948 | 6 Must-Haves for a Morning Routine That Actually Works

Summary

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The Rachel Hollis Podcast

Episode 948 | 6 Must-Haves for a Morning Routine That Actually Works
Date: April 6, 2026
Host: Rachel Hollis

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Episode Overview

In this episode, Rachel Hollis dives deep into the six essential elements of a morning routine that actually works—one that is not borrowed from influencers or internet trends, but carefully crafted for your real life, values, and current season. Drawing from her own journey, Rachel breaks down why most people fail to sustain a morning routine, how to design one uniquely yours, and the psychological importance of small wins to build momentum for your day.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

The Myth of the Perfect Morning Routine

• Homogenized Online Routines: Rachel discusses the overwhelming, aesthetic-focused morning routines found on YouTube and Instagram. She points out how these often don't fit real lives and leave most people feeling like failures when they can’t keep up.
  “Not the 17-step checklist that only works if you wake up at 4am or you’re one of those 22-year-old girls who drinks Matcha. As far as I can tell, I am talking about building a routine that anchors your day.” (03:09)

• Intentional vs. Accidental Routine: Everyone already has a “default” routine—often one that just gets you out the door. The switch is committing to an intentional routine designed for your life and goals.
  “If you tell yourself, ‘I need a morning routine,’ what you actually need is an intentional morning routine, because you definitely are living some kind of routine.” (07:41)

The Pitfalls of Borrowing Someone Else’s Routine

• Customization is Key: Rachel stresses that routines must be built ‘for the exact life that you have and the exact season of life that you are in and the exact goals you are working toward’ (06:04).
• If not, the routine may not just fail—it could deepen shame and feelings of inadequacy.

Rachel’s Morning Routine Journey

• Personal Turning Point: Her intentional morning routine began 11 years ago after a transformative personal development conference.
  “So much of that time period for me is really pivotal. I give so much credit to going to that event... It started so many good things for me because it really shook up the foundation of what I thought normal people were doing every day.” (09:36)

• Bringing the Event Energy Home: Rachel wanted to capture the ‘energy of that event’ and embed it in her everyday through structure and process.

The Challenge of Morning Routines for Women and Moms

• Lack of Support: Many listeners don’t have supportive communities for personal growth.
• Morning as ‘Me Time’: For Rachel, early mornings provided personal time before her children woke up—a rare, essential slot for self-care and growth.

The Six Elements of a Killer Morning Routine

Rachel teases the six core elements (she deep dives into each in the full membership class):

1. Set Wake-up Time (19:43)

• Consistency Wins: A fixed wake-up time—7 days a week—eliminates early failures and builds psychological momentum.
  “Of all the morning routines that I have watched on YouTube, I have never heard one person mention this, but it was the first thing that I had to do in order to kickstart the kind of woman I wanted to be. And that is a set wake up time... this needs to be the time that you wake up seven days a week.” (17:35)

• First Win of the Day:
  “You are eliminating your first potential failure of the day.” (19:40)

• Regulating Mood and Productivity: She emphasizes the science—irregular wake times mess with cortisol, mood, and productivity.

2-6. (Teased, Details in Membership)

• Rachel previews that missing even one essential component will negatively impact your day.

• She promises that these elements are about editing—choosing what truly works for you rather than simply adding more to your plate.

  “This isn’t about adding one more to do for you. This is about adding elements that support the kind of day you wanna have. If you have a great day, then you’re gonna have a great week… and this is how we build a life of a quality that we can be proud of.” (17:08)

On Consistency and Self-Sabotage

• Avoiding Sabotage: Rachel shares an analogy with her son Sawyer’s baseball practice—filling up your cup with effort, but poking holes in it with inconsistent habits (nutrition, sleep, etc.).
  “If you are investing in yourself, but then actively making choices that are eliminating the investment… what’s probably happening is you are, in the end, coming out even.” (29:18)

• Applying This to Mornings: Waking up with intention each day plugs those “holes,” making every other self-investment more effective.

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Notable Quotes and Moments

• On Comparison:
  “Ask yourself where you got the ideas for the elements that are inside of that morning. Did you look at someone else’s life and what they were doing? And then try and replicate it in your own? Because in order for it to feel really good and really powerful, it has to be based on you and your values and where you’re trying to get to.” (16:36)

• On Internal Self-Talk:
  “Have you ever considered the narration that plays in the back of your head all day long?... women are not totally aware of how vicious that voice in their head can be to them at times.” (19:54)

• On the Danger of Overcommitment:
  “It has become so popular on social media to romanticize a level of output and a level of tasks… but if you are running yourself ragged… ultimately, it will crash and burn.” (17:08)

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• 01:22 – Rachel’s assumptions about her audience and invitation to membership community
• 05:20 – Rachel’s critique of “aesthetic” morning routines
• 07:41 – The difference between accidental and intentional morning routines
• 09:36 – Impact of her first personal development conference
• 12:11 – The challenge of personal growth in an unsupportive environment, importance of “beginning your day as the person you want to become”
• 16:36 – The six essential things for a killer morning routine, and why failing at any can throw off your day
• 17:35 – First core habit: Set Wake-Up Time (and why it matters)
• 19:54 – The subconscious “mean voice” and how morning routines preempt self-sabotage
• 29:18 – Sawyer’s baseball story and the “holes in your cup” analogy
• 30:21 – Invitation to deeper membership content (all 6 elements, worksheets, Q&A)

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Episode Tone & Style

Rachel’s delivery is energetic, conversational, and compassionate—with a mix of motivational encouragement and tough love. She peppers in humor (“the yoga girly on Instagram,” “Dear Liza, the water is spilling out!”) and relatable personal stories, especially for women managing families, work, and personal growth.

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Conclusion

Rachel’s central message: Forget internet trends. Your perfect morning routine is the one tailored precisely to who you are and where you want to go right now—one you can stick with even on your lowest energy days. Start with a consistent wake-up time; evaluate where you might be sabotaging your own progress. For the complete class and deep dive into all six elements, listeners are invited to join the podcast membership community.

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For bulletproof mornings that fuel your dreams, start with intention—not imitation.

Transcript

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how to motivate yourself to actually do it. Maybe you're tired of watching other people build the kind of life or the kind of business you know in your heart you're capable of.

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that is exactly what this community is for. And if you want to get involved and learn even more than you already are, I want to tell you about the podcast membership.

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The membership community is for people who

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love a deeper dive. Every single month, I teach a class on one of the most impactful topics

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we talk about here on the show.

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These are things that actually move the needle and that the audience responds to most.

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goal that you will actually follow through

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on, or how to build systems so your life doesn't fall apart every single time you get busy, or how to

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create habits that stick because they're designed

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for your real life, not some fantasy version of you. Those are the topics of the first

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three months of this year. And this month we're going deep on something that changes everything. Your morning routine. And not the aesthetic version that you see online.

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Not the 17 step checklist that only

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works if you wake up at 4am

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or you're one of those 22 year

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old girls who drinks Matcha.

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As far as I can tell, I

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am talking about building a routine that anchors your day. One that builds momentum before the world gets a say in what you're going to do.

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I'm talking about a morning routine that helps you become the kind of person

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who keeps promises to themselves.

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If you're ready to stop winging it, if you're ready to stop starting over, if you're ready to actually build a life that feels as good as it

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looks, you're in the right place Today

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I'm gonna share a teaser from this month's Premium class.

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It's about 20 minutes long and it should give you a good idea of what to expect. But know that inside of the membership

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community this podcast exists in both audio

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and video, so it's like a full on class.

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And like I said, you get the worksheet so you can follow along with

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me in real time.

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There's also a great community behind the scenes who's asking questions and commenting on each month's episode.

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a couple of weeks. But as a member of the community you would have had access to that before anybody else.

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So if that sounds interesting to you or you feel a tug that that your intuition thinks it's time to go deeper or you just want to check it out, Here is an excerpt from this month's class. Hey guys, I'm Rachel Hollis and this is the show where we talk about life. Real life. Around here. We cover everything from habits and motivation to relationships, parenting, and what it looks like to build a life that you love. If you're trying to grow, heal, or just feel a little bit more like yourself, you're in the right place.

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Morning Routine Morning Routine There is a reason why every single YouTube video from 2018 all the way up to today is still talking about morning routine. We've seen them all right? It's all about optimizing. It's like, how can I, you know, go in the cold plunge and do the sauna and have the green juice and run 12 miles before dawn and meditate for three hours and pray and be completely ready for the day? It's so easy to romanticize. It's so easy to make the visuals look really great on YouTube. But there's a solid reason why so many people are interested in a morning routine but don't actually implement one. Or maybe even worse, you implement it for a day or two and then it doesn't work, and you feel shame because it's one more thing that you feel like you're failing at. I think that we as humans are totally turned on by other people's morning routines. Because even if we don't have one, we instinctively know that starting our day with intention and purpose and setting ourselves up for the kind of day that we want to have, we know on a deeper level that that's something that can be really helpful to us. So we know that it's something that can work for us. Why doesn't it? Well, there is one simple reason why other people's morning routines do not work in your life. Because if it is not built for the exact life that you have and the exact season of life that you are in and the exact goals that you are working toward, the morning routine is a waste of your time. And worse than that, it's potentially dangerous. Because if you have any certain feelings around starting and stopping or feeling like you failed or feeling like you have no follow through, let's not let this be one more thing that falls apart for you. Let's you and I build a morning routine together that will actually get you closer to your goals. And let's build a morning routine based on the things that you value, not on the things that I value or some random bro on YouTube or some yoga girly on Instagram. Let's build something that works for your very real life. And in order for it to work for your very real life, that means it can amplify your best days, but still work for you even on your worst ones. I started my first intentional morning routine about 11 years ago. The reason I emphasize the word intentional is because I always had a morning routine. So do you. We just have morning routines that don't necessarily work for the kind of life that we want to have. Back in the day, my morning routine looked like I probably woke up about 30 minutes before I left the house. I For sure was exhausted because I didn't prioritize sleep back then. This was before I had kids, and I didn't know that I needed to get good sleep. And so I would stay up late watching Friends reruns. This was before Netflix and before social media. God, I feel old. But I'd stay up way too late, and then I'd get up in the morning. And there was no goal that I had in the morning other than just to get to work on time. I didn't really care about what I wore. If I had time to make myself look cute, I would, but the reality was, I probably didn't. I had no awareness of how much our confidence is tied to the way that we present ourselves to the world. And so I didn't know that that was a really important part of setting myself up for success. I'm gonna get into that in a minute. But I just kind of live the same morning over and over and over. And that's a really important place for you to start. If you tell yourself, I need a morning routine, what you actually need is an intentional morning routine, because you definitely are living some kind of routine. The questions to ask yourself is, which parts of that routine are working for you? Because maybe some of them are, and which parts of the routine are absolute trash, and we need to change them up as soon as possible. I built my first intentional morning routine around the same time that I went to my first personal development conference. And honestly, so much of that time period for me is really pivotal. But I give so much credit to going to that event, to many catalysts in my life. It started so many good things for me because it really shook up the foundation of what I thought normal people

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Like, I went to this event, and I heard about business, I heard about life, and I heard about health, and I heard about therapy and setting goals, and just. It completely shifted my worldview. And I had such a good experience that I really wanted to find ways to bring the energy of that event home. It's honestly the question that I ask myself is, how do I do take this experience and bring it into every day? And I knew that in order to bring it into every day, I would have to have structure. I would have to have some kind of process to replicate, creating energy by myself. Because for most of us, we are working on this personal development journey alone. A personal development journey is personal. And I don't know about you, but I didn't have a lot of people around me who were also working on themselves. It wasn't easy for me to find other people who were into personal development like I was. And again, this was 11 years ago, so we didn't have all of this content that you can now find on the Internet that reinforces the idea that personal development is good thing.

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When I went to the conference back in the day, everybody in my life thought I was a weirdo. Everyone was like, you're doing what? Like what is it? Why are you? And honestly, we find the same thing in the community. For women who come to the RISE Conference, I always ask that question like, who here has someone in their life who is judging them for trying to grow their life, for trying to elevate their experience, for trying to set goals. And you will find that 90% of that audience raises their hand. Most people come to a Rise Conference or a Rise Elevate event or a RISE Weekend because they want to find like minded people. But if you don't have like minded people in your community, one of the things that you can do to ensure that Every single day, you are setting yourself up for the kind of person you want to become and the future self that you want to be. The big thing that you can do is to begin each day as the person that you're trying to grow into. For me, this was instrumental, truly, because at the time, I was still pretty overweight and I had abysmal nutrition. I never worked out. I'm sure I had lifted a weight in my life, but I don't really have memory of it. And all I know is that I came back from that event and I was so pumped up that I would spring out of bed in the morning. Like, I would wake up so early because I was so aware that I had this limited amount of time. I had little kids, and I had this limited amount of time before they would wake up. So that portion of the morning became me time. It was the only time that I had a moment to myself. And in that moment, for myself, I could do anything. There's this thing that happens once you get married and once you have kids or you have family that you live with. I don't know, maybe I'm the only one. But you become sort of interconnected with the people around you, and you don't have the ability to do whatever you want whenever you want to do it. If you have kids, you don't have the ability to just do anything you want. You could start doing something that you want, and then 15 minutes in, someone's going to ask you to make them a sandwich, right? Or someone's going to ask you to play, or you have to go drop someone off at soccer practice. It really is this incredible personal development journey in and of itself, learning how to navigate a family relationship and how to show up for other people. But the thing is, that's not what we struggle with in this community. People don't come here because they struggle with showing up for other people. They struggle because they have a hard time showing up for themselves. And this morning routine, man, this is your chance to invest into you. So today, I want to teach you the six elements of a killer morning routine that I think are essential for building the life that you want to have. And the groovy part about the morning routine that you and I are going to build is that it is going to be specific to you. I will give you all the examples of the things that I do, but we're going to build one that works for you, for your life, in this season, against your goals. Because it is not about having the perfect routine. There's no such thing. It's about having the right components in your routine so that they work for you. And let me be super duper clear, if you are struggling to find energy and enthusiasm and momentum inside a morning routine that you are trying, ask yourself where you got the ideas for the elements that are inside of that morning. Did you look at someone else's life and what they were doing? And then try and replicate it in your own? Because in order for it to feel really good and really powerful, it has to be based on you and your values and where you're trying to get to. So here's the thing. There are six things, just six, that I think make up an incredible morning routine. But if you are missing even one of them, you're going to feel it before 10am for clarity. This is not about adding more to your plate. When we are trying to change our life, the most common thing people rush out and do is try and add more in. This is about editing. This is about getting really specific about what works and what doesn't work so that you can let things go. I had someone send a DM the other day asking a question about business. And she said, I'm so overwhelmed. I'm in it with my business. I don't even have time to shower. I don't know how long I can go on at this pace.

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What are you supposed to do?

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And I was like, girl, you got to get a hold of this thing. This is no way to live. I really want you guys to sit with this idea for a second. It has become so popular on social media to romanticize a level of output and a level of tasks and a level of showing up in a certain way that is completely disconnected from having any kind of great life. And by great life, I mean if you are running yourself ragged and you're doing every single thing under the sun and you don't have time to shower, there is no way that you're thriving. And it doesn't matter how successful that business becomes, ultimately, it will crash and burn. Because if you are the head of a business or you are the head of a family and you are running yourself into the ground, I promise you, doesn't matter how well everybody else does, you are going to suffer. And if you suffer, everything else falls apart. So at the end of the day, this isn't about adding one more to do for you. This is about adding elements that support the kind of day you wanna have. Because if you have a great day, then you're gonna have a great week. And if you have a great week. You're gonna have a great month. And this is how we build life of equality that we can be proud of, relationships of equality that we can be proud of, experiences at equality that we can be proud of. We have to be intentional in what it is we are trying to do. That doesn't mean that you have to do everything, but you need some kind of foundation in place so you can get to the next level. Okay, so let's talk about the six components of a killer morning routine that are gonna make you feel so much better on your terms. Okay. Number one is going to sound so simple, but of all the morning routines that I have watched on YouTube, I have never heard one person mention this, but it was the first thing that I had to do in order to kickstart the kind of woman I wanted to be. And that is a set wake up time. A set wake up time. Babe, you have got to figure out your new wake up time. And I am sorry to tell you, this needs to be the time that you wake up seven days a week. Okay. Okay. Stick with me. If you could stick with me, I promise we're going to change some things for you. Let me pitch you on why you need a set time that you wake up every single morning seven days a week. Number one, you are eliminating your first

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potential failure of the day.

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Now, I know that people get really stressed out by the word failure, but I don't want to speak from a place of gentle parenting. I actually want to speak to the

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voice in the back of your head.

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Now give me a minute. Have you ever considered the narration that plays in the back of your head all day long? We do a lot of work with this at Rise Events because I found over the years that women are not totally aware of how vicious that voice in their head can be to them at times. And if you want to actually do an exercise and see what this might feel like, get your journal and set a timer for 10 minutes and just write in your journal all of the reasons why you think that you are not where you want to be yet. Okay? And at some point, pretty quickly, you'll run out of the obvious, like, niceties that are at the top level. But if you force yourself to keep writing and you don't question it, you just sort of like, freeform from brain to pen. You just like, write it all down in your journal. All of a sudden, something starts to break through, and the subconscious thoughts that you have that are not very kind, those start to spill out on the page. In front of you. So we've done a lot of work with this over the years, and we find that women begin to write things they had no idea that they were thinking. And the thoughts that they have are

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often really ugly and they're really mean

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and they say really hateful things. And this is not a freak accident. This is not something that's happening just at this event. This is playing as white noise in the back of your mind 24 hours a day. So it's this incredibly dangerous thing that we're all running around with programming the way we see ourselves and the way that we see the world. So the reason I use a harsh word like failure is because that's actually way more likely to be the kind of language that your subconscious uses when it's telling you that you didn't show up properly. I wish it wasn't that way. But setting yourself up for success looks like, number one, doing the work to unpack those thoughts and those feelings so that they can affect us so strongly. And number two, making choices that ensure that we're navigating around the stuff that probably would have triggered us and made us stop working altogether. Waking up in the morning is a very triggering thing for a lot of people. And I don't mean in the sense that, like, oh, waking up and joining the day is triggering. I mean, the psychology we have around the time we're supposed to wake up or how many times we hit the snooze button or how we feel when we wake up, that all plays into a narrative of whether or not we're showing up. Right? Just get ahead of that, set a new wake up time, and have it be your wake up time no matter what. Okay, beyond being your first win of the day, there's actually science to back up that this is incredibly powerful to. For your circadian rhythm, irregular wakeup times, meaning changing the time that you wake up each and every day is incredibly damaging for your cortisol levels. And ladies, my instinct is that most of you around my age, which means our hormones are already whacked out to begin with, even if you are younger, you're going to have to deal with times in your cycle where your hormones are fluctuating, right? If we already have to deal with the hormones that are happening in our body naturally, let's not add issues to the mixture by screwing with our cortisol levels, which can be really great. Help us get up, help us do what we need to do, and also can really wig us out and make us super stressed. And if you didn't know this? Inconsistent sleep patterns are linked to higher stress, worse mood and lower productivity. And I'm guessing you have a limited amount of time every day that you get to work on yourself and your dreams. So whether you've got 20 minutes or two hours, we want to take the most advantage we can of that time period. Which means that all of this has to be working really well to support the dream that you've got. It's time for some spring cleaning, guys. And even better, spring is the perfect

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So the two things that I'm seeing you doing are. Number one, your nutrition is not backing up the kind of athlete that you want to be. Okay? You're eating a lot of junk food. You're not getting enough protein for the life that you want to have. You're definitely not eating enough green vegetables. We eat really healthy as a family. But because he's older now, he can drive, he eats at school. He's telling us, like, he's been making really poor choices with junk food and processed food. And I was like, I'm not telling you not to have snacks and treats and do the whole thing. But, bro, if you want to have the kind of muscles you want to have, you want to hit the length that you want to have. You want to be the athlete you want to have. You have got to be at a level nutritionally that you are not at yet. Okay? So, number one, your nutrition has to get on point. You have to take it seriously. There is no athlete that you admire that is not looking at their nutrition. Number two, you've got to get better sleep. You have to get better sleep. I was like, you're staying up too late. The reason you're grouchy this morning is because you did not get enough sleep last night because you have been running so hard and pushing so hard in baseball season. But in order to push at that level, you have to treat your body like a machine. You have to be an athlete and take care of your body. I was like, essentially what you are asking me to do is to fill up your cup. In fact, you are asking me to pay to fill up your cup, but you are actively making choices that are puncturing holes in the side of the cup, that all of the investment I'm making is spilling out the bottom. The reason I bring up this story with Sawyer is because I wonder how much in your life right now that you're trying to fill up the cup. You're trying. You're. You're reading the books, you're part of our premium membership. You're getting this information. You're sitting here, you got your workbook, you're doing the whole thing, but what are you doing in your life where there's holes in the bucket? Dear Liza, like, what are you doing that all the water is spilling out? At least make choices that shore up the good decisions that you're making. Because if you're not actually elevating, if the quality of your life isn't getting better, if you're working really hard, but you're not really seeing the results, then what's probably happening is that you are investing in yourself, but then actively making choices that are eliminating the investment. It's kind of coming out even. So if you want more positive outcome, then you've got to stop making negative choices that are erasing all of your great progress. So this looks like every single day at the same time, you're going to wake up, and here's how this becomes about you. I might get up at 5am you don't have to do that, but you do need to decide that you're going to wake up at the same time every single day. All right, guys, I hope you enjoyed

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