When you should avoid making decisions with lasting consequences - The Overwhelmed Brain

Podcast Summary: The Overwhelmed Brain
Host: Paul Colaianni
Episode: When you should avoid making decisions with lasting consequences
Date: April 27, 2025

Episode Overview

In this episode, Paul Colaianni dives into the psychology of decision-making during emotionally heightened states. He explores why it’s crucial to pause before making choices with long-term or permanent effects—especially when driven by guilt, compassion, anxiety, or a desperate need for relief. Using real-life stories and personal insights, Paul guides listeners on how to access their more grounded, rational selves—their “homeostatic” state—to avoid regretful, hasty decisions in relationships, jobs, or any area of life with lasting repercussions.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

The Danger of “Foggy” Decisions

Paul warns against making life-altering decisions—like financial settlements, resignations, or custody agreements—while in an “amplified emotional state” (“the fog”).
He illustrates with examples, including a woman who overpaid her ex in a divorce out of misplaced compassion, and another who signed away full custody of her children just to escape an intolerable marriage.

“We get into that trance-like state of compassion… and when we get into that state of mind or that emotional state, we might set ourselves up to regret something later.” [04:40, Paul]

Compassion and Guilt—Blessings and Pitfalls

Paul empathetically addresses listeners with “big hearts,” recognizing that kindness and caring can sometimes motivate decisions that later feel self-sacrificing or are even exploited by others.
He acknowledges the challenge of leaving people or roles when feeling responsible for their wellbeing.

“I just had this…I don’t want to call it a bleeding heart…but it is usually a heart that is big enough to house many other people besides yourself.” [03:50, Paul]

Realization of Replaceability and Interdependence

Paul describes his own experience leaving a job, worrying that his absence would be catastrophic for colleagues, only to realize everyone managed—and even thrived—without him.
He notes, with humility, that no one is truly irreplaceable in workplaces and most relationships, reflecting on this as an important part of maturing and finding perspective.

“We are all replaceable. That’s not my main point, but we are all replaceable. In most relationships, in most work situations, there are very few exceptions.” [06:15, Paul]

The Importance of “Homeostatic” Decision-Making

Paul introduces the concept of a “homeostatic” (or baseline) emotional state—the self you are most of the time, not the self in crisis or high emotion.
He urges listeners to deliberately check in with this part of themselves before agreeing to long-term commitments or contracts.

“When the dust settles and I’m no longer in this amplified state of mind, would I make the same decision then?” [11:00, Paul] “When you are in your normal homeostatic state, you are more likely to make decisions that are more rational, more reasonable, and more long term.” [14:20, Paul]

The “Honeymoon” Effect and Amplification of Issues

Drawing parallels with new relationships and jobs, Paul highlights how issues present before serious commitments often intensify afterward. He underscores the importance of resolving major problems—especially in relationships—before legal or long-lasting commitments.

“Whatever is going on before you commit to somebody, whatever’s going on in the relationship before you marry them, will amplify.” [18:30, Paul] “My gauge is always when you feel good most of the time, then that’s a good direction to go.” [33:40, Paul]

Regret, Survival Decisions, and Self-Compassion

Paul shares stories (including his own missteps with property and finances) that stemmed from wanting quick relief from stress or discomfort, recognizing that sometimes acting out of survival is unavoidable.
He stresses the importance of self-forgiveness and learning from past regrets rather than self-punishment.

“I’m not putting her down for this. A lot of people do this. I made a financial mistake… I was just young and I didn’t know the decisions I was supposed to make.” [23:20, Paul] “We were who we were back then, with the resources that we had and the knowledge that we knew and the understanding of the way things worked.” [27:55, Paul]

Getting Objective: The "Best Friend" Test

When it’s hard to think clearly, Paul suggests looking at your situation as if it were happening to your best friend. What would you advise them to do? This can help bypass emotional bias and foster self-care.

“What would you tell your best friend? … then listen, listen to your answer and why would you tell your best friend that?” [29:45, Paul]

Decision-Making Takeaways

Wait for “the fog” (heightened emotions) to lift before making big decisions.
Consider how you would feel about the decision in your most stable, routine mental state.
Seek outside perspectives or professional advice if necessary—particularly in situations involving legal or financial commitments.
Remember, it’s normal to make mistakes, but we can always strive to do better with new knowledge and support.

“You want to do everything you can to have no regrets. And that’s not possible all the time…but you want to get all the resources and all the support that you can get and all the information that you can get.” [28:27, Paul]

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

“We are all replaceable…There are very few exceptions.” [06:15]
“When you are in your normal homeostatic state, you are more likely to make decisions that are more rational, more reasonable, and more long term.” [14:20]
“Whatever is going on before you commit to somebody…will amplify.” [18:30]
“Sometimes you have to talk to the right people. Like in a relationship…” [24:20]
“If you have a really big heart…you may make a decision that affects you for a really long time.” [21:40]
“You want to do everything you can to have no regrets…” [28:27]
“What would you tell your best friend?” [29:45]
“When you can be yourself wherever you are, then you’re probably in the right place.” [34:00]

Key Timestamps

00:52 – Paul’s opening disclaimer and introduction of topic
02:00–06:30 – Personal story about leaving a job, realizing others manage without you
07:00–10:00 – Discussion of compassion-driven decisions (divorce, contracts) and “the fog”
11:00–15:00 – Identifying your homeostatic state for better decisions
18:30–20:00 – Marriage and relationships: how pre-marriage dynamics play out long-term
21:40–24:30 – Examples of people making big sacrifices in emotional turmoil
27:30–29:45 – Dealing with regret, talking to the right people
29:45–32:00 – The “best friend” objectivity technique
33:40–34:00 – Paul’s gauge for commitment: feeling good, being yourself

Conclusion

Paul concludes by reinforcing the value of slowing down, checking in with your truer, calmer self, and seeking out advice or support when faced with important decisions. Whether it’s love, work, money, or family, the way to minimize regret is to pause, reflect, and act from your most grounded self—not from guilt, desperation, or emotional overwhelm.

For listeners facing emotionally charged decisions, this episode offers practical techniques and compassionate encouragement to honor your boundaries, value your own needs, and create more empowered outcomes.

Transcript

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These are my personal opinions Always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well being. Just in case you need to hear this, I have to say this. I have to tell somebody out there. If you're listening right now and you are in the middle of making a decision that will affect your future, like, let me just pull one up out of thin air. Like you're getting a divorce and you feel so bad about getting a divorce that you decide to pay your ex a certain amount of money for a number of years. I actually know somebody who did this who felt really bad about getting a divorce. So she ended up signing an agreement or making a contract up to pay him a certain amount of money every month for indefinitely until he got married again. I think that was the stipulation. That's not very good incentive for him to get married again, that's for sure. But that's what she did. She felt bad. She had compassion, very good qualities. But after, I don't know, it was like two to four months. I think it's like a time range where the fog lifts. I even use that in emotionally abusive relationships. When somebody gets out of an emotionally abusive relationship where they're really attached to the person that they are leaving, but they still love them. And they love things when they're great, but they hate them when they're not, it takes like two to four months to get past that point where you feel so bad about it or you still feel these loving feelings toward them or what have you. They're just this emotional connection. Sometimes a trauma bond will be that, like where you really, really love somebody who's also hurting You a trauma bond can form. And I've seen relationships like that where somebody will break up and then they will feel really bad, and sometimes they'll go back, and sometimes they'll go back over and over again. They'll leave and they'll come back and they'll leave and they'll come back. And it's an endless cycle because not enough time has passed for the fog to lift. I call it the fog. Whatever it is for you, you probably know what I mean. Like, when you are ending something, you still have these strong feelings about it, these strong thoughts about it. And you are in this state of mind and this emotional state where you feel like something's not done yet, something's not finished. That unfinished business feeling. There's something more there that I need to address. I need to make up for something. I need to apologize more. That feeling that lingers after an event like that, and I'm just using like a romantic relationship, a marriage as an example. I mean, people feel this at their jobs. I hate to leave them. I felt that way before. I hate to leave them. I'm going to leave them and they're going to have so many more responsibilities without me there. Gee, maybe I should stay longer. That has prevented me from leaving a job sooner, a relationship sooner. I just had this. I don't want to call it a bleeding heart. That's usually like a political term, but it is usually a heart that is big enough to house many other people besides yourself. An abundance of compassion and care for somebody else or for many other people. Leaving a job might make you feel bad for leaving all these people because you're the only one who can do that job. That's the feeling you get. I remember leaving. I'm going to get to a point in a minute here, but I remember leaving a place I worked in the early 90s, and before I left, I thought, oh, my God, there's like 20 people here that all rely on me. And leaving them will leave them high and dry. I felt like I was the only one who could help all these people with my specific skill set, my specific knowledge of everything that went on, because I had been there for years and I developed all this knowledge about how everything works. And there was a lot of technology involved, so I know all the technical aspects of it as well. And so I felt like leaving would leave them in a very bad place. And so the day came where I gave them my resignation. And then eventually I left. And so I still knew people and I still talked to the people There and I. I don't know when it was a few weeks or a couple months later. I talked to the new manager there because I was part of management. And I asked how things were going and he said, oh, everything's fine, everything's going fine. I was so worried that my absence would cause the downfall or low morale or low efficiency. I was just worried that people would be upset that I wasn't there and they wouldn't like me because I left. But it turned out they managed and they were fine. There was a lot of stuff that I knew and I wrote down a lot of stuff. I gave them a reference book of what I knew and then I realized that reference book just basically replaced me. So I set them up to succeed, but I still have those feelings, like, oh man, I take care of everything there. I take care of so much. I talk to all the people in the field and I'm the one they ask for. How will they manage without me? So I set myself at a very high level of importance in that position, in that company and putting myself on that high level of importance, narcissistically speaking. But maybe that was there too. Like, maybe I thought, well, no one is as smart as me in this. But mostly it was just knowing so much that other people didn't know, at least from what I learned, because I was a specialist in that area, that I truly believed back then that I couldn't be replaced. We are all replaceable. That's not my main point, but we are all replaceable. In most relationships, in most work situations, there are very few exceptions. No one can replace a child and no one can replace a mom or a dad. I mean, there are replacements. But I'm just saying biologically, if you have a biological mom or dad, that has happened, that has, that's been done, and somebody else can come along and be a wonderful mom or dad to you. Non biologically, you know, emotionally having a bond with somebody who becomes a caretaker, you know, being adopted, someone can be a wonderful mom or dad, doesn't have to be biological. And that's a. An entirely different subject matter that, that I know affects a lot of people being adopted. But boy, when somebody. I'll just make this little side note. When somebody decides to adopt a child, that is just a huge commitment to somebody that you have no idea who they're going to grow up to be. They just love you as a human being. And that's just amazing to me. So that's my little side note on adoption. And I know again, there are A lot of people out there that have a challenge feeling adopted or being adopted or learning that they were adopted or whatever. And I can understand that. I can understand a lot of emotional stuff that is involved with that. Then some people are like, hey, I'm glad I was adopted. I'm glad that somebody decided to commit their life to me. That's just. Wow, that's just amazing. So my little side note on adoption, my little side trek on another path of what I'm talking about today, but bringing it back to one of my original comments, what was it, eight minutes ago or so where this woman decided to pay her ex X number of dollars because she was the breadwinner and she felt really bad that she was getting a divorce. She really had a big heart and he just took advantage of it. I'm not saying he was a bad guy, but he was put in a position where until he got married, he was set every month. And a few months after she did that, she realized, why the hell did I do that? We get into that trance like state of compassion. We're in this trance like we have to be compassionate to somebody. We believe we're either hurting or can't take care of themselves. And when we get into that state of mind or that emotional state, we might set ourselves up to regret something later. We might commit to something that we regret later. And so I just want to put this out there, is that before you make a big decision like that, check in with yourself and ask yourself the following question. When the dust settles and I'm no longer in this amplified state of mind, in this heightened emotional state and I'm feeling regular, again, not overly compassionate, not overly sympathetic or empathetic, but my homeostatic state, my normal, how I feel the majority of the time, would I make the same decision then? What this is going to do is help you step out of your current amplified, heightened state and remind you who you are the majority of the time. Because what's going to happen is it's like the honeymoon period in a relationship, a new relationship where the energy settles, the newness settles, the novelty of having a new person in your life or even in a new job, you're going to get used to and settle into a routine. And you have to get in touch with your routine, with your normal, your homeostatic state, who you are most of the time. Get in touch with that state. Right now I'm in a homeostatic state because I'm not feeling overly emotional or I'm not overthinking things. Unless that is your homeostatic state, which you should work on. But you have this state of mind and this emotional state that you're in the majority of the time. And when you're in that state of mind, will you feel the same way and make that same decision? Because you have to put yourself in the state of mind that you'll be after the fog lifts or before the fog ever appeared. And let's just call the fog whatever heightens your emotional state, exaggerates your normal state, amplifies it. Because when you are in your normal homeostatic state, you are more likely to make decisions that are more rational, more reasonable, and more long term. And you're going to think more clearly, because the fog clouds your clear thinking. And when you're in that fog, let's just say that you are deeply in love with someone. I'm so in love, anything they do is okay with me. I'm so smitten by them. When you're deeply in love and they say, let's get married, I know you've only known each other for a couple days, but I know you're my soulmate. I love you so much. In that amplified state of mind, you might say, yes, or you might have a different thought. Like I would say, what are you crazy? What are you talking about? I just met you the other day and I really love what we're experiencing here. But that's really fast. Let's get to know each other. But that is a reasonable thought to have in a heightened state. And if you can get yourself out of that heightened state by asking yourself, what would I do? What would I say? What would I commit to when I'm in my normal state of mind, when I'm in my normal emotional state? And I know it can be hard to get to sometimes when you're in that heightened state, it can be hard to access your normal state, your homeostatic state. It is important that you do that before you sign any type of proverbial contract or real contract about your future. And that is one way to think about your future, is asking yourself something like, is what I'm about to do something that will last long term, that I won't be able to stop if I change my mind later, is what I'm about to commit to, something that I won't be able to stop in a short period of time later? There's a difference between signing up for something for six months versus signing up for something for six years or longer. If you are committing to something, I mean, we're all thinking it, right? Marriage. If you are in a relationship and marriage is on the table, I like to ask the question, is what I have really good now and are there any issues that we need to address before we make that commitment? Because I've seen this over and over again. Whatever is going on before you commit to somebody, whatever's going on in the relationship before you marry them will amplify. And if what is going on in the relationship is half the time you're upset or angry or sad, you're going to see that more often when you are married, when you are in a committed relationship where it is more difficult to get out of because of all the legalities and the signing of the contracts and when there are kids or assets or anything like that, that's a big commitment. If you're young listening to this right now, listen carefully. Marriage is a big commitment. I endorse, I love, I promote marriage. And I've been in a marriage that did not work. I got married again because I learned, I learned my lesson. I learned that things need to be going great or at least really, really good. Because what's happening currently will amplify once you commit. Today's sponsor is OSHWA Mag. And if you've been listening to me for a while, you may have heard me mention that I take the this supplement daily and it has seriously improved my sleep quality. Even on nights that I wake up and I have to go to the bathroom, when I get back to bed, I'm able to fall right back into that deep, refreshing sleep. Ashwa Mag is designed to help you feel calm, relaxed and focused. It is the number one natural supplement for mood and emotional health support. Formulated by nutritional psychologists, it combines clinically tested Ashwagandha, magnesium L theanine and vitamin B6 to support a healthy nervous system. Ashwa Mag targets the root causes of feeling overwhelmed. It is nutrition for a better mood, boosting feel good neurotransmitters while lowering cortisol levels naturally. As I've shared Before, in just 30 days, 84% of users reported better sleep and after three months, 90% saw an overall improved mood, including myself. If you haven't tried Ashwa Mag yet but visit ashwamag.com that's a S H W a M a G dot com and use the code BRAIN for 20% off your first order plus free shipping. That's discount code BRAIN B R A I N terms apply. Look at it in reverse the way I'm talking about today. What happens when you commit to sticking around in a relationship, in a job, in any type of situation that's not going so well. Now, it will amplify. It will usually amplify. It doesn't always, but it will usually amplify. Or it won't change. And it's already bad. But. And this is where we connect it back to having a really big heart. If you have a really big heart and you feel really bad about leaving, or you have this overly compassionate feeling toward the person or the people that you're leaving, then you decide to make a decision that will affect the rest of your life or a long part of your life. While you're in that amplified state, while you're being overly compassionate and having all these wonderful, caring feelings, which, again, are wonderful to have and just shows the kind of person you are, Bring yourself back into a reasonable state of mind so you're not amplified by asking yourself, who am I When I am in my homeostatic normal place? How do I normally feel? Because if I'm in the fog now, I may make a decision that affects me for a really long time. And that's why I started off this episode talking about a kind of commitment that you might make, signing up for something that you might regret later or feel really bad that you did it. I mean, there are all kinds of scenarios that can come up. For example, another example, this is I received a message a long time ago where somebody said, I just wanted out of the marriage. So I gave him everything. I even signed over full custody of the children just to get out of the marriage. And from there, her life went downhill. I mean, it didn't go well for her. And I felt so sad reading this. This is what happens. We can get into this heightened state of mind and this exaggerated, amplified emotional state and just want it to. We just want to finish this. We just want to get that person out of our lives. So we'll do anything to make that happen without thinking how it's going to feel later. I understand why it happens. I'm not putting her down for this. A lot of people do this. I made a financial mistake, like 15, 20 years ago that I had some regrets about, but I just wanted to get out from under what I was in. And I made this mistake. And it wasn't a massive debt to me. In fact, it was getting rid of a debt. But it could have been something that made me more money later. But I got rid of it. I was just young and I didn't know the decisions I was supposed to make. My wife Asked me today, you should have kept that because you could have made some money. With a condo that I owned, you could have made some money. You could have rented it out. And I said, I know, I know. I made some stupid decisions because I was so stressed out all the time. I was filled with anxiety, and I didn't want to deal with it. And so I never took a step back, and I never talked to the right people. Sometimes you have to talk to the right people. Like in a relationship where that woman who wrote to me, she was in that relationship, and she signed over full custody of the kids so she could never see them. And then her ex gets married and has another kid, and now him and his new wife have her kids. It's very difficult. And I know I'm talking to a few people that are listening now that can feel this. I get it. I'm so sorry if that has happened to you. I just wish that the person who wrote to me said that I didn't know what to do. So I contacted an attorney because I didn't know my rights. But she was so emotionally affected that she just wanted out from under that heavy weight of the burden that was on her and all the stress. And of course, her ex was just a real piece of work. She explained everything that he did. A real piece of work. And so he made her life hell. Of course you want to get out of that relationship. You want to get out of that situation with somebody who makes your life hell. But committing to something that will affect you later, when the fog lifts, that's when we get in trouble. I don't put you down forever doing that. I don't put myself down for doing that. Because we were who we were back then, with the resources that we had and the knowledge that we knew and the understanding of the way things worked. And we couldn't have been any better than we were, because that's who we were. Sometimes we make mistakes and we have to say, well, I couldn't have made any other choice because that's the choice I made. It is the choice I made. And so I must move forward. How can I make things as good as possible, as great as possible today? How can I work things out today? How can I make better decisions today? And maybe something I said today will help you pause before you make a big decision like that, before you sign on the dotted line. Is it a dotted line? I thought it was a straight line. I don't know where that term comes from, but that's what comes to me, signing on the dotted line, committing to something that may blow up in your face later. I mean, I know I'm talking about impulsive decisions here, but some of these decisions, they aren't impulsive. They're just. Sometimes they're survival. Sometimes we have to make a decision to survive. I don't have a problem with that. If you need to survive, you need to do what you need to do, but get all the information you need to make the decisions that are right for you so that you won't regret them later. Sometimes it's tough, sometimes it feels impossible, sometimes it is impossible. But you want to do everything you can to have no regrets. And that's not possible all the time. I understand, but you want to get all the resources and all the support that you can get and all the information that you can get. You know, we're in the information age, and there are people that will help you and will support you. And if you don't have the money, there are still ways you can talk to people and get their input, get their advice. There are so many people online that have gone through what you've gone through. Maybe people that you've met that you know that will share with you what they had to go through and they wish they had done differently. I don't have to tell you this. I know this is common knowledge. I just want to make sure that if you're in the middle of a big decision or something that you know will last a long time, something that you're going to commit to that's going to last a long time, ask yourself that important question. When I'm out of the fog, whether that fog is positive or negative, when my emotions aren't so amplified, when I'm not in this heightened mental state, what decision would I make then? And if you can't even get there, another way to do this is just to ask yourself, okay, my best friend just told me about this. My best friend is asking me this question. So imagine that you're in the scenario that you're going to have to make this decision, but your best friend is also in that scenario, telling you the story that you're in, telling you the situation that you're in. It really comes down to, what would you tell your best friend? Because then you have an objective viewpoint. You can look at your best friend with unconditional love and also wanting to steer them right. And when you can see yourself that way, when you want to steer yourself right, it is so helpful to look at your own situation objectively. And when you can't do that. Just ask yourself, what would I tell my best friend? And then listen, listen to your answer and why would you tell your best friend that? Ask that question of yourself. Why would I tell my best friend that? Why would I tell my best friend that they need to leave their job because that workplace is toxic and you need to get out of there? Why would I tell them that? Well, I don't want my best friend to be exposed to that toxicity because they're a good person and they don't deserve that. That's what your best friend's going to tell you. That's another way to dissociate and get out of your own body and look at things objectively. When you are in that amplified state or whatever state you're in before you make a commitment, and that commitment could be leaving somebody or marrying somebody or leaving a job or starting a new job, how will I feel then? And it's a lot of difficulty. You don't know everything. You don't know everything that's going to happen and you're going to make mistakes, you're going to make decisions that are wrong. But I do like to. It's like, am I going to sign this five year contract with this mobile carrier? Do I want to do that? Maybe, maybe you can look at that and go, well, they're offering it at the same price every year. It's not going to go up. That does sound good because I know I'll always have a phone. Just do it in a clear state of mind. Because when I think about that, the first thing that comes to my mind is, what if they change carriers? What if somebody buys them and doesn't honor the contract? I have my suspicions. I'm a little cynical, I'm a little skeptical, so I don't really want to sign a contract for that long. And then I think, okay, Paul, you decided to marry Asha. And I asked myself, well, what was I thinking before then? I was thinking that, wow, this is the best relationship I've ever had where I'm not constantly in a triggered state. I've done a lot of healing. I know what a good relationship looks like now. I teach this stuff, I should know what to look for. And my gauge is always when you feel good most of the time, then that's a good direction to go. And I feel good almost all the time with her. So I stepped out of my heightened state, my emotional state, and just thought, okay, if I commit to this person for the rest of our lives, how would that look? Who Am I in my normal homeostatic state? And when I think about that, I realize, wow, I can be myself when I'm with her. I am myself when I'm with her. That's like a bottom line for me. When you can be yourself wherever you are, then you're probably in the right place. I think I'll leave that there. Thanks for listening to another episode of the Overwhelmed Brain. I want to take a quick moment to thank everyone that has given to the show. Heather, Sandra, Tammy, Cheyenne, Ashley, Maria, Delect, Paige, Crystal, Wanda, Deborah, Michelle, Angel, Christie, Brad. Brad's been a long time giver and Zach has been a long time. Stephen has been a good, longtime giver and soup super Jai. I always get her name wrong, but I am so grateful for all of the people that give to this show. I try not to come off as begging. I just put it out. I remember doing this the first time. I remember the first person who sent me a check. They wanted to send me money. And I thought, I don't even know how to process that. This was back in 2014. And she said, how do I pay you? How do I give you money? And I said, you don't have to give me money. You don't have to do it. And she said, but I want to. And so, okay, you know, who am I to refuse? I just gave her the address to send it to and she sent me a check. It was the first payment that. How do I. I feel so humbled and grateful for that. That first time and subsequently every other time someone has given something they've earned to me, I tear. I think about it and I tear up. It is so humbling. And I, I just want to convey my appreciation and my gratitude for those who have done that over the years. So many people. I am so grateful for all of you. And the names I just read are the ones who are currently giving and I, I just want to acknowledge those people. So thank you so much. I am definitely humbled and honored by that. And if you value this show or value what I do over here and you want to give back as well, totally optional. Head over to MoreToB.com and there are options to do that over there. Thank you again, patrons and everyone who's donated over the years. And I want to tell you about my other podcast, Love and Abuse. That is for difficult relationships. If you're in a difficult relationship or you want to learn if you're in a difficult relationship, listen to that podcast. It's over@loveandabuse.com I've been doing that since 2019. And if you know you're the difficult one in the relationship, you know, admit it. Admit that you're the difficult one. And you know, if you don't know, you may have to figure that out. I actually have episodes@loveandabuse.com to help you figure that out. But if you believe you might be or you know you are and you want to work on that in yourself, you want to heal that in yourself, head over to healed being.com and sign up for the free lessons that you can start the journey. Start the journey. If you resonate with the free lessons, then you can continue that. That's over@HealedBeing.com and with that, always keep your mind open because that's how you make the best decisions. And be firm in your decisions and actions so that you can create the life you want. Always take steps to grow and evolve. You are powerful beyond measure and above all, and this is something I absolutely know to be true about you. You are amazing. Sam Sa.