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Love Yourself Thin Podcast
Hosted by Dara Tomasson · EN
Love Yourself Thin Podcast is where quilters come to create the life they truly want—on and off the sewing machine. Hosted by life coach Dara Thomason, this show helps you ditch the overwhelm, understand your habits, and build a healthier relationship with yourself and with food.
Whether you want more confidence, more energy, or more joy in your quilting and everyday life, you'll learn practical tools, mindset shifts, and empowering strategies that help you feel better in your body and in your mind.
It's the same heart and mission you loved from The Quilter's Coach Podcast—now with a name that reflects Dara's lifetime program and her belief that transformation begins with loving yourself first.
If you're a quilter ready to live intentionally, feel lighter emotionally and physically, and design a life you love, this podcast is for you.
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254. Self Governance Makes Permanent Weight Loss Possible
1w ago00:21:23Tap to summarizeFor the last three episodes, we looked at the wreckage. We uncovered how shame became embedded into our beliefs about food and body image. We exposed the control trap that taught us to distrust ourselves. We examined the comparison trap that convinced us we were never enough. But awareness is not freedom. Today, we stop studying the map of the trap… and start walking the pathway out. In this episode of Love Yourself Thin, Dara introduces the concept of self-governance — learning to trust yourself again instead of outsourcing your worth, your food choices, and your body to rules, trends, and external authority. You'll learn: • The difference between control and self-governance • Why control feels loud, rigid, and fear-based • How self-governance creates confidence, peace, and freedom • Why permanent weight loss is simpler than you've been taught • How emotional buffering keeps women stuck (food, scrolling, shopping, overworking) • The question that changes everything: What feeling am I avoiding? • Why responsibility creates freedom (not blame) • The 5 steps Dara teaches for permanent weight loss: Weight loss science is simple Learn how to create and trust your own eating plan Feel your feelings instead of eating them Take full responsibility for your life Build self-confidence through action and practice • Why your body is not a project to fix—but a home to live inside Dara also shares personal stories about overcoming diet culture, learning self-trust, raising five children, building confidence, and discovering that freedom was never found in another plan—it was found in becoming her own authority. This episode is your invitation to stop asking: "What should I do?" …and start asking: "What do I already know about myself?" You are not broken. You are not behind. You are capable of learning to trust yourself again. Ready to uncover what's really keeping you stuck? Book a free 30-minute coaching call with Dara where you'll explore: • Your relationship with food • Your relationship with your body • The patterns keeping you stuck • Whether coaching support is the right next step for you You are no longer a project. You are a person. For next steps, book a call with Dara! To learn more about permanent weight loss, check out Dara's program Love Yourself Thin.
Transcribe →253. The Comparison Trap — Why Weight Loss Feels Like You're Never Good Enough
2w ago00:17:21Tap to summarize"Comparison is the thief of joy… but in the weight loss world, it becomes the thief of identity." In this episode of Love Yourself Thin, Dara Tomasson dives into the comparison trap — that exhausting cycle of constantly feeling like you're not enough, not thin enough, not disciplined enough, or not successful enough. But what if those feelings didn't happen by accident? What if comparison was carefully manufactured by diet culture, media, and beauty standards designed to keep women chasing an impossible finish line? In this episode, Dara explores: • Why "I'll be happy when…" keeps women stuck • How comparison steals joy, confidence, and authenticity • The history of shifting beauty standards from Marilyn Monroe to heroin chic • Why social media intensifies feelings of inadequacy • The psychological cost of constantly seeing yourself as a "project" • How the beauty and weight loss industry profits from dissatisfaction • The difference between a "project body" and an "inhabited body" • How to stop postponing joy until you lose weight • Dara's personal story about body image, surgery, and self-acceptance • A powerful "Joy Audit" exercise to help you reconnect with your life now This episode is an invitation to stop asking: "Am I good enough?" …and start asking: "Is this standard good enough for me?" If you've spent years hiding in photos, avoiding swimsuits, comparing yourself to everyone around you, and waiting to finally feel worthy once you lose weight — this episode is for you. Ready to uncover what's really keeping you stuck? Book a free coaching call with Dara to explore the root of your struggles with food, body image, and self-worth. Book HERE. Check out Dara's lifetime program where weight loss is just the first step to uncovering a life that is full of joy, confidence and love! More about it HERE. Next week: Episode 254 — The Pathway to Freedom
Transcribe →252. Exposing the Control Trap in Weight Loss - How History Has Shaped Our Food Rules
3w ago00:17:06Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Love Yourself Thin Podcast, Dara continues her powerful series on the hidden history of diet culture and weight loss. Last week, we explored the blueprint of shame. This week, we uncover the control trap. Why have so many women stopped trusting themselves around food? Why do we believe an app, a diet book, or a set of food rules knows our body better than we do? Dara walks through the history of weight loss culture—from the first diet book in 1863 to calorie counting, slimming clubs, diet pills, Weight Watchers, processed food marketing, and today's GLP-1 era—to reveal how the diet industry slowly trained women to distrust their own hunger, body, and intuition. If you've spent decades starting over every Monday, following someone else's rules, and feeling like you "fail" when you can't keep up, this episode will help you understand why. This conversation is especially for women over 50 who are tired of dieting, tired of obsessing over food, and ready to create permanent weight loss by healing the deeper patterns underneath emotional eating, perfectionism, procrastination, and people-pleasing. In this episode, Dara discusses: ✨ The first diet book and how weight loss became rule-based ✨ Why diet culture teaches women to distrust themselves ✨ The connection between control, shame, and food ✨ How calorie counting changed women's relationship with eating ✨ The rise of slimming clubs, diet pills, and public weigh-ins ✨ Why food rules often become emotional "buffers" ✨ The difference between external control and self-governance ✨ How emotional eating is often about safety, not food ✨ Why lasting weight loss starts with trust, not restriction Dara also shares personal insights about growing up as a people-pleaser, how food became emotional protection, and why learning to feel emotions instead of controlling them changed everything. If you're ready to stop fighting yourself and finally understand the real reason weight loss has felt so hard, this episode is for you. Connect with Dara: Subscribe to the podcast for weekly conversations about emotional eating, mindset, and permanent weight loss for women 50+. Follow Dara on Instagram: @dara_tomasson If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend and leave a review—it helps more women find freedom from the dieting cycle. If you're ready to dig deeper into what is holding you back from achieving your weight loss goals, book a call with Dara to explore the options - Book a Call Explore more about Dara's program HERE
Transcribe →251. A Historical Look at Why Weight Loss Feels So Hard
4w ago00:15:15Tap to summarizeWhat if your struggle with weight isn't about discipline—but about centuries of conditioning? In this thought-provoking episode, Dara Tomasson begins a powerful 4-part series exploring the historical roots of diet culture and why so many women feel stuck in cycles of food obsession, guilt, and frustration. By tracing patterns from early human survival to religious influence and societal expectations, Dara reveals how control and shame became deeply intertwined with food. If you're a woman over 50 who has achieved success in many areas of life—but still feels stuck when it comes to your weight—this episode will help you finally start connecting the dots. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why your brain is wired for survival, not restriction How early humans viewed body fat as protection—not a problem The original meaning of "diet" and how it's been distorted over time How religion introduced morality and shame into eating habits The role of control and power in shaping body expectations Why emotional eating, perfectionism, and people-pleasing are not random How understanding your patterns is the key to lasting weight loss Key Insight Your relationship with food didn't start with you. The guilt, the rules, the "starting over on Monday"—they're part of a much larger story. When you understand that, you can begin to change it in a sustainable, compassionate way. Questions to Reflect On What is my unique story with food? What beliefs have I been carrying about my body and eating? Where might control be showing up in my habits? What if nothing has gone wrong—and this is something I can understand and change? Free Coaching Invitation If you're ready to uncover what's really driving your eating patterns and finally feel in control around food, Dara is offering a limited number of free 30-minute coaching sessions. These calls are designed to help you gain clarity, identify what's been keeping you stuck, and explore your next steps toward lasting change. Book you call here About Dara's Love Yourself Thin Program Dara's group coaching program is designed specifically for women 50+ who are ready to create permanent weight loss from the inside out. Inside, you'll experience: Weekly live coaching calls for ongoing support and guidance A clear path to weight loss freedom in 90 days A supportive community of women committed to lasting change Tools to overcome emotional eating, perfectionism, and self-sabotage This is not another diet—it's a new way of thinking, living, and relating to yourself. Learn more HERE What's Coming Next In the next episode, Dara continues the historical deep dive—exploring the first diet trends, extreme weight loss methods, and how diet culture evolved into what we experience today. Connect & Continue the Journey If this episode resonated with you: Subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss the rest of this powerful series Follow Dara on Instagram: @dara_tomasson Share this episode with a friend who's ready to stop dieting and start understanding.
Transcribe →250. What You Need to Quit to Finally Feel Free
Apr 3000:14:59Tap to summarizeEpisode 250 is more than a milestone—it's a reflection of what becomes possible when you stop fighting yourself and start coming home to who you already are. In this deeply personal episode, Dara shares a powerful shift: success doesn't come from doing more—it comes from quitting what's draining you. Through a moving poem and real client story, you'll discover why willpower, self-criticism, and "proving yourself" have never worked… and what actually creates lasting change instead. This episode will help you: Understand why self-criticism keeps you stuck (and what to replace it with) Learn what it really means to "quit" in a way that creates growth See how your thoughts directly impact your energy, habits, and results Shift from chasing worth to living from it Create goals from desire—not pressure, punishment, or proof Dara also walks you through a simple but powerful 3-step process: Your Quit List – releasing beliefs that drain your energy Your Desire List – reconnecting with what you actually want Your Plan Without Proving – taking action from wholeness, not lack If you've ever felt stuck in cycles of starting over, this episode will show you a completely different way forward. ✨ You are not behind. ✨ You are not broken. ✨ You don't need to prove anything to be worthy of what you want. If you're ready to go deeper, Dara invites you to explore this work inside her membership, where real transformation happens through changing your relationship with yourself. Book a call to learn more!
Transcribe →249. Be Kind and Rewind – How Your Past is Driving Your Eating Habits
Apr 2300:18:25Tap to summarizeHave you ever wondered why you keep doing the same things with food—even when you know what to do? In this episode, Dara Tomasson takes you inside the real work that leads to lasting change. You'll hear what actually happens inside her program and why weight loss isn't about willpower, discipline, or another plan—it's about understanding the patterns you've been practicing for decades. Dara shares real client examples to show how childhood experiences, family dynamics, and old beliefs are still influencing your eating habits today. From late-night overeating to guilt around food, these patterns aren't random—they're learned. In this episode, you'll discover: Why your struggle with food isn't a lack of discipline How childhood experiences shape your current habits What "be kind and rewind" really means—and how it helps you change The "domino buffering" pattern that keeps you stuck in cycles Why awareness is the first step—but not the full solution This episode will help you see yourself with more compassion and clarity—and understand why nothing has worked long-term. But awareness alone isn't what creates transformation. Inside Dara's Lifetime Membership, this is the work you actually do. You don't just learn concepts—you get coached through your specific patterns, in real time, so you can finally break the cycle with food. If you're ready to stop fighting yourself and start creating lasting results, this is where that change happens. Book a call with Dara to find out how she can help you! Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review and share this episode!
Transcribe →247. Sleep Support for Weight Loss, Health, and Productivity
Apr 900:18:47Tap to summarizeIf you've tried all the sleep tips and still struggle to get a good night's rest, this episode will help you understand what's really going on. Dara shares why sleep isn't just about routines or habits—it's about your thinking patterns, unprocessed worries, and how your brain is trying to keep you safe. Through a powerful client example, you'll learn how to calm a busy mind, reduce nighttime overthinking, and create the conditions your body needs for real rest. In this episode, you'll learn: Why sleep struggles are often a thinking problem, not a habit problem How to separate what you can control vs. what you can't A simple "worry list" tool to quiet your mind How to stop fighting sleeplessness and reduce resistance Why better sleep supports weight loss, health, and productivity If your brain won't "turn off" at night, this episode will give you a new way to approach sleep—with more calm, clarity, and control. Want to continue this conversation? Book a call with Dara to find out how she can help you dive deeper into what's really going on so you can create the life you want! Book a call HERE. Catch Dara at the Quilter's Life Summit April 21-23, 2026 where she will dive deeper into perfectionism, people pleasing and procrastination. Plus you can hear from 20+ other quilting experts as they share quilting tips and tricks. Sign up for free HERE.
Transcribe →246. How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty
Apr 200:15:14Tap to summarizeDo you struggle to say no… and then find yourself drained, overwhelmed, or stuck doing things you don't actually want to do? In this episode, Dara walks you through why saying no feels so uncomfortable—and how your childhood wiring, people-pleasing patterns, and fear of judgment keep you stuck over-explaining and overcommitting. Through a powerful client story, you'll see how even small moments (like staying too long in a conversation) can quietly drain your energy and keep you disconnected from yourself. You'll learn: Why your brain resists saying no How people-pleasing is tied to old thought patterns What guilt really is (and why it's optional) How to stop over-explaining and start honoring your needs Simple, practical ways to say no—without guilt This episode will help you reclaim your time, protect your energy, and start showing up as the version of you that you actually want to be. Key Takeaway: "No" is a complete sentence—and learning to use it is one of the most powerful ways to change your life. Next Steps: Ready to stop people-pleasing, procrastinating, and overthinking? Join Dara's Masterclass at the end of April! Details are HERE. Join Dara at the Quilter's Life Summit to hear more from her about perfectionism (and other quilting topics!) Registration opens April 7. Book a call with Dara to continue the conversation! https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/contact
Transcribe →245. How Procrastination is Holding You Back from Losing Weight
Mar 2600:16:39Tap to summarizeHave you ever wondered why you keep putting things off—even when you know better? Why you promise yourself you'll start tomorrow… and tomorrow keeps moving? In this episode of Love Yourself Thin, Dara Tomasson explores the deeper reason behind procrastination and the repeating patterns that show up in our lives—especially around food, productivity, and weight loss. If you've ever thought, "Why do I keep doing this?" or "Why can't I just follow through?" this conversation will help you understand what's really happening in your brain. The truth is, procrastination isn't laziness. It's a pattern your brain learned a long time ago. Many of the habits we struggle with today—emotional eating, perfectionism, people pleasing, procrastinating—were originally coping strategies we developed in childhood. They helped us deal with stress, pressure, or emotions when we didn't yet have the tools to process them. The problem is that those same patterns can continue running our adult lives automatically. Your brain isn't trying to improve your life—it's trying to keep things predictable. That's why traditional weight loss strategies often fail. They focus on controlling behavior instead of understanding the underlying patterns driving it. The good news? Your brain is capable of change at any age. Modern neuroscience shows that the brain constantly forms new neural pathways through repetition and awareness. This means the same process that created your old patterns can also help you create new ones. When you bring awareness to these patterns, the automatic cycle starts to break. This is why willpower alone rarely works. You can't out-discipline a pattern you don't understand. Instead of blaming yourself or trying harder, the real work is learning to look at the "wiring" behind your behaviors. When you start noticing your patterns with curiosity instead of shame, real change becomes possible. And that's where lasting weight loss begins—not with stricter rules, but with deeper awareness. If you've ever felt stuck in cycles of procrastination, emotional eating, or perfectionism, this episode will help you understand why—and show you that it's never too late to change. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why procrastination is often a learned coping strategy from childhood How your brain prioritizes familiarity over improvement The neuroscience behind habit patterns and emotional eating Why willpower alone rarely solves behavior patterns How awareness can help break automatic cycles Why you are never too old to rewire your brain Mentioned in This Episode Dara also shares details about the upcoming Quilter's Life Summit, where she will be teaching mindset tools to help quilters finish projects, reduce procrastination, and honor their time. There also will be 20 other presenters teaching on quilting topics that are sure to pique your interest! Register for free starting April 7, 2026! Subscribe & Review If this episode resonated with you, be sure to subscribe to Love Yourself, Thin so you never miss an episode. And if you enjoyed the show, leaving a review helps more women discover these tools for lasting change. Watch this episode (and more!) on YouTube - https://youtu.be/yITyRn1ExXM If you're ready to make lasting change, book a call with Dara to find out if her program is right for you - https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/contact
Transcribe →244. How to Avoid All or Nothing Thinking as You Enter a New Season
Mar 1900:21:34Tap to summarizeAs the seasons change, many of us feel a surge of energy, motivation, and excitement. But that same "spring fever" can also bring restlessness, impulsive decisions, and frustration—especially when it comes to our bodies, our habits, and our weight loss goals. In this episode of Love Yourself Thin, Dara explores how the natural shift from winter to spring affects our mindset, our energy, and our relationship with food. Instead of falling into the familiar cycle of all-or-nothing thinking, Dara shares how you can use this seasonal transition to create real, sustainable change—without dieting, overthinking, or criticizing yourself. You'll learn why simply trying harder doesn't solve emotional eating, how childhood patterns still influence your behavior today, and how to build self-trust so you can finally feel peaceful around food. Spring is a season of new growth—and it can be an invitation for your own personal growth too. In This Episode, You'll Learn: What "spring fever" really is and how it affects motivation and eating habits Why trying harder isn't the solution to emotional eating The problem with all-or-nothing thinking when it comes to weight loss How to recognize "buffering" behaviors like distraction, scrolling, or unnecessary tasks Why your childhood experiences shape your habits as an adult How learning to feel your emotions instead of avoiding them reduces overeating A simple 3-step process to break unhelpful patterns and create lasting change Featured Event: Quilter's Life Summit Dara also shares details about the upcoming Quilter's Life Summit, a free 3-day event happening April 21–23. You'll learn how to: Finish more creative projects Stop procrastinating Let go of perfectionism Enjoy the creative process without pressure The summit includes incredible instructors and opportunities to connect with other creatives in a supportive environment. Registrations open April 7! Connect With Dara If this episode resonated with you, make sure to subscribe so you never miss a new episode of Love Yourself Thin, where Dara teaches women how to transform their relationship with food, weight, and themselves. If you're ready to quit the yo-yo diets and find a weight loss protocol that works, book a call with Dara to find out if her program is right for you - https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/contact Follow Dara on Instagram for more weight loss tips and tricks! @dara_tomasson
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