-attack. If you keep “falling off” your practices, breathwork, oils, journaling, Notion, routines, this episode is your reminder: you’re not broken, you’re human. We’ll talk about why your nervous system defaults under pressure, how shame keeps you stuck, and the simple way to return with kindness so self-trust can grow again. What You’ll Learn Why inconsistency is often a nervous system signal—not a character flaw The 3-step Reset Protocol: Notice → Normalize → Choose How to rebuild safety through breath when you feel braced, heavy, or stuck How to create a “Return to Self” menu in Notion that supports you on hard days Key Moments 0:00 The messy middle: “I just can’t be consistent.” 3:14 When your body stops believing you’re safe (and you’re still doing “all the things”) 8:22 The Reset Protocol: Notice → Normalize → Choose 14:09 Notion support: a “Return to Self” page that’s a menu, not a to-do list 20:56 Integration practice: choose one tiny restart and make it repeatable The Lesson Your nervous system will reach for what’s familiar under pressure, return is the real work Notice without shame: tell the truth (“I fell off”) before you spiral Normalize the human pattern so you can stop self-attacking and start repairing Choose one tiny restart your body can say yes to (awareness first, perfection later) Self-trust grows in the return, not in perfection Falling off self-care practices without shame: the reset protocol Quote Worth Remembering "Self-trust grows in the return, not in perfection." This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework. A four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → **Read the full framework here.** Links & Resources From Burnout to Alignment — your support system for the journey back to yourself Scattered to Steady workbook — a free resource for creating calm in the chaos If you’ve been trying to “fix yourself” with discipline, this is your invitation to build a support system instead. Start with one tiny restart today, then keep coming back. And if you want a deeper, gentler structure for returning to yourself, Return to Wholeness is here to support you.
Transcribe →Episode 25: Your Identity Beyond Roles
Jun 300:25:06Tap to summarizeEpisode Snapshot: If you’ve ever felt proud of your roles and quietly flattened by them, this episode is for you. You’ll learn how to reconnect with who you are beyond what you do, and how that shift becomes a real, grounded practice of self-trust. What You’ll Learn The difference between a role (what you do) and identity (who you are) Why role-perfectionism can feel like pressure, procrastination, or imposter syndrome 3 prompts to help you remember your identity when you feel boxed in A simple framework to come back to yourself: Remember → Name → Reclaim Key Moments 0:00 Why “quick bios” can make you feel boxed in 3:39 The pride + flatness of roles, and what your body is telling you 9:09 Role-perfectionism: the pressure to be the “perfect” version of the title 12:40 Remember → Name → Reclaim: a framework to reconnect with your core self 18:50 Integration practice: your identity date + the “Me Library” in Notion The Lesson Roles are important, but they’re not your whole self, and your body knows when you’re shrinking to fit a box. Perfectionism around roles is often protection, but it can become a cage that keeps you from being seen. Identity is something you remember, not something you manufacture; start with what has always been true in you. Self-trust grows through momentum without weight: one small honest action that proves “I’m allowed to be me.” Build a nervous-system-safe container (in Notion and in your body) so you can return to yourself when you feel boxed in. Quote Worth Remembering "You can be proud of your roles without living inside them like cages." This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework. A four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → Read the full framework here. Links & Resources From Burnout to Alignment — your support system for the journey back to yourself Scattered to Steady workbook — a free resource for creating calm in the chaos If you feel like you’ve lost yourself inside your roles, start with one small “identity date” this week, then jot one sentence about what you noticed. And if you’re ready for deeper support, From Burnout to Alignment is your doorway back to trusting yourself again.
Transcribe →Episode 24: Self‑Trust in Transitions: Morning, After Work, and Bedtime
May 2700:22:06Tap to summarizeWhen you stop skipping the doorways, everything changes. Episode Snapshot: You're not falling apart between your roles — you're just skipping the transitions. In this episode, Tashi walks through three transition rituals for moms that work with your nervous system, not against it, so you can close one chapter before opening the next and actually show up for yourself, your kids, and your work. What You'll Learn Why your nervous system can't reset automatically when you switch roles What it means that transitions are "regulation opportunities" — and what happens when you skip them How to create a micro-ritual for each of the three main doorways: morning, midday, and evening How Notion can hold your daily rhythm so your brain doesn't have to How to pair a specific oil with each transition so your body learns to switch modes through scent Key Moments 0:00 — Welcome + who this episode is for 3:30 — The story: this morning, a crib, and a lost buffer 10:00 — Why skipping transitions doesn’t save time — it costs you presence 17:00 — The three doorways: morning, midday, and evening rituals 26:00 — Your oils, your Notion, and your one practice this week The Lesson You don’t skip transitions to save time — you skip them and spend the rest of the day carrying what you didn’t process Your nervous system can’t switch modes on command; it needs a deliberate signal that one chapter is closing and another is beginning The goal isn’t a perfect routine — it’s one repeatable micro-ritual at each doorway that your body learns to trust over time “Good enough” transitions on the hard days are still transitions; even a fragment of the ritual counts When your systems hold the structure, your brain is freed to be present — that’s the real payoff of gentle organization Quote Worth Remembering You don't need a new life — just new transitions. This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework. A four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → Read the full framework here. Links & Resources From Burnout to Alignment — your support system for the journey back to yourself Scattered to Steady workbook — a free resource for creating calm in the chaos This week: hese transition rituals for moms are nervous system tools, not to-do list additions. Choose one doorway, add one micro-ritual, and do it imperfectly for seven days. Notice what shifts.
Transcribe →Episdde 23: Self-Compassion in the Messy Middle
May 2000:22:58Tap to summarizeWhen you're doing all the work, and it still doesn't feel like it's working. Episode Snapshot: If you've ever whispered you should be further along by now, this episode is for you. Self-compassion in the messy middle is not about giving up — it's the one practice that makes staying in your growth process actually possible. What You'll Learn Why healing and personal growth are not linear — and what the "messy middle" actually means How harsh self-talk keeps you stuck in a cycle of shame and disconnection A simple three-part compassion script you can use the next time the inner critic gets loud How to build a Notion Compassion File to track your own resilience over time One small, practical integration step to rebuild self-trust this week Key Moments: 0:00 Welcome and grounding: this episode is for the part of you that whispers you should be further along Tashi's personal story: two years of infertility, ignoring her body's signals, and the spiral of self-criticism What the messy middle really is, and why you are not behind The three-part Compassion Script: Of course I feel . It makes sense because . What do I need right now? Integration practice: how to build your own Compassion File in Notion and use it once this week The Lesson: Self-compassion in the messy middle comes down to five core shifts. Growth is not linear — and that's not a problem. The messy middle is the space between who you were and who you're becoming. It is not evidence that something has gone wrong. It is the most necessary part of the process. Self-criticism is not discipline. Harsh self-talk does not push you forward. It keeps you spinning in the same exhausted circle — doing more, trusting yourself less, and getting more disconnected from the signals your body is sending you. Self-compassion is what makes staying possible. Compassion is not a shortcut or a bypass. It is the practice that allows you to remain in the process long enough for the process to actually work. The three-part Compassion Script gives you something to reach for. Of course I feel . Acknowledge it without judgment. It makes sense because . Witness your own experience. What do I need right now? Start to rebuild self-trust one honest answer at a time. Small, consistent anchors regulate your nervous system. Whether it's a Notion Compassion File that holds evidence of your own resilience, or a comfort oil ritual that signals safety to your body — practical tools matter. Your nervous system learns through repetition. Quote Worth Remembering You can be a work in progress and still be worthy of kindness. This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework — a four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → Read the full framework here. Links & Resources Free resource: Scattered to Steady Workbook — your first step toward getting out of overwhelm and into a calmer, more grounded daily rhythm. This episode supports: From Burnout to Alignment — not a quick fix, but a companion for the woman who is ready to stop pushing and start listening. If the messy middle feels like where you live right now, this is the support system I built for you. You did the work today — you showed up, you listened, and you chose yourself. If one line from this episode landed for you, share your compassion script with me. I'd love to hear it.
Transcribe →Episode 22: Self‑Trust Around Your Phone & Digital Life
May 1300:25:48Tap to summarizeHow to protect your attention, regulate your nervous system, and choose digital boundaries that actually feel supportive Episode Snapshot: If your phone (or even “just one chapter”) has been running your nervous system, this episode will help you come back to your body and make calmer, clearer choices. You’ll learn gentle digital boundaries that protect your attention—so you can feel more present, regulated, and aligned. What You’ll Learn Why your digital habits are often nervous system coping (not a willpower problem) How constant input impacts stress, sleep, mood, and decision-making “Digital Boundaries Lite”: simple limits that help you feel safe in your body again How to create screen-free pockets that restore presence and self-trust Key Moments 0:00 — You’re not alone if your phone runs your nervous system 2:40 — A real Sunday spiral: pressure, avoidance, and the “escape hatch” 7:01 — Why your attention is one of your most valuable self-trust resources 13:52 — Digital Boundaries Lite: mornings, notifications, and screen-free pockets 22:56 — A 7-day practice to rebuild calm, clarity, and presence The Lesson Your attention is a form of self‑trust Constant input keeps your body in low‑level bracing Digital Boundaries Lite (no-scroll mornings, notification care, one screen‑free pocket) Notion support: a simple “Digital Calm Dashboard” to notice patterns without shame Natural support: use scent cues (citrus day / calming evening) to help your body transition offline Quote Worth Remembering: Your attention is one of your most valuable self‑trust resources. This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework. A four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → Read the full framework here. Links & Resources First, grab my free Scattered to Steady Workbook– it’s the exact framework I use when life feels chaotic. Then, if you want the full transformation, check out my framework From Burnout to Alignment – 45+ pages of practices, oil pairings, and guided rituals. If you’re ready for a support system (not a hustle plan), check out my ebook From Burnout to Alignment and start rebuilding self-trust one small choice at a time.
Transcribe →Episode 21: Decision-Making with Your Body, Not Just Your Brain
May 600:22:45Tap to summarizeStop Letting Panic Choose for You Episode Snapshot: If you've been making decisions from a place of anxiety, urgency, or other people's expectations — and still ending up somewhere that doesn't feel right — this episode is for you. Tashi walks you through the neuroscience of body-based decision making and a simple ritual to help you stop second-guessing and start trusting yourself again. What You'll Learn Why decisions made in fight-or-flight are neurologically different — and why they often feel wrong afterward How to use the Body Check ritual to move from panic to grounded clarity before you choose The difference between a decision that feels "open and light" versus "heavy and closed" — and what your body is actually telling you How to use a simple Notion Decision Clarity log to build lasting evidence of your own intuition Key Moments 0:00 — Welcome + opening grounding practice: drop in, breathe, and slow down 2:26 — The college decision made from pressure, fear, and someone else's urgency — and what it cost 4:14 — The morning prayer that made a high-stakes decision feel already made 11:18 — The Body Check ritual: four steps to regulate your nervous system before you choose 15:08 — The Notion Decision Clarity log, centering oils, and your integration practice for the week The Lesson Your body state determines your decision quality. In fight-or-flight, your brain narrows. In calm, it opens. The state you're in when you choose matters as much as the choice itself. The Body Check Ritual. Pause before responding. Notice your breath. Drop into your shoulders, chest, and gut. Then ask: does this feel open or closed, heavy or light? Panic-based decisions have a signature feeling. Tightness. Shutdown. Walking on eggshells. Learning to recognize that feeling is the first step to not letting it drive. The Notion Decision Clarity log builds self-trust over time. Tracking choices, body sensations, emotions, and outcomes creates a personal case file for your own intuition — so you stop needing outside permission to trust yourself. Ritual creates regulation. A centering oil used only during decision-making moments becomes a sensory cue that tells your nervous system: we're going inward now. Simple, consistent, and powerful. Quote Worth Remembering "The women who learn to trust themselves didn't arrive there by thinking harder. They arrived there by listening more." This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework — a four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → Read the full framework here. Links & Resources First, grab my free Scattered to Steady Workbook– it’s the exact framework I use when life feels chaotic. Then, if you want the full transformation, check out From Burnout to Alignment – 45 pages of practices, oil pairings, and guided rituals. Your Invitation: Try the Body Check this week on one decision you've been postponing. Log what you notice. Then share it — with one safe person, or in your own notes. The things we name, we begin to trust.
Transcribe →Episode 20: Rest Without Guilt
Apr 2900:26:02Tap to summarizeYou were never meant to earn the right to stop. Episode Snapshot: If you have ever wondered how to rest without guilt, you are not alone — and you are not lazy. Hustle culture taught you that productivity proves your worth. This episode challenges that lie directly. You will learn a nervous-system-aware framework for reclaiming rest as a daily act of self-trust. What You'll Learn How hustle conditioning trains your nervous system to treat rest as a threat How chronic overwork disconnects you from your body and your sense of worth How to use a Minimum Rest Dose to rebuild internal safety one day at a time How to track four types of rest so you start filling the right tank How to build a simple two-minute pre-rest ritual that actually helps your body slow down Key Moments 0:00 — Tashi opens with a grounding breath practice to help you land in your body 3:14 — Tashi shares the season she lived for her job and what her body paid for it 8:22 — Tashi explains why your nervous system treats rest as danger and how to change that 14:09 — Tashi introduces the Minimum Rest Dose and walks through the four types of rest 20:56 — Tashi guides you through naming your MRD and setting up your Notion Rest Tracker The Lesson Hustle conditioning trains your nervous system, not just your mindset. When you tie productivity to worth, your body learns to treat stillness as a threat. You can unlearn that pattern. It takes repetition, not willpower. Your nervous system needs rhythm to function well. It moves naturally between activation and restoration. When you override that rhythm consistently, you lose your ability to feel safe being still. That shows up as exhaustion that sleep alone does not fix. Your Minimum Rest Dose gives your nervous system a daily anchor. Choose the smallest repeatable act of rest you can commit to every day. Show up for it consistently. Your nervous system builds safety through repetition, not through perfect days. Different kinds of rest restore different kinds of depletion. Mental, emotional, physical, and sensory rest each target something specific. Start tracking what kind of rest you get and how you feel after. You will quickly see where you are running dry. A short ritual helps your body shift out of activation. Before you rest, try this: reach for lavender, bergamot, or chamomile, take three slow breaths, and put your devices out of reach. That sequence takes under two minutes and tells your nervous system it is safe to exhale. Quote Worth Remembering "You can be replaced at a job. You cannot be replaced in your own life." This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework — a four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → Read the full framework here. Links & Resources First, grab my free Scattered to Steady Workbook– it’s the exact framework I use when life feels chaotic. Then, if you want the full transformation, check out my ebook From Burnout to Alignment – 45 pages of practices, oil pairings, and guided rituals. ✨ Ready to go deeper? If you are in a season of transition and you are tired of feeling disconnected from yourself, From Burnout to Alignment was written for exactly this moment. It is not a program. It is a support system. And it will meet you exactly where you are. → [Get your copy here.]
Transcribe →Episode 19: How to Stop People-Pleasing in Relationships Without Losing Connection
Apr 2200:25:20Tap to summarizeConflict, Self-Trust, and Coming Back to Yourself You can stay connected to others without abandoning yourself. EPISODE SNAPSHOT: If you’ve been wondering how to stop people-pleasing in relationships — without blowing everything up or losing the people you love — this episode is your answer. You’ve learned to keep the peace, but somewhere in all that smoothing over and going quiet, you lost the thread back to yourself. Today we talk about how to stay in real connection with the people in your life without disappearing in the process, even in conflict, even in the messy middle of big emotions. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN Why people-pleasing in relationships isn’t kindness — it’s a trade that slowly drains your self-trust The difference between genuine connection and people-pleasing (and why they look almost identical from the outside) A simple tool to check in with yourself before you respond, agree, or go silent in any relationship Two kinds of repair after you abandon yourself — and why you need both to rebuild your integrity KEY MOMENTS IN THIS EPISODE 0:00 Opening grounding — a breath, a landing, and who this episode is really for 2:10 Story from the body — staying quiet about your work to protect yourself from someone else’s judgment 6:15 The real cost of people-pleasing in relationships and the difference between connection and compliance 10:46 The Check-With-Me-First pause — a tool to stop people-pleasing before it happens 14:33 On repair — what to do when you abandon yourself, and how to come back without shame THE LESSON People-pleasing in relationships is a trade. You exchange a piece of your truth for temporary comfort — and the price is your self-trust, paid slowly, in silence. Connection comes from wholeness; people-pleasing comes from depletion. They can look the same from the outside. Your body knows the difference. The Check-With-Me-First pause: feel your feet, take a breath, and ask — what do I actually want here? The pause is where self-trust lives. Integrity repair doesn’t require the other person. Name what happened, offer yourself understanding, get curious about next time. Self-trust isn’t built through perfection. It’s built through attention — the willingness to keep showing up for yourself, especially after you’ve let yourself down QUOTE WORTH REMEMBERING “You cannot stay connected to others — truly connected, not just compliant — if you are not first connected to yourself.” This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework. A four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → Read the full framework here. Links & Resources First, grab my free Scattered to Steady Workbook– it’s the exact framework I use when life feels chaotic. Then, if you want the full transformation, check out my ebook Return to Wholeness – 45 pages of practices, oil pairings, and guided rituals. This week: borrow the phrase “Let me think about that and get back to you.” Use it once. Notice what you feel when you do. Then open your Notion and reflect on one relationship moment, what happened, what you truly wanted, what you’d try next time. That’s enough. That’s everything.
Transcribe →Episode 18: Listening to Your Brain: Thoughts You Don’t Have to Believe
Apr 1500:24:49Tap to summarizeHow to Stop Believing Negative Thoughts | Rebuild Self-Trust Episode Snapshot: Negative thoughts can feel convincing and true, but many of them are simply protection strategies created by your brain. In this episode, we explore how to stop believing negative thoughts, understand where they come from, and rebuild self-trust through a simple reframing process. What You’ll Learn Why your brain replays awkward conversations and turns them into negative thought loops How to recognize when your thoughts are protection strategies rather than truth A simple Catch – Categorize – Choose framework to stop believing negative thoughts How nervous system awareness helps you break self-critical mental patterns Key Moments from this Episode 0:00 — Grounding: your brain is busy, but you don’t have to believe every thought 2:55 — Why we replay conversations and spiral into negative self-talk 7:38 — Understanding negative thoughts as protection strategies 9:35 — The Catch – Categorize – Choose framework for reframing thoughts 20:40 — Practicing self-trust instead of self-criticism The Lesson Section One: Your thoughts are not facts. They are interpretations created by a brain designed to keep you safe. Section Two: Many negative thought loops are protection strategies rooted in fear of rejection, past experiences, and perfectionism. Section Three: The Catch – Categorize – Choose framework helps you stop believing negative thoughts by creating space between you and the story your brain is telling. Section Four: Writing your thoughts down turns them into something you can observe rather than something that defines you. Section Five: Self-trust grows when you learn to respond to your thoughts with curiosity instead of self-criticism. Quote Worth Remembering “You don’t have to believe every thought your brain tells you.” This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework. A four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → Read the full framework here. Links & Resources First, grab my free Scattered to Steady Workbook– it’s the exact framework I use when life feels chaotic. Then, if you want the full transformation, check out my ebook Return to Wholeness – 45 pages of practices, oil pairings, and guided rituals. Notice one negative thought that repeats in your mind this week. Write it down, categorize where it comes from, and choose a new self-trusting perspective.
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