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The Powder Room
Hosted by Ivy Ashley · EN
The Powder Room is a safe space for women to have real, unfiltered conversations about the topics that matter most to us. From relationships and career shifts to wellness, aging, and everything in between, no subject is off-limits. Whether you’re looking for advice, a good laugh, or just the comfort of knowing you’re not alone, this is your place to connect, reflect, and grow. Welcome to The Powder Room, "Where we discover the message within our messes."
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Caregiving & Aging Parents: When Love Becomes Responsibility
1w ago01:08:31Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailWhen a parent is diagnosed with debilitating disease, life doesn’t just change — it redefines everything.In Part 1 of this deeply personal conversation, I sit down with my sister, Terrie Slaughter — our mom’s primary caregiver — to talk about what happens after the diagnosis. From the moment everything shifted, to the quiet realization that she would become “the one” responsible for our mother’s care, we unpack the emotional, physical, and the mental weight of caregiving.We talk about:The shock of diagnosis vs. the reality of progression What caregiving really looks like day-to-day The invisible responsibilities no one prepares you for How family roles shift — sometimes unevenly The beginning of grief… long before loss This is an honest look at what it means to show up when it’s hard, when it’s exhausting, and when there’s no roadmap. If you’ve ever found yourself stepping into a role you didn’t ask for — but couldn’t walk away from — this conversation will meet you there.
Transcribe →Just Checking In...
2w ago00:41:30Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailThis isn’t a typical episode.With everything happening in the world, this is a moment to pause, reflect, and check on the ones who are always holding it together.If you’ve been carrying a lot… quietly… this conversation is for you.Being human doesn’t mean we lack faith—it means we’re still feeling, still believing, and still showing up.
Transcribe →Dating, Not Desperation
3w ago00:27:51Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailAre you dating… or interviewing?In this episode of The Powder Room, we’re conducting a First Date Audit—a funny but honest breakdown of how women 40+ approach dating after divorce, loss, or years of frustration.From who should plan the date to what actually matters during those first conversations, we’re shifting the focus from pressure to presence. We’ll unpack the difference between real red flags and simple nervous habits, settle the post-date text debate, and give you the top questions to ask (and avoid) on a first date.If you’ve been dating without success—or you’re just getting back out there—this episode will help you release unrealistic expectations, show up authentically, and start treating dating for what it truly is: A chance to gather data, enjoy the experience and rediscover yourself.Because every date is not a potential mate—and that’s the point.I’ve included a First Date Audit Checklist for you—so you can stop overthinking, start observing, and actually enjoy the dating experience.https://drive.google.com/file/d/1t9V7ybIU2_Qh1MncoIATa2Ifm9UtVmO6/view?usp=sharing
Transcribe →These Dating Streets Are Ghetto!
4w ago00:51:30Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailModern dating isn’t just different—it’s a completely different language, culture, and experience. And for women over 40—whether divorced, widowed, or long-time single—it can feel like stepping into unfamiliar territory with no map.In this episode of The Powder Room, we’re breaking it all the way down.From determining if you’re truly ready to date, to getting clear on what you actually want, to understanding the confusing (and sometimes ridiculous) language of today’s dating world—this episode is your survival guide to navigating the “dating streets” with wisdom and self-awareness.If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, discouraged, or just plain confused by modern dating… this conversation will ground you, guide you, and remind you that you don’t have to lose yourself to find love.
Transcribe →Your Midlife is not a Crisis
Apr 1500:46:58Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailMidlife is often framed as a crisis—but for women, it’s so much deeper than that. In this episode of The Powder Room, we’re unpacking the truth about midlife and why it’s less about falling apart and more about evolving into who you’re meant to be.From perimenopause and menopause to shifting identities, aging parents, caregiving, changing relationships, career transitions, and the emotional weight of it all—this season of life can feel overwhelming, confusing, and isolating. But what if these changes aren’t signs that something is wrong… but signals that something is shifting?Whether you’re single, married, navigating an empty nest, or redefining your purpose, this conversation will help you understand the physiological, emotional, and social changes happening in midlife—and how to move through them with clarity, confidence, and grace.If you’ve been feeling restless, disconnected, or like your life no longer fits the way it used to… this episode will remind you: you’re not expiring—you’re evolving.
Transcribe →Green Flags We Keep Ignoring
Apr 800:48:15Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailAfter unpacking trauma and emotional patterns, it’s time for a reset. In this episode of The Powder Room, we’re shifting the focus from red flags to something we don’t talk about enough—green flags.What does healthy actually look like in dating and relationships? And more importantly…would you recognize it if you saw it?We’ll break down the green flags women often overlook, why emotional safety can feel unfamiliar, and how past experiences may have conditioned us to misinterpret peace as boredom. We’re also introducing yellow flags—those behaviors that aren’t dealbreakers, but require awareness, communication, and discernment.If you’ve ever questioned whether something is “too good to be true” or found yourself drawn to chaos over consistency, this conversation is for you. It’s time to stop overanalyzing healthy behavior—and start recognizing it.
Transcribe →When Trauma Speaks Part 2: Healing What Still Hurts
Apr 100:36:30Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailIn Part 1 of this conversation, we explored how trauma can develop through life experiences and how it sometimes quietly influences our emotional responses.In Part 2, Ivy Ashley continues the conversation by examining how trauma can follow us into adulthood—shaping our behaviors, relationships, and reactions in ways we may not immediately recognize.In this episode, Ivy discusses:How unresolved experiences can influence adult relationship patternsWhy trauma can leave us emotionally “stuck in time”The first steps toward recognizing and addressing unresolved woundsWhat healing can actually look like in everyday lifeWhy experiencing triggers does not automatically mean you haven’t healedHealing is not about pretending the past never happened. It’s about learning how to understand the experiences that shaped us and choosing responses that move us toward growth.
Transcribe →REWIND: Dating Delusions
Mar 2500:42:34Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailToday, we are replaying one of the most played dating episodes in The Powder Room History. We'll be back next week with part 2 of "When Trauma Speaks"In this premier episode of The Powder Room we're posing the question "Are your dating expectations helping or hurting your love life?" In this discussion, we take a deep dive into the cultural influences, media portrayals, and personal life experiences that shape our ideas about love and relationships. From the fairytale of instant chemistry to the myth that love should be effortless, we unpack a list of common but unrealistic expectations—like finding a partner with zero baggage or expecting perfection from day one. Could these beliefs be standing between you and a meaningful connection? Tune in as we break down the delusions and offer a reality check on what truly makes relationships work.
Transcribe →When Trauma Speaks, Part 1 - Recognizing the Voice
Mar 1800:26:45Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailSometimes our reactions feel bigger than the moment in front of us. A comment lingers longer than it should. A situation stirs emotions we didn’t expect. And we’re left asking ourselves, why did that affect me so deeply?In this episode of The Powder Room, Ivy Ashley begins an honest conversation about trauma—what it really is and how it can quietly influence the way we experience life, relationships, and ourselves.In Part 1, Ivy explores:What trauma really is and how it develops from life experiencesThe difference between trauma and everyday discomfortCommon misconceptions about trauma in today’s social media cultureTypes of trauma that are often overlooked or minimizedA personal reflection on recognizing when past experiences may still be influencing present emotionsTrauma isn’t always loud or obvious. Sometimes it speaks through patterns we don’t immediately recognize.
Transcribe →High Standards or High Walls, Part 2
Mar 1100:33:11Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailBy the time you’re over 40, you’ve earned your standards.You’ve lived enough life to know what you won’t tolerate.You’ve healed enough wounds to recognize red flags.You’ve built enough stability to protect your peace at all costs.But here’s the real question:Are your standards creating alignment… or preventing access?In this episode of The Powder Room, we’re having an honest, grown-woman conversation about the fine line between discernment and defense. Because sometimes what we call “high standards” are actually high walls — and walls keep pain out… but they also keep connection out.We’re unpacking:“He has to make more than me” — Is that security or protection?“He should pursue me relentlessly” — The difference between pursuit and ego-driven chasing.“He needs to be fully healed” — Are we looking for growth or perfection?And the subtle ways independence can quietly harden into rigidity.This conversation isn’t about lowering your standards.It’s about refining them.Because mature love doesn’t require armor — it requires alignment.If you’re an accomplished, independent woman who still desires partnership but refuses chaos, this one is for you.Let’s talk about it.
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