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The Rachel Hollis Podcast
950 | Feeling Stuck? Do This 3-Step Reset to Get Unstuck Fast
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In this episode, Rachel reframes the feeling of being “stuck” as a powerful crossroads rather than a failure, arguing that it often comes from overwhelm and misalignment, especially when people overwork or chase too many directions at once. She encourages listeners to see this season as a privilege that allows for self-reflection and growth rather than survival. She emphasizes that clarity doesn’t come from adding more, but from simplifying and reconnecting with one’s intuition through intentional quiet time, such as brief daily meditation, where individuals can ask for guidance and trust the subtle, nonverbal responses that arise. By learning to listen to this inner voice and act on small next steps, she suggests that people can move forward with greater purpose, peace, and confidence, ultimately transforming uncertainty into a meaningful path forward.
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A season of stuck actually means that you have the capacity to question what is right for you. To question if it's something more to question if you're called for a greater purpose. To question who you are. To question what the next half of your life is going to look like after you get to the other side of perimenopause. You know, that is a blessing. That is a blessing that so many people are never gonna have the capacity to go, man, what do I want next? Who am I? What does this mean? How do I want to show up in the world? There are so many people who are living paycheck to paycheck, fight or flight, working three jobs, trying to take care of their kids, trying to take care of their parents. Like they are never gonna get the space that you have to look at their life and wonder if there's something more here. Hey guys, I'm Rachel Hollis and this is the show where we talk about life, real life around here. We cover everything from habits and motivation to relationships, parenting, and what it looks like to build a life that you love. If you're trying to grow, heal, or just feel a little bit more like yourself, you're in the right place. If you are feeling stuck right now in life, you're feeling stuck in the season. I want you to hear me say this. You are not alone. I have been writing and coaching and speaking on stages, specifically, specifically to women, specifically over the age of 30 for the last decade. And I promise you this is way more common than you think. It's just that we don't Talk about it very much. And after all these years doing all of this coaching, here's my perspective. You are not stuck. You're at a crossroads. And that is a very different thing. And it's way cooler than you think it is. The cool thing about a crossroads is that there are a bunch of different paths that might work for you, but trying to figure out which one is right is what overwhelms us. So if you stick around today, I'd love to walk you through some of the tactics that I use to always know exactly the right step to take and a three part process for you to figure out what this looks like in your life, if this is your first time hanging out. I'm Rachel Hollis. Most people call me Rach. I have spent the last 15 years reading every book, going to every conference, doing all the therapies, trying all the things to figure out how I could live a life that feels better. And in that process, I've shared what works for me with my community. So today I would love to talk about this idea of being stuck and what I actually think it is, which is way more empowering than we're taught to believe. Let's talk about what most people think being stuck is and what I think being stuck is. Or at least what it looked like for me as an enneagram 3 high achiever, working mama, building business, doing all the things. Stuck for me didn't look like what you see on tv, right? It didn't look like depression, it didn't look like doing nothing. Stuck for me looked like doing everything. Because my high achiever mentality tells me that I'm super high capacity, right? I can handle it, I can take it on, I can do all the things. If you're an entrepreneur, you might recognize this or maybe you're a leader in, in business, you might have some of these tendencies where we're like, well, I'm not totally sure what I'm supposed to be doing. I'm not totally sure what's going to be the next right move for me. So I'll just put my head down and do the work and hustle, hustle, hustle and get it done. And if I'm being real, you guys, I can lose whole years to that kind of energy. Those are the years in business. And I've been an entrepreneur for over two decades where you get to the end of the year and you're like, I work so stinking hard, but I don't have anything to show for it. Like, I didn't improve my Revenue. I didn't grow my clients, I didn't expand my customer base. I didn't launch anything big. Like, I didn't write that book that I thought I was going to. Those are the years where you feel more drained than ever and you have nothing to reinforce that you're on the right path. And it is so discouraging. And if you actually don't take space away from, you know, your regular programming, you'll just put your head down and keep hustling. Now, I know for some of you, being stuck does look like, man, I don't. I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I'm just going to kind of keep going with whatever I'm going with. But for me, it looks like overworking. So weirdly, I wasn't stuck because I was doing nothing. I was stuck. Stuck because I was doing everything. And when you're doing everything, nothing is a priority. And therefore nothing can be aligned because it isn't intentional. It's just like, how do I, okay, and I'm gonna chase this and I'm gonna chase that. I'm gonna put energy over here and I'm gonna do this thing. And nothing is really creating that momentum that we want in our lives and in our business. There's no sort of flywheel effect where the energy that you put into something starts to work for you. And even if you're a stay at home mama, this too. It's like, how do I figure out more purpose filled days? How do I figure out more intention? How do I figure out how to use my skills and my talents and make choices that are gonna feel good in my spirit? So for me, that first step is acknowledging that you're having these feelings at all. When women come up and talk to me, you know, when they see me at the airport or run into me at a coffee shop. This community and this conversation that we've been having for over a decade means that people feel like we're friends before we've ever actually met. And so they will immediately launch into what they're struggling with and what feels hard. And this is a reoccurring theme over and over and over. I'm stuck and I don't know what to do. I'm stuck and I don't know what to do. And the unfortunate thing is that we are wired so that if we don't know what to do, we believe we are meant to add something to our lives. And I actually think that you figure out what you're meant to do with Less with editing, with figuring out what isn't supposed to be here. There's this great story that I love about Michelangelo, the artist, not the Ninja Turtle, and when he was carving the statue of David. If you're familiar with this, like, beautiful marble statue in Italy and you can go see it, it's still standing all these years later. And it's so incredible if you've ever had the opportunity to look at it up close. But when asked how he carved the statue of David, Michelangelo said, I just removed everything that wasn't David, which is so beautiful and so inspiring to me. Like, how do we edit from our lives? How do we take away the things that should not be there? I think that we do that by getting in touch with our intuition. I think that the key to you getting unstuck is actually more meaningful conversations inside of meditation, inside of prayer. It's being able to tap into that still small voice inside of you that will never lead you astray. But if you're overwhelmed by all of these things that you're meant to be doing, all of this stuff that you're supposed to add and the Pilates class and the, you know, growing the business and the signing up for the PTA and the doing all the things, if you're constantly looking outside yourself for how you're supposed to get unstuck, you are only going to get more overwhelmed. I think of it like the menu at the Cheesecake Factory, okay? If you live in a place with a Cheesecake Factory, then you may have gone before and seen you go. For those of you who are not in the US or maybe you don't have a Cheesecake Factory nearby, you go and you get a menu, and it's like a book. It's like 150 pages long. You can't even believe how many items are on the Cheesecake Factory menu. And the reality is they're all delicious. The spinach artichoke dip is as delicious as the club sandwich is as delicious as the Snickers cheesecake. They're all so stinking good. Barbecue chicken salad. Let's. They're so freaking good. When you're looking at all of the options, it's so overwhelming for me because I'm like, well, do I want this? Do I want that? Do I want. Should I. Should we share something? Should we have the sliders? Like, I always think of the difference between a Cheesecake Factory and the In N Out. So I'm from California. If you've ever had In N Out Burger, then, you know there's four things on the in n Out menu. There's sodas, milkshakes, fries, and burgers. And yes, you can go to, like, the secret menu and they'll do the weird, private. I don't even know. I'm not that cool. So you can get one of four things. And I don't go to in and out and Sarah menu and debate. I'm like, I want a burger, fries and a soda. Like, that's what I want. I want a burger, I want fries, and I want an iced tea. That's what I'm going to get every single time. There's some real good feelings, real good energy in being decisive and being able to make a decision quickly and not overthinking things. If you've ever struggled with analysis paralysis, where you keep analyzing, you keep overthinking, you're like, is this the right move? Is that the right move? Should I. Should we move back to Milwaukee? Should we, you know, look at living on an island? Should I take up tap dancing? Like, you're debating all of these things because on some level you believe that if you just keep looking out there that you're going to feel better in here. And I'm telling you that the way to feel better in here is to start with what's going on in here is to simplify, is to edit, is to get quiet, is to get still. When you're feeling overwhelmed, you don't want to give yourself more options, you want to give yourself less options. And I'd love to walk you through with how I tap into that inner knowing in myself. But I had this thought as I was preparing for the podcast today that I would love to just flip for you and to reframe this perspective if you'll allow me to, because I know what it feels like to have whole years and sometimes more than a year where I feel like I'm in a rut. For me, that has often come on the other side of grief or loss, like coming through a really hard season and then you maybe start to, you know, feel better. And it's. You've gotten some space and you've gotten some time, but you're just like, don't feel like yourself. You kind of don't know who you are. If this is something that resonates with you, I would love it if y' all would comment below and just let me know, like, if this something that makes sense to you. But for me, it's come on the other side of hard seasons, and so it's almost like I Can't really like, it just feels like, clunky, like I'm in a jalopy. Like, did you ever see the Beverly Hillbillies? I'm dating myself. I watched a lot of dick at night growing up. But I used to love the Beverly Hillbillies. And they're like, in that car, you know, if you have no idea what I'm talking about, if you're too young, you know, Google it. But they're in this like, old broken down car and like the grandma's in the back in a rocking chair. It's like a mess, right? And the car, like, it's a. It can barely go. That's kind of what I feel like when I'm on the other side of a really hard season and I'm trying to, like, come back into some kind of normalcy. And we want it so desperately, right? We want so desperately to just feel like the version of ourself who felt better. Have you ever experienced that where like, there was a time where maybe you had trained for a marathon and like, you felt you were great and you were running all the time, you felt really good. Or maybe there was a time where your kids had gotten a bit older and you felt like, okay, like, I've figured this out. And then like, you had another baby and then you're with a newborn again in like the chaos and the hard stuff. Like, haven't slept, nipples are cracked. Like, you're in the newness. And you love the baby, of course you love the baby, but you're also freaking exhausted and you're trying to take care of the other kids. And like, there's this part of you that sort of longs for, like, when it you felt like you were more together. And so we do all these things to try and sort of force ourselves into that better feeling spot because we long for that version of our life. We long for the moments when we felt like a better version of us. And so in the seasons of feeling stuck, we can really pull in a lot of shame. We can really pull in a lot of like, well, I should, I should be doing this. I should be further along. I should be able to get it back. I should be, you know, I should be back in the flow of the business. I should, I should, I should. Stop shoulding on yourself, babe. Stop shooting all over yourself. It is not helping you. But also, can we reframe it and can you give yourself this perspective shift? Feeling stuck is actually a blessing. No, hang with me. This is not toxic positivity. Feeling stuck Is different than drowning. Guys, it's way day. It's way day at Wayfair. From April 25th through the 27th, you can score the best deals they've got. I'm talking like 80% off with free shipping on everything. It's kind of crazy if you're updating your home for spring or looking for outdoor furniture or maybe you're doing a full on remodel like I did last year. You've got to go see all the deals. 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You and I have both had times in our lives where we felt like we were drowning. We have had times in our life where we were going through a breakup and we were devastated or we lost someone that we loved or our hormones were completely out of whack or we're trying to deal with some childhood trauma or. Or. Or every single person listening to this or watching it on YouTube, every single one of us has gone through something that we felt like we didn't know if we were going to survive, you know, or we were surviving but like by the grace of God, you know, we were. By the grace of God and a vodka Lacroix, if we're being honest. Okay, you and I have both had seasons like that. That is very different than a season of stuck. A season of stuck actually means that you have the capacity to. To question what is right for you. To question if it's something more to question if you're called for a greater purpose. To question who you are, to question what the next half of your life is gonna look like after you get to the other side of perimenopause. You know, that is a blessing. That is a blessing that so many people are never gonna have the capacity to go, man, what do I want next. Who am I? What does this mean? How do I want to show up in the world? There are so many people who are living paycheck to paycheck, fight or flight, working three jobs, trying to take care of their kids, trying to take care of their parents. Like they are never going to get the space that you have to look at their life and wonder if there's something more here. My grandma. My grandma is a guardian angel. She's so special to me. Makes me a little emotional telling you about her. She's so, so special to me. Oh, I just. I loved her so much, and she took such incredible care. My grandma and grandpa took a lot of care of my brother and I when we were little. We were at their house all the time. And Grandma, you know, didn't have any kind of education. Don't get me wrong. Very intelligent. Figured out how to take care of six kids. She was a migrant farm worker. Picked cotton, picked potatoes, depending on the season, you know, picked different things. Absolutely figured out how to survive. A freaking warrior. A warrior. My grandma didn't go to college, didn't finish high school. Really. I can look back on her life and see so much trauma. And she would not have called it that because they didn't have language for that when Grandma was little. They didn't have language. Grandma wasn't reading a book on self development. She didn't even. That wasn't even in her awareness. She was trying to survive. Every day, she was trying to survive. And then even later, when Grandma and grandpa weren't working, they were much older when they were taking care of Ryan and I. Even then, you know, she wouldn't have known about therapy. She couldn't have afforded it anyway. But she wouldn't have known about therapy. She wouldn't have known how much of that trauma was trapped in her body. She wouldn't have known what that would do. She wouldn't have known that, and she wouldn't even have had the time. My. My grandma would never be sitting here with us saying, I feel stuck. You know, I feel like maybe God's calling me for something greater. I don't really know what my purpose is. She didn't have that privilege. You and I have that privilege. And there's a lot of people who won't ever get the opportunity because life is horribly unfair. And not everybody gets the space to think about their life in a bigger way. So I just wanted to reframe that for you. That if you're beating yourself up because you don't know what you're supposed to do. Can you consider what a gift it is that you even get the space to contemplate that you might do something different? Yeah, and that doesn't mean I don't, I don't say that to make you feel shame, like, oh gosh, you're right, I gotta count my bless. No, it's not that. It's to whom much is given, much is expected. And if you have the capacity to question what your purpose is and to question what comes next, I think that you have a calling on your life. And that might look like different things. That might look like you, you know, doing your own therapy and your own work so you can show up as a better mama or a better partner. That might look like you building a massive business or that non profit you've always dreamed about. It doesn't have to be some massive thing. It can be a little thing. But if you're, if you're questioning, I think that's beautiful and I think you should see that as the gift that it is. And hopefully that gives you a little bit of energy and maybe you use some of that energy and your legacy and your impact on this world is creating opportunities for other people who don't have the capacity to wonder what more there is just a little shift in how you're looking at it. Let's talk about a framework. I don't want to just talk at you. I want to actually give you some ideas that you can take on board, consider, and then implement into your life in a way that will hopefully feel a lot better. To reiterate, the answer to getting unstuck is not adding a whole bunch of new stuff. The answer to getting unstuck starts with number one in this framework, which is the time to get quiet. The time to get quiet. Do not roll your eyes. Do not think that I was gonna tell you some like magic pill, some quick fix. No, the answer is actually getting to know yourself better. And I don't know a single person that wouldn't love to tap more deeply into their intuition. So whether that's you or whether this sounds like so wild and woo woo, just hang out for a second and see if this idea might resonate to you. Now, before I teach you how to do this, I want to actually prove to you that your intuition knows what's best, knows what's up, is always the guiding force that brings the best stuff into your life. Let me show you how I know. I want you to think of a person, a job, a boss, something in your Life in the last 10 years that went tits up. Okay, I want you to think of something that just absolutely went so sour, went so wrong. You thought it was gonna be great, turned out terrible. So this could be, like, you started dating someone, you thought they were gonna be awesome, and then all of a sudden, they were boiling your rabbit in a pot on the stove. If you know, you know. Or you started this new job, and everything seemed so great, and then your boss wanted you to work 70 hours a week and take on all these other jobs. Like, just, like, think of a situation in your life in the last decade that went really, really wrong. Okay? Do you have it? Fab. Now I want you to think of the moment that you knew. Like, you were, like, oh, crap, with 100% certainty, we should not have done this. Okay? Like, I want you to think of the moment where you were like, I have to quit. I have to leave this job, or I have to break up with this person, or I have to end this friendship. Like, I should not be in this thing. I want you to think of that moment. All right, so last 10 years went really bad. What was the moment you knew, I gotta end this thing. Okay, Got all those three things. Now here's the fun part. When did you actually know that this was the wrong choice for you? Think back in your relationship with this dumpster fire. When did you know that you should not be in this thing? When did you know that this job was actually not all it was cracked up to be? When did you know that that apartment was not the right apartment for you? The truth is, most of us always know way before we make the decision to end it. You know how you slice up an apple for the kids and then like, 10 minutes later, because they're little and they didn't eat it, the apple's now brown and now they won't eat it because they think there's something wrong with it. That is not the case with Opal apples. These bright yellow beauties stay naturally crisp and non browning. No preservatives, no tricks, just nature doing its thing. They're also packed with the good stuff. Fiber, vitamin C, antioxidants, Everything you'd want from a wholesome, real fruit snack that fuels your day. Guys, they're sweet, they're crisp, they're juicy, they're refreshing. It's the perfect apple. And I'm a little bit partial. My grandma's name was Opal, so I feel like anything with her name on it is always going to be good for me. 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In fact, I was talking to a friend of mine, had gone through this really bad breakup and it had been, oh my gosh, like two years of drama with this person. They were bonkers. Just, it was so bad. You guys like, just imagine, you know, where you're like, it's so bad, but also you like getting updates because for sure they're dating a crazy person. You're just like, tell me, tell me every, I need to know all, give me all the details. But they are awful. So he's with this girl for two years. It was bad. And then we're talking about it. He's broken up. It's like moving on. But he's processing. We're still processing. And I said, can I ask you a question? When did you know? Like, when did you get the first indication that this was not the right person? And his face sort of fell and he was like, Rachel, two weeks into dating, he's like, I would take her like when she would started meeting friends, like, I'd take her to go have happy hour with my friends or whatever. And like everything about her changed. None of my friends really liked her and they're pretty easygoing people, but no one really liked her. And then she didn't like anybody else. And it was like right away, two weeks in, he starts getting nudges and he feels uneasy. You go on a date with the guy and on paper everything is great, but he's rude to the server and it makes you feel kind of funny. You're like, oh, I don't really like that he did that. Or you go to do an interview at this new office and it seems so fabulous and it's so beautiful. But while you're there, the manager that you're going to be working under says something to someone else. You see, it's like, it makes you feel weird, there's something rude about it. Or I did A podcast. The other day, I did a podcast interview, and before we started the podcast, the person who was on the interview was talking to someone else, and they were being really rude, and I. I just. Oh, everything right. I was like. And then as soon as they were done with that chat, they came back to me, and they were, like, so bubbly and so friendly and so kind, and I was like, oh, no, I know. Okay. I saw. You know, I will never be able to get that out of my mind, because I'm like, that's who you are, and it's not all of who you are, of course. Like, people are all sorts of different parts and pieces, and there's good parts and not great parts, but the interaction I saw, I was like, I would never work with this person. I would never collaborate with this person. You just. You get the sense and you know immediately, you know? But we stay in it. We stay in the relationship. We go for the job. We do all of these things because we want to believe that it's going to be better than what we actually know to be true. That's a whole other conversation. That's optimism bias. There's, like, totally human reasons why we do that. For today's conversation, all I want you to tap into is that there are times where you have known that something is not right for you, and you did it anyway. And the flip. Have you ever met someone that immediately you were like, oh, my gosh, you're my person. Oh, my God, you're such a. Yes. Like, you are. We're gonna be friends. We're gonna be buddies. Like, you just feel an immediate bond with someone. Like, this is the right path for me to walk down. That is your intuition. And your intuition, your spirit, is always guiding you. Always, always, always. The problem is that we allow all of these beliefs and these narratives and the world, and all of this stuff is blocking our connection to this wisdom that is inside of us. My last book that I wrote is all around this idea of intuition, and it's 27 questions that you can ask yourself to learn to know your intuition better. But the example that I use in that book is imagine that you have a best friend who is the smartest, wisest, calmest, coolest, like, loves you so much, only wants the best for you. Greatest cheerleader. Imagine that every single time that friend gives you advice, you ignore her. Like, she's like, oh, I think you. Oh, you would be so great at that. Oh, my gosh, you look so beautiful. Oh, I love you so much. Every single thing she says to you, you ignore her over and over and over. This, like, effusive, loving, kind friend keeps giving you this information, but you keep shutting her down, or you keep ignoring her, or you keep sometimes telling her to be quiet. You, you're just like, I don't have to, I just stop. How long do you think it would be until that friend stopped speaking to you? How long do you think it would be until she was less likely to give you information? Or her voice got quieter and quieter because you kept shutting her down? The same is true for your inner knowing. And if you are in a season of feeling stuck, if you are in a season of standing at that crossroads, my instinct is that you have disconnected from your intuition. You have disconnected from your spirit. You are not tapping in and in communion and talking to this divine thing inside of you. Because if you are connected to that, you can never be lost. You can never be lost. You can never be unsure. You can never feel unworthy. You can never feel like you're not enough. If you're in communion with your spirit, you are always going to be guided to the next right step. So this wisdom, it is your birthright. It is inside of you. And I would love to challenge you for the next week, I would love to challenge you for the next week to commit to being in community with this part of yourself. And I'm gonna tell you how the first step is. You have to have the time to get quiet. This is so essential. And getting quiet means no screens, no music, no distractions. I know that's hard if you got kids at home. I know we all have responsibilities and people that are counting on us, but really have to find the time to get quiet. And this literally looks like 10 minutes. So I'll tell you exactly what I do every single day to tap into my spirit. It is so quick, it is so light. It is not a hard thing to accomplish for me. This looks like every single time I finish a workout. Okay, doesn't have to be a workout for you, but a workout is part of my morning routine and I'm already really doing something on my own. I'm already like, in body and all of those things. So it's really easy at the end of the workout to just add a 10 minute meditation. So a 10 minute meditation can be just listening to your breath. So I start by closing my eyes, breathing gently. If you need guided meditations, there are so many great ones. You can find them on YouTube, you can find them on Spotify, but don't make it too Long. Don't make it too deep because you want to do something that you can pull off consistently. This is not you moving to an ashram. And now you're going to be this like super calm yogi and you're never. No. We need routines that can work in our real life. Last week I did an episode on morning routine and how to actually build one based on your real life. If it's based on someone else's success for morning routine, it's not gonna work for you. So you need to find things you can do 10 minutes a day, you're gonna habit stack that. So I've habit stacked this meditation on the back end of a workout. Habit stacking, if you're not familiar, just means something that you already do consistently. You're just tacking the new habit onto the end of that thing so that you don't have to overthink it. You're setting yourself up for like, how can I pull this off in the easiest way? So 10 minute meditation, focusing on your breath. And then I start with a body scan. So that just looks like literally starting at the top of my head and I'm just kind of like scanning down my body, just noticing no judgment, just noticing where feels tense, where it feels, you know, tired. Does anything hurt? Is anything numb? Like it's not about judgment, it's just about noticing because it helps you to get back into your body and then it's tapping into that spirit inside of you. So one way that you can do this is through gratitude. So you can think of someone or something in your life that you feel deeply grateful for whose face comes to mind. And then like just let your heart fill with the gratitude and the love that you have for this person or your dog or your home. Gratitude is love and love is a way back to spirit. So if you can't tap into that quickly, then follow a path of gratitude. You're feeling really good. I did this with my daughter the other day. She's nine. And I did it with my 17 year old son and they were both able to do this. So I feel like all of us can do it too. But you start with that gratitude path and then you imagine it like a pink light or an amber light in your heart and it just keeps growing and growing and growing. And I let that completely fill my body until I just feel at peace. You know, I'm not gonna go run a marathon. I don't feel like, oh my God, I'm not laughing. I feel joy. But more than anything, I feel peaceful. And then from that place, you're really close to your spirit. You're really close to that version of yourself. And then you want to ask that part of you, that wise part of you for guidance. Now, if it's helpful, before you do this meditation, you could write down a question, right? If you, if you want to have it clear in your mind, you could say like, what should I do next? Or should I take this job in Michigan or should I go back to school? You just, you sort of get one question down on paper. And then I go into the meditation. I do all the things. I'm connected with my spirit. And I'll tell you too, when you are embodied, when you are connected to that part of you, your posture changes. Literally, the shape of your body changes. When you are feeling connected to spirit, you can see it. When we are at rise and we do meditations, you literally can see. You can see people take on a different posture because they are. The fog's been lifted. All of those things that are typically in between us and who we actually are, those are not there. And so in that state, with that version of yourself, you ask the question, you meditate on the question, and you go with the first thing that you get. Let me, let me talk this through. Because there's a few things about our intuition that you might not understand. The first one is your intuition will never speak to you in full sentences. Someone needs to hear that right now. Your intuition will never speak to you in full sentences. If you are getting full sentences. Yes, Becky, you should go back to school. You know you want that PhD. You know you should do this if you are getting full sentences. It is not your spirit. It is your brain. Our brains are freaking legendary at pretending to be our higher evolved self. Because your brain wants you to do all of the things on that agenda that it laid out for you. That is what makes that part of you, that intellect part of you. That's what makes it feel good. That's what makes it feel right. It wants you to keep going. It wants you to feel like you're not enough. And by the way, no shade to our brains, to our minds, to our intellect. Because we would not be who we are if it wasn't for that part of us. That part is who gets it done. That part is who accomplishes things. That part is who got us from A to B to C and beyond. That is a really important part of us. Not something to shame. But it will constantly try and take over because it thinks it knows best. So even if the Intuitive hit you are getting. Sounds very wise, but it's like a whole soliloquy. Not your intuition. Your intuition responds with a word, with a color, with a feeling. It may not make sense to you, but the power of this relationship and the way that you grow it is that you trust whatever you get. So I was doing a meditation with my 17 year old the other day. Bless him that he will just go along with his hippie mama and like, do the things. But I was doing this meditation with him and I said, you know, what does your spirit say? And he gave me an answer and it was like a whole long thing. And I was like, it's not your spirit. It's not your spirit, babe, it's. And I explained to him what I just explained to you. And I said, your spirit will never speak in a full sentence. And he was like, oh, well, I actually heard something. I only heard one word, but I thought that didn't make sense. So then I tried to think of something better and I was like, what was the one word? And he said, laugh, laugh. And I was like, that's brilliant advice. That's incredible. And for what we were talking about for him was so. It was such wisdom to like, yeah, buddy, you need to laugh more, you need to play, you need to have joy, you need to hang out with your friends. Like, like, he's in junior year of high school, so he's working so hard. You all know if you've got a junior SAT prep and all the grades and all the things. And his spirit was like, laugh. Your spirit's never going to speak to you in a full sentence. And in fact, you might get a hit. You know the color pink, a blue balloon. Like, you're like, what? I promise you, if you trust that that's the message you were supposed to get, you will understand, like, usually within a day or two. I'm like, oh, my, yes, of course, the blue balloon. You know, it really is something that will speak to you more if you trust what you get when it talks. So intuition's never going to speak in full sentences. And also intuition is not maybe even going to speak. Maybe you'll just get this overwhelming sense of calm. Maybe you'll get peace. Maybe you'll get, like I said, like the color purple, or maybe you'll get the color pink. Trust that you have been given the message you were supposed to get, and trust that it was given to you in a way that you're going to be able to understand. When we try and force it is when we get out of alignment. We go on a path that we weren't meant to be on. On. You're going to find the time to get quiet and you're going to do some kind of work to be able to tap into that inner knowing. You're going to ask your spirit for guidance. You're going to ask your intuition to give you an understanding of the next right step. And then lastly, you're going to use that information to do the next right thing. But this is going to be the challenge for those of you who are achievers. Your spirit is never going to lead you wrong. But your spirit is also not going to push you to make a billion dollars or get more customers or find more fans on Instagram. It is never going to lead you in the direction of you not already being awesome. This is another way that you know that it's your intuition. It is so loving. It is your greatest cheerleader. It will never scare you. It will never tell you something negative. It will never lead. Other parts of you might do that, right? Inner child might do that. Intellect might do that. All of these different things might show up. But spirit, spirit is only good when it gives you advice and guidance. You may feel some hesitation to listen because it is not necessarily sexy. It's not like, go run five miles. It's like banana swear. And then you think about and you're like, oh, yeah, I probably do need some more nourishment. I need some whole foods in my life. I need. You'll understand why that's your thing. And it's this beautiful relationship with self care and this beautiful relationship with loving yourself. I was doing some work a couple weeks ago and I was not at my desk and I had a ton of work that I needed to do. And I was really stressed about it, honestly. I was like, oh my gosh, I have so many things and blah, blah, blah. And then I did a meditation because I'll do it. I do it every day because I want to be able to be in touch with my spirit every day. But I'll also do it if I'm feeling overwhelmed. It's a form of prayer. I think that God is within us and I think that we can speak to that whenever. And so I did a meditation and I checked in with my spirit. And the first hit that I got was like, you're gonna do this and this. And I was like, oh, no, that is my intellect. That is not my spirit. Did it again. No judgment. Cause that's also gonna take you out of it. Just Sort of like, no, I'm just gonna sit here and I'm gonna wait for this message. And the message that I got was, it'll be there, it'll be there. Which it didn't give me any guidance about how to accomplish more, knock more things off my results list. Like, it was just, yeah, it'll be there. Of course it will. We're not there right now. We're here. Let's be here in this present moment. Let's not obsess over what's going on over there. So just know that when you get this intuition, when you get this intuitive hit, it won't always feel like the most exciting thing. But I swear to you, your life will feel so much better. And you will understand what you're meant to do next, where you're meant to go. You will get guidance on the next right step. And as you grow this relationship with this part of you that maybe you have never really spoken with before, the path opens up. I started this conversation by saying, you know, you're at a crossroads, right? We're at this crossroads and we're not sure where we're supposed to go. When you are learning to trust and love yourself, the path is revealed. It really is. And it is not revealed in a way that is demanding that you push and, you know, gotta do this thing, you gotta. Now it's revealed in a way that's going to make your life feel better, that's going to make you feel more aligned in where you're supposed to go from here. There is such incredible wisdom already inside of us. We rarely have the chance to get quiet enough to experience it. And I really hope for you that you will consider adding this practice to your life or seeing if there's just a little space that you can get in to where you can connect with that part of yourself in a better way. I would love to hear from you in the comment section. If you are in our premium podcast community or you're watching this on YouTube, I would just. I would love for you to jump into the comments and just say, like, does this resonate? Is this something that you've tried? Do you want to try it? Like, would love to hear your thoughts, but having that space to just like, see from a higher level, having that space to connect with what is already inside of you, with that inner wisdom is. It's just life changing. I'll tell you too, if you are an entrepreneur or you are someone who is growing your career, our next Rise Elevate event is on May 1st in Chicago. I mention that because as an entrepreneur, especially earlier in my career, I rarely got those opportunities to have space, you know, to get outside the noise and the chaos of running a business, of being in the business and actually being able to sort of look from 50,000ft and make aligned choices, figure out my intentions for the year, not just keep running, running, running, but actually have the space to work on where I wanted to go next. So if that's something that resonates with you and you're watching this before May 1st, definitely check out the link in show notes so that you can see if you should come hang out with us in Chicago. We would love to be in the space with you and work on your business together. All right, guys, I hope that this was so helpful for you today. And I hope what you take away from this conversation is that you're not stuck, because stuck implies that you kind of can't move from here. You just might be a little misaligned and alignment is something you can come back into, but it takes intention and it takes some time. And if you stuck around to the end of this episode, it says to me that this is really calling to you. So I hope that you will consider adding some of this into your life and then letting me know how it goes. Please consider subscribing to the podcast because honestly, it's totally free and it is the most helpful thing that you can do for us as a team. 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