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Intrusive Thoughts by Adam Rippon
Sleepless in Finland: Reclining Seats, HOA Drama & Trashy Behavior
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Foreign. And welcome to Intrusive Thoughts by Adam Rippon. I am Adam Rippon, and if you are listening to this podcast, I sound the same. I sound better than ever. Let's even just say that if you are watching this podcast, you might see this is another new background. Well, I'm happy to announce to everyone, whether you are watching this or just listening, I am happy to announce to the entire nation and to the world that this is the very first episode of Intrusive Thoughts to take place from the country of Finland, from the continent of Europe. Yeah, this is it. This is the. Now, this podcast records worldwide because this, like I said, we are recording from Finland. So hello, from Finland. Hello, Finland. I am at our cottage and I'm actually. And I'm totally. Okay, I know I'm speaking right now like I am, you know, a hostage. I'm blinking in Morris code, but I'm just saying hello and Morse code with my eyelashes. So it's all good. Here's the thing. So, as you know, if you've been listening to the podcast, if this is your first time listening. Hello. Yes, sometimes we record in Finland. It's not a big deal. And sometimes we don't. Right. Sometimes we mostly record, like, in my office. But if you have been listening to the podcast, you know that for the past few weeks, I have been experimenting with recording in different places of my house because I have absolute free reign of what goes on over there because my husband has been away in Finland. So I think mostly everybody, if you listen to this, you must know. But if not, my husband is from Finland. And before we got married, he decided that he wanted to build a cottage so that we would always have, like, a place here and so that he always felt like he was coming home when he was coming back to Finland. And so he built this place a few years ago, however long we've been married, which I can't remember. One, two, three, four, four years. Three years. One of them anywhere between three to five years, which is usually like, if you have to choose, like, an option, like, you know, one to two years, three to five years. We're on the three to five year kind of plan at the moment. So he built this cottage before he moved to California. And he's been coming back, like, every summer. And a lot of his work he can do remotely. So I always encourage him. I'm like, no, just, like, spend as much time as you. As you want here over the summer. Because a lot of times, like when we're home, like, I'm running Around and working and doing a bunch of stuff. And, you know, he's really great because he'll, like, help take care of all this stuff at home. And so I always feel like, you know, this time in the summer, it's like it's my time to give back, you know, because I'm. I'm giving and I'm thoughtful. I'm a good partner, right? Try to be. I start crying. It's okay. I have to share something with you. Aside from the fact that we are in Finland. We're recording this episode from Helsinki, Finland. There is a dark side to what I'm telling you right now, and the dark side is that I just landed maybe, I don't know, two hours ago. So I'm doing this fresh off of the plane, and I want you to know why. And it's because I, if anything, love to stay dedicated to a schedule and, like, prove people that I can do anything. And I did promise, you know, when we record, I like to stay on a schedule. And I was letting everybody know at Podcast one when I was going to Finland, and when I was talking to a few people there, they were like, oh, so you're not going to record? I said, absolutely not. That is absolutely not what's going to happen, right? That's not what's going to happen. You're. You wouldn't even know that I'm gone, right? You won't even know because I'm bringing that mic with me. I'm bringing it across the ocean, and I'm. There's no days off. Intrusive thoughts don't stop when we travel. In fact, I would say that they only continue. They only continue. Now. What can you expect in this, the first international episode? I think kind of not much about the same sort of shtick that we do when we're stateside, right? When we're in the lower 48, that's kind of what we do. But one thing you can absolutely stay tuned for is before I recorded this, I want you to know that on the plane, that flight is, like, about 11 hours. I didn't sleep a wink on that flight. And at this point in time, I have been awake for 24 solid hours. I'm a good old American guy. I can do that. I can stay up for 24 hours. I don't feel. I don't feel bad at all. I want you to know that before I started recording, though, I did feel like my brain getting hot in a way that it was sort of turning itself into, like, fossil fuel. But I Said, you know what? I promised myself that I would do that. I'm acting like it's. I'm like, I like, told myself I had to go to the mines to, you know, get coal and not just sit down and record a podcast. But you know what? Whatever, whatever. So I said, I promised myself I would do this. I'm going to stay on schedule, so I'm going to do it. I'm going to stay on schedule, and I'll let you know as soon as I hit the boop. The record button. Something inside me. I'm on right now. Borrowed time. I can feel it. I am sort of like on the reserve drive, but I'm having fun so far, so we'll see how it goes. We will. Just see how this goes. Yeah. Didn't sleep, not even a wink. I had to fly. And I want you to know, before this podcast started, I really hadn't traveled much, if at all, in like a year or so. And now I feel like every episode is just sort of like airport themed. I don't mean for it to be that way. It's just. It's the way the cookie crumbles. You know, there's not. There's not much I can to. There's not much I can do about it, but it's all right. It is absolutely all right. Which kind of leads me into the first text message of the day. All right. Hi, Adam, Carrie from Portland. Hi, Carrie. First love, the pear martini. I told my niece that is a bartender and she is serving it up this summer. Yum. Yeah, that pear martini. I can't even tell you the amount of people who have reached out about that pear martini. It is delicious. Delicious and delicious. It's incredible. So my intrusive thought for the summer stems from the Delta podcast and flying. Here we go. Now that you have to fly in the middle and back of the plane. First of all, how dare you. I need to know your thoughts on reclining seats. I took a six hour flight to Hawaii this summer. Immediately after takeoff, the. The three seats in front of me. I'll say that again. This is sort of like the exhaustion is kicking in and I don't have my glasses on. I do need the reading glasses. Oh, wait, can I tell you something first? So I recently, every once in a while, like a brand will reach out. Personally, I'm a hot commodity on those social media platforms. I had. I don't know what it was exactly, but it was like a Lasik company who reached out to me and they said, we see you're wearing glasses. Would you like to fix that? And I didn't respond because I didn't have the heart to tell them, honey, I already. Already got the lace. Ick. I already got the Lasik. I already got it. We're wearing these glasses because of the cataracts. So unless it's like, you know, they were like, lasik usa. I'm like, unless you're Cataract usa. Yeah, we're. We really can't talk. But I will take whatever amount of money that you want to offer and I'll pretend like I'm getting it because I got it already. But where were you when I wanted to do the full rebrand of my body? Right. Where were you when I said, we got to fix this thing up head to toe? And let's start with the eyes, because I know where I was and I was paying for that out of pocket. So you were nowhere to be found. Except three years later, you see me wearing readers, right? Not really helpful. But I will do sort of an actor's interpretation of what it was like when I got the Lasik if we want to do that, but there's no need now. Like I said, that was out of pocket. Kind of just like your message. A bit out of pocket. You should have been there when I needed you and you weren't. All right, back to Carrie and back to Portland. All right, here's the deal. I took a six hour flight to. It's so much easier to read this with the readers. Okay. I took a six hour flight to Hawaii this summer. Immediately after takeoff, three seats in front of me. Bam, bam, bam. Reclined. I was seated in the window seat, feeling claustrophobic, and then saw that none of them were sleeping. But watching Trump videos the whole time. Ugh. Talk about intrusive thoughts. Anyway, to recline or not to recline? That is my question. Thanks. Love the podcast. You make me laugh. All right, Carrie, one. What can you do about the Trump videos? Nothing. There have been flights that I've been on recently where I don't watch Fox News. I've never watched Fox News. I never will watch Fox News. But sometimes I will watch someone watching Fox News when I'm on a plane that has, like, Fox News. And I gotta tell you, you know, the commercials on these different networks are obviously geared towards the audience that's watching. And the Fox News audience knows that who is watching has got one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel. Because they are trying to milk these people dry on their way out. Because I'll tell you that from being on a flight, being behind someone who's watching Fox News, it's like, buy your family plot today, your family plot. It's like, bury your whole family. It's like two for one earns. Like, these are the ads that are on Fox News, and they're obviously, you know. And then it's like the, you know, the Mr. Pillow, Will Lindell, whatever his name is, who's pedaling some sort of new product that's already been invented but, like, has his name on it. And then it's, you know, some Bibles, right? So it's like urns, family plots, you know, two for one, cremations and pillows. And I gotta say, it's very. It's crazy. It's a bit. It's. It's a bit cuckoo. It really is cuckoo. So there's nothing you can do about that. You know, you just. The borrowed time, okay? It's six feet under, about to be. They're about two feet under, walking their way down. All right, Three seats in front of you. Bam, bam, bam. This is what I think. I think that I'm not really one to recline when I'm sitting, like, in economy. Right. 1. Because sometimes I'm in the last row and I can't, right? Because there's no place to recline when your back is literally up against the wall. They don't let you do that. They go, sir, there's no recline button, right? If you want to recline, slide down the seat a bit and crunch your neck up. That's how you're going to recline. But I feel like if the seats in front of you recline. Listen, here's the thing. This is like. I don't want to say this because, like, I hate what I'm about to say. The seats recline, and if they can recline, you should recline them, right? It's fair. If it's wasn't fair, they wouldn't have the option to recline. So I think it's, like, absolutely crazy to ask somebody to not recline the seat when really it's like we're talking about 2 to 3 inches of a little. A little back, right? It's not like somebody's in your lap waiting to get, like, a head massage. They don't go back that far. And so, unfortunately, yeah, you can feel, like, stuck and, like, they're taking away your space. But I think what you got to do is, like, if they recline, you have to recline to, like. You need to, like, reclaim your space. So if somebody's reclining, you've got to fight fire with bending back and reclining. So that's how you deal with that. So I. I know that that's, like, not what we want to hear. We want to hear, like, hey, get that thing up. Right? But no, if the seat can recline, they're allowed to recline. The trump's a different story, right? Like, they shouldn't be watching that. They should be reading a book or sleeping, since they're reclining. But that's the thing. If they recline, you should recline too. I know you're going to feel weird about it if you don't want to. But listen, then the people behind you, they've got to do the same thing. Then. Then just recline. You'll get the same amount of space. You'll get the space back. Nobody's telling you to sit there like a crash dummy. So I think that if nobody's reclining, I'm kind of taking the lead. I don't want to be the one. I'm only taking the lead and starting the recline in. If it's like a morning flight, if I'm exhausted, if I really need to get sleep, I am. Oh, talking about sleep, here we go. We're hitting the 25th hour, but if I really need sleep, then I'm gonna recline. I'm gonna go, sorry, I'm gonna be the one to start this. And then we go down. So that's. That's what I think about the reclining. And I know it can feel taboo, but gotta do what you gotta do, right? All right, here. Next text message I was looking for. The one I was looking for also, everybody. Great job. We're really stepping it up with the text messages. This is, like, so fantastic. And if you want to text the podcast, you can at 310-909-7117. And if you're texting from out of the country, kind of like how this is being recorded. That's +1310,909717. Let's get into this next test. Message. Text message. Okay. It's. You're. You're starting to watch the decline. All right? So I'm gonna need you to just kind of go with it. There's going to be a few slurred words, there's going to be a few wrong words, but I'm doing the right thing. All right? I'm doing the right thing. Here we go. Hi, Adam. We have a situation. I'm gonna lay it all out for you and would really appreciate any guidance. They did not write, really. I just. I added that in for some flair. So they just want guidance. They don't really want it. Okay, so our downstairs neighbors have been making noise complaints about our son since he started crawling. He just turned two. They specifically take issue with the sound of his footsteps on the hardwood floors. Wanting to be a good neighbor, we have arranged rugs and playmats in the area where he spends the most time, and we redirect him if he's being stompy or something. But honestly, we're out and about more than we're home. And yet they continue to pound on our door every month or so to shout over us about how we need to teach our son to walk quietly so they can sleep in. We are talking about a toddler who wakes up at 7:30am when they went to the HOA about this note. They are owners and we are renters. The board told them that noise complaints cannot be made against children under six per the building bylaws. Now these downstairs neighbors want to hire a lawyer to change the bylaws. One last critical detail to know is that these neighbors teach music lessons out of their home. We have never complained about their noise, including the year we had to endure hearing Don't Stop Believing on the piano every day. Please advise. Thank you so much. Okay, I want, off the bat, want to say that these people sound miserable. They sound like awful people. Because this is what I think. Listen, if you are in a situation where you share walls, you share ceilings, you share floor, whatever, in a communal situation, right? Town, home, apartment building. If that is the situation, you've got to deal with it, right? You're not fucking Jeff Bezos. If you're Jeff Bezos, then you can afford to live in the middle of fucking nowhere where there are going to be no footsteps. But you can't, so you have to live in a townhouse like most people do. I live in a townhouse and I fucking love it. And I love sharing a wall with someone. Do I hear my neighbor running up and down her stairs sometimes? I'm sure she hears me doing something in my house that I'm never going to ask her. But that's the point, right? I don't live in a house. I don't want to live in a house. I do, but I don't, right? That's just the situation I'm in. And I gotta take it with a grain of salt. I know that my neighbor's not in There with two pots banging them together, right? Like I know that she's not doing that and she knows that whatever she's hearing on our side that we're not doing that either. I think that especially it's like with a baby. Your son is 2 years old. What the do they want him to do? He's going to be walking around and if you set up the carpets and everything, first of all, get a grip. And second of all, like the pitter patter of a two year old on the hardwood floor, I can imagine even like if he's like stomp, stomp, stomp, that it's like not enough to be inconvenienced to go all the way up to your apartment and cuss you out. It's way more effort. That is way more effort. And it's not like 5:30 in the morning or 6:00 clock or whatever, even like a 7:30 on the weekend. And like the little pounding of like the baby heels to the hardwood floor. I'm not pretending it's making no noise, right? But it's. What do you want to do? Like what, what do you want? It's not like, it's not even like a pet, right? It's not even like a dog or something. Is like doing that where it's like people would expect you to, to go above and beyond, to be like your pet is making this commotion. It's a baby, right? Because even at one point these miserable fuckers were also babies who walked heel first. And honestly, when babies walk, it's heel only. They're not using the ball of their foot at all. It's purely decorative. Until they're about six, it's just heel, heel, heal, heal. It's like the, the absolute heaviest part of their body. They're just pounding it into the floor. I'm sure it can be loud, but to, to, to like feel like you need to spend money to hire a lawyer to change the bylaws through the hoa. Like I, they don't even seem like they're trying to go through you. Also, first of all, I, I do feel like there is some sort of legal precedent beyond the HOA of somebody complaining about the noise, like the footsteps of a baby. What do they want you to do? Like not let the baby touch the floor. Because here's the deal. They should be teaching more music lessons to make more money to live above you. Sorry, you're living underneath them. That's like not your problem. And I actually don't believe, believe that it matters at this Point, because they know you. They know who you are, who's buying and who's renting. You're both living in the same situation. You both have to be respectful of one another, right? And the music lessons out of their home is truly insane. And I think that if they come to your house, you need to pull the same crazy shit, and you need to go, I'm sorry. That, like, you're hearing the footsteps. We can't even hear that he's making the noise because all we can hear is the trombone and the flute and the baby grant. So we can't even hear the footsteps. I'm so sorry. That's so crazy. Like, I wish that we could be more observant and, like, hear that, but we can't even do that because the piercing sound of your poor students, short, stubby fingers. I can hear that on the. On the keyboard on the Yamaha. I can hear your students, short, stubby fingers. Don't stop believing. I've stopped believing, and I don't believe anymore. I don't believe in it anymore. There's got to be another way that we can coexist, because this isn't. It's not working. Because I want to help you. I. I'm you speaking to the neighbor. I want to help you so that we can have, you know, we can do this. But, you know, for so long, I've been listening to Fur Elise, right? I've been listening to Pal's Canon, and there's only so many times I can listen to the G flats and the F sharps before, you know, I've lost my mind. I can't even hear my baby pounding his feet on the. On the ground. So, you know, I don't know what you want me to do, but I also have to say. I'm going to say this. There is most likely, if you were to be, like, super diligent, because it doesn't sound like they want to sue you. Sounds like they want to. They don't want even want to sue anybody. They want to just, like, make a case to go to the HOA to change the bylaws. But even if they were going after you, I almost think that they shouldn't, because there's got to be something against. They. They are definitely, like, finding a way around something to teach music lessons out of their apartment. Especially if they're making money out of that. Like, if this. If they're, like, volunteering this work, that's one thing, but if they're making money, that's absolutely an another thing. Because they could get in trouble for like what they're considering their office space with their. Because they're. If they're making money, they're most likely trying write off some space in their apartment, right? Or townhouse. I don't know what the setup is, but they're most likely trying to rent like write off some of that space. I've got to tell you, I work with great tax people and they are very fucking picky about what you can write off and what you can't write off, they are gonna be really in for it. Right? Okay. Is the office space that they are claiming that they are writing off, that they give these lessons in. Let's say it's. Hopefully it's in an office space. Because if it's in the living room, they can't be writing off the living room because they, they spend time in that living room. This space needs to be dedicated only to work. Oh, you could get these audited. I know it, I know it. If they are in an office space, does that office space have a deadbolt? Is it completely separate from the other spaces in the house? I need to know how dedicated this music space is. Because it better not be in some communal space. Men are not be sitting at the kitchen island. Because if it is, we're going to have trouble. If you're trying to write that off, we're gonna have big trouble. Because I'll tell you something, the law protects a human, but the law does not protect a flute. It doesn't. No matter how hard you try, it does not protect a flute. So I think that the next time they come pounding on the door, you just don't answer. You don't answer and you scream from the other side of your door and be like, stop giving music lessons. It's a two year old. What the fuck do you want me to do? That you just say that. What do the fuck do you want me to do? It's a baby and I'm trying to teach him to walk as fast as possible. What do you want? It's. He's not gonna fly. He's two years old. Get the over it. And if you don't want to live in a space where there are other people living, get it? Move. Assuming you live in a city, move to the country, okay? Go somewhere else. If you can't handle living with other people. Some people need to learn how to cope too. Some people have awful coping skills. They can't deal with like anybody else slightly inconveniencing them. It's also part of living in a community where things are going to be going on that, like, won't be perfect. To your own peace and get over it. Suck it up. By the way, grow up. Some people are so afraid to be uncomfortable for five minutes. So weak. I hate people who are weak. I hate people who have, like, weakness seeping in their bones. It makes me. That is the one thing that I hate about people when they're weak. You're seeing a side of me that, you know, you could only see if you. I've been awake for 25 hours straight. But I mean it. I. I've said this to my friends personally. Now you're gonna. The raw me. That is one thing that I hate when people are weak. I find it so unattractive. It's so embarrassing to be weak. And you can be in control of that. And I'm not even speaking like you. Just suck it up. Never say anything when something's wrong or whatever, but if, like, you can't look at a situation from another person's perspective and just maybe put yourself in their shoes and see that they're trying to do everything that they can to be courteous of you, but yet you're still finding fault with it. Like, you're weak because you didn't think outside the box. You're being a baby. And there's nothing worse than being weak. There's so many weak people out there, including your neighbors, music lessons out of their home, and then they have the audacity to pound on your door. So insane. Another thing. Hoa. I want to talk about the HOA for one second. I have my own personal gripes with hoa. I live in a place where there's an hoa. It's always going up, right? That's never a solid price, whatever the that's about. But I have a hot take about the hoa. I know that everyone's public stance when it comes to HOA is that, oh, I hate the hoa. Listen, there's a time and a place for an hoa. And my hot take about the HOA is that sometimes it's a necessary evil. Hear me out. I've seen the way some of you decorate your homes. And you go, just a pop of color. Or you go, isn't it pretty like this? And it's really not. And that pop of color is an eyesore. You don't have good taste, right? A lot of people don't have good taste. And so the HOA is in place. It's a necessary evil to keep you in Line. So it doesn't look like you live in a free for all junkyard, Right. It's in place for your own good, because people can't be trusted. Yeah. Other times when it's just like, we don't need the hoa. Yeah, there's. I don't need the hoa. I have good taste, right? Like, I'm not gonna put pieces of shit in my front yard. My. My front yard is beautifully landscaped because my husband did it, right? He has good taste. Some of you are out here buying garden gnomes and flamingos that stick in the grass, right? And then you're going, oh, wouldn't it be really cute if my porch had a red pink door? It wouldn't. It actually wouldn't be cute. I'd be timeless. No, there's a time limit on the things that you want to do. It's not charming what you want to do to your yard and to the front of your house. You unfortunately need the guidelines of the hoa. You are the reason the HOA exists because you lack decorum. Right? It's one thing to have bad taste. It's another thing to not know you have bad taste and, you know, be upset with the people who are just trying to keep you on God's good path. You're always trying to stray, thinking you have the good ideas, right? No, sometimes it's not pretty. Sometimes it's not pretty, right? You know, sometimes people need to be told that, like, yeah, you gotta mow the lawn. Sorry, sorry. Not everybody can have, like, mowed lawn. And then you decide that you're gonna have a wild meadow, right? Like, sorry, sorry, sorry. This is. We can't do it that way, you know, in Europe, because we're here in Europe, specifically in the uk. They are so specific about the exterior of these buildings, especially the ones that are like 4, 500 years old, that, like, you could buy this, like, gorgeous, gorgeous, gorgeous flat somewhere in London and you'll be like, it's amazing. And there will be so many regulations. And I think, like, some of them are ridiculous, but, like, I've seen them, like, redo and gut buildings and they will do everything they can to not touch the exterior. So it's like, truly, like the outside is just built and it's like empty inside. And when I mean, the outside is built, it's like there are so many regulations where it's like, they can have a brand new, fully spanking new building, but the regulations say that they must keep the original 500 year windows, where if you Breathe on them. They could crack. That's crazy, right? Like, that's a little bit too far. Like maybe. Come on, they're spending all that money on a flat in London. Let them get double paned glass, all right? It's not going to kill. It's what the people who built that building 500 years ago would have put in had it been available to them, right? It wouldn't have been like sugar glass that they use on the Great British Bake off before they crack into a dessert, right? Like, that's the thinness of this glass. So that's really intense. But we're not living in, in a place like that, in a place like London. We're not living in a place like that. You know, it's. It's doable. Like, don't act like. But again, listen, it's. I think it's a necessary evil because at the same time, I hate the hoa. They think they know what they're doing all the time and whatever and blah, blah, blah. I'll never be a member of the hoa. Oh, my God. If I'm ever a member of any HOA anywhere, take me up to the back of the barn, pull the trigger. I don't even ask twice. Don't ask me to explain myself. I've already done too much. I've already done too much. I ran for the hoa. Should run from the hoa. There's just so many things that sometimes they do stuff that you're like, scratch, scratch, scratch. What? Why would you do that? Doesn't make any sense. And then you keep charging me more like, get a grip, charge someone else. Oh, God. Okay, do a voicemail or a text message. I don't know. Let's do a voicemail. We have. I'm really pleased, everybody, I've got to say, really pleased with the amount of messages you're. We're doing great. And I love when we have return callers and texters. It's great to get follow up. I love a through line. Okay, okay. You know me, I hate weakness. Don't be weak. Call in, please. Okay, let's go. Please leave your message after the tone.
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Hi, Adam, it's Rebecca. I don't know, like you know who I am, but anyways, two things. One thing is I think you should put your phone number on your link tree or link on your Instagram, because it kind of took me a little bit to find the number. I mean, I know you announce it all the time on your podcast, but, you know, put it in your Bio or something. Just a little tip for you. And then the real reason I called is because I want to get your thoughts on something that happened to me last week where I was driving and I was sitting behind a car in a red light and the car in front of me, the person just like threw a like takeout drink cup out of their window and then like another water bottle empty out of their window. I like literally was so shocked I did not know what to do but beeped at them and I like yelled out my window like a psychopath. But I just want to know like, what are your tips and what would, what would you suggest to do next time I see that happen? Because to me that's just insane unhinged behavior. And I want to have insane unhinged behavior back. But obviously it made no difference. Anyway, want to hear your thoughts. Thanks, bye.
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Okay, first of all, phone number in the link tree. That's great. You know, I gotta say, love the constructive criticism because that's a great idea. I say the phone number all the time on the podcast and it just, it's so natural to me. But if somebody else. And I've never thought about it like this, but if somebody else were saying a phone number. Yeah, I don't have. I don't usually gotta. I don't usually gotta. Please, please. I'm an hour 25. I don't usually have like a pen and paper. Oh, let me jot that down. You're right. I need to put that somewhere. I even think that I can put it like in my profile. Okay, working on that. Great suggestion. Next. You saw somebody throw out things from their window. I have to tell you something. I remember the first time I ever saw someone litter and I felt like I had just watched a murder. It felt that serious and crazy to me. Cuz never, ever, ever in my life did I ever think it was okay. Or did I ever have the urge to go, I just gotta throw this away now and like, just throw it. Like I thought that was a crazy thing from movies. I couldn't imagine that that was something that happened in everyday, normal human life. And I remember the first time I ever saw it. And let me tell you about it, I was on a field trip. We were gonna go watch some play or something. I had to get a permission slip slide signed to go to this thing sligned. So I don't remember where we were going or whatever, but I remember that this girl in my class took out a lollipop and she was like sucking on the lollipop and like, whatever. And she made it, like, halfway through. And I don't know, I was just like, kind of watching what she was doing with it because I felt like, what is she going to do? Is she going to, like, wrap it back up and put it in her backpack? Like, I was, I. I was curious to her next move. And when I saw what her next move was, it like, shook me to the core. She opened the window up and she took the wrapper of the lollipop and threw it out the window. And then she threw the lollipop out the window. And I looked at her like she had just shot someone in the head. And she looked at me and she said, what? And I, my heart was racing because I was like, the cops are going to be after us any minute. I'm going to tell them. I will rat this bitch out. Out of question. No question whatsoever. Like, the police are coming. I'm going to go. It was her. I still think about that every day because I've never been, like, so fucking lazy that I couldn't hold on to the trash for like one second or for like two minutes. It's a weakness. I gotta get rid of it now. You're so weak, right? You were so weak that you won if, like, you have so much trash in the car that, like, you have to get rid of it now. Disgusting. What a foul person you are. And if your car is like that and you don't litter, all right, we will have a word with each other. But right now it's for the people whose cars are like that and you do litter. Filthy. But, like, I just, I just think of, like, do you not people who just, like, don't think about other people or care or whatever. It's so insane, crazy to me because, okay, I don't care. I'm just gonna throw it out the window. Well, like, then aren't you. Wouldn't you be mad? These are the same people who would be mad driving, seeing, like trash in the street and go, oh, God, it's like, we live in such a filthy place. Well, how do you think it got like that? From weak people like you, bottom feeding scum music teachers who are complaining about 2 year olds, heels pounding into the hardwood floor. Come on, get a grip. Get such a grip and throw your trash out in the trash. That's insane. What's like, unhinged behavior that you could do in return? There's nothing you can do in this situation. There is nothing you can do. You can lay on the horn, right? And I Don't mean like honk. I mean like hold. And there's a difference because someone who holds the horn, I know that they're crazy because when you honk the horn, it's like you're trying to, you know, it's like a. What's the next person going to do? But when you hold the horn, they know that those issues are deep rooted. I. I'm going to go by. It's going to scare me if we get into it. So that's really my stance on that. That's really too bad because I do, like I said, I remember the first time I ever saw someone litter and it really, I mean, I don't know, I don't even remember where we were going, but I can like, I can close my eyes and like see my own like second grade body. It was that haunt. It was haunting. And this girl, look. What? What do you mean, what? You just threw a dumb, dumb lollipop and its wrapper out the bus window. That's what we're going back to Our lady of Peace school. And you just littered. We have a religion test. Don't think God would really like that. You threw a, you know, mystery flavored dumb, dumb lollipop out the window. How about that? Craziness. Absolute craziness. Yeah, I went to Catholic school and Catholic school has some rough people going there. They really do sometimes. One more voicemail.
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Hi, Adam, this is Laurie calling in from Lock.
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I'm calling because I wanted to thank you for the heads up about reading glasses at Daiso. I also need multiples and I quickly ran to the one near me, which is on the west side in Saltel, basically the other side of the world from you. And while they had some, they really only had the plus 1.6. And then it was a quick jump to 2.5 and 3, so I only had one frame option for the 1.6. So I bought it. It's fine. It's totally great deal. And you know, I just jumped on that instead of going to another discount store because since I am Asian, I figured they would probably fit my face better. So anyway, thank you for that tip. And another thing I wanted to call about was I just noticed that after your relaunch of the podcast, you kind of glossed over the fact that you renamed the podcast and I just thought that was strange. And I wanted to hear your thoughts on why you needed to change the name if podcast one sort of strong armed you or, you know, what happened with the rebrand. Okay, love Your podcast. Thanks so much. Bye.
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Okay, let's nail this message. First of all, you're welcome for the daiso suggestion. Even though it sounds like it was a bad suggestion and I'm sorry that they didn't have the glasses. Here's the thing. I totally. When you said I'm Asian, I went, me too. And I know I'm not, but I like growing up had so many like Japanese friends, like American Japanese and like from Japan Japanese friends just through like skating. Because skating in like in Japan is really big. And in Southern California where I was, did a lot of like my training here, there's a lot of like Asian communities and there's a lot of rinks. So there's like, I was friends with like tons of. I had a lot of Asian friends. And so I'd be at their houses, we'd be going to. I. So I felt like I had the like secret codes and the secret codes where I just knew where daiso was and I knew what fu was so in. Which are like two really vital things to know. But this is, I think this is a bad suggestion. But this is my best, next best, good one is that the next time, if you do go, if you have family that you visit in Asia, I think regardless of where in Asia, because this like, like cute discount store culture in Asia is like no other place in the world. Because their dollar store quality is just still. It's still like top notch and it's cool and it's a little bit chic. These glasses that I'm wearing today, they're from Target. Target has okay reading glasses, but they're veering on expensive for reading glasses. Reading glasses are supposed to be a piece of shit, right? I think these are like 15 or $20. It's a bit too much for me. I think I'm like the five dollar range. Even when you go to like CVS or Walgreens, sometimes those bitches try to charge you 15 or 11.99. Like it's not that serious. But when you go to like a Japanese discount store, especially specifically in Japan, it's like 10 pairs for a hundred yen, which is like a dollar. Yeah, you gotta save up for that Asian trip to do the Asian haul, I think. And you get it, you're Asian. Like I said, I get it. I absolutely get. You will know what I'm saying. Save up for that Asian trip. As somebody who is white and not Asian, but who's been to Asia, I'm see we're looking at each other eye to eye. And these eyes, and both of our eyes both need readers. And we gotta save up for that Asian trip. We're not going to Target anymore. We're not. Definitely not going to Dollar General. I just don't think that they're gonna have what it takes. I do need to go to the dice, so I need to check it out myself. And you're right. The one on the west side is basically I. That for me, would be like an international trip from the east side of la. Yeah, I'm going to need to bring a passport and a lunch. It's going to take me that long to get over there. Okay, next. What was the next question? The podcast. Breezing over the name change. Really just calling me out. Everybody is today. My God. But you know what? I'm not weak, so I can take it. Honestly, I can. But if you guys start calling all the time with just poking and prodding, that'll be too much for me. Maybe. But these are great. These are great questions. Let's ask the tough fucking questions. Right? Put the phone number in the link tree. All right, done. It's. It's in the link tree. Like I said. I'm gonna. I'll look to take that a step further. Next. Why did we just breeze over the name change? Okay, here's the thing. This is what my goal was, and this is actually. This is, like, great. I love, like, 52 minutes into the podcast. I'm gonna tell like a. A story now. Whatever. It's my podcast and they're my intrusive thoughts. Give this podcast 5 stars if you like. Sending your podcasts. Okay, here's the thing. I have done other podcasts before. I used to do this podcast with Spring Hill with my friend Danielle Young, and it was called Normalize this. And I loved doing that podcast. It was fun. And, you know, we got paid to do that podcast. And then, you know, we did it for a season and that was that. We had a lot of fun. If you ever listen to Normalize this, shout out to you. Real kudos to you. And then a little while after that, I started a figure skating podcast with two of my friends. One of my friends, who I used to skate with all the time, we used to train together. Her name is Ashley Wagner. And a friend of mine who I met through working for the Olympics at NBC, her name is Sarah Hughes. And ironically, there is a Olympic gold medalist figure skater whose name is Sarah Hughes. It's not the same one, but we all live in different parts of the country. And so Ashley and I Used to see each other all the time. You know, we used to see each other every day when we were training together. And then we kind of, like, fell out of touch. And we hated that because it didn't feel like we were. Weren't close anymore. But, like, it was really helpful to have, like, a scheduled time to talk. And so Ashley had this idea of a podcast of where we would just talk about, like, the skating events that were going on and whatever. We just shoot the shit. It would just be for fun. And so we started doing that, and I think, like, we've done close to almost a hundred episodes of that already. We've been doing it for almost, like, three years, and it's been, like, so much fun. And there's been some episodes of it where, you know, we're all busy and we all are doing our own things where I've just talked on my own, and I'm like, oh, I really liked doing it on my own. And so I had the idea of, like, you know what? I should start a podcast that's, like, you know, not about skating or whatever. That's about anything. Everything, right? It's about the hoa. It's about reclining your seats. It's about staying up for 25 hours and recording across, you know, international lines. That's what this is about. We cross borders, right? And we record across those borders, across those oceans. And so that's what we do on this one. And I was like, you know what? Let me just try it out, right? Because I. I'm a mover, I'm a shaker. I'm willing to give something a go and see if something sticks, because I'm like, you know what? I really like doing podcasts. It is fun. And I think the first time I did it with. When it was with Danielle, it was like, you know, an opportunity that, like, came to us. And I thought, you know what? I will start this on my own, and I'll just see what happens and see where it goes. And I told myself, I'm gonna dedicate myself to doing 10 episodes, because if I ended at 10, that's like a. You know, you gave it a shot, right? Or, like, you just didn't have time to do it. It didn't work. Whatever. Just do 10 and see how it goes. And how I got connected to Podcast one was I had been booked on a show that they produced, and I think they saw that I started doing this on my own. And then they reached out and we got in contact and we talked, and I was like, you know what? I'm. I really want to do the first 10 on my own because I want to figure out, like, before I start working with, like, a team, I want to know, like, what do I want it to sound like? What do I want it to be about? I was still trying to just figure out, like, what it was. And so at the time, like, the podcast by Adam Rippon, the original name of the first 10 episodes of this podcast, that's kind of just what it was, right? And then while talking about it, while doing the podcast, I, in one of the episodes in the really early ones was like, intrusive Thoughts would actually be such a fun name for the podcast. And so I. I wasn't strong armed into it, like, at all. I'm not strong armed into literally doing anything. Okay. I'm gonna say a few things about working with a production team. I don't know if they'll even keep this in, but they will. Like, I'm good at, like, reveal the secrets or something. It's not that serious. I'm gonna say this, that when I started it on my own, it was just like, I was going on and on and on and on and on and whatever. But when I started doing the show with a producer, I got great, like, feedback. And, you know, some of the feedback was like, you don't finish any of the stories you start from. Like, okay, first of all, off. And second of all, you're right. Haven't finished a story since day one. Right. And so I've been really mindful of, like, if I'm saying something, finish it, see it all the way through. Because not everybody's brain is, like, working like yours. So working with a producer has been, like, fanta. And I have a great producer who works on the show who is very humble and probably doesn't want me to shout them out. But I have an amazing producer who's also been, like, really, really great in telling me things that I can do better and improve because I've done them. And I agree that, like, I feel like things have improved. I love that I'm saying that, like, things have improved. Like, I'm growing so much and, like, this episode was truly about nothing. And I'm not going to remember it because I'm going into, like, an absolute, like, the body is shutting down. Oh, God, whatever. It's all right. Truly is okay. So, yeah, so when we were meeting and we wanted to do, like, a rebrand, basically, like, they were just taking over the podcast. It was going to be the same Thing. But now I had, like, a team. And, like, in this team, what's so great about it is that, like, if, you know, we have guests on the podcast, they can help facilitate those, like, meetings. And there's always, like, a studio to go to if I ever want to record with somebody. And so. And that's fantastic. And to have, like, everybody on that team is great. Like, it's. That's kind of what I was hoping would happen, right? So it was kind of the goal. So it was, like, fantastic that, like, within doing that, like, 10 episodes that we found, like, a home. And when we were just brainstorming on, like, okay, are we gonna change things? What do we want it to be like? And of course, I was, like, so dedicated to the sound effects, where it's like, if I listen to the first few episodes, I'm like, I do have a migraine headache. So I am. To everybody who listened and, like, stuck it out for the sound effects, like, every other second. Thank you. I was just. I was excited because I thought it sounded, like, different, and I thought that I was, like, so smart, right? And I was. But I was too smart for my own good. And I got a little sound effect. Happy. But I think every once in a while, like, I think they're done so nicely now. Like, it's a treat when it happens. And it's like, oh, isn't that fun that that sound effect happened? And before, it was like, can you just turn them off a little bit? That's what happens when you get professionals involved, right? They know better. Sometimes they know better than you. And so one of the things that we were talking about was like, do we want to change the name? And, you know, when they had just been suggesting intrusive thoughts, I was like, yeah, I. I really like it. Like, it feels right, because I liked. I think that the podcast by Adam Rippon was still cute. But I have to say that, like, when I'm talking about it, or. Oh, what's your podcast called? It feels easier to tell people, oh, it's intrusive Thoughts. And honestly, at the end of the day. At the end of the day. At the end of the day, that's what this podcast is. It's. That are my intrusive thoughts. It's just the podcast by Adam Rippon, and I am filled with absolutely thoughts that are intrusive. And so, honestly, the name just felt good. And, you know, we weren't. It wasn't like, new cover art, new whatever. Like, we kept a lot of the same things that Like I had brought over, you know, the same license free jingle in the beginning that I've seen in a Tick Tock drama. Tick Tock Chinese drama right now. Go. Oh, we got the same sort of license free sound effect account. That's cool. But hopefully when you, when that Chinese drama comes, which I'm loving, those Chinese dramas on Tick Tock, they're crazy. And if you know, you know, if you don't know, don't look it up. It's not worth it. It's not worth your time. You'll fall down a rabbit hole of like watching. Truly. Absolutely. Something so monotonous and pointless for two hours and it's just like, yeah, well, like the emperor just never liked his adopted daughter. That's. And that's, that's kind of the plot of every single one of these. Of like, oh, we didn't know the old lady was actually the billionaire. That's what th. Those are about. If you've never seen them, you're not missing out. Don't worry about it. But yeah, I mean, are you hearing the intrusive thoughts? Right? And so it just, I didn't feel like. Just felt. And also the thing was, was that like, everything was saying the same. Like, if you were still subscribed to the same podcast feed, the, the podcast would just like show up and it would just be a different name. So it felt so similar to me and it was like within the same vein of everything that I was doing already that it just felt like, yeah, let's just keep going. Like, I mean, what are you going to, what are you going to say about it? And now that you've asked me, I can talk about it for days, Days on end. But yeah, so that's why I didn't really like, address it. And like I said, I liked the name the podcast by Adam Rippon. But when I think you're thinking of these names. Sometimes when you're like out in the world and you're telling people about things, it does feel better to describe the podcast by the name Intrusive Thoughts. Because then it cuts right to the point it that then whomever you're telling, if they've never listened before, they have a sort of idea of what it might be about. Sounds chaotic. It's probably chaotic. You tell them, is this chaotic or is it not? It is a bit. Right? But the podcast buy, right? Like, if you don't know who I am, then you don't really know what that is or why that is, who it was, any of it. You don't know that. So that's why I wasn't strong armed into anything. It was a suggestion. I said, yes, let's go for it. And then I sent them all of the art and the photos and everything. And then they have been absolutely amazing to. To work with. And I feel like I've gotten so much better as a host. I love that, like, I'm saying that as, like, somebody who's just, like, here on my own, but I feel like I've improved with my storytelling. Hope so. And I tell such good stories, right. Like, I talk about replacing my microwave and I talk about how, you know, really important things. Right. That make the world go round. All right, anyway, I'm melting the brain. My brain is melting out of my ears. And I don't want you to have to see that. But, yes, that's why no big announcement. So let's just do it now. Everyone, welcome. This is Intrusive Thoughts, the rebrand. Yeah. Okay, now I am going. I'm like going cross eyed. But I'm really glad that I recorded this. I am. And actually we record, like, usually how we do this. Intrusive Thoughts. How we do this is we record like, once a week and then we work on that. But I think because this, like, background is so nice and it's so beautiful here, I think that I might try to record a few episodes here. We'll do them some. Some, like, evergreen ones. Right. Because we have a lot of voicemails, we have a lot of text messages, so don't quote me on that. Maybe we'll do one more. Okay. But if you enjoyed this podcast, formerly the podcast by Adam Rippon. Currently Intrusive Thoughts by Adam Rippon. If you enjoyed, please give us five stars and I send a comment down below. I don't know how anything works, by the way. Just. I don't. I don't even know. I know people can, like, write a review. I don't. I don't even know how to do that. But if you do, you should definitely do that. That'd be amazing. It would also be amazing if you would call or text the podcast hotline. It's 310-909-7117. It'll be in the bio of this episode. And also I will find a way to put it into my Instagram profile. I do think that there is a way to do that. And at the very least, it will be in the link tree. Order taken. Absolutely. I'm falling right in line. That is a great suggestion. And I'm ashamed I didn't think of it myself. But on that note, from Finland, I'm Adam Rippon, and this has been Intrusive Thoughts. I'll see you next week. Bye, everybody. Sam.