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Applying for no ding declines won't hurt your credit scores if you aren't initially approved. 2025 Experian Experian Foreign hello everyone, and welcome back to Intrusive Thoughts. This is the podcast where I, your host, Adam Rippon, talk about all of my intrusive thoughts. Welcome back. I want to prepare you because I do think that this episode is going to be complete and utter chaos. I know I am acting when I say that phrase in that sentence, I'm acting like all the episodes aren't just completely chaotic, right? I'm acting like they have a rhyme or reason ever, but this one in particular. And I'm going to explain why. I'm going to explain myself. I feel like I have to. So I will say this. This past week, I've been very busy. And that's the episode. Everyone, thank you so much for. For tuning in. No, okay, I've been busy because I have two things that are going on that are like, big one, the medical spa. Okay, so if you're a new listener, I'm opening up a medical spa and I'm trying to collect all of these things that I need. And when I say collect these things that I need, I. I know I do make it sound like I'm talking about, like, tokens or like treasure. But what I mean is, like, furniture. And those are those things that I need. And so I this week had a ton of furniture finally arrive, which is really great news. You know, I needed it. You know, like, as I said, I'm trying to collect a few little things back. By that, I mean, you know, like a giant treatment bed or a giant treatment chair. So those are the things I've been trying to collect. The other thing is that as a new business owner whose business is not open, I've been. You know, I will do anything to kind of save a buck or two here or there. Okay. It's like the good old Pennsylvania boy in me that no matter what, I'll always try to save a buck or two. And saving that buck or two, I mentioned that I've been painting the whole space. I finally finished painting all of the walls. I do have to tell you, nobody warns you that when you're painting, like, so many walls, how much paint, how much time, how much effort it takes. So I have to say, when I always thought was, like, this is what I was gonna say. I always thought when somebody would come and they'd, like, look at a space and they'd give you a quote. Right, Right. When I say somebody would come, I mean a painting professional. Okay? I'm filling in the blanks as we go. So when a painting professional would come to your place or space and they'd give you a quote, and it's like, a few thousand dollars, I always was like, come on, that's crazy. Now I get it. I get it. It is a heavy lift to paint anything, so, you know, bravo to the painting professionals. I've got to take my hat off, too, because something that I thought I would get done. Something I thought I would get done in an afternoon. All right. I thought that I was gonna get this whole thing painted, done, and dry in an afternoon. Took me. Oh, I don't even want to think about the amount of hours. Let's just go kind of by day. It took me at least two weeks to finish up. Okay. And every time I would go there, I would be there for, like, anywhere between, like, eight to 12 hours. Okay. I'm raising my eyebrows. I think you could feel that tension in my face as I said that. So, yeah, it was not easy. But there is a part of me that I love that I did the labor. And you might be thinking, like, why didn't you ask anyone for help? I didn't want to. Okay. I. I know I could have asked people for help. I could have asked my. So I'm opening this business with my friend Tamar. Tamar is a nurse, so she will be doing, like, all the injection. All the injections and. And treatments and things like that. So, yes, I obviously could have asked Tamar to help or my husband. Right. Like, I could have asked anybody. And they all said, please tell me when you're going so that we can help. But I really wanted to show some, like, good faith and I wanted to go, no, you guys rest. You guys get it together. I got this. So I, I took it on and it's my fault. And, you know, did both, both of them get annoyed with me that I did that? Yeah, of course they did. It's annoying. But I kind of love that I can say, oh, I painted the whole thing and I did a good job. I'll say that. I really will say that. I did a really damn good job. Moving on. Nobody cares. Maybe people care. Actually, hopefully everybody cares. So other than that, the other bigger thing that I've been getting ready for is I am trying to get my stuff together because I'm going to be leaving for New York because I am going to a Team USA media summit to basically be there, right? There's kind of no other way to frame that sentence. I'm going to the Team USA media summit in New York. And the reason that we're having this is that it's a hundred days out for, from the Olympics in Milan. And so there's athletes from all different sports coming. And the day that I'm going to be there, some of the figure skaters are going to be there, which will be great. You know, you know me, maybe you don't know me, but if you do know me, I, former figure skater, do love it out there on that cold, freezing ice. I'm not bringing my skates, you know, not nothing to do with that. It's just some, like, media stuff. And I am going there with the big conglomerate company of YouTube. So I'll be making some YouTube. And that's the end of the show. I think. I think I should kind of call it. No, I. So I've been trying to plan everything of, like, how I'm going to collect all of this, like, content that I'm trying to get. And I actually have to be totally honest with you, hate the word collect content, because I do not put a space in between that. It is collect content. One run through word, right? And so I'm just trying to come up with a plan now. This is something that I've decided that I'm not gonna do on my own. I've like, hired a camera woman with me who does specialize in creating content. And maybe this will come as a shock, maybe not. But I've never had anyone help me edit any videos I've ever posted. Uh, or it's always been like, a friend of mine who's like, filmed anything that I've ever posted that. Like, it looks like I'm not filming. So this is the first time that I'm like, it's kind of professional. Right? Well. Well, we'll see. You know, I'm still involved, so there's a minimal professionalism. Actually, you know what? I. I'm gonna say something that I. Something I discovered about myself recently, and I discovered this about myself because I have a friend. And. And also, before I continue, that's kind of the end of that story. I' a lot of prep. I'm trying to get ready for this Team USA media summit. Like, there's so many athletes that I'm trying to learn, and I'm trying to figure out my schedule of how everything's going to go, because we only get, like, small amounts of time with each athlete. I think it's like, three minutes. So I'm trying to figure out a way of making everything, like, align and work together. Okay, whatever. The end of that story. Thank you so much. Next story. Now I have kind of learned something, actually. Should I. I should finish this. I was like, should we kind of, like, break it up with something else, like a text message or a voicemail? We will, but, like, now I'm gonna forget this if I don't share it kind of right now. And that is, I have found something out about myself. I think that's the fourth time I've tried to do that sentence for good measure. Found something out about myself, and it's because a friend of mine found out something about themselves, and they said, somebody called me type A and I can't believe that they would think I'm type A. And our other friend turned to them and said, immediately, you are type A. You're very type A. And this took my friend by surprise, because even if she is type A, she is very flexible, and she is very. Can go with the flow of things, but she's incredibly type A in the way that she will, like, plan things out and she'll organize things, which makes her, like, a really good person to work with because she's incredibly type A in this sense. But I think, like, when you think of somebody who's type A, it's somebody who's, like, rigid and stuck in their ways and just has no flexibility in what that plan is. And she's not like that. There are things where, you know, she's inflexible with how flexible I'm willing to be. Now this is what I'm getting to of what I found out about myself, because in a way I feel like I am, you know, I joke around. Oh, not professionalism, whatever. I'm very professional. Please and thank you. But there's parts of me that are incredibly type A, but at my core, I am someone who is type B. And what do I mean by that? Now, you know, when I get ready for a trip, especially if it's not like a personal trip, like, let's say if I'm going to visit like friends and stuff, I'll try to figure out some things, like on my own before I get there so that I am organized. But if it's like a work trip and I know a few things are being organized for me, I will kind of let go and I will let God kind of figure out the rest for me. And what do I mean by that? What I mean is this. I'm going to New York tomorrow. Usually I record this podcast in the middle of the week. Not this time, right? This is like the day before I'm leaving and I'm planning on recording while I'm there because I want like a different background. Like if you watch this podcast on YouTube or if you see like the clips on Instagram, I am in sort of. And I'm working on it. I promise you. I'm work. I'm like trying to figure out a solution because I love recording in my office, but currently I have like a dresser on my one side and an ironing board on the other. Not ideal. It's not right, but it is what it is. I'm trying to figure out some sort of like beautiful background situation. Can't have not sorted that out. I will, but it's like, basically what I'm trying to say is like the visuals that you might be seeing, they are visuals that are kind of under construction currently. So, you know, it is what it is. But now back to me being type B. Yeah, you might be kind of realizing it right now as I cannot keep one train of thought kind of going. But I will say something I got better at is that I do think that sometimes I finish the stories that I'm telling and I don't skip around. I do, but do you know what I'm saying? Like, I'll finish a story before I then skip around. So how did I find out that I was. Might be now and not how did I find out? That's not what I meant. Take it back. Rewind, edit. Here we go. This is what I was going to say that. Here's an example. I'm leaving for New York tomorrow. There we go. Found my way right back. I knew I would. I knew I would because this is a business trip. They did get a ticket for me and they have like the hotel and everything. They. I did not have to book my own hotel and get reimbursed. Like it's not, it's not like that, right? Like they're doing the accommodations for me because they are doing that. The only thing I know now get ready. The only thing I know is what time my flight is tomorrow. Okay. At this current moment in time, I'm assuming it's on Delta. Okay. I'm assuming. I don't know for a fact now. I'm also assuming that there will be a car for me at the airport. I don't really know that yet. Somebody did send me an email about it. I'm not sure. I didn't open it. All right. The next thing, I do not know the hotel I will be staying at. And I know that I was told, but I do not know that information. Gun to my head, it's lights out because I don't know that information. And I'm not worried in the slightest. I'm not stressed at all. I don't feel any sort of pressure to be encumbered. Is that a word? Fact check me. I don't feel any sort of pressure to be burdened. How about that? To be burdened with that information. I don't need to know it now. Why would I need to know it now? I'm assuming. Not good. To assume makes an ass out of you and me. I was about 34 years old when I figured out that when you're with that, that saying of assuming makes an ass out of you and me. I was about, like I said, 34 years old when I figured out. Oh, because there's like an ass and a you and a me in there regardless. Yes, I can be a bit typey now you want to. You might say that's not crazy for going on, on a work trip or whatever. Okay, well, let me one up you on this. And I feel actually completely prepared and organized. Like I actually feel more organized than usual for something of this because I have been doing some like prep for it and like organizing the questions I'm gonna ask and like how we're gonna film everything because we're trying to get a some, you know, video footage from all different parts. And like I said, we get that three minutes with the athletes where we've been told it's sort of like a red carpet esque looking kind of situation. So it's like one after another after another after another. So I'm trying to organize that. And because I've done that, I feel, oh, my God, I'm on top of the world. I know everything. I'm so organized, and I'm organized. I'm very type A in, like, this kind of situation of organizing, like, what I'll do when I'll be there now to kind of go on to the type B. Where is the event? I don't know. New York City. I know that. And even if they said it's actually New Jersey, I wouldn't be shocked. I wouldn't be surprised. It's in Connecticut. You're flying into New York. There's a lot of things I'm gonna find out tomorrow on the go. Right? So as somebody who I. I kind of always thought, like, oh, I'm pretty type A, but I'm really easygoing. And then when I said that to my friends, they turned to me, and with the same shock and horror my friend had when she found out she was type A I had when they said, no, you're very type B. You have type A tendencies, but you're incredibly type B. And so that's what I found out about myself. And I just want you to know that I really did in my heart believe that I was kind of type A. I knew I wasn't, though. Like, I just. I knew it wasn't. I knew that wasn't the life for me. It was the life for ye. Who knows? Like, if they were flying tomorrow, what airline? Like, again, I actually could check right now, and we're going to find out together, and we're going to become more type A together. I have the email right here. See, like, I have the email in front of me. Okay, so, like, I'm taking you through it. Delta Air, time to check in. I knew it. And was I right about the time? It's an early one, ladies and gentlemen, and I was correct. It is an early one. 6am on the dot. Yeah. So that's gonna be. That's gonna be an early morning. Early morning for me. But that is how I do know that I am type B. And. And I learned that about myself. The other thing I learned about myself is that we are going to answer a few voicemails and a few text messages. And I'm prepared. I hope you are. I can't wait to share these with you. Should we do. Let's do a voicemail first? We've actually. I have to say something. We've gotten so many voicemails And I am the one I single. I want you to know this is like a one man band and one we love podcast. One we love podcast. One we love podcast. We do because they have taken over like the editing and all of that. So like all the clips they put together because again, type A tendencies, type B lifestyle. Okay. I without them would absolutely be like, sorry, guys, this podcast is not happening today. But I. Could they make it happen? They absolutely do make it happen. Why did I say that? I don't really kind of remember. Oh, I know why. Ah, it kind of came to me in a vision and that is that we've gotten a lot of voicemails. Oh, I know what I was saying again. I told you. Chaos. Utter chaos. It is happening. The demise. I am the one who goes through the text messages and the voicemails and I just have to say one, thank you so much. I love that we've now started to get a lot of people calling in and writing text messages and it feels like we're in like a good flow state. That being said, I have only gone through a few of the voicemail. Keep sending them, right. Because I am kind of spending one whole day. I'm dedicating it next week to going through all of the voicemails to like organize them to make sure that like they're in the ether. Okay. So as I'm saying this and as I'm like putting this out into the ether, as, as I as forementioned, it would be a great time for you to send a voicemail, call in, leave a voicemail, because I'm going to be going through them. I have avoided them a little bit because I haven't had time. Okay, my bad. And I'm gonna make it my good very soon. So I have a lot of voicemails to just kind of comb through, but I've combed through a few and I feel like we've avoided them for too long. Okay, we have to. We just have to dig right in. And here we go. Please leave your message after the tone. Hi, Adam or Pon. I am a huge fan of you. I'm from B.C. canada. My name is Casey and I just wanted to call in for a little bit of advice. I just recently moved to a place of my own with no roommates. I was wondering, what's your advice on how to soak it up? Do I walk around naked and just breathe in fresh air? Thanks so much and I look forward to your answer. Casey, great to hear from you from British Columbia. I do Want to say a huge congratulations for you acquiring your very first solo living situation. I don't know. I was gonna say something totally different, and then, like, something took over my whole body when I said what I just said. Solo living situation. I've never heard it referenced that way. And you'll never hear it referenced that way ever again, because I don't know where that came from. Living alone, you're about to embark on one of life's greatest privileges and journeys. I. I don't even know where to begin with this now. 1. I'm gonna say there's, like, there's beauty in having roommates and having a roommate situation. There is total beauty in that, especially if you have good roommates. I think I've talked about some roommate situations, like here on the podcast before, but. And, you know, it's really. Sometimes it's hard for me to remember what I've said on here. Kind of in one ear, out the other of my own voice. Right? That's scary. But you're about to embark on a journey that is incredible because you're about to lay the ground rules for your own living situation. Right? Do the dishes go in the sink, or do they go right into the dishwasher? Right? What day do we do the laundry? Any day we fucking want. Do we have to clean up the living room before we go to bed? Do we clean it in the morning? These are all rules and regulations that you will be implementing in your own living situation. Now, I don't know your romantic life or anything, but I would imagine that living alone is a great opportunity for if you're dating, right? You can bring somebody back to the apartment who gives a care. Who gives a care, Right? You can do pretty much whatever you want. Friends can come over anytime they want. Lovers. My voice cracks. Good night. Yeah. So you can really do anything you want. So I listen. I think that for your own sanity, just to say that you've done it should absolutely do the naked run around your space. You should do that. Everybody has done it, and you deserve that sort of liberation, and so I think that you should do that. Is that something that I would be doing every day? No. No, it wouldn't be. But I would do it once to be like, I've done it or like I've done that, which is important. It is. It's just. It is important in its own way. I'm yawning, not because of anything aside from I'm losing my mind. Okay. Casey from British Columbia, I do think that if I were you, this is what I think that you should do. I think that you should call some of your good friends also. Wait, what's the, like, furniture situation? Do we have tables? Do we have chairs? Do we have couch? Do we have tv? Or is it not like that situation? Is this a one bedroom? Is it a studio that. That will kind of change maybe. The answer that I have for you. But what I would do if I were you is I'd sort of like break the seal on having people over, and I would invite people over for like a dinner that you're gonna make or, like, order in or whatever. But I would get people into that space too. Because I think as soon as you have, like, people over and you, like, host something there, that's when I feel like the space yours. And I think when you get your friends in there, they're also going to help you figure out, like, what more do I need here? Or is this good or whatever. Do you know what I'm saying? And if you want, you can do that whole thing in the nude. God bless you. I, you know, maybe the rules are different. Not that there's rules against that. Do you just, like. I'm just, you know, I'm just saying I want you to live your life to the fullest. This is a bad answer. And I know I'm giving you a bad answer. Basically, listen, have a dinner party, make dinner for your friends, or. Listen, I don't know if we're balling on a budget. If you're balling on a budget, tell everybody to make something and bring it over, right? Or do you have Trader Joe's in Canada? I don't know. You can go to a let. What's in it? What's in. Oh, you can go to a no frills. Do you have a no frills in British Columbia? I used to live in Ontario, by the way. I'm bragging. And I. When I lived in Ontario, listen, I know the deal in Canada you get. You have to have a plastic jug because the milk comes in a bag, right? I know that. And I know. I'm trying to think of the grocery stores I would go to. I used to go to it in no frills, which it is what it is, you know, it's no frills. It's like they open the box of tomatoes and they just put it on a table. There's no frills, which I think is like a stupid name. Insane, but it is exactly what it is. No frills. Open that box, slap it on the tomatoes are just there. If you want them, you come and get them. No frills. And then there was another store that I would go to, a lob laws and little known fact about a Loblaws that I love is that the man who created the Loblaws grocery store empire. Is that too extreme to say? Regardless, his name was Bob. Okay, Robert, if we're being professional, but Bob Loblaw. Bob Loblaw. It gets me every time. So listen, if you run into blah, blah, blah, please tell him I say hi. But yeah, this is what I think. Dinner party. And you got to do the naked rotation, right? That's. And that. And when I say the naked rotation, I mean you walk in your space naked. All right, there we go. Congratulations on your place, Kasey. We love you. And by we, I mean me. Turn that W upside down and turn that into an m Me. When I say we, I don't know why. Now, this is Kasey. We're done with your question. But I don't know why when I'm like speaking on this podcast that I always go into saying we, I think that's sort of like my type A popping out and showing up. Because it does feel like we would it. That feels like we are a podcast. Enterprise. International enterprise. And when I say international, I do mean it because we get callers and text messages from around the globe. And you might be thinking like, oh, you know, from Canada. I mean, no, I mean like, truly eat shit if you thought that. Okay, Our first text message of the day so far. I feel like this podcast is like, going somewhere maybe. Oh, actually, wait. Did I mention that my sister in law from Finland was in town? I didn't. Oh, yeah, I was trying to, like, break it up. I'm saying in quotes. Breaking up the show. Yeah, she came. So she was in town for work in San Francisco and she flew down and she was here. That's kind of the end of that, huh? Yeah, but it was great because when somebody comes here, it like forces me and JP to like, do stuff because we took her out to this Korean barbecue place that's like near where we live, and we were talking about like, oh, yeah, like we went out on a date there once and it was probably the last date we ever, like, went on. And it was like months and months ago. And we were like, why don't we ever, like, why don't we go on dates more? And again, like, not talking about my sister in law at all kind of bring. Bringing it all, like right back to me. And the reason that we don't is. Listen, we like watching our shows on tv, and we like when the dogs are around, right? If you have dogs, you get it, and if you don't, you do get a lot more freedom than if you have dogs. I didn't get it. As somebody who'd never had dogs before, I just didn't know. Right. I didn't know that they do nothing all day, but when they do something, it's a lot of something. And if you have dogs, you'll know exactly what I mean. Where it's like, it goes from zero to a hundred and then back down to zero and then to a hundred and then down to zero. And that's the day, Right? Like, they can be left alone for a long time. They're gonna sleep, right? They're gonna sleep whether you're there or not. But when they're not sleeping, they aren't. They really aren't. And that's my kind of short and tidy and neat monologue about dogs. Now let's get to text message as. Okay, I don't have glasses on, and I have the computer a little further away, which also, I don't know why I did, because when I'm looking at, like, the background, it's a lot worse. JP Will sometimes ask me, like, why is the background so bad? And I just. I just. I'm gonna tell you why I have to film it this way. Oh, also another thing. I dyed my own eyebrows, which I usually do the other day. So if you are watching this, you'll know that. You'll see that, oh, they're a bit, like, fierce. And if you're listening to this, you probably caught on, because I think that is something that you can kind of hear in my voice. I think you can kind of hear that the eyebrows are darker. Right? You can hear that. I dyed my own eyelashes with eyelash dye. And I want to let everyone know I didn't get it all over the place. All over the place. I did get it on some of the place, but I cleaned it up. It was all good. Okay, text message. All right, let's go to this. Okay. Adam loved today's episode. Thank you. I just did my teeth routine, and I avoid the sensitivity pain by cutting the time short five to seven minutes. Find your sweet spot. Okay. Are you brushing your teeth for five to seven minutes twice a day? That's 15 minutes a day almost. Okay. Still sparkly white teeth with little less time, but can drink my iced coffee without wincing. Okay. I'm brushing my teeth. Because I have like one of those Sonicare toothbrushes that like, like, vibrates every time. You've done like a 30 second pass. So I know that I'm brushing my teeth twice a day. Two minutes, recommended by the dentist. Five to seven minutes. I have to soak that in for a second. Cutting it down. Cut the time down. Five to seven minutes. Cutting it down. Okay, wait, maybe I'm reading this wrong. I avoid the sensitivity pain by cutting the time short. No, I think, I think. Okay, all right, moving on. Also, please Google the Johnson and Johnson lawsuit. They settled their baby powder. Yes, I binged every episode. You have ended up causing ovarian cancer and other types of cancer whenever used. Most on body parts like armpits. Perhaps they've remade their formula. Now it's safer. I would just not want anything to ever happen to our wonderful Adam. Awesome. That's me, Adam. Okay, I'm gonna tell you something. Listen, if you're a brand new listener, here was the thing. I remember that once on this podcast or twice maybe, I've talked about like a shower routine and something that I was like implementing into my lifestyle. And one of those things was I was going to use like a baby powder under the armpits and in the butt crack kind of area to kind of help with wetness. Not dryness, but wetness. And I loved it. I really loved it. And it was like sort of a scent routine because I had fallen into like a tick tock area of the Internet where they were talking about like scent layering and scents and everything. So I became really into that. I do need to let you know, and maybe this is your first experience with me, but I need to let you know that I go through phases and I become really involved, heavily involved in something, and then just one day I forget to do it and I never, ever do it again. Okay. One of those things is, say with me, scent layering. Right? I think I did almost a full episode on it and how it was just the way that I was going to live my life. And then one day I woke up and I just said, I guess I'm gonna not. And I haven't done it since now. So no worries there. Right now, here's the thing. I have not googled the Johnson and Johnson lawsuit that they settled, that the text messaged listener text messaged listener, that the listener text messaged us. And I have not looked into it. And I. I'm going to, but I. This is what I think. I think that the. The formula that they were using had talc in it. And so now when you get baby powder, you need to look for a cornstarch formula. Okay. And so the. The baby powder that I was using. Now how do you make it scented? Right? Like, sometimes baby powder is baby powder scented, which I don't really know what scent that is. Okay. It's like fresh linen or something with flowers. Unclear, unclear, unclear. Don't know, don't know. Okay. Don't quote. Don't quote me. But what you do is, like, you would, like, saturate a cotton round with cologne and shove it in there and shake it up and somehow like that. Just like that, essence gets all throughout the baby powder. It's not. I do still have the baby. I'm gonna do it today. I know, I know. I'm like back on the train. Full blown cornstarch routine. So that's what I was talking about. And you put it into, like, the really sweaty crevice areas, and it's just like a slick. Nice. It's just, it's really good. I do have to tell you, it's quite nice. And yeah. So no worries, no worries here, because I did already look into that. I was using a cornstarch formula. I highly recommend. If you've never heard anybody doing that. Basically, it's just. It's. It works, is what I'm gonna say. The baby powder situation does work, and it kind of helps absorb the moisture in those, like, kind of creeks, cracks, crevices. Right. This is actually maybe some good advice for our caller, Casey. Right. If you're doing that nude walk around town, as I'm referring to your apartment, as around town, maybe slap on some baby powder. So it's just a nice. A nice and moisturized slick feeling right when you're getting that, as you said, fresh air, which is a. Is incredible. And you're incredible. You're so incredible. Everyone is incredible. Now we get. We have another text message. Like I said, I like, so chaotic. Should we do a voicemail? Let me see if I could quickly see if something that I organized. I don't think so. No, no, no, no, no. They're all over the, like, they are all over the place. Okay, so that is my fault. Text message it is. I'm giving two thumbs up and I am. Look, I can see myself in the camera. My eyebrows are pretty dark, and there's nothing you can't reverse it, is what I'm saying. Okay. No, I'm gonna do that later. I'm coming through them as we speak. All right. As we Speak as we speak. Okay, here we go. Adam, I'm going to tell you something I won't even tell my actual therapist, and I need you to bully it out of me. I am fully crashing out over an engaged man at work. I am a grown woman. This is so embarrassing. I need to get my shit together. Bully me, please. Clearly, I need it. Also, I'm struggling to hit send on this because I'm so convinced my phone is going to somehow send the text to him. Help. All right, you came to the right place. And, okay, from what you've told me, you've given me, let's say together, nothing to work with here, right? And I say that with a lot of love. I say that with a lot of love that you've given me nothing. Because to truly be a bully, I have to get under the skin and I have to hit a note, right? I don't know what note it is because you've kind of given me the sheet of music and it's blank, right? There's no notes, so I don't really know how to get there. But you've given me one inkling, one clue. You've given me two clues. As I'm reading it again, the first clue is a guy at work, okay? So he's somebody that you see consistently. And the second clue is you have his phone number. Now, I'm trying to piece it together before I really go in and I make you eat it. And this is what I'm piecing together. You have his number, so you might know him some casually, right? Or it might be some sort of friendship situation, but you're calling him an engaged man at work, which makes me feel like you don't have a history. And you saying that and saying, bully it out of me, and you saying that is because you think that you're being ridiculous. So let's start there. You are being ridiculous. Okay, but that's not harsh enough. That's not going to get you to stop. You know you're being ridiculous, right? You know it. You're even writing it in this text message. I'm afraid it's going to go to him, right? You have the number, so we know you have the number. I'm really trying to Harriet the Spy this together. So you don't want to tell your therapist. I'm gonna guess that you've told your therapist that there's this guy at work who you know is unavailable, but you just really like him, you have feelings for him. Am I onto something? Okay. I'm like really trying to CSI this. Okay, so there's somebody that you've. I'm guessing this is why. Otherwise, why you would just tell your therapist. But, you know, they'll be annoyed with you and you're thinking that I won't be annoyed with you, and I'll say something funny and clever and we'll both laugh about it, and then you get right back to work and you'll start getting into the zone. That's not gonna happen because I, as somebody who is type B, will analyze something absolutely. Until it's bone dry. Okay, so I'm analyzing everything, right? That. That's in here. And I'm assuming. And you are gonna have to text back and tell me if I'm even close, right? I'm assuming if you won't tell the therapist. You've mentioned this guy before and you've talked to your therapist about how he's with somebody and he's, you know, available. Right? Like, and. And I should just get over it or, you know, I need to, like, look elsewhere. I don't know why I'm, like, hung up on this guy. And I think that you're crashing out because there was a part of you just. Maybe you've never met the partner, right? Maybe you've never met the. I'm gonna just go on. On a limb here. Girlfriend, right? I think I'm safe to say that because I think if this was like, a gay guy, you'd kind of have closed that door already. You wouldn't even be thinking that. So I'm going to say that I. Maybe you haven't even met the girlfriend. So it's really hard for you to kind of like, contextualize. Really? If you could hear the way that my mouth fluttered and flapped when I tried to say that word. Contextualized. You know what? Bleep it out. Bleep out that word. I'm kidding. Keep it in. I want people to know I'm not perfect. Contextualized. What I'm trying to say is I think that you're. You haven't fully, like, seen it in. In person, maybe. And so there's been a part of you that thinks, like, oh, like, maybe one day we'd get together or whatever. Right? I'm gonna also assume that you are single, okay? Because you want, like, a stern talking to by a friend, and you came to the right place. So I'm assuming that you're single. And this guy, maybe he felt single because you never saw him with his partner, and now he's like, Engaged. And that's like completely changing the dynamic. And I'm gonna say a few things that like, maybe it's. This isn't bullying. Maybe this is. Maybe you just need the truth, right? The truth is, this is what I think. Maybe you didn't see the connection between him and his girlfriend, or maybe you never even saw them together, or maybe you just felt like it wasn't that serious and now it's like hitting you that it is serious. So I'm assuming that you didn't really see them much like in the real world. And so I think that if you did see them in the real world, this would have like lessered your expectation of something ever happening or it would have like lessened your lust, right? So it would have like, you would have taken a few steps back and then maybe you would have been like, like, ah, like you know, annoyed or whatever, you know, sad or disappointed when he gets like engaged, right? Maybe then you'd feel that. But now it's feeling a little, a little bit more jarring. And I have no idea if you've ever shared any of your, your feelings for this person or what's the reason of the crashing out. Again, it' really hard to bully because to be a good bully and I can be, you need to be cutting. And I don't have any facts. So I'm trying to put some things, some semblance of some sort of like idea together. And so I'm going to say this. What, this is what I know. Clearly that this man is unavailable, he's engaged. And I think that you need to let it go, right? Obviously you know that, right? You need to let it go. I don't know why you're crashing out over this. Maybe you thought something was going to happen. Maybe he said something to you that made you feel like, oh, like the, you know, the girlfriend was on her way out, now she's engaged or whatever. But this is my hard talking to you. It's like you just gotta let it go, right? You gotta stop and you have to just like anytime you're gonna start thinking about this guy, you need to just go and do something different. You need to go read a book. You need to go on tick tock. You need to just distract yourself and like rewire the wires of your brain. Because here's the thing, we all of us aren't really that special, okay? We're just like Ziploc bags of blood and chemicals and wires and that's it. We're just like bags of blood with wires Inside. And we're all basically the same. Like, we're all not that hard to figure out. So what I think you need to do is I think you need to think of yourself as a Ziploc bag filled with blood and wires. And some of those wires are just, like. They're on this fuse, which is this guy. And now it's, like, you know, it's crashing out. We need to find a way to just reconnect those wires to, like, something else. Something different. Right. Is it something we might crash out again at a later date? It could be. That's not my problem. That'll be my problem if you text me again. Right? And then we have to come up with a solution for that. But you just need to think. It's not like I think with, like, our emotions and stuff. Whenever I feel, like, overwhelmed by something, I always think, listen, we're not that complicated. We're just bags of blood. That's it, right? We're just bags of blood. So there's a way I can rewire this. I'm not that difficult. I'm not that unique, right? Maybe that's hard to hear. Oof. Maybe it's hard to hear. We're not all that different. We're all not unique. Right? I think any thought that you've had that's, like, intrusive or bad or whatever, I can almost guarantee you it's not unique. It's not a feeling. Like, no feeling is unique. I think everybody's felt every feeling. I think people feel them at different levels and extremes. This is also something I tell myself to, like, when I'm crashing out. Right? So I'm just giving you my advice again. I'm not the therapist. I'm just a lowly guy with the ironing board behind me who dyed his own eyebrows and eyelashes, which I will say is probably dangerous, but you just gotta stop, right? There's kind of no way around this. You're gonna continue to crash out and spiral until you figure out, like, refocus on and so why don't we just, like, nip it in the bud, right? Like, we just stop. Just stop. And if you know that you're being ridiculous, which I think that you do, stop being ridiculous. Also, that's. I just thought of something. You need to think that you just broke up with this person, right? No, that's a bad idea. Wait, scratch that. Wait. I'm re. I'm re. I'm recalibrating root. Like, I'm trying to figure out something else. I know what you're gonna. You're gonna have to. Now is your time to get into revenge body, okay? So you need to see this as an opportunity. See, I'm. I'm rewiring my own wires because I'm about to crash out over this engaged man at work, too. So you need to see this as an opportunity. What a great opportunity for me to get into the hottest body of my lifetime, right? Maybe that means you dye your eyebrows too. And if I have any words of advice for you, it's listen to the amount of minutes that the box says I did and I doubled it, which is why my eyebrows are pitch black. I'm saying that into the mic, a pitch black. They're really dark. It's okay. I'll live, right? I'll live. You'll live. But this is an opportunity for you to get that revenge on whatever, right? Like, sometimes I think I believe that we don't even need to take revenge on anything to say that we're getting revenge. When I, like, want to get in shape or like, I'm just like, want to get, like, want to be healthy and I'm going to eat well. I'm always saying I'm going to. It's my revenge body. I'm going to get into breakup shape is what I always say. Because, like, I love my husband. Believe me, he's, like, amazing. But I do say to myself, like, I need to get into breakup shape sometimes. You got to. And it doesn't matter if you're in a good relationship or if you're not in a relationship at all, right? Don't get complacent with this guy at work. Basically. I can't bully you, but I can just tell you you gotta rewire. You gotta rewire. You gotta recalibrate. And that's really what I think now before the show kind of goes even more, let's say it together, off the rails. I think we should kind of call it. We should end it now. Because I am looking around and it does look chaotic. Like, you can see now you can see a printer in the background. Like, this is not what I envisioned for myself. This is not what we envisioned for me, okay? But we're gonna get there. We're gonna get somewhere really beautiful. I know it for a fact. I do. I really do. I'm seeing if there's, like, some voicemail we can know everybody. I'm gonna say the voicemails and text messages, they're very good. But there's gonna be a day when I need to sit down And I think, like, really? And I know I keep saying this. I'm gonna do a whole episode on just voicemails and text messages, but every time, like, I turn the mic on, I hit record. I go, hey, I've got something to say, but so do you. And I owe it to everyone to let you get your word out. Right? To let you get your word out. It doesn't make sense, but that is kind of where we're heading, and that is the end of this episode. And like I said, it's been a chaotic time. Do I. I'm, like, trying to see how I look, but, like, also not look, it's scary. It is scary. But this is what I'm gonna say. I'm excited to record again because this has forced me to sort of, kind of get this organized. And. And now that, like, I have some things coming into the medical spa, I can, like, shift my focus into getting this together. And I think, like, next on the agenda is, like, to figure out, like, a background situation. This is, like, not prim and proper. This is not good even just for, like, clips, right? Come on, you guys. You get it. You totally get it. I feel like I'm not. Now I'm not making sense, but I'm gonna say this. I really adore you. I do. And I'm laughing at myself because I am sort of in a chaotic state. I mentioned it, and I do think that this episode was as chaotic as I promised it to be. I don't know if it was a promise, it was a warning, but, yeah, it was chaotic. It is chaotic. I'm not packed. And the reason I'm trailing off and it's sort of just going on and on right now is I heard the dryer go off downstairs, which means I do need to get started on my packing now, and I can't push that thought out of my brain. So wish me luck the next time I record. I've promised myself, Pinky swore to myself that I would record when I was in New York. You know, we haven't done a podcast live from New York. It's just me. And so I think that we're going to do that. And on that note, thank you so much for listening to this episode of Intrusive Thoughts. I have been and will be your host, Adam Rippon. If you have intrusive thoughts that you'd love to share with the podcast and the other podcast listeners, please text us, send us a voicemail. And by that, I mean call and leave a voicemail. The number is 310-909-7117. I have that number in my Instagram bio. I have it in, like, if you push a call, it'll give you the number right there so you don't need to remember it. Right. Again, there was a caller who said, put it in your bio. And I went, that's genius. Because nobody has a pen and a paper readily available to write a number, right? But now, in an Instagram bio, you can find it. So leave a text message, call, and leave a voicemail. Love you. I'll see you here next week on Intrusive Thoughts. Bye.