In this episode, Matthew Quick returns to discuss his powerful new memoir, Dad, Love, Me. He explores what it means to choose love after a lifetime of hurt, reflecting on caring for a father who never fully knew how to love him. Along the way, Matthew unpacks how childhood wounds shape us, why healing doesn’t depend on getting the apology we deserve, and how reclaiming our own story can lead to greater compassion, freedom, and meaning, even in relationships marked by deep hurt.

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Key Takeaways:

Why "good" and "bad" aren't enough to understand ourselves
How childhood trauma quietly shapes adult relationships
The deeper pain addiction is often trying to numb
Why we repeat unhealthy relationship patterns
The surprising difference between blame and responsibility
Healing without the apology you've been waiting for
What caring for an aging parent can teach us about ourselves
Why choosing compassion can be more healing than resentment
How telling your own story helps you reclaim your life

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Matthew Quick, check out these other episodes:

A Journey to Self-Discovery and Sobriety with Matthew Quick

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