Brooke (23:29)

Hi, Adam. My name is Brooke. I live in Boston. I was wondering if you could talk more about your experience being on Worst Cooks in America. I thought you were so iconic and funny on that season and honestly robbed. Thank much. Love the podcast.

Adam Rippon (23:47)

It is great to hear from Boston. Let me say that first. Shout out to Boston. And I would actually love to talk about my experience on Worst Cooks in America because I have seen the show before. I was on it, right? Like, I saw it, I knew what it was about, and I never saw myself as somebody who was like, super bad in the kitchen. But then if I, like, thought about it, it's not like I'm super good either. Like, I didn't know what I was doing. And that was always, like, my hang up and hold up of, like, doing more in the kitchen, because I just didn't know. And that first episode, they absolutely do want you to, like, act like a monkey. Like, they're like, you know, if you don't really know what it is, like, point it out. So it's like, what's this? And you're like, holding a colander, right? And it's like, okay, you're pushing it, but you're making tv, right? Show business, baby. Sometimes you gotta act like a monkey in the kitchen. I'm not above it and I'm not below it either. So, yeah, there I was in the studio acting like I didn't know what anything was. But it's the first episode, right? Like, nobody's going home. You're not being judged or anything or, like, whatever. And so I did go into this experience thinking, like, okay, this is just like, you know, it's something you'll get paid. It'll be, like, fun, whatever. And I thought it was gonna be one of the, like, silliest, stupidest things I had ever done. And it quickly turned into, like, almost immediately, one of the best, most fun things I had ever done in my life. And I'm gonna tell you why it became this, because after that first episode, when you're just basically going crazy, like, you're acting like you don't know what you're doing, and you know you're having fun, you're putting on a good show. Like I said, show business, baby. That's the life of an entertainer. I put my stick with the handkerchief on my back, I walk out of here. You know, it is what it is. I am trying to win an Emmy for acting in that. In that sort of way. So if this is my way through Worst Cooks, I'll do it. But after that first episode, then begins, basically you're getting paid to take a cooking class. So you have, like, nationally recognized professional chef teaching you how to make dishes. And while they're making, and while they're showing you how to put these things together, they're also showing you how to hold a knife, how you should prep your ingredients, little tools that you can have in the kitchen to keep everything organized. And I'll tell you, like, one of those things was to, like, prep the ingredients, which, you know, you're probably like, yeah, obviously you should prep the ingredients. What are you, a monkey in the kitchen? I look in the mirror, I go, oh, my God. I have been the whole entire time. I thought it was acting. No, what I mean is, you know, get another bowl. Like, what does it matter if you dirty another bowl? Like, just do that, right? It will be worth it to not have a bunch of little chunks of carrots everywhere. Like, cut up the carrots and then put them in a bowl off to the side, right? Just do that. And then do that same thing with this celery and then do the same thing with the onion. Whatever. You know, I'm just speaking in Chef now. Like, I know the lingo. I know the base of a soup is what I'm saying. Celery, carrot, onion. But, like, prep those ingredients and also have, like, a little bowl out there that's just for your trash. So, like, you get like, the little nubbing of the carrot and you throw, like, the nub in your little bowl and the little, like, hairy part of the cellar. You're not going to throw that in your chicken noodle. Absolutely no way. Throw that in your bowl so you don't have trash everywhere. And, you know, all of this makes sense. But when a professional chef is telling you, like, prep the ingredients, keep your space clean, you're like, oh, my God, wait, this is what I've been missing. This is why I don't like going in the kitchen, because everything is always a mess when I'm in there. And so I started to, like, enjoy what I was doing. And so I had a lot of fun. And I'll say another thing that was really fun was everybody who I was on the show with, and we all really, like, connected and clicked right away. But what happened was that the show we, like, this was in the middle of, like, when all of the writers strikes were happening, reality TV was still, like, good to do. Hey, listen, I'm in the union. I support the union, and I literally am in the union. I promise I paid my dues. You can ask Fran Drescher. Okay? I'm in good standing with SAG aftra. And so now that I've cleared up my status at SAG aftra, when we first began filming, everything was good. And then our crew went on strike. And so that meant that we were going to stop filming. So we had only made it through, like, one or two episodes. And when you film these shows, a lot of times you're filming the entire season in a one or two week period. You know, even though you're watching it, like, once a week or, you know, twice a week, however often a certain show you might be watching is on. But they will film everything all together, all at once. And I think before I started, like, working in, you know, as I mentioned, in entertainment, I take off my top hat, I tip it to the audience, I asked for coins. I put the symbols away. I'm the monkey on the side of the street in the vest. Now, before I was working in entertainment, I think I knew that, but it was like, oh, that's actually real. And it is real. It's not like you're going back to the worst cook's kitchen and training over the week, right? Like, it's just. It's happening very quickly. And so we had made it through, like, the first or second episode, and, like, production shut down, and so we just thought, like, the whole season was gonna get scrapped and that was gonna be that and whatever. But we all stayed in touch with each other, who I was on the show with, and we, you know, would message back and forth, and we were having a lot of fun because what we were doing there was learning how to cook and learning how to be in the kitchen. And it prompted all of us to get back into the kitchen and to see, like, if we could implement what we learned, even in just those, like, two days. And so we all were, like, back and forth with each other of, like, look what I made. Look at me doing this, look at me doing that. And it was not a year, but almost a year later before we got the call. And they were like, we actually loved this whole crew of people. I'm blushing. We loved this whole crew of people. We would actually love to finish this season instead of scrapping it. And so we had the chance to. Almost a year later, like I said, they started doing the production in London. We were filming in New York originally, but we moved out to London, and we finished shooting the whole season in London. And so, you know, we. We had basically, when you go into these shows, a lot of times, you don't know who you're gonna be doing them with, and you don't know who's gonna be on them. And so you will quickly become friendly with everyone, because everyone's in the same boat, and you want to make friends and you want to have, like, a good experience, but, you know, it's like whiplash. But we actually got to know each other throughout, like, the year, very casually, but, like, it was very fun. So when we came back, it was like a little family reunion. And so the experience became Even greater, because now you're doing it with people that you're friends with. And I appreciate that you think that I was robbed. I do love that. I love when people think that I should win. Right? I love that because, you know, I do love winning. But who did win? Corinne Olympios. Who was on the Bachelor? Who we actually share the same birthday. 11. 11. Remember that market in your Google Cals? And so we had a great time. And you can't taste what everybody's making. But I did taste her dessert. And God damn it, it was good. It was quite good. But I had, like, I had so much fun. And I actually became really good friends with Wes Bergman. Right. And he's from the challenge. And so he's, you know, he's not like an Olympian, but he's absolutely an athlete. Because the people on the challenge are absolutely just as fucked up as anybody I've ever met to do the crazy things they have to do on there. And so we got to talking a lot, and Wes actually inspired me to do something that I've been working on since. And so, as I mentioned, maybe this is the fifth time I'm in entertainment. I wink. There's a flash of sparkle in my eye. My teeth are glistening. In entertainment. So we were talking about, like, what it's like, because it can be really up and down, and sometimes you'll be working on something and it's like, okay, you don't have a moment's rest for two weeks straight. You're working 14 days in a row, and you're working like 12, 14, 15 hour days. Like, it's really long and it's every day. And then all of a sudden it's like, oh, you're not gonna do anything for like two months. And as somebody who was like an Olympic athlete, even though I was like an adult, and I felt like I could do whatever the I wanted because I was like, I'm a rebel. Well, being a rebel when you're an Olympic level athlete is like, yeah, I'll have a glass of wine once every three months. Right. That's like not actually being a rebel. And the other thing is that, like, you know, your calendar for the next few years, if you really wanted to plan it out like that, because, you know the dates of, like, when the major competitions are going to be and you know when you can take time off and, you know, I mean, you just know everything. And in entertainment, things like pop up. And so it's like you have nothing going on. Then all of a sudden it's like, hey, are you free tomorrow? And you're like, I guess, yeah. And then you're busy. And that is so disorienting. I've. That's the thing that I've actually struggled with the most in this, like, new lifestyle of I am Michigan. J. Frog. Hello, my darling. In entertainment, that the inconsistency in the schedule, and sometimes you're really busy, and sometimes you're really not doing anything. And so I'm saying this because when I was talking to Wes, he was like, I think, like, athlete to athlete, you'll totally understand what I'm saying. He's like, you should start a business. And, yeah, I didn't really know, like, what he meant or what he was talking about, but I like, okay. Start a business. Okay, like what? I'm gonna sell knickknacks at the Viewmont Mall. Viewmont Mall is my hometown mall in Scranton, Pennsylvania. There's a big market for knickknacks there. So I'm us actually being a little bit serious. This could be a lucrative business there. So what am I gonna do? Sell knickknacks at the Viewmont Mall, the smaller mall, the big mall is actually in Scranton, the Steamtown Mall. As you know, I was being realistic, even if I was joking. Start small. And he was like, no, you should start something that you're, like, passionate about and something that, like, will be consistent, that you'll, like, always have something going on. And then when you do the entertainment stuff, it feeds into it. And also, you know, you get excited for it in a way that you're not, like, stressed out about it, because that's a real thing where you can really get stressed out about, like, okay, what's the next thing? I hope I get hired for something. Or, like, maybe I'll do an audition and I'll be on this show. So there's just so much unknown. And obviously, if you have a business, there is a consistency in that of, like, that's an ongoing thing every day. And so I started to think about, like, what's something that I like that would be a good business? Because I was also, at this time, starting to watch, like, the Kardashians on Hulu. And this is not an ad I'm just sort of dropping. I'm trying to give you a place in time of where I am. And if you like the Kardashians, where you can watch them again, they're not paying me a dime, but I'm watching them. Okay. I'll be honest. And the One thing about them is that you might think that they're famous for nothing, but they all, thanks to their mother, have giant empires and companies. Like, they all have businesses, right? Because everything can be inconsistent. But they have businesses. That's the key. And so I was watching that and thinking about that. I'm like, that is true. Like, even when Kendall Jenner is like, I don't want to model anymore, well, she can just then go to, like, her Tequila headquarters and just focus on the Tequila brand. Or if Kylie's like, I just never want to be, like, out in public again. Okay, she has Kylie cosmetics, right? And Kim has skims. And they all have something good, American Lemmy. Like, they all have some sort of, like, major brand or, like, business. So they always have something going on. And I'm like, okay, what could mine be? Because I also am like, listen, I like skin care, and I like stuff like that. But I'm like, really? Do I really think that I can, like, invent the new cream? No. I'm not a chemist, and there's so many creams out there. Like, come on. Get real. I. I kind of hate when people are like, I invented this because it was missing in the market. No, it wasn't. It was not. You know, Larage Posay was just, like, looking for a hand to put their new bottle into, and it was yours. This is not directed at anyone. This is hypothetical. And so I'm like, I don't know if it. I want it to be something like, I don't. I don't want. I don't know. Right? Like, I'm not gonna design T shirt. I'm not a designer. Like, I was trying to think of something, and then I. And this will actually tie into me getting clear and brilliant. I was visiting one of my friends who she had become my friend because she was, like, the nurse that I was going to to get. Get some of the, you know, procedures done. I say procedures. Like, I was, like, getting a kidney removed. All I mean is clear and brilliant. Okay? I have all my kidneys, if anybody's asking. So she was who I was going to. And she was working at, like, a Kind of like, a chain medical spa. And she messed. And she mentioned to me, hey, I'm thinking of leaving and maybe starting my own thing. And I was like, oh, my God. Well, if you start your own thing, let me know. I'm following you. Like, I love seeing you. I think that you're fantastic. Like, I want to follow you. And so she was telling me that, like, you Know if she wants to do that, there's some things that she needs to do first. Like, as. As a nurse, she needs to find a medical director to, like, head her own practice, her own medical spa. And there's a few other things she was talking about. And when she said, like, find a doctor, I was like, well, I have friends that, like, are a doctor. Like, I have a good friend of mine who's a doctor. Like, let me ask. Like, let me just see. And she was like, that would actually be amazing. And so I said, let me talk to my friend. And then I went away on this trip, and that's. I talked to Wes about, like, the business, and when I got back, I would talk to my husband, who, like, I think maybe I've mentioned it before, that we're like a big Shark Tank family. We love watching Shark Tank. Listen, my dream sharks. Lori and Mark together, right? I was talking about Bath and Body Works earlier, but Bed, Bath and Beyond, that used to be Lori Greiner's bread and butter. She would sell anything at a Bed, Bath and Beyond. Right? Back to me, Back to me. And so I was thinking, hey, what do you think if I ask my friend if maybe she'd want to start a medical spa together? Because, listen, I love going to the medical spa, but, like, you know, I'm like, this could be different. This could be much nicer. And so I have, like, an idea of, like, I think that I could make a better experience, right? Because when you go anywhere, it's. You're getting the same things. Like, for the most part, nobody's gonna have, like, I have gold. You inject into your ass, and you're just gonna look better. Like, nobody has that, right? Like, everybody's basically doing the same things. And then aside from that, it's like, whomever you're getting it from, like, the training that they can bring and the experience they have, right? But for the most part, it's like, it's generally the same things and services done by different people. And I'm like, I just feel like the whole service part of it could be different. And I have, like, an idea of, like, what maybe that could be. But let me talk to my friend, and if she doesn't want to do it, I'm not going to pressure her, but. And I'll give her the contact of my doctor friend. So I mention it to her, and I'm like, listen, like, if it's not something you want to do, then, like, let's. Then don't even worry about it. I'll give you the contact and I'm going to go wherever you go. Just an idea. And she was like, oh, I want to do it. I'm in. And so I said, all right, I'm in. Let's open a fucking medical spa, right? Because I know I want first in line. Anything new that comes out and I want to have immediate access to it. Obviously, that's what I love, aside from thinking that I can bring a better customer experience, right? And so I'll tell you, and I know this started with Worst Cooks, but it's going into now business advice, because we can do anything we want on this podcast, right? It's intrusive thoughts. It's not complete thoughts, right? If you wanted complete thoughts, go listen to Mel Robbins, right? She'll give you complete, good thoughts, good advice, really good advice. I'll give you good advice, too. But it's going to come at the cost of you probably wasting 10 or 15 minutes of me going on a tangent about my lamp burger, which the scent is, as I say that, getting stronger and stronger. If I pass out, at least it's being record. Know what happened? You won't be left in the dark. So I've learned a lot about being in a business. And when I say being in a business, I mean starting one, because I'm still in the startup process because it takes so long. It's so not easy. And I'm going to say something, and I think that this will be something that I end up talking about a lot on the podcast because it's going to become more like in my life, because right now I'm in. I'm at a part where it's like I'm just still waiting on different people to give me different answers and to get, you know, different things together. I'm still trying to find a space. I know lingo about commercial real estate now, and I'm going to teach it all to you on. And we're actually going to rebrand again. This is going to be intrusive thoughts in commercial real estate. It won't be. I promise. I promise we'll get back to the talking about entertainment. I promise we'll get back to the root and the base of what we're talking about. But I really have, like, learned a lot. And, you know, I want to do one more voicemail so it just doesn't become about the. About like the this. Because it was never supposed to be. It was never supposed to be like this. I start crying. I'm so sorry. What I'M saying is this. And what I'll say about the medical spa is as follows, is that, you know, I don't have a background in medicine, so I can't be the outright owner of the business. I actually can't own any part of it that involves, like, the procedures. So how it works is that we find a medical director, because my friend, like I said, she's. She's a nurse, but if you're an np, she's also going to go back to school to eventually become an np. But if you're an np, you can start your own practice without a doctor. But if you don't have your np, which is a nurse practitioner, you need a medical director because they're the ones who will have access to you getting the Botox and filler and the access to buying the equipment and the machines and everything, because they're. It's. It's all medical, Right? Like. Like I said, procedures not dealing with removing the kidneys, but you're removing a few layers of epidermis from the skin. Right? Both important. Both very important. And so what happens is that your medical director and the nurse will get into a 51, 49% partnership where the medical director, your doctor, owns 51% of the medical corporation, and I've started my own corporation and that will manage the medical spa. So eventually, once we find a spot and everything, I'll be in charge of, like, leasing the property, and I'll own the name of the practice, and I'll own different, like, parts of the business. And then we get into a partnership together of, like, the three of us work on this all together. And so, like, that's how that works. Because maybe you're wondering, like, but you're not a doctor. What if I was like, stethoscope, I pull it out, I'm like, really? Okay, Bend over like you're getting into a pool, and I'm gonna give you a shot right up the fucking ass. But I'm not gonna do that. I'm not a doctor. And, you know, the next thing I'll say is, like, there's. When you're starting these things, it's like you have to talk about branding. And what do you want that to look like in the commercial real estate part? The. The legal stuff is, like, one thing, right? Like, you know, I had no idea about that. I knew I wasn't. But, like, trying to find a space and like, to get things permitted and, like, it's. It's really crazy. So in my process, I've, like, Made it through everything. Like, I've almost leased out a place and then it, like, falls through at the, at the very end. Because then you learn it's going to take a year to get plumbing permits. Right. Like, it's not as quick because I thought it's the year 2025. I thought that this would be maybe open and I thought that I was being quite realistic if it would be open in, like, December of 2024. Whoops. I was wrong. I was wrong about that. So it's taking longer than I would like or wanted. But, you know, I'm trying to take my time but also move, like, aggressively. But when you know, you're trying to find a specific sized space and you have to keep in mind, like, the permits could take a while where it's like, it just, it's not easy. We'll talk more about it later. I don't want to chew your ear off. I want to do one more because like I said, you guys call in and then I just go on and on and on and on. But you know what? At the end of the day, it is. Intrusive Thoughts by Adam Rippon. And I am here alone, huffing the fumes of the alcohol coming out of the lamb brige. Please leave your message after the tone.

Brooke (48:30)

Hi, Adam. I hope you're well. I have a bit of a sticky situation on my hands where a friend of mine who I'm kind of close to is going to move in with me soon along with three other people. And we all know each other fairly well, but she has continuously proven to be very unreliable when it comes to timely tasks. And it was getting to the point where I was having second thoughts about her moving in at all. But then she signed the papers suddenly anyway, even though she had told us earlier in the day that she was dropping out and it was just a whole mess. But anyway, she has now signed the paper, so I can't really kick her out. But I was wondering if you had any advice on how to navigate this next conversation and that she can't keep being wishy washy if she wants to be a good roommate. To be fair, she was going through something and it was kind of a lot, but it wasn't something that suddenly came up and she had been dealing with it for a while and this caused her to cross the line in the end and it caused everyone to be very stressed. Do you have any advice on how to navigate this conversation? Would love some advice from an Emmy winner. Would love that perspective. Thanks so much. And I Hope you have a wonderful day. Bye. Bye.

Adam Rippon (49:52)

Bye. Bye. You know, I never thought the Emmy would kind of come into play, but I do love how you threw it in there. Any winner? It's. It's paying off because now we're getting questions. And of course, my Emmy was about how do you deal with a wishy washy roommate? And I did win the Emmy in that category. All right, let's circle back. What if I'm like. And we'll talk about this later. Good night, everyone. No, I'm gonna be honest with you. Let's. Let's go back to the beginning. Not even the beginning. Let's just go back to the voicemail. I don't remember what you said in the beginning. No offense. What if I'm like, no charisma. I'm sorry. Back to you. So this new roommate of yours you said is a good friend, and I know you're giving them the benefit of the doubt, it seems, because they were going through something that was, like, difficult at the time, but it was stressing you. And from what I'm assuming, there's some other people in this, like, roommate situation where it's not you and another person, it's you and, like, multiple people, and you thought that this friend was going to drop out because they were being so, like, flippant, and you didn't know if they were going to commit to this roommate situation, and so you were almost prepared for them not to, but then at the last minute, they signed the papers and, like, they're in. I think that's where we are. So I think the most important thing of you want to know how to, like, approach this conversation and if this person is a good friend and even if they're not, like, a good friend. Right. I think you need to be. I think you have to be quite direct, and you can be direct in a way that's, like, not mean and not confrontational. I think you can be direct, especially if this is, like, a friend of yours, direct in a way that you don't want them to be stressed out either. Right. Because if. When people are stressed out, like, it's not good for anybody. So you can be direct in a way of, like, hey, listen, I know you might have a lot going on, so let me just talk about the things that I think everybody in this roommate situation is going to need from you so that this doesn't become another one of those things that you have going on that you need to deal with. So I think that could be a really important way, like, Kind of like a savvy way of getting into it. So I think it can be really bad when you have like a wishy washy or like a roommate that you don't want, like, in the house with you. Because I remember I've had one roommate ever where I was like, no, this isn't going to work out between us. And I remember a situation where usually if they were just like, leaving things in the kitchen, I was always just like picking it up, cleaning it and putting it away. Because I don't want to live in a dirty place, right? Like, I'll just clean it up if they're not going to clean it up. And I think it got to a point where it was just like, I was the maid, right? And I was like, I'm not doing this anymore. So they had made soup, okay, From a can. So it's not like everything's all over the place, but they obviously want it to feel homemade. So instead of warming it up in the microwave, they're gonna warm it up on the stove, okay? That's what they're doing. They warm up their soup on the stove and they heat it up and then they put it in a bowl and they. They eat their soup. And usually this is where I'm gonna come in and, you know, put the soup in a container and put it in the fridge, right? Like, do something with the pot of soup from a can on the stove, okay? But I had been pushed absolutely to my limit, right? To my absolute limit. And I went, I'm gonna leave that pot of soup. And I'll say this, that I do agree that even if it's from a can, soup from the stove is better than soup from the microwave. There's just something about the fire hitting that pot makes it feel like grandma made it, right? Even if the Campbell Soup Company did, right? Even if Hardy Boy did. I don't even know if they make that anymore. Progreso naming soups. So I. I understand why they had to go that route, but so I'm going. I've been pushed to my absolute limit. I'm not touching this. And I'm gonna wait for them to clean it up. One day goes by. Not one night, one day, 24 hours, that soup is still sitting on the stove. Uncover, like completely uncovered, like out and about. Day two. Yeah. 48 hours, nothing. 72 hours go by. That's three full days, nothing. And I'm going, I'm not touching it. I refuse. I refuse to touch this pot of soup. And it's four Days go by. Nothing. On the fifth day, I look at my roommate and I'm about to murder them. And I say, what are you going to do with this soup that's on the stove? Like, it's been here for five days. And I gotta hand it to them, because they quickly came up with a response that I had nothing to say to. And they said, oh, I thought you might want some. And that's when I knew, oh, okay, you're a clever one. Because what do you say to that when they are so lazy that they came all the way back around to go, I just thought you wanted some of this soup that, let me remind you, had been on the soap for five days, molded over. It was, I think, within hours of being able to crawl out of the pot and walk itself out of the apartment. It was hairy at that point. Five days just sitting on the stove. I thought you wanted some. And I went, no, no, you can't. I. You can't level with this person. Right? Yeah. So I did live with them for probably another year. My fault. I mean, what was I gonna. I was like. I was 19 years old. What was I gonna do? There was nothing I could do. But something I wish I did was just be a little bit more assertive and what I was expecting, because I think that sometimes there's some miscommunication and it goes into, like, what are the expectations of everyone? Because maybe he. This, like, roommate. I had just thought I was, like, comfortable and enjoyed cleaning up the kitchen, maybe, who knows? But I never. And this is kind of my fault, right? Like, I never. And you'd think it's common sense, though, right? You. You actually just heard, like, the angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other of, like, giving them the benefit of the doubt and then the other one of, like, I'm about to call 91 1. You heard that in real time. But, you know, in their defense, I never was outright and was like, after you use the kitchen, I want you to clean up your mess. I don't enjoy cleaning up your mess. Sometimes you gotta spell it out for people, right? Sometimes you have to spell it out. And so I think when you approach your friend, you should come to them and be like, hey, I know you have a lot going on. And I want everybody to stay like, friends. And I want this to be a really positive, like, living situation for everyone. And for us to do that, I want us all to be on the same page. We need to pay the rent. By this day, if you're having trouble paying the rent. You've got to be upfront right away. You've got to be upfront right away. We've got to figure that out. And these are the expectations that everybody has so that nobody's stressed out, because maybe you're not stressed out because, like, you know you're going to sign the papers at the last minute, or, you know, you're going to pay the rent at the last minute, but it stresses everyone else out who wants to do that ahead of time. So maybe you need to find a way to be like, okay, how do we make this work for everyone? And we want to have, like, clean, clear, open communication. Nobody's feelings are hurt. We just got to be honest of, like, what are you expecting? And what is going to make everybody feel good in this situation? Because if this friend really did have, like, a lot going on, maybe they felt like, oh, I forgot, at the last minute, sign the paperwork. And it stressed everyone out, right? But they always knew that they were gonna sign it. But if maybe that friend didn't know that it was stressing you guys out, maybe, like, they always knew, but maybe you could have gone to them and said, hey, can you sign this today? Everybody's stressed out, and they don't think that you're gonna sign it. Now, on the flip side of that, if your friend is like, oh, no, I'll get to it, and they're, like, flippant, and, like, they're not following up, and they, like, cannot provide anybody any sort of solace, and everybody's stressed out all the time. You're gonna have to have a conversation of where they. Christina, get the ax. I don't know if that's the quote. They gotta get out of there, right? But if you start out this roommate situation by being honest and just, like, brutally honest of, like, this is what we're expecting. This is what's gonna, like, be great going forward. This is what's gonna make everyone feel good. If you start out that way, having those tough conversations, I'm telling you, will be easier because you've already, like, presented of how are you gonna deal with this situation. But if you're like, no, it's okay. Like, oh, sorry, it's okay. It's gonna be harder and harder and worse and worse to have that really tough conversation of, like, okay, we have to sit down and talk about this. But if you go into it and you're like, this is just my style of, like, dealing with everything, whatever. It just. It is what it is, and your friend will, like, know that you can, like, dictate the mood of that, right? So I think you just gotta, like, not even worry about it. Don't be stressed out. It's not a big deal to you. It's what's gonna help everybody. It's in the best interest of everybody, you know, so it's like you're not reprimanding them, you're not telling them what to do. You're telling them how to succeed in this roommate situation, right? You're telling them how to have, like, the best experience of all of us all being roommates. So you're helping them. You're, like, giving them the cheat code of, like, why is roommate 2 and 3, why are they mad at me? I have no idea. I'm doing everything right. Well, they don't know what roommate two and three are expecting. And roommate two and three could be, like, pissed off that, like, at 11pm they're like, putting the music on, but they think everybody's awake, right? Like, sometimes you gotta spell it out for people and it can feel, like, redundant and it can feel like annoying. But people can't read your mind. And that's. I've. You know, we all learn it the hard way because we expect somebody to do something for us or whatever, but people can't read your mind. And the best way to get what you want is to just ask. You gotta ask, even if it's a little uncomfortable. But like I said, you dictate how uncomfortable it is. You don't. If you're not uncomfortable about it, they're not going to be uncomfortable about it either. So that's. That's my advice. And like you said, bye. Bye. And I do think that that is a beautiful way to end this episode of Intrusive Thoughts. And like I mentioned before, if you have a question or anything that you'd like to ask me on the podcast, I'm an open book and I'm a big mouth, a blabber mouth. I'll go on for literally hours, right? I have no shame. I don't care. I like helping people. I like winning things. I like lamp burgers, you know, and I like clear and brilliant. I'm a business guy. You know me. Hello, my darling. The suspenders. I'm pulling them. They get out the cane. 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