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The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit
Hosted by Remy Ramirez - Your Trauma Bestie™️ · EN
Trauma, but lol. My guests are mental health professionals, and every other episode, I coach a listener through real-life struggles.
Why does healing feel so damn hard? Why do we keep chasing emotionally unavailable people, doubting our self-worth, or feeling stuck in the same cycles no matter how much we try to “just move on”? And most importantly… how do we actually change?
Hey, I’m Remy, and on this podcast, we’re diving into all things healing, transformation, and self-worth, without the clinical jargon or the sugarcoating. I bring therapists, coaches, and mental health professionals together to break down different healing modalities (think somatic work, CBT, polyvagal theory, and more), so you can find what actually works for you.
And because healing isn’t just about theory, every other episode, I coach a listener through their real-life struggles—no certifications, just years of deep personal work, conversations with experts, and a whole lot of lived experience. Think of it like a heart-to-heart with a friend who isn’t afraid to call you out (with love).
If you’re tired of feeling stuck and you’re ready to put yourself at the center of your own story, this podcast is for you. Hit play, grab a bevie (or a journal, or both), and let’s figure this out together.
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106 - Irish Goodbye
4w ago00:26:57Tap to summarizeWant to work with Remy? Go here.Email: patraumaparty@gmail.comFind us on:InstagramTikTokThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
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105 - Decision Paralysis + Decision Fatigue - If making a choice is your personal hell, there's probably a lot more going on. Let's find solutions.
Apr 1100:50:24Tap to summarizeMost of us struggle with decisions to some degree, but for those of us who grew up in trauma, decisions can feel like life or death in adulthood. How do I know for a fact how this will turn out? What if people get mad at me? What if I make the wrong choice and everything falls apart? (Just a fun sh*t storm of anxiety!) In this episode, therapist Kiana Joyner joins me to talk about working through decision fatigue and decision paralysis—where it comes from, what it looks like, and how we heal.Want to work with Remy? Go here.Email: patraumaparty@gmail.comFind us on:InstagramTikTokThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
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104 - That Self-Doubt Struggle - Low confidence, big shame, negative self-talk—let's switch it up, baby.
Mar 2800:24:31Tap to summarizeSelf-doubt can plague us, especially when we come from trauma and abuse. We don't put ourselves out there for the jobs we want, the friendships we're drawn to, the crushes we have. It can be so frustrating (!!!!). But what if we could put some distance between us and that self-doubt? What if we could poke holes in the lies it tells us? What if we could learn more about what's behind it? Hop in, hunny, that's what this episode is all about.Want to work with Remy? Go here.Email: patraumaparty@gmail.comFind us on:InstagramTikTokThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
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103 - Not Feeling Chosen - Feeling unwanted, unseen, or not valued in childhood is so painful—let's get you healing, hunny.
Mar 1400:25:55Tap to summarizeNot feeling chosen by your caregivers is such a painful experience that it gets tucked into our subconscious, where it thrives without us even knowing! It's just hanging out in the shadows of our minds, making (usually not great) decisions for us and making us feel sad as hell. In this episode, we get into the impact of not being chosen in childhood—how it shows up in relationships, why it can be so hard to know that's even true for us, and how we can start to heal. Want to work with Remy? Go here.Email: patraumaparty@gmail.comFind us on:InstagramTikTokThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
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102 - Criticizing Your Body - Disordered eating, preoccupation about weight, anti-aging obsessions—how do we just feel good in our bodies?
Feb 2800:53:37Tap to summarizeMaybe we're constantly dieting or abstaining from eating, maybe we're obsessively counting calories or working out, maybe we're spending crazy amounts of money on anti-aging procedures or products, or maybe we're just looking in the mirror and talking mad sh*t to ourselves. In this episode, I welcome therapist Gina Gratza to the show to talk through what's at the core of criticizing our bodies (hint: it has nothing to do with our actual bodies), and how we can return to loving the bodies we're in.Want to work with Remy? Go here.Email: patraumaparty@gmail.comFind us on:InstagramTikTokThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
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101 - How to Be Authentic - For a lot of us, authenticity isn't easy, but you CAN bounce back.
Feb 1400:52:47Tap to summarizeEveryone talks about authenticity, and there's even a lot of shame for not "being real." But when you come from abuse and/or emotionally immature parents, it's actually really complicated to know how to be authentic. People-pleasing, fawning, emotional shutdown, freeze, and other trauma responses (often results of CPTSD) prevent us from even knowing how we feel, much less being able to express it. In this episode, licensed therapist Carli Kilbourne joins the pod to talk about how we get back to what's true for US.Want to work with Remy? Go here.Email: patraumaparty@gmail.comFind us on:InstagramTikTokThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
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100 - How to Know When People Are Safe - How do we know when to trust people? Let's dig in.
Jan 3100:28:38Tap to summarizeUnsafe people aren't going to walk up to you and tell you they're unsafe. But there are lots of signs if you know what to look for. Unfortunately, many of us had that internal alarm system groomed out of us as kids so that we could survive our unsafe parents and caregivers, and we literally don't know what to look for. Until now.TW: This episode talks about acts of violence ICE has enacted on Americans.Want to work with Remy? Go here.Email: patraumaparty@gmail.comFind us on:InstagramTikTokThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
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99 - Emotionally Immature Parents - Narcissism, refusal to apologize, selfishness, lack of empathy—these cut deep. Let's look at the impact and how we heal.
Jan 1701:12:30Tap to summarizeWhen we're taught that "love" is conditional on outside approval, when we're taught to fear authority rather than stand in our personal power, when we're expected to provide unwavering loyalty and praise, even at our own expense—we come into adulthood deeply emotionally debilitated. Emotionally immature parents and caregivers leave lasting wounds on their children—a fear of rejection and abandonment, fawning and people pleasing, a lack of boundaries and sense of agency, trouble with relationships and attachment, and maybe worst of all, a deep confusion about what love is. In this episode, associate counselor Taylor Pearl joins me to get into emotionally immature parents—the core traits, the impact, and the healing we need.Want to work with Remy? Go here.Email: patraumaparty@gmail.comFind us on:InstagramTikTokThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
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98 - Working with Depression - A depressive episode can take you tf out—let's look at the changes we can make to find peace of mind.
Jan 300:35:27Tap to summarizeIt's my first epi of 2026! And we're getting into depression. Depressive episodes are so painful. You might think you'll never bounce back, and even worse, you might feel like you have to hide how sad you are so people won't reject you. In this episode, I spill the tea on my Christmas depressive episode and get into what I USED to do, what I did differently this time, and what I learned in the process.Want to work with Remy? Go here.Find us on:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
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97 - Disorganized Attachment - AKA fearful avoidant attachment style can be so hard to navigate—let's get clarity.
Dec 2001:04:44Tap to summarizeOur conversation on attachment styles continues! This week, we're getting into disorganized attachment style, aka fearful avoidant. One of the reasons this style is so hard to understand is that it's rooted in contradictory desires—wanting something while simultaneously fearing it. It can be as confusing for the people with this attachment style as it is for the people in relationship with them. Holistic therapist and podcaster Hayden Rosato joins me to talk us through how this attachment style differs from anxious and avoidant, what beliefs come up for those with disorganized attachment, how it impacts relationships, and how we start the healing process.Looking for more episodes on attachment styles? Try episode 6—it's all about the anxious/avoidant relationship trap. Episode 95 is about avoidant attachment. You can also try any of these episodes—they're all about anxious attachment: episode 14, episode 88, and episode 89.Want to work with Remy? Go here.Find us on:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.
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