In this episode, Diana Hill explores the concept of Wise Effort and how our regrets can become powerful guides to what matters most. Drawing from psychology, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and Buddhist wisdom, she explains why the things that hurt most often point directly toward our deepest values. Diana also discusses how to work with regret without getting stuck in it, why discomfort can be a doorway to meaningful action, and how to focus your precious energy on what is truly worth your time and attention. Along the way, she explores psychological flexibility, the wisdom found in paradox, and practical ways to align your daily actions with the life you most want to live.

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Key Takeaways:

What "Wise Effort" means and how to focus your precious energy on what matters most
How regret can reveal your deepest values and point you toward meaningful action
Why the things that hurt most are often clues to what you care about most
The difference between toxic regret that keeps you stuck and healthy regret that helps you grow
How to turn toward difficult emotions instead of avoiding them—and why it changes everything
The connection between psychological flexibility, resilience, and living a values-driven life
Practical ways to work with worry, grief, loneliness, and other uncomfortable emotions
The role of wisdom, mindfulness, and self-awareness in making better decisions
Why paradox is an essential part of growth, meaning, and a well-lived life
Simple practices for accessing your own wisdom and taking the next wise step forward

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Diana Hill, check out these other episodes:

How to Lose Regret and Choose Fulfillment with Marshall Goldsmith

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