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The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit
Hosted by Remy Ramirez - Your Trauma Bestie™️ · EN
Trauma, but lol. My guests are mental health professionals, and every other episode, I coach a listener through real-life struggles.
Why does healing feel so damn hard? Why do we keep chasing emotionally unavailable people, doubting our self-worth, or feeling stuck in the same cycles no matter how much we try to “just move on”? And most importantly… how do we actually change?
Hey, I’m Remy, and on this podcast, we’re diving into all things healing, transformation, and self-worth, without the clinical jargon or the sugarcoating. I bring therapists, coaches, and mental health professionals together to break down different healing modalities (think somatic work, CBT, polyvagal theory, and more), so you can find what actually works for you.
And because healing isn’t just about theory, every other episode, I coach a listener through their real-life struggles—no certifications, just years of deep personal work, conversations with experts, and a whole lot of lived experience. Think of it like a heart-to-heart with a friend who isn’t afraid to call you out (with love).
If you’re tired of feeling stuck and you’re ready to put yourself at the center of your own story, this podcast is for you. Hit play, grab a bevie (or a journal, or both), and let’s figure this out together.
Want to be coached or get a birth chart or tarot reading? Go here: https://calendly.com/workwithremy
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96 - Smiling Depression Is a Whole Ass Nightmare - Performing happiness, faking happiness—whatever you call it, it steals your life. Let's heal, hunny.
Dec 600:51:16Tap to summarizeHow many people are walking around performing success—achieving, following the "rules," doing everything that's "supposed" to make you happy on paper, only to find themselves depressed, disconnected, and dissatisfied? Why do we do this? What's at the root of it? And how do we reroute our lives? In this episode, Danielle Mcgeough, professor, speaker, and transformation strategist, joins me to dig into the cause of performing happiness and how we heal.Want to work with Remy? Go here.Find us on:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
Transcribe →95 - Avoidant Attachment Style: Real talk—emotional intimacy isn't easy. Let's build effective communication skills & get your relationships back on track.
Nov 2200:48:57Tap to summarizeThis is a continuation of the attachment style series! So many of us are avoidant *and don't even know it.* We avoid conflict, people please, shut down, and/or chronically fail to voice our needs in relationships (yes! this is what a fear of intimacy looks like!). So how do we go from avoidant attachment to a healthier, more secure attachment? In this episode, Dr. Diane Mueller, ND, DAOM, LAc, joins me to dive into how we got here, how it hurts us (aka it's literally impacting your health), and how we start to heal.Want to work with Dr. Mueller? Check out her Eternal Honeymoon course! It's for couples who want to reignite the sexual spark. You'll get solutions and strategies for improving libido and drive (read: having mind-blowing sex again). Great for singles who want to improve their sexy-time communicaton skills, too!Looking for more episodes on attachment styles? Try episode 6—it's all about the anxious/avoidant relationship trap. You can also try any of these episodes—they're all about anxious attachment: episode 14, episode 88, and episode 89.Want to work with Remy? Go here.Find us on:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
Transcribe →90 - When Should You End a Relationship? - How get out of toxic connections and into reciprocal, loving relationships as recovering people pleasers and children of gaslighters.
Sep 1300:31:41Tap to summarizeHow do you know when it's time to end a friendship, or any relationship for that matter? How do you know when you're just being "dramatic," like your family of origin always told you you were, and when you're self-advocating and standing in your power? How do you balance healthy boundaries with healthy compassion, especially when a person's toxicity is coming from being abused themselves? In this episode, we're doing a deep dive into when it's time to call it quits, so that you can stop feeling drained and disrespected, and start feeling loved and cared for. Go here if you'd like one-on-one coaching, a birth chart reading, or a tarot reading with Remy.InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
Transcribe →89 - How to Heal Anxious Attachment Style Part II - A deep dive into healing anxious attachment, bc it's time to enjoy secure attachment, babe.
Aug 3000:57:52Tap to summarizeWe've all been there—trying to figure out the exact right way to phrase the text so we sound cool and aloof when actually we've been crying for the last two hours. Anxious attachment style can suuuckkkkk so bad because it's rooted in deep feelings of not being good enough, not trusting people, and not loving ourselves. But what if I told you there's nothing wrong with YOU? Not just to hype you up (which, I'm your forever hype girl), but literally, technically - anxious attachment is a *healthy* response to a *really unhealthy* situation. You're not f*cked up, you're just wounded. In this episode, life coach Jess Taylor joins me to get to the root of healing anxious attachment, so that we can feel freer, more confident, and more excited to live life!Looking for more on anxious attachment? Check out episode 14.Want to work with Remy? Go here.Find us on:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
Transcribe →88 - Anxious Attachment Style, Breakup Edition - Codependency in relationships can surge in the breakup stage for anxiously attached folks—let's get you out of despair and into thrive mode.
Aug 1600:27:16Tap to summarizeBeing anxiously attached in a relationship is hard enough, but anxiously attached during a breakup?? The feelings of abandonment, the hopelessness, the sense that you'll never get your life back—it can be a real codependent spiral. In this episode, we dive into what the breakup process can look like for anxiously attached folks, what lies we tell ourselves in those dark moments, and what we need to know to get back in alignment with our TRUE selves.Go here if you'd like one-on-one coaching, a birth chart reading, or a tarot reading with Remy.InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
Transcribe →87 - Burnout Recovery 101 - How to break free from people-pleasing and emotional exhaustion (and the subconscious childhood wounds behind it)
Aug 2, 202501:04:57Tap to summarizeA lot of times, we think the antidote to burnout is a nap or a vacay (which, no shade, we love a vacay) but a lot of us are struggling with burnout from our own—often *subconscious*—repeated behaviors like perfectionism, overachieving (in an attempt to feel worthy or valid), people pleasing, or not setting appropriate boundaries. AKA, the call is coming from inside the house. In this episode, I welcome therapist and yoga instructor Amanda Baker to join me as we get into all things burnout—what it looks like, the role our nervous systems play in it, and how we heal. Go here if you'd like one-on-one coaching, a birth chart reading, or a tarot reading with Remy.InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
Transcribe →86 - Tired of People Pleasing? - How childhood conditioning controls your work, love life, & confidence (and how to finally respect yourself without feeling drained)
Jul 19, 202500:27:12Tap to summarizeDo you ever get mad at yourself because you didn't hold a boundary? Are you SO over what a people pleaser you can be? Has anyone ever told you you need to respect yourself like they were talking to kindergartener and you STILL, to this day, carry that shame around with you? This is your epi, hunny. We're getting into the connection between people pleasing, boundaries, and self respect, and why self respect is actually a lot more complicated than your (kind of rude, TBH) friend realizes. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
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85 - Is My Mom a Narcissist? - This one's for the daughters of narcissistic mothers—and the dudes and non-binary folks—let's dig into the signs of a narcissistic mother, the impact, & how we heal.
Jul 5, 202501:09:27Tap to summarizeReal talk—narcissistic mothers unleash a reign of terror over their kids, and for MANY of us, we don't even realize it for years and years! We may even adore, worship, and endlessly praise our mothers (which is what many narcissistic mothers groom their children to do BTW). The way it impacts our self-worth and ability to set boundaries is WILD. In this epi, I welcome coach and host of the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast, Matilde Crocini, to get into what this abuse looks like, how it impacts us, and her 3-step process for recovering from it. (PS you can check out her free self-love practice that she mentions here. )If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Birth Chart Reading Giveaway Rules!Leave me a rating and review, screenshot it, post it on your Insta story, and tag me: @thepatraumaparty. If you leave it on Apple, you'll get 3 entries. If you just do a rating on Spotify (since you can't do a review), you'll get 1 entry. Winner announced after July 12th!Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
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84 - Limerence Symptoms Driving You Crazy? - Obsessive love ain't love, y'all, & your limerent object isn't all that. Let's show you how to stop obsessing over someone else so you can LIVE.
Jun 21, 202500:31:39Tap to summarizeLiterally romantic obsession SUCKS. The longing is so intense, and there's no way to satiate it. In this epi, we get into how your unmet childhood needs are feeding your limerence, how we work with them, and why self-love is both the key AND just the beginning. Birth Chart Reading Giveaway Rules! Leave me a rating and review, screenshot it, post it on your Insta story, and tag me: @thepatraumaparty. If you leave it on Apple Podcasts, you'll get 3 entries. If you just do a rating on Spotify (since you can't do a review), you'll get 1 entry. Winner announced after July 12th!If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
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83 - Need Help with Anxiety? - The spin-outs suck—get help with anxiety & learn anxiety management techniques with Dr. Stephanie Lopez
Jun 7, 202500:53:36Tap to summarizeAnxiety isn't just about your thoughts, it's about whether or not you see *YOURSELF* as capable enough to handle life (OOF!). In this episode, I get into this and SO much more with anxiety expert Dr. Stephanie Lopez (you can check out her FREE training for ditching anxiety here). If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
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